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I Went To A Bathhouse Saturday Night

My previous thread that I posted last night is now inaccessible so I am starting another thread on my experiences there Saturday night. I was lamenting the fact that none of the so- called hot young guys noticed me. I was invisible to them. I am NO spring chicken- but still it hurt. Someone responded and said that bathhouses are like beauty pageants no one cares about your character they only care about looks.

DL people please say some things to cheer me up about my unpleasant experience there Saturday night.

by Anonymousreply 369July 4, 2022 10:18 PM

Look on the bright side, OP: At least you’re not Kevin Sessums.

by Anonymousreply 1March 22, 2022 2:50 AM

Nothing like a trip to the tubs!

by Anonymousreply 2March 22, 2022 2:51 AM

Were there only hot young guys there? Or was everyone else invisible to you?

by Anonymousreply 3March 22, 2022 2:52 AM

Next time pay for it instead of going to the baths you’ll get just what you want

by Anonymousreply 4March 22, 2022 2:52 AM

R3- No I had a nice time with a guy who is mature like myself. He gave me an very good blowjob too. I would rate it a solid B+. Later the same guy went into the room of someone opposite to me. This person in that room was morbidly obese ( HUGE stomach). It made me think this mature guy was not particular at all. Later someone new was in that same room. This guy was much younger about 30 years old, muscular- another words HOT. This hot guy did not notice me at all. He left his room and did not return for maybe 75 mins +. Then he got dressed and left. I'm sure he was able to pick and choose ANYONE in the bathhouse and was sated so he left. I know at 56 years old I should not expect ANYONE to be interested in me but it still hurts that all of the young ( under 40) good looking guys were not noticing me at all.

by Anonymousreply 5March 22, 2022 3:19 AM

R4- I mentioned this on my other thread- I've gone to rentmen.com several times. I find the men there generally VERY average looking. The guys walking around the bathhouse were a lot better looking then the escorts at rentmen.com.

R5- Is also me.

by Anonymousreply 6March 22, 2022 3:21 AM

Are you mascular? I know an Asian who’d be into you!

by Anonymousreply 7March 22, 2022 3:26 AM

R7- I'm not into Asian guys with frosted hair and lots of upspeak.

by Anonymousreply 8March 22, 2022 3:28 AM

He wants to share his knitting needle with you.

by Anonymousreply 9March 22, 2022 3:32 AM

Well honey,what in the fuck did you expect ? Are you new to gay life ? I had some lovely times in the Tubs but my god,that was 40 years ago and I wouldnt even dream of setting foot in one again. Unless of course you're a masochist.

by Anonymousreply 10March 22, 2022 3:36 AM

Well at least you know for the next time that you can't be as picky as you think you should be

by Anonymousreply 11March 22, 2022 3:36 AM

R11- Yes, I guess at my age GAY beggars can't be choosers. I've NEVER used apps like Grindr or Scruff or any others. I don't like the idea of bringing some stranger back to my place or going to their place. A bathhouse ( as dated as it is) is the only place I'm comfortable going to. I have not entered a gay bar since March 2011.

by Anonymousreply 12March 22, 2022 3:47 AM

R1- One good thing. I'm considerably younger than him. What is the significance about him. Why did you mention him?

by Anonymousreply 13March 22, 2022 3:50 AM

Everyone I just remembered that there were some attractive guys my age walking around there Saturday night and they walked by my room too. I just wanted everyone to know I'm NOT one of those queens who only wants the young ( under 40) to notice me. I can definitely be attracted to someone 45+ but the attractive 45+ guys ignore me too. Oh well.

by Anonymousreply 14March 22, 2022 3:56 AM

Dear OP, R12 If you decide to rent a prostitute take them to a bath house rather than have the trauma of bringing a stranger to your home.

by Anonymousreply 15March 22, 2022 3:56 AM

R15- as I mentioned before the prostitutes at rentmen.com are mostly very average looking. I'm not going to pay $250 for an hour of sex with some average looking person. Some of the guys walking around the bathhouse and especially the guys I used to see in the bars back in the mid to late 1990's were FAR hotter than the escorts at rentmen.com

by Anonymousreply 16March 22, 2022 4:00 AM

I'm so happy I'm done with sex

by Anonymousreply 17March 22, 2022 4:58 AM

R17- How old are you?

by Anonymousreply 18March 22, 2022 5:25 AM

Yesssssssss, OP, people at the bath house should DEFINITELY be giving you ALL the sex you deserve for your fine character...a character that is just as banal and superficially concerned with others' looks and preferences, as are the characters of the better looking people who don't give you a second glance, let alone a suck or fuck.

by Anonymousreply 19March 22, 2022 9:24 AM

We did notice your massive 220-lb entity, OP, but we'd rather not hit on you.

by Anonymousreply 20March 22, 2022 9:31 AM

Surely there’s bathhouses out there that are for mature folks only with a specialty for young guys that love to frequent them.

I hear so many young guys that adore older bears or older fit men period.

I think you to need research some more locations which I’m pretty sure will fit your needs.

Best wishes and all is not lost. Remember that.

by Anonymousreply 21March 22, 2022 9:38 AM

[quote]My previous thread that I posted last night is now inaccessible

Was that the one about getting herpes?

by Anonymousreply 22March 22, 2022 9:42 AM

I'm 29 op and women hit on me all the time but not men, to my horror.

by Anonymousreply 23March 22, 2022 9:46 AM

What is this insanity? Why are we debating bath houses vs taking someone home vs grindr vs scruff. Gays are creeps and nice and cute and ugly and mean spirited and enlightened just like all humans. Why are you trying to justify a pattern of behavior based on random chance? A bath house is just as safe as your home. Grindr is just as dangerous as Facebook. It's all venue, vs the mask it wears. If you go to a bath house, and get a blowjob, and don't get raped, guess what? WIN!!!

by Anonymousreply 24March 22, 2022 10:10 AM

If you have high standards (like, say, a four expecting to hook up with sevens or higher) and go to cruising spots or bath houses you set yourself up for failure, humiliation and disappointment. Either lower your expectations or hire an escort or hustler.

by Anonymousreply 25March 22, 2022 10:22 AM

The process of discovering you’re invisible sure can hurt when you need to use your looks to get what you’re after. I don’t even know what to suggest except to say that I hired a trainer at my gym and discovered that I expected him to flirt with me and was mortified when he was thoroughly professional, got over myself, and now have pleasant, unimportant chats with him while becoming familiar with good exercises I should do on my own.

I’m not going to be the hottest thing anywhere I go — and never was anyway — so I wish you luck, OP, because it truly is downhill from here and not in a happy way.

by Anonymousreply 26March 22, 2022 10:28 AM

Now get checked out for STDs, OP.

by Anonymousreply 27March 22, 2022 10:39 AM

Datalounge people explain this to me- Over the years and even now I’m often in a situation where I’m at a gay venue and I want some guy to express his interest in me even when I’m not interested in them.

Maybe I need a shrink.

by Anonymousreply 28March 22, 2022 12:49 PM

Yeah. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Be realistic. Age gracefully.

by Anonymousreply 29March 22, 2022 12:50 PM

Back in 1995 I was going to the bars heavily. I would get cruised some nights left and right ( LITERALLY) simultaneously by good looking guys. It overwhelmed me. I RARELY went home with anyone back then. Of course if I walked in to a gay bar today ( I mentioned earlier I haven’t been in a gay bar since March 2011) I would be totally invisible. Oh well. Believe it or not I still hold out hope for a relationship- even at my advanced age.

by Anonymousreply 30March 22, 2022 12:58 PM

Young people don't want to hang around old people!

This doesn't just happen in the gay world, OP. Moms get ignored by their teens, and so on.

by Anonymousreply 31March 22, 2022 1:06 PM

Go to a darker bathhouse.

by Anonymousreply 32March 22, 2022 1:18 PM

What were you doing in your room to be ignored? Sitting on your bed with your legs crossed? On all fours in a caftan? Reading while snacking?

by Anonymousreply 33March 22, 2022 1:23 PM

R33- I had my towel on and was rubbing my crotch at times.

by Anonymousreply 34March 22, 2022 1:28 PM

Just hire an escort. That way you don’t waste time and get exactly what you want. Though perhaps the real problem is that you have no idea what to do with your time…

by Anonymousreply 35March 22, 2022 1:35 PM

R35- The guys that would cruise me in the bars in 1995 were FAR more attractive than any of the men I've viewed on rentmen.com. Why would I pay $250 for an average looking guy that I would have ignored in the bars in 1995. If I saw someone who made my pupils dilate that might be worth paying for. But I have yet to see anyone he meets that criteria on rentmen.com or other similar sites.

by Anonymousreply 36March 22, 2022 1:40 PM

R36 is OP- me

by Anonymousreply 37March 22, 2022 1:41 PM

R23- Having women flirt with you is better than NO ONE flirting with you.

by Anonymousreply 38March 22, 2022 1:45 PM

Stopped reading at “NO spring chicken.” In DL talk this means you’re on your tenth year of Social Security.

by Anonymousreply 39March 22, 2022 1:54 PM

R36 1995 was 27 years ago ,dear. that puts you at what,50-60 ?

by Anonymousreply 40March 22, 2022 2:26 PM

R40- If you hadn't skipped over this thread I mentioned already that I'm 56 years old.

by Anonymousreply 41March 22, 2022 2:28 PM

Honey, 1995 is long over. If you didn't have all the sex you could have had back then, there's no making up for it now. If you want a relationship, stay out of the bathhouses and go meet men your own age in a more civilized venue.

by Anonymousreply 42March 22, 2022 2:44 PM

Old gay men are like trans

They are astonished and angry that no one will have sex with them, but they won’t have sex with each other.

And neither group can see their own hypocrisy

by Anonymousreply 43March 22, 2022 2:58 PM

R33 If you want your dick sucked you should have it out and be playing with it....90 percent of the guys at bathhouses are looking to suck

by Anonymousreply 44March 22, 2022 3:13 PM

I also want to a bathhouse on Saturday night - Entourage in Las Vegas. I posted about my Vegas bathhouse plans last week. I’m a 48-year-old bear. A cute, friendly twink blew his load in my mouth and then a quiet, bearded otter gave me a hand job to completion in the sauna. Exactly the experience I was looking for. Sorry, OP! Not sure what I did right.

by Anonymousreply 45March 22, 2022 3:25 PM

Maybe the overweight guy in the room next to you frequents the place and is "talented" thus why people flocked to his room. If you want to be more attractive make sure you are very well groomed and do what you can to improve your looks. Yes, it's superficial but that is kind of what you are saying you are looking for.

by Anonymousreply 46March 22, 2022 3:28 PM

How sad

by Anonymousreply 47March 22, 2022 3:33 PM

R43- You can say the same thing about Asian guys.

by Anonymousreply 48March 22, 2022 3:49 PM

R44- I never have my towel off when I'm trying to entice someone. I rub myself with the towel on- always. Do you thing that would make a big difference if I was exposed and wagging my boner at guys I would get a much better response?

by Anonymousreply 49March 22, 2022 3:55 PM

OP why not ask someone on Grindr or Scruff to meet you at a bathhouse? I’m sure *someone* would get off on that idea and it would solve the issue of where to fuck.

Worth a try.

by Anonymousreply 50March 22, 2022 4:03 PM

R50- That might work but I have never used any of the apps to meet guys for sex.

by Anonymousreply 51March 22, 2022 4:15 PM

R49 well you couldn't possibly get less of a response than you did....It pays to advertise

by Anonymousreply 52March 22, 2022 4:38 PM

Op, Have you tried not being a dirty old man?

by Anonymousreply 53March 22, 2022 5:32 PM

R53- What would I have to do to be THAT dirty old man?

by Anonymousreply 54March 22, 2022 5:36 PM

Being middle-aged sitting in a small room all night naked, with the door open rubbing your junk hoping a pretty man will come in then come in you. That's a good start.

by Anonymousreply 55March 22, 2022 5:41 PM

R55- LOL

by Anonymousreply 56March 22, 2022 5:43 PM

Yeah, The situation is pretty laughable.

by Anonymousreply 57March 22, 2022 5:44 PM

R55- I did not notice the last words of the first sentence. I'm a Top so I've never had anyone cum in me.

by Anonymousreply 58March 22, 2022 5:47 PM

Thanks for sharing.

by Anonymousreply 59March 22, 2022 6:01 PM

R59- That's what datalounge is all about.

by Anonymousreply 60March 22, 2022 6:05 PM

On DL, I think the proper term is oversharing.

by Anonymousreply 61March 22, 2022 6:07 PM

DL people I forgot to mention this- There was a guy walking around Saturday night at the bathhouse who was only wearing a towel but he had his mask on. I saw one or two other guys walking around with their masks on ( I can't blame them). He stood at my door then entered and took off his mask ( he can't give me blow job with his mask on - DUH). When he took the mask off he appeared considerably older than he looked with it on. But he gave me a good blowjob so it was worth it after all.

by Anonymousreply 62March 22, 2022 6:17 PM

No doubt attempting to hide their shame. Lol

by Anonymousreply 63March 22, 2022 6:19 PM

There are 3 types of people at the bathhouse....those there for drugs....those looking for the porn star guy....Or those who have lowered their standards and are just looking for a couple of hours of fun...I'm the third...There are guys who I'd do at the bathhouse but I would never invite them over my place

by Anonymousreply 64March 22, 2022 7:01 PM

R64- The first type is ON drugs.

The third is someone you'd have sex with but you're not attracted to- You'd let them suck you off but you'd never reciprocate- did I get that right?

by Anonymousreply 65March 22, 2022 7:19 PM

R65 Pretty much....on drugs or the dealer is there

by Anonymousreply 66March 22, 2022 7:32 PM

This is a failure of the gay community to make new spaces and change with the times.

There is no reason that all these places have to close and no new ones open. Get innovative. Start a new club. Make a bathhouse that people want to go to. Clean, entertaining. New. High speed wi-fi for people to use. Bring it into the 21st century.

by Anonymousreply 67March 22, 2022 7:40 PM

I haven’t been to a bathhouse in years, but I have a friend who goes from time to time. According to what he’s telling me, the trannies have invaded the gay bathhouses too.

by Anonymousreply 68March 22, 2022 7:43 PM

It's a good guess most of the commenters here have never been to Steamworks Chicago.

by Anonymousreply 69March 22, 2022 7:59 PM

R69- Why. Do you recommend it?

by Anonymousreply 70March 22, 2022 8:22 PM

I used to go in the late 70s up to early 80s until the ones in NYC were largely closed due to The AIDS. Those pre-AIDS bathhouses were a different scene and I was in my twenties and drunk or stoned.

Wandered into one about 15 years ago again, the East Side Sauna. Coming from my then job uptown just on a whim got off the subway in the East 80s and went in. After decades away. That started about a decade of popping in randomly, never more than once a month, often less frequently, sometimes once every six months. Never the same day of the week.. I could make many observations but here's one thing that stood out to me as a sort of anthropologist of the bathhouse. No matter when on these truly random trips I showed up there was a core of the same middle-aged or older guys there. They must have been spending a shit load of money. But they were socializing, talking in the hall, watching TV together. It occurred to me that this was as much, or more, about that for them, than sex. This was their local gay bar, their gay community center, their MCC, whatever venue older gays use to socialize and maintain contacts and sorta friends. It seemed OK or even healthy viewed that way.

Covid lockdown must have been hard on them.

by Anonymousreply 71March 22, 2022 9:13 PM

Is that where all the A-level meth sluts go R69?

by Anonymousreply 72March 22, 2022 9:41 PM

Steamworks in Chicago is much, much better than most. Most of the bathhouses in the US are flophouses for the homeless or drug addicts. Enjoy your bedbugs.

by Anonymousreply 73March 22, 2022 11:27 PM

Mikveh night?

by Anonymousreply 74March 23, 2022 12:07 AM

R45- That was generous of the Twink to save IT all for you.

by Anonymousreply 75March 23, 2022 1:22 AM

DL people don't berate me but I'm considering trying my luck again at the bathhouse on Saturday- assuming the weather is not inclement. I bit of a FRAU because I don't like driving on rainy nights. I shall duly report back here all of my adventures or MIS adventures.

by Anonymousreply 76March 23, 2022 1:38 AM

I'm a bit of a FRAU

not I

by Anonymousreply 77March 23, 2022 1:39 AM

[QUOTE]an average looking guy that I would have ignored in the bars in 1995

And there, OP/R36, you have your answer. Back in 1995, you would’t give the time of day to guys you considered ‘average’. Well, 27 years later, you’re below average. And your present-day heirs are giving you the same treatment you gave to others.

Ain’t life a bitch, bitch?

by Anonymousreply 78March 23, 2022 2:10 AM

R78- Back in 1990 to 1992 before I started going to gay bars I would respond to peoples personal ad and I was rejected left and right even by guys who were totally average looking and not out of my league. When I was rejected back then it would take me two or three days to recover from the rejection. I bought an inexpensive set of weights at Service Merchandise ( remember that place) and they sat around for months until my brother assembled the bench. I did not know that having a build was a type of currency in the gay world when I bought the weight set and the bench. By 1993 I had a build and was exploring gay bars regularly and started to do well ( in terms of being cruised not having sex). Why shouldn't have I rejected average looking guys by 1995 now that I was out of their league when back in 1991 most of them rejected me. You take what you can get. Back in 1991 I knew I was a beggar so I would only reject guys who were obese.

by Anonymousreply 79March 23, 2022 2:21 AM

Steamworks Chicago has been described as the "Disneyworld" of bathhouses in the US, which is a very good description. Very clean, very minimal drug usage, and some of the hottest bodies you've ever laid your eyes (or any other part of your anatomy) on. The places in NYC and LA are complete shitholes.

by Anonymousreply 80March 23, 2022 2:28 AM

It sounds practically wholesome R80.

by Anonymousreply 81March 23, 2022 6:32 AM

OP, are you a female to male transgender? No one wants you pussy.

If you're old, you're not wise. Young people don't want to fuck old people for free.

by Anonymousreply 82March 23, 2022 6:37 AM

R82- I’m a top. I do the FUCKING.

by Anonymousreply 83March 23, 2022 12:37 PM

Have you tried Palm Springs, OP?

by Anonymousreply 84March 23, 2022 1:34 PM

R84- I've never been there. Is it nice?

by Anonymousreply 85March 23, 2022 2:31 PM

Have you tried a homeless shelter, maybe a drug rehab center?

by Anonymousreply 86March 23, 2022 8:05 PM

R86- Why would I want to go to those establishments.

by Anonymousreply 87March 23, 2022 8:12 PM


by Anonymousreply 88March 23, 2022 8:13 PM

To improve your odds, of course.

by Anonymousreply 89March 24, 2022 12:06 AM

After my fifth time at a bathhouse, I acquired an STD. I never had one before and I was mortified. It was curable, but I never went back. It’s not worth it. I was 51 at that time. I’m 59 now and I’m still too frightened to go back.

by Anonymousreply 90March 24, 2022 3:16 AM

R90- The only thing I ever got from a bathhouse was Crabs. But back in the 1990's when I was a youngster I had someone at my place and he gave me Crabs. I was so naive then. I didn't know what these things were that were crawling all over my private area.

If you don't mind my asking- What was the STD you acquired?

by Anonymousreply 91March 24, 2022 3:20 AM

STD outbreaks can start at bathhouses, there was a place in I think Indiana where a regular gave a bunch of guys herpes.

by Anonymousreply 92March 24, 2022 3:21 AM

I think there was a motor oil in the 1970's called STD.

by Anonymousreply 93March 24, 2022 3:36 AM

R91, it was chlamydia. I’m a top, but I think I contacted it through oral sex.

by Anonymousreply 94March 24, 2022 3:53 AM

R94- Yikes. What were your symptoms?

by Anonymousreply 95March 24, 2022 3:56 AM

OP take heart. Even sexy.people sometimes have trouble getting laid on a Saturday night. This gal even wrote a song about it.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 96March 24, 2022 4:19 AM

R96- Wish me luck. I'm going back to the same establishment on Saturday. I'm going there partially for sex but also to know that guys are interested in me- still. I'm not just talking about the youngsters but attractive guys my age.

by Anonymousreply 97March 24, 2022 4:28 AM

In 2018 I was at a bathhouse- not the one I'm going to tonight- It was a Sunday night in February. It wasn't that busy. A good looking (HOT) muscular young masculine white guy ( DL people's FAVORITE type) stopped at my door and said - Are you having a good time? Okay, I've only been here for 8 minutes - I said like a drip. I wanted him to scram. I couldn't deal with having sex with such a HOT guy. I want to enjoy sex not feel like I'm performing.

He entered my room anyway. I did not taking my towel off I just rubbed over the towel a bit. He turned around and walked out. Did he walk out because he did not like what he saw close up or because I did not respond properly to his HOTNESS? Who knows.

by Anonymousreply 98March 24, 2022 2:30 PM

OP check out this bathhouse in New York. It seems to be more fun.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 99March 24, 2022 2:41 PM

R99- The OP of that thread said the place is packed with bottoms. EVERY gay place- bars, bathhouses, Grindr is PACKED with bottoms.

by Anonymousreply 100March 24, 2022 3:37 PM

You sound off Op, are you a dreaded Aspie?

by Anonymousreply 101March 24, 2022 5:44 PM

R95, I had a burning sensation while urinating. Also, my urine was cloudy and it looked milky. I went to my doctor, my urine was tested, and the result was Chlamydia. I took meds and was cured. I never went back to a bathhouse. My nerves can’t handle it.

by Anonymousreply 102March 25, 2022 12:43 AM

Most places are bottom-heavy. Even older guys can land if they advertise as a top. Take the towel off and show them your raging hard-on. Walk around. Everybody’s there for the same reason. Stop being afraid of rejection, it’s life. Move on to the next guy. People who lack confidence never get what they want.

by Anonymousreply 103March 25, 2022 5:08 AM

R103- Good advice. I am a top so that helps.

by Anonymousreply 104March 25, 2022 1:03 PM

One messy bottom and the place becomes a giant toilet stall.

by Anonymousreply 105March 25, 2022 3:05 PM

This is going to sound harsh but you need to be realistic about your own level of attractiveness and the attractiveness of the guys who you want to have sex with, even though it is a bathhouse environment and everyone is in theory up for sex. Just because they are horny and want to have sex doesn't mean that an attractive man is going to go for you, if you are not their equal.

I have been to a bathhouse/gay sauna more times where I've not actually had sex with anyone than the times I have...I remember one time, I was in one of the porn rooms and still had my towel on and a guy who I had given no prior signals to decided to grab my towel and swooped down to suck my cock and I had to physically push him off. He wasn't unattractive but I wasn't attracted to him and what made it even worse was his comment to me "How much did you pay to get in here?" with the insinuation that since I'd paid an entry fee I must be desperate for sex or had to get my money's worth with whoever approached me. Gross.

Anyway, a bathhouse is a pot luck thing generally, if you didn't find anyone to have fun with this time, don't get depressed thinking you never will - go another day at another time and try your luck again, you never know who you might meat, er...meet!

by Anonymousreply 106March 25, 2022 5:03 PM

Thanks for the advice UK Guy.

Do mind telling me how old you are?

by Anonymousreply 107March 25, 2022 11:22 PM

So much work to cum. And then once you do, you have to get out of his room or get him out of yours (or otherwise extract yourself from whatever play space you are in), get dressed, walk to your car, drive home, and then sit there and wonder what venereal disease you just got.

Or you could just look at xhamster, jerk one out, and then sit here and bitch at all the whores.

by Anonymousreply 108March 25, 2022 11:27 PM

R108- It's much more awkward if someone comes over to your place that you met on Grindr and you're JUST NOT THAT INTO HIM- like SJP said on SATC.

What do you do then? At a bathhouse you just say- I don't think it's going to work or I want to take a break.

by Anonymousreply 109March 25, 2022 11:34 PM

Dear lord! You're totally missing the point! At your advanced age, who fucking cares what someone thinks or doesn't think?

Once you cum, the world changes.

Who wants to put up with all that bullshit?

by Anonymousreply 110March 25, 2022 11:37 PM

R110- Actually most of the time I go to bathhouse I don't have any orgasms till I get home and find something or someone HOT to masturbate to on the internet- so it's even worse than you thought.

by Anonymousreply 111March 25, 2022 11:48 PM

I agree with the confidence - I don't think I am overly attractive, 59, but I like myself and am confident, and have a surprising number of people (to me) show interest. It's kind of weird, but nice. .

by Anonymousreply 112March 25, 2022 11:56 PM

You know you can jerk off at home to something infinitely hotter than the in-person "local talent" in Albany, right, r111?

by Anonymousreply 113March 25, 2022 11:57 PM

R112- Is this on Grindr, Scruff or a bathhouse?

by Anonymousreply 114March 26, 2022 12:23 AM

R103, that’s an excellent idea. I’m a top and I’ll try it.

by Anonymousreply 115March 26, 2022 12:52 AM

walking around with a hardon never occurred to you, r115?

I smell frau

by Anonymousreply 116March 26, 2022 12:59 AM

R116- R115 is not me.

by Anonymousreply 117March 26, 2022 2:29 AM

Sounds like you are kinda awkward based on your story with the hot guy. Maybe try talking less, no one is there for conversations.

I also suspect you have too high of standards for your station in gay life. You also seem to have a need to be validated by a more attractive guy flirt with you. This can be unappealing when it’s obvious.

by Anonymousreply 118March 26, 2022 2:54 AM

R118- When I am really attracted to someone I act indifferent. I can be real friendly to someone when I have no attraction to them- I'm weird like that. The HOT guy that night in 2018 chatted me up first.

A couple of years earlier a so called hot guy- Tall, moderate build, very good looking masculine white guy was walking around the bathhouse ( he did not notice me at all- I didn't mind) he walked up to some guy ( I witnessed this all from my room) and waved a finger at him and said- You've been following me around all night! The other guy who was NOT hot ( he was kind of meek looking and I felt sorry for him) said ( apologetically) I was just admiring your Abs. He was so stricken by the hot guys beauty he had to be near him.

by Anonymousreply 119March 26, 2022 3:20 AM

I agree with a previous comment. Hire an escort. You can get exactly what you want. Life is short.

by Anonymousreply 120March 26, 2022 3:23 AM

R119 is me (OP)

by Anonymousreply 121March 26, 2022 3:28 AM

I am no Brad Pitt but God gave me a huge cock. I would go to the bars and be ignored by the guys I wanted. I went to the bathhouse after the bar one night, got a room laid back, and brought out big willie. I was the belle of the ball. The first guy walks by my door does a double-take, leans on my door until i say "you want to come in?" He shuts the door and proceeds to blow me, He does an okay job but as I said I am blessed. Next thing I know he wants me to fuck him. Hot damn I do. I pounded the hell out o him, moaning loudly, Jesus christ and oh my gods. I thought he was just play-acting but nope, He kissed me gave me his number. Next guy I recognize from the bar. He is a bit older but very well muscled. He has no clue who I am. Same scenario. Daddy is moaning like a whore in church. Wants to lay and cuddle, invites me back to his place. I tell him "you know I know you from the bar," and he is genuinely shocked. I give him a pass because I am not his type and he smiles and says "well you are now,"

by Anonymousreply 122March 26, 2022 3:38 AM

R122- Some gay men are so FUCKIN shallow.

by Anonymousreply 123March 26, 2022 3:42 AM

I'm not great with crowds even when I'm fully clothed, so the idea of being nearly naked in a place where strangers are constantly sizing each other up sounds like a true nightmare.

by Anonymousreply 124March 26, 2022 4:31 AM

R124- Some people there walk around dressed.

by Anonymousreply 125March 26, 2022 4:43 AM

R122 = yawn. Not buying it....

by Anonymousreply 126March 26, 2022 5:31 AM

[quote]Surely there’s bathhouses out there that are for mature folks only with a specialty for young guys that love to frequent them

Hey Siri, find the closest mortuary near me.

by Anonymousreply 127March 26, 2022 6:26 AM

r126 IDGAF. It's true. The funny part is people started approaching me at the bar afterward. My muscle mary had a big mouth. The problem was most of them just wanted to try it, not actually date or hang out beyond me fucking them. Yeah, I was fucking hot guys but they would ignore me at the bars until closing time.

OP you are right very shallow.

by Anonymousreply 128March 26, 2022 2:37 PM

R128- Don't you HATE people like that. I would think it would be very satisfying to reject them so they can know what it feels like to be ignored and rejected.

by Anonymousreply 129March 26, 2022 2:53 PM

Datalounge people I went to the bathhouse again last night. I sat in my room for one full hour not even advertising ( rubbing myself) I just sat there with my arms crossed. That mature guy from last time gave me a nice blowjob , a guy who looked like a trucker ( he had sagging tits and lots of tats), and some small Asian queen who snorted popper also gave me blow jobs- nice ones as did some guy with a shaved head. None of these people are what datalounge would refer to as HOT or particularly attractive but at least I had some good sex so that's what matters. There was a slim good looking young Latino guy walking around ( just my type) he did slow down when he went by my room but I did not take off my towel or do anything to indicate my interest- which is not to say he would have been interested in me anyway.

by Anonymousreply 130March 27, 2022 7:37 PM

Seriously Op, Are you on the spectrum?

by Anonymousreply 131March 27, 2022 7:40 PM

I assumed everyone who went to bathhouses were guys too ugly to score on Instagram, tinder, or even grindr. No offense. Like maybe because the only bathhouse near me is in the deep south, so maybe my experience is different from people on the coasts.

by Anonymousreply 132March 27, 2022 7:40 PM

R132- I mentioned it earlier in this thread that I've never been on Grindr, Scruff or Tinder and Instagram.

by Anonymousreply 133March 27, 2022 8:16 PM

R107 I'm nearly 40, I am not the most handsome guy ever or have a phenomenal body but whenever I've found myself in a sauna environment I can usually get what I want, I just have that swagger I guess.

by Anonymousreply 134March 29, 2022 11:39 AM

R134- That guy you mentioned who gave you an attitude - he wasn't even someone you were attracted to. Over the years almost anyone who's ever given me an attitude was someone average looking and or someone I wasn't even attracted to.

Who's to say what constitutes a phenomenal body. I like a slim natural body over someone muscular and covered in tattoos.

by Anonymousreply 135March 29, 2022 1:46 PM

Swagger? ugh...

by Anonymousreply 136March 29, 2022 2:05 PM

Stick your dick through a glory hole, no one will notice your age or lack of fitness.

by Anonymousreply 137March 29, 2022 2:20 PM

R137- Who does glory holes anymore this isn't 1977.

by Anonymousreply 138March 29, 2022 2:22 PM


by Anonymousreply 139March 29, 2022 2:24 PM

I assume all baths have them.

by Anonymousreply 140March 29, 2022 3:19 PM

I went to the bathhouse again Saturday night. I did not really have any sex. This attractive Latino stood outside my room chatting with me then he sat down and closed the door. His English was poor. I've been learning more Spanish on Duolingo for over a year and a half so I was able to speak some Spanish to him. Any after a while we made out- kissed and felt each other up but there was NO fucking and NO sucking. I did not mind really.

Before I fooled around with the attractive Latino and about Fifteen minutes after I was in my room a good looking HUNKY Latino stood at my door ( he wore a neckless too) and smiling asked if I was having a good time, how long had I been here etc. He was a good looking, muscular, masculine Latino hunk - but I blew him off I told him I'm not ready yet and then I yawned- then he said - Oh you're tired, Yes I said. I was not tired I just could not deal with having sex with a HOT guy- Oh well.

by Anonymousreply 141April 3, 2022 6:54 AM

R141 what was the sauna you went to?

by Anonymousreply 142April 3, 2022 4:38 PM

So, OP, you are depressed when you don't get to fuck hot guys at the bathhouse but when a hot guy chats you up at the bathhouse you choke.

I don't think you're cut out for the bathhouse.

by Anonymousreply 143April 3, 2022 5:26 PM

R142- It's in the Eastern half of the USA.

by Anonymousreply 144April 3, 2022 9:29 PM

R143- When someone HOT expresses an interest in my I get VERY uptight. Especially if the guy is MASCULAR.

That's a good new dl word taken from that Asian guy . It combines masculine and muscular.

But you might be right. It's a no win situation for me. The thing I do best unfortunately is daydreaming.

by Anonymousreply 145April 3, 2022 9:32 PM

Obviously, guys are not cruising you because they are bad people

by Anonymousreply 146April 3, 2022 9:42 PM

R145- Is from me the OP.

by Anonymousreply 147April 3, 2022 9:54 PM

How's the bathhouse in Troy, NY? Anyone gone?

by Anonymousreply 148April 3, 2022 10:26 PM

R148, I've been to the Troy, NY place twice, but it was a number of years ago, so take this with a grain of salt... it's a nice facility (well-lit, nice jacuzzi/shower, comfortable seating area). But the staff are very strict about guys who start playing in public spaces... gonna play, there are spaces for that. Also, it's not 24/7, so you gotta pick the time to visit... I'd recommend calling before showing up and asking when it's busy.

I've thought about visiting again because I've tried the Providence RI places and man they are t-i-r-e-d. Mega-Plex is really grungy.

by Anonymousreply 149April 3, 2022 11:25 PM

The whole thing sounds stressful.

by Anonymousreply 150April 4, 2022 3:07 AM

I don't get why you turn a hot guy down who is wanting to have sex with you? I have got with some of the hottest guys ever at a bathhouse, if they are into me I'm not going to act disinterested or be too nervous to go through with it - why go there only to have non-sex with less hot guys? Doesn't make any sense to me.

by Anonymousreply 151April 4, 2022 9:42 AM

Have a lemon party OP!

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by Anonymousreply 152April 4, 2022 9:54 AM

Datalounge people- I have an announcement to make.

Saturday night I'm staying home for a change. I'm NOT going to the bathhouse for the first time in 5 weeks. I need to get up early Sunday morning and go to the bakery to order a Chocolate Easter Bunny Moose Cake 😋 to take to my friends house on Easter Sunday.

by Anonymousreply 153April 8, 2022 4:01 AM

The guy getting sucked in that photo looks twenty years younger than the other two nursing home escapees.

by Anonymousreply 154April 8, 2022 5:32 AM

Gonna go to the bathhouse in Troy, NY tomorrow. Who wants to go with me?

by Anonymousreply 155April 9, 2022 10:15 AM

R155- Tell us about your adventures or lack of adventures there tomorrow here on this thread because most dataloungers including me will be sitting in our LA-Z-BOY Chair in our XXL Caftans eating Haagen Dazs Vanilla Milk Chocolate Almond Bars-(the GIANT 15 count from Costco) will watching reruns of The Golden Girls.

by Anonymousreply 156April 9, 2022 1:05 PM

FFS get over yourself! When you were 30 would you have looked twice at a 56 year old! You need a does of reality!

by Anonymousreply 157April 9, 2022 1:13 PM

R153, I have an announcement to make - Easter is NEXT Sunday.

by Anonymousreply 158April 9, 2022 1:23 PM

R157-What does FFS stand for?

by Anonymousreply 159April 9, 2022 1:32 PM

R158-I am ordering the Chocolate Moose Easter Bunny Cake tomorrow and I will pick it up on Saturday April 16 so I can take it to my friends house on Easter Sunday April 17.

by Anonymousreply 160April 9, 2022 1:36 PM

Moose and Bunny? I thought it was moose and squirrel.

by Anonymousreply 161April 9, 2022 1:43 PM


by Anonymousreply 162April 9, 2022 7:15 PM

I'm so glad I hate being around other people.

by Anonymousreply 163April 9, 2022 7:45 PM

R163- Then how do you ever have sex?

by Anonymousreply 164April 9, 2022 7:47 PM

Yes, R164 but then I quickly leave.

by Anonymousreply 165April 9, 2022 7:49 PM

(r156) - Had a surprisingly good time - busy with lots of selections ... of men over 40. But that is not a bad thing at all. Fucked a cute cub in the back room while he was sucking another dad. Had some slap and tickle in the showers and got some primo head in the video room. Not everyone's scene, I'm sure, but I'm gonna go back. I' in my late 50s and I was not invisible ... to all anyway.

by Anonymousreply 166April 11, 2022 10:08 AM

R166- Good for you.

by Anonymousreply 167April 11, 2022 12:39 PM

R166- Post any new adventures at the Troy bathhouse here.

by Anonymousreply 168April 11, 2022 2:22 PM

OP you seem to want every thing on your own terms: 'I won't go on the Apps', 'I won't meet anyone at home', 'all escorts on rentmen are average looking' , 'I always rub myself over my towel' etc. The definition of madness is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Maybe just be a bit more flexible in trying new things, and changing your expectations. I'm in my early 50s, never had much of a problem attracting 'hot' guys through my 20s and 30s. I found myself becoming increasingly invisible in my 40s. It's just what happens. You either adjust and change your expectations and behaviour or you turn into a tragic Norma Desmond figure. I don't really understand why you're so bemused by this.

by Anonymousreply 169April 11, 2022 3:02 PM

Are men feeling comfortable with COVID at this point to return to bathhouses. Considering bathhouse tend to cater to eldergays, I would guess they would still be pretty empty

by Anonymousreply 170April 11, 2022 3:04 PM

I’ve actually been to the Troy, NY bathhouse—it was years ago but it had a great mix of older married guys and college boys. And everyone had a huge dick! Something about the water in the Albany area.

A college kid with the biggest dick I’ve ever seen fucked me very slowly. I had never experienced anything like that—my whole body relaxed. Heaven.

The place is small but nicely laid out. Didn’t experience much attitude actually

by Anonymousreply 171April 11, 2022 3:10 PM

R166, your good time was had at the Troy, NY bathhouse? If so, I may make a drive out there. What day of the week did you go? Time of day?

by Anonymousreply 172April 11, 2022 3:29 PM

Any DL daddy can give me a ride to Troy??? I am a Asian student in Boston and I don't have a car.

Public transportation going to Troy is very inconvenient.

by Anonymousreply 173April 11, 2022 3:45 PM

There are Daddy chasers and Grandpa chasers, there are many young who prefer old.

I am now in my 40s' and I am catnip to the late 20s crowd, no idea why.

by Anonymousreply 174April 11, 2022 4:03 PM

R173, the Troy bathhouse isn’t really a destination. It’s somewhere for local boys. I would imagine that the Providence RI bathhouse is closer to Boston

by Anonymousreply 175April 11, 2022 4:23 PM

I’ve been up to Albany a few times for work and visited the Troy bathhouse (right next to Albany).

There’s a daddy there with a massive cock who shows up a lot. My guess is he’s in his 60’s with a great body, but that cock is legendary. He’s married (to a woman) but spends so much time fucking gay men.

He goes from bottom to bottom and makes them cum with a few thrusts. It’s so long and thick. When he got to me, I was sure I couldn’t take it all, but he was so gentle with me that he slid it in slowly without much resistance. I’m not a seasoned bottom so it wasn’t entirely comfortable in me, but he deep kissed me into submission. What a nice memory.

by Anonymousreply 176April 11, 2022 4:33 PM

I'm 54. We've had our day in the sun. Treasure those days. Your mindset does not bode well for aging with integrity. You will not be as desirable in those settings. That's life. And stop being a dirty old whore.

by Anonymousreply 177April 11, 2022 4:58 PM

You write like an old Harlequin novel R176.

by Anonymousreply 178April 11, 2022 5:02 PM

R178- Yes , but either way it was enjoyable to read.

R177- You put it wrong . You should have said to me-

You’re a WHORE darlin

by Anonymousreply 179April 11, 2022 7:18 PM

R169- What you mean is - I’m not in a position to be so independent anymore

Believe it I still daydream about meeting a nice guy for a relationship. I used to do lots of stuff- Gay softball team, hiking 🥾 club, Gay volleyball 🏐 team.

When one is single EVERY THING is a place to meet someone.

I bought a book years ago- It was written by a frumpish woman about how to meet a man 👨.

It looked like a book written by a secretary 🧑🏻‍💼 for secretaries.

In the book she gave one good piece of advice- Alway dress 👗 nice when you go out because you can meet someone anywhere.

by Anonymousreply 180April 11, 2022 7:29 PM

(r172) Sunday afternoon is the busiest. A large number of license plates in the cark park are from MA and VT. If the Bear Albany has an event on a weekend, both afternoons have proved ... fruitful. I've landed there on Wednesday and Thursday during the day and its been hit or miss - mostly older guys. Evenings are sort of a bust as the place is only open from 11am - 8pm, so the after work crowd seems slim.

Fri-Sun seems to be the best time.

by Anonymousreply 181April 11, 2022 10:04 PM

Thanks R181... weekends are when I can make the drive, I may head out for a Sunday cruise. I think I fit the profile of the clientele... over 50 (actually, closer to 60 - well, we'll just stop there).

And Albany still has a gay bar? Wow - that's a surprise.

by Anonymousreply 182April 12, 2022 10:34 AM

So the baths are for old people and young whores?

by Anonymousreply 183April 12, 2022 6:48 PM

Love bathhouses although I haven’t been to one in quite a long while.

Getting fucked by ten different guys, each with a different look and body type, is something every gay man should experience

by Anonymousreply 184April 13, 2022 2:15 AM

I do go to the bathhouse for sex but just as important if not more is getting my EGO boosted. A week ago Saturday my ego got a major boost after that HOT Latino guy chatted me up- even though I didn't have sex with him- it didn't matter. I went home satisfied.

by Anonymousreply 185April 13, 2022 4:02 PM

Well, we know R184 is a diseased mess.

by Anonymousreply 186April 13, 2022 6:35 PM

R186- We know he's a

WHORE darlin

by Anonymousreply 187April 13, 2022 6:44 PM

OP is probably not real, however, the things I have learned from quite a few bathhouse visits over the years (they're much better in Europe), include:

- a lot of the communication of interest is done subtly and non-verbally, through eye contact and how you position yourself. In the probably fake story at R98 OP expressed such clear disinterest he almost chased the hot guy out of the room. Someone on the spectrum probably would struggle in these places.

- actually, not all the hot guys at these places are having all the sex they want. Some of the guys who go do seem to be very conflicted about being there, either because they are closeted or because they feel shame for having casual sex with strangers - so you do get guys who just walk around and around and seem uninterested in anyone. If they do end up playing it might be only when they are under the influence or in the poorly-lit communal areas.

- gay men are very diverse in their sexual interests. Every other young guy on the apps has 'daddy' listed in his interests, and it's very common to see guys who are, to put it charitably, very different types pairing off. You might have to wait a bit longer and to improve the signals you send out but as a gay man in his 50s you're much more likely to attract a guy in his 20s (assuming no financial element to the attraction) than a straight man is with hot young women.

- if older-younger is your thing, try a specialist website. A friend of mine swore by Silverdaddies.

by Anonymousreply 188April 13, 2022 7:49 PM

R188-My stories are real. You think my story from 2018 is fake because I didn't show interest in that Hot guy?

I admit I am uptight with some guys especially if they're in the category of hot. But it's not THAT often that I have so called HOT guys expressing an interest in me.

by Anonymousreply 189April 13, 2022 8:36 PM

Sex clubs are like a buffet. Sometimes you want a plate with a little bit of everything. If you haven't eaten in a while, you can gorge yourself.

by Anonymousreply 190April 13, 2022 8:58 PM

R189 I don't think you're real because you claim to be 56, a frequent visitor to bathhouses yet you seem to have no idea about how cruising and attraction between men works. I will allow the possibility that you are real but unusually clueless.

Next time, make an effort to show interest in the hot guy, Or else don't complain that he left when you gave him absolutely no encouragement to stay,

by Anonymousreply 191April 13, 2022 10:07 PM

R191- One problem with that guy in 2018- I had only been in my room for 5 or 6 minutes and I needed to acclimate to being there. I wasn't ready to have sex yet - especially with a hot guy. I guess you're right though- I didn't properly and promptly respond to his hotness when he entered my room so he just promptly left.

by Anonymousreply 192April 13, 2022 10:13 PM

R192. I'm afraid that is the culture in these places, and with the apps too. You won't be courted.

by Anonymousreply 193April 13, 2022 10:56 PM

Sounds like bathhouses really are for old men and young whores?

by Anonymousreply 194April 13, 2022 10:56 PM

Bathhouses are hit or miss. Sometimes it feels like a porno orgy scene on steroids (too much stimulation), other times it feels like everyone there (hot, average, and plain out ugly) are just in walk around and fill their 10,000 step a day quota (no stimulation at all).

Drop the expectations and judgment (self and others). Let loose, look at it as transactional, not some sort of life validation. Go for it with guys who you fancy, some will say no, some may not. Some may be jerks, some may surprise you.

Your being a top helps.

Also try a bathhouse in other countries? In Europe and Latin America, they tend to be far more social and accepted than bathhouses here (they are congregating points for the locals, with full on bars, and on weekends they are the place to be - going through the wee hours of Fri-Sun).

We just came back from living for two months in Mexico City and the bathhouse there is a BLAST. Lots of stylish hot Latinos, many eager to share an experience with foreigners. Also tons of Americans :)

Go back and let loose a little, don't be too cerebral about it. We expect a full report Sunday.

by Anonymousreply 195April 13, 2022 11:10 PM

We R195?

by Anonymousreply 196April 13, 2022 11:12 PM

R196 LOL. Partner and I.

Infamous last words often heard "Let's leave before 4am..."

Walked out usually around sunrise as the birds were chirping in the AM (as some other Americans leaving at the same time commented once).

by Anonymousreply 197April 13, 2022 11:14 PM

R188 knows his st

by Anonymousreply 198April 13, 2022 11:17 PM


by Anonymousreply 199April 13, 2022 11:18 PM

Is that how you and the Misster bond?

by Anonymousreply 200April 13, 2022 11:48 PM

R195 Yeah, from what I've heard US bathhouse culture got killed off by AIDS and in most places never really recovered. It's much better in Europe and you get a much better and broader range of guys to play with (in medium-sized as well as large cities). This is what keeps London ahead of NYC for me as a gay mecca, though apps and chemsex culture seems to be putting big pressure on the baths just as with other gay venues.

by Anonymousreply 201April 14, 2022 12:08 AM

R195- Sunday is Easter and I'm my friends want me ( and the Easter Bunny Chocolate Moose Cake) there by 11 am so I'm going to hold off on any bathhouse adventures until at least a week from Saturday. Part of the fun of going to the bathhouse is not knowing what type of guys are going to show up- it really is an adventure.

by Anonymousreply 202April 14, 2022 12:09 AM

Was at the Troy, NY bathhouse yesterday early afternoon - rather fun. Surprised. Gonna head back on Friday ...

by Anonymousreply 203April 14, 2022 9:55 AM

The Troy NY bathhouse has such odd hours and it's not 24/7 - I'm surprised they can remain open.

I was thinking of a Sunday visit, but it's Easter and the childhood Catholic got the better of me, thinking, "really? You're gonna spend a Hold Day of Obligation looking to spend time on your knees and get your cock sucked?"

by Anonymousreply 204April 14, 2022 2:30 PM

(r204) I'll join you. Meet you there!

by Anonymousreply 205April 15, 2022 10:31 AM

Who has to clean these places?

by Anonymousreply 206April 15, 2022 1:05 PM

Concerned European are you the same person as UK Guy?

by Anonymousreply 207April 15, 2022 1:28 PM

Hilarious how people are overthinking bathhouses here.

“Your story isn’t true!! That would never happen!”

One place to never overthink is the bathhouse.

It’s a nice, safe place where everyone is gay and there for pretty much the same thing. Find someone you’re attracted to and attractive to and go at it. 15 mins later, do it again…and again…and again.

Over thinking it ruins the experience.

by Anonymousreply 208April 15, 2022 6:05 PM

[Quote] Who has to clean these places?

Poor minorities

by Anonymousreply 209April 15, 2022 6:05 PM

Safe? R208, I don't think I'd go that far. And R209 Yeah, Probably.

by Anonymousreply 210April 15, 2022 6:13 PM

R206 how do you get your cock sucked when you are on your knees? Sounds technically challenging to me.

by Anonymousreply 211April 15, 2022 6:22 PM

I’ve never been to a bathhouse, just a few sex parties. Are there any here in New York…worth visiting?

by Anonymousreply 212April 15, 2022 7:03 PM

DOes the odler guy with the gigantic cock still go to the Troy NY bathouse? Asking for a friend.

by Anonymousreply 213April 15, 2022 7:27 PM

R213- I find ODLER guys hot too

by Anonymousreply 214April 15, 2022 7:32 PM

Troy has a bathhouse ?? Pam Hupp Troy?

by Anonymousreply 215April 15, 2022 8:38 PM

Can I have your things?

by Anonymousreply 216April 15, 2022 8:40 PM

Had a GREAT time at the Troy bathhouse. Well worth it.

by Anonymousreply 217April 22, 2022 10:59 AM

A friend of mine went to a bear event in a sauna and they all got little visitors from the seaside. No thanks.

by Anonymousreply 218April 22, 2022 11:07 AM

R217, when did you go to Troy? I drove out last Sunday (Easter) and it was closed. No signs saying they were closed for the day, nothing on their facebook page or website. I called and all I got was a busy signal.

by Anonymousreply 219April 22, 2022 11:14 AM

A bathhouse on Easter Sunday?! Have you no shame?!

by Anonymousreply 220April 22, 2022 1:23 PM

R43 Nailed it. And Bathhouses is not the best place to find hot men, quite the opposite.

You will find only gross pussy chasers.

by Anonymousreply 221April 22, 2022 2:10 PM

R207 No.

by Anonymousreply 222April 22, 2022 4:01 PM


OP is bitching that nobody hot wants to fuck him but of course he doesn't want to fuck anyone who's not hot either. But the hot people are the "problem".

by Anonymousreply 223April 22, 2022 4:04 PM

I have not gone to the bathhouse in three weeks which makes me practically a bathhouse VIRGIN.

by Anonymousreply 224April 24, 2022 1:41 AM

Heading to the Troy, NY bathhouse today

by Anonymousreply 225April 24, 2022 10:56 AM

R225- Good luck. Let us know at this thread what adventures or MIS- adventures you experience.

by Anonymousreply 226April 24, 2022 1:11 PM

How's the bathhouses in Providence like??

by Anonymousreply 227April 24, 2022 2:11 PM

so is the older guy with the huge cock still haning out at Troy?

by Anonymousreply 228April 25, 2022 2:20 PM

The same people screeching about COVID and how they're going to wear a mask until their dying day are also whoring it up at bathhouses. You couldn't make this shit up if you tried.

by Anonymousreply 229April 25, 2022 2:22 PM

R229- That's because -

They're WHORES darlin.

by Anonymousreply 230April 25, 2022 4:01 PM

The bathhouses in Providence are old and each need to close and remodel. Honestly, Mega-Plexi is just depressing to be in and Club Body Center, while better has a decrepit entry from the street up a flight of stairs and along a hallway.

Mega's remodel should bein with cleaning the ceiling which looks like a scary biology project for mold.

by Anonymousreply 231April 25, 2022 4:06 PM

[quote] The same people screeching about COVID and how they're going to wear a mask until their dying day are also whoring it up at bathhouses.

I don't think they are the same people

by Anonymousreply 232April 25, 2022 4:07 PM

[quote] Mega-Plexi is just depressing to be in and Club Body Center, while better has a decrepit entry from the street up a flight of stairs and along a hallway.

That's sad. I remember when Mega Plex opened 20 years ago. I never went but heard it was really nice.

by Anonymousreply 233April 25, 2022 4:08 PM

I went to one recently and it was overrun with senior citizens who wouldn’t be there if not for Viagra. I know it is my inevitable future, but the saggy, wrinkled butts, weird behavior and cockblocking/not taking no for an answer was too much. I will definitely not be doing bathhouses or sex parties at that age. It’s definitely an example of just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.

by Anonymousreply 234April 25, 2022 6:11 PM

It's Sunday morning.......can I have your stuff???

by Anonymousreply 235April 25, 2022 6:13 PM

Anybody been to the bath in Rochester, NY, an hour out of Buffalo? I read the reviews on Google and I think it's open 24 hours several days again? Seems small but hey, it's a small city. Impressive they even have one, plus colleges there.

Rochester is a few hours by car to Troy, so one could make a weekend of it.

Or even Rochester one day, then to the baths in Toronto, Canada the next might be 2.5 hours by car? How many baths in Toronto nowadays? I assume Steamworks is still in business there?

by Anonymousreply 236April 25, 2022 7:50 PM

(r228) yes, I am.

by Anonymousreply 237April 26, 2022 10:05 AM

[quote] I will definitely not be doing bathhouses or sex parties at that age.

Don't make promises you can't keep

by Anonymousreply 238April 26, 2022 2:57 PM

[quote] Or even Rochester one day, then to the baths in Toronto, Canada the next might be 2.5 hours by car?

Is you life that pathetic?

by Anonymousreply 239April 26, 2022 2:58 PM

Syracuse has a bath too. Syracuse is 2.5 hours from Troy.

Rochester to Troy is 3.5 hours.

by Anonymousreply 240April 26, 2022 3:00 PM

R240- I don't measure distance by hours. I measure distance by miles.

by Anonymousreply 241April 26, 2022 4:44 PM

Um, Rochester is farther away from Troy than Syracuse.

That means it takes longer to get there.

by Anonymousreply 242April 26, 2022 4:45 PM

Ground zero.

by Anonymousreply 243April 26, 2022 8:46 PM

I might be going back to the bathhouse tonight for the first time since April 2. Unfortunately I've gained about 8 pounds since then so I guess I can't expect too much. I will report back any action or lack of any action tomorrow.

by Anonymousreply 244May 14, 2022 4:49 PM

The baths can be brutal. I only go for cleanliness purposes, but one weekend some entertainer in a sequined towel was spotlighting all the out of shape losers and wallflowers while singing ‘Saturday Night is the Loneliest Night of the Week’.

by Anonymousreply 245May 14, 2022 5:37 PM

DL people I went to the bathhouse last night. I was in my room for 1 1/2 hours before I had any action but it was probably mostly my fault because I was not rubbing or giving any indication that I was ready for action. This slim Asian guy in a mask stood in front of my room a couple of times but I did not respond. Later a hot Latino guy slowed down a few times then later he actually entered- this time I did not fuck up but I FUCKED HIM after he sucked me briefly. He seemed to be enjoying it. Then we stopped after several minutes and he left. Later this hot black guy was walking by room slowly and looking my way at times- later he stopped and said to me - Howz it going or similar I said ok- he entered my room I did not take off my towel I just rubbed a bit- he turned around and walked out. I guess I pulled the same thing as I did with that HOT guy in 2018 R98. I had some other action too. I did nicely last night except for the hot black guy which felt like Deja Vu.

by Anonymousreply 246May 15, 2022 1:52 PM

Sorry to hear you were ignored....you fat whore!

by Anonymousreply 247May 15, 2022 5:06 PM

And now, the continuing story of a five that won't settle for anything less than a nine or ten

by Anonymousreply 248May 15, 2022 5:07 PM

R248- GOL

GOL means giggling out loud

by Anonymousreply 249May 15, 2022 5:44 PM

Incredible that I type this... I've been tempted to go to the Troy, NY or just suck it up and head down to Providence, RI, but gas prices have kept me home. Providence is about 90 minutes away and Troy almost 2 hours.


by Anonymousreply 250May 15, 2022 10:10 PM

Busy afternoon in Troy today. Watched some hairy verbal dad fuck the shit out of an cute Asian kid while another dad was getting some primo head from a hot as fuck black guy who was deepthroating dadto the root. Quite sure the dad dumped his seed in the Asian kid's ass. Lotsa bears and dads - and a few twinks that were in heavy rotation ...

by Anonymousreply 251May 15, 2022 10:55 PM

It's amazing that some shithole like Troy has such a vibrant bathhouse.

by Anonymousreply 252May 16, 2022 12:46 AM

Bring an industrial sized bodle of hand sanitizer and a black light.

by Anonymousreply 253May 16, 2022 6:31 AM

The Troy Chamber of Commerce obviously has a DL liaison now.

by Anonymousreply 254May 16, 2022 7:56 AM

R252, well, the bathhouse in Troy is not typical... it's not open 24 hours, it's actually quite nice inside, it's small so it must be easy to maintain and they actually try to enforce the rules of the house.

I've been told that the men there are, by and large, married guys who step on the wife and family for a few hours, get off, get out, get back in the closet.

by Anonymousreply 255May 16, 2022 10:00 AM

(r255) nailed it. There are a lot of married guys who are stepping out as well as RPI guys - mostly owlish nerds (still hot). And I too, was there yesterday and did see that dad fucking the shit outta the Asian boy on the couch. Big cock. Hot

by Anonymousreply 256May 16, 2022 10:17 AM

The bathhouse in Troy, New York sounds happening. Maybe I should go there next time instead of my usual place.

by Anonymousreply 257May 16, 2022 1:21 PM

With all the talk happening here, I decided to stop into the Troy bathhouse. Damn. It was noon when I got there (the hours there are fucked up - they close at 8pm. WTF?) but by 1pm, 4 guys that had mounted and rode my cock - three of them damn cute!. On a WEEKDAY afternoon! Low key, but some nice 35 year old (and up) cock. Recommended. May swing by again this Sunday. Troy? Who knew?

by Anonymousreply 258June 4, 2022 9:47 PM

A pox on all your bathhouses!

by Anonymousreply 259June 4, 2022 9:49 PM

Has no one been heading off to Troy, NY for dick (giving or receiving)? We need tales of your fucking and sucking guys... do tell us sex-starved compatriots... if you have a sweat-drenched, cumshot experience from else where you too are welcome to post!

by Anonymousreply 260June 14, 2022 10:09 AM

Finally ran into the older guy with the huge. cock. Damn people were not lying. Must have been a foot long and thick. I sucked his cock the he told me he wanted to fuck me. I was a bit nervous but he ate my ass till I begged for it. Fuck of my life. Never felt so much dick in me and he flooded my basement like no one else. Damn old man I hope I am that horny when I am his age.

by Anonymousreply 261June 14, 2022 3:03 PM

[quote] he flooded my basement like no one else.

Your insurance company must have dropped you a long time ago with so many floodings.

by Anonymousreply 262June 14, 2022 6:27 PM

This is Troy... Wonder if any crew or cast drop by when the Gilded Age shoots on location?

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by Anonymousreply 263June 14, 2022 6:45 PM

(r260) Was there on Sunday. Actually fairly busy for such a nice day outside. A couple of hot dads - one very hot top (late 50s maybe?). Plenty there to keep one entertained ...

by Anonymousreply 264June 14, 2022 10:38 PM

OP just be grateful that you didn't go on Christmas day like I did, many years ago. 1985 to be exact. A few hours prior, my obsession-crush "love of my life" showed up at my apartment wearing something that clearly indicated he was getting more and more into another guy, and I just lost it. He said "You look like you wanna hit me. Go ahead." So I slapped him, and he felt the sting; that's when he got a real sense of just how devastated I was. He looked at me, stunned, and left, to go to the other guy's place.

Shortly after that I was at the 1350 Club with my friend Alan, and all it did was make a bad day even worse.

by Anonymousreply 265June 14, 2022 11:25 PM

Eh, It sounds too cold and impersonal.

by Anonymousreply 266June 15, 2022 9:13 PM

Oh OP, how sad. Get a mirror. You are 60, fat, not attractive. Little wonder guys in the bathouse do not see you, or do look at you, and no thanks, pass you by. Of course it hurts. Someone notices you, your ego is soothed. But is all this read true? You type so prissily I am sute you are the typist who types as Greg.

by Anonymousreply 267June 15, 2022 11:47 PM

Could be worse OP, you could be Asian.

by Anonymousreply 268June 15, 2022 11:53 PM

R267- I'm not FAT ( right now) and I'm not 60 yet - it's still a few years away

I admit that at least half the reason I go to the bathhouse is in the hope that some good looking guy will express an interest in me which boosts my ego and also lets me know that guys are still interested in me and perhaps I can still meet someone for a relationship. I know what you're going to say- A bathhouse is the WORST place to meet someone for a relationship. Not there but somewhere out in the great wide world. I'm going on a hike with a gay hiking group on Saturday. I would say that is a more productive way to spend a Saturday than sitting in my room at my local bathhouse- though that can be fun too.

by Anonymousreply 269June 16, 2022 12:49 AM

Do you carry cash on you Op, I hear that helps a lot.

by Anonymousreply 270June 16, 2022 12:53 AM

Nothing screams quality like a guy going to a bathhouse. Give your head a shake.

by Anonymousreply 271June 16, 2022 2:30 AM

R271- I have no idea what you mean.

by Anonymousreply 272June 16, 2022 2:35 AM

[quote] Oh OP, how sad. Get a mirror. You are 60, fat, not attractive. Little wonder guys in the bathouse do not see you, or do look at you, and no thanks, pass you by. Of course it hurts. Someone notices you, your ego is soothed. But is all this read true? You type so prissily I am sute you are the typist who types as Greg.

Sorry, R267, but I did not post this. I don't go to bathhouses. And, more importantly, I know how to spell 'necklace.'

R141: [quote] Before I fooled around with the attractive Latino and about Fifteen minutes after I was in my room a good looking HUNKY Latino stood at my door ( he wore a neckless too) and smiling asked if I was having a good time, how long had I been here etc.

So stop being such a jerk.

by Anonymousreply 273June 16, 2022 6:58 PM

Have cash or drugs, Op, and you'll be beating them off with a meth pipe.

by Anonymousreply 274June 16, 2022 9:49 PM

Why put yourself into a situation like that anyway. Communal sex is gross anyway.

by Anonymousreply 275June 16, 2022 11:28 PM

R275- I'm not into orgies or threesomes. I only have sex with one gay at a time.

by Anonymousreply 276June 18, 2022 3:45 AM

While in a room full of other guys.

by Anonymousreply 277June 18, 2022 7:32 PM

R277- I always get a room when I go there. So when I'm having sex with someone the door is closed and it's just me and another guy in my room.

by Anonymousreply 278June 19, 2022 1:04 AM

Much less weird and transactional.

by Anonymousreply 279June 19, 2022 2:57 AM

Are they trans friendly? As a Maverique, I hope they are not hung up on gender, and I am welcome with my bio breasts and vagina.

by Anonymousreply 280June 19, 2022 6:18 AM

Watched a hot, built dad fuck the shit out of a hairy dad in the sling at Troy yesterday afternoon. Happy Father's day.

by Anonymousreply 281June 20, 2022 10:24 AM

Exhibitionists are obnoxious and needy.

by Anonymousreply 282June 20, 2022 2:25 PM

R281, is this or are these the same hot built and/or hot hairy Dad others have posted about here? If so, does the bathhouse have just two hot and built and hairy Dads who fuck and get fuck? What's the rest of the clientele like at this steamy little place outside Albany?

I've been pondering the drive for a Sunday... but stopped when I calculated gas... incredible. Price hit $5 a gallon and it's almost two hours each way...

by Anonymousreply 283June 21, 2022 9:46 AM

I have to say that everytime time I have been there - a half dozen times - its been a different mix of guys. A good number are quite fine, and then there are a few of the walking dead. If you are going for the first time, Sunday afternoons are the busiest.

by Anonymousreply 284June 21, 2022 10:01 AM

I might be going back to my local bathhouse on Saturday night for the first time in a while. I will report back here any sexual adventures or lack of them.

by Anonymousreply 285June 22, 2022 9:12 PM

Are they man from the orient there? I am only interested in oriental men, so not sure if this is a good option.

by Anonymousreply 286June 22, 2022 9:48 PM

R287 now there is a cologne that smells like them.

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by Anonymousreply 287June 22, 2022 9:51 PM

R286- Are you referring to Chinese guys?

I don't know where you are but here in the USA no one says ORIENTAL anymore. Not since at least the 1980's.

by Anonymousreply 288June 23, 2022 1:19 AM

What's the negative connotation of Oriental? Is the Monopoly game canceled?

by Anonymousreply 289June 23, 2022 3:15 AM

We can hardly wait R285.

by Anonymousreply 290June 23, 2022 3:18 AM

[Quote] What's the negative connotation of Oriental?

Are you writing from the 1980’s?

by Anonymousreply 291June 23, 2022 3:19 AM


by Anonymousreply 292June 23, 2022 8:28 AM

Its Thursday. I need a trip to the bathhouse. Who wants to come along for the ride?

by Anonymousreply 293June 23, 2022 10:31 AM

All this bathhouse talk is making me horny

by Anonymousreply 294June 23, 2022 11:12 AM

Before the pandemic, I’d be up in Albany somewhat frequently for work. Loved the Troy bathhouse—It’s small but nicely layed out—it’s often active with a mix of older and young college guys, almost no attitude. the Albany area has some of the biggest cocks I’ve ever encountered—whether in the bathhouse or through the apps. There must be something in the water.

by Anonymousreply 295June 23, 2022 11:15 AM

Most white guys in my neighborhood of LA stopped going to the baths because they were filled, filled, FILLED! with Filipinos. I don't know what it is, but they LOVE trolling the bath houses in LA.

by Anonymousreply 296June 23, 2022 11:23 AM

It was a great Thursday at the bathhouse. ....woof

by Anonymousreply 297June 24, 2022 9:58 AM

Are you all dead from monkeypox and meningitis yet?

by Anonymousreply 298June 24, 2022 11:47 AM

R297, where did you go

by Anonymousreply 299June 24, 2022 11:47 AM

Do Filipinos count as orientals?

by Anonymousreply 300June 25, 2022 1:47 AM

R300- Filipinos would count overall as ASIANS not Orientals.

by Anonymousreply 301June 25, 2022 1:54 AM

r295 you are officially The Albany Has Big Cocks Troll. As soon as I read "Albany," I remembered previous posts about large verificatia of size meat in the town...ALL by you, surely.

by Anonymousreply 302June 25, 2022 1:59 AM

Nothing better than a Japanese “banana”! Yum! 🍌

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by Anonymousreply 303June 25, 2022 2:00 AM

(r297) Troy. Gonna go again on Sunday - great time

by Anonymousreply 304June 25, 2022 10:28 AM

R296 Maybe some are Mexican. it’s hard to tell sometimes. Unless they were eating balut?

by Anonymousreply 305June 25, 2022 10:42 AM

LA still has bathhouses? Is The Zone still around?

by Anonymousreply 306June 25, 2022 3:54 PM


by Anonymousreply 307June 25, 2022 5:49 PM

And they say romance is dead!

by Anonymousreply 308June 25, 2022 6:52 PM

R302, yes, I posted about it before but then others chimed in and verified it was their experience too.

Cocks in the Albany, NY are weirdly large. I’ve had sex with a number of the guys there, while they weren’t all large, a huge proportion of them were hugely portioned.

by Anonymousreply 309June 25, 2022 8:39 PM

Bathhouses in the US are disgusting. The West Side Club was the worst. Glad it is gone. I sometimes wonder whether the new office tenants on W 2Oth know what was going on there.

by Anonymousreply 310June 25, 2022 8:44 PM

Steamworks in Chicago is nice but I’ve heard it fails next to bathhouses in Europe

by Anonymousreply 311June 25, 2022 8:47 PM

R311- The bathhouses in Europe are irrelevant to me. I'm not going to travel to Europe just to GET LAID.

by Anonymousreply 312June 25, 2022 9:00 PM

[quote]Maybe some are Mexican. it’s hard to tell sometimes.

Mexicans don't go to bath houses in LA, travel in small packs giggling like little girls while speaking Tagalog. ROSE!

by Anonymousreply 313June 26, 2022 2:13 AM

[quote]Bathhouses in the US are disgusting.

Because they are a thing of the past, like buggy whips or churning butter. Just wait for all the old, old, old Trolls attack me now for saying that. "Oh, you are wrong, they full of young gay men, they are very popular in Europe, it's the only place where I can relax, you just uptight about sex, bla, bla, bla.

Yeah, Sure Jan, Whatever.

by Anonymousreply 314June 26, 2022 2:17 AM

Giggly twinks of all races should be ejected from bathhouses.

by Anonymousreply 315June 26, 2022 2:17 AM

So is it no longer a truly oriental massage? A truly Asian massage sounds weird.

by Anonymousreply 316June 26, 2022 2:19 AM

Move along, toots!

by Anonymousreply 317June 26, 2022 2:19 AM

I prefer oriental bussy

by Anonymousreply 318June 26, 2022 2:23 AM

The Oriental is the decor, the Asian is the massage done by the lady boys.

by Anonymousreply 319June 26, 2022 2:25 AM

I prefer the oriental bussy of Asian men. I think I said it right.

by Anonymousreply 320June 26, 2022 2:32 AM

Are you telling me bath houses in the US were clean, well lit, and joyful, as opposed to dark, depressing, and creepy before AIDS?

by Anonymousreply 321June 26, 2022 12:22 PM

Taking a steam in Troy today. Who'll join us?

by Anonymousreply 322June 26, 2022 1:15 PM

...pox...still spreading.

by Anonymousreply 323June 26, 2022 8:27 PM

Doubt bath houses are locations for much pox spread. Eldergays go and they had their smallpox vaccines. Studies show small pox vaccination, even in childhood, offers strong protection against monkeypox

by Anonymousreply 324June 26, 2022 10:14 PM

Who the heck would remember such a non eventful story from 2018? It really must have scarred you OP.

by Anonymousreply 325June 26, 2022 11:36 PM

It's not always just geezers R324, it's also younger guys into daddies...or granddaddies, young guys managing to find younger guys, and let's not forget the whores trolling for customers.

by Anonymousreply 326June 27, 2022 6:24 AM

R326 see R314 You are a little late to the party.

by Anonymousreply 327June 27, 2022 6:31 AM

I was responding to R324's post, that's all.

by Anonymousreply 328June 27, 2022 6:40 AM

R306, LA still has two bathhouses; I am not sure about the Zone.

by Anonymousreply 329June 27, 2022 6:42 AM

What are the names?

by Anonymousreply 330June 27, 2022 11:35 AM

Midtowne Spa and Flexx. The former is much more fun.

by Anonymousreply 331June 27, 2022 1:32 PM

We're all older than we used to be. Why do you think time hasn't done a curtsy on your face? Get over it.

by Anonymousreply 332June 27, 2022 1:35 PM


by Anonymousreply 333June 27, 2022 2:18 PM

I went to my bathhouse establishment on Saturday. I had sex with this portly guy who must have been 76 years old or older. He actually wanted me to suck his 4 incher after he finished sucking me. I had sex with someone who could be best described as a white Latino. He was attractive and I was fucking him with a condom but the condom was too tight so the sex act became a chore even though he was attractive and I was attracted to him. The under 30 crowd did not seem to notice me and that bothered me- I know you dl bitches are going to attack me for mentioning this again but have at it.

by Anonymousreply 334June 27, 2022 2:29 PM

Why do you keep going Op the experience seems to always let you down?

by Anonymousreply 335June 27, 2022 2:31 PM

R335- I'm always hoping my experience will improve the next time. I do see a few so called regulars there but there are people I see once and don't see again. There was a guy walking around wearing a cap- he was so interesting looking ( not just because he wore a cap- I do like a man in a cap for some reason). I wanted to know his story and I wanted to see him naked- oh well.

by Anonymousreply 336June 27, 2022 2:54 PM

R334 Let us know when you're ready to admit that you're a sex addict who has hit rock bottom. The rest of us are already seeing it.

by Anonymousreply 337June 28, 2022 7:08 AM

[quote]Midtowne Spa and Flexx. The former is much more fun.

Fun? Isn't Midtown Spa downtown LA right next to the real skid row? That area is hyper dangerous. Mostly old trolls, black dudes and homeless guys who dont shower go there from what I have heard.

Dont park your car on the street. Also, Uber may not want to pickup at that part of town, especially at night. Just be warned.

by Anonymousreply 338June 28, 2022 7:16 AM

^ frequents Midtown Spa and sucks off the druggies.

by Anonymousreply 339June 28, 2022 7:20 AM

Why does anyone keep fucking people they find disgusting or undeserving? Especially in circumstances that lead to disease? With no thought about anything but the next cum.

It's loneliness, I suppose.

by Anonymousreply 340June 28, 2022 7:26 AM

^ Having a conversation with herself, not realizing we can hear her.

by Anonymousreply 341June 28, 2022 7:28 AM

Midtown Spa - World Famous Sling Room.

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by Anonymousreply 342June 28, 2022 7:50 AM

And who said glamour is dead?

by Anonymousreply 343June 28, 2022 11:50 AM

R337- Hardly. The last time I went there- three weeks before I didn’t bother having any sex. Perhaps 🤔 you’re jealous because you haven’t had sex since the Carter administration and you’ve been living through my sexual adventures vicariously.

by Anonymousreply 344June 28, 2022 12:06 PM

Is there much oriental bussy to be had there?

by Anonymousreply 345June 28, 2022 12:16 PM

I hope they re-record this as “Asian Gate” or they are getting CANCELLED!

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by Anonymousreply 346June 28, 2022 12:18 PM

Even when I am 76 I don't think I would let a 76 year old fat guy suck my dick. Jesus OP how big is your dick that the condom was too tight?

by Anonymousreply 347June 28, 2022 1:40 PM

R347- 7x6

by Anonymousreply 348June 28, 2022 1:45 PM

r348 that is not that big. My husband has a baby arm and before we went full bare he never had an issue. Were they the cheapy free condoms at the bathhouse?

by Anonymousreply 349June 28, 2022 1:56 PM

R349- They give you condoms and lube- free.

by Anonymousreply 350June 28, 2022 2:14 PM

I haven't been to a bathhouse/gay sauna since pre-covid. I can imagine the gloryholes are even more popular now?

by Anonymousreply 351June 28, 2022 2:51 PM

Especially for the pox-faced sluts.

by Anonymousreply 352June 28, 2022 2:55 PM

R351- My local bathhouse does not have gloryholes- as far as I know.

by Anonymousreply 353June 28, 2022 3:24 PM

Just stay home and jerk off Op, maybe you'll be less mopey afterward.

by Anonymousreply 354June 28, 2022 3:27 PM

R354- I hardly ever have an orgasm at the bathhouse. I usually have to masturbate to something on my computer when I get home.

by Anonymousreply 355June 28, 2022 3:28 PM

That sounds sad and pointless Op.

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by Anonymousreply 357June 28, 2022 3:37 PM

R357- Please translate.

by Anonymousreply 358June 28, 2022 3:42 PM

OP hasn't heard about Monkey Pox, I'm sure....or condoms.

by Anonymousreply 359June 28, 2022 4:11 PM

I wouldn't mind seeing someone like that Frat Boy from the Bronx who doesn't like Bodegas- at the Bathhouse and having some HOT , SWEATY action with him.

by Anonymousreply 360July 2, 2022 2:23 PM

Not really. I just said that to get attention. The frat boy in Chicago who shoved the trainer- he was HOT to me. Much more my type- slim and good looking.

by Anonymousreply 361July 2, 2022 11:56 PM

I went to The Fair Theatre in Queens about 6 or 7 years ago on the advice of an acquaintance. He said it had a definite hustler/trade vibe. Out of my lifelong circle of friends, i've always been the most sexually curious/adventurous, with my compass, map and machete on-hand as I clear a path through boroughs unexplored, boldly forging ahead while the more sensible ones trail behind me, sometimes a bit reluctantly. So I just had to check it out.

I went in with expectations lowered as a coping mechanism. From the street it appeared deserted and past its prime, but once inside it was lively and crowded. I stayed for an hour, but it just wan't for me. It caters to an entire subset of gays that is just as gay as I am, but the commonalities end right there. Just checked on line via yelp and it is still up and running.

A big part of the visit that tainted my mood was this: the theatre was built in 1939 as an offshoot of the 1939 NY World's Fair in Flushing Meadows, Queens. Hence the name. Having attended the 1964 NY World's Fair, I appreciate NY WF trivia of all kinds. It saddened me to see a tawdry porn palace (there are three movie screens running non-stop, some with legit movies) in what could have been historically preserved as an art deco treasure .

by Anonymousreply 362July 4, 2022 2:09 PM

R362- A lot of the theatres in Times Square were beautiful Art Deco palaces that by 1968 had been reduced to PORN palaces.

by Anonymousreply 363July 4, 2022 2:14 PM

Do you have Monkey Pox in your urethra or anus yet, Op?

by Anonymousreply 364July 4, 2022 3:47 PM

R364- I'm not a bottom. I never get fucked and the only thing I ever GOT was Crabs.

by Anonymousreply 365July 4, 2022 4:24 PM

OP, you have problems?

by Anonymousreply 366July 4, 2022 4:37 PM

Miss Sorvino you were FABULOUS in The Bucaneers.

by Anonymousreply 367July 4, 2022 4:41 PM

So just your urethra then R365?

by Anonymousreply 368July 4, 2022 9:45 PM

OP - Very curious. In your late 30's, how many guys did you hook up with that were 55 or over?

Also, the comment here is telling: "I've gone to rentmen.com several times. I find the men there generally VERY average looking. The guys walking around the bathhouse were a lot better looking then the escorts at rentmen.com." They are not "very average looking". The average American man is 5'9 and over 190 lbs. The average escort on rentmen is in very good shape, most are under 35, the tops tend to be average to very well endowed and the bottoms tend to have great asses.

The idea of hiring a sex worker so you can fuck a 10 (whatever that means to you) will probably result in disappointment on your end. First, nobody looks like the 10s in real life modeling photos. Instead, find the escorts in your cities and see if any you like have onlyfans. Or twitter accounts. See if they're open to a variety of guys (or older guys in your case). Also if you go in through the .eu portal on main page, you can click on reviews...and you can then click on the men reviewing the escorts. Some have pictures and stats. If a 300lb guy gave the escort 5 stars, you dont have to worry if that extra 25-40 lbs you're carrying around will bother him. if you see photos of guys in their 70s giving him great reviews, he's willing to fuck a 50 something and have a good time.

by Anonymousreply 369July 4, 2022 10:18 PM
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