Official Sunday night dread thread.

I'm in the same boat. My boss has no life, so she basically works 12 hours a day, every single day. She takes one vacation a year - in July - and not a single other day the entire year.

Just think, you could be homeless and living on the street. Then, you would be dreading everyday and night.

Sundays are always worse than actual Mondays.

No one likes you r2

Yeah, they often are r3. Sadly, I don't think that's going to be the case this time. My boss needs to get a fucking hobby, or a girlfriend, or a pet. He has way too much time on his hands to think up these nearly impossible and generally useless projects.

OP, why would you peek at email earlier than you need to? Don't be a glutton for punishment.

Your boss won't have loyalty to you for doing so. Save yourself the grief until after your morning coffee.

r6 I know, I'm kicking myself. Rookie mistake. I've worked for him going on 20 years, it's not like I don't know the score by now. Ugh.

After 20 years, dear R7, you aren't a rookie :)

No shade, just don't do it again!

I'm self employed and dreading tomorrow. Several clients sent emails and texts over the weekend about various stuff. I refuse to deal with any of it until Monday, but it does ruin the weekend somewhat to be contacted by people who seem to think I'm available to answer them 24/7.

My Monday...

How is everyone surviving so far? It isn't quite as horrible as I had feared, but I already want to call it a day and it is only 12:14.

R6, I forgot to say thanks doll! That's exactly what I needed to hear.

Makes one to forward to retirement.

Maybe drinky poos should be a Sunday night thing instead of a Friday night thing.

R14 that would make Mondays intolerable, trying to work with a hangover!

Federal employee here, back to work. I logged on early, then spent the first half-hour with IT getting my laptop to recognize my IDs and going through all of the updates.

I am almost through with 35 days of emails, and messages. We had two major meetings today about getting back from the furlough, prioritizing the work, and getting paid. We already were going through a reorganization, and now things are worse than ever, since a mass of folks retired. Our department (USDA) was already going through 30% cutbacks; State, Justice, EPA and others were decimated after Trump came on board.

All of this idiocy is demoralizing. We are supposed to provide even more services, faster and more effectively, with less staff and fewer trained or experienced personnel. While the president is focused on everything but the same.

And to continue threatening another government shutdown while we barely able to shovel our way out now.

I am technically fired but have been working until my replacement is found. Ughh i hate having to go back to that dismal place.

What area do you work in, OP?

How can they do that, r17?

I hope you can collect unemployment benefits or look for another job.

Sorry to hear that, R16. Please, keep us updated.

Sorry R16 that sounds horrid ay the best of times but with all those cutbacks and added stress it's amazing your department can keep going.

R17 have you got anything lined up?

Bump

My sister said she used to vomit on Sunday nights, anticipating the Monday workday. She still might. Meanwhile, her Deplorable husband barely works. I never thought I’d have such a person as my BIL in my family. Never.

I have it BAD right now. It is only 12:30, and I could still make something out of today, but all I want to do is hide in bed..

Anyone else have a case of "Tomorrow is Monday, I hate everybody?"

I'm starting my dread early. It's compounded by having to "spring forward". Fuck this noise.

R26, turn that frown upside down!

Currently Sunday night here. Monday is looming and I'm sad. I'm literally counting down the weeks until Easter. Can't wait to have a week off from work.

Retiree who took a job during tax season, 4 days a week, M, T, Th & F.

God, I hate Sunday night again and can't wait for April 15th.

The 60 Minutes ticking clock is literally a trigger for me, dating back to my school days anxiety.

R30 - Wow! I feel ya on that one!

Ditto for all those Sunday night TV shows...it was a mixed blessing when they were on. Pro: At least something to distract me. Con: Never truly being able to forget that tomorrow = Monday.

Now the time change has me all fucked up and I can't sleep.

Any of my fellow dreaders dreading, or am I dreading for you? Might be the case as it is worse than usual. I hate this so fucking much...

Please, OP!

You're giving this retiree dreadful flashbacks.

I hated that working shit!

Pot and American Idol makes it bearable.

Can I come live with you r34? I am so jealous. I don't even know if I will ever be able to retire.

My boss is a fucking Martian with ADHD. It's torture.

Sunday night hasn't been the same since Trapper John, MD, left the air.

It's that time again kids! I hate this so fucking much. I might call in sick tomorrow. Not a total lie. I'm sick to my knotted stomach

Alcohol withdrawals are the worst!

The sound an old fashioned pager still makes my muscles tense up.

R37 I forgot about Trapper MD. Thank you for reminding me. I made up a tall tale about being kidnapped by garbage pickers when I was 7 years old and when my parents asked me what his name was I told them Trapper D. I know this sounds strange, but I 'm not a troll, just a weirdo.

So OP, my general strategy for weekends and when I am on PTO, is just to delete all the e-mails, then claim ignorance. "What e-mail? I must have not gotten that/went to spam/confused it with another useless CC e-mail".

Generally works pretty well. I come back on some Mondays with 50+ and I am just not having that shit.

We need to be thankful that we have jobs to go to on Monday morning.

I was feeling like something was missing today....

....not any longer. Sunday night dread is here in full fucking form. How wonderful.

Thought I would see if anyone else has the dreads.

So my boss told me six months ago how there was a reorg pending and there might not be a role for me. In the last month I've been seeing the dead man walking signs (I haven't seen a work related email all weekend, by contrast.) It's... what it is. I've got a very good lawyer. But the waiting is a killer... humiliating. So really looking forward to the week ahead, yes.

OP, take a bath. Get into your jammies and you can have some Jello while you watch the Wonderful World of Disney. Yes, you can eat it in the living room just this once.

Everything is gonna be okay.

On sundays I hunker into bed by 8pm and hide!!

Move over and make room for me r47!

r46 Aw, memories!!

r45 Hope it all sorts out for you. Glad you have a good lawyer.

The Sunday night dread now starts as I go to bed on Saturday night. Things have gone a bit shit this year at work and it got a lot worse for my psyche as my boss pointedly said, "As an exempt employee, I check email on Sundays..." This was as his Monday morning was ruined by someone above emailed him over the weekend and all Monday morning. He needed me to find the answers, which I did Monday morning. But that wasn't quick enough for him, hence that little hint to me (I'm an exempt employee too).

I wanted to tell him that I have a life and I'm not going to check email all the time just in the off-chance there may be an urgent issue. Am I not supposed to have a life? As the manager, he should call or text if there is an urgent situation but he won't because he's a shit manager. But of course, I said fuck all because as I noted earlier--things have gone to shit this year. And recently he's been moaning about not making our numbers in 2020--I'm taking it as a hint I need to look for a job because as a 2-man team, he sure as hell isn't going to be the one axed.

r49 What an asshole. You'll feel better once you start putting out feelers, and less locked in to a life of misery like that jerk.

What is an "exempt employee," r49?

R51, exempt as in I don't get paid by the hour. I think the equivalent term is "salaried" rather than "hourly". I understand exempt means I do not get overtime pay and sometimes working out of the norm of 40 hours weekly is needed and goes uncompensated. I refuse the definition of exempt as being on call and checking email at all hours just in case I'm needed. That's a shit way to live--for my level of pay and responsibility. You want that kind of devotion? Pay me executive level compensation.

I work Tuesday through Saturday so I’ll feel the dread tomorrow. I miss having a normal job with normal hours.

Were managers always like this or is this a new thing? Our manager was hired from outside the department and she literally can't do any of the work she supervises....but she's great at sending out emails and strolling through the department, asking employees how things are and getting into personal conversations about vacations and recipes.

If any actual work needs a manager, then she passes it on to the rest of the staff. The only thing she really seems to do is fill out the payroll.

I drink harder on Sunday evenings than I should..

Drinking makes you feel worse!!! It exacerbates anxiety. Try a nice Advil PM.

OP:

U need ta Kwit!

My boss is leaving on a 2 week vacation starting a week from tomorrow. This means he will be in total freak out this whole week. I have my 1-1 at 9am tomorrow, yay.

Hope everyone is surviving / survived their Monday.

R57 Not all of us on here are the OP. :)

However, I am indeed the OP and I do agree with R55 I do the same. One the one hand I know it makes it worse in the long run, on the other hand, it helps me get through the dread as much as anything.

Hang in there r58!

I have “lay off” anxiety. My old company was bought out in December 2018. And one by one the new company is getting rid of the old staff

I'm trying to relax and enjoy watching some golf and the goddamn 60 Minutes ticking clock just popped up on the screen. I'm not even watching CBS. Triggered.

As usual - Pot and American Idol. Woodstock Show Stoppers tonite.

Public holiday here tomorrow in the UK.

OP, do you need a moose in your life? Maybe a comfort moose? I think you’ll feel better.

I DON'T WANT TOMORROW TO BE MONDAY! FUCK MY FUCKING LIFE!

I AM NOT EVEN GOING TO APOLOGIZE FOR THE ALL CAPS, BITCHES!

I am sick as a fucking dog and this week I am expected to do fucking everything at work. I can't call in as we are up to our tits in deadlines because my boss is a fucking moron cunt. I hate everybody.

10 more years....

6 more years for me. Why is work so horrible? I don’t remember it always being this way

Until I fucking DIE more years for me...

My only cure to the Sunday dreads was retirement....fortunately, at age 51. Never looked back.

Will you adopt me r70?

It's almost 2 am, I have to get up in 4 hrs and I'm still awake. But knowing there are others who dread Sunday nights like myself has given me some comfort, enough to try to close my eyes...

I wish you all a good Monday

It’s not much but I recomment you bookmark this thread of uncategorizable barnyard follies. Something funny to look forward to each week in the midst of all the bad stuff that shows up with Monday mornings.

Jane, you cow, how interesting you just posted here just yesterday, because I came over today to refer people down to the gate for the same reason.

I think of the folks here like Oscar Wilde, in the hard-labor prison scene in the 1997 movie “Wilde”, if I recall the correct scene. I suppose it’s also like Oliver at the Workhouse, whatever. I’m sure they all wear black, and have pant legs that are shredded, for some reason.

It's that time again. The dread...IT BURNS!

American Idol and Pot (Kosher Kush)

I dread Sunday nights, too, but feel a little bit better now that I've decided to look for another job. I've only been on my current job a year and a half but it's changed since I started (we merged with another company plus moved to a location I can't stand), plus lots of people are leaving anyway because the company has been doing layoffs (so far our group has been spared), so think I want to just get out, too. Have no idea where the hell I'll land (if anywhere) but just making the decision to find something else gives me a little bit of feeling like I still have some control over my life and not just a chess piece to be moved back and forth by someone else.

I'm feeling like a chess piece tonight and tomorrow that chess piece will be moved into hell. Sucks.

It's already Monday morning here, so chop chop bitches.

r79 Noooooooooooooooooo. We are still in our cloud of dread/denial!

I am working in an office with the following demographics

1 black female director 3 black female managers 10 black female consultants 2 white female consultants 1 white male consultant ( me ) 3 black male consultants 15 black female administrators 1 black male administrator

My days are numberd despite how hard I try

Americans, this is our last full week of work in the month of May. Monday the 27 should be a holiday. Woot! I took Friday off, too.

r82 Good reminder, I'll try and weasel out on Friday. I have to tell my boss to slow his fucking roll on Monday. Without fail, it is like he wants to punish us for having a weekend off, because of course he "doesn't even know what a weekend is" Cunt.

Ugh my boss is back from a 2 week vacation tomorrow and I have my weekly 1-1 at 9 am. Shoot me now.

I remember that feeling. Since I retired I am free of it!

Tomorrow's a holiday in Canada.

i guess i'm lucky i'm not dreading it like most here do. My current consulting job is not bad. Not doing much actually lol.

I liked working, until I didn't and sold my business a couple of years ago. Remember the Sunday dreads all too well. Save your $$, and hang in there.

Thanks everyone for being here tonight. Next time I will bring the doughnuts. Seriously, it means a lot.

Greetings fellow dreadsters. Well, it's Monday, but the dread remains the same. I know it's a short week, but I am sure I will be punished for it by He Who Signs My Paycheck. He NEVAH takes holidays off. Holidays are for the little people.

Sighhhh feeling of dread here too

The short weeks always seem longer, somehow.

I had all of last week off, and now I want to die.

Sums it up r93!

Sorry I forgot the donuts. Too depressed to go out into the world. Maybe next time. I feel like a shitty pawn about to hear their shitty better than me stories. My boss is filled with short week cuntery as he always is. Fucking torture.

On top of everything, my Ambien decided not to work. I look like a marmoset on a bad trip.

I really enjoyed the 3 day weekend. I would seriously consider taking a paycut in exchange for a 4 day week.

A friend of mine works for the College of New Jersey. During the summers, they have Fridays off. The University closes down as part of an energy-conserving measure.

These people have the right idea.

It's baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!

It’s so nice out (Denver). I just want work in the garden, work around the house, cook good food and watch TV

I dread tomorrow

I spent today going over my finances. I have to check the prices for COBRA, but I'm seriously considering walking.

r101 I hear that. I can't make the numbers work no matter what I do, so I remain trapped. By the way, I understand COBRA to be wicked expensive, and doesn't give you much in return. See what options are out there for insurance plans. Blue Shield has some good ones. If you have Kaiser in your area, consider that.

I would love for my boss to sexually harass me so I could sue the company and then retire on the settlement.

I like the way you think r103

Fuck, I just remembered it is garbage night. It's like insult to injury. I hate dragging out those fucking bins. There is a metaphor for my life somewhere in there, but I am too depressed to look for it.

The Sunday after a long weekend is really tough. First, going back to 2 days off is such a bummer and then it's horrible realizing you have to work 5 days this week instead of 4.

All work weeks should be 4 days, 8 hours a day. I think everyone would be far more productive. The difference in quality of life having 3 days off a week as opposed to only 2 can't be overstated. It truly feels like a rest.

Yes, we need to move to 3-day weekends. At least one day on the typical weekend is spent running errands and doing all the stuff. Then you try to relax the other day but it's usually Sunday and you're filled with dread for the following week.

I'm redesigning an entire project just because tomorrow!

r108 and I am SURE you are absolutely fucking DELIGHTED!

R109, Yes, you can read my joy.

I was looking at the laws for New York State about going out temporarily on stress disability. So tomorrow, I'm going to take advantage of my place of employment's EAP and ask to speak to a counselor and get the ball rolling. I'm turning 50 in a few months... to quote Roger Murtaugh in "Lethal Weapon"... "I'm too old for this shit". I pay into my jobs disability insurance, so I would get full salary with benefits for 6 months. Our EAP also covers legal consults.

Also checked my companies policy on quitting/getting fired... best thing that could happen to me is getting laid off. They'd have to pay me 1 months salary for every year I've been there (I've been there almost 15 years!) and continue my existing insurance for 6 months. Unfortunately, I'm in no danger of getting laid off. Getting fired or quitting, I get paid for whatever outstanding vacation time I have and COBRA.

I actually like my supervisor and director a lot. It's the organization itself that sucks donkey balls.

I quit my shitty corporate job and work part time. I make less but don’t even know what Monday dread is anymore. God it’s bliss

I'm job hunting, which makes me feel a little bit better (it gives me hope that I'll find something soon and be able to leave) but I'm also a realist and recognize it could take a while (and a long while at that). But I also acknowledge that just moving to another job may not make me happy either, at least not long term, because I know that one can never be happy so long as you have to work for someone else.

I think the only truly happy people are those who find a way to make a living doing work for themselves, which I know is easier said than done. But it is possible -- my friend did it when he finally managed to open up his own hair salon a couple of years ago. He said it's not perfect (a lot more stress, etc.) but he loves it and said he wouldn't go back for anything on earth. Being his own boss makes it all worth it.

Well, yay for DataLounge, on a Sunday night!

[quote]I spent today going over my finances. I have to check the prices for COBRA, but I'm seriously considering walking.

I was checking online today for the cost of buying health insurance if I decide to quit. Unfortunately, it's not cheap.

Can queer Americans claim (political) asylum in Canada while the Orange Monster is in office? I wonder how far my savings would stretch up there.

Teddy bears and prayers, cubicle slaves.

Dreaded up to the fucking gills over here. We are having a heatwave on top of it. If someone does so much as look at me tomorrow, I am going to fucking go off. I'm sick of everyone, and everything. Perhaps, nay, hopefully, I'll snap and earn a restful stay in some tony hoo-hoo hotel.

Do those even exist any more? Those quiet, posh places where you wear a caftan and a turban as you stroll the verdant grounds while neat-as-a pin nurses in cute caps dose you up with Librium and mimosas in the morning? That's what I want.

Dealing with the dreads here too. Smoking some weed and counting down to Big Little Lies season 2 tonight.

Wanting to die. What's new on a Sunday night?

I was laid off in February, from a job I adored. Finally have an interview this week (Tuesday), but I’m thinking about flaking as I’m not ready to go back to the Monday-Friday grind yet (but, know at my age I should rake what I can get.)

^ rake=take

That's fucked r121. I'm sorry, but it is really good that you landed an interview. That's no small feat these days. Bask in your Monday, but drag your ass to the interview Tuesday, if for no other reason than to keep your interviewing skills honed, and find out what the scene is like now. Then come home and eat whatever you want and binge watch a show that makes you happy. Let us know how it goes.

I like rake & take. It has an all you can eat to-go buffet sound to it.

Take ALL your holidays every year. DO not read emails after hours. Take the tone of your company-organisation and what is protected there, for your private life. If the policy is that you work 35, 40, or 45, hours, whatever is the culture, do NOT indulge overworking bosses. Keep a quick track of what you do and let your boss know ahead of time when coming deadlines are impossible. Be neutral and FAKE upbeat but firm. "What is the priority?" "Ok, that is going to take 16 hours, so.... Such and such other task needs a new deadline."

Look for another job if they TRULY consider you a slave.

r124 Good advice, but not necessarily easy or even wise to attempt some of this once you have been in your workplace for a long period of time, and/or if your work place is a particularly toxic culture. As for "look for another job" of course many of us would like to, and often try, but especially for those of us who are older, it isn't quite that simple, and it becomes yet another source of stress and despair.

Yes, I know from personal experience what your speak of, R125. Still, one does need to protect the balance of life.

I do think sometimes. management bullies gay men about time investment, so its important to look CLOSELY around and if you don't see the married ladies and gents buried under impossible workloads, try to do as they do.

It's creeping in on me...as fucking always, without fail. A bit earlier than usual today.

I did get a break last week as it was so fucking hot, and we have no air conditioning, so my boss called off a lot of what we had planned. However, the flip side to this means there will be twice as much insanity this week. I'm so happy.

By happy, I mean miserable.

Well, I totally empathize, R127. Last week wasn't bad for me either as I was starting my week's vacation, but like a flash of lightning it's over now and back to reality tomorrow.

Ugh! I'm sorry r128, I hope it was at least a nice break. Here is some empathy right back at you.

Can a manager complain here? I work extra hours because no one on our team can perform above a certain level so I have to pick up the slack. This is because upper management will not provide the budget to hire personnel with the needed qualifications. Meanwhile, we can't attempt to ask more of or stretch our current staff because they'll tank our department ratings in the annual survey.

The latest nonsense is that a team member complained to upper management that our team doesn't feel "homey" or "family" enough. This woman hasn't worked a minute past 3pm in years so she can ferry her kids to soccer and stuff because we're desperate to be accommodating. She never extends herself to assist her childless counterparts. But now we've got to figure out some way to make her feel more "homey" lest she complain further. Which really amounts to giving her even more time to listen to her drone on about her family, her church, the the hayseed country concerts she goes to, the dog whistle statements she makes that lets you know she's a Trumper...

Thanks for letting me vent.

r130 I condole you.

All are welcome here who have difficulty (to put it mildly) enjoying their Sunday knowing the next day is Monday.

We get the occasional "sucks to be you, I'm retired ha-ha" posts, but just scroll on by those unemployed mouth breathers who are typing from their parent's basement.

We get nicer ones like "I feel for you guys, and so thankful I am retired. I remember those dread days well". We like those posters.

Thank you, r131. It's like we all go through mourning every weekend.

r132 Oh god, that is a PERFECT way to put it!

It's that time again. The Sunday night blues...

Tomorrow is going to be horrific. We were warned on Friday it would be, which was a FABULOUS way to start the weekend, let me tell you.

I am taking a vac day on Friday (also payday) and my boss is out until Thursday. I'm hoping it's a really quiet week.

I'm trying not to drip with envy r135. (Failing at it, but trying) I really do hope you have a mellow week. Having 3 days off in a row should be mandatory.

I wish that Dateline and 20/20 would move to Sunday nights at 8 or 9. I think that would take my mind off the dread for a couple hours.

The show would probably get better ratings in the timeslot.

R137, you should record both shows and watch them on Sunday nights instead.

That actually makes perfect sense, R138. I should have thought of it myself, so thank you! Hope your Sunday is dread-free this far!

Sending warm thoughts to my fellow dreaders. It is also fucking bin night for me, and, as I have mentioned before, that adds an extra layer of fuck you on top of the dread. A layer cake of shit.

Yes, I am lazy, I know, trust me. I also don't like people, so OF COURSE nearly every time I do my bin-dragging, no matter how stealthily (and you really can't drag those fuckers stealthily) I run into a fellow tenant which means forced small talk. No thanks! Fuck you, social contract. You do nothing for me. I'm over it. Where do I click to opt out?

I love my job but I have such arthritis pain that I dread getting up early and moving quickly to get ready. Despite NSAIDS, my back and feet will be aching by 2pm tomorrow.

The good news is my manager is off this week. The bad news is there are hanging threads that I need to tie up before I go on vacation later this week. The latter is making this Sunday mildly stressful.

I also told my manager that I was going to hiking and camping and be offline completely. I have always had my laptop with me on previous vacations. His response was a curt "Ok."

Sunday is the start of the week in Muslim countries

I'm fine when I wake up, but as the time to leave gets closer the dread gets worse.

r142 Like I have to tell you, but your manager is a fucking cunt. Do the water off a duck's back "mantra" as much as you can, the asshole knows he can't do a thing, though wants you to feel obligated. However, that isn't your water to carry.

r141 Any hope of negotiating working from home? If not full time, at least for x hours per week and preferably before the pain starts to come slamming?

This week is going to be painful. We have 5 deadlines all due this week. One huge one due tomorrow, that we can't push back as we already had to twice. My boss was in a shitty mood last week because the 4th fell "on a stupid day" (this is the sort of person I am dealing with). It was indeed a bit of a momentum killer but this job is a soul killer and any crumbs I can get, I will gladly take.

Thought I would check in to see how everyone else is doing.

I actually lost my job a few weeks ago due to downsizing, and I am probably one of the few people to be happy to lose their job. I was SO sick of the miserable and toxic environment, so they basically did me a favor. I may have less money while I look for a new job, but it has been SO nice having a break from all the bullshit. Now if only I could find a way to never have to work again.

Hated working and sold my IT business when I was 40 (10 years ago). My private pension will cut in at 55. I do have to pay tax on my investments though

Don't have to worry about health insurance as I live in the UK.

I have to pay £154 ($190) a year to qualify for my $10,000 a year state pension at 66. Hope I live long enough to get it.

I used to really dread Sundays.

The dread is especially acute after a four-day weekend.

I’m grateful for the longer holiday weekends as the pain starts later

Time again to raise the flag...

I buy a lottery scratch-off on Sunday night for the frisson of possibility. (I know it’s a waste of money.)

I never ever check work emails on the weekend anymore. Never. Why should I let them ruin my Sunday?

Yeah, work is pretty much shit. People who talk about the glory of work or the fact that everyone loves to work or we should all be grateful to be working, they're full of shit. It's mainly a grim necessity for most people and should be limited as much as possible.

Totally agree r155.

I've had this fear from the get-go,, I remember distantly, yet distinctly, that Sunday for my usually laid back non religious family was a big deal. We would have a big fat chicken or a roast, then gather in front of the TV to watch a show or two, but the whole time I was shitting myself knowing in X hours It was school.

So replace school with work, and you might have a taste of my dread.

I took a Valium an hour ago. Nothing. I am at the point with my boss that I am about to go full fuck you. Then again, I threaten this each week and never follow through.

I know I am a wimp, but I need my job, getting a new being a gay male at almost 52? Nope. Disgusted wtih myself for not trying harder, far earlier, to find something else.

Sending supportive thoughts (normally not my style) to everyone dreading tomorrow. We are all in this together or some sort of bullshit.

Sleep well....

*Raises flag*

My birthday is at the end of this month. Last Monday, I had the nerve to ask for two days off to celebrate (read: sleep). He gave them to me, at a price. ALL projects on his list have to be completed by this Wednesday. When I asked why (as only two projects are under tight but easily achievable deadlines, and the other projects are in the early stages of development--AKA his imagination), he said: "because you are taking time off for your birthday." Yes, two fucking days. Don't scapegoat my birthday you asshole. I almost NEVER take time off. Why? This is why. I end up being stressed the entire time I am gone, and it just isn't worth it. Fuck him. Forget ever having a "real" vacation. He would stroke out.

Sorry for the rant...

Anyone else have the Sunday night blues? Or are you just trying not to die from the heat?

My sister hates her job so much, she has to take a Xanax on Sunday nights. She also vomits.

I am currently slurping on my Sunday Xanax. This is what replaces Sunday Dinner when you are in these sorts of situations. I condole your sister r160 I hope she has someone to hold her hair, and I don't mean that in a cunty way.

I got laid off with a decent severance package. I'm quite enjoying my Sunday. I suppose I should enjoy it while it lasts.

r162 How long do you think you will be able to take time off for before you have to get back into the slog?

I’m going to have a nice big milkshake. And then maybe some candy to put me into a coma.

I'm retired. I wasn't sure it was Sunday.

Had one Sunday where I had no dread--and that was because I was on vacation that week. Posted it--went hiking and camping.

Well, last night, I was feeling it. My first call with my manager, I actually prep myself by telling myself to perk up. Just go with the flow. And it's a shit meeting and goes sideways pretty quickly. He said he's going to arrange a meeting with my HR manager. I think there's usually only one outcome from these types of meetings.

for my whole life ive had weekend dread, don't know why, bad tv maybe.

specially sunday yes tho, most depressing day of week, unless one scores at the fuk bar

Sunday used to have good TV, starting with 60 Minutes. Now there’s nothing on that I watch.

It's funny you say that, R168. I don't think I've watched a regular show on Sunday nights since "Desperate Housewives" went off the air.

Wasn’t Dexter on Sunday night? And Game of Thrones? But I was really thinking of the 80s and 90s.

The Sopranos was on Sunday nights.

fri and sat nite suk hard too, yea, weekends are dismal fer us couch taters.....

No judge judy or wendy or the view or the talk.....boring.

It's Saturday morning and my chest is knotted up. I'm already stressed about Monday. The weekly team meeting kicks off Monday and things have seriously deterioted between my boss and me. If it's like this on Saturday morning, I don't know if I'll survive Sunday night.

R174, are you job hunting? Maybe you should try to get out of there.

r159, that's terrible. Are you looking for a new job?

I once had a boss who started once-weekly meetings at 5 pm. I wish I remembered who so I could wish Ill on her.

[quote] It's Saturday morning and my chest is knotted up. I'm already stressed about Monday.

I have come to accept that Saturdays are (often) a day when the stress from the previous week still exists and is still dissipating. I actually feel better on Sunday mornings (usually).

Another thing I tried to change is sleep on Friday nights. Friday nights used to be some type of blow-out for me (stay up late, drink, eat whatever, etc.). I found that if I tried to just get some sleep on Fridays, it helps.

Use your sick time. It’s a benefit you have earned.

Here’s OP.

Dear Datalounge Diary,

The Sunday dreads are here and it’s only 14:15. Tuesday when I returned from vacation, I was celebrating getting a new job after working at my toxic shitshow for 19 years. Well lo and behold the new job fell through and I had to rescind my resignation. To add insult to injury, I had to finesse my way back into a job I despise. My supervisor believes he has by the shorthairs now and will flex on me relentlessly. So my Monday dreads are thru the roof and I intend to pop pills like tic tacs until I go in tomorrow.

R181 , truly sorry your new job fell through. Maybe it's not what you want to hear, but you're lucky you were able to rescind your resignation and maintain earned income. I hope you find another job soon.

R181 I condole you. I know all too well what it is like to be had by the short hairs. Take all the tic tacs you need.

Dread bump

Talked to a friend today and taking on advice to formulate a game plan to move on. It involves disengaging emotionally, especially with manager and doing job adequately with a plaster on smile. I can't control what my manager is going to do. If it gets nasty, document.

In the mean time, regardless of how well or badly things are going--apply for jobs. It's time to move on.

Easier said than done, I know. But it's gotta be done.

Smart thinking, R185. I'm actively looking for something new as well. It's an uphill battle but it can be done. Good luck!

R186, yeah just finished 1 hour meeting with manager where we didn't want to poke each other in the eye. So I'm going to give myself a pat on the back. Small steps. If I can do this part, I can do the job search part too.

My boss from my last job got a hardon from sending me voicemails and emails that always started with “as soon as you get in, I need...”. He wasn’t bad guy per se but it was maddening and stressful.

My new boss once asked me where I lived, he said, so that he knew he could rely on to came into work on snow day or ... that’s when I shut that shit right down, saying, “oh, no, no, no, I live close to work and pay city prices for everything for my own convenience, not for my employer.” He turned out to be an okay boss. He was just Canadian and used to snow. I never missed due to snow as I was just one subway stop away.

R187 here,

My manager has a meeting with HR managers on my roles and responsibilities. The bastard. He's going to make this about performance when it's his bruised ego that's the issue.

I've read that when it comes to this situation, you take notes when the HR managers meet with you. That you do not bad mouth your manager. That they are putting you on notice so trying to tell your side of the story isn't going to help. You should review the discussion and agree to steps to improve performance.

On the other hand, friends are telling me to stand up for myself and not let him get away with it. If I'm not performing than what does that say about him as a manager? And that I should bring up his performance as a manager.

It’s cause you’re GAY, R190! That’s how you win.

It’s not an honest game, anyhow.

Go to hr. Tell them semi confidentially how unhappy you are, label what your boss is doing as retaliatory, and ask if you can get a severance package.

I got a severance package from a job I hated about a month ago, and my mood has don a 180. No stress and plenty of time to look for a new job.

Bigger problem than normal Sunday Scaries if you are posting here on a Tuesday afternoon...

It is only fucking the dawn of Wednesday and I am a comlete disaster.

As is my syntax, but giving myself a pass. Hiss at me, I don't care.

Well, it's no longer the Sunday Scaries and it's now every single day. I have a perpetual headache and my chest is burning. I know that this is within my control--I can leave. But as a middle aged worker, I'm scared to leave without a landing place. If you told me I could leave and be employed in 3 months--I would jump at it. I have enough cash to pay the bills and use those 3 months regain some peace of mind and travel. But what if I jump and I'm unemployed for many more months? That is what scares me.

It begins again...

I just woke up at 6:00 and thought it was 6:00 tomorrow morning. It was only when I was completely dressed and ready to go out that I realized I hadn't done something I will do in 45 minutes, tonight (Sunday, not Monday).

I'm pissed. I feel as if I've lost 12 hours.

I condole you r198

Fuck Sundays.

I’ve been unemployed since February, have three more weeks of unemployment left. I really thought I’d have a new job by now, thank god I have to husband to lean on. But at 49 years old (50 in 6 months), I’m becoming increasingly worried I’ll never get a job like the one I had.

Tuesday, I leave for a four-week medical mission in Congo, to investigate the resurgence of our dear friend , Ebola. If I don't make it, Muriel can have my stuff.

Seriously, R201? Wow, I feel even more inferior than I did before.

Congrats R201 You have somehow managed to make me dread today a wee bit less.

OP. needs a puppy, I think. Otherwise, are you saving your money? Social Security isn’t a gold mine; you need savings. You might need to change your lifestyle for a while to conserve. Having savings gives you choices/options. I’m so sorry you have such dread.

Unfortunately for me, my savings made me intolerant of the really bad bosses I had in later life. I had good bosses for decades, but then things turned, unfortunately, for a while.

Tonight is worse than usual. Late Friday meeting and my manager directed me to work on a solution over the weekend and have it ready Monday morning. Bastard. He's tightening the screws and is either trying to run me off or fire me if I don't "perform."

The "solution" is to come up with a way to justify a very tenuous data point that will be shared with the public. Basically the company wants to make a claim no matter what and I better come up with a process that justifies it. Ass backwards, right? So much for our annual ethical guideline training.

It doesn’t seem right that you were asked to work on a weekend, for a non critical HR matter. Not paid, no doubt.

Same manager told me, that as a exempt employee, I should be checking email on weekends. Just in case, an emergency pops up. My POV is I"m not spending my off-work life worrying about potential work emergencies every fucking weekend. Is the company paying for every minute of my life? He's the manager--he's got the paycheck and job title that means so much to him--he can monitor for emergencies and reach out and delegate as appropriate.

R207, what's an "exempt employee"?

Exempt employee = not paid by the hour, annual salary divided by whatever pay period company uses, no overtime paid.

R200, what was your former job position/title? R197 here, yeah, your story is why I'm too scared to walk away from my shit situation. I'm sightly younger but no partner to cover me if I go unemployed indefinitely.

E-commerce Director. It’s a hot field and I get lots of interest from recruiters on LinkedIn but nothing ever comes of it, I think once they realize my age (this is my second career, so just going off the last 10 years they may think I’m mid-30s?). I dunno, just a hunch. Or maybe I have flaming gay voice.

And I will add that since I have been unemployed for nearly 6 months, the Sunday Night Dread has been temporarily lifted, and it’s been wonderful. I still wake up at the same time Monday morning as I did when I had to go to work, but it’s just a completely different feeling. I NEED to get a job, and once I do the anxiety will no doubt return. Sigh.

r209 Thanks for posting the definition. I didn't know it was still a thing. Let me add: "something you should run screaming from if you are ever offered such a posititon".

My ex was an "exempt employee". Every fucking night, let alone day, morning, weekend, "vacation" (ha!), was a dread night. I don't understand why it is legal. The company owns you basically, the money is not at all that great, at least in his experience, and from what I've gleaned, and you can't negotiate it.

Condoling all miserable, frustrated bitches.

Happy, well set, retired bitches...well, your feedback is appreciated too, don't mind the envy dripping from my fangs. Hopefully it does give a wee glimmer of hope for some here. Not me, but I waited too long thinking "it will get better once xyz happens". Fun fact younger ones, xyz never happens. Get a better job while you still can.

Oh, dearing myself on my last post. Though I think we should give each other a break on Sundays for the tedious shit. More than enough to worry about than proper grammar/spelling/makinganyfuckingsense on these days.

My Sunday Xanax isn't making me particularly coherent, but it sure is helping me to not give a fuck about it.

R213, learning lesson late in life/career too. I've promised myself that if I can extricate myself from my current job, I promise to learn all the lessons that are now life a ton of bricks on my head. Do not stay in a job you dislike. Over time, dislike will turn into hate. It will not end well. I took my job because I had been unemployed for 6 months and promised myself it would just be a temporary gig. Well, 7 years later, I'm still here and really wished I could go back 6 years. It was just so easy to settle.

God, Vishnu, Buddha, et al, I promise if I get out of this job with my sanity intact and land at a decent place, I will not slack off. I will stay on top of my career , continue to learn and improve. I will keep myself on the market and be open to other opportunities. I will not become a hermit and then wake up one day and realize I have zero networks, mentors and advocates.

Great post r215 It helps to know I'm not alone. Cold comfort but better than no comfort at all.

Guys, in one recession, I sent out over 500 resumes. You have to put yourself out there, and keep trying. Don’t give up.

In my last job search in better times, I sent out one resume at the beginning of the month, and started the job before the end of the month, so I’m not an idiot.

I was always an exempt employee, too. Your treatment really depends on the job and the boss.

Maybe we start a Job Search thread? One where we can ask for and share advice and tips? There are plenty of DLers who are unhappy in their jobs. We leave this thread to bitch and moan and use the Job Search thread to actually do something about our career unhappiness?

Okay, started the thread. Hope to see some of you there.

Happy Friday! Enjoy the weekend and mean it.

If you can’t bring yourself to do so, take Monday off and start a real job hunt.

Well, I was supposed to hear back this week whether or not I got a job I really wanted. I thought I interviewed very well (two interviews), and was told I was one of three finalists.

It’s already 3pm, so it’s not looking good now.

Hey, hope it's good news for you, but congratulations to getting that far in the process. I know it doesn't mean much if you don't get the job, but you were at least in the game.

Raising the flag...

My boss was an utter bastard to me last week. I had done nothing wrong, or behaved in any way to warrant his hostility. I was careful not to bark back or poke the bear, but somehow that only pissed him off more. He's spoiling for a fight and I have NO clue why. He does this from time to time, and not just with me. I am hoping he calmed the fuck down over the weekend (though this is the asshole who doesn't "do" weekends) but if tomorrow starts out in a similar fashion as last week, I'm worried I might lose it which is exactly what he wants. My dread is off the charts tonight.

R223, please consider looking for another job. It’s work, but peace of mind is worth it.

R223 Sorry to hear about your awful boss, and the anxiety he provokes. I've been in a similar situation and know how horrible it can be, particularly over weekends, when uncertainty looms over what lies ahead. I hope he has calmed down by tomorrow.

Thanks r225. It's like a really fucking toxic marriage. I wish I had the means to get out 10 years ago, but I didn't, and that was when many people were lucky to have any job at all. I need to work on my boundaries better. I would kill to be one of those people who let everything just roll of their back. I take far much to heart. Mary! I know. Ugh.

This is called the Ed Sullivan effect. Once Ed Sullivan finished for the evening, there was nothing else to look forward to but drudgery.

I have to find another job but every time I look through Indeed, there isn't a job I want to apply for.

And I"m also apprehensive on whether I will get good manager tomorrow or asshole manager.

If your boss is unreasonably antagonistic and you are in the us, go to hr.

My situation was deemed irreparable and I got a sweet severance package. Even better, never have to see him ever again.

Happy Monday! Mr dog and i are going to the park.

Ugh...

I'm off all week

I had a bad boss and job. I complained to HR about something. Perhaps a “hostile work environment”, I forget. The had “processes”, so that started a long process.

In the mean time, they were downsizing and laid off a co-worker. I have suspected that, that would have been me, had the “process” not been underway.

After the process found there was no problem, according to them, I was on the chopping block, of course. The dicks. I left before they could fire me.

Woke up this morning with a headache that feels like I'm wearing an iron vice. And it's lasted all day. I keep telling myself it's self-induced stress but the pep talk seem to do fuck all and my body continues to react on its own.

Maybe there was something wrong with your breathing or you were dehydrated, r233. I get these headaches too sometimes upon waking up. They're very strong and pill-resistant too, I can drag them all day. It's gonna sound silly but what finally worked for me is drinking big gulps of cold water (like a full liter). Don't ask me why but the headache lifts within ten minutes when I do.

r234 and r233 I second the probability of dehydration! I get the same thing very often (I am horrible about drinking water). Try what r234 suggested. It's remarkable how quickly it works.

I posted upthread about how I'm presently looking for another job (no luck so far). Well, this past week I actually got a raise on my current job, and though that's a wonderful thing, it still doesn't deter me from trying to find something else. Don't get me wrong, I'm very grateful but it's just I am not happy there anymore and still feel it's time to move on.

r236 Good to hear you are still determined to find a better job. You can use that raise money toward your job search, or maybe to buy something as a reward when you land at a place you are happy at.

Thank you, R237. And I really like those suggestions.

R234 and 235, I doubt it's dehydration because I drink at least 60 ounces of water daily. And almost all that I drink is water. I'm drinking as much, if not more than usual the last month and yet that's when the headaches have started. It's also been about a month since I had a blow-up with my manager.

I have drank a good amount of water today and the headache persists.

I had to work over the weekend. and likely next weekend, too.

I have every night dread.

I condole you r240. I am also pre condling you for next week. That really fucking sucks.

Right now I am in a ball on my bed trying not to look at the clock. I'm toying with making a cocktail or 4 (Vodka on the rocks, plenty of lemon and zest, glass rimmed with Xanax) though I know that is only going to make things worse in the long run.

I’m anxious and dreading tomorrow. I’ve taken a benzo.

r242 Atta girl! *takes "sip" (guzzle) of my third vodka*

Welcome to Tuesday night. (Pacific) Tonight is as bad as Sunday night. In some ways even worse. I am ready to do something drastic. Mary! Whatever...

An article written for this thread.

Just be my luck, that if there are changes, it will likely take a generation or two to be implemented. Right around when I'll be (hopefully) doddering in retirement.

We won't live that long, R245.

Corporate cognitive dissonance, I am living it. Luckily my manager and I work remotely. If we didn't he would see first, me, rolling my eyes and then, trying to gouge them out every time we discuss "Fact A."

Fact A is a number my manager came up with using some rudimentary logic. Fact A is the entire foundation of our business model. It's basically bullshit but so far we have gotten away with it because people just take it at face value. Especially when it comes from a global megacorp. But as soon as people question it, ask us to show our math/proof, we struggle. Sometimes we just walk away because it's not worth the hassle. But right now there's a project we want and it's worth 300K so my manager WILL NOT walk away. And I keep redoing the spreadsheets to no avail. Why? Because Fact A is BS and it's incompatible with transparency.

I keep going over this project with my manager looking for more "proof", asking for more discussions, etc. And I try to, as delicately as possible, to point out why we are chasing our tails--we can't support our BS argument in the face of cold hard scrutiny. And he doesn't get it. He truly can't understand the issue. It's some other department's fault, it's the other organization's fault, who are being too difficult and asking too many questions, etc. He even wrote a letter to the organization's administrator to voice his disappointment with the new rules. And it hit me--he can't see Fact A is fucking bullshit. He's lived this corporate crap for so long he can't see the house of cards he's helped built. It takes all my strength to not shout into the phone, "We can't explain Fact A because it's not fucking real! You should know, you made it up!"

I helped build it too...but at least I know it's bullshit. Though I guess that may be worse as I really should know better.

I know, get a blog.

Just hoping most people here get to enjoy being off for the holiday tomorrow.

I work a ridiculous job in academia, and starting tomorrow I have to shift from my summer work schedule back to my regular work schedule so I'm getting an early start on my dread.

Feeling Monday night dread instead. Still grateful to have the day off and knowing that the work week will be 4 days.

I feel like shit. It's awful how it ruins my sunday when I know by tomorrow lunchtime I'll be fine again. Makes me wonder if it wouldn't be better for me to work every day of the week with four afternoons off instead.

I am completely fucked up about tomorrow. I say that often enough, but I had to take two days off last week because I had some fucking cootie. He WAS NOT HAPPY. He basically said I will have to do double work this coming week to make up the time (even though I am salaried). 20 years with this cunt, and each year it gets worse.

Ugh.

Double ugh. Big fuckup uncovered late Friday--have to deal with it Monday. Have been unable to enjoy the weekend at all.

This thread always makes me sad. OP, why don’t you let a smile be your umbrella!? Turn that frown upside down, Mister. Be part of something bigger than yourself. Lemons? Make lemonade! Heck, make viscous! Be creative! Do your best! I believe in you!

Gertie, Outreach Committee, Gals at the Gate Guild of Monday Morning Moos.

Bless your moo heart Gertie.

Back to my fetal position.

Condoling you r254. If you feel like it, check in and let us know how it went.

Bless your moo heart Gertie.

Back to my fetal position.

Condoling you r254. If you feel like it, check in and let us know how it went.

Lovely, a double post. Oh god, please don't let that be a sign...

ugh...

I don’t have to go to work at all this week! Or next week! Or the the following week!

r260 Everyone hates you, you fucking liar!

R261 I’m not lying. I got laid off a few months ago and I never thought I would be so happy to NOT have a job!

And I’m not adopting someone who hates me!

R254 here, big fuckup from a couple of weeks ago has finally blown up in my face. Tried to jive my way through it when in hindsight, I should have been transparent.

Well, maybe I won't have to worry about Sunday night dreading for awhile then.

R263 Sending supportive vibes. I don't want to sound like the asshole fake type who is determined to look on the bright side--I am not that at all, but I have seen many situations that look horrible turn quite well. Wishing that for you.

R262 Sorry, I don't hate you...much. Adopt me anyway? I'm a good cook. I think. Sorry for being a cunt. Sunday is my cunt day.

I woke up thinking it was Saturday, and the delicious feeling that comes with it. Then I checked my phone for the time.

Fuck.

Salt in the Sunday wound....

I can feel the smugness of our resident federal workers!

Raising the flag...how are fellow dreaders doing tonight?

R268 Drunk-ish and in denial. There should be a drink named after this state, though I guess anything that gets one there would work. Thanks for raising the flag.

I miss Sucession.

I don't even have a cozy Sunday show to watch now to help me ease in. Any ideas?

I feel like shit but not because of a job to go to tomorrow, I work odd hours and do gigs. I'm just generally depressed and lonely. Sunday absolutely blows.

I'm just in a circle of my own made up hell. I, long ago, told myself I cannot stay in current job. Instead of this being freeing and inspiring me to look for a new job, it's instead imprisoned me. I make a lot of noise about looking for a job but have submitted exactly zero applications. In the mean time, my head starts pounding Sunday morning as I dread the weekly Monday team call to kick off the week. Sometimes there are genuine mini-crises to deal with but sometimes like today--there isn't anything concrete but I live in fear something is going to pop up this week. And this is going to be the one crisis that will blow up my existence at the company. My manager questioned my usual approach/request for winter vacation and I've spent the entire day stewing about what this portends.

I've talked to a counselor through the Employee Assistance Program and he referred me to an outside counselor for additional sessions. But I'm limited to the referrals he gave and none of the 4 counselors seem very appealing. I have talked to friends...and they are tired of my inertia. I want to get out of my head but it's a losing battle. Getting fired would be humiliating and a financial blow but it may put me out of my misery.

Friends warned the unemployment misery would be greater so I need to get off my ass and look for another job before I lose this one. I keep telling myself that there are some things within my control and I will be happier if I act on them. Intellectually I I know this--acting on it seems to be an impossible barrier.

r273 WOW! Great post (though I am so sorry you are going through this). Much of what you wrote resonates for me, and I would guess for others on this thread. Sending supportive vibes.

May this week fly by for all of us with as little trauma and stress as possible.

Raising this for anyone who may need to vent.

I’ve started a job search, which oddly enough, has increased my Sunday night dread! Why should you hire me? I have no idea! I forgot how stressful and demoralizing this process is!

I used to be a very talented and dedicated writer in my late teens to early 20s. All my friends, family members, and teachers thought I would be going places. I'm turning 32 next month, though, and haven't written a word in years. I don't have any articles or short stories published anywhere. Depression took a toll on me I think, but shouldn't writing be therapeutic? My need for a stable source of income led to a corporate career with a modest paycheck, and while I still get to be creative, there's a part of me that's wondering what happened. Every time I think this is the year I'm going to get that MFA, I don't know what I want to write about and feel like I have nothing to say.

I think it would help to start reading more if anyone has suggestions? I like trainwreck memoirs, realistic contemporary fiction (i.e. not sci fi), and absurd southern humor.

R277, this thread may be of use to you.

R273– You just described my life. Except I’m unemployed with no money coming in and yet with no motivation to apply for jobs or study for certifications I need to get. Life is a hell of my own making

I think I'm going to take a "sick day."

I know it's only Saturday. That should give you an idea of how bad it is.

Oh look, an "extra hour" of dread!

I'm so fucking happy!

I can't fucking believe it's almost Thanksgiving. I dread the holidays even more than I dread Sundays and that is saying something. I took Thursday and Friday off as I needed to deal with something my boss doesn't understand called PERSONAL SHIT. He grunted his approval, but I just KNOW he's going to make me pay this week somehow. He was plucked that I wouldn't tell him any details, the gossipy little cunt that he is.

Sunday night dread in November is the worst.

The older I get, the more the time change fucks me up, especially on the night of the week that already has me fucked up.

*raising the flag*

We do need a flag. I wonder what sort of design or icon would best represent dread?

I envy those who have a day off tomorrow for Veterans Day.

Same here r286. I tried to guilt my boss into it, but no dice. We are lucky to get an extra day or two at Thanksgiving, so I have no idea what I was thinking. Hey, I tried.

I really have it bad tonight. I probably say this every week, but this is one of the worst. There so much stress going on at work, at home, with the motherfucking holidays looming, my relationship--or lack of it. I am really down and utterly burned out. I didn't even get to take a vacation this year, not that's nothing new, but he promised and that got jerked away.

I'm so behind at work that I'm worried my boss get shitty about it. The thing is, he changes the priorities every week so just as I get my teeth into one project, the next week it gets back-burnered (sp?) and we are on to something totally different.

I know it's only Saturday, but I don't think I'll be having much Sunday night dread this week. I accepted a new job today, so I can't wait to tell my asshole boss the news on Monday!

R289 Good for you! I had two deadlines this week, finished both cases, thank god. Next week should be better. I don't hate my job but I don't love it either. It's ok. Sometimes my workload is huge, other times I have like nothing to do. There's no in between.

Excellent, R289!! Please let us know how it goes after you tell your boss the news on Monday.

Hi all, here we are again. Any updates? Any cocktail ideas? Care to share some Xanax?

Work dread, Thanksgiving dread, or a dreadful blend of the two?

My company gives us Thursday and Friday off, so I took Monday - Wednesday, too. Last week my boss gathered us together to remind us that we need to be available to him over text 24/7. Haha, fuck that place.

by the close of each weekend I’m so henpecked I look forward to going back to work.

I was really hungover yesterday--waay too much wine on Friday--and so Saturday is lost. I feel like I'm not getting enough out of my Sunday, but I can't call in tomorrow. I have to stop calling meetings on Monday morning.

Tomorrow is day one at my new job. I’m scared shitless. At least I won’t have shit to do on day one.

[quote] I have to stop calling meetings on Monday morning.

Yes, that's a very good idea. I hope you don't also "call meetings" on Friday afternoons.

Quit. Go back to the ice show.

[quote]Tomorrow is day one at my new job. I’m scared shitless. At least I won’t have shit to do on day one.

Is it with the same company or somewhere new? Because if it’s a new company, they’ll have you doing all that orientation shit.

In either case, at the very least they’ll be having you introduce yourself to everyone and that is always so exhausting because you have to put on a fake smile and be nice to everyone.

r297 what r300 said. Also, it will be over before you know it. Treat yourself to something afterward like having dinner delivered. You'll probably be too worn out to cook anyway.

We put something special in your lunchbox. *kisses both cheeks* You'll be just fine. Tell us about how it when you get home.

r296 Calling meetings on a Monday? Are you sure you are one of US? Or are you one of THEM?

Hmmm....

I have a second interview this week for a new job that would be 100% remote! Wish me luck, bitches.

r303 The Remote Golden Ring! All good luck wishes your way S.F., let us know how it goes! *smooches*

R295 You might have already hit the sack, but if you want to talk about your hen-pecked life, have at it. It must be pretty bad.

[quote]My company gives us Thursday and Friday off, so I took Monday - Wednesday, too.

Very nice, R294.

Though I'm not exactly joyful tonight (like most Sundays), it's not quite as bad as usual since this will be a short week (my boss will probably let us go at 1:00 on Wednesday, then we have Thursday and Friday off) plus I'm on vacation next week, so not feeling quite as tense tonight as I usually do most Sundays.

Good to hear r306 Where are you going to go on vacation? Or are you going to burrow at home?

R307, I'm doing a staycation here at home. It's been a super busy couple of months (I had to cover for someone at the office who was out for family reasons), so want to just spend the week decompressing, hitting the gym, cleaning my apartment, clearing a few shows off my DVR, taking a few afternoon walks, and napping. (Perhaps, if I find time to get on the Grindr, I'll also get laid.)

Sounds fucking perfect r308

r308

Where do you live? *wiggles bum*

I kid...kinda. It really does sound lovely. Enjoy!

Thank you! I live in NYC.

I hope everyone has a wonderful Thanksgiving.

r311

We must get this transporter beam thing working soon. I'm in California. :( (but I'll still wiggle my bum for you!)

Happy Thanksgiving all fellow dread thread denizens!

Your boss sounds like a horror show, op, plan a way to fuck him over.

Your boss sounds like a horror show, op, plan a way to fuck him over.

I'm new to this thread. 2 weeks ago I walked into the lobby of my office and slipped on the wet floor. I went down right on my face and didn't even have time to put out my hands to break the fall. No one from my company has asked how I am doing, even though I dislocated the cartilage in my nose and am still having problems. They even asked me for a Dr's note. The only reason I have stayed at this shitty job is the fact that they let me miss once a week (I make up the time or use personal/vacation time)

I hate my job so f-ing much. I live in a small town where there are not a lot of other administrative jobs openings. I need to leave in a half an hour, but I'm so tempted to call out

R315...your company should be scared shitless or the building owners should be. Have you talked to a lawyer?

The dread wasn't as strong this week as it's a 3 day working week plus my manager is checking out today for the rest of the week. He even said to take it easy this morning...you bet I will. I work remotely most of the time so when my office management sends an email about clocking off early, it usually doesn't apply to me. My manager works remotely 100% and the office rules don't apply to him and since I only work remotely because he allows it--I have to adhere to his schedule. But this week since he's off--when that early day clock off email goes out, I'm clocking off!

That is fucking sad and tacky r315. So much for the myth of people in small towns having better manners. Feel better, and polish up your resume. Just even the act of doing that might make you feel like you are moving forward to something better.

R297 How did your first day go? Have you already clocked the office cunts and Frauen?

R303 Wondering how your interview went?

Hope everyone's Monday was as easy as possible given our many shitty circumstances.

Wishing everyone a dread-free Thanksgiving! (Though I am fairly sure those don't exist)

R317 My interview is on Wednesday afternoon. Will keep you updated.

Ooops! Thanks r317!

I'm applying for other jobs and I am going to see what a lawyer says

And I'm not the first person to fall on the marble floor. Another woman from personal fell and dislocated her knee, had to have surgery and was out for 8 weeks.

R319 I feel like the interview went really well, but I'm a terrible judge of these things so I'm afraid to get my hopes up. I kept my salary requirements modest.

r321 Great to hear! Hope you didn't "out modest" yourself, but sometimes that isn't a bad strategy to start with, then throw your dick on the table at your first review or two after killing it and say, LOOK WHAT I CAN DO! PAY ME MOAR, BITCHES! I have a feeling that you are going to be happy with the outcome. When will you know?

Another 7 day weekend for me!

Early morning (California time) bump.

Bring out your dead...I mean...dread!

R322 They want to have the offer out before they all leave for Xmas break. I hope it's sooner, the suspense is killing me.

Off to take my usual near fatal Sunday dose of Ambien. My undying envy and happiness for fellow dreadsters who are extending their holiday time off into the next week.

Hoping it's sooner for sure S.F. / R325 Do keep us posted.

Really hard, after the 4 days off...I know some people proclaim how renewed they are for work after time off, but not I. Every time I come back from a vacation or holiday, I'm even less enamored with work.

I do gig work off apps and work whenever I want to so I no longer have dread or anxiety about work. I obviously don't make a ton but it's amazing, and I'm paying my bills. I wear whatever I want and don't have traditional hierarchy like boss, co-workers, meetings - only other people who do the same work to compare notes with on forums. I probably can't do this forever but "for now" it's bliss. I have struggled in traditional corporate office environments and still figuring out what my next steps are job-wise.

I have this week "off" between my old job and my new job. My new job is about 4 hours away and I've already found a roommate, and I'm dreading a week of packing!!!

My laptop crapped out yesterday. (Rubbing in a special layer of salt to my already dreadful Sunday wounds), so I'm only able to check in now.

Sending everyone easy as possible vibes for today. Don't forget to post any updates if you have them. My lovah, (no, not Mr. YSMGH, I mean my *real* lovah, my heating pad), sends all of you bitches warm and toasty thoughts.

Just say "NO" to the Sunday Scaries

I'm taking some sick days this week, bitches! One to avoid the departmental holiday pot luck, and another in order to seem like I'm genuinely sick and not just avoiding the departmental holiday pot luck.

I like how you think r332!

Ah fuck, another blow up with my manager. Multiple times this year he's pointed out that " you push back too much." I think the only reason I'm still employed is because there are only 2 of us on the team. As soon as he figures out a way to replace me without too much hassle, I'll be bounced.

I'm taking a 3 week vacation soon and that was one reason I haven't felt the Sunday night dread as strongly. Looked forward to upcoming vacation. But now I'm stressed he'll use my long time away against me somehow.

R334 He probably needs you more than he's comfortable with so he's an asshole because he feels vulnerable or whatever the fuck. Mine is like this. We are also a two man show. I've had that "push back too much" bullshit thrown at me before. Bitch needs to get some new material. I remind him that if he wanted a "Yes Man" he wouldn't have hired me in the first place/value my input as much as he does (I mix it around). I have learned to soften my "pushing" by saying something like, I will naturally do whatever you want, that is what I am here for, but part of my job is letting you know what I see that could potentially be an issue". I'm tired and a bit rambly, but you hopefully get the gist.

I completely get the vacation thing too. I've never been able to take off more than 10 days in 20 years because, like I said, it's just the two of us, and...I have similar concerns, as much as I tell myself they are unfounded. Try and leave on a high note if you can. Do something that leaves a good impression but also bigs him up a bit. Also, as soul-crushing as it feels, try and lay off of any pushing back before you go and do a bit of (((shudder))) kissing up. Do your best Yes Man impression. He will be happy (as happy as these glum cunts can be, anyway), and you can go off on vacation without a cloud of concern over your head. Or at least a much smaller cloud.

R335, yes, I think the underlying tension is that we tolerate each other for purely selfish reasons. I want the income and benefits but otherwise hate my job. He wants me to do the grunt work while he gallivants around the country being an important person. As soon as there's an alternative to me, I'm sure he would fire my ass. I know he's had at least one HR management meeting about me.

He frustrated that he hasn't been promoted to an alphabet salary level and only manages one person. I'm pretty sure that's why he can't tolerate any dissent.

I'm really beginning to despair of not getting the new job. They did say that an offer would be sent out before Christmas, but my last interview was the day before Thanksgiving. Surely, they would have been in touch by now? What the hell could they be doing ?

Talk me off the ledge, DL!

r337 Hang in there SF! End of year is so fucking fraught with...fraughtness. At least it is where I work. A million things that need to be wrapped up (no pun intended) within only a few weeks, and the priorities shifting constantly. My vibe is give them until the 17th or so, and check in then. I think it's been the timing of the crazy holiday season/year end more at issue, and not *you*. I hope you have been able to enjoy your "sick days" (well done!) at least to some extent. I know how hard that can be when shit like this is looming over your head. Beaming positive vibes your way.

Thanks for the encouraging words. I tend to forget that in real businesses, end-of-year is crunch time, whereas here in academia, everyone's like, "We don't get paid enough to work in December."

Just one more week then I have a whole week off work! YAAAAS! I can't wait.

Ugh. The last week before Christmas break is the most painful and dread-inducing of all!

I have ONE week left, then I don't have to work until 2020! YAAAS! Can't wait to literally have 12 days off from work.

Sorry, forgot I already posted at R340, lol. Anyways, for once I'm not dreading work because I know the Christmas break is not far away.

r342 It's OK. I'm sure most fellow dreadsters are happy for you. In between our fangs dripping with envy, I'm sure there is some of this "happy" I've read about being felt your way. Are you going to relax at home or do you have anything special planned?

I can't settle tonight for the life of me, I seem to have a double dose of my usual Sunday blues. I have all of the Christmas spirit of a dead toad. I am so worn out I look like one too, so I guess that is fitting. I am indeed happy for anyone who can grab some vacation this time of year. Enjoy every drop you lucky bitches!

One thing I am grateful for work-wise is that I don't work retail. My first few jobs back in the dinosaur era were retail, and this time of year was always a fucking hellscape. OK, that was my moment of gratitude...back to sucking my thumb--and dipping it into some crushed up Valium...or Xanax...or Klonopin . Oh to be this happy fat kid (with hair) again!

[quote]I have ONE week left, then I don't have to work until 2020! YAAAS! Can't wait to literally have 12 days off from work.

Looking forward to reading your post here on the night before you return to work. See you soon...it'll go fast.

R341 Hey Sylvia, dahlink, did you decide to rip the band-aid and call or wait it out a bit longer/post vacation?

Starting 3 week vacation today...but will have laptop with me. As part of a 2 person team, I can't check out completely. In any case, since most of the trip is international, the sizeable difference in time zones will lessen the Sunday night dread.

R347 I'm sending the email on Thursday.

R348 This fellow 2 person teamster...OK, that came out sounding odd...understands totally and wishes you a restful and enjoyable vacation.

R349 May your email arrive safely to the right set(s) of eyeballs. Fingers crossed for you!

I din't get the job. FUCKING CUNTS.

Goes to show that people are fake as fuck, and you can't trust a seemingly good interview.

Also, I hate life. Happy holidays.

My company has banned "non-essential emails" between 8 pm and 6 am starting in 2020. Let's see if it sticks.

R351 Those bastards! I am sorry. What did the cunts have to say for themselves? If you don't feel like talking about it I understand. Fuck them, their loss. I know, easily said.

Have a good rant or five about it. It's good for your circulation or something. At least now the band-aid has been ripped and you don't have to deal with "the loomies", but that doesn't make it feel any happier.

Life has been a massive bitch this year. A tar pit of stress. The first person to chime in with "I'm so glad I'm happily retired" gets a "Holiday Tree" shoved up their ass.

R351 I condole you. A shitty thing to happen at any time, but to happen around the holidays gives it that extra salt in the wound. you certainly don't deserve.

They said nothing for themselves. “We have decided to go with another candidate. We enjoyed getting to know you, good luck with your search.” B.S.

I can’t figure it out, unless they didn’t like the results of the personality test they made me take — but I’m loathe to think that any company would seriously hire based upon the results of a personality quiz. They have a pretty touchy-feely culture, though, with cutesy job titles and team-building exercises. So maybe they would.

At any rate, R354 & R355 thank you both. Kindness and empathy from the DL of all places is an entirely unexpected holiday gift. (MARY!)

Hairy Holidays everyone!

I have to work tomorrow but I think it will be super mellow tomorrow. Wishing you all a chill Monday.

Will anything get done tomorrow?

I am dread-free!

Well, at least it will be a short(ish) week.

I'm pre-dreading next week where, as tradition dictates, I will be bombarded with every fucking project my petty cunt boss could dream up as punishment for me having the fucking audacity to take a couple of days off during the holidays.

That was a tortured sentence from my tortured soul.

I still hear this ringing in my ears from last year:

"I don't feel the need to take time off, and I don't see why you do. Do you think you are more important than me?"

Just a wee taste of his insanity, my fellow dreadsters. Happy New Year!

Bump

[quote] "I don't feel the need to take time off, and I don't see why you do. Do you think you are more important than me?"

I feel this quote needs a visual to go with it.

Ah, SF my dalink, how perfect. Thank you!

Working up the energy to drag myself out of bed and make a nice strong "cup of coffee", AKA whatever I can find in the liqour cabinet.

I know I should log out of here before I embarrass myself drunk posting all over the board, but I always say that, and never do. Why start now? Cheers, bitches!

Just doing a quick drive-by dreading.

Waving my greyhound (the boozy kind) in your direction, r364!

Can’t sleep. Every Sunday night it’s like this. Not even my prescriptions help. Luckily I work remote from home, but the insomnia ruins my brain the next day and it really effects my performance. Fortunately lots of people are off all week.

There’s NO better night than Sunday for sex. Truly! Everyone who didn’t get off on the weekend is so fucking horny, and the fuck clubs and saunas are full of hot numbers eager to get their rocks off. I love ehen it’s really really late when the alternative types who’d spit at the idea of being “a life prisoner to corporate life“ rock up. Nothing beats sex in the wee hours of a Sunday night — it’s like sticking a finger up at the who screwed up work-death paradigm! GO OUT AND FUCK NOW!!!

I work in academia and have been off since Dec.23. Tomorrow I go back, and I can't cope!

The ONLY bright spot is that the cubicle frau who's been here for 20 years and who likes to "helpfully" leave post-it notes on everyone's desks telling them how to do their jobs is retiring at the end of the month.

Starting work tomorrow after not working since the 20th. Not looking forward to it at all. On the bright side at least it's Thursday tomorrow. I only have to work two days before I can enjoy the weekend.

The first full week back looms. I feel like barfing.

Not eloquent or elegant but that pretty much sums it up.

I've had a month off of work...tomorrow back...whaaaa!

I actually signed in to my work computer this morning, thinking this was Monday, until I heard 'Sunday Baroque' with Suzanne Bona on the radio. So I signed back out again. But I couldn't get back to sleepp.

R371, same here. So depressed.

I've been out for the better part of 2 weeks and logged in yesterday after someone texted me that the top local official was forced to step down. It was announced Friday. He was a casualty of the me-too phenomenon and, in that sense he deserved it. However he ran the office very well, leaving the professionals alone because we got the work out. We are left with a remote acting official and one of the most incompetent manipulative office directors I've ever encountered. She's jealous of the professional staff and my supervisor, who deals with the professional staff, texted me that she is concerned as well. She wrote "no one is safe." The office director is second in command and will micromanage us if she gets the chance. Really not looking forward to tomorrow.

I used to feel like this all of the time. Since I’ve retired every day is Saturday.

The woman who writes the Ask A Manager column put together this spreadsheet of the salaries her readers earn. Some may find it heartening, some may find it depressing. It does seem more "real world" than the salary estimators I've seen on job search sites.

Then again, there is the dude who listed his salary as "jizz in my pants", so...

No, I can't sleep. I WONDER WHY?

Some tips that have made Sunday nights easier for me:

My hardest workout day of the week. I push myself, and power through it knowing Monday will be my rest day and Sunday is my eat whatever I want day. For me, it works best to do it early in the morning if I have any plans for Sunday afternoon, and if not, late in the afternoon or early evening. It really helps me sleep Sunday night.

I also try not to watch TV and limit online time. Better time spent listening to music or podcasts or reading.

As I said, eat whatever I want. It's my splurge day. I can still indulge without going crazy. Some Sundays I like to cook a big meal with enough to take to work on Monday. Most Sundays I like to get a pizza or meatball parm hero.

Zero housework, yardwork, paperwork, work work. This is a rule and I stick to it. If I have a looming work project, I'd rather stay later Friday night to get it done, or get into the office by 7 am Monday to knock it out. I generally allot four hours a day on Saturdays for housework and yardwork. Granted I have a housekeeper so housework is just extra projects I don't want her to have to do. If you find you spend more than 4 hours a week on housework, look into getting a cleaning service. Even if you are on a tight budget see if there are other areas you can economize to afford it. It's life changing and really minimizes stress.

Sundays are all about recharging and self care.

I just came back from two weeks off and am already exhausted. But re-entry wasn't that bad this morning because most work came to a grinding halt during that time and I didn't have much to catch up with.

OP, I feel your pain and frustration. I've had VPs like this. Many successful people are fairly self destructive with their constant idea popping. Pushing back against them generally results in comments about "negativity".

How I deal with this now is I take their ideas and I start putting them into an app like Trello along with resource requirements and costs for each one of their deranged ideas. Then I present it - all hands. Most of these idiot ideas get dismissed pretty quickly once the resource and budget impact is public.

Now, it's not a perfect approach. I've had a couple of managers who decided to end run me and just cut me out of the loop. I taught more junior people the basics of project management and had them email it to the VP's boss.

I take on a huge amount of work, so it's not like I'm filing my nails here. But I won't get bullied and I won't go negative. It's hard to find a balance.

Thank you workbots for making this nonworker appreciate what a lucky bitch he is. (I truly don’t mean it smugly. I’m very very grateful.)

But I do hope R377 loves their job. Being naturally laissez faire, I can’t imagine organising my entire existence around a 9 to 5 or worse routine to such a micro-managed degree. I know we’re supposed to laud it as efficiency but it begs the question: ‘Bitch — when are you going to truly LIVE?’ How many years do you think you’ve got left? Even more pointedly: how many years of health do you think you’ve got left?! Maybe it works for her. I just can’t imagine every week being that same rote routine. I would ask myself: what’s the point of it all? ‘You get to live — within careful restraint — on Sunday! Oh whoopy do. I think the exhaustion they feel is subconscious exhaustion. You need to cut yourself some slack, and give your life some spontaneity!

Mondays: 1day down, 4 more to go.

I'm getting ready to fly home after nearly 3 weeks away. Packing tonight and flying tomorrow morning, halfway around the world. I'll be traveling for more than 24 hours. Get back Wednesday night, log in Thursday morning. Wednesday will be my Sunday this week. At least it will be a short week.

Finland has just officially declared a 4 day working week of 6 hours a day. I wonder how that will go down with American firms there. A dutch friend who works in a company in Amsterdam told me that when some American execs were transferred to his office they learnt a hard and fast lesson when they tried to run meetings after 5pm.

Does Finland accept refugees?

r379, thank you for your useful, relevant insight. Being a nonworker and all, your perspective on Sunday night dread experienced by many worker bees on this thread is truly valuable.

Noooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!

*wailing underneath the duvet*

Raising the flag. Happy for you bitches who have Monday off.

Car had a flat tire this morning, no doubt due to frigid temperatures. I can't miss work to fix my new tire tomorrow and I work until 6pm... just when the tire shops close, of course. I hope I can sneak in early and get something sorted out. I'm jealous of anyone who can take PTO whenever they want!

Hope everything worked out with your tire r387. Not a fun way to start the week. Ridiculous that allowances can't be made for certain situations such as this.

R388 Turned out to be an easy fix, the TMPS sensor caused the leak. I'm sure if I was a long-standing employee I could have taken the time off to deal with this, but I've only been there a month.

When you hope that the next fiscal year brings big budget cuts so your job will be eliminated, that's Sunday Night Dread.

Where is everybody tonight? I need a distraction and I can’t find one lively thread tonight.

Between the Grammys and the awful Kobe news, I’ve not had the time to focus on my usual Sunday scaries.

r390 Yeah, that's some serious dread to be sure, Sylvia dahlink. *air kisses*

My boss has been more passive aggressive with me than ususal. Really fucking snarky and sarcastic. He was getting ready to leave for a meeting....sorry "Meeting" (always with a capital M, because, cunt) on Friday. I called him before he left with some rather happy news (a chunk of cash came in from a project we (I) worked hard on, but payment wasn't expected for months). Instead of saying something like, wow, that's great! Like a NORMAL HUMAN (he is clearly neither), he said, snottily "I'm SO glad I got out of the car when I was nearly out of the driveway, ran back to the house pick up the phone, just to hear something like THIS! I almost thought he was kidding (he doesn't kid, momentary lapse on my part) He treated me as the bearer of bad/insigificant news, because 100k months before it is due, and money is tight, is certainly bad and certainly insignificant fucking news.

Look you massive cunt, I'm so sorry you are too fucking limited to learn how to use a cell phone so you can't get a phone call unless it's inside your fucking house. I'm so sorry for letting you know you have some surprise money in your pocket (that I will never see a dime of in the form of a bonus.) I'm SO SORRY I wanted you to have something good to think about on the way to your precious fucking "Meeting" which I later learned was an appointment TO GET YOUR TEETH CLEANED. Mr. Self Important strikes again. The fucker can't have a regular dentist appointment like us mere mortals. He has "Meetings"!

I am still disgusted by the whole thing, and I'm afraid of talking to him tomorrow because I might lose my shit and with it my job, and we are in NO place to lose any income. We are just scraping by.

Sorry for the stupid, boring rant everyone.

Where's my vodka tonic? I'm so fucking mad I have misplaced my fucking cocktail. FUCK!

R393 He sounds DELIGHTFUL.

I'm sorry you feel stuck in this situation. I believe you too. I've got a bad case of golden handcuffs myself. I used to pride myself on not taking shit from anyone. Those days are looooooong behind me for sure.

I hope you find your cocktail. Make another one while you are looking. Make me one while you are at it, would you please?

Well, I found it and of course it was empty. That sort of sums things up for me pretty well.

Of course, r394 *hands extra strong cocktail over* Thanks for listening, I'm sorry if you have a shit situation too. I'm all ears if you want to vent. That goes for anyone else here too. Quiet lurkers basking in the dread are also of course always welcome. Cheers(?) *clink*

[quote]Finland has just officially declared a 4 day working week of 6 hours a day. I wonder how that will go down with American firms there. A dutch friend who works in a company in Amsterdam told me that when some American execs were transferred to his office they learnt a hard and fast lesson when they tried to run meetings after 5pm.

That sounds so much more reasonable then the 40+ hours five days a week bullshit we have to deal with in the US. And good for the Dutch schooling those Americans. Contrary to popular belief, not all of the world wants to spend their entire waking life working.

Well, I have another job interview this Thursday and I just can't psych myself up for it. I'm sick of my job, but burned out on job-hunting -- having to prep and research so I can go in there and act like a good little motivated suck-up. Feh.

Either give me the job or don't, I'm over it.

Just wanted to post and add to the dread party.

R397 Sylvia, dahlink, I feel bad I wasn't here last week (a story of it's own) Hang in there as best you can, which is the most limp advice, and I am sorry for that.

I plan on giving my boss some hard home truths come tomorrow. I'm putting it here so I have SOME form of accountability. I know I will wimp the fuck out, but even if I end up doing a fucking tenth of what I want, nay NEED to, it will at least be something.

Why the hell does he make it so fucking difficult? Whatever.

The silver lining to this week's Sunday Night Dread is that Tuesday will be the last day of the frau co-worker who loves to tell everyone how to do their jobs.

Godspeed, YSMGDHouse!

R400 Yes! Kiss our asses frau! Hope you get yours, and you will!

Thank you, Sylvia you doll *muah*

I'm clasping my tequila in my left hand, I have my pet crying towel tucked firmly under my third chin, and pecking this out fabulously with my right hand. *THIS* IS FUCKING TALENT, CUNT BOSS, THANK YOU!

Anyone going to get a half day on Friday before a long Presidents’ Day weekend?

Anyone going to have office valentines parties or other special events to help break up the week and make it go by faster?

R402 No, and I have some ideas about what you can do with your silver lining right about now, SLG.

We got New Year's Day off and the next office holiday is Memorial Day. That's just too damn long so I'm going to have sprinkle in few mental holidays.

I retired last September at age 62. I knew I would have to accept a financial hit because I was hating work so much and the stress was starting to affect my health. Retiring was worth it x 10. Every day is like Saturday all right--though the chores never end. Boo fucking hoo.

I love you r405 Seriously, I know what you must have been going through, and it is nice to hear from those that made it out alive intact.

That said, if you mention something along the lines of how you spend six months out of the year in your second home in the South of France, you're dead to me.

Anyone take a sick day today? Was it worth it?

Gotta work on president’s day tomorrow like a chump. Fuck my life I guess.

OP is moo adverse.

Me too r408. Can someone explain the moo thing to me?

Glad you asked, R410. You know how people “Moo” when passing a field of cows? It feels good, doesn’t it? Monday Morning Moos are an opportunity to start your week with a hearty “moo”. Stretch, and moo. Adopt a persona and do some creative writing. You won’t find any of them thar cows dreading Monday morning, they look forward to it! Join us and moo like a boss!

That's very...not me, but thanks for explaining!

Stick your boss in the trunk of his car and don't let him out till Friday. He sounds like a nightmare.

Ok, R412, be miserable. I’ll moo for you.

I buy a scratch-off lottery ticket every Sunday. It’s oddly consoling.

I buy a scratch-off lottery ticket every Sunday. It’s oddly consoling.

[quote] 353: My company has banned "non-essential emails" between 8 pm and 6 am starting in 2020. Let's see if it sticks.

Do you mean personal emails? My company banned them decades ago. Do I understand correctly?

It’s a holiday! Woot

The only downside of a 3-day weekend is that the dread migrates from Sunday night to Monday night, but at least it's just a 4-day week.

Raising the flag. I have so much dread today, I don't even have words. So at least you bitches will be spared my usual litany of complaints.

Bring out yer dread!

Looking forward for our inevitable mass quarantine.

My workplace has already sent out it's "We are monitoring the coronavirus closely and following CDC guidlines" email. In a few weeks I expect an, "The University wants all of its faculty and staff to remain safe. In light of the recent local outbreak, if at any time you feel it is unsafe to come to work, we expect you to use your accrued sick or vacation time to remain at home." (I.E. the same as our "severe weather policy.")

Thankfully, we have a strict "if you even slightly suspect you are coming down with something, stay at home" policy, as my asshole boss is a massive germophobe--which is one of the few things about him I support, as I can fake up a sick day to get a break from him. At this point, I don't even want to hear someone sneeze over the *phone* MARY! I know, but this whole thing has me jumpy. I usually roll with cooties pretty well, but this one has me clenching.

Same here, r424. This one has me nervous. Unfortunately, my situation is more like R423 except I don't have much of anything to draw on in my leave reserves if this virus comes knocking on my door. But hey, look on the bright side. We have some fresh dread to dress up our Sunday night dread!

One thing that I hope comes out of the coronavirus, should it get really messy, is that workplaces slow to adopt/allow full time remote positions, may see that not only is it doable, but actually a big positive for their companies. It is completely ridiculous that I have to drive my fat ass an hour in traffic just to sit in a cubicle and do exactly what I could be doing at home, only with FAR less resentment.

[quote] It is completely ridiculous that I have to drive my fat ass an hour in traffic just to sit in a cubicle and do exactly what I could be doing at home, only with FAR less resentment.

I love you, Winston.

R426 *Swoon*

I'm the only one tonight?

No.

We actually had a really good week, we pulled off a couple of deals that secured funding for our team into 2021. So job should be good for another 18-24 months as long as I don't mouth off to my manager. Yet, I just felt...shitty. I actually woke up Friday morning and thought it was Saturday and I was about to chide myself for waking early on a weekend day. Until, fuck, I realized it was Friday.

Deep down, I know it's not just the job. It's me, there's some sort of depression and low self esteem going on...There's a job out there that I should be applying to--it's an executive level job and I'm too scared to apply. On paper, it's a ft for my work history but I can't bring myself to apply. Somewhere in grad school, I lost the will to knuckle down and get things done. I

I almost feel bad for doing the bump of the week, but...I'll call it a quest for normalcy. Any of you bitches getting to work from home? Self whatevering? Enjoying a vodka tonic rimmed with Xanax? (I need to start rationing)

I'm working from home starting Tuesday (they gave us Monday off). Working from home seems like it will be awesome, but it will likely suck.

I'm too depressed to feel dread. I know I have to lay off the internet, but I'm like a frenzied lab rat. Refreshing Twitter like a motherfucker as if I'll get some hopeful news, but it just gets worse.

I have to go into the office tomorrow hopefully that will be my last day out with the germs. I work for a national nonprofit and geez why the fuck cant we work from home? Everyone is terrified :(

Physician here. Corona, here I come.

I'm working from home until further notice, only required to go into the office on Thursdays. I almost wish they would close my office fully instead of doing work from home. I don't have the discipline to do this for very long and still be productive. I need to go to the office. Just being real.

I just came home after a leisurely Sunday walk to a voice message from my supervisor confirming I will be in tomorrow to deal with strategies and scheduling re: the virus. WTF?

I work for the city and they are completely failing at communicating with staff. They should be shutting it down.

It's starting to look scary out there. Grocery stores have half-empty aisles.

It's like Dawn of the Dead.

Vacation this week (planned ages ago) and then ? Seems to be only getting worse where I am. @Winston: same. Checking Reddit, news, texting people agh! Then an email from a relative about what's happening in Seattle. It's grim, folks. This thing attacks your heart and then game over.

Working from home is the norm for me so no impact. I guess with the way the economy is slowing and the volatile stock market, this is truly one of those times I should be grateful to be employed at all.

Yes, at long last I get to work from home again for the foreseeable future, but the joy is taken out of it by my nightly panic attacks.

How we doing? Ready to go back to the office?

Noooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The cunt I work for said we could make remote work a permanent thing. Now he is having second thoughts. Fuck his second thoughts right up his gaping asshole.

Anybody going back to the office for the first time tomorrow? Or next week 6/1 after Memorial Day?

F441, the problem is the CDC. As a federal employee who has loved full time telework since March 2020, the minute the CDC came out with guidance that said you could go without a mask if you were vaccinated, even indoors and then the MSM started asking why Biden was still wearing a mask indoors, so he stopped doing it, I knew we were in trouble. Now Republicans are demanding that federal offices reopen and, based on guidance of the "experts" there is no reason not to do so. And if federal buildings can reopen and forget masks and social distancing, surely private business can as well.

My work is completely portable so there is no reason for us not to have full time telework. I already had significant telework, but getting ready to go to the office is a significant time waster. Plus, I the vaccination rate is low here and I suspect we'll see a fair amount of illness if I have to go to the office.

I appreciate having the option to go into the office. I like my colleagues, so it's nice being able to informally chat. Years ago, I worked as an independent contractor and it was way too isolating.

Oh god r444 what's wrong with you?

R445 Switched to the nonprofit sector.

I now work full time remote from home, and I STILL get the Monday dreads. Some weeks it is worse than others, and tonight is an example of worse. The massive stress ball in my gut is, well, massive. My boss seems to think that since I have this luxury (and when I see people having to commute in horrible weather, and hear about "team" meetings from hell, I do get that it is a luxury), that means he can work me to death from afar. He is spared seeing the look of horror on my face as he dumps more on my lap, so he's getting off on dumping from a distance.

Don't fear Monday. It's a fresh start! I love Mondays (tell me why).

Working remote is okay but it does open the flood gates for trolling coworkers.

I hate Sunday nights and have for years. And to make it worse, like many people we've been working from home for almost two years and I absolutely love it but I'm beginning to get this terrible feeling that soon we may be asked to return to the office, which will make me exceedingly unhappy. But what can you do? In my case, the answer is nothing -- there's nothing I can do because I need to work and can't just up and quit like so many other people are doing nowadays. I have no one to depend on but myself -- no husband, no family, anybody -- so for now, I just have to grin and bear it.

But unlike many people, at least I have a job, so I am thankful for that.

I’m hoping either my contract ends in February or I’ll probably quit soon after. I’ve been wanting to quit since August.