NY Mag: We’ve Reached Peak Gay Sluttiness

That was in the 70's and then HIV came along. I hope nothing as cruel as that disease comes along again.

Thrilled to have nothing to do with the scene described in this article.

Amazing to me how many medicines and drugs we need just to have sex

[quote] “I’ve noticed, just in the slut community, that I’m getting a lot less of those texts that are like,

Jesus, there's a slut community now too!?

The bizarre [italic]competitiveness[/italic] of gay sluttiness was what I most disliked about being a gayling in my 20s and early 30s. I felt expected to talk about my sex life all the time by the other gay men I knew in NYC, and if I weren't regularly hooking up and bragging about it I felt like I was thought of as unpopular, which was bizarre at that age (I had thought once I got out of high school i wouldn't have to worry anymore about popularity).

In retrospect, Manhattan (where I lived in the 90s) was not a good place for me. I much preferred moving to a different part of the country where people were just less competitive overall. I know other people feel they can only live there, and I understand that--but it turns out I am not like that (though I thought I was).

Paywalled. R5 - was that your comment or a snippet from the article?

Either way - sounds like you unfortunately fell into a wrong group where that existed.

Personally, I don't want to hear about anyone's sex life - it's fine if my friends tell me if they hooked up or on a date or in a relationship, but detailing sex for sex sake is just low class and try-hard.

And hooking up a lot in the 90s was NOT a safe thing to do, for obvious reasons.

The Slut Community Center.

The Slut Community Chest.

The Slut Community Vote.

Great article. But the discourse doesn't need to be so high minded.

This is accurate reporting and the commenters on the article's page seem a bit offended their lifestyle is written about so publicly.

I, for one, am not ashamed. I was getting tired of reading about that frau in the Hamptons whose husband offed himself and left her with a mountain of debt.

If my coworkers can share cute stories of what they did with their crotch fruit over the weekend, I can share my stories of going to The Eagle....we're all grown!

Nothing new. In the 80s and 90s we just didn't brag about it. And practiced safer sex usually.

Was there a self-identified "slut community" in the 90s too?

“Why, just a quick visit to the free clinic and all is well!”

Yoo hoo

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It’s not that I’m sex negative, I just prefer long-term deep meaningful relationships.

What is described in the article is not mainstream or even that common, and it's easy to understand why. What these guys are doing takes lots of discretionary income and free time. Illegal drugs, clubs, travel, exclusive parties, assless designer underpants, holetox, steroids, viagra, apretude, hangovers, brunch. This is near-1% activity. It is happening in major world cities like NYC, but not in average burgs with average people of average means. Most places don't have the infrastructure to keep these guys medicated, entertained and fucked in the manner they demand.

The brief description of G is entirely incorrect. It doesn't keep you awake for days. It causes deep sleep if taken in therapeutic doses. Narcoleptics lack deep sleep - they're never fully awake and never fully asleep. The party-ers are taking subclinical doses, enough to feel buzzed similar to alcohol. In large enough doses, it's a date rape drug, because it induces unconsciousness rapidly, within minutes. People who are taking G and staying awake for days are also taking T.

[quote] If my coworkers can share cute stories of what they did with their crotch fruit over the weekend, I can share my stories of going to The Eagle....we're all grown!

I guess this also means I can share with you stories about the dump I took this morning when I woke up.

We're all grown up! We all know everybody poops!

R16, my bestie used to take photos of monumental bowl movements and share them with us! *shrugs*

The last time gay men were drugging this much and having constant sex, it all came to a screeching halt. Does no one remember or are they all too stupid to care? No one's there to fund a cure anymore, or are y'all just fucking and too busy to notice?

This kind of activity is going on in cities all over the U.S. and Europe. And I don't really agree that it's near-1% activity. Maybe the nicer parties

I am curious about the jobs that provide the income for this level of conspicuous consumption that you can perform adequately while constantly sleep deprived/coming down/hung over.

Youngish gays having fun without fear. I’m happy for them.

They will realize after a while how empty emotionally this is and will search for longer-term relationships.

All parties come to an end. Enjoy yourselves, boys. Some will skate through, some will become addicted, fuck up opportunities that won’t reappear. Hopefully no one dies. But I remember how hot the sex was in the bad ol’ crack 80’s. And then it wasn’t. Most never hard enough to fuck but you could suck dick all night. A natural PrEP. My fear is something more cataclysmic will explode, another virus, politics, some bullshit. Weimar was a great party for some with connections and dough, then Fascism swallowed it all. Glad to have survived. Good luck.

Counterpoint: no, we haven't

I think many gay men learn at some point that too much time spent thinking about sexually attracting others, trying to sexually attract others and having casual sex is not healthy emotionally, mentally or physically for them. What is too much is an individual question. However there are some for whom it seems, at least on the surface, to not bother them at all.

Fuck as much as you can while you're still young and you've got it. But also responsibly at the same time. Old age will come fast and hit hard for most of us.

Prior thread on this article.

[quote]Does no one remember or are they all too stupid to care?

We’re all too stupid to care!

R20 The author mentions a lot of his friend’s jobs… Not surprisingly, it’s mostly graphic designers/writers/techies. The article was a decent read but also kind of felt a little too in love with itself. We get it… you have sex and do drugs.

Every generation thinks their generation invented sex, except Gen Z, who think millennials invented it.

Ah, what to do, what to do, when the sex starts to get too ordinary and conventional? Push further, take more drugs, do more dangerous stuff with body fluids?

This is how it started a long, long time ago.

[quote] Not surprisingly, it’s mostly graphic designers/writers/techies.

Jobs in serious danger of being completely subsumed by AI.

There are a lot of people R30, the majority, who aren't interested in risk taking and maximized thrills. But they are too ordinary and dull to be written about.

The lack of getting a hangover really does seem appealing to me. I must not run in trendy enough circles for this drug, alas, and I live in LA county