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Mismatched gay couples

What explains this?

I don’t see it all the time, but occasionally I will see a gorgeous, trim, in shape man with an obese schlub and it boggles my mind. How do fatties hoodwink attractive men like this? What do hotties see in these walrus-like creatures?

How can the hotties not know they can do better? I truly fail to understand.

by Anonymousreply 95November 26, 2021 7:04 PM

I don't understand how a masculine fit hung gay man, is into an anorexic diva worshiping effeminate man, but will turn down other masculine fit hung gay men. We all have a type of guy, but some types like as described, make little sense.

by Anonymousreply 1November 24, 2021 6:44 PM

The heart (and the D) wants what it wants.

by Anonymousreply 2November 24, 2021 6:46 PM

That’s an easy one: money.

by Anonymousreply 3November 24, 2021 6:55 PM


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by Anonymousreply 4November 24, 2021 6:56 PM

What's to understand?

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by Anonymousreply 5November 24, 2021 6:59 PM

You get them while young, have a fat dick to please them, and have a good career. Most of the hotties are just bottom bitches that get off on being led around. Never do these relationships have the hot one playing the alpha role. They want to be dominated, protected, and pounded.

Exhibit A.

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by Anonymousreply 6November 24, 2021 7:15 PM

Exhibit B. These boys are always massive bottoms. Had friend like this at home. Traditionally, the most attractive guy in the room. He pulled other 9s and 10s, but when we chatted one-on-one, he told me about a slightly hefty guy hairy guy he was seeing from time to time because the guy threw a great fuck and treated him like he wasn't a walking god. So that bit of rejection by the less hot guy, coupled with his cock, and their need t find an alpha to tame them is the glue that binds em.

Somewhere in there love may develop. They know that their uglier man is not likely to run off because that are the "best" that they will ever find. The equally hot pattern is always scanning and neither feels settled in their situation.

Also, if it's Hollywood, these boys are whores so just be rich and powerful. Fun topic OP.

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by Anonymousreply 7November 24, 2021 7:21 PM

Fine note, I need to get a blog, age plays a factor in longterm relationships. At some point one partner may be able to maintain their looks, while the other's country bumpkin gene may start to flair like some TLC sideshow. They are committed so they remain together, but that hotness imbalance can naturally occur with time.

See it with straight couples all the time. he wives balloon after having kids, sometimes the men don't. Around 30 is when decision are being made. Some men remain active and fit, the women usually hide the weight behind whatever crotch fruit they place in front of them in the family photo. Husband may still be hot and if he's with a whale, probably cheating. Doesn't seem to work as much in the other direction when women get fitter than their fat husbands. But I've seen one to many fit dads walk into a resturant followed by their waddling wife and 1-3 brats.

by Anonymousreply 8November 24, 2021 7:26 PM

Animal magnetism. Some weird pairs have a ton of chemistry, inexplicably.

by Anonymousreply 9November 24, 2021 7:31 PM

Also, the hottest humans come from unique looking people making a diamond in the rough.

by Anonymousreply 10November 24, 2021 7:36 PM

The less attractive ones usually treat the pretty ones like they're God's gift to the world and take care of them. Who wouldn't want that?

There's also the possibility that they have more to talk about and bond over. In my experience, some of the best looking people I've been with might have been great in the sack, but lousy with conversation before and after. Who wants a relationship with someone like that unless you're incredibly superficial?

by Anonymousreply 11November 24, 2021 8:03 PM

R11 is bisexual which is all you need to know.

by Anonymousreply 12November 24, 2021 8:06 PM

R10 is an anti-scientific bleeding heart vagina. Ugly makes ugly.

by Anonymousreply 13November 24, 2021 8:08 PM

Daddy issues. That will be all.

by Anonymousreply 14November 24, 2021 9:22 PM

[quote]I don't understand how a masculine fit hung gay man, is into an anorexic diva worshiping effeminate man, but will turn down other masculine fit hung gay men. We all have a type of guy, but some types like as described, make little sense.

R1 - fuck - thats me! Well I'm not that hung, but reasonable, am not interested in other masc guys at all

Like what R2 says, the heart wants what the heart wants, and skinny, mincing prissy fems are a huge turn on for me. Maybe it dont make no sense but there it is

by Anonymousreply 15November 24, 2021 11:25 PM

I'm not that gay man who hates you or any other gay man who likes skinny effeminate diva worshipping gay man, I just don't understand it. But as long as you are actually gay man, that's all that really matters at the end of the day though.

by Anonymousreply 16November 24, 2021 11:28 PM

R12 am I bisexual? That's news to me.

by Anonymousreply 17November 24, 2021 11:29 PM

R15 I'm not that gay man who hates you or any other gay man who likes skinny effeminate diva worshipping gay man, I just don't understand it. But as long as you are actually gay man, that's all that really matters at the end of the day though.

by Anonymousreply 18November 24, 2021 11:30 PM

Easy: The hot one is a bottom. Being a top means you get to date hotter guys. In fact, some really slutty bottoms like ugly fat guys because it makes them feel even more “piggy” when getting fucked. Many bottoms like the idea of being degraded. An ugly top fulfills that desire.

by Anonymousreply 19November 24, 2021 11:34 PM

R17 that's right bi cunt. I'm onto you.

by Anonymousreply 20November 24, 2021 11:34 PM

OP = Pete Buttigieg

by Anonymousreply 21November 24, 2021 11:36 PM

I guess I should be enjoying more pussy then R20. Thank you for opening up my eyes. This has been such an "ah ha" moment.

by Anonymousreply 22November 24, 2021 11:36 PM

R19 a hot guy who is a masculine bottom, getting an ugly guy to penetrate him, is like a vegan sitting down and sucking fat grease off animal foods.

by Anonymousreply 23November 24, 2021 11:37 PM

R22 🙏🖕🗡️

by Anonymousreply 24November 24, 2021 11:38 PM

R22 "more pussy?". Yeah, you give yourself again away like all fake "gay" men do. I hope you get tongue cancer from your fish.

by Anonymousreply 25November 24, 2021 11:41 PM

In my case, it was true love.

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by Anonymousreply 26November 24, 2021 11:42 PM

I knew a tall handsome muscular guy whose long term boyfriend was obese. Told me he felt secure, knew the boyfriend would never leave him. As it turned out, the handsome guy died suddenly at 28.

by Anonymousreply 27November 24, 2021 11:50 PM

R27 LOL!

by Anonymousreply 28November 24, 2021 11:51 PM

I’m a top Adonis who likes ugly fatties, ask me anything

by Anonymousreply 29November 25, 2021 12:21 AM

R29 why are you so fucked up and illogical?

by Anonymousreply 30November 25, 2021 12:23 AM

R29 are you bisexual or gay?

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by Anonymousreply 32November 25, 2021 12:43 AM

Getting back to OP's question, the answer is..... they're chubby chasers. Its a thing, I've seen it.

I knew this incredibly hot, beautiful slim guy, who I lusted after for years. He had a 500 pound partner, shorter than him too. I could never get my head round it.

R26 that really struck me too, Fry has done incredibly well to get that hot guy as a partner, he's quite a catch. That tack tacky place they're getting married though......

[quote] According to documents on display in Norwich, the wedding will take place in Breckland Business Centre, which houses the register office. The ceremony room is the "outstanding feature" of the building, according to the Norfolk County Council website. It says: "Decorated in a modern style, in shades of turquoise, lilac and purple, there is seating for 40 people."

Urrgggh. It sound absolutely fucking hideous

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by Anonymousreply 33November 25, 2021 1:06 AM

[quote] Urrgggh. It sound absolutely fucking hideous

They had to hurry the wedding because there was a real estate seminar immediately following. LOL Photo at the end of the article below.

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by Anonymousreply 34November 25, 2021 1:14 AM

Its.... less worse than I thought it would be. Still hideous, drop ceilings, flourescent lighting and all, but not as ugly as I'd envisaged from the words "decorated in a modern style"

by Anonymousreply 35November 25, 2021 1:21 AM

Lilac walls and brown drapes do not go together. Oh, those Brits!

by Anonymousreply 36November 25, 2021 1:23 AM

I think R25 has issues.

by Anonymousreply 37November 25, 2021 2:22 AM

R37 hey BTQ+ CUNT, the door is the same way you invaded in.

by Anonymousreply 38November 25, 2021 2:29 AM

Ranting and raving online about bi guys is a really, really pathetic hobby

by Anonymousreply 39November 25, 2021 2:52 AM

R39 you bi guys at on gay platforms. When you get the fuck off gay platforms and go create your own bi platforms, then no one here will have to talk about you bi scum invading our gay space.

by Anonymousreply 40November 25, 2021 3:01 AM

I’m not bi you spastic

by Anonymousreply 41November 25, 2021 3:07 AM

R39 what's pathetic is how you bisexual men invade every gay space and bring your bisexuality into everything gay related, and then you bi cunts complain about "no bisexual representation". Create your own bi stuff on bi platforms for once in your pathetic bi lives. Telling gay men to be okay with you invading our gay spaces, (which are nearly extinct thanks to your narcissistic invading BTQ+ freaks) like this gay website, is the exact reason why majority of us gay men hate you BTQ+ CUNTS.

by Anonymousreply 42November 25, 2021 3:10 AM

R41 defending bi scum who invade gay spaces and tell gay men what to do, makes you bi as well, because actual gay men don't put up with that shit.

by Anonymousreply 43November 25, 2021 3:11 AM

I was the "undesirable" in a previous seven-year relationship. Overweight, fairly lazy, and I hate crowds.

My ex was objectively beautiful. 6'2" 170# and ten years younger than I. Sex was fantastic, right to the end. I am taller and better educated, which I suspect was part of his attraction to me. I made more money (I was ten years older), but he made good money himself. He was gregarious and funny. People naturally gravitated to him, as did I.

Our undoing was probably due to my lack of self-confidence – I always wondered why the hell he chose me. I suspect that I poorly hid this insecurity. And, at its core, this was a trust issue. I could not trust that he loved me for me. I mourned the relationship, but also felt incredible relief when we parted ways.

by Anonymousreply 44November 25, 2021 3:13 AM

R44 the undoing of your relationship was because you weren't fat and lazy, you admitted it yourself.

Are you still fat and lazy, or did you get your stomach pumped out like Adele?

by Anonymousreply 45November 25, 2021 3:23 AM

the undoing of your relationship was because you were fat and lazy* - (spelling correction)^

by Anonymousreply 46November 25, 2021 3:25 AM

You also see it all the time with hot straight dudes with very fat women, while it might be hard for you or me to understand, some people have a fat fetish, and if you don't share a fetish you will never really understand them.

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by Anonymousreply 47November 25, 2021 3:28 AM

I will say that I've had fav porn stars, and then made the mistake of hearing them talk in an interview. They go from looking like a 10 to a 5 really quick. Also when an insta hottie I'm following decides he's going to share his shitty political opinions, he starts to look less appealing. Also I've been on dates with guys that I didn't find super attractive at first, but I had nothing better to do, so I met up with them. After an hour of engaging conversation, they become dream boats. It's really strange, so maybe I'm a sapiosexual?

by Anonymousreply 48November 25, 2021 3:31 AM

This thread is why most of y’all are bitter, perpetually single bitches.

by Anonymousreply 49November 25, 2021 3:34 AM

In my youth I was a solid 8 ,sometimes a 10 when the stars aligned. My 1st true love,may he rest in peace,was a 5 on his best day and he knew it. I cant tell you how many times I was asked what I saw in him. He had a great body and a juicy dick though,wich helped a lot. When he first pursued me I was having none of it ,but something changed and I can truthfully say I never loved anyone as much as I loved him.

by Anonymousreply 50November 25, 2021 3:49 AM

[quote]I've been wanking and presenting hole for a guy next door from my window

The rampaging spastic in this thread posted this elsewhere and wasn’t joking, check his history for the whole pathetic story

by Anonymousreply 51November 25, 2021 3:51 AM

R51 it's not a story BTQ+ cunt. It's the truth. You copied my post from another thread and pasted it here in another thread, because why freak? The pathetic cunt is you.

by Anonymousreply 52November 25, 2021 3:55 AM

I can tell you for the one couple I know like this. My friend is hot as shit. His husband is shorter and fatter, balding and hairy. He is also the owner of a 10 inch cock that rings his husband's bell.

by Anonymousreply 53November 25, 2021 3:59 AM

[quote]kids use to ridicule me

No shit!

by Anonymousreply 54November 25, 2021 4:05 AM

R48 "sapiosexual" isn't a real sexual orientation, just like "pansexual" isn't a real sexual orientation. What drugs do are you on?

by Anonymousreply 55November 25, 2021 4:20 AM

Sounds like SOMEONE got burned by and bi!

by Anonymousreply 56November 25, 2021 4:25 AM

To the example OP gave, in general it's because the more effeminate man reinforces the masculinity of the other more 'masculine' man in appearances.

by Anonymousreply 57November 25, 2021 4:54 AM

Plowing your cock into a big fat ass can be very satisfying.

by Anonymousreply 58November 25, 2021 4:58 AM

You're a rare breed R15

I have actually only known of one prissy, fem, swishy guy who always had a boyfriend and guys seemed to fall out of the trees for him. He was the whole 9 yards; tight tight pants and shirts, big swoopy hair, makeup, absolute bitch/drama queen, and ugly to boot.

Was a big mystery to me and my friends.

by Anonymousreply 59November 25, 2021 5:06 AM

[quote]In my youth I was a solid 8 ,sometimes a 10 when the stars aligned

How can someone objectively rate themselves? Does narcissism generally cause someone to have low self awareness?

by Anonymousreply 60November 25, 2021 5:12 AM

Some masculine guys like tight-bootied twinks who aren't necessarily super macho

by Anonymousreply 61November 25, 2021 5:13 AM

Jesus Christ. Youl'll all be dead in 60-70 years. Have you nothing more interesting to discuss?

by Anonymousreply 62November 25, 2021 5:24 AM

[quote]Youl'll all be dead in 60-70 years.

Try 5-10 years. Do you know where you are?

by Anonymousreply 63November 25, 2021 5:27 AM

It's money and/or big fat cock that does it.

by Anonymousreply 64November 25, 2021 5:32 AM

R55 Never claimed it was a real orientation haha Just that I may like smart guys

by Anonymousreply 65November 25, 2021 5:53 AM

R65 fair enough.

by Anonymousreply 66November 25, 2021 5:55 AM

Well R60 ,let me put it this way. I was told all my life i was good looking,I never had a problem getting laid ,only twice in my sexual career was I turned down (bet you cant say that) and at 60 years old,fat etc,I still get called handsome all the time. Low self awareness isnt my problem. I know what I was then and what I am now. If I was delusional about my looks,wouldnt I have said I was a 10 ?

by Anonymousreply 67November 25, 2021 5:59 AM

[quote]let me put it this way. I was told all my life i was good looking

Your spinster aunt, your mom, and your SPED teacher don't count, sweetie.

by Anonymousreply 68November 25, 2021 6:09 AM

R1 Why would you be surprised in a masculine / feminine dynamic?

by Anonymousreply 69November 25, 2021 6:12 AM

R69 homosexuality and gay men isn't about femininity, it's about masculinity. If you want to subscribe to the "at least one of the gay men must be "feminine", then believe that. This is the lifeblood of homosexuality, gay men, and gay identity, and that's why we are gay men.👇

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by Anonymousreply 70November 25, 2021 6:29 AM

R70 sounds like a mincing priss pot

by Anonymousreply 71November 25, 2021 11:30 AM

Fry is not a good example of a lumpy top getting a fine bottom, at least if you believe his going on the record as never having engaged in butt sex.

by Anonymousreply 72November 25, 2021 12:30 PM

Casey Frey is a bisexual chubby chaser

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by Anonymousreply 73November 25, 2021 1:40 PM

R44 thank you for sharing that. Your answer is the best one here. Relationships/attraction is so extremely complicated and nuanced. But the social scientists on the DL have simplified it: i.e. big dick, money.

I know from experience that insecurity is a complete turn off to a partner (I'm the insecure one); and it almost becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: "You're insecure, well, fuck, I'm going to do something that WILL make you feel insecure."

Or, I could be totally wrong.

by Anonymousreply 74November 25, 2021 2:06 PM

You never know whom you’ll fall in love with. Looks only go so far.

by Anonymousreply 75November 25, 2021 4:15 PM

R59 yeah I know I'm a rarity! A couple years on here have made THAT abundantly clear!

The " absolute bitch/drama queen" part I can absolutely do without, but that doesnt necessarily come with the territory, theres nice, calm low drama fems out there too, just that they arent as noticeable

by Anonymousreply 76November 25, 2021 7:45 PM

R26- His boytoy is not attractive. Stephen fry has lousy taste in TWINKS.

He looks kinda TRANS in that photo.

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by Anonymousreply 77November 25, 2021 7:52 PM

Jesus Christ R77, the hair! He looks like he stepped straight out of a highschool in 2007. How’s the outfit in this pic

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by Anonymousreply 78November 25, 2021 11:04 PM

His boytoy needs to put him on a diet

by Anonymousreply 79November 25, 2021 11:14 PM

A confident 6 can become a 9 very quickly. Some quirks are unknown. Guys with big dicks always know they have a big dick but some guys are just fucking amazing in bed and you would not know it to look at them.

by Anonymousreply 80November 26, 2021 12:55 AM

There is nothing wrong with falling in love with someone who is not very well built or good looking. In fact, I think it's kind of heart-warming.

But, you don't have a relationship with those kind of people and you most certainly do not be seen in public with them. What matters in this world is who compliments your appearance and draws envy for you from others. Rule number one in the gay world is that superficiality outranks stupid things like kindness and good character. Bring up loyalty and I'll just laugh at you.

by Anonymousreply 81November 26, 2021 2:35 AM

I’m pretty good looking. I can have great sexual chemistry with men much better looking or much worse looking—it’s so hard to predict. The chemistry often leads to a general discussion and sometimes dating.

Once you like someone’s mind, you sort of forget what they look like.

by Anonymousreply 82November 26, 2021 3:52 AM

I often get crushes on men who, at first glance, I thought were unattractive. Once I get to know them and they happen to have great personalities, I’ll starting crushing.

I’ve had a hard crush on a guy for a decade at work. He’s straight and schlubby—and gotten even schlubbier as he’s gotten older—but he’s laugh out loud hilarious, so extraordinarily nice, and smart as hell. If he were gay, I would have married him long ago, but sadly for me, he’s married to a woman,

by Anonymousreply 83November 26, 2021 3:56 AM

[quote] Once you like someone’s mind, you sort of forget what they look like.

You're not gay, are you!

by Anonymousreply 84November 26, 2021 7:05 AM

These two

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by Anonymousreply 85November 26, 2021 7:41 AM

^ And see this thread for why many [not all] on DL think they’re mismatched

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by Anonymousreply 86November 26, 2021 7:42 AM

I was wondering what the BF looked like.

by Anonymousreply 87November 26, 2021 7:57 AM

My husband and I are very similar. You bitches would probably call us twins except he's dark and I'm light. Both tall, pretty fit.

But we have friends who have been together about 15 years. One is a god, the other is chubby. I wondered about these two until I saw younger photos of them when they both were trim and hot.

With age one (or both) can become a fatty like Chasten but the love and devotion is still there. It happens.

by Anonymousreply 88November 26, 2021 8:44 AM

What's the mystery here?

We're all on a spectrum. At one extreme looks are everything and at the other they don't matter much. Most of course are in between somewhere.

What's silly is to think that everyone else is wired the same way you are.

by Anonymousreply 89November 26, 2021 9:19 AM

If we need to be that much alike, one of us is unnecessary.

by Anonymousreply 90November 26, 2021 11:19 AM

R78- The SO CALLED boytoy has a GUT too just like his daddy. Boytoy just generally has a LUMPY body.

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by Anonymousreply 92November 26, 2021 12:55 PM

One of my favorite FB couples is a mismatch- looks wise, one is stunning and the other is meh. But meh has a gorgeous cock. He is also an amazing kisser and has a way better personality.

In fact, I like it when stunning goes to sleep, leaving me and meh alone—that’s when the fireworks really start.

by Anonymousreply 93November 26, 2021 1:03 PM

r83 that totally makes sense. I'm usually attracted to guys like you've described.

by Anonymousreply 94November 26, 2021 3:29 PM

Here's another possibility. I'm sure it's just like the straight world. You see a hot man with a dumpy woman or a hot husband who cheats on his beautiful wife with a plain or ugly mistress. For these guys, it's not how the mediocre woman looks, it's how she makes him [bold]feel[/bold].

Besides great bedroom skills, the physically unattractive partner might also have a wonderful, easygoing personality. Being around him on a regular basis would be comfortable and not a fucking chore.

by Anonymousreply 95November 26, 2021 7:04 PM
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