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Grindr has gone downhill

I went on there yesterday for the first time since Covid. Man what a bunch of urchins and troglodytes.

Not a single attractive person for miles. Everyone is so gross and posts the worst pictures and angles and all the backgrounds look like the local dump.

Who are these people? What happened to all the decent looking people?

by Anonymousreply 76October 23, 2021 11:23 PM

Was it ever UPhill?

by Anonymousreply 1October 22, 2021 4:57 PM

OP, please post your photo or else this is a pointless discussion.

by Anonymousreply 2October 22, 2021 4:58 PM

It's like 1/2 price night at the bathhouse

by Anonymousreply 3October 22, 2021 4:59 PM

Well it always had its struggles. But these people are so gross. Like the pictures are literally dirty with mess everywhere and a lot are grainy or zoomed in on the side of their head or their hand. Or they have some anomie pic.

by Anonymousreply 4October 22, 2021 4:59 PM

R2 Go take a nice long bath with a toaster in it.

by Anonymousreply 5October 22, 2021 5:00 PM

Real beauty has no need for any apps. End of. Mediocre plainness drops by some apps and kvetch about ugly shit to no end. Exhausting.

by Anonymousreply 6October 22, 2021 5:13 PM

Grindr has attracted the lowest of the low for years now. And it technology is a dinosaur among the hook up apps. The only use for Grindr is trolling trannies and enbies.

Scruff app and the website Sniffies are the way to go now.

by Anonymousreply 7October 22, 2021 5:13 PM

OP is Yng Stud Fr U

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by Anonymousreply 8October 22, 2021 5:29 PM

What is Pear Up.

by Anonymousreply 9October 22, 2021 5:36 PM

My last time on Grindr was at the start of the Q in March 2020. Very cute guy, seen him on there before, "heys" me, and he wanted to come over, saying "Let's be quarantine boyfriends." Translation: "My roommate is unbearable and I can't live with him in this tiny apartment for three months."

I'm glad I got out when the pickin' was still good.

by Anonymousreply 10October 22, 2021 5:41 PM

Like attracts like.

by Anonymousreply 11October 22, 2021 5:44 PM

Move? There are tons of hot guys were I am. Some fugs, but no.

by Anonymousreply 12October 22, 2021 5:46 PM

Lots of meth addicts in grindr

by Anonymousreply 13October 22, 2021 5:46 PM

In my city the only people on Grindr are latinos. Most of them are cheating on their wives are whores & send pictures of their butt hole before even saying hi. Once in a while an asian, white or black guy will pop in. Sadly they don't stay long.

by Anonymousreply 14October 22, 2021 5:47 PM

Sniffles seems like a cam site for close by people? Why on earth does it matter where they are when it’s a cam vibe. It doesn’t seem like it’s for meeting in person.

by Anonymousreply 15October 22, 2021 5:47 PM

Just awful. Do any of these people go outside? It’s all blackout shades, particle board furniture, cluttered surfaces and dirty mirrors. Not a made bed in sight. A bunch of losers and slobs and smartphone addicts.

by Anonymousreply 16October 22, 2021 5:49 PM

I use Grindr mostly for trolling, it’s the same faces all the time and those same faces were on Gaydar before. A lot of fatties. I have a blank profile and some desperados even message me.

by Anonymousreply 17October 22, 2021 5:51 PM

Grandma has stated her boundaries ^

by Anonymousreply 18October 22, 2021 5:51 PM

You no some freak is recording every interaction and saving every file on sniffles. I would never video cam with a stranger. That is a recipe for having it leaked.

Why don’t people just have events or clubs where people can come check everyone out in person and then choose accordingly. But not a sex party.

by Anonymousreply 19October 22, 2021 5:51 PM


by Anonymousreply 20October 22, 2021 5:51 PM

And so many scammers, hustlers and everybody has a gimmick on there. Even the younger guys are way to jaded on there. Like, go get some fresh air.

by Anonymousreply 21October 22, 2021 5:52 PM

Everybody on their seems like a drug addict or depressed.

by Anonymousreply 22October 22, 2021 5:53 PM

Some local guy is not the best looking, but recently posted he had an 8.5 inch dick. That piqued my interest (size queen) then he posted some rant yesterday. OK, carry on... He really needs to lead with that!

I do watch a profile to see who is real or not.

by Anonymousreply 23October 22, 2021 5:57 PM

[R23], I haven't the faintest idea why but I began laughing out loud, and saying "That's the DL spirit, honey!"

by Anonymousreply 24October 22, 2021 6:05 PM

Who needs Grindr when you can do it Datalounge-style? Present hole and have some hot, surprise anal. After the pandemic, you won't have to wait for long.

by Anonymousreply 25October 22, 2021 6:15 PM


You mean like a commercial establishment where they play music. serve drinks, you can meet friends, check out people in real life, AND get laid?

We used to call them gay bars but then somebody decided technology could do the "get laid" part better, and that gay men were integrated enough into society that we no longer needed spaces that were gay-centric.

And here we are.

by Anonymousreply 26October 22, 2021 6:36 PM

Overrun with "Looking for TGirls only"

by Anonymousreply 27October 22, 2021 6:37 PM

Buy a wig, lipstick, and Lularu legging with the ass cut out, r27.

by Anonymousreply 28October 22, 2021 6:42 PM

Why do people seek to hook up in a pool of people who are at extremely high risk of having and spreading STDs? Grindr is a cesspool

by Anonymousreply 29October 22, 2021 6:44 PM

I'm sorry, but OP is 100% correct. I remember the last time I opened up Grindr back in 2018. It looked like a freak show (I was in Germany too, so they were extra horrifying).

by Anonymousreply 30October 22, 2021 6:46 PM

[quote] Very cute guy, seen him on there before, "heys" me, and he wanted to come over, saying "Let's be quarantine boyfriends." Translation: "My roommate is unbearable and I can't live with him in this tiny apartment for three months."

And then?

by Anonymousreply 31October 22, 2021 6:50 PM

OP, do you identify more as an urchin or a troglodyte?

by Anonymousreply 32October 22, 2021 6:54 PM

[quote] What happened to all the decent looking people?

They moved on and made sure you're left behind, dear.

by Anonymousreply 33October 22, 2021 7:01 PM

[quote] a pool of people who are at extremely high risk of having and spreading STDs?

Maiden Aunt’s Brigade has entered the chat

by Anonymousreply 34October 22, 2021 7:07 PM

I'm sorry, OP.

Over the years it's just been very hard to let any of the good ones go until I'm done with them and then, well, let's just say they're no longer on Grindr.

by Anonymousreply 35October 22, 2021 7:16 PM

It's filled with spam from escort services and shitty websites like Queerty.

by Anonymousreply 36October 22, 2021 7:18 PM

It hasn't been a gay man's app for years.

by Anonymousreply 37October 22, 2021 7:20 PM

You are first noticing this now?

by Anonymousreply 38October 22, 2021 7:21 PM

It's full of desperate, desperate men. The last time I used the app I was on at a decent hour (~ 7pm) and I immediately get a hole pic shot in a dirty mirror and a message with the guy's full address.

I get that some people get off on that as a thrill, but damn if that isn't a recipe for a home invasion murder I don't know what is....

by Anonymousreply 39October 22, 2021 7:25 PM

Are there any apps that are still worth trying?

by Anonymousreply 40October 22, 2021 7:28 PM

maybe you're just old and ugly OP.

by Anonymousreply 41October 22, 2021 7:38 PM

Don’t forget the troons in cheap nylon wigs and stilettos, and the the “queer” biological women.

by Anonymousreply 42October 22, 2021 7:39 PM

[quote]Why don’t people just have events or clubs where people can come check everyone out in person and then choose accordingly. But not a sex party.

That's called a [bold]GAY BAR[/bold]

by Anonymousreply 43October 22, 2021 7:40 PM

Glory holes: where beauty is only foreskin deep..

by Anonymousreply 44October 22, 2021 8:05 PM

Isn't everyone on every app? Why would someone choose Scruff and not be on Grindr too?

by Anonymousreply 45October 22, 2021 8:13 PM

There was a period, maybe early -mid 10s when there were tons of hot guys on Grindr and having sex with a hot guy was more seamless than ordering takeout from DoorDash. Much better pickings than Scruff, Adam4Adam or Manhunt

These apps/sites have always been cyclical, start off with hot guys, end up with trolls.

I'm thinking there's probably another app that will come along soon enough that will be where all the hot guys are. I'm married now, so totally out of it in that regard, but I suspect some DLers will know what the Grindr Replacement Apps are.

by Anonymousreply 46October 22, 2021 8:20 PM

No one has used Manhunt since 2003 r46

by Anonymousreply 47October 22, 2021 8:30 PM

[Quote] Much better pickings than Scruff, Adam4Adam or Manhunt. These apps/sites have always been cyclical,

They come and go. Each was hot in its time. Your examples would be in chronological order: manhunt, a4a, grindr, scruff...

by Anonymousreply 48October 22, 2021 8:30 PM

My FB's are mainly from A4A. It's free and easy.

by Anonymousreply 49October 22, 2021 8:31 PM

Probably R46--it all sort of blends together. Craigslist fits in there too somewhere.

by Anonymousreply 50October 22, 2021 8:33 PM

A family friend was unsuccessfully blackmailed on Grindr not too long ago and I can't see threads like this without recalling the gory details. For some reason I, an oblivious lesbian, assumed the guys most likely to be sextorted were closet cases or other types with something to lose, which was not the case here.

This guy was in his early twenties and refused to pay up. After some harassment and intimidation he had to call his parents and elderly grandparent to warn them they might receive intimate images delivered to their phones or houses. The scammer never actually went through with it, though. Since then he's become slightly more cautious about presenting hole too early in his correspondence with strangers.

by Anonymousreply 51October 22, 2021 8:37 PM

Never have pics with you dick and hole also showing your face r51

Your friend is a moron.

by Anonymousreply 52October 22, 2021 8:39 PM

Bingo R52

And if the guy says "well how do I know that's really you?" there's a >90% chance that the photos he sent you are not of him.

by Anonymousreply 53October 22, 2021 8:42 PM

That's an accurate assessment, R52. He knew the rule, too, but was desperate enough to violate it.

by Anonymousreply 54October 22, 2021 8:47 PM

When was it a good place to find quality people? It’s always been known as a sewer of sexually compulsive and promiscuous people. It has never been a plead to find quality or even hunky dudes

by Anonymousreply 55October 22, 2021 8:55 PM

At the local glory hole in your church’s basement r55

by Anonymousreply 56October 22, 2021 9:44 PM

R55 has been a paid post from the Datalounge Maiden Aunt Society.

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by Anonymousreply 57October 22, 2021 9:51 PM


by Anonymousreply 58October 22, 2021 11:32 PM

What’s funny is that when they have a set of pictures, each one gets progressively worse. To the point that the last pic looks absolutely nothing like the first.

by Anonymousreply 59October 22, 2021 11:38 PM

Or when the have a profile picture centered on some gorgeous guy standing next to a hideous bridge troll and you click on it and realize the profile belongs to the troll.

by Anonymousreply 60October 22, 2021 11:40 PM

I’m like dude, I’m not coming over until you clean your filthy house and put some fresh sheets on the bed. For crying out loud. And do your laundry! It’s piled up to the ceiling behind you.

by Anonymousreply 61October 22, 2021 11:43 PM

So you're the 76 yo local to me looking for raw loads every morning but never get off the app, r61?

by Anonymousreply 62October 22, 2021 11:45 PM


by Anonymousreply 63October 23, 2021 12:35 AM

Hi Im Nestor Adolfo Me like white dick. So much so Ill text you 471 times/

by Anonymousreply 64October 23, 2021 5:43 AM

It’d be ironic if the other guys on Grindr on that day also thought the same way as OP when they looked T OP’s photos.

by Anonymousreply 65October 23, 2021 6:48 AM

According to Grindr, a Twink is a 5'4, 240 pound stinky 60 year old bald guy living in a dirty trailer with a bottom slack enough to conceal a can of Pepsi? 😝🤢😏😵😉🙃

by Anonymousreply 66October 23, 2021 7:05 AM

R30 "extra horrifying" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 sorry to laugh at your misfortune but that is some of the funniest shit I've heard in awhile. Sounds even worse than German techno.

by Anonymousreply 67October 23, 2021 7:12 AM

Why hasn’t anyone mentioned growlr yet?

by Anonymousreply 68October 23, 2021 9:22 AM

Grindr always a cesspool but worsens after the FOSTA shut down the Craiglist personal. All the anonymous ugly trolls that usually lurked there down have nowhere else to go.

p/s Despite the dated outlook silverdaddies.com is one of the few gay dating site that is still very active active and mostly sane.

by Anonymousreply 69October 23, 2021 10:35 AM

I seem to remember a thread about a new app/website that some DLers were hot on. Forget the name (otherwise I would have found the thread) but remember thinking it was sort of an oddly cutesy/creepy name for a gay hookup site.


by Anonymousreply 70October 23, 2021 1:43 PM

BareBackRealTime.com r79

by Anonymousreply 71October 23, 2021 1:44 PM

R4 "Like the pictures are literally"

Like, you are literally like in 7th grade, like literally"

by Anonymousreply 72October 23, 2021 1:46 PM

A few years ago a guy cruised me on Words With Friends. Is that or was that a thing? A word game app??

by Anonymousreply 73October 23, 2021 6:37 PM

Ha! I knew if I googled "gay hook up app" and "Datalounge" I'd find it.

It's called Sniffies - which is I'd noted is both overly cutesy and creepy.

Any of you use it? Is it replacing Grindr?

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by Anonymousreply 74October 23, 2021 7:09 PM

Grindr is the Queerty of hook-up apps. It's a disaster filled with falsehoods and bitchery.

by Anonymousreply 75October 23, 2021 8:14 PM

The rule of thumb is most Asians and Latinos post their queeny pictures and buttholes. Fat old gay men generally show their faces as well. 89% Of the time guys with no pictures are usually fucking hot & don’t want anyone to know they’re on there. They also know if they show their picture all of those Asians and Latinos would bomb their email for the next 72 hours

by Anonymousreply 76October 23, 2021 11:23 PM
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