It’s official
The caption/essay:
[quote]I knew I was gay when I was thirteen, but I hid it for years. I folded it and slipped it under the rest of my emotional clutter. Not worth the hassle. No one will care anyway. If I can just keep making it smaller, smaller, smaller.... My shame took the form of a shrug, but it was shame. I’m a white, cis man from an upper-middle class liberal family. Acceptance was never a question. But still, suspended in all this privilege, I balked. It took me years. It’s ongoing. I’m saying this now because I have conspicuously not said it before. I’ve been out for years in my private life, but never quite publicly. I’ve played that tedious game. Most painfully, I’ve talked about the gay characters I’ve played from a neutral, almost anthropological distance, as if they were separate from me. These evasions are bizarre and embarrassing to me now, but at the time they were natural. Discretion was default, and it seemed benign. It would be presumptuous to assume anyone would care, yeah? And anyway, why should I have to say anything? What right do strangers have to the intimate details of my life? These and other background whispers––new, softer forms of the same voices from when I was thirteen, fourteen, fifteen.... Shame can come heavy and loud, but it can come quiet too; it can take cover behind comfort and convenience. But it’s always violent. For me, this discretion has become airless. I don’t want to censor––consciously or not––the ways I talk, sit, laugh, or dress, the stories I tell, the jokes I make, my points of reference and connection. I don’t want to be complicit, even peripherally, in the idea that being gay is a problem to be solved or hushed. I’m grateful to be gay. Queerness is a solution. It’s a promise against cliche and solipsism and blandness; it’s a tilted head and an open window. I value more everyday the people, movies, books, and music that open me to it. If you’re gay, bi, trans, two-spirit or questioning, if you’re confused, if you’re in pain or you feel you’re alone, if you aren’t or you don’t: You make the world more surprising and bearable. To all the queers, deviants, misfits, and lovers in my life: I love you. I love you. Happy Pride!
by Anonymous | reply 1 | June 24, 2019 11:01 AM |
[quote]I’m grateful to be gay. Queerness is a solution. It’s a promise against cliche and solipsism and blandness; it’s a tilted head and an open window.
EXACTLY. Well, except for the solipsism part - the countless Instahos of the world prove that's not necessarily the case.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | June 24, 2019 11:03 AM |
r2 This is a coming out thread. It needs to be celebrated, rather than just buried in Connor Jessup Part 7 thread, imho.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | June 24, 2019 11:04 AM |
Fair point
by Anonymous | reply 5 | June 24, 2019 11:10 AM |
Get naked Connor. Show feet.
by Anonymous | reply 6 | June 24, 2019 11:11 AM |
Thank you R4, and I’m not even the OP r2 thinks I am.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | June 24, 2019 11:13 AM |
And yet... you didn't put "Comes Out" in either the thread title or main body of the OP...
by Anonymous | reply 8 | June 24, 2019 11:17 AM |
OP still fucked this up. Why is your title just "Connor Jessup". Not "Connor Jessup Comes Out". Maybe even through in a BREAKING to keep with DL traditions.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | June 24, 2019 11:17 AM |
How soon before his bf Miles Heizer follows him out of the closet?
by Anonymous | reply 10 | June 24, 2019 11:19 AM |
r9 Sure, but it's not like coming out threads have a long shelf life. Just go back to those regular Part X threads after today.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | June 24, 2019 11:20 AM |
r10 Are those two 100% together, or is it mostly conjecture by the fans?
by Anonymous | reply 12 | June 24, 2019 11:21 AM |
I don't typically go into the Connor Jessup threads r10, but I saw he came out and looked to see if we had a coming out thread or if I should start one. Hell, I'm still kinda convinced I should start a better one but I won't bother.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | June 24, 2019 11:23 AM |
r12 His mom's instagram has given several pretty heavy clues (family dinners, visits at Halloween) She's not good at subtle, bless her. She seems so proud of everything Connor related
by Anonymous | reply 14 | June 24, 2019 11:36 AM |
R14 Connor has a proud PFLAG mom.
by Anonymous | reply 15 | June 24, 2019 11:39 AM |
I thought “it’s official” would be obvious. This being a gay site and other threads, but you dolt fucks need to get a life.
by Anonymous | reply 16 | June 24, 2019 11:41 AM |
The idiot used the words "Queerness" and "Cis man", so no points for me. Gay should not be included with the word "Queer, or fucking "Queerness", and "Cis" was termed by the tranny's. He should have stayed in the closet instead of adding all the other bullshit words to his coming out post, especially "Queerness".
by Anonymous | reply 17 | June 24, 2019 11:45 AM |
"If you’re gay, bi, trans, two-spirit or questioning, if you’re confused, if you’re in pain or you feel you’re alone, if you aren’t or you don’t: You make the world more surprising and bearable. To all the queers, deviants, misfits, and lovers in my life: I love you. I love you. Happy Pride!"
"Trans, two-spirit, deviants, and queers", what a fucking joke! That's shameful adding those into a supposedly "gay" coming out post. *SPEW*
by Anonymous | reply 18 | June 24, 2019 11:55 AM |
It would have been better for everyone if OP added “comes out” or something to the title
by Anonymous | reply 19 | June 24, 2019 11:56 AM |
r15 Hearing that makes me just as happy as someone coming out.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | June 24, 2019 11:58 AM |
I think it is a beautiful and eloquent post.
by Anonymous | reply 21 | June 24, 2019 12:08 PM |
R21: Yeah, a tranny, two-spirit, deviant, queer circus performer, would love his post. An actual gay man who actually has respect for himself would NOT give mention to lunatics. Especially in his first public coming out post.
by Anonymous | reply 22 | June 24, 2019 12:16 PM |
R22. These days gay is too cold and too mainstream. You have to include everyone now. Gay doesn't exist anymore. "Too broad".
My eyes are rolling.
by Anonymous | reply 23 | June 24, 2019 12:29 PM |
[quote]Yeah, a tranny, two-spirit, deviant, queer circus performer, would love his post. An actual gay man who actually has respect for himself would NOT give mention to lunatics. Especially in his first public coming out post.
Do you respect yourself? Hmmmmm.......
by Anonymous | reply 24 | June 24, 2019 1:18 PM |
R25: So what! "Gay" Star News has a whole dedicated section on their website titled: She & They. So of course they'd cover his coming out post mentioning trans, two-spirit, deviants, and queers. Every "Gay" Online Magazine/Website outlet has been co-opted by it.
by Anonymous | reply 26 | June 24, 2019 1:41 PM |
[quote]Maybe even through in a BREAKING to keep with DL traditions.
Oh, dear!
by Anonymous | reply 27 | June 24, 2019 2:06 PM |
[quote] I’m a white, cis man from an upper-middle class liberal family. Acceptance was never a question. But still, suspended in all this privilege, I balked. It took me years.
So, basically he could have played Simon in "Love, Simon." He was even living it. Curses to you Greg Berlanti for going in another direction in casting.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | June 24, 2019 2:23 PM |
His tweet linking to his Insta announcement has so few likes, I thought he was a bigger deal for some reason.
by Anonymous | reply 29 | June 24, 2019 2:25 PM |
He’s so proud to be gay and yet he’s dating a huge closet case.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | June 24, 2019 2:38 PM |
His coming out reads like an apology instead of an affirmation of his sexuality.
[quote]I’m a white, cis man from an upper-middle class liberal family
Look how quickly he turns on himself as if his experience in the closet was less legitimate. The closet and the self-hatred and shame it brings doesn't discriminate based on race. To the contrary, it is an aspect that all gays across the spectrum can relate.
[quote] Queerness is a solution [...] bi, trans, two-spirit or questioning
Then he applies disassociation to lessen the shame of his "privilige," of which he has none. As an actor he knows first hand he is treated as a second class citizen. It is not a stretch to ask the public, whom he is addressing in his coming out post, to expect a post focused on his personal journey out of the closet. It's his coming out yet he remains ashamed.
I wish him well and that he gets more confidence as he matures.
by Anonymous | reply 31 | June 24, 2019 2:48 PM |
R30: Because the closet case reminds him of himself, when he was in his closet for years and too much of a fucking pussy to come out. It makes the love stronger for him being with a closet case. The guy is an absolute loser and looks like one too.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | June 24, 2019 2:50 PM |
[quote]Look how quickly he turns on himself as if his experience in the closet was less legitimate.
It wasn't less legitimate, it was just easier than growing up in a fundamentalist family in Alabama. That's a matter of objective reality, not subjective experience.
[quote]The closet and the self-hatred and shame it brings doesn't discriminate based on race. To the contrary, it is an aspect that all gays across the spectrum can relate.
Sure, but it is a bit different when your parents throw you out on the street, disinherit you, beat you etc... for being gay. That he didn't have to go through any of that (before becoming an actor) is the privilege that he recognizes. But why do I bother; you're never going to get it. You also said in another thread you're proud for being an American because of WeHo, so we already know you're highly disconnected from most people's life experience.
by Anonymous | reply 33 | June 24, 2019 2:57 PM |
[quote]It wasn't less legitimate, it was just [bold]easier[/bold]
No it wasn't. He was not less in the closet for being "Connor Jessup" and it clearly didn't make him less miserable based on his coming out story.
He doesn't need to aid those that will shame him for being gay by shaming himself in his own coming out story. There is nothing privilege about a person that is in the closet.
by Anonymous | reply 34 | June 24, 2019 3:09 PM |
Wow. R17/R18/R22/R23/R31, probably one deranged poster, has gone too far. When someone comes out, it is their story to tell, and if what they want to focus on is their story — and not yours — then that is their prerogative. You're free to make an ass of yourself, amply done with your own (poorly written, I might add) posts. Maybe I'm wrong and R17/R18/R22/R23/R31 come from more than one poster. You're all in the same boat now. Congratulations.
It's ironic that our deranged lunatic(s) does not recognize the position an actor puts himself when coming out while criticising Jessup for being too inclusive and putting his thoughts to pixel.
But do continue telling us who you are. We're listening.
by Anonymous | reply 35 | June 24, 2019 3:11 PM |
"It is an aspect that all gays across the spectrum can relate".
If he is talking about gay sexual orientation as meaning more than one thing, like one "gay" guy is 80% gay, the other "gay" guy down the road is 50% gay, and "gay" Billy in the other town is 30% gay; then this guy is a fucking mess! If you are outside of gay sexual orientation on the spectrum even a tiny bit, you are bisexual. It's so fucking simple. There isn't different types of gay sexual orientation. The guy's whole post is littered with confusion and bullshit.
by Anonymous | reply 36 | June 24, 2019 3:11 PM |
R34 Even the fans in his thread make fun of how privileged his life is. His parents are extremely liberal and his mom in particular loves everything gay. He’s very lucky.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | June 24, 2019 3:13 PM |
[quote]Wow. [R17]/[R18]/[R22]/[R23]/[R31], probably one deranged poster
Are you a troll something? R31 is me, and I sign my own posts because I like owning what I post. The other posters you list are not my concern and are not of my importance.
by Anonymous | reply 38 | June 24, 2019 3:14 PM |
Is he related to the lesbian schoolteacher Flora Jessup, who was nearly run out of Pasadena?
by Anonymous | reply 39 | June 24, 2019 3:16 PM |
Wealth and family dynamics do not make the experience of the closet less traumatic and scarring. I have know people that have committed suicide while being in the closet despite having a wealthy and loving family.
I am assuming many of you are young and are not gay men. No one in their right mind would call a person that recounts a harrowing experience in the closet, as Connor just did, a privileged individual . No one.
by Anonymous | reply 40 | June 24, 2019 3:19 PM |
R35, one of those posters at least has appeared from the BF thread. Not sure why they seem to have an issue with Connor but as always on Datalounge as soon as someone comes out they become hated. Oh well!
by Anonymous | reply 41 | June 24, 2019 3:19 PM |
R35: You can't actually comprehend what was written, because you wouldn't know truth and accuracy if it hit you at a hurricane speed in your fucking stupid skull.
It's NOT inclusive to add circus freaks into gay coming out posts or gay anything. It's pathetic and very unintelligent. We don't give a flying fuck about two spirits, trans, pansexuals, queers, deviants, pedophiles, or any circus freaks that will added in the future. That's NOT diversity, and that's NOT inclusivity. It's insanity and it's not related to gay, homosexual, or homosexuality in general.
by Anonymous | reply 42 | June 24, 2019 3:21 PM |
R41: He didn't just come out as gay and that's it. We would have loved that. Didn't you read all the other bullshit that he wrote in his post!? That's what we are criticising. Do keep up.
by Anonymous | reply 43 | June 24, 2019 3:28 PM |
Oh, wise one @R42, you are so right. How foolish of me to think that diversity includes anyone but... you.
by Anonymous | reply 44 | June 24, 2019 3:30 PM |
R44: You are an idiot.
by Anonymous | reply 45 | June 24, 2019 3:32 PM |
This thread makes me question how "gay friendly" some of the non-gay participants in this forum really are...
R35 sounds like a homophobe instead of a gay man. What do you mean you can't tell someone's posting history?? You certainly can through the ignore feature and then clicking the ignored feature at the top where you will see the list of post from the ignored person. Then, you can undo the "ignored" by clicking the "X" on the right corner.
Jesus, Muriel should start paying me for educating the newbies.
by Anonymous | reply 46 | June 24, 2019 3:35 PM |
R46: R35 is a homophobe, and very stupid across the board.
by Anonymous | reply 47 | June 24, 2019 3:40 PM |
R40
[quote]Wealth and family dynamics do not make the experience of the closet less traumatic and scarring.
You are right about this but [bold]he's[/bold] the one that said he didn't have trouble being accepted at home and he is making that clear.
[quote]I am assuming many of you are young and are not gay men.
You are wrong.
[quote]No one in their right mind would call a person that recounts a harrowing experience in the closet, as Connor just did, a privileged individual .
He did that himself. He literally said he was privileged, pointed out the ways he is privileged and said it was still hard but he was [bold]not closeted in his personal life, just public.[/bold]
by Anonymous | reply 48 | June 24, 2019 3:40 PM |
That's the whole point R48!
He erroneously thinks of himself as privileged, which as a closet case it was never the case. He is practically saying he was privileged closet case. Hence, why people a pointing out that his coming out sounded more like and apology than an affirmation.
by Anonymous | reply 49 | June 24, 2019 3:51 PM |
an*
by Anonymous | reply 50 | June 24, 2019 3:51 PM |
This thread is a fucking disaster. Just stick to the regular Connor Jessup thread and stay away from these cunts.
by Anonymous | reply 51 | June 24, 2019 4:57 PM |
[quote] I’m a white, cis man from an upper-middle class liberal family. Acceptance was never a question. But still, suspended in all this privilege....
Oh, good LORD are they ALL going to be singing from this ridiculous hymnal every time they talk about ANYTHING? One's experiences are NOT diminished by being "cis" (a slur!), nor are the experiences of anyone deciding to adopt a "trans" identity the prism through which we should see ANYTHING!
by Anonymous | reply 52 | June 24, 2019 5:35 PM |
R52, I wish someone would create a Woke Speech Generator where you can type in your English text and it will translate it into Woke.
by Anonymous | reply 53 | June 24, 2019 5:39 PM |
I'm over fifty years old. I have never heard of Connor Jessup to be honest.
by Anonymous | reply 54 | June 24, 2019 5:40 PM |
R51 I'm with you.
by Anonymous | reply 55 | June 24, 2019 6:26 PM |
R52 is a Milo clone looking for things to be offended by.
by Anonymous | reply 56 | June 24, 2019 6:28 PM |
R30 True, that's weird. I doubt Miles will come out now that Connor is out. I think they will continue like they have. I think Miles supports Connor and his decision to come out, but I don't think this necessarily means he will come out or that they will go public as a couple. I just have a feeling something holds him back from coming out and that he's not ready yet. I hope I'm wrong though.
by Anonymous | reply 57 | June 24, 2019 6:38 PM |
R41 Of course those Richard Madden lunatics would criticize Connor for coming out while praising their own closeted hero. They're hypocrites and basically trolls. Just ignore them.
by Anonymous | reply 58 | June 24, 2019 6:42 PM |
R42 Oh ffs, he was just trying to be inclusive. It's basically a must for gay people now. You may not like it, but it's the reality.
by Anonymous | reply 59 | June 24, 2019 6:43 PM |
How can any of you question his personal experience, or whatever thoughts that his coming out inspired?
by Anonymous | reply 60 | June 24, 2019 6:51 PM |
What’s Connor’s skin color?
by Anonymous | reply 61 | June 24, 2019 6:53 PM |
[quote] His mom's instagram has given several pretty heavy clues (family dinners, visits at Halloween) She's not good at subtle, bless her. She seems so proud of everything Connor related
She’s his mom, and he’s her kid.
by Anonymous | reply 62 | June 24, 2019 7:05 PM |
I thought he likes Asian girls.
by Anonymous | reply 63 | June 24, 2019 7:06 PM |
I understood the OP immediately and surprised myself by saying "awww." Good for Connor. His words are obviously directed at people who are STILL IN THE CLOSET, not trying to score points with us. It's a beautiful message and he's basically calling out to every glass closet case in the business to reconsider the harm they are doing themselves by playing along.
oracle, I'll believe you're a gay man when you present hole. Reddit AMA proof style.
by Anonymous | reply 64 | June 24, 2019 7:08 PM |
Bealuh! Book me a plane ticket! I got a scrumptious to munch.
by Anonymous | reply 65 | June 24, 2019 7:17 PM |
r63 Connor has never given any sign that he's interested in girls, but he did have a reputation for a while as a Rice Queen.
by Anonymous | reply 66 | June 24, 2019 7:19 PM |
Thirteen? Oh honey, try the moment you became conscious of the same sex.
by Anonymous | reply 67 | June 24, 2019 7:28 PM |
[quote]oracle, I'll believe you're a gay man when you present hole. Reddit AMA proof style.
I would never !!!
by Anonymous | reply 68 | June 24, 2019 7:28 PM |
[Quote]It's a beautiful message and he's basically calling out to every glass closet case in the business to reconsider the harm they are doing themselves by playing along.
THIS. He is calling out all the cowardly closet cases in the business, you know... people like Richard Madden.
by Anonymous | reply 69 | June 24, 2019 7:38 PM |
R67 Thirteen is not young enough? WTF?!
by Anonymous | reply 70 | June 24, 2019 7:40 PM |
[quote]Of course those Richard Madden lunatics would criticize Connor for coming out while praising their own closeted hero. They're hypocrites and basically trolls. Just ignore them.
Let me speak for myself, just in case I am being referenced as the poster upthread *cries*
An honest observation about his coming out is not an attack on the poor boy. As gay men, who better than us to understand what he is going through? I'll repeat it again, his coming out post sounded more like an apology instead of an affirmation of his sexuality.
When you come out and say [bold]I Am GAY[/bold], you fucking own that shit and you don't apologize for anything.
I called out Brandon Flynn for that nefarious interview he did for Variety, and if Richard Madden were to pull the same stunt I would call him out too.
by Anonymous | reply 71 | June 24, 2019 7:59 PM |
I don't think Connor would ever apologize for being gay.
by Anonymous | reply 72 | June 24, 2019 8:04 PM |
Do we hate him now that he's out and proud?
by Anonymous | reply 73 | June 24, 2019 8:11 PM |
R72 Of course not. In fact he said the opposite in his coming out post. Just ignore the stupid troll.
by Anonymous | reply 74 | June 24, 2019 8:12 PM |
I don't think Connor seemed apologetic about being white or cis. He acknowledged privilege in certain areas while noting that those privileges didn't stop from feeling, and prolonging, shame by remaining closeted.
by Anonymous | reply 75 | June 24, 2019 8:17 PM |
[quote]I don't think Connor would ever apologize for being gay.
I don't either... however the wording pointed that he was... hence we are saying just fucking own it.
by Anonymous | reply 76 | June 24, 2019 8:21 PM |
Who's we? You and the person triggered by the word "cis"?
I have to laugh at telling him to get over anything. His post is assurance itself.
by Anonymous | reply 77 | June 24, 2019 8:23 PM |
Some people here have poor reading comprehension. Connor's post was beautifully expressed. Our resident trolls, who can't handle inclusion, have a meltdown over anyone broaching their sense of superiority and lash out, R35. Pay them no heed. R77 is spot on.
by Anonymous | reply 78 | June 24, 2019 8:41 PM |
Andy Cohan
by Anonymous | reply 79 | June 24, 2019 8:46 PM |
Connor would never have his child circumcised.
by Anonymous | reply 80 | June 24, 2019 8:48 PM |
Are Canadians not cut ?? Honest question I swear.
by Anonymous | reply 81 | June 24, 2019 9:02 PM |
Lovely essay. May he have a greater life.
by Anonymous | reply 82 | June 24, 2019 9:20 PM |
Big fucking deal. It's not like any of us would ever stand a chance with him.
by Anonymous | reply 83 | June 24, 2019 11:38 PM |
R83 You’d have to get in line behind Miles Heizer.
by Anonymous | reply 84 | June 24, 2019 11:43 PM |
What does 'cis' have to do with being gay?
by Anonymous | reply 85 | June 25, 2019 2:27 AM |
[quote]Jesus, Muriel should start paying me for educating the newbies.
Oracle, when you find yourself inspired to type a sentence like that, please take a nap until the urge subsides.
I'm rather impressed by Connor's coming-out message.
by Anonymous | reply 86 | June 25, 2019 3:54 AM |
R86, be frank, are you and have you always been at war with EastAsia?
by Anonymous | reply 87 | June 25, 2019 3:58 AM |
What’s Connor’s skin color?
by Anonymous | reply 89 | June 25, 2019 4:35 AM |
Brilliant essay. Love him.
by Anonymous | reply 90 | June 25, 2019 4:37 AM |
Mmmkay,lets see how many parts he gets after this .
by Anonymous | reply 91 | June 25, 2019 4:53 AM |
If he does go on to be hollywood A-list he will be an icon. Forever remembered at coming out so young, and such a crucial time in his career. This ISN'T some disney twunk; this man has acting chops and the resume to back it up. I'm calling it now. Connor will be the next Leo, Denzel, Deniro of the first half of the twenty first century.
by Anonymous | reply 92 | June 25, 2019 5:15 AM |
[quote] Are Canadians not cut ?? Honest question I swear.
Connor is NOT cut.
by Anonymous | reply 93 | June 25, 2019 7:46 AM |
R93: Connor has a pencil dick and inverted testicles. It's another reason why he took forever to come out, and is weak overall.
by Anonymous | reply 94 | June 25, 2019 8:25 AM |
R93 How do you know?
by Anonymous | reply 95 | June 25, 2019 10:28 AM |
r91 Connor's most serious ambition is to direct movies. He's already made 2 short films and a longer documentary on an Asian director. If coming out ruins his career as an actor, it won't ruin his life.
by Anonymous | reply 97 | June 25, 2019 2:31 PM |
R97 The thing is, I don't believe that coming out actually will have much of an impact at all on his acting offers. That's one of the reasons why his timing (at this point in his career) is really interesting and may just help to usher in a less homophobic/reactionary/closeted era for other actors too.
Whilst he has stated that his acting gigs are just stepping stones to facilitate his true love of directing, I agree with R92 that he genuinely does have A-list potential as an actor, should he wish to pursue it. Even if he doesn't then his coming out will likely have opened doors to potential creative/directing opportunities, rather than closed them.
by Anonymous | reply 98 | June 25, 2019 3:42 PM |
[quote]He's already made 2 short films and a longer documentary on an Asian director.
Jeez! You’d think someone would’ve told him to get off the poor man.
by Anonymous | reply 99 | June 25, 2019 4:21 PM |
R99, perhaps he is a rice queen?
by Anonymous | reply 100 | June 25, 2019 4:27 PM |
R100 must be new around here.
by Anonymous | reply 101 | June 25, 2019 4:28 PM |
R100 Literally everyone in the Connor threads has assumed he is a rice queen since day one. It was a big surprise when he started hanging out with Miles.
by Anonymous | reply 102 | June 25, 2019 4:34 PM |
He has beautiful lips.
by Anonymous | reply 104 | June 26, 2019 3:45 PM |
Is he part Asian?
by Anonymous | reply 105 | June 26, 2019 3:55 PM |
R105 Err, no.
by Anonymous | reply 106 | June 26, 2019 9:49 PM |
[quote] Is he part Asian?
Only his dick.
by Anonymous | reply 107 | July 3, 2019 6:31 PM |
R105 No, but he is a rice queen. Allegedly.
by Anonymous | reply 108 | July 3, 2019 6:44 PM |
Not anymore, now that he's with Miles.
by Anonymous | reply 109 | July 3, 2019 6:57 PM |
R108 Likely never was, it's just a lazy stereotype, simply because he's a fan of Japanese culture.
by Anonymous | reply 110 | July 3, 2019 8:51 PM |
New pic. Click on the link preview, it's the third pic.
by Anonymous | reply 111 | July 7, 2019 11:55 AM |
I hate the late 80s / early 90s clothes revival. Bleugh.
by Anonymous | reply 112 | July 7, 2019 12:17 PM |
R112 I wonder if Miles has rubbed off on him. Did he use to wear stuff like this before? Anyways, he still looks cute.
by Anonymous | reply 113 | July 7, 2019 12:23 PM |
He has such a sweet smile.
by Anonymous | reply 114 | July 7, 2019 12:23 PM |
Who is this boy?
by Anonymous | reply 115 | July 7, 2019 12:36 PM |
r115 Connor is an actor and director who just came out publicly last month.
by Anonymous | reply 116 | July 7, 2019 1:27 PM |
I had a crush on him in "Dark Skies". He was the only reason I watched that terrible show.
by Anonymous | reply 117 | July 7, 2019 7:31 PM |
It's FALLING Skies
by Anonymous | reply 118 | July 7, 2019 8:44 PM |
Good for him.
Well said too.
by Anonymous | reply 119 | July 7, 2019 8:52 PM |
^^Chicken Little
by Anonymous | reply 120 | July 7, 2019 8:52 PM |
Wow, Connor’s newfound fashion sense is proof that he ran out of that closet screaming...
by Anonymous | reply 121 | July 7, 2019 10:47 PM |
Is that top by Garanimals?
by Anonymous | reply 122 | July 7, 2019 11:24 PM |
It's Garawful.
by Anonymous | reply 123 | July 7, 2019 11:44 PM |
It's like a pajama top! Hope Miles finds that cute!
by Anonymous | reply 124 | July 8, 2019 2:05 AM |
They're probably fucking like rabbits right now.
by Anonymous | reply 125 | July 8, 2019 11:53 AM |
Connor posted 21 hours ago and Miles still hasn't liked it. Weird.
by Anonymous | reply 126 | July 8, 2019 2:27 PM |
Well, it's over.
by Anonymous | reply 127 | July 8, 2019 2:39 PM |
R127 I wouldn't be surprised.
by Anonymous | reply 128 | July 8, 2019 2:44 PM |
Is this the new Connor thread?
Also there seem to be no pics from Connor’s film panel last night.
by Anonymous | reply 129 | July 8, 2019 4:38 PM |
That might be a small mercy considering how Connor is dressing these days.
by Anonymous | reply 130 | July 8, 2019 4:46 PM |
R130 Miles took one look at his new post-coming our wardrobe and was like, “Absolutely not.”
by Anonymous | reply 131 | July 8, 2019 5:08 PM |
*coming out
by Anonymous | reply 132 | July 8, 2019 5:09 PM |
I wouldn't care how badly Connor dressed. He's so sweet and quirky I'd marry him in a minute.
by Anonymous | reply 133 | July 8, 2019 9:10 PM |
I like that his heart in the right place. Go ahead and parse his words, he is helping someone today.
by Anonymous | reply 134 | July 9, 2019 3:49 AM |
He's probably helping Miles scratch an itch in a hard to reach place.
by Anonymous | reply 135 | July 9, 2019 3:58 AM |
I'm sorry but who is he?
by Anonymous | reply 136 | July 9, 2019 3:59 AM |
R136 He’s a Canadian actor best known for the TV show American Crime with Felicity Huffman.
by Anonymous | reply 137 | July 9, 2019 4:40 AM |
HOT! He is gorgeous! YAAAAS.
by Anonymous | reply 138 | July 9, 2019 5:42 AM |
[quote] He’s a Canadian actor best known for the TV show American Crime with Felicity Huffman.
Did she bribe him too?
by Anonymous | reply 139 | July 9, 2019 6:18 AM |
I'm surprised some posters on this thread only discovered Connor now, considering we've had 7 threads on him. Also, R138 is acting like he just came out when it was like a month ago. Where were you when the news broke? Yes, he is gorgeous hence why we were so happy (though not shocked, because he was never really in the closet) when he came out.
by Anonymous | reply 140 | July 9, 2019 6:27 AM |
R138 probably just woke up from a coma.
by Anonymous | reply 141 | July 9, 2019 6:29 AM |
Nothing at all wrong with the shirt in the photo posted by R20. You DL fashion queens are pathetic. Jessup is hot andlooks great in that shirt and jeans.
It’s a great heartfelt, emotional piece written by Connor, and it’s pathetic to see this board parse that message to death.
by Anonymous | reply 142 | July 9, 2019 7:08 AM |
R142 Whilst I wholeheartedly agree with your sentiment, isn't parsing everything to death the explicit purpose of DL, for better or worse!?
by Anonymous | reply 143 | July 9, 2019 8:28 AM |
Good for him. More of his peers should have the guts.
by Anonymous | reply 144 | July 9, 2019 8:31 AM |
[quote]Jessup is hot andlooks great in that shirt and jeans.
Oh, please, he looks like a toddler in a pajama top.
by Anonymous | reply 145 | July 9, 2019 11:10 AM |
Why are so many posters here saying "good for him" like this is recent news? He's been out for a month ffs! This isn't recent. Please pay attention.
by Anonymous | reply 146 | July 9, 2019 11:49 AM |
A month isn't recent? Versus how many years he's been in the public eye?
by Anonymous | reply 147 | July 9, 2019 11:51 AM |
They still talk about me, r146.
by Anonymous | reply 148 | July 9, 2019 11:53 AM |
R146 The original Connor thread got shut down for being too active so now everyone is congregating here. For people who are only now seeing this thread, it looks like he just came out, when in fact it’s been a few weeks.
by Anonymous | reply 149 | July 9, 2019 1:29 PM |
R145 And his jeans aren’t even fitted! Where is the bulge?
by Anonymous | reply 150 | July 9, 2019 1:30 PM |
And this thread was started on 6/24. If people who come here don’t realize they’re not seeing news from seconds ago, maybe they’re not smart enough to be here.
by Anonymous | reply 151 | July 9, 2019 1:31 PM |
Connor came out on his birthday, just over two weeks ago. I don't understand why people are acting like it's been months. Literally it's been two weeks. Maybe because it was right before Pride which was promptly followed by the Fourth of July holiday it just seems like it happened a longer time ago.
by Anonymous | reply 152 | July 9, 2019 1:37 PM |
His shirt is FUN. Remember when you used to wear fun clothes,you bitter old hags ?
by Anonymous | reply 153 | July 9, 2019 3:21 PM |
r153 They want him to dress all in black and carry a sign apologizing for being 25.
by Anonymous | reply 154 | July 9, 2019 3:24 PM |
R154 Honestly you just described Miles to a T.
by Anonymous | reply 155 | July 9, 2019 3:55 PM |
Miles is also partial to a good patterned shirt.
by Anonymous | reply 157 | July 9, 2019 4:11 PM |
Some of Miles' choices are pretty way out but he really pulls off this look. And it's very gay. It seems clear to me that he asserts some of his sexuality through his gay apparel.
by Anonymous | reply 158 | July 9, 2019 4:15 PM |
This look is pure kitsch. I'm sure it reminds some of you of playing with your Lee Majors doll (that you wished was a Lindsay Wagner doll).
by Anonymous | reply 159 | July 9, 2019 4:16 PM |
Miles letting everyone know that he’s into S&M...
by Anonymous | reply 160 | July 9, 2019 5:05 PM |
I wonder if Miles has Connor wear the collar modelled on the left...
by Anonymous | reply 161 | July 9, 2019 5:13 PM |
I can't imagine them doing S&M. They both seem so delicate. Also the noise would wake up Connor's mom.
by Anonymous | reply 162 | July 9, 2019 6:10 PM |
Connor is with Miles' dog!
by Anonymous | reply 163 | July 9, 2019 6:21 PM |
I fucking KNEW IT! I told you it wouldn't be long until they were seeing each other again. They gotta make the most of their free time because as working actors they often have conflicting schedules. They both have time off now until Miles is doing promo for the new season of 13RW. I hope they fucked long and good!
by Anonymous | reply 164 | July 9, 2019 6:22 PM |
I approve of this ensemble.
by Anonymous | reply 166 | July 9, 2019 6:27 PM |
omg it’s Crouton! <3
by Anonymous | reply 167 | July 9, 2019 6:28 PM |
Connor taking pics with Miles' dog is a good way to signal their relationship is still going on without posting lots of pics together.
by Anonymous | reply 168 | July 9, 2019 6:28 PM |
Is Connor in LA or is Miles in Toronto?
by Anonymous | reply 169 | July 9, 2019 6:30 PM |
Miles is probably in Toronto and brought his pups with him.
by Anonymous | reply 170 | July 9, 2019 6:32 PM |
R170 On a plane? Doubt it. I think Connor is in LA.
by Anonymous | reply 171 | July 9, 2019 6:37 PM |
R171 Right, and I doubt Miles took both of his dogs to Toronto. Connor is most likely in LA.
by Anonymous | reply 172 | July 9, 2019 6:38 PM |
Also, it would make sense for them to visit each other every other time. We know Miles was in Toronto last time, which means Connor is probably in LA now.
by Anonymous | reply 173 | July 9, 2019 6:39 PM |
R173 Also Mae is less likely to wake them up early with a breakfast tray after a long night of fucking, like Connor’s mom does. So Connor probably welcomes the privacy of staying with Miles.
by Anonymous | reply 174 | July 9, 2019 6:42 PM |
R174 Good point, lol.
by Anonymous | reply 175 | July 9, 2019 6:46 PM |
Someone's probably going to come along and complain that Connor and Crouton are an OUT couple, while Miles "cowers in the closet".
by Anonymous | reply 176 | July 9, 2019 6:46 PM |
Miles needs to move to Canada so he can marry Connor and they can cuddle forever.
by Anonymous | reply 177 | July 9, 2019 6:48 PM |
Connor's mom commented too, obviously referring to Miles and Connor.
by Anonymous | reply 178 | July 9, 2019 6:52 PM |
She is so enthusiastic.
by Anonymous | reply 179 | July 9, 2019 6:53 PM |
Connor still refuses to go with a black T or tight jeans! But there's a bit of a bulge!
by Anonymous | reply 180 | July 9, 2019 7:14 PM |
R179 She'll have them married now if should could.
by Anonymous | reply 181 | July 9, 2019 7:17 PM |
Honestly this shirt is a major improvement over his outfits over the past week.
by Anonymous | reply 182 | July 9, 2019 7:20 PM |
I don't get Miles' comment or Connor's reply. Can someone please translate? lol
by Anonymous | reply 183 | July 9, 2019 8:31 PM |
It's a RuPaul reference.
by Anonymous | reply 184 | July 9, 2019 8:34 PM |
R183 It may also have something to do with the fact that both of Miles’ pups are girls and Connor probably keeps hogging them.
by Anonymous | reply 185 | July 9, 2019 8:36 PM |
On Drag Race, when the judges have deliberate and elimination is about to take place, Ru says "bring back my girls". Connor's refusal reads like a jokey "I'm keeping the dog, you can't have him back".
by Anonymous | reply 186 | July 9, 2019 8:37 PM |
*have deliberated
by Anonymous | reply 187 | July 9, 2019 8:37 PM |
That pic of Connor with Miles's dog is super cute. I knew Miles wouldn't be able to resist. Gotta love their casual flirting.
by Anonymous | reply 188 | July 9, 2019 8:54 PM |
R188 Tommy liked his comment too.
by Anonymous | reply 189 | July 9, 2019 8:57 PM |
I hope Tommy goes on a liking spree when Sam Smith drops his new track.
by Anonymous | reply 190 | July 9, 2019 8:59 PM |
So this is how they will show their love publicly using the dog as proxy...
by Anonymous | reply 191 | July 9, 2019 9:32 PM |
I hope you're not suggesting some kind of Eiffel Towering.
by Anonymous | reply 192 | July 9, 2019 9:34 PM |
Hopefully, when Miles is completely out, they can just start posting cute couple pics without any inhibitions.
by Anonymous | reply 193 | July 9, 2019 9:40 PM |
Is Miles more likely to play pup for Connor or vice versa?
by Anonymous | reply 194 | July 9, 2019 9:42 PM |
R194 Connor is totally the puppy! Eager to please!
by Anonymous | reply 195 | July 9, 2019 9:44 PM |
He is dating Sean Fox Zastoupil . Oh celebs they just go around dating eachother.....
by Anonymous | reply 196 | July 9, 2019 9:47 PM |
R196 Who?
by Anonymous | reply 197 | July 9, 2019 10:03 PM |
r196 There's no way Connor would be dating anybody else now. Ever since their relationship started he's barely been able to hide how in love with Miles he is.
by Anonymous | reply 198 | July 9, 2019 10:40 PM |
R194 I’m sure both of them spend plenty of time on all fours.
by Anonymous | reply 199 | July 10, 2019 5:25 AM |
I wonder if R169 is referring to Tommy Dorfman? Could be wrong though.
by Anonymous | reply 200 | July 10, 2019 1:46 PM |
[quote]I wonder if R169 is referring to Tommy Dorfman?
This guy?!
by Anonymous | reply 201 | July 10, 2019 1:51 PM |
[Quote] I wonder if R169 is referring to Tommy Dorfman?
Did you reference the wrong post? I seen no reference to a third party in the post you linked.
by Anonymous | reply 202 | July 10, 2019 1:56 PM |
R202 Yeah, sorry, meant R196.
by Anonymous | reply 203 | July 10, 2019 2:01 PM |
Ah. I suspect r196 is probably the person they're citing... get that promo, Sean Faux Zanadu.
Speaking of Dorfman, if I were Troye Sivan, I'm not sure I'd be happy at this choice of pic for Dorfman's birthday post to Jacob Bixenman...
by Anonymous | reply 204 | July 10, 2019 2:07 PM |
Well, it seems we have a new thread (after the other one went abruptly exclussive).
I find the pic with the cast of Locke and key funny. And the little brother know how to strike a pose
by Anonymous | reply 205 | July 10, 2019 2:18 PM |
Did the guy who preceded Connor in the role actually shoot a pilot for Locke & Key?
by Anonymous | reply 206 | July 10, 2019 2:20 PM |
R206 Yes, the pilot was shot in 2010 (for Fox TV) and the series was then canned.
by Anonymous | reply 207 | July 10, 2019 2:44 PM |
....or did you mean Jack Mulhern, who was cast and who shot a second pilot, this time for Hulu, which was also canned with the rights then being bought by Netflix? The Fox pilot has been screened, the Hulu has not, so far as I know.
by Anonymous | reply 208 | July 10, 2019 2:52 PM |
Yes, I meant the more recent pilot. I didn't know Frances O'Connor was also in it. I guess most of them got the chop.
Is Jack Mulhern's hair like that for a role?
by Anonymous | reply 209 | July 10, 2019 2:53 PM |
I don't think Conner is with Miles anymore. He's become militant, and will not be with anyone who's not out and proud, and good for him. They DID make an adorable couple, I must say.
by Anonymous | reply 210 | July 10, 2019 3:10 PM |
Can't answer as to Jack Mulhern's hair, although this is the trailer for that earlier Fox pilot:
by Anonymous | reply 211 | July 10, 2019 3:10 PM |
Jack Mulhern plays a gay on Netflix’s teen soap The Society.
by Anonymous | reply 212 | July 10, 2019 3:59 PM |
r210 Not true!
by Anonymous | reply 213 | July 10, 2019 4:00 PM |
How would they have already broken up when Connor JUST posted a photo with Miles’ dog less than 24 hours ago?
Connor fans are just never going to be happy until Miles is the grand marshal of a Pride parade.
by Anonymous | reply 214 | July 10, 2019 4:07 PM |
Also, Miles already appeared in a Pride parade.
by Anonymous | reply 215 | July 10, 2019 4:11 PM |
He's one of those people you hear about, but you don't know who they are, what they look like or why anyone is talking about them.
by Anonymous | reply 216 | July 10, 2019 4:31 PM |
Connor Jessup IS Rula Lenska!
by Anonymous | reply 217 | July 10, 2019 4:43 PM |
Miles’ show just got renewed and he has to go back to work next month. Will these two ever have real time together?
by Anonymous | reply 218 | July 10, 2019 4:49 PM |
How do you know they're not having real time together? Concern trolling is tiresome.
by Anonymous | reply 219 | July 10, 2019 4:54 PM |
R218 Connor can move to SF Bay area where 13RW is filmed and be Miles' kept boy.
by Anonymous | reply 220 | July 10, 2019 5:25 PM |
"This is... the gardener."
by Anonymous | reply 221 | July 10, 2019 5:27 PM |
R210 Fucking troll. Did you miss Connor traveling to LA to visit Miles exactly 0.1 seconds after the filming for L&K wrapped? Here he is with Miles' dog. The pic is from yesterday.
by Anonymous | reply 222 | July 10, 2019 5:29 PM |
R218 They saw each other plenty even when Connor was busy filming L&K and Miles was filming 13RW. They are working actors with conflicting schedules, but they're used to this. Trust me when I say they know how to make it work.
by Anonymous | reply 223 | July 10, 2019 5:31 PM |
Connor probably hopped on a plane immediately after he hosted that Toronto film Q&A.
by Anonymous | reply 224 | July 10, 2019 9:03 PM |
r224 Do you think his mom made sure he had enough condoms?
by Anonymous | reply 225 | July 10, 2019 10:35 PM |
Why is the old Connor thread locked down?
by Anonymous | reply 226 | July 11, 2019 7:30 PM |
It's not locked, it's behind a paywall. :(
by Anonymous | reply 227 | July 11, 2019 7:34 PM |
So is the Julian Morris one, strangely. The Morris one wasn't even very active. But it was dominated by, shall we say, a singular voice. "Muriel" spoke against that in the thread about why threads are deleted.
by Anonymous | reply 228 | July 11, 2019 8:08 PM |
OMG Connor's buzz cut. Is he still in LA+
by Anonymous | reply 229 | July 13, 2019 6:38 PM |
R228: I find it incredibly absurd.
The Jullian Morris thread was a bit stalled because nothing new happened, he is not working right now and he is not going to come out anytime soon so some people post things of his instagram to keep some interest.
The fact that they put the Connor thread on a paywall after his coming out is beyond ridiculous.
As it is what they did with the Wimbledon thread, that was killed because nobody is posting effectively that after tomorrow.
And it seems they killed the Richard Madden/Brandon Flynn threads which were the most active in recent times
by Anonymous | reply 230 | July 13, 2019 6:41 PM |
Connor won't really be happy until he finds a man who is older and wiser.
by Anonymous | reply 231 | July 13, 2019 6:54 PM |
[quote] And it seems they killed the Richard Madden/Brandon Flynn threads which were the most active in recent times
The most active with outsiders, though. The posters that "ran" the reads didn't post on other DL threads. I've no doubt Muriel decided to get rid of a perceived infestation.
I suspect the other Connor Jessup thread was locked because of the "Part X." It got branded with the "fangirl" iron unfairly. The Julian Morris thread was also a "Part X", I notice.
by Anonymous | reply 232 | July 13, 2019 6:58 PM |
R232: I posted there and i post in other threads.
Yes the threads were repetitive, but less repetitive than the Chalamet ones
And no Connor was in part 7
by Anonymous | reply 233 | July 13, 2019 7:03 PM |
I know it was Part 7, X was a substitute. Morris was Part 5 or something like that.
I don't think anyone could reasonably argue against the assertion that the Scot/Floridian threads came to be dominated by non-DLers... The constant passive aggression, the frequent apologising before going right back to sniping at each other, the mirthless "lol"s at the end of sentences. The days were numbered for those threads once the relationship was confirmed via the NYT. The regular DLers departed. The threads were taken over by the type to self-describe as "Bisexual female here, in a LT relationship with Todd."
On topic: When did Connor get a buzz cut? Pic?
by Anonymous | reply 234 | July 13, 2019 7:21 PM |
R234 Check his Insta story.
by Anonymous | reply 235 | July 13, 2019 7:27 PM |
Both Connor and Miles have recent IG stories up and it’s clear they’re in the same apartment...
by Anonymous | reply 236 | July 13, 2019 8:32 PM |
R230, I think (guess) all threads once they reach a certain number of posts (400?) become members only postings.
by Anonymous | reply 237 | July 13, 2019 8:32 PM |
I don't think so. The most recent Bradley James thread hasn't, for instance.
by Anonymous | reply 238 | July 13, 2019 8:39 PM |
R238, You're correct and I was wrong. I just thought that from the few threads that I saw that were blocked. Funny enough, the next thread I clicked on after posting that was one that I could still post in that was over 500 posts.
by Anonymous | reply 239 | July 13, 2019 8:57 PM |
He looks good with a lot of different hairstyles
by Anonymous | reply 241 | July 13, 2019 9:17 PM |
Who?
by Anonymous | reply 243 | July 13, 2019 9:33 PM |
R230 We want your stupid frau shit off the site, this is the new muriel order
by Anonymous | reply 244 | July 13, 2019 9:38 PM |
Looks like Connor is starting to rock the buzz cut/facial hair look he had during season 3 of American Crime.
by Anonymous | reply 245 | July 13, 2019 9:39 PM |
There wasn't enough of Connor in season 3, though we did get to see his legs and his feet in one scene :)
by Anonymous | reply 246 | July 13, 2019 9:43 PM |
Did Miles take that photo of Connor?
by Anonymous | reply 247 | July 13, 2019 10:57 PM |
R247 Probably
by Anonymous | reply 249 | July 13, 2019 11:07 PM |
R240 He’s back to his wacky shirts!
by Anonymous | reply 250 | July 14, 2019 2:53 AM |
Maybe Miles loves the shirts.
by Anonymous | reply 251 | July 14, 2019 3:05 AM |
Connor has Tom Hardy lips.
by Anonymous | reply 252 | July 14, 2019 4:06 AM |
[quote] Maybe Miles loves the shirts.
Obviously Miles loves the foreskin.
by Anonymous | reply 253 | July 14, 2019 5:19 AM |
I am guessing Miles love Connor best naked in bed.
by Anonymous | reply 254 | July 14, 2019 6:11 AM |
What do you think is the biggest present they've got each other? I'm fairly certain Connor has at least given Miles a pearl necklace.
by Anonymous | reply 255 | July 14, 2019 2:14 PM |
[quote]What do you think is the biggest present they've got each other?
Oh, dear!
by Anonymous | reply 256 | July 14, 2019 2:22 PM |
[quote] Oh, dear!
In certain regions, perhaps.
by Anonymous | reply 257 | July 14, 2019 2:27 PM |
Miles is into fashion and Connor needs help in that department, so Miles has probably bought Connor some clothes. Connor probably bought some toys for Miles’ pups and perhaps a Criterion Collection Kurosawa box set.
by Anonymous | reply 258 | July 14, 2019 3:32 PM |
I wonder if Connor's mom figured out he was gay before he came out.
by Anonymous | reply 259 | July 14, 2019 5:55 PM |
I’m not headless.
by Anonymous | reply 260 | July 14, 2019 6:05 PM |
R259: He came out at 13, so i suppose his mother knows since them (probably even before, he was a very musical and artistic kid)
by Anonymous | reply 261 | July 14, 2019 8:29 PM |
It's not unusual for a mother to know before their child comes out.
by Anonymous | reply 262 | July 14, 2019 8:35 PM |
When did he come out? He said he knew when he was 13 but then hid it for many years.
by Anonymous | reply 263 | July 14, 2019 8:39 PM |
FFS....what is he 17 ?...18 ?.....its not like he hid it most of his adult life.
by Anonymous | reply 264 | July 14, 2019 8:41 PM |
R259 PFLAG mom probably knew when he was in her womb.
by Anonymous | reply 265 | July 14, 2019 8:42 PM |
R264, he’s 25.
by Anonymous | reply 266 | July 14, 2019 8:43 PM |
Did he gives Miles his flower?
by Anonymous | reply 267 | July 14, 2019 8:45 PM |
R263: I think he was talking about hide it from the public, because after saying that he talked about how he talked about the sexual orientation of the characters (he played a good amount of gay characters) like it was something from outside (something very common and a very beloved in this side closet case, of better glass closet case did even last year)
by Anonymous | reply 268 | July 14, 2019 8:46 PM |
R264 I never said he did. I was just curious about when he came out.
by Anonymous | reply 269 | July 14, 2019 8:48 PM |
The way Brenda acts, I suspect that Miles is Connor's first "official"/"meet the parents" relationship.
by Anonymous | reply 270 | July 14, 2019 8:54 PM |
R270 Never mind his mom, Connor’s schoolboy behavior is enough to believe that Miles is first serious boyfriend.
by Anonymous | reply 271 | July 14, 2019 9:02 PM |
I don't know, he seems a very cheery and happy guy and he is obviously in love.
by Anonymous | reply 272 | July 14, 2019 9:08 PM |
The part where Connor talks about how embarrassed he was to discuss the gay characters he played as if he were an anthropologist is best displayed in this interview, which is conducted by a gay Canadian journalist that he’s friends with (Peter Knegt). You can see how difficult it is for Connor to even make eye contact here, it’s sad.
by Anonymous | reply 273 | July 14, 2019 9:16 PM |
Has he gotten rid of that vocal fry?
by Anonymous | reply 274 | July 14, 2019 9:23 PM |
Tremendous sense of fun? I don't remember Closet Monster in that way at all.
by Anonymous | reply 275 | July 14, 2019 9:24 PM |
R274 No, he still has intense vocal fry.
by Anonymous | reply 276 | July 14, 2019 9:30 PM |
R267 We don’t know what Connor’s history is. Now that he’s out it would be nice to get some juicy hook-up stories, but he’s probably too low-key for that to happen. Hopefully Connor has slept around before this since we know Miles has at least two ex-boyfriends in his past.
by Anonymous | reply 277 | July 14, 2019 10:57 PM |
I hope Connor doesn't get caught up in the LA party scene with the likes of Gus Kenworthy. Now that he's out, he might go party/boy crazy.
by Anonymous | reply 278 | July 14, 2019 11:02 PM |
R278 Connor doesn’t live in LA, he lives in Toronto...
by Anonymous | reply 279 | July 15, 2019 1:57 AM |
r278 Miles has already gone through that phase so even if Connor stayed in LA with him they'd probably live a low key life together.
by Anonymous | reply 280 | July 15, 2019 1:59 AM |
r265 I swear mine knew before I did.
by Anonymous | reply 281 | July 15, 2019 2:00 AM |
R278 I think it would be really surprising if Connor moved to LA, dumped Miles, and went through a full on slut phase. There’s always a chance his new show will blow up and he’ll get more famous, but honestly he’s not really a Gus Kenworthy/West Hollywood “type” - he’s just kind of a nerd.
by Anonymous | reply 282 | July 15, 2019 2:20 AM |
Yeah, I don't really see it
by Anonymous | reply 283 | July 15, 2019 8:57 AM |
R282 That's never going to happen. Connor is on record as saying that he doesn't like LA and is clearly very keen on maintaining his Toronto base of operations too, so it's only Miles that is drawing him there.
by Anonymous | reply 284 | July 15, 2019 1:06 PM |
I don't think Connor's mom would mind it if Miles moved to Toronto.
by Anonymous | reply 285 | July 15, 2019 1:27 PM |
R284 Miles has also said he doesn’t see himself in LA longterm and plans on relocating to Nashville - he actually did briefly move to Nashville before he booked 13RW. But of course his career is in LA so he has to stay, it’s not like Connor who can easily work in Toronto forever.
by Anonymous | reply 286 | July 15, 2019 2:15 PM |
But hasn't Connor's acting career been a little quiet pre-Locke & Key?
by Anonymous | reply 287 | July 15, 2019 2:34 PM |
Connor is still in LA, posting pics with Miles’ dogs.
by Anonymous | reply 288 | July 15, 2019 6:45 PM |
That dog is repellant. I like those glasses. Connor could pull off a sleek look very well.
by Anonymous | reply 289 | July 15, 2019 6:50 PM |
That buzz cut works for him.
by Anonymous | reply 290 | July 15, 2019 6:53 PM |
Miles obviously took that pic.
by Anonymous | reply 291 | July 15, 2019 7:11 PM |
R291 You can’t really tell by the reflection in the sunglasses... but it doesn’t look like a selfie.
by Anonymous | reply 292 | July 15, 2019 7:13 PM |
R288 That must be Miles reflected in Connor's glasses, maybe the closest we'll get to a new pic of them together, post Coming Out!
by Anonymous | reply 293 | July 15, 2019 7:26 PM |
r287 He was concentrating on film making before Locke & Key. I watched Connor's documentary about the gay Thai director. A lot of it was the director filming Connor, getting Connor to take off his shirt, filming Connor's legs and feet, filming him in bed. Connor is beautiful.
by Anonymous | reply 294 | July 15, 2019 7:30 PM |
r293 Unless Miles comes out. Somebody on the Miles thread had a theory that Miles might come out when the next season of 13rw starts, since there's a chance his character on the show might be gay.
by Anonymous | reply 295 | July 15, 2019 7:33 PM |
Wow, sounds like Connor may have given his flower to that Thai director.
by Anonymous | reply 296 | July 15, 2019 7:39 PM |
R289: The dog is ugly but he seems a really caring pet and that's what it matters
by Anonymous | reply 297 | July 15, 2019 7:52 PM |
The dog is NOT ugly. She’s just angry in that photo because she wanted Miles to join in.
by Anonymous | reply 298 | July 15, 2019 7:58 PM |
Muriel needs to unlock the Connor Part 7 thread.
by Anonymous | reply 299 | July 15, 2019 8:44 PM |
There have been barely any comments on that thread since it got locked to non subscribers
by Anonymous | reply 300 | July 15, 2019 8:47 PM |
r296 He seems really into Connor, but the film maker also talks about having a boyfriend back in Thailand. It was made in 2017, so this was all pre Miles.
by Anonymous | reply 301 | July 15, 2019 8:54 PM |
Connor has a thing for Asians so it wouldn't be surprising.
by Anonymous | reply 302 | July 15, 2019 8:57 PM |
Miles is built like a lot of Asian guys are.
by Anonymous | reply 303 | July 15, 2019 9:00 PM |
He's also inscrutable.
by Anonymous | reply 304 | July 15, 2019 9:04 PM |
Miles looks like he could be a character in an anime, which I’m sure is part of his appeal to Connor.
by Anonymous | reply 305 | July 15, 2019 9:10 PM |
I wonder if Connor will direct Miles (outside of the bedroom).
by Anonymous | reply 306 | July 15, 2019 9:12 PM |
All the commenters on Connor's pic think the puppy is his. Is DL the only place that knows Connor and Miles are a couple
by Anonymous | reply 307 | July 15, 2019 10:52 PM |
All the commenters on Connor's pic think the puppy is his. Is DL the only place that knows Connor and Miles are a couple
by Anonymous | reply 308 | July 15, 2019 10:52 PM |
No, Brenda's place also knows.
by Anonymous | reply 309 | July 15, 2019 10:54 PM |
They’re doing a good job of keeping it low key. Connor probably knows that posting photos of Miles now would be too obvious, so he’s going to focus on the dogs.
by Anonymous | reply 310 | July 16, 2019 2:21 AM |
I really wish him the best in his career and in his private life and he is one of best young actors today .. Connor is one of those rare young actors who has led a practically drama free existence and out of the tabloids.. Which is a feat in itself by Hollywood standards. I think his obvious BF Miles and by BF I don't mean "Best Friend" is waiting for the time to come out himself this summer and I'm thinking it will be any day now.
by Anonymous | reply 311 | July 16, 2019 2:43 AM |
A boy's best friend is his mother.
by Anonymous | reply 312 | July 16, 2019 2:45 AM |
R312 Only if the boy is gay....
by Anonymous | reply 313 | July 16, 2019 2:55 AM |
A boy’s best friend is his roommate.
by Anonymous | reply 314 | July 16, 2019 3:16 AM |
I know Connor lives in Toronto, but does he still live with his parents or does he have a place of his own? As much as his sharing of his personal life has picked up (we're getting more than just B&W pics from Japan, lol) that's one thing I can't figure out.
by Anonymous | reply 315 | July 16, 2019 11:05 AM |
R315 We don't know. He hasn't posted pics from his home, so far as I'm aware, whereas he (and Miles) have posted a fair few from Miles' place, so the assumption is that Connor lives with his Ma (and possibly brother) but that assumption could well be wrong.
by Anonymous | reply 316 | July 16, 2019 11:18 AM |
Does anybody here think Miles and Connor will get married someday?
by Anonymous | reply 317 | July 16, 2019 4:00 PM |
I can see Connor married. Miles? Not so sure. He'll always have pets, no doubt.
by Anonymous | reply 318 | July 16, 2019 4:03 PM |
If Miles is his first, I really hope not, r317.
Never marry your first.
by Anonymous | reply 319 | July 16, 2019 4:07 PM |
r319 I get the feeling he's Connor's first serious bf.
by Anonymous | reply 320 | July 16, 2019 4:12 PM |
R319 His first what? We don’t know a lot about Connor’s past. Remember that story he told about being found passed out in a Hong Kong apartment after a night of heavy partying? He could have easily had a slutty phase without any of us knowing.
by Anonymous | reply 321 | July 16, 2019 5:10 PM |
Has anyone had sex with someone who has vocal fry? Is it carried over to their grunts and shouts/screams?
by Anonymous | reply 322 | July 16, 2019 5:17 PM |
R321, did you miss the little word “if” that began the post?
I mean it was the first word FFS.
by Anonymous | reply 323 | July 16, 2019 5:43 PM |
When this thread inevitably hits 600, the next one should just be called Part 8.
by Anonymous | reply 324 | July 16, 2019 5:55 PM |
I don't think it should have "part" in the title at all. Just call it Connor Jessup and put "It's still official" in the main body of text. Link to the next thread at the end of this one.
by Anonymous | reply 325 | July 16, 2019 5:59 PM |
r322 Everyone who's had sex with me has. And it carries over :)
by Anonymous | reply 326 | July 16, 2019 9:44 PM |
R326 Miles’ poor ears. :(
by Anonymous | reply 327 | July 16, 2019 10:20 PM |
Connor posted a birthday message for his favorite filmmaker on Twitter...
by Anonymous | reply 328 | July 17, 2019 2:20 AM |
That's the one he made the movie about. He was very into Connor.
by Anonymous | reply 329 | July 17, 2019 2:48 AM |
According to his IG Stories, Connor is in San Francisco with Mae and Miles.
by Anonymous | reply 330 | July 17, 2019 5:45 AM |
R331 That's just a few of blocks from my apartment!
by Anonymous | reply 332 | July 17, 2019 6:17 AM |
Connor is in San Francisco with Mae and probably Miles too!
by Anonymous | reply 333 | July 17, 2019 12:04 PM |
Mae needs to let Miles go.
by Anonymous | reply 334 | July 17, 2019 3:21 PM |
If Mae weren't there, Connor would have no one to share on his Instastories...
by Anonymous | reply 335 | July 17, 2019 3:30 PM |
r336 She acts like she's his mom. It's weird. She needs to be more like Connor's PFLAG mom, who's almost pushing them down the aisle.
by Anonymous | reply 337 | July 17, 2019 4:49 PM |
It's only "weird" because she's spoiling your "view".
by Anonymous | reply 338 | July 17, 2019 4:51 PM |
Is she going to go with them on their honeymoon?
by Anonymous | reply 339 | July 17, 2019 4:55 PM |
Looks like Miles has given Connor the okay to post photos with his fag hag or his dogs, just not him.
by Anonymous | reply 340 | July 17, 2019 5:04 PM |
r340 I think it's more complicated than that. Miles might be planning his "official" coming out, and taking more pics with Connor would spoil that. Taking pics with Mae and his pups is a way of communicating to people who thought they were together that they're still a couple.
by Anonymous | reply 341 | July 17, 2019 6:43 PM |
It's pretty obvious Miles is not going to stay in the closet for long
by Anonymous | reply 342 | July 17, 2019 6:59 PM |
We know about Connor's Mom, but what about Miles'? Is Mama Heizer the momager type?
by Anonymous | reply 343 | July 17, 2019 7:08 PM |
R343 Considering she’s a single mom who’s been putting Miles to work since he was 6 or 7 and that she made her older daughter switch high schools so they can all move to LA for Miles’ career, yes, she’s most likely a momager.
by Anonymous | reply 344 | July 17, 2019 7:14 PM |
And if she's a momager, she's money oriented and likely wouldn't want Miles to fuck up his coins by coming out.
by Anonymous | reply 345 | July 17, 2019 7:16 PM |
Did Miles ever post stories or pics from Nashville with his exes? I wonder if we'll see a Nashville post from Connor in the near future.
by Anonymous | reply 346 | July 17, 2019 7:16 PM |
I don't think their relationship will last, sad to say. I think they are adorable together. Conner is going to want to be with someone that's out and proud.
by Anonymous | reply 347 | July 17, 2019 7:29 PM |
R346 Miles was living in Nashville for only a few months, he said on the RuPaul podcast he was enrolled in a music engineering program (most likely at Belmont). It was before 13 Reasons Why - which he went back to LA for - so before any of the Brandon/Matt stuff.
by Anonymous | reply 348 | July 17, 2019 7:33 PM |
Oh, I thought his mom had moved back to Nashville or something. Miles lives with Mae, which made me think his mom had loosened her grip. Is Miles' sister also an actor?
by Anonymous | reply 349 | July 17, 2019 7:47 PM |
[Quote] Conner is going to want to be with someone that's out and proud.
Connor and Miles are out and about in San Francisco. I think some here exaggerate how closeted Miles is, he just hasn't said it but he has a gay old time of things. His gayness isn't furtive.
by Anonymous | reply 350 | July 17, 2019 7:49 PM |
R349 His sister is a PhD student in psychology. Miles has lived with Mae for 7 years, he literally moved out of his mom’s house and into Mae’s house. Mae is very close with his whole family, so it’s basically like living with his sister.
by Anonymous | reply 351 | July 17, 2019 8:02 PM |
R350: For some people you are not gay if you don't do the People cover or make an essay about coming out on instagram.
And Miles is not closeted, he is in the glass closet like Julian Morris, i'm pretty sure all his friends know he is gay
by Anonymous | reply 352 | July 17, 2019 8:06 PM |
How does Miles' mother make a living?
by Anonymous | reply 353 | July 17, 2019 8:06 PM |
[quote]And Miles is not closeted, he is in the glass closet
The "glass closet" is still a closet, hence the inclusion of the word "closet". Though I do agree with your general point. Miles isn't exactly pretending to be straight, like Miss Mendes.
by Anonymous | reply 354 | July 17, 2019 8:09 PM |
R353 She’s a nurse.
by Anonymous | reply 355 | July 17, 2019 8:12 PM |
r350 You sound like you know them. Do you?
by Anonymous | reply 356 | July 17, 2019 8:13 PM |
R345 Miles shouldn’t fuck up his coins, he’s making bank on 13RW. When Connor is making that $$$ then he can make judgements about when someone chooses to make a public statement about their sexuality.
by Anonymous | reply 357 | July 17, 2019 8:31 PM |
[Quote]For some people you are not gay if you don't do the People cover or make an essay about coming out on instagram.
Nah, I never said he needed to come out on the cover of People, he wouldn't even have to come out in a tweet or write an essay on Instagram, just actually being public with his boyfriend would be enough. You know, like not keeping the relationship private, like actually being in pics with his boyfriend on Instagram or other social media, not hiding him away like he's his dirty little secret. Holding his hand in public would be enough, and calling him his boyfriend on social media. He wouldn't even technically have to come out as anything, but acknowledging his boyfriend is something he should do. This is why I have an issue with both Miles and Richard. You could say they're just glass closeted, but I still think Brandon and Connor deserve better as out gay men. Do they really want to be someone's dirty little secret forever? I'd assume Connor would want a public relationship after coming out. I know they started dating before he came out though, which probably affected things. I doubt Connor would get into a relationship with a closeted guy now. He is out and proud and would never want to hide his relationship, and he shouldn't. It's sad that he has to compromise himself to be with Miles.
by Anonymous | reply 358 | July 17, 2019 8:37 PM |
[Quote]For some people you are not gay if you don't do the People cover or make an essay about coming out on instagram.
Nah, I never said he needed to come out on the cover of People, he wouldn't even have to come out in a tweet or write an essay on Instagram, just actually being public with his boyfriend would be enough. You know, like not keeping the relationship private, like actually being in pics with his boyfriend on Instagram or other social media, not hiding him away like he's his dirty little secret. Holding his hand in public would be enough, and calling him his boyfriend on social media. He wouldn't even technically have to come out as anything, but acknowledging his boyfriend is something he should do. This is why I have an issue with both Miles and Richard. You could say they're just glass closeted, but I still think Brandon and Connor deserve better as out gay men. Do they really want to be someone's dirty little secret forever? I'd assume Connor would want a public relationship after coming out. I know they started dating before he came out though, which probably affected things. I doubt Connor would get into a relationship with a closeted guy now. He is out and proud and would never want to hide his relationship, and he shouldn't. It's sad that he has to compromise himself to be with Miles.
by Anonymous | reply 359 | July 17, 2019 8:37 PM |
[Quote] just actually being public with his boyfriend would be enough. You know, like not keeping the relationship private, like actually being in pics with his boyfriend on Instagram or other social media, not hiding him away like he's his dirty little secret.
How is Connor or Miles hidden away? They both can be found on each other's social media. There are even pics of them together, just the two of them. It sounds like you're commited to this "dirty little secret" narrative to the point that you ignore facts...
by Anonymous | reply 360 | July 17, 2019 8:43 PM |
R359 It’s shitty that some people think just because Connor decided to come out, it’s now Miles’ responsibility to start sharing details of his private life - which he has never done and has made clear he never wants to do - in order to be considered a worthy boyfriend.
Miles does not seem like the type who will ever post a photo kissing his boyfriend on his public Instagram, so if Connor is going to force him to do that, he should just dump him now.
by Anonymous | reply 361 | July 17, 2019 8:44 PM |
R357: Brandon is making his money in the same show and he is out and proud, the same for Tommy
by Anonymous | reply 362 | July 17, 2019 8:45 PM |
R359: Richard Madden is in a lot of pics with his boyfriend and he is called a coward and a closet case here all the time
by Anonymous | reply 363 | July 17, 2019 8:47 PM |
[Quote] Brandon is making his money in the same show and he is out and proud
Ha, we'll see about that when he does interviews for the upcoming season...
[Quote] the same for Tommy
Is Tommy out and proud as single?
by Anonymous | reply 364 | July 17, 2019 8:48 PM |
[Quote] Richard Madden is in a lot of pics with his boyfriend and he is called a coward and a closet case here all the time
Any intimate pics? Miles has intimate pics with multiple boyfriends - legs intertwined, those kind of intimate pics.
by Anonymous | reply 365 | July 17, 2019 8:49 PM |
Tommy is no longer on the show (his character went to college) so he never got the big pay that Brandon and Miles got for the next two seasons. The cast is the second highest paid Netflix cast after Stranger Things.
And Brandon’s fans are already criticizing him for backpedaling by saying that he never “came out” because he doesn’t “label himself.” Back to the closet!
by Anonymous | reply 366 | July 17, 2019 8:51 PM |
R364: So you think Brandon is suddenly going back into the closet for next season? That's the most ridiculous thing i read in a good while.
Tommy is gay and everybody knew it from the very beginning, what being married or single has to do with that?
by Anonymous | reply 367 | July 17, 2019 8:51 PM |
Brandon and Connor should just date each other and drop the closet cases.
by Anonymous | reply 368 | July 17, 2019 9:09 PM |
^they tried that, didn't work out...but at least they remained friends.
by Anonymous | reply 369 | July 17, 2019 9:12 PM |
R368 Nailed it.
by Anonymous | reply 370 | July 17, 2019 9:18 PM |
R368 Quite positive Miles would commit homicide considering Brandon already broke his heart once.
by Anonymous | reply 371 | July 17, 2019 9:22 PM |
[Quote] So you think Brandon is suddenly going back into the closet for next season? That's the most ridiculous thing i read in a good while.
I guess you didn't read his mess of a Variety article. The boy is confused, or perhaps he's just trying to confuse... Either way, how he handles questions about his current relationship while promoting the upcoming season of 13RW should be illuminating.
[Quote] Tommy is gay and everybody knew it from the very beginning, what being married or single has to do with that?
Because relationship status is something that someone chooses to share or not, just like sexuality. Tommy will likely speak on his marriage in the future but the timing should be down to him, not anyone else.
by Anonymous | reply 372 | July 17, 2019 9:31 PM |
One can only hope one day, she leaks their sex tapes that she is secretly filming with or without their consent!
by Anonymous | reply 373 | July 18, 2019 1:22 AM |
Mae has a boyfriend though, doesn't she?
by Anonymous | reply 374 | July 18, 2019 1:25 AM |
R374 She does... her interest in Miles/Connor seems sisterly/motherly even though it could be overbearing. She'll be sure to keep them away from the nasty drug/alcohol abuse culture of HW at least.
by Anonymous | reply 375 | July 18, 2019 1:31 AM |
She admitted in an interview that she lusts after Miles, but she tries to keep it in check....doesn't sound like a healthy friendship to me.
by Anonymous | reply 376 | July 18, 2019 1:40 AM |
You really take that "admission" seriously?
by Anonymous | reply 377 | July 18, 2019 1:45 AM |
r376 That would be like lusting after her little brother. Her gay little brother.
by Anonymous | reply 378 | July 18, 2019 1:56 AM |
Well she obviously has issues.
by Anonymous | reply 379 | July 18, 2019 2:00 AM |
She was a child actor. Of course she has issues. Wanting to fuck Miles is unlikely to be one of them.
by Anonymous | reply 380 | July 18, 2019 2:08 AM |
Someone put together a compilation of Miles pics purportedly deleted from IG. Note what looks like a Gay Pride pic at 0:11
by Anonymous | reply 381 | July 18, 2019 2:32 AM |
R376 I’m pretty sure she was joking in the way that women joke about wanting to fuck their beautiful gay friends. Miles is literally like her little brother/son.
by Anonymous | reply 382 | July 18, 2019 3:47 AM |
r381 Most of the 13RW cast went to Pride together as an organised/cast thing, I think it was shortly after season1 blew-up if I remember rightly.
by Anonymous | reply 383 | July 18, 2019 12:50 PM |
Well, the cast of 13 RW is pretty gay, so it fits perfectly for them to do such thing
by Anonymous | reply 384 | July 18, 2019 1:48 PM |
Can we make the next thread a Connor & Miles thread?
by Anonymous | reply 385 | July 18, 2019 1:53 PM |
R385 Since the majority of the discussion in both of their threads is related to eachother, it would make sense.
by Anonymous | reply 386 | July 18, 2019 2:38 PM |
[quote]You know, like not keeping the relationship private, like actually being in pics with his boyfriend on Instagram or other social media, not hiding him away like he's his dirty little secret.
by Anonymous | reply 387 | July 18, 2019 2:49 PM |
Based on Mae’s Instagram story, it looks like she and her BF are doing a hosted couples getaway with Connor and Miles at the Fairmont in San Francisco.
by Anonymous | reply 388 | July 18, 2019 8:49 PM |
More people are figuring out they're together. Look at this thread from ATRL.
by Anonymous | reply 389 | July 18, 2019 9:17 PM |
More people are figuring out they're together. Look at this thread from ATRL.
by Anonymous | reply 390 | July 18, 2019 9:17 PM |
Is there a thread on ATRL about a white subject where someone doesn't type "Ew, basic/vanilla"? They need some new schtick.
by Anonymous | reply 391 | July 18, 2019 10:06 PM |
Cute new relatable post from Miles where he looks really shy and awkward, lol.
by Anonymous | reply 392 | July 18, 2019 10:18 PM |
Connor liked and left a dorky comment.
by Anonymous | reply 393 | July 18, 2019 10:48 PM |
R393 What took him so long? Aren't they vacationing/fucking in SF together as we speak?
by Anonymous | reply 394 | July 19, 2019 12:28 AM |
[quote]They need some new schtick.
They need it? Them?
Presenting hole as I type about the 89 year old guy who died and awaiting Olivia’s “so young” comment.
by Anonymous | reply 395 | July 19, 2019 10:57 AM |
Connor just posted another IG story with Miles’ dog Crouton.
by Anonymous | reply 396 | July 20, 2019 10:17 PM |
R396 looks like he’s been staying with Miles for two weeks now.
by Anonymous | reply 397 | July 20, 2019 10:37 PM |
He's totally in love. Why wouldn't he stay with Miles as long as possible?
by Anonymous | reply 398 | July 20, 2019 11:55 PM |
R396 Those two dogs appear to have a few issues between them both - after Miles adopted the second one pretty much every pic of them has one in snarl mode, hence the ironic "angel" IG post!
by Anonymous | reply 399 | July 21, 2019 1:35 PM |
I hope he gets naked in a movie soon. I want to see his cock.
by Anonymous | reply 400 | July 21, 2019 1:38 PM |
I don't think so, in fact i read an article on a spanish newspaper that says that after MeToo HW movies are getting more and more prude
by Anonymous | reply 401 | July 21, 2019 1:39 PM |
Maybe Connor will present hole in Locke & Key.
by Anonymous | reply 402 | July 21, 2019 7:40 PM |
Is Connor the Key to Miles' Locke?
by Anonymous | reply 403 | July 22, 2019 2:12 AM |
Miles starts work soon according to the rumored filming schedule. Will Connor stay with him or go back to Toronto?
by Anonymous | reply 404 | July 22, 2019 4:02 AM |
r404 Starts work on what?
by Anonymous | reply 405 | July 22, 2019 7:40 AM |
R405 Season 4 of 13RW.
by Anonymous | reply 406 | July 22, 2019 8:11 AM |
R404 Why would he stay? Miles has to go back to San Francisco.
by Anonymous | reply 407 | July 22, 2019 11:30 AM |
So I guess it will be back to Skype sex.
by Anonymous | reply 408 | July 22, 2019 11:32 AM |
Coinslot or keyhole?
by Anonymous | reply 409 | July 22, 2019 1:39 PM |
r409, balloon knot.
by Anonymous | reply 410 | July 22, 2019 2:19 PM |
R407 Connor is/was in SF with Miles and Mae. Miles will have accommodation in the bay area during filming, so unless it's not okay to have a boyfriend around, Connor could conceivably stay with him.
by Anonymous | reply 411 | July 22, 2019 9:59 PM |
Connor should make a documentary about Miles.
by Anonymous | reply 412 | July 22, 2019 11:04 PM |
Maybe he'll document their wedding.
by Anonymous | reply 413 | July 22, 2019 11:07 PM |
R412 Connor should be a stay at home wife and welcome Miles home from work every evening with a dinner plate.
by Anonymous | reply 414 | July 23, 2019 12:24 AM |
A Miles doc might be pretty dark. He was a child actor in Hollywood, after all.
by Anonymous | reply 415 | July 23, 2019 12:40 AM |
I think Connor's mom should come down from Canada and help keep house so Connor and Miles will have time for fucking.
by Anonymous | reply 416 | July 23, 2019 12:41 AM |
R414 They are still in their honeymoon stage, so Connor should be horny and naked in bed waiting for Miles to come home. They can order out after the sex.
by Anonymous | reply 417 | July 23, 2019 1:08 AM |
In the honeymoon stage that can last for days.
by Anonymous | reply 418 | July 23, 2019 2:41 AM |
Connor on Miles’ bed, with both of Miles’ dogs...
by Anonymous | reply 419 | July 24, 2019 4:30 PM |
Looks like he's still in LA with Miles and his dogs.
by Anonymous | reply 420 | July 24, 2019 4:45 PM |
I guess we're not gonna get anymore cute pics of Connor and Miles. Now it's just Connor with Miles's dogs
by Anonymous | reply 421 | July 24, 2019 4:48 PM |
Did Connor already pack up and move in to Miles’ apartment? This is full on lesbian behavior.
by Anonymous | reply 422 | July 24, 2019 4:51 PM |
Miles made that whole post, didn't he?
by Anonymous | reply 423 | July 24, 2019 4:55 PM |
R423 He definitely did, since he always does posts like that.
by Anonymous | reply 424 | July 24, 2019 4:55 PM |
R421 When did we ever get any cute pics of Connor and Miles?
by Anonymous | reply 425 | July 24, 2019 5:08 PM |
Puffing out their cheeks, lying together in a casket, Connor clasping Miles at a dinner table etc
by Anonymous | reply 426 | July 24, 2019 5:11 PM |
R426 Miles shut that down fast...
by Anonymous | reply 427 | July 24, 2019 5:15 PM |
If he were really shutting it down, he'd have made sure the pics were deleted.
by Anonymous | reply 428 | July 24, 2019 5:17 PM |
[quote]lying together in a casket,
That sounds creepy af.
by Anonymous | reply 429 | July 24, 2019 6:48 PM |
[Quote] That sounds creepy af.
It is, Fiona. One of them even has his neck at an odd angle, like a corpse. Don't search the pic out, Fi.
by Anonymous | reply 430 | July 24, 2019 6:54 PM |
My favorite is Miles at the dinner table with Connor's family. Connor is almost hugging him.
by Anonymous | reply 431 | July 25, 2019 4:03 AM |
R431 Connor is being all proud and possessive (in a good way!)
by Anonymous | reply 432 | July 25, 2019 4:33 PM |
Connor is fanboying so hard... Are we sure he's the top?
by Anonymous | reply 433 | July 25, 2019 11:10 PM |
What are some of Connor's comments?
by Anonymous | reply 434 | July 25, 2019 11:11 PM |
R433 We don’t know for sure. He may be the one getting dicked down good, which would explain why he’s so eager to pack up the U-Haul and move in with Miles already.
by Anonymous | reply 435 | July 25, 2019 11:25 PM |
It's hard to picture Miles as a top, though.
by Anonymous | reply 436 | July 26, 2019 12:42 AM |
What decade are you posting from?
by Anonymous | reply 437 | July 26, 2019 12:59 AM |
Bottom in the streets, top in the sheets.
by Anonymous | reply 438 | July 26, 2019 1:04 AM |
Maybe Miles is transitioning to a top! It does happen.
by Anonymous | reply 439 | July 26, 2019 2:34 AM |
There’s only one top in that home, and it’s not any of these two twinks.
by Anonymous | reply 440 | July 26, 2019 11:13 AM |
Sometimes i wonder if people writing here are really gay men. That obsession with who is the top and who is the bottom and the tired stereotypes about it are something more common from straight than from gays who at least should known better
by Anonymous | reply 441 | July 26, 2019 1:03 PM |
r441 In my experience so do a portion of gays.
by Anonymous | reply 442 | July 26, 2019 1:15 PM |
R441 You mean straight women trying to sound like gay men
by Anonymous | reply 443 | July 26, 2019 2:01 PM |
r443 I'm talking about real life experience which I'm not too sure many DLers have.
by Anonymous | reply 444 | July 26, 2019 2:19 PM |
Straight women "shippers" don't tend to talk about top/btm. They're more about "feelings".
You only have ot go on apps to see that there are lots of dedicated to a specific role types... It's not something DL made up.
by Anonymous | reply 445 | July 26, 2019 4:49 PM |
Connor is clearly the top, end of!
by Anonymous | reply 446 | July 26, 2019 7:24 PM |
r441 Every gay man I know, either my age (I'm in my mid 20s) or older, is conscious of top/btm, and its definitely a thing on dating apps.
by Anonymous | reply 447 | July 26, 2019 10:18 PM |
I like worshipping attractive people more than having sex. Each look and kiss of Conner’s tight, creamy body is a holy experience. The worship of his beautiful twink form should be celebrated in all countries. Sniff his hole; lick his smegma; injest his offerings. He is a boy god.
by Anonymous | reply 448 | July 26, 2019 11:32 PM |
R488 Until he gets old (30)!
by Anonymous | reply 449 | July 26, 2019 11:41 PM |
I'm pretty sure Connor is a bottom. He probably enjoys a fist on occasion also.
by Anonymous | reply 450 | July 27, 2019 6:45 AM |
Let us not forget that Connor is very hairy. Much more of an otter than a twink.
by Anonymous | reply 451 | July 27, 2019 6:53 AM |
R447: Nobody was talking about that. In a dating app you should post what you want. We are talking about the constant speculation about who is the top and the bottom on a gay couple (like if everybody was defined by that, god, there are a lot of gays who don't even do anal sex). Second the whole discussion is based in tired stereotypes and someobody with a sex life should know that looking like a top (whatever than means) and being a top are two very different things.
And now people are discussing even the fetishes of people who don't know at all. One thing is a gossip and other very different writing fan fiction. And fan fiction is something very linked to straight women
by Anonymous | reply 452 | July 27, 2019 11:59 AM |
He finally posted a pic with Miles! It's a throwback, but stilll...
by Anonymous | reply 453 | July 28, 2019 9:56 PM |
Here it is. I assume he got permission from Miles to post it. Wonder if this means Miles is inching out of the closet.
by Anonymous | reply 454 | July 28, 2019 10:01 PM |
Well it's a group photo so I doubt it.
by Anonymous | reply 455 | July 28, 2019 10:31 PM |
It's not the first pic of them together that Connor has posted. What's implied in this pic is that they've been together more than a year. I think Miles is inching out of the closet.
by Anonymous | reply 456 | July 29, 2019 12:41 AM |
Connor must have been reading all of the speculation here re: how long they’ve been together, hence dropping this post displaying that it’s been a year.
by Anonymous | reply 457 | July 29, 2019 1:02 AM |
I’m sure that my post about his hole is what finally convinced him to post.
by Anonymous | reply 458 | July 29, 2019 1:52 AM |
R458 You think too highly of your post and his hole... maybe.
by Anonymous | reply 459 | July 29, 2019 2:22 AM |
So is Miles still in 13rw? Most of the cast is in SF filming s4.
by Anonymous | reply 460 | July 29, 2019 5:02 AM |
r460 Miles and Connor are in SF, so he's probably still in 13rw.
by Anonymous | reply 461 | July 29, 2019 5:08 AM |
Have either of them been fucked by Zach Quinto?
Just asking for the Centers for Disease Control.
by Anonymous | reply 462 | July 29, 2019 6:18 AM |
R460, Wow, Miles is so lucky, cant say the same thing anout Brandon whose own boyfriend is ashame to be seen with him!
by Anonymous | reply 463 | July 29, 2019 7:27 AM |
R454 Another double date with Mae & her bf, Robert Jumper. If this really was 12 months ago then it pushes M&C's relationship timeline back by 2 months, previously based on the Miles Meows that Connor made on from19.
by Anonymous | reply 464 | July 29, 2019 7:58 AM |
younggoth: This pic is crazy
connorwjessup: @younggoth slytherin
Did Connor just call Miles a Slytherin? Connor Potter & Miles Malfoy cosplay... in bed.
by Anonymous | reply 465 | July 29, 2019 8:03 AM |
[Quote] Have either of them been fucked by Zach Quinto?
[Quote] Just asking for the Centers for Disease Control.
I guess you miseed Quinto's comments on PrEp/condom use.
by Anonymous | reply 466 | July 29, 2019 8:04 AM |
[Quote] And now people are discussing even the fetishes of people who don't know at all. One thing is a gossip and other very different writing fan fiction. And fan fiction is something very linked to straight women
Are you new here?
by Anonymous | reply 467 | July 29, 2019 8:07 AM |
The new old photo is very cute. It does indicate that they've been together at least a year. Does anyone know how long Miles was with that older photographer guy? I'm wondering if this is his longest relationship.
by Anonymous | reply 468 | July 29, 2019 10:16 AM |
[quote] Jessup: “Queerness is a solution. It’s a promise against cliche and solipsism and blandness”
LOL. And that’s exactly why there’s now a horde of so-called “Non-Binary” (and in reality Exclusively Hetero) Teenage Females “coming out” as “queer”, and screeching when they’re not allowed into Gay clubs. They think they’re just as “Queer” as gays now or even more so - which leads to all kinds of eyeroll-inducing hilarity.
It’s “bland and cliché” for teenagers to be “straight” this year - but the hetero females obviously don’t want to eat out pussy, and the hetero males don’t want to suck cock. So the Hetero Tweens did indeed find a crafty “solution” to get around this - they proclaim themselves “Queer”! A wishy-washy term that’s been so watered-down that it now means literally nothing - some kind of diluted fake ‘specialness’ that’s often not actually backed up by real alternative sexual orientation.
A term that allows the Majority to temporarily cosplay and get attention as if they’re the Minority - without actually doing any of the so-called ‘yucky’ sex things that that entails - and then go back to their ordinary, safe lives whenever it suits them, because unlike gays they have that backtrack option (e.g. when they run for state office, or fill out applications for adoption, etc). When they’ve had enough of playing the ‘cosplay game’ and more important matters come up, the so-called “Queer Non-Binaries” often suddenly quickly revert to the Hetero Binary.
The young tween females especially often boast about how they, once-on-a-blue-moon, stuck their tongue in some other female’s ear and how they’re now “Queer” by virtue of that alone (but in reality they would NEVER EVER go near another’s “yucky” vagina, LOL).
[quote] Go ahead and parse his words, he is helping someone today.
Yes, he’s helping gays. He’s also “helping” deluded Heteros think the easiest way to get “special and not-bland” recognition & attention is by declaring themselves “Queers” and “Two-Spirited”, while still balking and laughing at any “yucky gay anal sex stuff”.
by Anonymous | reply 469 | July 29, 2019 11:51 AM |
R468 He was with Matt Sukkar for around 7 or 8 months.
by Anonymous | reply 470 | July 29, 2019 12:43 PM |
r469 Why is it Connor's responsibility? Was he supposed to not come out just because delusional het girls might pretend to be queer?
by Anonymous | reply 471 | July 29, 2019 12:45 PM |
R469 This is... a lot. Calm down.
by Anonymous | reply 472 | July 29, 2019 12:49 PM |
You're intimidated by detailed posts, R472? Calm down.
by Anonymous | reply 473 | July 29, 2019 12:56 PM |
R471, coming out as "gay" VS. publicly (and strangely) equating it with "Queerness" and suggesting to his sea of tween fangurls that they might end up "bland and cliché" if they don't come out as some kind of 'special unicorn' - are 2 very different things.
The sexual clinic where I live has noted a 5-fold (I repeat: 5-fold) increase in the number of messed up tween females who now say they're not "hetero female mammals" but "queer non-binary". Females more than males because they're more impressionable simpletons.
Jessup's "Queerness is the solution" idea is not the solution, but the reason for this tween mess.
by Anonymous | reply 474 | July 29, 2019 12:58 PM |
R473 Not when detailed posts have a point. Yours doesn't.
by Anonymous | reply 475 | July 29, 2019 1:16 PM |
R475, that's ironic - because your statement has no point and no argumentation whatsoever behind it.
If you can't process a detailed post and find it too challenging to comprehend, no one can help you further.
by Anonymous | reply 476 | July 29, 2019 1:27 PM |
R476 You clearly think very highly of yourself and your intellect... silly. "A term that allows the Majority to temporarily cosplay and get attention as if they’re the Minority - without actually doing any of the so-called ‘yucky’ sex things that that entails - and then go back to their ordinary, safe lives whenever it suits them, because unlike gays they have that backtrack option." Is there a source for any of this besides your own observations? Project much? You use the term "yucky" as if it's an actual word used by queer teens when describing queer sex, yet you seem to have no source or foundation for your "observations". No, your post is not challenging for me to comprehend because of my own intelligence, but because of your ignorance and stupidity. I'll admit, his statement about queerness being a solution left me confused but I see no relation between his statement and your unfounded ramblings. Sexuality is not just about the physical act of sex. Young "tweens" can see themselves as queer/bi/gay/lesbian without wanting to have sex. And implying that many of them see queer sex as "yucky" is strange. How could you possibly know what most of them feel?
by Anonymous | reply 477 | July 29, 2019 2:04 PM |
R477, I said nothing about my intelligence - you seem to be projecting your own superiority complex on me. I took issue with your knee-jerk, automatic-mode rejection of the post. Saying ‘neener-neener, you don’t have a point’ is not a debating technique. Clearly there was a point. And it seems you were being insincere because you understood the point - but turns out your real gripe is you wanted a comprehensive list of supporting sources? Then you could have simply asked for them, instead of being glib. DL is not a dedicated subreddit for academic research - but fine, here you go:
[quote] New Scientist: “London gender clinic reports rising number of “Non-binary” attendees. The clinic, which is part of the Tavistock and Portman NHS Foundation Trust, says it is now seeing [bold]a growing number of people who identify as Non-binary[/bold], who aren’t [even] necessarily seeking to transition from one gender to another. [bold]Non-binary or “genderQUEER” individuals, who identify as neither exclusively male nor female, now make up 11 per cent of referrals to the clinic.”[/bold]
[quote] The Telegraph: “Number of children being referred to gender identity clinics has quadrupled in 5 years.”
[quote] CNN: “More teenagers are identifying themselves with non-traditional gender labels such as … gender-fluid, according to a new study.”
[quote] Pink News: “The number of Non-binary students has skyrocketed: The number of university students defining themselves with non-binary definitions has more than DOUBLED in the space of [1] year … [bold]A poll published earlier this year in the US found that the MAJORITY of LGBT+ people do NOT define as lesbian or gay”.[/bold]
[quote] NY Times: [bold]“When Everyone Can Be 'Queer,' Is Anyone?”[/bold]
As for the fakeness in a lot of this “I’m not gay, I’m Queer!” trend, I base that on the tendencies in social media that have even gone mainstream. Articles about “how to maintain ‘Queerness’ in a [italic]straight[/italic] relationship” (*eyeroll*). And almost all of these reports are EXACTLY about committed, even monogamous hetero relationships - these self-titled “Hetero Queers” complain that their “Queerness” is not recognised enough by the public, but when probed a little deeper they don’t seem to want to sexually touch gays with a ten-foot-pole. The Twitterati tweens (who are not even Native American) calling themselves “demi-boy” and “demi-girl” (like they’re “two-spirited” beasts or something). There’s a hollow-trend, game-like fakeness in much of this.
by Anonymous | reply 478 | July 29, 2019 3:20 PM |
How horrible that more and more people are openminded about sexuality.
by Anonymous | reply 479 | July 29, 2019 3:46 PM |
The most hilarious part of this argument is that Connor himself identifies as gay, not queer.
by Anonymous | reply 480 | July 29, 2019 4:05 PM |
R480, this was already covered at R474. He equates Gay with Queerness. He didn't say "Acceptance of HOMOSEXUALITY is the solution." He said "Queerness is the solution."
by Anonymous | reply 481 | July 29, 2019 4:11 PM |
He has also called himself gay
by Anonymous | reply 482 | July 29, 2019 4:13 PM |
Are they actually "open-minded", R479? Or are they just piggybacking off of minorities to get into the spotlight?
Would you like a self-proclaimed, so-called "queer" hetero female (with a regular heterosexual life-long partner) to become the head of a lgbtQ+ organisation?
by Anonymous | reply 483 | July 29, 2019 4:13 PM |
And how is Queerness the solution for GAY people, R482? Do tell.
by Anonymous | reply 484 | July 29, 2019 4:14 PM |
OMG, I'm just going to FF you R484
by Anonymous | reply 485 | July 29, 2019 4:16 PM |
I don't care what you do, R485. I'm here to discuss, gossip and debate - not to throw hissy-fits over normal discussion points like you.
by Anonymous | reply 486 | July 29, 2019 4:21 PM |
R461 Is Connor staying with Miles in San Francisco?
by Anonymous | reply 487 | July 29, 2019 6:01 PM |
Gay is a sexual orientation. Queerness is a political identity.
by Anonymous | reply 488 | July 29, 2019 6:05 PM |
r483 There is absolutely nothing showing them trying to "take over" the LGBTQ community. But more openminded people means that other sexualities apart from heterosexuality become accepted and "normal". Which is what I want, not sure what you want. But then again I don't think you really want to listen to opposite argument, you just want to force your own opinion down the throats of others. Now where have I experienced that before?
by Anonymous | reply 489 | July 29, 2019 6:07 PM |
Queerness even has its own psychological measure.
[quote]Building on psychological theories of motivation for collective action, we introduce a new individual difference measure of queer consciousness, defined as a politicized collective identity around sexual orientation. The Queer Consciousness Scale (QCS) consists of 12 items measuring five aspects of a politicized queer identity: sense of common fate, power discontent, system blame, collective orientation, and cognitive centrality. In four samples of adult women and men of varied sexual orientations, the QCS showed good test-retest and Cronbach’s reliability and excellent known-groups and predictive validity. [bold]Specifically, the QCS was positively correlated with identification as a member of the LGBTQ community, political liberalism, personal political salience, and LGBTQ activism and negatively correlated with right-wing authoritarianism and social dominance orientation.[/bold] QCS mediated relationships between several individual difference variables and gay rights activism and can be used with both LGBTQ people and allies.
by Anonymous | reply 490 | July 29, 2019 6:08 PM |
r487 Yes, it looks that way.
by Anonymous | reply 491 | July 29, 2019 6:30 PM |
r486 I like it a lot more if str8 boys and girls feel socially pressured to pretend to be queer than the other way around. I don't care if anybody cosplays as anything they're not. It doesn't make me less gay.
by Anonymous | reply 492 | July 29, 2019 6:37 PM |
R483 "Would you like a self-proclaimed, so-called "queer" hetero female (with a regular heterosexual life-long partner) to become the head of a lgbtQ+ organisation?"
Where in the world is this actually happening on a regular basis or in a visible trend? This whole conversation could be an interesting topic for another thread (and with people who aren't ignorant) but these are either isolated events or hypothetical scenarios you made up to argue your point. Besides, this is a thread gossiping about Connor Jessup and this is no longer relevant to the thread imo.
by Anonymous | reply 493 | July 29, 2019 6:39 PM |
R487 They are in the Bay Area, but they aren't in SF, the city. I think the show films in the North Bay (the "white flight" suburbia) of SF Bay Area.
by Anonymous | reply 494 | July 29, 2019 6:40 PM |
Connor’s mom is clearly monitoring all of Connor and Miles’ social media interactions because she likes all of the comments they leave each other.
by Anonymous | reply 495 | July 29, 2019 6:59 PM |
Connor's mom is already planning their wedding.
by Anonymous | reply 496 | July 29, 2019 7:04 PM |
R496 Who can blame her? They are so cute together!
by Anonymous | reply 497 | July 29, 2019 7:07 PM |
I didn't like Connor's mention of queerness either. I hate the word, it's a slur. It also has a number of meanings to different people and yes, the straights have highjacked the term now. But it is what is is. I won't tear Connor's post a part, because just coming out at this time in his career is huge. So what if I didn't like it. It wasn't perfect, but I still give him credit for coming out at all. Also, there is no confusion here as Connor came out as GAY, not queer, but gay. That's why any discussion is silly. If you have a problem with the word, take that up with those celebs that have come out as queer, like Hale Appleman, Cory Michael Smith etc. I don't think it's fair to attack Connor. At least he referred to himself as gay, something that can't be misconstrued.
by Anonymous | reply 498 | July 29, 2019 8:22 PM |
[Quote] I didn't like Connor's mention of queerness either. I hate the word, it's a slur.
Who was your teen idol?
by Anonymous | reply 499 | July 29, 2019 8:27 PM |
Connor is of the generation that took back the word R498
by Anonymous | reply 500 | July 29, 2019 8:29 PM |
Oh come on, his coming out was amazing in comparission with what we see recently.
And coming out as gay is almost a rarity lately (Ben Platt and Joey Pollari come to mind on the recent ones)
by Anonymous | reply 501 | July 29, 2019 8:32 PM |
R493, this thread is about Jessup’s coming out & his public statment, which includes his thoughts on Queerness, so it is relevant. That’s why OP linked the statement. Whereas his relationships with Asians, his GPS movements, etc are discussed in multiple parallel “Part X” threads.
R498, no one is “attacking” Jessup. Look up what an “attack” implies (name-calling, abusive language, etc). A discussion on an issue that he himself publicly raised is permissable. Btw, this isn’t Twitter, IG or FB - it’s highly unlikely that Jessup even reads DL.
by Anonymous | reply 502 | July 29, 2019 10:59 PM |
[quote] There is absolutely nothing showing them trying to "take over" the LGBTQ community.
R489, “take over” ” - is your word, not mine. They’re not “taking over”, but they are going uninvited into gay spaces. E.g. why are (female) Non-Binaries allowed to join Grindr (which was always for gay male hookups)? If they’re “non-binary” (i.e. don’t consider themselves neither ‘male’ nor ‘female’), then they can’t be “a gay MALE” by definition. Then why do they feel entitled to have access and waste people’s time? Just because they use the magic word “queer” / “non-binary”?
[quote] you just want to force your own opinion down the throats of others.
Show me where I’m “forcing” anything down your throat. Go on, show me. No one is “forcing” you to read DL online posts. You don’t seem to understand how a debate works, therefore you get overly triggered.
[quote] more openminded people means that other sexualities apart from heterosexuality become accepted and "normal"
But Queerness is no longer the anti-thesis of heterosexuality. That’s the irony. It’s been expanded to INCLUDE almost anything, including even heterosexuality (almost to the point of sidelining homosexuality). So e.g. guys who are “non-binary” (i.e. don’t identify as either male or female) and sleep [italic]exclusively[/italic] with females - still claim to be “queer”. Even though they’re basically just heteros, who have not the slightest interest in other males.
See the irony? How does that promote acceptance? Especially with “fluid orientation” (not bisexuality, but “fluid”), it makes it sound like same-sex attraction can be a PHASE or a joke or a sham. Activists spent years educating people that you’re born gay and can’t change. But now with the rise in “fluid” and “non-binaries” (who can simply give up the whole NB game when they become adults) - some will think that you CAN be changed.
It’s like Nico Tortorella’s wife, who calls herself “lesbian-identifying” but is sexually attracted to Tortorella as the only guy. What kind of “lesbian” is sexually attracted to a guy and marries him? And they call themselves a “Queer” family. This Queerness creates the illusion that gay people can potentially be changed if they just find ‘the right opposite-sex partner’.
by Anonymous | reply 503 | July 29, 2019 11:12 PM |
Has Nico's wife said she's only attracted to one guy - Nico?
by Anonymous | reply 504 | July 29, 2019 11:14 PM |
[Quote] Then why do they feel entitled to have access and waste people’s time?
I've never encountered a FTM on the apps who hasn't identified themselves as such. I notice you make no reference of the men on apps who are only looking for trans...
Neither bother me. I don't consider apps a supermarket.
by Anonymous | reply 505 | July 29, 2019 11:15 PM |
R505, FTMs and Non-binaries are different.
As for apps - depends on the app. In some you have a limited number of profiles you can view per day and/or limited options to narrow down search parameters. It wastes time.
There have been articles about some douchey straight-identifying males going on Grindr and publicly saying "No gay males" / "No homos" (because they wanted Ts). What kind of space does that create when heteros (or self-titled heteros) go on a [italic]gay[/italic] hookup app and start telling gays to move out of the way.
by Anonymous | reply 506 | July 29, 2019 11:27 PM |
[quote] I like it a lot more if str8 boys and girls feel socially pressured to pretend to be queer than the other way around.
They’re not being pressured, R492. They use it to their advantage and often make a joke of it. It was the same with college girls claiming to be ‘wild lesbians’ at frat parties in the 90s / 00s. It was often fake and just used to turn on the frat guys. Those females were there to pull males and they wouldn’t even need to invite a real gay or lesbian into a frat pool-party with them. The straights just role-played (with each other) and made a mockery of gay orientation. Publicly promoting the wrong idea that those fake-lesbians would sleep with ‘the right’ hetero male, etc. How did that cosplay promote “acceptance”? It perpetuated harmful stereotypes that homosexuality wasn’t smthg you were born with, but could be swtiched on and off.
by Anonymous | reply 507 | July 29, 2019 11:32 PM |
[Quote] There have been articles about some douchey straight-identifying males going on Grindr and publicly saying "No gay males" / "No homos" (because they wanted Ts). What kind of space does that create when heteros (or self-titled heteros) go on a gay hookup app and start telling gays to move out of the way.
Those people are so small in number as to be insignificant.
by Anonymous | reply 508 | July 29, 2019 11:34 PM |
The growing number of people who call themselves "queer" (rather than "gay") is no longer insignificant though in the LGBT community:
[quote] Pink News: "Most LGBT people in the US are bisexual or queer, a new study has revealed. A total of 51 percent of respondents did not categorise themselves as gay or lesbian."
by Anonymous | reply 509 | July 29, 2019 11:47 PM |
Yes, R504:
[quote] Nico Tortorella and Bethany Meyers wed after 11 years of on-and-off dating and have been in a “Queer polyamorous relationship,” as Meyers described in a story for LGBTQ publication Them, for over a decade ... Sharing one of their wedding photos, Meyers — who identifies as gay and has previously shared that Tortorella is the only man she can imagine having a relationship with ..."
by Anonymous | reply 510 | July 29, 2019 11:57 PM |
[Quote] Tortorella is the only man she can imagine having a relationship with
That statement isn't the same as "the only guy to which I'm sexually attracted."
by Anonymous | reply 511 | July 30, 2019 12:00 AM |
R511, it's implied. Or do you suppose they got married after a long period of dating and do not experience any mutual sexual attraction.
by Anonymous | reply 512 | July 30, 2019 12:16 AM |
[Quote] it's implied
No, it's not. Relationship and Sex are not one and the same. You could want to fuck many, many people and not want to marry any of them.
As for Nico and Wife, it wouldn't surprise me if sex does not play a major part in their relationship.
by Anonymous | reply 513 | July 30, 2019 12:30 AM |
R513, who cares if it's a "major" or "minor" part - as long as it's a "part" they have sexual attraction. Hollywood celebs (including D-list semi-celebs like these) say they're in a relationship. They don't generally say "we're fucking" in print - it's implied. Do you gather e.g. Matt Bomer and Simon Halls who announced their "relationship" didn't have sexual attraction when they married? And Tom "I'm not gay, I'm bi" Daley and DLB - also assumption of no sex unless they show a home video?
[quote] "Meyers identifies as gay instead of calling herself a lesbian ... "By definition, I've been in love with and slept with both men and women, which is 'technically' bisexual. I've been with Nico for so long that I can't see myself being with any other man. But I also feel more comfortable with women than men. It's complicated". "
by Anonymous | reply 514 | July 30, 2019 1:10 AM |
[Quote] who cares if it's a "major" or "minor" part - as long as it's a "part" they have sexual attraction. Hollywood celebs (including D-list semi-celebs like these) say they're in a relationship. They don't generally say "we're fucking" in print - it's implied.
I don't actually care if they fuck or not. However, it's a fact that both have had relationships with other people while remaining in each other's orbit. People who want to jump each other's bones don't tend to do that. Maybe they've experienced Lesbian Bed Death. Maybe they're still doing it like rabbits. Who knows. But none of that means that Nico is the only guy to which his wife is sexually attracted.
by Anonymous | reply 515 | July 30, 2019 1:18 AM |
[quote] Relationship and Sex are not one and the same. You could want to fuck many, many people and not want to marry any of them ... none of that means that Nico is the only guy to which his wife is sexually attracted.
Yes, but since Meyers now 'self-identifies' as "gay", it's highly unlikely that she currently wants to fuck many, many men. The only exception is her husband it seems: "Over those 13 years, we’ve had every iteration of a relationship that exists".
by Anonymous | reply 516 | July 30, 2019 1:31 AM |
Guys, can we bring it back to Connor and Miles?
by Anonymous | reply 517 | July 30, 2019 1:39 AM |
She said "relationship", you misreported her words as "sex/attraction". Not mutually exclusive, but neither are they synonyms.
None of this has anything to do with Connor Jessup. Perhaps you should start a thread for the topic you want to discuss.
by Anonymous | reply 518 | July 30, 2019 1:39 AM |
Sure, R518. Every time Connor Jessup announces he's in a new relationship (moreover, a lawful marriage) - we should all err on the side of caution and not report that there's any "sex/attraction" there whatsoever.
by Anonymous | reply 519 | July 30, 2019 1:50 AM |
[Quote] Sure, [R518]. Every time Connor Jessup announces he's in a new relationship (moreover, a lawful marriage) - we should all err on the side of caution and not report that there's any "sex/attraction" there whatsoever.
What fresh nonsense is this?
I said I wouldn't be surprised if sex is not a major factor in Nico's marriage. That's not a denial of sexual attraction.
And putting Connor Jessup's name into a sentence doesn't make your comment on topic.
by Anonymous | reply 520 | July 30, 2019 1:57 AM |
r520 It makes it way more on topic than the stuff you've been ranting about.
by Anonymous | reply 521 | July 30, 2019 2:04 AM |
This thread is proof that someone needs to start a Connor and smiles thread.
by Anonymous | reply 522 | July 30, 2019 2:05 AM |
Connor and Miles. Fuck autocorrect.
by Anonymous | reply 523 | July 30, 2019 2:06 AM |
[Quote] It makes it way more on topic than the stuff you've been ranting about.
I haven't been ranting at all. I engaged with a troll.
by Anonymous | reply 525 | July 30, 2019 2:10 AM |
r523 A Connor & Miles thread is way way overdue.
by Anonymous | reply 526 | July 30, 2019 2:19 AM |
R525, you're the one who initiated a trivial argument about the nuanced semantics of the word "relationship". If you're going to call others trolls, then please start with yourself.
by Anonymous | reply 527 | July 30, 2019 2:22 AM |
r527
Physician, heal thyself.
r527 = r469 = r479 = r503
If you're really concerned with Queerness, start a thread about it. (You won't.)
by Anonymous | reply 528 | July 30, 2019 2:31 AM |
*correction
R527 = R469 = R478 = R503
by Anonymous | reply 529 | July 30, 2019 2:32 AM |
r527 Go away! This is a thread about Connor. I'm gonna tell his mom that you're criticizing the way he came out.
by Anonymous | reply 530 | July 30, 2019 2:51 AM |
This whole thread has turned into a dumpster fire.
by Anonymous | reply 531 | July 30, 2019 2:59 AM |
R528, you made almost 20% (!) of all the posts on this thread… you need the physician more, I’m afraid.
And if you’re so concerned about the trivial semantics of the word “relationship” - feel free to start your own thread too. But you won’t - because you don’t practice what you preach.
by Anonymous | reply 532 | July 30, 2019 3:00 AM |
R531 It needs to be burned into the ground. Just start the Connor and Miles thread already.
by Anonymous | reply 533 | July 30, 2019 3:03 AM |
[Quote] you need the physician more
"Physician, heal thyself" means you don't need outside help. You can make that change. Now start the thread you want to start.
And start the Connor & Miles thread while you're at it.
by Anonymous | reply 534 | July 30, 2019 3:05 AM |
R522 The typo is especially hilarious considering Miles has never smiled a day in his life
by Anonymous | reply 535 | July 30, 2019 3:12 AM |
R534, and I'm advising you to get an outside physician for yourself. Just for good measure. To keep your own Tartufferie in check before accusing others.
by Anonymous | reply 537 | July 30, 2019 3:23 AM |
r537
The moment has passed. Kudos for "Tartufferie", though.
by Anonymous | reply 538 | July 30, 2019 3:37 AM |
r536 Mae clings to Miles like she's his mom. She needs to let him leave the nest!
by Anonymous | reply 539 | July 30, 2019 3:47 AM |
Miles might be River Phoenix if it weren't for Mae.
by Anonymous | reply 540 | July 30, 2019 4:05 AM |
That Clipka girl was a bad influence.
by Anonymous | reply 541 | July 30, 2019 4:14 AM |
If Miles wants to procreate, we know who he only has to ask.
by Anonymous | reply 545 | July 30, 2019 5:01 AM |
Mae would carry, that's a given...no test tubes, she wants the real deal.
by Anonymous | reply 546 | July 30, 2019 5:03 AM |
Would she take Connor's seed, or just Miles'?
by Anonymous | reply 547 | July 30, 2019 11:47 AM |
I don't think she'd want to birth a Canadian.
by Anonymous | reply 548 | July 30, 2019 12:03 PM |
She would only want Miles' man goo in her.
by Anonymous | reply 549 | August 1, 2019 2:39 AM |
A film that Connor is going to be in will be screening at the Toronto Film Festival, and he STILL managed to use the word “erudite” in his tweet about it.
He must be insufferable at dinner parties.
by Anonymous | reply 550 | August 1, 2019 6:18 AM |
It's pretty clear their relationship is open. I don't see the relationship lasting.
by Anonymous | reply 551 | August 1, 2019 6:28 AM |
R551 And how exactly is it pretty clear?
by Anonymous | reply 552 | August 1, 2019 6:31 AM |
I would bottom for Sly Stone in a heartbeat. I've had a life long crush on him.
by Anonymous | reply 553 | August 1, 2019 6:40 AM |
[Quote] I would bottom for Sly Stone in a heartbeat. I've had a life long crush on him.
Doris, you're dead
by Anonymous | reply 554 | August 1, 2019 6:43 AM |
R551 Do they even have time for an open releationship? They work a lot and spend every minute they're not working with each other.
by Anonymous | reply 555 | August 1, 2019 9:52 AM |
There's all ways time to fuck extras/background artists.
by Anonymous | reply 556 | August 1, 2019 9:55 AM |
NOt everybody is a slut (nothing wrong with being a slut)
by Anonymous | reply 557 | August 1, 2019 1:52 PM |
They are two gay guys in their twenties who are in an international long distance relationship, so it wouldn’t be surprising at all if they had an arrangement for when they are horny and apart.
That being said, if they are hooking up a lot with strangers it’s disappointing that there are zero stories.
by Anonymous | reply 558 | August 1, 2019 2:09 PM |
R558 Connor doesn't strike me as being a guy who accepts open relationships, but you never know I guess.
by Anonymous | reply 559 | August 1, 2019 3:30 PM |
R559 Yeah Connor being into that would be very surprising
by Anonymous | reply 560 | August 1, 2019 3:42 PM |
Connor is a noted lover of Asian culture. Concubinage may be right up his alley.
by Anonymous | reply 561 | August 1, 2019 3:49 PM |
A couple in their honeymoon phase are not going to be open to a third person. People try open relationships when things get stale between them but they don't yet want to separate.
by Anonymous | reply 562 | August 1, 2019 5:07 PM |
Connor seems possessive.
by Anonymous | reply 564 | August 1, 2019 5:17 PM |
I swear some of you flick your bean at the thought of one half of a couple being "possessive."
by Anonymous | reply 565 | August 1, 2019 5:36 PM |
An we are back to fan fiction
by Anonymous | reply 566 | August 1, 2019 5:59 PM |
R566 Well no one’s stopping Connor from leaking his damn nudes. Until then we’ve got nothing.
by Anonymous | reply 567 | August 1, 2019 6:32 PM |
I doubt he is that kind of guy
by Anonymous | reply 568 | August 1, 2019 6:36 PM |
R565 It’s also amusing that people don’t think this couple would be sexually adventurous when there are public photos of Miles walking around wearing S&M shirts and chokers that spell out “whore.”
by Anonymous | reply 569 | August 1, 2019 6:38 PM |
Miles seems like he would be up for some real kinky shit so it’s funny that he’s shacked up with Connor who seems so boring and vanilla
by Anonymous | reply 570 | August 1, 2019 6:47 PM |
R569: They are cute young boys, so people assume they are bottoms and vanilla which is a totally stupid stereotype (but it seems gays are as proclive to accept tired stereotypes as straights are, but in this type of case a gay man should known better)
by Anonymous | reply 571 | August 1, 2019 6:49 PM |
[quote]An we are back to fan fiction
Have you read mine about the threesome they had with Joey Pollari?
by Anonymous | reply 572 | August 1, 2019 7:14 PM |
I'm confused because on the surface Connor seems to be the top. Purely based on stereotypes he seems slightly more masculine. Miles just screams bottom. But then there's all the clinginess and possessivness by Connor, which is usually traits of someone who is fucked long and good. Connor has such a big smile on him when he's with Miles. I get the feeling Miles is actually the top. He's probably really kinky and great in bed, which is why Connor is so dickmatized.
by Anonymous | reply 573 | August 1, 2019 7:42 PM |
Or it could be that Connor tops Miles and is just totally in love with him. Miles was screaming bottom when he was on Parenthood.
by Anonymous | reply 574 | August 1, 2019 7:59 PM |
Man, this thread really went to shit, lol.
R573 Where has Connor shown himself to be clingy/possessive? You don't know enough about Connor to assume you know what he's like as person. Despite being much more open with his personality than Miles, there is still much about that the public don't know about him. You are projecting on him and pushing your own need for stereotypes onto a person you don't know and a relationship you aren't in and have no real insight in to. The handful of pictures that have been posted and the limited interaction the two have had on IG is not nearly enough to justify these conclusions you are jumping to.
by Anonymous | reply 575 | August 1, 2019 8:43 PM |
r576 That's not possessiveness. That's a boy in love who wants all the world to know it.
by Anonymous | reply 577 | August 1, 2019 10:06 PM |
R575 I think what R573 is saying is that despite Miles being more outwardly effeminate, Connor’s lovesick schoolboy behavior towards Miles - not just that photo but his posts, his comments, his immediate likes, the photos he posts of Miles’ friends - when compared to Miles’ cold stoicism, actually makes Connor come across as the traditionally more subservient partner.
by Anonymous | reply 578 | August 1, 2019 11:02 PM |
R578 I think this is the first time Connor is in love by the way he acts. But this is not Miles' first time... he seemed pretty stuck on Brandon a couple of years back.
by Anonymous | reply 579 | August 1, 2019 11:07 PM |
Sorry, but skinny, fashionable twinks like Conner and Miles are typically fem bottoms. Masculine guys either become skinny-fat, muscle-beefy, or fat-fat. If they are actually topping each other, it’s probably forced and unfulfilling...or just plain non-existent.
by Anonymous | reply 580 | August 1, 2019 11:27 PM |
R580 There is more to a relationship than top/bottom sex.
by Anonymous | reply 581 | August 1, 2019 11:36 PM |
r580 If they're topping each other they're also bottoming each other. It's more fulfilling than you'd think.
by Anonymous | reply 582 | August 1, 2019 11:45 PM |
R580 It’s insane that you would consider Connor and Miles the same type of twins... I don’t think anyone would describe Connor as skinny and fashionable
by Anonymous | reply 583 | August 2, 2019 12:12 AM |
*Twinks
by Anonymous | reply 584 | August 2, 2019 12:41 AM |
Brandon always gave off a vibe that he was a freak between the sheets and maybe he was too much for Miles to handle.. LOL
Connor is probably more of a passionate lover who loves to cuddle thus more of a match for Miles who comes across as vanilla.
Nothing at all wrong with vanilla mind you..
But I will say Connor is the most handsome of all three.
by Anonymous | reply 585 | August 2, 2019 12:29 PM |
It wouldn't surprise me if Brandon was community dick.
by Anonymous | reply 586 | August 2, 2019 12:30 PM |
R580: Most ridiculous post in a good while
by Anonymous | reply 587 | August 2, 2019 1:30 PM |
[Quote][R575] I think what [R573] is saying is that despite Miles being more outwardly effeminate, Connor’s lovesick schoolboy behavior towards Miles - not just that photo but his posts, his comments, his immediate likes, the photos he posts of Miles’ friends - when compared to Miles’ cold stoicism, actually makes Connor come across as the traditionally more subservient partner.
R578 You nailed it. That's exactly what I meant to say. Thank you for being so eloquent.
by Anonymous | reply 588 | August 2, 2019 4:23 PM |
Connor could be all those things quoted at the beginning by r588 and not remotely subservient (submissive?). He could be controlling for all you know.
by Anonymous | reply 589 | August 2, 2019 4:47 PM |
R585 Miles seemed fun when he and Brandon were fucking, but as stated above Brandon for sure seems like a community dick, so maybe Miles is happier with someone more vanilla like Connor.
They’re all very different types, but I think Miles is the prettiest.
by Anonymous | reply 590 | August 2, 2019 6:10 PM |
R589 Well Connor as a bossy bottom would be hot. We already know he likes to direct.
by Anonymous | reply 591 | August 2, 2019 6:25 PM |
Should we kill this? Who’s starting the Connor and Miles thread?
by Anonymous | reply 592 | August 2, 2019 7:20 PM |
Let’s close this out then...
by Anonymous | reply 595 | August 3, 2019 12:39 AM |
See everyone in the new thread!
by Anonymous | reply 600 | August 3, 2019 12:43 AM |