Mismatched gay couples

I don't understand how a masculine fit hung gay man, is into an anorexic diva worshiping effeminate man, but will turn down other masculine fit hung gay men. We all have a type of guy, but some types like as described, make little sense.

The heart (and the D) wants what it wants.

That’s an easy one: money.

Hello

What's to understand?

You get them while young, have a fat dick to please them, and have a good career. Most of the hotties are just bottom bitches that get off on being led around. Never do these relationships have the hot one playing the alpha role. They want to be dominated, protected, and pounded.

Exhibit A.

Exhibit B. These boys are always massive bottoms. Had friend like this at home. Traditionally, the most attractive guy in the room. He pulled other 9s and 10s, but when we chatted one-on-one, he told me about a slightly hefty guy hairy guy he was seeing from time to time because the guy threw a great fuck and treated him like he wasn't a walking god. So that bit of rejection by the less hot guy, coupled with his cock, and their need t find an alpha to tame them is the glue that binds em.

Somewhere in there love may develop. They know that their uglier man is not likely to run off because that are the "best" that they will ever find. The equally hot pattern is always scanning and neither feels settled in their situation.

Also, if it's Hollywood, these boys are whores so just be rich and powerful. Fun topic OP.

Fine note, I need to get a blog, age plays a factor in longterm relationships. At some point one partner may be able to maintain their looks, while the other's country bumpkin gene may start to flair like some TLC sideshow. They are committed so they remain together, but that hotness imbalance can naturally occur with time.

See it with straight couples all the time. he wives balloon after having kids, sometimes the men don't. Around 30 is when decision are being made. Some men remain active and fit, the women usually hide the weight behind whatever crotch fruit they place in front of them in the family photo. Husband may still be hot and if he's with a whale, probably cheating. Doesn't seem to work as much in the other direction when women get fitter than their fat husbands. But I've seen one to many fit dads walk into a resturant followed by their waddling wife and 1-3 brats.

Animal magnetism. Some weird pairs have a ton of chemistry, inexplicably.

Also, the hottest humans come from unique looking people making a diamond in the rough.

The less attractive ones usually treat the pretty ones like they're God's gift to the world and take care of them. Who wouldn't want that?

There's also the possibility that they have more to talk about and bond over. In my experience, some of the best looking people I've been with might have been great in the sack, but lousy with conversation before and after. Who wants a relationship with someone like that unless you're incredibly superficial?

R11 is bisexual which is all you need to know.

R10 is an anti-scientific bleeding heart vagina. Ugly makes ugly.

Daddy issues. That will be all.

[quote]I don't understand how a masculine fit hung gay man, is into an anorexic diva worshiping effeminate man, but will turn down other masculine fit hung gay men. We all have a type of guy, but some types like as described, make little sense.

R1 - fuck - thats me! Well I'm not that hung, but reasonable, am not interested in other masc guys at all

Like what R2 says, the heart wants what the heart wants, and skinny, mincing prissy fems are a huge turn on for me. Maybe it dont make no sense but there it is

I'm not that gay man who hates you or any other gay man who likes skinny effeminate diva worshipping gay man, I just don't understand it. But as long as you are actually gay man, that's all that really matters at the end of the day though.

R12 am I bisexual? That's news to me.

R15 I'm not that gay man who hates you or any other gay man who likes skinny effeminate diva worshipping gay man, I just don't understand it. But as long as you are actually gay man, that's all that really matters at the end of the day though.

Easy: The hot one is a bottom. Being a top means you get to date hotter guys. In fact, some really slutty bottoms like ugly fat guys because it makes them feel even more “piggy” when getting fucked. Many bottoms like the idea of being degraded. An ugly top fulfills that desire.

R17 that's right bi cunt. I'm onto you.

OP = Pete Buttigieg

I guess I should be enjoying more pussy then R20. Thank you for opening up my eyes. This has been such an "ah ha" moment.

R19 a hot guy who is a masculine bottom, getting an ugly guy to penetrate him, is like a vegan sitting down and sucking fat grease off animal foods.

R22 🙏🖕🗡️

R22 "more pussy?". Yeah, you give yourself again away like all fake "gay" men do. I hope you get tongue cancer from your fish.

In my case, it was true love.

I knew a tall handsome muscular guy whose long term boyfriend was obese. Told me he felt secure, knew the boyfriend would never leave him. As it turned out, the handsome guy died suddenly at 28.

R27 LOL!

I’m a top Adonis who likes ugly fatties, ask me anything

R29 why are you so fucked up and illogical?

R29 are you bisexual or gay?

HELLO FRIENDS-- THE LOVE THAT CAN GROW BETWEEN TWO LOVING ADULTS IS WHAT MAKES A "MATCH".. BLESS,BILL

Getting back to OP's question, the answer is..... they're chubby chasers. Its a thing, I've seen it.

I knew this incredibly hot, beautiful slim guy, who I lusted after for years. He had a 500 pound partner, shorter than him too. I could never get my head round it.

R26 that really struck me too, Fry has done incredibly well to get that hot guy as a partner, he's quite a catch. That tack tacky place they're getting married though......

[quote] According to documents on display in Norwich, the wedding will take place in Breckland Business Centre, which houses the register office. The ceremony room is the "outstanding feature" of the building, according to the Norfolk County Council website. It says: "Decorated in a modern style, in shades of turquoise, lilac and purple, there is seating for 40 people."

Urrgggh. It sound absolutely fucking hideous

[quote] Urrgggh. It sound absolutely fucking hideous

They had to hurry the wedding because there was a real estate seminar immediately following. LOL Photo at the end of the article below.

Its.... less worse than I thought it would be. Still hideous, drop ceilings, flourescent lighting and all, but not as ugly as I'd envisaged from the words "decorated in a modern style"

Lilac walls and brown drapes do not go together. Oh, those Brits!

I think R25 has issues.

R37 hey BTQ+ CUNT, the door is the same way you invaded in.

Ranting and raving online about bi guys is a really, really pathetic hobby

R39 you bi guys at on gay platforms. When you get the fuck off gay platforms and go create your own bi platforms, then no one here will have to talk about you bi scum invading our gay space.

I’m not bi you spastic

R39 what's pathetic is how you bisexual men invade every gay space and bring your bisexuality into everything gay related, and then you bi cunts complain about "no bisexual representation". Create your own bi stuff on bi platforms for once in your pathetic bi lives. Telling gay men to be okay with you invading our gay spaces, (which are nearly extinct thanks to your narcissistic invading BTQ+ freaks) like this gay website, is the exact reason why majority of us gay men hate you BTQ+ CUNTS.

R41 defending bi scum who invade gay spaces and tell gay men what to do, makes you bi as well, because actual gay men don't put up with that shit.

I was the "undesirable" in a previous seven-year relationship. Overweight, fairly lazy, and I hate crowds.

My ex was objectively beautiful. 6'2" 170# and ten years younger than I. Sex was fantastic, right to the end. I am taller and better educated, which I suspect was part of his attraction to me. I made more money (I was ten years older), but he made good money himself. He was gregarious and funny. People naturally gravitated to him, as did I.

Our undoing was probably due to my lack of self-confidence – I always wondered why the hell he chose me. I suspect that I poorly hid this insecurity. And, at its core, this was a trust issue. I could not trust that he loved me for me. I mourned the relationship, but also felt incredible relief when we parted ways.

R44 the undoing of your relationship was because you weren't fat and lazy, you admitted it yourself.

Are you still fat and lazy, or did you get your stomach pumped out like Adele?

the undoing of your relationship was because you were fat and lazy* - (spelling correction)^

You also see it all the time with hot straight dudes with very fat women, while it might be hard for you or me to understand, some people have a fat fetish, and if you don't share a fetish you will never really understand them.

I will say that I've had fav porn stars, and then made the mistake of hearing them talk in an interview. They go from looking like a 10 to a 5 really quick. Also when an insta hottie I'm following decides he's going to share his shitty political opinions, he starts to look less appealing. Also I've been on dates with guys that I didn't find super attractive at first, but I had nothing better to do, so I met up with them. After an hour of engaging conversation, they become dream boats. It's really strange, so maybe I'm a sapiosexual?

This thread is why most of y’all are bitter, perpetually single bitches.

In my youth I was a solid 8 ,sometimes a 10 when the stars aligned. My 1st true love,may he rest in peace,was a 5 on his best day and he knew it. I cant tell you how many times I was asked what I saw in him. He had a great body and a juicy dick though,wich helped a lot. When he first pursued me I was having none of it ,but something changed and I can truthfully say I never loved anyone as much as I loved him.

[quote]I've been wanking and presenting hole for a guy next door from my window

The rampaging spastic in this thread posted this elsewhere and wasn’t joking, check his history for the whole pathetic story

R51 it's not a story BTQ+ cunt. It's the truth. You copied my post from another thread and pasted it here in another thread, because why freak? The pathetic cunt is you.

I can tell you for the one couple I know like this. My friend is hot as shit. His husband is shorter and fatter, balding and hairy. He is also the owner of a 10 inch cock that rings his husband's bell.

[quote]kids use to ridicule me

No shit!

R48 "sapiosexual" isn't a real sexual orientation, just like "pansexual" isn't a real sexual orientation. What drugs do are you on?

Sounds like SOMEONE got burned by and bi!

To the example OP gave, in general it's because the more effeminate man reinforces the masculinity of the other more 'masculine' man in appearances.

Plowing your cock into a big fat ass can be very satisfying.

You're a rare breed R15

I have actually only known of one prissy, fem, swishy guy who always had a boyfriend and guys seemed to fall out of the trees for him. He was the whole 9 yards; tight tight pants and shirts, big swoopy hair, makeup, absolute bitch/drama queen, and ugly to boot.

Was a big mystery to me and my friends.

[quote]In my youth I was a solid 8 ,sometimes a 10 when the stars aligned

How can someone objectively rate themselves? Does narcissism generally cause someone to have low self awareness?

Some masculine guys like tight-bootied twinks who aren't necessarily super macho

Jesus Christ. Youl'll all be dead in 60-70 years. Have you nothing more interesting to discuss?

[quote]Youl'll all be dead in 60-70 years.

Try 5-10 years. Do you know where you are?

It's money and/or big fat cock that does it.

R55 Never claimed it was a real orientation haha Just that I may like smart guys

R65 fair enough.

Well R60 ,let me put it this way. I was told all my life i was good looking,I never had a problem getting laid ,only twice in my sexual career was I turned down (bet you cant say that) and at 60 years old,fat etc,I still get called handsome all the time. Low self awareness isnt my problem. I know what I was then and what I am now. If I was delusional about my looks,wouldnt I have said I was a 10 ?

[quote]let me put it this way. I was told all my life i was good looking

Your spinster aunt, your mom, and your SPED teacher don't count, sweetie.

R1 Why would you be surprised in a masculine / feminine dynamic?

R69 homosexuality and gay men isn't about femininity, it's about masculinity. If you want to subscribe to the "at least one of the gay men must be "feminine", then believe that. This is the lifeblood of homosexuality, gay men, and gay identity, and that's why we are gay men.👇

R70 sounds like a mincing priss pot

Fry is not a good example of a lumpy top getting a fine bottom, at least if you believe his going on the record as never having engaged in butt sex.

Casey Frey is a bisexual chubby chaser

R44 thank you for sharing that. Your answer is the best one here. Relationships/attraction is so extremely complicated and nuanced. But the social scientists on the DL have simplified it: i.e. big dick, money.

I know from experience that insecurity is a complete turn off to a partner (I'm the insecure one); and it almost becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: "You're insecure, well, fuck, I'm going to do something that WILL make you feel insecure."

Or, I could be totally wrong.

You never know whom you’ll fall in love with. Looks only go so far.

R59 yeah I know I'm a rarity! A couple years on here have made THAT abundantly clear!

The " absolute bitch/drama queen" part I can absolutely do without, but that doesnt necessarily come with the territory, theres nice, calm low drama fems out there too, just that they arent as noticeable

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Jesus Christ R77, the hair! He looks like he stepped straight out of a highschool in 2007. How’s the outfit in this pic

His boytoy needs to put him on a diet

A confident 6 can become a 9 very quickly. Some quirks are unknown. Guys with big dicks always know they have a big dick but some guys are just fucking amazing in bed and you would not know it to look at them.

There is nothing wrong with falling in love with someone who is not very well built or good looking. In fact, I think it's kind of heart-warming.

But, you don't have a relationship with those kind of people and you most certainly do not be seen in public with them. What matters in this world is who compliments your appearance and draws envy for you from others. Rule number one in the gay world is that superficiality outranks stupid things like kindness and good character. Bring up loyalty and I'll just laugh at you.

I’m pretty good looking. I can have great sexual chemistry with men much better looking or much worse looking—it’s so hard to predict. The chemistry often leads to a general discussion and sometimes dating.

Once you like someone’s mind, you sort of forget what they look like.

I often get crushes on men who, at first glance, I thought were unattractive. Once I get to know them and they happen to have great personalities, I’ll starting crushing.

I’ve had a hard crush on a guy for a decade at work. He’s straight and schlubby—and gotten even schlubbier as he’s gotten older—but he’s laugh out loud hilarious, so extraordinarily nice, and smart as hell. If he were gay, I would have married him long ago, but sadly for me, he’s married to a woman,

[quote] Once you like someone’s mind, you sort of forget what they look like.

You're not gay, are you!

These two

^ And see this thread for why many [not all] on DL think they’re mismatched

I was wondering what the BF looked like.

My husband and I are very similar. You bitches would probably call us twins except he's dark and I'm light. Both tall, pretty fit.

But we have friends who have been together about 15 years. One is a god, the other is chubby. I wondered about these two until I saw younger photos of them when they both were trim and hot.

With age one (or both) can become a fatty like Chasten but the love and devotion is still there. It happens.

What's the mystery here?

We're all on a spectrum. At one extreme looks are everything and at the other they don't matter much. Most of course are in between somewhere.

What's silly is to think that everyone else is wired the same way you are.

If we need to be that much alike, one of us is unnecessary.

R78- The SO CALLED boytoy has a GUT too just like his daddy. Boytoy just generally has a LUMPY body.

Most.

One of my favorite FB couples is a mismatch- looks wise, one is stunning and the other is meh. But meh has a gorgeous cock. He is also an amazing kisser and has a way better personality.

In fact, I like it when stunning goes to sleep, leaving me and meh alone—that’s when the fireworks really start.

r83 that totally makes sense. I'm usually attracted to guys like you've described.

Here's another possibility. I'm sure it's just like the straight world. You see a hot man with a dumpy woman or a hot husband who cheats on his beautiful wife with a plain or ugly mistress. For these guys, it's not how the mediocre woman looks, it's how she makes him [bold]feel[/bold].

Besides great bedroom skills, the physically unattractive partner might also have a wonderful, easygoing personality. Being around him on a regular basis would be comfortable and not a fucking chore.

Based on your horrible description, you’d probably hate me OP but as a top ginger daddy bear, I am swimming in Dick and don’t care if you think we’re mismatches.

We’re having a moment and I for one am taking advantage of the fact that people are more open to non-standard definitions of beauty and attractiveness.

I’m a 6 or 7 at best, but with a big I can easily get 9s and 10s.

I'm just an average looking guy, probably look like a young David Hyde Pierce. I'm educated, read a lot, can carry on a conversation, but I have a hard time relating to people my age.

I have unique interests for a twenty-something: I enjoy foreign films (La Grande Illusion being #1), only listen to classical music/opera, and am not into PDA. It is very difficult for me sometimes and I feel I will be forever alone.

Have you never seen mismatched straight couples OP?

With gay couples I always assume the really good looking one is secretly straight.

[quote] I don’t see it all the time, but occasionally I will see a gorgeous, trim, in shape man with an obese schlub and it boggles my mind. How do fatties hoodwink attractive men like this?

I’m also very, very curious to know.

Fattie alcoholic Trump-voting LOSERS like DefuckedUp at R99 will NEVER get anyone to fuck them, 10s or 0s.

You're exactly my type R 97. I'm a rich eldergay who loves the same things you do.

Yet we will never meet.

r101

R101 Want to chat offline? lol