Now that he’s scrubbed his Instagram of the past, gorgeous gay icon Colton Underwood is posting again!
What a stud!
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Now that he’s scrubbed his Instagram of the past, gorgeous gay icon Colton Underwood is posting again!
What a stud!
|by Anonymous||reply 227||05/04/2021|
Eat plenty of fiber and douche.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||04/15/2021|
Beyond surprising your gag reflex and pushing outward, what really is there to learn about being gay? Just be your fucking self. Which in this case is apparently as a himbo.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||04/15/2021|
LOL suppressing your gag reflex, but although surprising it from time to time can be fun too, according to page 77, section XI, clause 2 of the gay manual from which I learned....
|by Anonymous||reply 3||04/15/2021|
You don’t have to swallow if you ask for him to come on your face, but close your eyes.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||04/15/2021|
There are a million threads on him already, you don't need to start a new one OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||04/15/2021|
I'm sure the poor woman he stalked and terrorized wishes he had "learned" things years ago before ruining her life and terrifying her.
But he's moderately attractive with a decent body and he's white, so all the white instagram gays will embrace him, I'm sure. Gay culture is so sad.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||04/15/2021|
Sheesh. I’m sick of him already.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||04/15/2021|
Aaron Schock will explain everything.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||04/15/2021|
Does Colton know Alec Rugo?
|by Anonymous||reply 9||04/15/2021|
[quote]But he's moderately attractive with a decent body and he's white, so all the white instagram gays will embrace him, I'm sure. Gay culture is so sad.
Is there a reason he shouldn't be accepted because he's white, moderately attractive, or has a decent body?
Is there some sort of equity committee that needs to determine if someone is deserving of being accepted?
|by Anonymous||reply 10||04/15/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 11||04/15/2021|
Another non-entity who confuses being attractive with being interesting. Just what we gays need right now!
|by Anonymous||reply 12||04/15/2021|
I was going to say that Colton was another example of a hot guy that Datalounge loved but then trashed when he came out of the closet. But that’s untrue...
People have always hated on him here. He was never universally loved.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||04/15/2021|
The fake sincerity and rawness of the all-lower-case post is too sick-making. And I'm sure it's ENTIRELY accidental that the first image on the IG post includes a shirtless picture - start as you mean to go on, I suppose.
Colton, hon, R1, R2 and R4 have you covered as far as being gay goes, so no need to dress up the wild ride you're about to go on as some kind of learning thing.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||04/15/2021|
They missed a trick by not contracting Colton Haynes as his "gay guide."
|by Anonymous||reply 15||04/15/2021|
He can stick to paper plates and Kohl’s bed in bag shit.
You know what? Fuck it. The hot trend in Gay is blow up furniture! It works with anything! Shag carpet, synthetic poofs, dwarves, and understanding well-fed friends named Becka!
|by Anonymous||reply 16||04/15/2021|
If this is required for club entry, I'm turning in my card.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||04/15/2021|
New for 2022 Gays of means is a lamp!
It’s a must have - very on trend!
|by Anonymous||reply 18||04/15/2021|
That picture of him with the dog is so fucking hot. I want to lick every square inch of him.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||04/15/2021|
That certain something that’s missing from your decor?
Two words: Marble Columns - It’s signature! Colton’s Columns.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||04/15/2021|
I don’t get the furniture comments.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||04/15/2021|
Colton has to learn Gay Decor, R21.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||04/15/2021|
Too bad there are no gay male Kardashians...that won’t stop Kris though...she’ll adopt a motherfucking queen to be her gay son to be Colton’s boyfriend.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||04/15/2021|
Alec Rugo is waiting for you, Colton!
|by Anonymous||reply 24||04/15/2021|
Who’s the guy on the bottom in the third pic? His twin brother?
|by Anonymous||reply 25||04/15/2021|
Such a self absorbed douche. This is no different then a post a frau would put on her Instagram. Why he’s getting yessss queen! On DL is madness.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||04/15/2021|
If he has a lot to learn then why is he doing a Netflix show? The fuck is clueless MAGA gay going to teach us?
|by Anonymous||reply 27||04/15/2021|
Jesus, his merch line sure screams "I'm GAYYYYYYYYYYYYY!"
|by Anonymous||reply 28||04/15/2021|
I want to see him in speedos.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||04/15/2021|
Fatties should never be in Speedos. Could he even fit into one?
|by Anonymous||reply 30||04/15/2021|
Colton's got a lot of meat on his face.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||04/15/2021|
Help Me I’m Hot AF! Get Me Outta Here!
|by Anonymous||reply 32||04/15/2021|
Instagram is completely supportive of beautiful Colton.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||04/15/2021|
Colton is a MAGA TRUMP LOVER.....
|by Anonymous||reply 34||04/15/2021|
^ Some Dataloungers LOVE to hate
|by Anonymous||reply 35||04/15/2021|
I could teach him a few things
|by Anonymous||reply 36||04/15/2021|
Where is PROOF that Colton is CURRENTLY a MAGA TRUMP LOVER?
|by Anonymous||reply 37||04/15/2021|
That fish catch pic is such a redneck move.
They don’t do anything original.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||04/15/2021|
Did you say, "I've got a lot to learn?" Well, don't think I'm trying not to learn. Since this is the perfect spot to learn Teach me tonight.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||04/15/2021|
Icon, OP? Pffft!
That word (icon) is thrown around so often these days that it's become meaningless. Colton is just one of dozens of talent-free famewhores who flock to Hollywood, thinking they should be rich and famous because of a narcissistic need for constant attention. Famous for being famous and nothing else to share except a sense of self-importance. Will there be books written about him 50 years from now? No. He will likely be irrelevant in less than a decade, like most famewhores. I only wish the Kardashians & Jenners have that same future.
Apart from being generically attractive, why should he be admired? He wanted to be a D-list celeb so badly that he lied about being straight to be on several staged "reality" dating shows. If he had participated in a gay dating show, well then at least he would be a more authentic person.
Stop thinking with your cock, OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||04/15/2021|
Where is PROOF that Colton is CURRENTLY a GAY?
|by Anonymous||reply 41||04/15/2021|
He asked out Katie Holmes!
|by Anonymous||reply 42||04/15/2021|
May the COVID be with him.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||04/15/2021|
One would suppose his fandom was predominantly Frau before.
Did he lose followers upon coming out?
|by Anonymous||reply 44||04/15/2021|
He seems so drab.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||04/15/2021|
One would suppose his fandom was predominantly Frau before.
Did he lose followers upon coming out?
|by Anonymous||reply 46||04/15/2021|
Is this guy a robot? Does he need to spend time around people to learn how to act human? Why is he pushing this country bumpkin act?? ‘Whoa is me! I don’t know how to be gay!!! Teach me how to take a cock and bust my nut all over a twink’s face’!!! What the fuck does he need to learn?
|by Anonymous||reply 47||04/15/2021|
Colton will be getting all the hot dick that the Klan Grannies can only dream of. So much weeping and gnashing of teeth.
And just wait until they find out that Colton is now a fervent JOE BIDEN supporter. Thank you, Gus Kenworthy, for planting (quite deeply) the seed of true freedom!
|by Anonymous||reply 48||04/16/2021|
I know it's hard to believe, R47, but apparently this was the best way of monetising his sexuality that he could think of.
|by Anonymous||reply 49||04/16/2021|
Well, it's a step up from poor dear sad old Ronnie Kroel geting his dick out in playboy. Or those two Big Brothers guys doing gay porn.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||04/16/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 51||04/16/2021|
Gus. Where is Gus to teach him the ways of the Gays? Will he teach him to ski first? What new things will Gus teach him?
|by Anonymous||reply 52||04/16/2021|
[Quote] What new things will Gus teach him?
|by Anonymous||reply 53||04/16/2021|
He’s not new to gay. Why is this narrative being pushed?
|by Anonymous||reply 54||04/16/2021|
He is so fake, fake, fake. Such a turn off.
|by Anonymous||reply 55||04/16/2021|
Because he's a famewhore who has nothing else going for him and gay viewers will watch anything with a hot guy in it.
|by Anonymous||reply 56||04/16/2021|
Just what we need. Another “whites only” gay Instagram whore.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||04/16/2021|
Swish, swish, mince! Swish, swish, mince!
|by Anonymous||reply 58||04/16/2021|
Aaron S will be his fairy godfather and arrive in a bubble dressed only in white hot pants and give him pointers.
|by Anonymous||reply 59||04/16/2021|
[quote] Colton will be getting all the hot dick that the Klan Grannies can only dream of. So much weeping and gnashing of teeth.
What is a Klan Granny? They’re people against Colton? Why Klan and why grannies? What does this have to do with Colton?
|by Anonymous||reply 60||04/16/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 61||04/16/2021|
🎵 Doin’ what comes naturally…
|by Anonymous||reply 62||04/16/2021|
R58 needs to be shot between the tits. Or moobs. Whatever the case may be.
|by Anonymous||reply 63||04/16/2021|
Hot NEW images of sexy Colton on his Insta-story!
|by Anonymous||reply 64||04/16/2021|
Hot NEW images of sexy Colton on his Insta-story!
|by Anonymous||reply 65||04/16/2021|
Who thought he was hetero?
|by Anonymous||reply 66||04/16/2021|
R66, stupid fraus with no gaydar
|by Anonymous||reply 67||04/16/2021|
[quote] Just what we need.
Well, just what DO you need, R57?
I'm sure there's plenty of space on Instagram and the World Wide Web for those things that interest you.
|by Anonymous||reply 68||04/16/2021|
Scrubbed his Insta but still follows Candice Owens.
|by Anonymous||reply 69||04/16/2021|
Gonna learn the difference between 5” girth and 6” girth. Wait until our little boy sees and tastes his first foreskin!
|by Anonymous||reply 70||04/16/2021|
Colton learned how to like MAGA POSTS on social media.....
|by Anonymous||reply 71||04/16/2021|
Where? Which posts?
|by Anonymous||reply 72||04/16/2021|
First I gotta learn who this "Helen Lawson" person is
|by Anonymous||reply 73||04/16/2021|
Apparently I should try something called Pancakes Barbara.
|by Anonymous||reply 74||04/16/2021|
[quote] First I gotta learn who this "Helen Lawson" person is
Second. I must not sleep with the first man who asks me to.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||04/16/2021|
R74 ...you need to go to Georgia and to California.... and anywhere you can run!
|by Anonymous||reply 76||04/16/2021|
r75 too late...like 14 years too late.
|by Anonymous||reply 77||04/16/2021|
Can Gus teach Colty about dating?
|by Anonymous||reply 78||04/17/2021|
[quote]Wrote one of the petition's signers, "I'm a survivor of stalking, and it repulses me to see someone like this given a platform as though he's done nothing wrong. I will absolutely cancel my Netflix subscription if you go through with this."
|by Anonymous||reply 79||04/17/2021|
R66, not I.
I stood right next to him at an ABC press event. He was tall. I recall his arms bursting out of his shirt...then again, maybe it was a medium and dude's a large?
He seemed tightly wound...we chatted a bit. The finale of his season wasn't out yet. (Nor was he.) He seemed trapped.
I remember thinking, yeah, I think he's gay.
How many other bachelors and reality stars are gay?
|by Anonymous||reply 80||04/17/2021|
He doesn’t want to “date”, because he wants to be a whore and fuck lots of men.
|by Anonymous||reply 81||04/17/2021|
Step aside, Shailene. Colton's gonna be Mrs Aaron Rodgers
|by Anonymous||reply 82||04/17/2021|
[quote] and fuck lots of men.
I want to watch!
|by Anonymous||reply 83||04/17/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 84||04/18/2021|
^ Fabulous teeth!
|by Anonymous||reply 85||04/18/2021|
His hole ain’t cherry.
|by Anonymous||reply 86||04/18/2021|
It looks like Jozea from BB is already creeping in on him. But didn’t seem like Colton replied.
|by Anonymous||reply 87||04/19/2021|
Spotted a gay bar with friend and gay mentor Gus Kenworthy.
|by Anonymous||reply 88||04/19/2021|
He’s got the obligatory shirtless Insta pic down, but he needs to learn that he’s not a lesbian, so ditch the horse pics.
|by Anonymous||reply 89||04/19/2021|
Are they vaccinated?
|by Anonymous||reply 90||04/19/2021|
They’re fabulous gays with muscles, R90, so they don’t need vaccines. Plus Colto has the added protection of being a Christian.
|by Anonymous||reply 91||04/19/2021|
I don't know r90.
|by Anonymous||reply 92||04/19/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 93||04/20/2021|
I hate myself for saying this, but he is so cute!
|by Anonymous||reply 94||04/21/2021|
Cute but not as hot as people make him out to be for all the benfits he's getting. His hair is balding so time is ticking. There was a shower video from Bachelor in Paradise. of course this christian man had to do an extended shower scene. Anyway, you can se that he's partially bald already but comes over the thinning areas.
Since he decided to support American terrorists like Trump. I see reason to stick to the gay code and cape for him. Would I fuck him, of course, but I wouldn't spend money on this hoe. Hot body but the face is basic or handsome.
40 second mark for the hair. Enjoy his body though, it's nice.
|by Anonymous||reply 95||04/21/2021|
[quote]Anyway, you can se that he's partially bald already but comes over the thinning areas.
I guess he really loves those thinning areas.
|by Anonymous||reply 96||04/21/2021|
Lots of balding men still get laid and partners. What reality are you living in?
|by Anonymous||reply 97||04/21/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 98||04/21/2021|
My reality is that it’s another reason this guy is not all that pick-me gays make him out to be.
|by Anonymous||reply 99||04/21/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 100||04/21/2021|
^ Who are they?
|by Anonymous||reply 101||04/21/2021|
Have any one of you girls taught our dear Colton the art of douching? He knows he has push out the water in the shower right?
|by Anonymous||reply 102||04/21/2021|
[quote] I see reason to stick to the gay code and cape for him.
What does this mean? What is cape?
|by Anonymous||reply 103||04/21/2021|
What Colton has to learn.
|by Anonymous||reply 104||04/21/2021|
R103 cape means to cover someone ass or back, like Superman cape does for his backside. Means to cover for someone.
|by Anonymous||reply 105||04/22/2021|
Colton had Black people at his house-warming party!
|by Anonymous||reply 106||04/24/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 107||04/24/2021|
[quote]Colton had Black people at his house-warming party!
Yes, but they were the caterers.
|by Anonymous||reply 108||04/24/2021|
Isn’t that the wait staff at the Habachi restaurant?
Do they not need to wear masks or social distance in Denver anymore? Is COVID over there?
|by Anonymous||reply 109||04/24/2021|
First thing to learn, Colton baby: stay away from Andy Cohen.
|by Anonymous||reply 110||04/24/2021|
From Illinois State alum to another, let me just tell you that you have a lot to learn. These guys will eat you for lunch.
|by Anonymous||reply 111||04/24/2021|
Looks like he's already shedding the beefy football player build for the "zero-body-fat in my speedo for Cabo" look.
|by Anonymous||reply 112||04/25/2021|
What's wrong with that, R112?
|by Anonymous||reply 113||04/25/2021|
I wish him the best of luck, although I have to admit I'm a little biased, because I have a weakness for handsome, straight-acting alpha douchbro/fratboi types. He is my type to a tee, but he probably wouldn't piss on me if I were on fire.
|by Anonymous||reply 114||04/25/2021|
People still say straight-acting in 2021? 😬
|by Anonymous||reply 115||04/25/2021|
r113 nothing wrong with it, just predictable. Instead of using his coming out to make money he could do something good with it, like you kow be a role model for kids who are scared to come out.
|by Anonymous||reply 116||04/25/2021|
Fuck, why couldn’t this prick stay in the closet? Now I can’t get away from him.
|by Anonymous||reply 117||04/25/2021|
He should take a lesson from Tommy DiDario and use his homosexuality for good. Tommy and his husband Gio Benitez are terrific role models for the up and coming gays.
|by Anonymous||reply 118||04/25/2021|
Very much so, R115. Very common among young athletic gays, so not going anywhere anytime soon.
|by Anonymous||reply 119||04/25/2021|
Not in 2021 dude. The terms today is “masc,” or “normal,” or even “mainstream.”
|by Anonymous||reply 120||04/25/2021|
I'll take your word for it, R120. I don't live in the United States, but "straight-acting", along with "masc", is what they say in my neck of the woods.
|by Anonymous||reply 121||04/25/2021|
Colton is SO fucking gorgeous!
Beautiful eyes, mouth, hair... chest hair!
And SO MASC!!!!!!!
SO glad he came out for everyone to see!
|by Anonymous||reply 122||04/25/2021|
His company’s name is Dahghouse? WTF? That doesn’t exactly flow and is annoying to type. Why not Dawghouse or Doghouzz?
|by Anonymous||reply 123||04/25/2021|
^ Tacky jokes and polystyrene cups
|by Anonymous||reply 124||04/25/2021|
J hope she has some sturdy knee pads.
|by Anonymous||reply 125||04/25/2021|
Colton is such an...American name.
|by Anonymous||reply 126||04/25/2021|
[quote]I have a weakness for handsome, straight-acting alpha douchbro/fratboi types.
He's not alpha.
|by Anonymous||reply 127||04/25/2021|
doughy gay face balding beta energy MAGA trash
|by Anonymous||reply 128||04/25/2021|
[quota] beta energy
Are you suggesting he's passive?
|by Anonymous||reply 129||04/25/2021|
I'm not saying bottom, I'm just saying he gives me pansy energy. the opposite of alpha male.
|by Anonymous||reply 130||04/25/2021|
Hot ALPHA gay stud!!!!!
|by Anonymous||reply 131||04/25/2021|
r128 is deranged or jealous, or both. Every gay man wants a piece of Colton.
|by Anonymous||reply 132||04/25/2021|
r116 He's got to pay the bills first. Unfortunately, he doesn't have any skills.
|by Anonymous||reply 133||04/25/2021|
r130 I will say it. One hot tongue and his legs will fly up. I know the type. Hell I married the type.
|by Anonymous||reply 134||04/25/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 135||04/28/2021|
Don't we have any more news?
What happened over this last week?
|by Anonymous||reply 136||04/28/2021|
I really dont like that his name is Colton. Every time I scroll by this thread I get excited because I think its a thread about messy Colton Haynes, only to find out its about this bitch
|by Anonymous||reply 137||04/28/2021|
[quote] Colton: I have a lot to learn
Most important; watch the teeth.
|by Anonymous||reply 138||04/28/2021|
He’s wasting away. His new body is disgusting.
|by Anonymous||reply 139||04/28/2021|
Agreed, R139 . He was hot with his athletic build, and now he presents just like every other instagay.
|by Anonymous||reply 140||04/29/2021|
Like you would turn Colton down.
|by Anonymous||reply 141||04/29/2021|
I've always been baffled by the notion that coming out means you need to completely change everything about yourself and find a new set of gay friends to hang out with,
If you ever wonder why the closet exists in 2021, I'd say that has something to do with it, especially for guys who don't fit the gay stereotype but whose friends and family are unlikely to be cool with them being gay
|by Anonymous||reply 142||04/29/2021|
He certainly needs a thirsty gay to show him how to Instahoe.
|by Anonymous||reply 143||04/29/2021|
Maybe Tommy and Gio can show him the ropes. Robin Roberts can hook them up.
|by Anonymous||reply 144||04/29/2021|
It's actually a pretty corrosive idea he's putting out there, when you think about it, R142. He's saying that coming out changes everything to the extent that you can get a whole TV show out of it! Whatever happened to the old hope that there would come a day when coming out wasn't such a big deal? Seems to me that Colton is perpetuating the status quo so he can feather his own nest.
|by Anonymous||reply 145||04/29/2021|
Some men, like Colton, ENJOY being gay and being part of the gay community.
Too bad about you self-haters who only want straight friends.
|by Anonymous||reply 146||04/29/2021|
People are different
|by Anonymous||reply 147||04/29/2021|
Sure, the gay community is very welcoming if you're young, hot, and built. Otherwise, it's not so welcoming, and you find yourself jumping from one community that rejected you (i.e., your family or church) into another one that rejects you. Contrary to popular opinion, it doesn't necessarily get better.
|by Anonymous||reply 148||04/29/2021|
True that, R148. Colton’s circle of gay friends will inevitably be a circle jerk of clones, where entry to the club requires you to be white and have 0% body fat.
|by Anonymous||reply 149||04/29/2021|
I’m short, bald, average body, fug, and go to equinox and have many gay friends there - the mecca of narcissism. Kind of debunks R148 and R149 - who are probably horrifically homophobic.
|by Anonymous||reply 150||04/29/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 151||04/29/2021|
Why would I lie? Lol.
|by Anonymous||reply 152||04/29/2021|
R151 - it's because he's got money.
|by Anonymous||reply 153||04/29/2021|
I have no money.
|by Anonymous||reply 154||04/29/2021|
That’s why I say they’re homophobic. Because they are.
|by Anonymous||reply 155||04/29/2021|
R139, I agree. I'm the guy who stood next to him at an ABC event and we chatted for a bit.
Dude's arms were massive and he had great chest.
The perfect height for me. So my type.
Minus, of course, the closeted can't live my life just yet so how can I love anyone else vibe I was getting.
|by Anonymous||reply 156||04/29/2021|
Because they include you in their gatherings and Insta-trips outside the gym, R150, right? I bet you’re all over their Instas. And I’m not jealous or trying to prove anything, nor being homophobic, I’m just stating an observation about our internal gay “class” structures.
|by Anonymous||reply 157||04/29/2021|
You need psychiatric help. ^.
|by Anonymous||reply 158||04/29/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 159||04/29/2021|
R157, you're right.
We're all about inclusion, but we exclude so easily.
I've never found a crowd to fit in with...too nellie for the str8 acting (or less traditional gay characteristic acting) guys and not 'hey! Girl!' for the ...'Heyyy Girl!' crowd.
I've welcomed the solitude of COVID. I'm double vaxxed, but I have no desire to even go out and try anymore. I could stay in my apt. for another 20 years with all the books and media I have to pass the time.
Being alone sucks, but being alone with other people sucks worse.
|by Anonymous||reply 160||04/29/2021|
Careful, R160, or R158 will accuse you of being homophobic or of “transitioning”.
|by Anonymous||reply 161||04/29/2021|
Define gorgeous OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 162||04/29/2021|
R161; yeah...I already have conflicts with friends (who have settled in life) who have asked me to adjust my expectations (e.g. settle).
They'll point out a good friend I have and asked if I'd ever considered dating them. I'm like, you mean...have sex with my good pal Kevin?
The one I have absolutely ZERO sexual attraction to?
No. I do not see me eating out Kevin's ass just because I should be grateful he's 'in my league.'
I'm all for finding friends. I ask if sexual attraction is off the table, then maybe I should consider a woman? Find a great 'friend' and settle down and have kids. I get along better with women anyway.
Colton won't have trouble finding guys he's attracted to and having sex; some of the rest of us? Not so lucky.
We didn't get Netflix shows either.
|by Anonymous||reply 163||04/29/2021|
Mixed orientation marriages are a viable option for many for that very reason
|by Anonymous||reply 164||04/29/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 165||04/29/2021|
R164, yeah, but I'm afraid after making that commitment the man of my dreams (not Colton) would come along.
I'd need an out (no pun intended) clause in my contract.
|by Anonymous||reply 166||04/29/2021|
[quote] I've always been baffled by the notion that coming out means you need to completely change everything about yourself and find a new set of gay friends to hang out with,
I never heard of such a notion that, when you come out, you HAVE to ditch your old gay friends for new, better gay friends. Unless these former gay friends are closet cases who don't want to be associated with you anymore.
What usually happens when you come out in a, well, not very gay friendly environment is you have to find a support system that loves and supports you living your truth.
|by Anonymous||reply 167||04/29/2021|
I'm gay and not very attractive, and I was pretty much shunned by the "gay community" when I came out, and it's not homophobic to say that. That was my reality, and probably the reality for many other looks-challenged guys. No one in bars gave me the time of day. I even tried volunteering to make friends/meet guys, but they mostly just seemed like yet another place for 4's looking for 8's and 9's. It was all very high school. Let's face it...much of the gay urban "lifestyle" is incredibly shallow and looks-based, and if you don't fit a certain mold, then you're invisible at best.
|by Anonymous||reply 168||04/29/2021|
[quote] Being alone sucks, but being alone with other people sucks worse.
Where do you live? You can't find ANY common ground with ANY person in your area? I think for guys like you social media was invented to get in contact with guys who have at least one thing in common (favorite music artist or group, TV show, movie franchise, movie genre, sport, cars, collecting stamps, knitting, etc.).
I imagine guys who complain about not being able to find ANY friends are either under some illusion that friends, and dates, have to match 100%, or they use any excuse to stay alone because they are terrified of getting rejected, betrayed or abandoned.
|by Anonymous||reply 169||04/29/2021|
r168, sorry to pile on you, but you sound like a bitter incel. Shunned by the gay community? What did you do, demand that all the hot guys have sex with you? Trolls get shunned. You did volunteer work and nobody wanted to fuck you there either? At least you had your priorities straight. *rollingeyes*
|by Anonymous||reply 170||04/29/2021|
I am completely baffled by those who deny that gay culture has a caste system. We would put Downton Abbey to shame, for chrissake!
|by Anonymous||reply 171||04/29/2021|
R170, it's a lose/lose scenario
No, 8's and 9's are never expected to fuck 4's. (Unless there's $$$ involved).
But that doesn't mean we have to be happy about it.
|by Anonymous||reply 172||04/29/2021|
[quote] But that doesn't mean we have to be happy about it.
Translation: Bitter incel.
|by Anonymous||reply 173||04/29/2021|
[quote] I am completely baffled by those who deny that gay culture has a caste system.
The sad truth is that those complaining about the gays having a cast system are the ones who want so desperately to be (and fuck) A-List and get rejected.
The rest forms bonds and friendships with gays who don't buy into that social status hierarchy bullshit. There are plenty of those.
|by Anonymous||reply 174||04/29/2021|
I more or less agree with you, R174. I take it from your post that you believe that the caste system does exist, but there is life beyond it. I agree. My problem is with those who claim that the caste system is all a figment of fugly incels' imaginations.
|by Anonymous||reply 175||04/29/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 176||04/29/2021|
Look - and I say this as a 6 on a good day - there's a caste system for the most part in every sexuality. It's just the way it is. That said, we do seem more ruthless and obsessed about it. Instagram doesn't help. It's like Noah's Ark... matchy matchy.
The worst part is it is in our heads on both sides of the sexy divide. I think of a certain California mental case health practitioner who gives every appearance of preferring death or carbs than being photographed in the company of anyone who does not make her look good. And as a six I can tell you the voice of worthlessness that starts shouting every time I'm in gay company. Because rank is real.
So the challenge is getting content with it. Coming to terms with it. I often feel the fives and sixes are the worst because they are so ruthless... rather than accept reality they reject possibility and pine for those up the food chain and make themselves and others like them miserable. Those beautiful men who won't fuck you - 99% of them are so chewed up inside and insecure that yes, they'll never, ever fuck you, let alone date you or partner with you. It's for you to decide how you relate to reality.
There may be eights and nines who are open to threes and fours, but there aren't many.
Reconcile yourself to it, find your caste and make the best of it, because there's great people at every level of our very stratified existence.
|by Anonymous||reply 177||04/29/2021|
LOTS of homophobic, self-hating gay incels in this thread.
You should all go marry women since you despise being gay so much.
Milo can help you with his gay conversion therapy, you diseased homophobes.
|by Anonymous||reply 178||04/29/2021|
Some of us very much enjoy being gay. We do not, however, feel the need to welcome a grifting sociopathic rightwing MAGAt who's turning his coming out into a PR stunt.
|by Anonymous||reply 179||04/29/2021|
[quote] I even tried volunteering to make friends/meet guys, but they mostly just seemed like yet another place for 4's looking for 8's and 9's.
R168 really does sound like someone fishing out-of-his-league who needs to settle.
There are fours who are dynamite sexually — hung or really eager to please orally, etc.
|by Anonymous||reply 180||04/29/2021|
[quote] [R168] really does sound like someone fishing out-of-his-league who needs to settle.
Not necessarily. I know a 9 (not only hot, but also a trust fund brat) who married a 4 who is an accountant. The 9's answer? He makes me laugh. And I admit 4 is pretty fun to be around (but still don't get the accountant thing).
|by Anonymous||reply 181||04/29/2021|
Where are the alleged MAGAt receipts?
|by Anonymous||reply 182||04/29/2021|
As someone who never rated himself, but was skinny and wore glasses through a good bit of my prime sexual years, I can vouch that at least those two conditions never prevented me from getting laid. (A LOT!) So I don't agree that a person has to be a male model to score sexually. In fact, every gay person I know has faced sexual rejection. Even the most handsome men might not be attractive to the very people they want to sleep with - maybe they're too hairy, too slim, too thick, of the wrong ethnic background. There could be a thousand reasons. Obviously a person has to be realistic, for the same reason that a 60 year old man should not expect every 20 year old he meets to want to jump into bed with him. Someone cute is going to have better odds of sleeping with another cute guy. However, a beautiful sexy voice, a great sense of humor, an empathetic soul, a gleaming intelligence - any of this can land someone a sexual partner even if the possessor is far from the standard of ideal male beauty. There's a wonderful documentary about Bertram Ross and John Wallowitch. John is not the standard of beauty we all aspire to. Bertram Ross was that standard (a famous dancer and principal of the Martha Graham Company). They met one another in late 60s and were together until death, 35 years later. It certainly wasn't looks that drew them together.
Yes we are a visually-oriented color. But I'll be sad for Colton if he doesn't also develop an interesting personality and cultivate other attributes. There's nothing sadder than an aging beauty who has noting else to fall back on and ends life lonely and embittered.
|by Anonymous||reply 183||04/29/2021|
Colton loves animals. Sounds like he has an interesting personality to me.
|by Anonymous||reply 184||04/29/2021|
R184, sounds like you're a vapid queen with no discerning ability to tell a sociopath from a normal human.
|by Anonymous||reply 185||04/29/2021|
Oh, so he’s now a sociopath? 🙄🙄🙄
|by Anonymous||reply 186||04/29/2021|
R186, there are some self-hating crazies here.
|by Anonymous||reply 187||04/29/2021|
His personality mightn't be everyone's cup of tea but I really fail to see how he's a sociopath.
|by Anonymous||reply 188||04/29/2021|
Most gay men are not Pro-Mos-- professional homosexuals whose identity begins and ends with being gay, only go to gay resorts, wear gay clothes, listen to gay music, live in gay ghettos...you get the picture,"
But those who are--and there's a sizable number of them on DL--can't imagine that there are other gay men out there who have zero interest in being part of their world.
This is especially true for gay men under 40 who are far less likely to be disowned by friends and family for being gay.
The fact that this is an issue for Eldergay Pro-Mos is not surprising. Listen to older members of any ethnic group bitch about how the younger generation is becoming too assimilated.
|by Anonymous||reply 189||04/29/2021|
r160 we really don't care if you want to waste away your life. You sound like you're in the West. While you decide to waste the opportunity to meet your group, and there is one for everyone, you decide to just sit at home. Meanwhile, there are gays around the world being prosecuted and going through hell. Life's about choices but I've got my elder years to sit at home alone (outside of the pandemic).
|by Anonymous||reply 190||04/29/2021|
r182 - he follows Candace Owens and a few other Magats.
|by Anonymous||reply 191||04/29/2021|
R189, before you print out and frame your fake Sociology degree from DeVry University, shut the fuck up and go back to square one:
A lying closet case on a TV show about serial straight date-fucking stalked a player on a fake show, and now fakely claims to be a virgin and gets his own second "reality" show because he's white and 'pretty.'
THAT is hate-worthy, Professor Pontificatress.
|by Anonymous||reply 192||04/29/2021|
Yeah, this body is SO "disgusting," so WEHO gross.
Delusional self-haters who despise their own homosexuality.
|by Anonymous||reply 193||04/29/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 194||04/29/2021|
Here's a sampling from the self-hating RACIST at R189:
[quote]Things white people do not to be mistaken as black: Sitting quietly in a movie theater and not shouting at the screen.
|by Anonymous||reply 195||04/29/2021|
let me ask you guys this: does having a big thick 8" dick with a thick shaft and mushroom head make up for being a 6.5?
can that turn a 6.5 into an 8? an 8.5?
|by Anonymous||reply 196||04/29/2021|
Dear R192, do you go through life finding things to be "hate-worthy"?
Is that part of your mission as a Social Justice Warrior to find things you perceive to be 'hate-worthy' so you can anonymously excoriate them on line?
|by Anonymous||reply 197||04/29/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 198||04/29/2021|
"Pro-Mos" is a YMF tell.
|by Anonymous||reply 199||04/29/2021|
He looks like he turning into a gay clone. He looked hotter when he was "straight."
|by Anonymous||reply 200||04/29/2021|
[things you perceive to be 'hate-worthy']
Just cunts like you, R197. Also, 'online' is one word, idiot.
|by Anonymous||reply 201||04/29/2021|
Colton strikes me as a deep thinker.
|by Anonymous||reply 202||04/29/2021|
Would he date an Asian?
|by Anonymous||reply 203||04/29/2021|
r203, are you for real? Guys who look like him only date other guys who look like him. No Blacks, Asians, fatties, or femmes allowed. White/muscled/masc go to the head of the line.
|by Anonymous||reply 204||04/29/2021|
R200 "turning into a gay clone" is 100% spot-on.
Colton's "mentors" are Andy Cohen and Gus Kenworthy, which means he's soon to be an expert at taking poppers.
|by Anonymous||reply 205||04/29/2021|
Do you think Colton would date a 4 or 5?
|by Anonymous||reply 206||04/29/2021|
The Youtube algorithm sent me this video. It was from one year ago when Colton was promoting his book and explaining how he finally realized for sure that he is straight, and the Bachelor show actually helped him realized that.
The ET interviewer in the video ask him why it took him so long from High School to age 25 to figure out that he was straight? He stumbled and stammered at bit with the answer.
The gay question stuff starts at timemark 2:33
|by Anonymous||reply 207||04/29/2021|
Recap of the video at r207 :
[quote] Colton: Everyone in grade school, high school, the football team, college, and the audience of the Bachelor thought I was gay. It made me doubt myself, but now I'm sure that I'm straight. The End.
UPDATE of video a year later:
[quote] Colton: Everyone in grade school, high school, the football team, college, and the audience of the Bachelor was correct about the "quacks like a duck" thing.
|by Anonymous||reply 208||04/29/2021|
So a year ago he wrote a book about realizing he’s straight and how much he loves the ladies, and now he’s realizing he’s gay and will celebrate that in a Netflix special? I don’t think his issue is his sexuality.
|by Anonymous||reply 209||04/29/2021|
Top or bottom?
|by Anonymous||reply 210||04/29/2021|
Who knows r203 maybe if they look like this.
|by Anonymous||reply 211||04/29/2021|
No way she dating no Asian.
|by Anonymous||reply 212||04/29/2021|
But he’s every Gaysians wet dream
|by Anonymous||reply 213||04/29/2021|
R206, no, he wouldn't, but the irony is he dated women on The Bachelor.
|by Anonymous||reply 214||04/29/2021|
Following Candace Owens willingly is definitely not a mark in his favor unless he's doing it for the reason I watch the Steve Bannon show - pure amusement. Except there isn't anything particularly amusing about Owens.
Beyond that I don't have any opinion of him, but the Netflix show has the potential to be a hot mess so I'm in.
|by Anonymous||reply 215||04/29/2021|
“Colton” is such an American trailer-trash sounding name. Hot bod though.
|by Anonymous||reply 216||04/30/2021|
Has his nose whiffed the Rush yet?
|by Anonymous||reply 217||04/30/2021|
Do you think he's open to being fisted?
|by Anonymous||reply 218||04/30/2021|
Is it just me, or does he kind of look like a ftm?
|by Anonymous||reply 219||04/30/2021|
His new extreme cut for his summer body shows how shallow and image obsessed Colton is. He will be miserable for awhile, even if he gets a ton of attention. I just hope nudes leak. Least we can get for awarding this crazy man wit another TV show.
|by Anonymous||reply 220||04/30/2021|
He's like a lot of fairly/moderately attractive guys when they first come out and become part of the life. They are suddenly surrounded by guys with ridiculously sculpted bodies who are considered super-hot, and in order to fit in, they follow suit and try to look like them.
|by Anonymous||reply 221||04/30/2021|
This thread is getting monotonous, repetitive and seems to reinforce what's said here—
|by Anonymous||reply 222||04/30/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 223||04/30/2021|
HOT masc gay!!!!
|by Anonymous||reply 224||04/30/2021|
Next pic is the top, right?
|by Anonymous||reply 225||04/30/2021|
|by Anonymous||reply 226||04/30/2021|
Wait, he’s referring to himself as a she now? How did he instantly becum a flaming Kaweeen? Gusworthy’s influence?
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