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Someone please explain to me the DL fixation on "fraus"

I've been visiting this website for 6+ plus years and been a regular poster the past 4 and I still don't understand why so many DLers are obsessed with fraus. (This obsession predates my time here.) In the past two months alone, forty different threads have been started about fraus -- either specific fraus or "Let's be fraus in spring!"-type posts. Not to mention how often "fraus" pop up in threads on unrelated or only tangentially related topics.

Why are a subset of DLers so preoccupied with fraus: defining them, discussing them, disparaging them, denigrating their lowbrow tastes?

Where did the frau hurt you??

by Anonymousreply 15317 hours ago

OP= frau

by Anonymousreply 104/04/2021

We’re afraid of becoming them.

by Anonymousreply 204/04/2021

r1 = exhibit A

by Anonymousreply 304/04/2021

Tsk tsk, OP. The official DL term of choice is frau cunt.

by Anonymousreply 404/04/2021

I don't get it either, OP, never have, and I've been here forever.

by Anonymousreply 504/04/2021

has OP never worked in an office with a gaggle of them?

by Anonymousreply 604/04/2021

Let It Go, op

by Anonymousreply 704/04/2021

This place is infested with gay men and straight women so how is it a surprise that we all talk about the gays, gay sex, closet case actors, straight men, dicks, fraus, housefraus, officefraus, and the BRF?

by Anonymousreply 804/04/2021

Effeminate men are jealous of women and tend to be very misogynistic

by Anonymousreply 904/04/2021

[quote]This place is infested with gay men


by Anonymousreply 1004/04/2021

A quick take, OP: A small but extremely vocal percentage of gay men resent the hell out of women for getting the "real men" (i.e. butch, straight men) and it eats them up inside. Sincerely, a gay man who likes women (platonically, of course).

by Anonymousreply 1104/04/2021

Don’t forget frau-adjacent BFFs of fraus

by Anonymousreply 1204/04/2021

DL stands for Denigrating Ladies. Gay men are jealous of women, so it all makes sense. This board is fuel for straight people who claim homosexuality is a mental illness.

by Anonymousreply 1304/04/2021

Most of those types are jealous of the frau life. Not having to work and a hot straight man to pound you at the end of the day? Sign me up!

by Anonymousreply 1404/04/2021

I want to cradle a mug someday

by Anonymousreply 1504/04/2021

Aim for the stars, r15

by Anonymousreply 1604/04/2021

FAT, UGLY QAnon cunts, like DeFugTurd, flame the hate toward everyone and everything here so that they can divide us. Don't fall for their deplorable, cheap tricks.

by Anonymousreply 1704/04/2021

OP, this is all you can come up with for a thread? It looks as though the Biden era presidency has cramped your style. Considerably.

by Anonymousreply 1804/04/2021

This thread will end in Fraus😭

by Anonymousreply 1904/04/2021

The DL-ers who make Frau-bashing a hobby have issues, compounded of equal parts jealousy (because they want a straight man and a housewife's job), mommy issues, and a superiority complex. The last is because they're stuck in the same pink-collar jobs as the working-mom fraus, and have to find a way to save their egos from the admission that they're basically male fraus themselves.

I do have a trace of sympathy for these petty small-minded male fraus, though. They live in a society where female frau-ness is accepted and straight men think nothing of settling down with one, but male frau-ness is considered laughable or contemptible. The world is not kind to male fraus, and neither are desirable men.

by Anonymousreply 2004/04/2021

It’s all jealousy over the ability to Live, Love and Laugh in a house hosed down in beige paint and decorated in early Hobby Lobby.

by Anonymousreply 2104/04/2021

Most of us Fraus don't get the butch straight men. That's for women who look like Barbie dolls or have surgery to make themselves look like Barbie.

So don't be too jealous of us, my dear bottoms. Every day's a hustle for us.

by Anonymousreply 2204/04/2021

R22 literally how do you all end up here?

by Anonymousreply 2304/04/2021

Because, OP, this is a gay man’s site and we don’t want to be inundated with middle aged straight women posting about Armie Hammer, Supernatural, Megan Markel, and whomever else they’re obsessing over that day (Tom Hiddleston, Richard Madden, Sam Heughan, Harry Styles)....

by Anonymousreply 2404/04/2021

Maybe their moms were fraus and they didn't like them? Or maybe they're just fascinated by them or even scared to turn into one? Who knows.

by Anonymousreply 2504/04/2021

r25 I have often thought that. Some of these bitches must have frau mothers

by Anonymousreply 2604/04/2021

R26 I for one absolutely have a Frau mother. And a Frau sister. All I need is to find out if one of my several estranged aunts is also one, and I’ll have Bingo! (in itself, a Frau game).

by Anonymousreply 2704/04/2021

Many gay men want to be straight women, because that's how they feel on the inside. That's why there are so many frau-hating and transphobic threads initiated by gay men on this board. They despise in others what they hate about themselves or what they can never be. This entire board is a study in gender dysphoria and borderline personality disorder.

by Anonymousreply 2804/04/2021

I do think that there's an element of misogyny to this.

Heterosexual people as a group are, obviously, the source of heterosupremacy. But, in social scientific research, straight men ALWAYS are far more likely to express greater bigotry toward gay men than straight women are.

Straight men, as a group, are unmistakably, unambiguously a much greater threat. When it comes to straight people, between the genders, straight men should properly be drawing the lionshare of antipathy from us.

by Anonymousreply 2904/04/2021

DL became popular at a time (2000s) when other old gossip boards were dominated by exactly the type of straight female frau who would tsk-tsk if you dared speculate about their precious [insert male celebrity's] sexuality -- they were definitely not a welcoming bunch. DL became a space for gay people to gossip and avoid that annoying, hetero-centric fangirl. I am okay with this. I would not want this site to site to read like Jezebel.

by Anonymousreply 3004/04/2021

I honestly thought this thread would be a misogyny fest but there is some real insight and hard truths in here, particularly about male frauness. You could go your entire life without meeting a single straight man who gave a damn about house decorating, gardening, "drool worthy" real estate or female entertainers (not speaking about porn). Yet this is many gay man's entire life

by Anonymousreply 3104/04/2021

Jealousy. Gays and trans women envy real women because they have the straight guys.

by Anonymousreply 32Last Tuesday at 7:29 AM

I can say without hesitation that I don’t want to be a straight woman.

by Anonymousreply 33Last Tuesday at 7:38 AM

Misogyny, fear of the vagina, mother issues, envy/competition for male attention, insecurity/self-hate about own feminine traits, never outgrowing high school cattiness, and last but not least “bitches be crazy.” I can attest to the last one. Frau here and later-in-life lesbian after two husbands. Women are harder to deal with.

by Anonymousreply 34Last Tuesday at 7:47 AM

No we are not jealous of the straight women who seem to think our spaces belong to them. You can see it in this thread. Most of the posters are straight women.

by Anonymousreply 35Last Tuesday at 7:48 AM

The term was originally meant to refer to a specific type of woman, basically a "Karen," or Kate Gosselin type. It was derivative of "hausfrau" which was a term used relatively frequently in the 1990s, for a brief period of time.

There are a lot of Dataloungers who aren't able to differentiate between the words "frau" and "woman," so the "frau" meme quickly became just a generalized sexist insult. Trolls picked up on that and for years we've had threads about "frau infestations." I think the heyday of the "frau infestation" threads was roughly 2010 or so.

Adding to that is the problem of straight women coming here to talk about topics they can't talk about on their own boards. Websleuths ladies come here because they can't say racist stuff on their board or talk shit about the victim or spread rumors. Markle-hater and anti-transer ladies come here because it's anonymous and they can be as psychotic as they want; on other social media, they get banned constantly. Here, they can say crap that would probably get them investigated by the FBI, had they said it on Twitter.

It wouldn't be so bad if they weren't almost always homophobes, demanding that they be given space here on DL, while trying to get gays banned by FFing them repeatedly with their sockpuppets.

by Anonymousreply 36Last Tuesday at 7:48 AM

Yes, not all women are fraus. Fraus are self important cunts like Karens that want equal treatment but cry or pull the sexism card when it happens. There are certain qualities that have become funny stereotypes, but just like threads poking fun at lesbian culture doesn’t mean we hate lesbians, making frau jokes doesn’t mean we hate women.

by Anonymousreply 37Last Tuesday at 7:55 AM

I love mug cradling. It's cozy.

by Anonymousreply 38Last Tuesday at 7:56 AM

I love the straight women in my life (and a few are on here) but I think there are a certain brand of "Fraus" who come on here for gossip not realizing it's a predominantly gay male site, sort of like Lipstick Alley being predominantly people of color. Obviously, audiences change over time and certainly people can play nice in the sandbox; but I think this particular Frau species gets annoying, as defined by Urban Dictionary (copied and pasted):

Stupid fat ugly older woman who posts non-stop on message boards about old lady topics, such as hummus recipes and their current object of lust. This object of obsession is usually a fugly contestant on American Idol (e.g. Taylor Hicks) or some other fug and/or gay singer, who they insist is very sexy and/or straight. Also hausfraus. NOUN - The fraus are worthless and should be banned. ADJECTIVE - She wasn't frau enough to join their Taylor board.

by Anonymousreply 39Last Tuesday at 8:00 AM

R35 protesteth too much.

by Anonymousreply 40Last Tuesday at 8:01 AM

R39, see R34. Rest my case.

by Anonymousreply 41Last Tuesday at 8:02 AM

R41, Yes, always exceptions. Your "bitches be crazy" part would be the Cliff's Notes version of the Urban Dictionary's definition.😂

by Anonymousreply 42Last Tuesday at 8:07 AM

I would argue that most of the threads we have about lesbians and women are hateful, R37.

Back when we had individual forums on DL, someone complained about all the lesbians, and soon we had a separate lesbian forum. That came across as pretty hostile. A lesbian regular started a forum called LAnon at that point and a lot of lesbians left DL.

At that point, we started getting threads claiming the LAnon owner was committing crimes against DLers, which wasn't likely, and DLers started to spit out "go back to LAnon, cunt" at anyone they didn't like. We had trolls who pretended to be lesbians from LAnon causing problems, very similar to the trolls we have today who pretend to be black women from LSA. If you do a Google search for a user named "FultonDyke" on datalounge . com, you'll see several examples of this still in the archives.

Even though I would bet almost no one here remembers any of that (because it was in about 2006 or so) you still occasionally see someone say "Go back to L-Chat, bitch" out of nowhere, in the same way they used to say "Go back to iVillage, frau."

If someone tries to start a congenial thread about lesbians, it will devolve almost immediately into hate. It just does. I don't think it does anyone on DL any good to sugarcoat that and pretend it doesn't happen.

by Anonymousreply 43Last Tuesday at 8:11 AM

Jealous because gays are not child bearing

by Anonymousreply 44Last Tuesday at 8:13 AM

R2 "We’re afraid of becoming them"


R11 "A small but extremely vocal percentage of gay men resent the hell out of women for getting the "real men" (i.e. butch, straight men) and it eats them up inside."


R20 "The DL-ers who make Frau-bashing a hobby have issues, compounded of equal parts jealousy (because they want a straight man and a housewife's job), mommy issues, and a superiority complex. The last is because they're stuck in the same pink-collar jobs as the working-mom fraus, and have to find a way to save their egos from the admission that they're basically male fraus themselves."



The "fraubsession" on DL has nothing to do with with insane women who come here to post about Armie Hammer, Markle, Sam Heughan (Sp?) and the rest. Those aren't "fraus" they're insane obsessed fan gurls.

It has to do with effeminate middle aged gay men who share common interests with the middle-aged, middle-class, middle-American women they work with at somewhat low-level corporate jobs and are frequently lumped in with them socially--while the "men" discuss sports, the "fraus" are discussing the latest episode of Real Housewives.

There's definitely jealousy of having a husband to support them, while the male fraus are single, and a sense that the male frau would be a much better housewife in everything from decorating ("No Live Laugh Love posters!) to cooking ("My famous potato salad recipe")

As someone said upthread, many of them are unhappy and lonely and feel as if life had passed them by, hence the fraubession.

[PS to OP: I have noted this phenomenon as well and even posted two years ago--see link.) It made it to over 300 replies, which seemed to indicate it really hit a nerve.]

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by Anonymousreply 45Last Tuesday at 8:20 AM

"Go back to iVillage, frau."

lololololol so good

by Anonymousreply 46Last Tuesday at 8:26 AM

So old, actually.

by Anonymousreply 47Last Tuesday at 10:02 AM

So if I'm a gay man who enjoys scrapbooking and crocheting, and whose tuna noodle casserole is first on all his coworkers' lists of must-haves for company pot-lucks, does that make me a frau?

by Anonymousreply 48Last Tuesday at 10:07 AM

That joke is so old... iVillage hasn't even been around for 7 years.

by Anonymousreply 49Last Tuesday at 10:08 AM

I know a few single, lonely, financially struggling straight women. Not fat, but not hot, either. Getting older. It doesn’t seem enviable.

But at least they ( my sister and her friends ) don’t live, laugh, love.

by Anonymousreply 50Last Tuesday at 10:27 AM

And yet DL is filled with "single, lonely, financially struggling" gay men, R50 who by their own description are "not fat, but not hot, either." (Fit-fat anyone?)

by Anonymousreply 51Last Tuesday at 10:36 AM

DLers were saying "go back to iVillage" for five years after the place shut down.

by Anonymousreply 52Last Tuesday at 10:38 AM

DL is hardly alone in fixating animus towards entitled, middle-aged, middle America-type women. Other forums (i.e. Reddit) just call them Karens and have entire subs devoted to their antics.

by Anonymousreply 53Last Tuesday at 10:39 AM

[quote] So if I'm a gay man who enjoys scrapbooking and crocheting, and whose tuna noodle casserole is first on all his coworkers' lists of must-haves for company pot-lucks, does that make me a frau?

R48, no, on DL, that makes you and Eldergay.

by Anonymousreply 54Last Tuesday at 10:42 AM

At least most fraus read the threads before adding their "wit", r53

by Anonymousreply 55Last Tuesday at 10:42 AM

R55, I have no idea what you are talking about. I have read the entire thread, you odd person.

by Anonymousreply 56Last Tuesday at 10:44 AM

I want to be a frau — can I join your Oprah’s Book Club and go to a taping of Ellen while slurping Starbucks? So fancy!

by Anonymousreply 57Last Tuesday at 10:46 AM

I had to look up Websleuths as I wasn’t familiar with it and I can’t say I’ve seen many threads on the DL about unsolved mysteries, so not sure what R36 is taking about. Unless Websleuths also cover Meagan Markel, Sam Heaughn, Harry Styles, etc.

I do enjoy the occasional “what is your favorite unsolved mystery?” thread and of course, DL meme Dylatov Pass. I wouldn’t say we are overrun with posts about unsolved crimes, though.

by Anonymousreply 58Last Tuesday at 10:56 AM

Except R29 it’s not straight men who are polluting this board! Straight men don’t care about Arnie Hammer or the British RF.

by Anonymousreply 59Last Tuesday at 10:58 AM

LOL just look at this thread. Tuna can after tuna can writing paragraph after paragraph about how gay men are so envious of them. And then they wonder why we hate when they show up in OUR bars like they own the place.

by Anonymousreply 60Last Tuesday at 10:58 AM

For men, if you have have no sexual interest in someone- they are invisible.

by Anonymousreply 61Last Tuesday at 10:59 AM

R36 I have never read anything on here that would be of any interest to the FBI; I hope you’re just aping a stereotypical hysterical frau with that statement. People can have ugly opinions or opinions which differ to your own; the FBI isn’t there to police opinions.

The one exception I can think of, and it still gives me chills, is the post about the guy who found driver licenses and car keys in his grandfather’s attic. THAT creeped me out.

by Anonymousreply 62Last Tuesday at 11:03 AM

R60, Honey, I was in YOUR gay bar before you were born. And I was busy being gay myself there, too - only for women.

by Anonymousreply 63Last Tuesday at 11:11 AM

[quote] The last is because they're stuck in the same pink-collar jobs as the working-mom fraus, and have to find a way to save their egos from the admission that they're basically male fraus themselves.

This is a great summation. There was a thread here not too long ago by an OP who was resentful that a woman he worked with at a non-profit was wealthy while he lived in a little bachelor pad. To me, this is the epitome of a certain population of Dlers.

[quote] I just found out someone I work with bought a house around $3 million. Images of it look exactly like something one of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills would live in, from size to decor. I'm stuck by two feelings about it: the first is a combination of surprise and slight resentment given that I work for a nonprofit and live in a one-bedroom apartment that is frankly a lot nicer than the places many of my other coworkers live in; the second, though, is that while I am a little irked (even as I tell myself "to each their own") at the notion of a coworker having enough money to buy a place like this, I'm also disgusted by the house itself, if I am totally honest. It's fucking gigantic. The person and their spouse have two children. The house has EIGHT bathrooms. It has a pool, a theatre, a gym, a library. It's nearly 12,000 square feet in an area with long, very hot and humid summers and it will have to be air conditioned at least throughout half the year. It's grander than a typical McMansion. Looking at it makes my stomach turn a little bit. It seems like something most people would have coveted in the 1980s but today, it just seems like waste and indulgence during a time when so many people are barely scraping by.

And this was a response--

[quote] OP, just because you live in a studio apartment in your 60s after picking a career that's basically what a housewife would do when she decides to go back to work but minus the requisite rich man to bankroll it, there's no reason to begrudge the good fortune of others.

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by Anonymousreply 64Last Tuesday at 11:13 AM

[quotes] DL is hardly alone in fixating animus towards entitled, middle-aged, middle America-type women. Other forums (i.e. Reddit) just call them Karens and have entire subs devoted to their antics.

Do you really not see the difference R53?

(Okay, this is Datalounge, of course you don't.)

Reddit is mocking specific Karens who are Karen-ing, using their privilege and acting like entitled cunts

It's not "Let's be Karens at Starbucks." or "Let's be Karens in the cafeteria at work" or "Let's be Karens on back-to-school night" and the hundreds of other "Frau" threads on DL

by Anonymousreply 65Last Tuesday at 11:21 AM

R63 simping for obnoxious straight women isn't going to make them want to fuck you.

by Anonymousreply 66Last Tuesday at 11:22 AM

Huh, R63? You cray. What do I want with a straight woman, dear?

by Anonymousreply 67Last Tuesday at 11:24 AM

One more odd bit-- many DLers seem convinced this board is "overrun" with straight women.

My experience has been they rarely, if ever, leave the safety of their stalker threads (Markle, Hammer, et al) as they only come here to trade gossip about the objects of their fixations.

The only hetero women I am aware of are Della and RescueChick.

by Anonymousreply 68Last Tuesday at 11:26 AM

^Should be R66.

by Anonymousreply 69Last Tuesday at 11:28 AM

Some here have Momma issues. Maybe she didn't offer the the tit long enough or rushed potty training.

by Anonymousreply 70Last Tuesday at 11:30 AM

Given the length of the posts and the number of replies in this thread obviously written by salty women, I'd say women are more obsessed with gay men than the other way around.

by Anonymousreply 71Last Tuesday at 11:30 AM

[quote] Someone please explain to me the DL fixation on "fraus"

Why, is it 2011?

Gorl, we already discussed that. Now waddle back to Kohl's and leave the grownups alone.

by Anonymousreply 72Last Tuesday at 11:32 AM
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by Anonymousreply 73Last Tuesday at 11:34 AM

Hmm... I'm getting another "friendly", very [italic]Millennial[/italic] feeling in this thread.

by Anonymousreply 74Last Tuesday at 11:35 AM

[quote] Reddit is mocking specific Karens who are Karen-ing, using their privilege and acting like entitled cunts

If there is a Venn Diagram where Fraus intersect with Karens, that middle circle isn't just a tiny little, shared sphere -- it very well nearly gobbles up the entire diagram. DL was actually rather prescient in pointing out the toxic entitlement of suburban, conservative-leaning women -- and unsurprisingly, Reddit and Twitter were latecomers to that game, but they pat themselves on the back for 'discovering' Karen. Derivative, as always.

by Anonymousreply 75Last Tuesday at 11:35 AM

r71 given how many replies here are mistakenly attributed to straight women, I'd say your obsession has made you blind.

by Anonymousreply 76Last Tuesday at 11:36 AM

R75 👍 was

by Anonymousreply 77Last Tuesday at 11:41 AM

R58/R62, I get that you're really mad about what I said, which is fine, nobody cares, but saying "well I didn't see it, so it didn't happen" isn't particularly convincing. Not even when you say it twice, like you just did.

It isn't difficult to go to Google and do a search for "Websleuths" on Datalounge . com.

It's also not difficult to figure out that I was referring to (among other things) the Websleuths and true crime obsessives who try to screw with a case, either because of an unhealthy attachment or out of maliciousness. Here's a somewhat recent example.

I won't bother telling you about the murderers who posted here or the guy who broke into Sandra Bullock's home or the dude who would show up every few weeks to talk about how he was going to slit women's throats and/or vaginas open and then rape them, or mention that Matt A. posts so many race-based threats of violence during his benders that he's probably already on every government list out there.

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by Anonymousreply 78Last Tuesday at 11:44 AM

R70’s just as simple as gay men wish to discuss things with other gay on a GAY MAN’s message board.

by Anonymousreply 79Last Tuesday at 11:45 AM

Other gay MEN ^

by Anonymousreply 80Last Tuesday at 11:45 AM

[quote] Reddit is mocking

As a long-time (now mostly former) Redditor, I can say that Reddit has its own strange, tiresome fixations to worry about. One can make the same observations about their fixation with 'Boomers' -- a word they use pell-mell and indiscriminately to describe anyone who disagrees with them (regardless of their actual age).

by Anonymousreply 81Last Tuesday at 11:46 AM

R78 I’m not “really mad” about you claiming there are Web Sleuth posters here. I was simply saying that I haven’t seen a lot of unsolved mystery threads. I guess you have. I would take mysteries over Markel, though.

by Anonymousreply 82Last Tuesday at 11:48 AM

Can't we just all get along?....

by Anonymousreply 83Last Tuesday at 12:13 PM

The absurdities here that focus on homophobia show why cunts often aren't welcome. "Gays are jealous of women because they get to marry straight men" is the sort of line that deserves the punctuation of a well-placed foot. Preferably wearing a shoe that can be left deeply in place.

And, at the DL, a Frau (note the capitalization, and the fact that the plural is "Frauen," OP, you illiterate twat) is the type of female who is an emotional wreck and parasite who hides her laziness within a herd and behind a cascade of presumptions, judgments, attacks and unwanted proclamations (and bad diet) here and in the world at large.

by Anonymousreply 84Last Tuesday at 12:32 PM

Well, to me, 'frau' has always been a term that I associated with a very judgmental type of woman - the kind of women I disdained in life because I couldn't understand their need to sit around in sewing circles and gossip about the slut who lived down the street trying to steal their men. It also felt like a celebration of all that they had, a need to rub it in as many people's noses as they could. I'm a straight woman, but I've always felt like an outsider, and I've been a 5 star hag since I was about 15, when most of my friends were gay boys. Hell, one of them even tried to take my virginity, lol. In my early 20s, I shared an apartment with 3 gay men, and every time I moved, I typically gravitated to the gay people in my work environment. That's just where I felt comfortable. Yes, gay men are judgmental, too, hence Datalounge's very existence, but what was fun was that the bitchiness was often so sharp and insightful and fucking funny, that it never felt like it was based out of fear, if that makes any sense. It was just that for people who were often pushed to the sidelines, we've become more observant, because there's no hyper-focus on keeping up with the joneses.

I came to DL about 13 years ago, back when the Prancing Ponies and their antics were a constant source of hilarity for everyone here. Admittedly, I came for the gossip, which used to be so great back then, and I stayed for the 'men presenting hole' threads, or the hot gifs I can stare at all day threads (btw, where did they go?). Also, because not only was it funny as fuck on here, when there would usually be a thread I would pee my pants laughing over every time I visited, but also a lot of great thoughts on politics, before the trolls ran amok.

I'll also admit that the fangurl threads on here give me the skeevies. Following their favorite actor obsessions by stalking them on twitter and IG is just creepy and I feel a sign of a greater ill in society.

by Anonymousreply 85Last Tuesday at 12:33 PM

I know "Frauen" is the correct form but I always thought the DL slang was "fraus." You know, because it's slang, not actual German.

by Anonymousreply 86Last Tuesday at 1:00 PM

This is the typical deflection we see here anytime someone criticizes some minority group—it’s the same when we criticize some trans bullshit—somehow we automatically hate ALL trans—or are transphobic. No, we hate bullshit. This just happens to be some bs peddled by a trans person.

Same with frau culture. Not all women subscribe to the general frau manifesto, but those who do can suck it.

I do like the mug cradling, though.

by Anonymousreply 87Last Tuesday at 1:45 PM

No, you hate trans people. That's why you post shit about them constantly and turn every thread into an anti-trans thread.

by Anonymousreply 88Last Tuesday at 1:49 PM

I only wonder why if trans people only represent 1% of the population, 50% of threads on DL and LGBTQ media are trans related?

by Anonymousreply 89Last Tuesday at 1:56 PM

There should be a DL drinking game that involves taking a shot every time the topic of 'trans' inevitably comes up in a completely unrelated thread. Everyone would be plastered.

by Anonymousreply 90Last Tuesday at 2:01 PM

I think everybody can agree that fraus are the worst. Even single and married women who aren’t fraus despise them. My sister and I both steer clear of our brother’s wife because we don’t want to get stuck having to listen to her babble about her kids and all of the shit she bought at Hobby Lobby.

by Anonymousreply 91Last Tuesday at 2:02 PM

Some dingbat women is not what I would define as "the worst" people in society.

by Anonymousreply 92Last Tuesday at 2:03 PM

If you want to see fraus in their native habitat, go to Pottery Barn on a Saturday afternoon.

by Anonymousreply 93Last Tuesday at 2:08 PM

Those are the highbrow fraus.

by Anonymousreply 94Last Tuesday at 2:56 PM

[quote]it’s the same when we criticize some trans bullshit—somehow we automatically hate ALL trans

Says the guy turning a thread completely unrelated to trans people into another trans bashing thread. We get it, bud.

by Anonymousreply 95Last Tuesday at 2:58 PM

Let's be Trans at a shopping mall

Let's be things Trans make for dinner

This trans at my office is driving me crazy!

Let's be things Trans make for dinner when they're "dieting"

Let's be Trans decorating their house for Christmas

Let's be TV series that Trans watch

Let's be things Trans bring to a pot luck supper

by Anonymousreply 96Last Tuesday at 3:00 PM

R96, it would be much less annoying and insidious if they were actual thread titles. Then one could feel free to ignore them. Instead, posters bring that specific topic everywhere they go, because clearly, everyone is as endlessly fascinated with that topic as they are.

by Anonymousreply 97Last Tuesday at 3:46 PM

Fair point R97

by Anonymousreply 98Last Tuesday at 3:54 PM

Have to differentiate between women and true frauen. Fraus we encounter here on DL are most often cast offs from other message boards. Fuck, they are cast offs from true life. They channel the hurt they feel about being one or a combination of too fat, too ugly and too weird for any man to want into an off putting self righteousness that only makes them less fuckable. Sea Cows who can’t be made whole. Sorry you’re not “that girl,” honey, but maybe go fuck yourself rather than endlessly migrating to new message boards, ruining them in your considerable wake.

by Anonymousreply 99Last Tuesday at 3:57 PM

"The absurdities here that focus on homophobia show why cunts often aren't welcome. "Gays are jealous of women because they get to marry straight men" is the sort of line that deserves the punctuation of a well-placed foot."

But such men do exist! Not that many, but they're here! I don't see as many posts about lusting after straight men and declaring they'd treat a real man better than his bitch of a wife who doesn't respect him as I did 5-10 years ago, perhaps I've put them all on "ignore". Or perhaps they've moved their hopeless affections from the DILFs at the office to "straight" Instahos.

But it's true, some men just want to be housebottoms and to take care of their "real man" and his home, and those men are almost entirely SOL. So yes, they're bitter about the "fraus" who they see as having what they want and not appreciating it, and where else can they vent their feelings but here?

by Anonymousreply 100Last Tuesday at 4:49 PM

OP, what's it to you?

We don't care how you feel about it. We don't care if you don't understand it. We don't care if you don't like it. We don't care about you.

Is that clear enough for you?

by Anonymousreply 101Last Tuesday at 4:51 PM


by Anonymousreply 102Last Tuesday at 4:54 PM

"Fraus" were a minor, running joke on DL 20 years ago.

But about 6 years ago when you came here, OP, Boris the Right-Wing Incel co-opted every DL meme that ridicules women, minorities or liberals, exaggerated them and started spamming EVERY thread with at least one denigrating these people.

There's no topic Boris WON'T blame a woman or minority for now.

But take comfort in knowing it's mostly one, sad troll with an agenda and multiple sock puppet accounts trying to distort what most DLers believe.

That said, there are crucial differences between most men and most women; even gay men. So when women come to DL and start clutching pearls, putting down sex, porn, promiscuity or calling CALL ME BY YOUR NAME pedophilia, you will get called a "frau" because this activity is usually harmless.

by Anonymousreply 103Last Tuesday at 8:00 PM

The only actual "invasion" of women on DL that I'm sure really happened was in a thread about public breast feeding several years ago. It was weird.

by Anonymousreply 104Last Tuesday at 8:05 PM

"Boris" was a minor, running joke on DL 20 years ago.

But about 6 years ago when you came here, OP, R103 co-opted every DL meme that ridicules women, minorities or liberals, exaggerated them and started spamming EVERY thread with at least one denigrating these people.

There's no topic R103 WON'T blame a Russian troll for now.

by Anonymousreply 105Last Wednesday at 2:24 AM

R104 is blissfully unaware of an individual named Armie.

by Anonymousreply 106Last Wednesday at 5:02 AM

r103, thanks, that makes sense, and I appreciate your long DL memory.

r105, you sound tiresome.

by Anonymousreply 107Last Wednesday at 5:08 AM

DL has become childish, boring & repetitive.

We have a new wave of posters here who simply refuse to honor tradition. You must me smart, funny & witty.

by Anonymousreply 108Last Wednesday at 5:25 AM

These are probably the same posters who harbor an unnatural fixation on Meghan Markle.

They will never forgive her for snagging the Prince.

by Anonymousreply 109Last Wednesday at 5:29 AM

I'm sorry r107, but no, r103 is not right, and the Russian trolls didn't show up six years ago and resurrect a 20-year-old meme about fraus.

Just go to Google and type [italic] fraus 2012 [/italic] and see the thousands of results, all threads from 2012 about fraus.

It's not just one troll and it's not a Russian troll tactic. There are so many other really good, detailed posts on this thread about what the "frau" thing is about, and you single out the one that's 100% completely and entirely wrong as the best answer.

by Anonymousreply 110Last Wednesday at 5:32 AM

Because he's a Boris R110! I tell you, they are everywhere!!!


(JK. You are 100% correct. If you use DL's crappy search function, there are 26 threads with "Frau" in the header in March 2021 alone. Including "Let's Be Fraus In Spring")

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by Anonymousreply 111Last Wednesday at 5:39 AM

It's difficult to figure out what's going on around here sometimes r111, so I wasn't trying to be hugely critical of your post. I do agree that trolls use the "frau" thing -- and every other topic they know will get people riled up -- to cause division and flamewars and such.

It can get kind of funny when someone who isn't a DL regular tries to use "frau" as an insult, they'll say something like "you're one of those Biden fraus who loves leftist groupthink," always gives me a chuckle.

by Anonymousreply 112Last Wednesday at 5:46 AM

Please cease & desist invoking the name of Boris in vain.

And stop pointing the finger at Moose & Squirrel.

by Anonymousreply 113Last Wednesday at 5:49 AM

A lot of frau's are entitled Karens who are religiously conservative aka homophobic. It's a coping mechanism for us to attack their ideology as something we aim NOT to emulate.

by Anonymousreply 114Last Wednesday at 11:21 AM

R114 A lot of fraus(karens) or whatever are liberal as well. White liberal women are always the first people to call the cops. No one loves our damaged police, prison, and court systems more than straight white women, who often either aren't affected by it, or even gain from it.

by Anonymousreply 115Last Wednesday at 11:42 AM

[quote]A lot of frau's are entitled Karens

Oh, dear.

by Anonymousreply 116Last Wednesday at 11:48 AM

The frau's I know are such busybodies. So nosy. It's like they're not happy unless they're budding into your lives and trying to offer "sage" advice based on there life experience. Get lost!

by Anonymousreply 117Last Wednesday at 12:05 PM

The word is "butting", R117, like butting heads or butting into your life.

"Budding" means to produce a bud, like a plant.

by Anonymousreply 118Last Wednesday at 12:14 PM

I have a rosebud aka coin slot.

by Anonymousreply 119Last Wednesday at 12:16 PM

R115, “white liberal women are the first to call the cops” do you even know this? Are you going door to door and taking notes on community behavior?

by Anonymousreply 120Last Wednesday at 12:25 PM

Because we saw it on the news.

by Anonymousreply 121Last Wednesday at 12:28 PM

R106, not unaware of the Armie threads, just have no interest in them.

by Anonymousreply 122Last Thursday at 9:01 AM

[based on there life experience]

Oh dear!

by Anonymousreply 123Last Thursday at 6:05 PM

This thread is reminding me of the MISOGYNY KILLS poster, who would show up......everywhere

by Anonymousreply 124Last Friday at 5:52 AM


by Anonymousreply 125Last Friday at 5:53 AM

[quote] Have to differentiate between women and true frauen. Fraus we encounter here on DL are most often cast offs from other message boards. Fuck, they are cast offs from true life. They channel the hurt they feel about being one or a combination of too fat, too ugly and too weird for any man to want into an off putting self righteousness that only makes them less fuckable.

I always assumed a 'frau' was a basic, smug middle-aged married white woman who talks about nothing but her 'hubs' and kids all day, not a female incel type.

by Anonymousreply 126Last Friday at 6:03 AM

Pick one:

1) Mother issues

2) Jealousy of straight women and their "pussy power"

3) They don't act like mid-century New York City housewives, so they are "womaning" all wrong.

4) They are overly fixated on women and black people. Today it's women's turn.

by Anonymousreply 127Last Friday at 6:05 AM

Well, someone's girdle is tight today!

by Anonymousreply 128Last Friday at 6:08 AM

There's nothing like a thread in which 30% of the replies confirm the OP's premise

by Anonymousreply 129Last Friday at 6:09 AM


Ding, ding, ding!

Trump's era has soured a generation of DLers.

by Anonymousreply 130Last Friday at 7:00 AM

DL doesn't actually differentiate between women and "fraus".

by Anonymousreply 131Last Friday at 7:23 AM

R129 and 70% of the posts appear to made by women, ON A GAY website. Is there a term for when straight women feel entitled to treat LGBT spaces as their own, shout down anyone who disagrees with them, and then play the victim when they get pushback? There should be.

by Anonymousreply 132Last Friday at 9:12 AM

You're full of shit R132. You only ASSUME because you don't want to think that gay men don't agree with you. You have no way of knowing what gender someone is on an anonymous forum. And this is a gay site anyway, which includes lesbians. You want to start a gay male only site then go do it.

by Anonymousreply 133Last Friday at 9:26 AM

R132 is such an excellent example of the insanity that pervades DL.

Between Team Everyone Is Boris, Team Everyone Is A Frau and Team Obsessed With Trans, it often feels like wading into an insane asylum.

by Anonymousreply 134Last Friday at 9:28 AM

R133 R134 Gay men don't say things like "Gay men are jealous of women because deep down gay men want to be women". Oddly, that seems to be a common fixation with a type of woman on facebook.

by Anonymousreply 135Last Friday at 9:38 AM

I am a gay man R135

And I believe that there are a number of posters on DL who wish they were women and are extremely jealous of straight women as a result.

That does not mean I believe that many, let alone most gay men want to be women.

Only that the gay men who fit that description tend to congregate on DL.

by Anonymousreply 136Last Friday at 9:43 AM

R127 Or 5) we don’t want straight women invading a gay man’s message board with their annoying posts. Just a thought.

by Anonymousreply 137Last Friday at 1:54 PM

R133 it’s usually pretty clear which posts are made by straight women...

by Anonymousreply 138Last Friday at 1:56 PM

As a straight woman and gay/trans ally, I find your posts incredibly offensive, r137 and r138. I and the other women who post here will continue to post what we want and when we want to. We're as much a part of this board as you boys are.

by Anonymousreply 139Last Friday at 2:11 PM

Interestingly, I know a woman who checks many of DL's "frau" boxes. Her taste in art and music is solidly middle-brow. She likes doing "crafty" things with art supplies from Michaels. She likes the art of Thomas Kincaid and Bob Ross. She dresses "frau-ish". She is a Christian and certainly no great intellect (but solidly Democrat).

She is also one of the truly good people I've met in my life. She is genuinely humble and does try to be or pretend to be anything other than what she is. She is generous but not a pushover. She is patient and kind. I've never heard her complain at length, or nurse grudges or ill-will.

You bitches can "frau" her all you want, but her quietness and generosity benefit a lot of people, and the world would be better with more people like her in it.

by Anonymousreply 140Last Friday at 5:07 PM

^^^ DOESN'T try to be or pretend to be anything other than what she is.

by Anonymousreply 141Last Friday at 5:09 PM

I've always pictured the DL frau as a low-rent Martha Stewart with rather pedestrian tastes.

by Anonymousreply 142Yesterday at 4:37 AM

[quote]As a straight woman and gay/trans ally

I don't think anyone took your post seriously, but let's revisit some of the other things you've said in this thread, shall we?

* "Gay men are jealous of women, so it all makes sense."

* "Many gay men want to be straight women"

* "The frau's I know are such busybodies."

And over on a BLM thread this morning, you're trying real hard to start a "blacks hate all gays and Jews" flamewar.

You should slather yourself in Crisco and jump into the nearest roaring bonfire at your earliest convenience.

by Anonymousreply 143Yesterday at 4:54 AM

I take pleasure in giving the OP my allotted FF each morning.

by Anonymousreply 144Yesterday at 5:09 AM

You must have such a fulfilling life, r144

by Anonymousreply 145Yesterday at 5:14 AM

The least I can do.

by Anonymousreply 146Yesterday at 5:16 AM

I came out in the adult world hoping to meet women that were combinations of Barbara Stanwyck, Rita Hayworth and Judy Garland, but unfortunately they were combinations of Hope Emerson, Esther Dale and Kathleen Freeman, and not the offscreen versions of those fabulous character actresses.

by Anonymousreply 147Yesterday at 5:21 AM

Not sure which is more disturbing: being obsessed with "fraus" or being completely triggered by the fact that someone is questioning that obsession a la R144

by Anonymousreply 148Yesterday at 6:00 AM

Couldn't have said it better myself r148

by Anonymousreply 149Yesterday at 7:19 AM

Being a humorless scold is worse. I can think of several groups who receive worse treatment here, but it is the ultimate in fraudom/Karendom personified to take some mild ribbing here and act like it's the ultimate persecution of life ever.

by Anonymousreply 150a day ago

And yet no one is actually doing that R150

It's mostly gay men wondering why some of our brethren are consumed by boring-ass middle aged, middle class, middle American women.

I get the Diva Worship thing, but the Fraubsession is indeed baffling.

by Anonymousreply 151a day ago

R78, I want to know! About the murderers and Sandy Bullock psycho!

by Anonymousreply 152a day ago

Just wait until it comes out that Tom Hiddleston had a vasectomy a coùple of ýears ago , then that problem will be solved.

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