If he'd had a Tumblr he'd have called himself a Homo-Romantic Asexual. I think he was in love with Dahoum but never fucked him, or anyone else.
[quote] Lawrence said he never had a sexual relationship and most people who knew him found that credible. In 1927, he wrote to his friend the (homosexual) novelist E. M. Forster, ‘I’m so funnily made up, sexually,’ and later that same year went further. Having read Forster’s ghost story, ‘Dr Woolacott’, in which a man dies after a gay sexual encounter.
[quote]Lawrence wrote that ‘The Turks, as you probably know (or have guessed, through the reticences of the Seven Pillars) did it to me, by force . . . I couldn’t ever do it, I believe: the impulse strong enough to make me touch another creature has not yet been born in me.’
[quote]The following year, with Robert Graves, the poet and at that point his biographer, he had a discussion ‘about fucking’: ‘As I wrote (with some courage, I think: few people admit the damaging ignorance) I haven’t ever: and don’t much want to.’
[quote]The most important testimony, at this young, Carchemish stage of his life, comes from Lawrence’s Oxford friend and fellow print-enthusiast Vyvyan Richards, who would have been stunned to know that there was anything sexual in Lawrence’s relationship with Dahoum, as he had hoped for such intimacy himself.
[quote] ‘He had neither flesh nor carnality of any kind,’ Richards wrote, after confessing his love for his friend. ‘He received my affection, my sacrifice, in fact, eventually my total subservience, as though it was his due. He neither gave the slightest sign that he understood my motives or fathomed my desire. In return for all I offered him – with admittedly ulterior motives – he gave me the purest affection, love and respect that I have ever received from anyone . . . a love and respect that was spiritual in quality. I realise now that he was sexless – at least that he was unaware of sex.’
[quote]Even Woolley eventually mitigated his salacious remarks, insisting that Lawrence ‘was in no sense a pervert; in fact, he had a remarkably clean mind. He was tolerant, thanks to his classical reading, and Greek homosexuality interested him, but in a detached way, and the interest was not morbid but perfectly serious.’