Okay DL, I need your help.
I’m in my mid thirties, single and live in a red, rural area. I’ve had a best friend since school, and she’s been seeing a guy for a few months. They are pretty serious and he is making an effort to be involved in her kids life as well as hers.
There is a problem. The more I hang out with them/him…the more I like him. He’s attractive, but he does have som habits that I can’t stand, but I find myself being really flirty with him and I’m full transparency, it’s not completely one sided.
He identifies as straight, he definitely pays more attention to her, they have sex….but when I’m with him, there is a connection.
I think about him all the time.
I don’t want to ruin my friendship with her, I don’t want to make it awkward and I don’t want to fuck everything up, but he keeps wanting to spend time with me and grow our friendship and I have no idea how to do that without flirting and continuing to get emotionally attached. I’m afraid it’s obvious even though I tell everyone that I would never betray my friend for this guy.
Basically the whole thing is a mess and I don’t know what to do.
Help!