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Hot straight guys with fat, dumpy women

No, I'm not jealous, I just don't understand. I saw an attractive guy out with a woman who had nothing in the looks department. She was fat, badly groomed, badly dressed. If she'd had well-groomed hair and feet,or was fat with a pretty face I could understand. The girl was slovenly, and had feet crammed into flip flops that had an inch of thick callous on her heels.

by Anonymousreply 91April 15, 2021 10:41 PM

The man has low social value. Women value different things in a man. She's the best he can get, at least for now

by Anonymousreply 1April 13, 2021 8:33 PM

10/10, OP. You hit just about all the major talking points about this subject.

by Anonymousreply 2April 13, 2021 8:36 PM

Juggernaut law

by Anonymousreply 3April 13, 2021 8:38 PM

I find this oddly common with members of the military, and men that tend to either be or look like stereotypical rednecks.

Very similar to, or the same as, thin men coupled with large women.

by Anonymousreply 4April 13, 2021 8:44 PM

tits and hips. plus they do oral without question.

by Anonymousreply 5April 13, 2021 8:46 PM

This is a well-known situation in which a man is so concerned with the possibility of having his woman leave him or cheat on him that he goes with a fat ugly chick that he believes no one else would want. It provides some sense of security.

by Anonymousreply 6April 13, 2021 8:55 PM

Only a real man can handle a full figured gal!

by Anonymousreply 7April 13, 2021 8:58 PM

[quote] I find this oddly common with members of the military

Yes, military men would be a good example of men fearing that their wife or girlfriend would leave when they were away. They certainly wouldn’t want to have a good looking woman, who would increase the odds,

by Anonymousreply 8April 13, 2021 8:58 PM

I used to work with a fat girl who had a hot husband but she dressed well, was beautifully made up and had gorgeous waist length hair and had a pretty face and skin.

by Anonymousreply 9April 13, 2021 9:00 PM

Were you hanging around a military family housing base again, OP?

by Anonymousreply 10April 13, 2021 9:00 PM

Maybe she was a relative.

by Anonymousreply 11April 13, 2021 9:02 PM

Yeah, um, amazing.

You mean like, ugly old fat guys or middle aged uninteresting ones masturbating to young hot porn stars?

by Anonymousreply 12April 13, 2021 9:04 PM

Gay gay gay! Or bi and she’s ok with it. LOL

by Anonymousreply 13April 13, 2021 9:06 PM

OP, in the straight world, value works like this:

Attractive woman = high status.

Unattractive woman = low status.

Rich man = high status.

Poor man = low status.

Status attracts status, which means that poor men get ugly women while rich men get hot women. Whether the men are physically attractive is irrelevant because they're not trying to attract other men.

by Anonymousreply 14April 13, 2021 9:06 PM

Straight guys have to take whatever they can get.

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by Anonymousreply 15April 13, 2021 9:09 PM

I see this all the time. R14 nailed it, it's all to do with social status.

by Anonymousreply 16April 13, 2021 9:12 PM

No R10 I was in a restaurant. A I said, it wasn't even just her weight. It was general overall grooming and clothing. Sloppy shorts with a wedgie crawling up her ass, gross, ungroomed feet, scowling, bitchy face. Everything.

by Anonymousreply 17April 13, 2021 9:12 PM

They always have that nasty, bitchy scowl R17. Makes me want to slap them silly and then show their fellas a proper good time.

by Anonymousreply 18April 13, 2021 9:19 PM

You'd think if they had a guy so far above their league in looks they could look happier.

by Anonymousreply 19April 13, 2021 9:38 PM

Shows how easy women have it, yet all they do is complain.

by Anonymousreply 20April 13, 2021 9:43 PM

We all know of the ass crawling wedgie of which you speak OP. It's common among fat people

by Anonymousreply 21April 13, 2021 9:54 PM

Idk, maybe she was having a tough day, or they have a bunch of kids at home, making it hard to doll up. Maybe she's depressed. Maybe it was just a friend or relative. Try not to assume things about people OP just from looking at them (aka mind your own fucking business and worry about yourself.) It'd be such a better world if everyone tried to do that.

by Anonymousreply 22April 14, 2021 12:55 AM

Dating Beautiful women can be a lot of work. I once dated a beautiful girl (I never could accept that she really liked me) and guys were always trying to hit on her. It was tiring even though she always discouraged them.

On the flip side of the coin, I’ve known some beautiful women who were.... difficult. They were well aware of their looks and the effect they had on men, so they played the field just like str8 guys do looking for an upgrade. This one cute girl is dating my one friend and fucking the other because the latter’s body was turning her on. They were both ripped.

I’ve also known beautiful women who got no dates because dudes were too intimidated. Further complicating matters is that str8 men aren’t known to communicate very well. So it does creat a situation where some hot women are not in the game. Str8 guys seem to often choose the path of least resistance.

Finally, a lot of plain girls are just nice and feel domestic like their Mamas. I think a bigger percent of average women have a winning personality compares to the beauty queen. Plus for special occasions chances are the plain jane can pretty up enough to make Daddy proud.

by Anonymousreply 23April 14, 2021 2:16 AM

Usually these fat slobs have several crotch fruit in tow, running around the store/restaurant totally unsupervised.

by Anonymousreply 24April 14, 2021 3:17 AM

Tell me about it OP!

by Anonymousreply 25April 14, 2021 3:27 AM

My wife was basically a friend who I lived with-I wasn’t attracted to her in the least. Not too say that I was so “hot” but I got hit on way more than her.

by Anonymousreply 26April 14, 2021 3:38 AM

[quote] This is a well-known situation in which a man is so concerned with the possibility of having his woman leave him or cheat on him that he goes with a fat ugly chick that he believes no one else would want. It provides some sense of security.

This is the same answer a straight co-worker gave me years ago when I asked him the same question.

by Anonymousreply 27April 14, 2021 3:39 AM

OP...The feet you describe sound like Deborah-Lee Furness (Mrs Hugh Jackman). She has the worst calloused heels and just nasty nails...and always wears the same black granny sandals

by Anonymousreply 28April 14, 2021 4:00 AM

I think OP is Quentin Tarantino, turned on by dirty feet!

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by Anonymousreply 29April 14, 2021 4:03 AM

[quote]Try not to assume things about people OP just from looking at them (aka mind your own fucking business and worry about yourself.) It'd be such a better world if everyone tried to do that.

Very true but this is advice that will fall on deaf ears here on DL.

The fact that we've had literally hundreds of threads about this same exact thing makes this whole scenario highly unlikely to begin with. Like most threads these days, it's just bait provided to unhappy people who are addicted to saying the same things over and over. Maybe it made them feel better to say "those hot straight men have low status and aren't worth anything" back in 2003 when they first said it, but now they're nearing their second decade of repeating that old canard and it's just habit now, it does nothing for them.

by Anonymousreply 30April 14, 2021 4:16 AM

I knew a couple like this growing up. (Good friends of my parents that we often socialized with ). While the husband was moderately good-looking, the wife was not only morbidly obese, she was frequently run-down, bitter, and nastily sarcastic because of problems with the couple's children which only added to her un-attractiveness. Supposedly in college, I had heard my mother comment once they were once madly in love, and both were driven by their Keen intellects and passion for Social Justice Causes ( yes they were Boomers). But those days were long gone. Of course everyone asked, "WHY did he stay with HER?" , but at least from the outside ( or my childish perception) they had a rock-solid relationship.

Only later as an adult when visiting my parents one-time, did the subject come up about this couple/enigma did I learn the truth: my father and the husband, who travelled frequently for the same company, had this to say in rememberance, "Why that old Son-of-a Bitch- he never wasted ANY opportunity on trips to bed as many women as he could."

I have no idea whether the wife knew or not, but certainly the arrangement suited him very well.

by Anonymousreply 31April 14, 2021 4:20 AM

Having thick foot crust seems to be genetic. Poor Debra Lee...

by Anonymousreply 32April 14, 2021 5:04 AM

Exhibit A

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by Anonymousreply 33April 14, 2021 5:09 AM

Ever heard of a chubby chaser? Some straight guys like fat chicks.

by Anonymousreply 34April 14, 2021 5:11 AM

I dated a guy who used a sander on his hoofs. He also used super glue on hus finger skin cracks. I think it is something genetic to grow lizard skin.

by Anonymousreply 35April 14, 2021 5:13 AM

They secretly want to be with you, OP...

by Anonymousreply 36April 14, 2021 5:15 AM

An insecure hefty middles aged straight married woman worried that her DH has been fucking other women all along, stumbles on to DL...Paranoia ensues

by Anonymousreply 37April 14, 2021 3:35 PM

R34 hits what at least has to be part of the answer. My cousin, a straight male, is tall, fit, hung and good looking. He and I have talked before and he has a type. He likes big women with big tits and big hips. They are always darker, too, like Italian or Latina. His first wife was like this, but SHE cheated on HIM, so he got divorced. His second wife's looks resemble the first wife's, but she's nicer and more loyal and they've been together for years now. His first wife was prettier with better skin, but definitely the second wife, who is no looker, is a better match overall and they seem happier.

As a gay man, I like guys with extra weight, so I get his attraction to heavier women. Lid for every pot as they say.

by Anonymousreply 38April 14, 2021 3:56 PM

R38 how do you know your cousin is hung?

by Anonymousreply 39April 14, 2021 4:21 PM

Not really R30.

by Anonymousreply 40April 14, 2021 4:25 PM

To defend myself, my female friend I was with posited the same question. It's the lack of caring about their appearance that was most curious to us. Most women try to look halfway decent when with they go out with attractive men.

by Anonymousreply 41April 14, 2021 4:28 PM

R39, it's been talked about since he was a kid. His mother, my aunt, would joke about it when he was a boy saying how popular he was going to be when he got older. His first wife, who usually dated hung African-American guys, would tell anyone that my cousin was the only white guy she ever met who could measure up. Knowing how perverted DL is, no, I've never seen it. But everyone in the family has always known.

by Anonymousreply 42April 14, 2021 4:39 PM

I had it spelled out to me in jail:

“Ugly girl won’t cheat on you” “Ugly girl will have dinner waiting on you” “Ugly girl will do whatever you want her to in bed”

But that is not the only explanation. If she is your baby’s mama and you have accumulated some time together, then kind hearts will overlook a lot of stuff. It works in reverse as well. Sometimes, people in love will let a lot of stuff slide. Especially if there is a happy history in their mind.

But when you are wanting the latest, hottest model, like most of us, all that BS is useless.

by Anonymousreply 43April 14, 2021 4:43 PM

It’s callus ffs. And love is blind.

by Anonymousreply 44April 14, 2021 4:53 PM

I'm assuming OP never been attacked to someone for anything outside how they look. But I agree on some cases, like on the "My 600 lbs life". Those blobs can't even work or fuck or move, but they always have Boyfriends. I don't get it. Why not just rescue an elephant.

by Anonymousreply 45April 14, 2021 4:54 PM

Chubby chasers, yep. But in Alabama they call it " going Hoggin' ".

by Anonymousreply 46April 14, 2021 5:04 PM

Fat and dumpy but knows how to make a snack purse work on the red carpet.

by Anonymousreply 47April 14, 2021 5:07 PM

Maybe the woman has had a few kids, and with each pregnancy has put on a few more pounds. The guy doesn't care or doesn't want to fight over what would only be a losing battle for him.

by Anonymousreply 48April 14, 2021 5:40 PM

The reason is because the women were once hot, but after having kids (or due to health problems) have let themselves go.

by Anonymousreply 49April 14, 2021 5:40 PM

I worked with a lot of Tejanos down here. One guy said Mexican women were hot when young then go fat after marriage and babies but the machismo factor of them likes that. Keeps them undesirable to other men and at home cooking and having babies. Hubbies are out fucking everything else. Lots are on the downlow too

by Anonymousreply 50April 14, 2021 5:53 PM

Josh Hawley & his wife!

by Anonymousreply 51April 14, 2021 5:55 PM

R7 You betcha!

by Anonymousreply 52April 14, 2021 5:57 PM

Fat women are jolly, Not mean skinny bitches.

by Anonymousreply 53April 14, 2021 5:59 PM

R50 thanks I’m moving to Texas now.

by Anonymousreply 54April 14, 2021 6:01 PM

R42 Hot. I think you need to see to it and report back.

by Anonymousreply 55April 14, 2021 6:02 PM

Men go bald, women get fat.

by Anonymousreply 56April 14, 2021 6:04 PM

R56 Yeah, but you can still be bald and hot. Look at Christopher Meloni.

by Anonymousreply 57April 14, 2021 6:06 PM

I worked with a middle age woman who was overweight, disheveled, looked like she cut her own hair and wore yesterday’s makeup. She was nice but a slob and that did shape my opinion of her.

I had to go to her house and was pleasantly surprised that her house was immaculate and tastefully decorated. She did her own gardening and the landscaping was just beautiful. I met her husband of 30+ years who was her high school sweetheart, they married a year out of college. He looked at least 10 years older than her, was dressed like a complete dork, thin and bald. Not the hot kind.

I saw their wedding photo and HOLEEEEE SHIT!!!! They were both SO HOT! Maybe the husband was always an awkward dork and maybe she always wore ripped and stained clothes and cut her own chair. I bet when they look at each other they see the former hotness.

by Anonymousreply 58April 14, 2021 6:26 PM

I live in LA and it's all about tourists and show business out here.

Years ago, I went down to Manhattan Beach or Huntington Beach...can't recall.

I saw all these beautiful men, who didn't want to be actors, with these women were fat and not attractive.

I didn't get it AT ALL.

by Anonymousreply 59April 14, 2021 6:30 PM

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life

Never make a pretty woman your wife

So from my personal point of view

Get an ugly girl to marry you

by Anonymousreply 60April 14, 2021 7:19 PM

Some straight men are attracted primarily to fat or chubby women. It is what it is.

by Anonymousreply 61April 14, 2021 9:37 PM

People comment this about my parents but a) they are best friends, talk all the time, seem to have the same values b) she'll never cheat on him or make things complicated/totally loyal c) she did all the childcare, housework, brought in more money AND did crappy jobs for his work

by Anonymousreply 62April 14, 2021 9:42 PM

I always assumed that the guy is into fat chicks or his gf got pregnant and now there's an obligation.

When it's gay guys either the guy is into fat guys or the fat guy has money and/or a giant dick.

by Anonymousreply 63April 14, 2021 9:57 PM

Fat girls are usually aggressive whores who pursued those guys and they just went with it.

by Anonymousreply 64April 14, 2021 11:19 PM

Maybe he enjoys the smell of yeast and body odor that fat women reek of, OP, who knows. Straights are weird.

by Anonymousreply 65April 14, 2021 11:42 PM

R 23 "Str8 guys seem to often choose the path of least resistance" The Truth. -Frau

by Anonymousreply 66April 15, 2021 12:20 AM

Being with someone who is totally into their looks is exhausting and a total bore. I would go for a fat whore too!

by Anonymousreply 67April 15, 2021 1:45 AM

I see this a lot and more than I ever wanted to believe. It is usually military guys but tons and tons of hot black and Latino guys with nasty, fat women.

by Anonymousreply 68April 15, 2021 1:50 AM

I've never gone for men who have great looks...'cos you're always competing for the mirror, and they take toooooo long to get ready. High maintenance not my thing.

by Anonymousreply 69April 15, 2021 1:54 AM

Based on the law of averages, I find it hard to believe there are SO many hot guys in the world, let alone hot guys paired with ugly women. Who are the beautiful women paired with?

by Anonymousreply 70April 15, 2021 1:55 AM

You see it more than ever R68 because you are getting old and lusting after younger men.

by Anonymousreply 71April 15, 2021 1:56 AM

R70 the guys with the cash.

by Anonymousreply 72April 15, 2021 1:57 AM

R70 With Kevin James in his sitcoms and movies

by Anonymousreply 73April 15, 2021 1:57 AM

I find the best guys are the “nerdy cute” guys.

by Anonymousreply 74April 15, 2021 1:59 AM

This is thread 5,251 on this topic.



by Anonymousreply 75April 15, 2021 2:00 AM

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you If you want to be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you A pretty woman makes her husband look small And very often causes his downfall As soon as he married her and then she starts To do the things that will break his heart But if you make an ugly woman your wife A-you'll be happy for the rest of your life An ug-a-ly woman cooks meals on time And she'll always give you peace of mind If you want to be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you Don't let your friends say you have no taste Go ahead and marry anyway Though her face is ugly, her eyes don't match Take it from me, she's a better catch

by Anonymousreply 76April 15, 2021 2:12 AM

know of a great looking guy, who has a great muscular body, a good career and yet has been married and divorced 3 times and each woman is very average compared to him, also each successive marriage (and divorce) the woman was younger then him, the 2nd marriage, divorced wife was 10 years younger, last marriage and divorce wife was 15 years younger....

supposedly the rumor was he was big ole male whore so why get married at all then? and one would think for sure after 2 failures, why go for a 3rd marriage (which then failed too!)....

by Anonymousreply 77April 15, 2021 2:15 AM

I live next to a Marine Corps base, so I am more than a little familiar with this phenomenon. In most cases, the now-hot guy wasn't so hot before he went through boot camp. He dropped pounds and gained muscle. The girlfriend/wife was with him back home on the farm. He sees her as a helpmate and the mother of his children. And while he steps out on her pretty much every chance he gets, he won't leave her. And she knows it.

by Anonymousreply 78April 15, 2021 4:06 AM

R78 that is the most I will I ever aspire to in life .

by Anonymousreply 79April 15, 2021 4:13 AM

R79 Cuz that is all you’ll ever get-settling

by Anonymousreply 80April 15, 2021 4:15 AM

Some military hot guys end up with homely wives sometimes because of the location of some of the bases are shit areas where the women are shall we say not the pick of the of best litters. But they are what's available to them and they maybe see a woman less than once a week and just settle for what's around them.

by Anonymousreply 81April 15, 2021 4:19 AM

Ever see Officer and a Gentleman? Tramp whores make boxes all week then look for base cock all weekend.

by Anonymousreply 82April 15, 2021 4:21 AM

ew op, ew

by Anonymousreply 83April 15, 2021 4:22 AM

because she has a fat ass and lets him fuck it

the end

by Anonymousreply 84April 15, 2021 4:22 AM

If I had to fuck a nerdy guy I would probably be violently ill. Maybe if he was a wizard or something...

by Anonymousreply 85April 15, 2021 4:23 AM

Free maid.

by Anonymousreply 86April 15, 2021 4:27 AM

Would Sarah Sanders and her husband be a part of this phenomenon?

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by Anonymousreply 87April 15, 2021 12:14 PM

Oftentimes the woman was attractive when he first met her, OP

Or he was out of shape and ugly

Or both

by Anonymousreply 88April 15, 2021 12:19 PM

How about- Hot GAY guys with FAT dumpy guys

by Anonymousreply 89April 15, 2021 12:24 PM

These types are typically cheating in some shape or form. Most of the married guys I’ve hook up with used the gym as a get out of jail card with the wife. Typically they went religiously but could use the gym as a means to slip away.

They liked having their body admired and or feeling like a young man again on a chase for sex. There is nothing better than that sweet spot of 25-30 when the guys metabolism is still running at a nice clip and their time at the gym keeps things tight. Those boys are the best! Chef’s kiss! Then skip over to the 40-45 range for the guys that know what they want but still have a hot matinee body.

by Anonymousreply 90April 15, 2021 12:43 PM

R89 is there an app for that?

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