Stereotypically Gay Stuff You Don't Like or Don't Care About

drag

Agree on all those things. I really don't get Ryan Murphy at all. His shows are terribly plotted, it's like watching something written by someone with ADHD.

I’ve never seen an episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race or any of the Real Housewives.

JUDY FUCKIN GARLAND!

Drag

Musicals

The Golden Girls

Palm Springs

Streisand

Garland

Liza

Bette Midler

The confusion of cruel, cuntish behaviour with wit.

Don't care about Bette Midler, either

Queer Eye Rainbow flags Pete Buttagieg Ellen

Designer undies, shaped eyebrows, lip gloss/make up, sweet/fruity mixed drinks, barebacking, meth, extended "youth", etc etc

GOLDEN GIRLS

I don't understand why there are drag shows and off-off-Broadway shows dedicated to this program. My upstairs neighbor is a 75-year old elder gay. Every third conversation we have will include references to the GOLDEN GIRLS .

Broadway musicals and half-wit theater performances about putting on Broadway musicals and half-wit theater performances.

Madonna.

Sure I was an 80s kid, but I was more into Metallica

I'd swallow every drop of essence from James Hetfield and Lars Ulrich, even now!

Dave Mustaine, not so much. He was and is a gross Ginger.

Pride parades, rainbow anything that's not in the sky, ghetto talk, obsession with sex,

Musicals. And drag. Actively hate both.

Catty behavior - so weird

Sex with men

Poppers and poopers.

Flouncing into whatever bar to make sure that everyone sees you - we don't care sweetheart.

Bussy

Using cutesy gay words

Hubby

Husbear

Gurrrrllllll

Cringey

If you use any of these words, I plot your death

Wearing dress shoes without socks.

I don't much care about old sit-coms. I don't like drag. I'm a gay man, who likes gay sex, but I've never had any interest in bath houses or extreme sex. I'm not judgmental about it: it's just that the thought of it kills my boner. I just like one sweet man at a time.

Overproduced anything.

Group and "open".

slings bathhouses back rooms having sex in dark rooms having sex in dungeons

I want to see the man I'm with naked and I want him to see me naked and I want to see what we're doing.

Obsession with dick size.

R13 Even the S&M live album.? There must be limits.

Worldly affectation and ennui.

S&M and the leather scene

[quote] Using cutesy gay words Hubby Husbear Gurrrrllllll Cringey If you use any of these words, I plot your death

Guncle.

Instagay

Royalty.

The DataLounge

Drag, gay resorts, gay centric events, fashion, sassy bitchiness, leather bears, sweet drinks, camp, golden girls, gay cities, pool parties, cocktails

Madonna

RuPaul

Bette Midler

gay club music

underwear with 2" designer / brand names in the waistband

glory holes and toilet sex

Bitching about stereotypical gay things and behaviors

Drag

The is DL. We don't like gay stuff here.

The Golden Fucking Girls.

The Housewives.

The Golden Fucking Girls.

The Royals.

The Golden Fucking Girls.

All of these British actors / celebrities I've never heard of.

The Golden Fucking Girls.

DL's Black Supremacist.

The Golden Fucking Girls.

The Bern Bots.

The Golden Fucking Girls.

Designer underwear and other clothing that screams, "I'M A SCREAMER!"

Did I mention The Golden Fucking Girls?

Cock.

Liza Minnelli.

And this hatred of frau culture. I can't find it in myself to hate fraus, I'm rather morbidly fascinated by them. Their "live laugh love" cult is more interesting than scientology.

Strangers who think they speak for me.

Theatre.

The gym.

All these overly sweet cocktails that make your teeth hurt and leave your mouth tasting like sugar syrup.

Uncut penises.

Drag where the performers just dress up and lip-sync. I don't understand that. Now, a man dressing up like Ethel Merman and singing her hits in the original keys? That's talent!

General catty behavior. I'm over that. It's so high school.

The grass is always greener mentality where no one wants to commit to anyone, because there will always be someone better or hotter.

Half the pop divas these days. I can't keep track of them, nor do I care once I hear their modest talents.

Hitting on or being obsessed with straight guys. I'll never understand this.

Freaking out about aging. There are some incredibly hot guys in their 50's and 60's that I've happily had very hot sex with.

Real Housewives.

Brunch. Pick one!

Flag dancing or fan waving, I don't know what to call it. It's when guys wear short shorts and twirl flags or fans and spin around in parks.

I don't understand whether it's supposed to be an exercise or some type of cheerleading but (at least to me) it looks lame and silly and a desperate plea for attention.

Nobody has to love anything stereo-typically gay. I just wish people wouldn't announce it like they were announcing their acceptance of the Nobel Peace Prize. Fine, in this one tiny aspect of life, you are not stereo-typically gay. So fucking what?

Also too, Cock? You hate cock? well, okay, bitch, you sure you're gay at all?

Power bottoms

Instahos and DL threads about Instahos.

Sensitivity to, open-mindedness of, and all around acceptance of trans-bullshit

well, in fairness, r48, not sure that is stereotypically gay here at DL.

No, r49, that is stereotypically LGBTQ. Not stereotypically gay.

I'm a very naturally masculine man. As I've got older, nothing has changed about my personality. But I've learned to appreciated the gayer aspects of life. I sort of judged drag and stuff like that earlier in my life. I've learned to appreciate it. But that's just me. No desire to do it. But I get the art.

But my partner and I both hate anal. So there's that.

I honestly don't get hating Drag. Never done drag, not effeminate, but I don't get the hatred. It's fun and interesting, isn't it? Really do not get the hate.

Home Depot, U-Haul, Pussy cats.

Drag is like piano bars - who wants to be forced to listen to amateur performers who just want attention.

well, I do r54. I honestly don't get what is the trauma. I really don't.

I don't know who Ryan Murphy is.

Being in "the scene" used to matter to me. Now, we live in the burbs and hit the hay by 9:30 on weekends. Sometimes as last as 10 though!

so you were kind of a whore, and now you are not? okay, well, good for you. but what is still gay to you r56, and why is that bad?

i don't understand what you mean, r57. who said anything was bad?

Andy fuck’n Cohen

my mistake r58, and my apologies.

You may hate Streisand and drag all you want....at the end of the day a dick goes in your mouth bitches. You're still gay as fuck hon.

r61, the assignment isn't "gay stuff you like".

SCENE QUEENS

I know. On this allegedly gay site, I sorta want to ask, what stereotypically gay stuff do you actually like?

Drag Shows!

I hate what Andy Cohen did to Bravo. That used to be such a great network and now it's absolute trash.

Disco, nightclubs, bars (gay or straight), Madonna, fashion, recreational drugs, designer underwear, the Oscars, tattoos, hair products, cologne, shaped eyebrows, bronzer, White Parties, A-List gatherings...

Having a pair of identical miniature purebreds; treating them like spoiled human babies.

R9, or punctuation apparently

The help desk/sales persona after hours. It’s a fake cheerfulness and it usually involves diaphragmatic breathing.

I know it’s efficient, but I tend to copy it and overdo it until I finally notice it’s annoying. By then, you’ve all rightly fled for your lives.

The Golden Girls: '"Married With Children" with a geriatric female cast, I detest bathroom humor.

Wendy Williams= witless clod, she kills the myth that gay men have superior taste.

You

Count me as another The Golden Girls non-fan. I could care less about fashion, clothes and anything name brand.

CNN AND MSNBC NEWS

Acting like “Sassy Black Maid from an 80s Sitcom”.

George Takei

Anderson Cooper

Wendy Williams

Joan Rivers

Tom Cruise

I hate Bravo TV shows. I hate Ryan Murphy shows. But I love Streisand.

Desire to appear, but not to be

Excessive drug use in LGBT community has always made me uncomfortable.

Nitpicking Harpy Listmakers, like everyone on this thread.

In general the Golden Girls was an AVERAGE sitcom but it did make me laugh once in a while. It was still a more watchable show then the MEDIOCRE -FRIENDS. I couldn't watch more than 10 seconds of the drivel.

Who is Ryan Murphy? What is a Bravo? Streisand I am periphally aware of

Musicals. Just... no. I'm with R13 although my music tastes range wider, metal through rock, southern rock, to country and blues

Opera (sounds like a domestic violence incident set to music to me)

Disco, nightclubs, bars (gay or straight), Madonna like what R66 said

Fashion, mens or especially womens. There are two types of clothes to me, camo and not-camo. I shop at hardware stores factory discount outlets or Walmart if I'm going upmarket. I guess I aint ever making no A-list

Drag, I dont hate it, but it does nothing for me. And the couple times I have done it.... I was exceptionally bad at it. Probably I should shave and clean up after working on cars all day and wear something other than steel cap boots if I am going to wear a pink frilly dress

Drugs as R78 pointed out, fuck that noise, especially meth

Sex in the dark like what R26 says, fuck I hate that. I am very visual, what the fuck is the point of sex in the dark?

But most of all I relate to what R51 ended up with - the obsession with anal, like its the be all and end all. Motherfuckers, it aint. There is plenty of other good stuff to do with men, and I've done it all and with lots of men. Lots and lotsa men

But damn I LOVE cock, and I love sex, and yes I am promiscuous, and I've run right outta fucks as to what anybody thinks about that

Travel that is too gay-centric. Gay cruises as the prime example. Gay "weekends" at Disney, etc. Ibiza. It's too much.

[quote] I honestly don't get hating Drag. Never done drag, not effeminate, but I don't get the hatred. It's fun and interesting, isn't it? Really do not get the hate.

Some of the hate for it on this board comes from women not gay men.

I could care less about drag except for the aging queens with no other marketable skills who try to eke out a living as transvestites until retirement. This is not a profession suited for mature men, unless you have a dumb, loyal, fan base of OTHER old folks.

Just about everything mentioned so far in this thread. I've always hated the song Somewhere Over the Rainbow, finding it incredibly cringe-worthy; the only thing about that movie that was any good to me were the flying monkeys.

I did watch soap operas when I was a youngster back in the Reagan Era, so those threads have some resonance for me.

The life of the royalty, they shouldn't exist at all, so decadent and outdated. They are just regular people who born in the right place, they are not better than the rest, just lucky fuckers.

Actually, most everything about gay culture these days. I didn't always feel this way.

As for specifics: Drag Trans Effeminate men Dance Music Drugs and Drunks Anal Sex

Have TERFs found this thread?

Why do all the lgbt+ people have to hang out at the same club! Remember when gay men had their own small bars THOSE WHERE THE DAYS

Straight women took them over, R89.

The Tony Awards

The lockstep in politics. I'm not talking about support for that racist, sexist, irresponsible imbecile in the White House. Any who support that man or say they don't care about politics do not care for the rule of law, respect for others, and just common decency. No, I mean the "cancelling" or contempt visited upon gay men who may hold so-called conservative positions such as firm beliefs in a market economy with little gov't interference or individual responsibility.

As for the other gay stuff I care little for: drag, diva worship, catty behavior, reality TV, Housewives franchise, Andy Cohen, obsession with body image, Grindr.

What a fun thread this is.

Has the lgbtq+ become to INCLUSIVE? Does that mean everyone.

With the ascension of the T's, the Q's and all the X, Y, Z's, it's been over for me. I honestly can't stand them and I honestly believe they have set us back decades.

Yes, I have no interest in personality-free straight women deciding they're 'queer'.

r95 is acting like a stereotypical datalounger by attacking trans people. If anyone is trying to set us back decades it's Trumpsters and the right. Fight the real enemy.

Real Housewives or any other reality TV Theatre gossip Makeovers Palm Springs or Weho or Capitol Hill Mayor Pete

Yes, solidarity with transwomen. It's ciswomen who are invading our spaces.

[quote]Wearing dress shoes without socks.

😂

"Attitude"

R55, One thing that irks me about modern drag is the lip-synching and repetitive club dance moves, it's a complete bore. I don't understand why that became a thing in drag or why it is so prominent now when it's so inferior to past drag performers who always used to sing live, it didn't matter if they were good or bad they still gave it their all.

“Modern drag” is an oxymoron.

Being gay and interacting with gay people regularly, you learn that most people defy stereotypes. I've come across gays who like horror movies (slasher in particular even if they have a reputation for appealing to mostly horny teen boys), straight porn, professional wrestling, hard rock and metal, video games, not exercising, and even Trump.

I agree with the drag queens lip-syncing. I'm sorry, but that's not a real talent. I wouldn't pay to see my sister singing along to Madonna with her hairbrush and I won't pay to see a guy dressed up like Madonna lip-syncing to her hits. What's the point? Now, if they're using their own voices and really interpreting the song in their own way, that can be terrific, but otherwise, it's just lazy.

It reminds me of those videos people post of them in their cars singing along to their favorite songs. Is that necessary? I'm not entertained.

It's nothing like that, R105. What's supposed to be fun about that is the contrast between a man singing and a female voice coming out.

How is that fun? Maybe I just don't get it.

Seeing a man performing as a woman is what's fun about it.

Drag queens and fisting

Defending women.

Gossip.

Once someone starts dishing someone I know, I know I'm going to be next when I leave the room.

Mimosas

Can't stand them.

Cosmopolitans -- or any drink like that.

Give me scotch, red wine, or beer.

This thread is filled with self-loathing 'mascs'.

Don't worry, no matter how much you hate yourself, fish and straight men will always hate you more.

R28 You got me there. I think around that time I got into techno (GASP! 😯) music and started going to raves.

I just wanted to get some hot raverboy ass. I did get it, but the pacifiers, candy necklaces, and fuzzy pants were real boner killers.

R114 it's fun to call everything "self loathing," huh? What sort of self protection/delusion is that?

Bottoming.

Gay Cruises.

Ohhing and ahhhing over a museum exhibit of .... jewels.

Grindr.

This thread.

Drag. I hate it and feel weird about it. It's like watching the clown from It, but there's tons of them all around you.

Cut or uncut. Does it really matter?

R121 YES. UNCUT MUCH BETTER

Other gay men

Fucking and/or getting fucked.

Men referring to each other as "SHE" and "HER" and "BITCH". It makes me cringe.

Bragging SIZE queens.

The TOP vs BOTTOM inquisition and endless debating!!! Everyone should be versatile! I find it rude and low class to be casually asked that question, by some drunk homo stranger.

When straight folk ask, it's super inappropriate. When gay guys ask, it's totally cringey.

Yeah, totally sick of gay men who, when they see a male/male couple immediately ask: "Who's the top?" or "Who's the bottom?" As if they can't even imagine that there are LOTS of gay relationships where neither is defined as such. Or guys in relationships who are oral-only. The list goes on.

[quote] Or guys in relationships who are oral-only

That's a relationship??

Gays groups that habitually do "brunch". Also, gay friend groups that strictly go on vacations to gay hot spots where they will end up at circuit parties with lots and lots of drugs.

Barbra, Celine, Bette - yuck

Glory holes

Muscle Marys (fit is good, just not the roided out Instaho look)

R29, for a great lot of gay guys, sucking a guy's cock and swallowing his cum is an extraordinary check-in and one of the most intimate things you can do. A long, slow, wet, sloppy, intense 69, with both guys pumping their loads into each other's mouths at the same time is pure heaven.

R82 Gay Cruises? Are you fuck’n kidding me? Gay Cruises are gay heaven on earth. Atlantis rules!

Kathy Griffin, nothing but a washed up, wrinkled and withered, past their prime, bitchy cunt. Ain’t she ain’t even that funny either. And that hair, that hair. Don’t even get me started on that god awful orange mop top. Please just go away silently.

I can't cum from a blowjob.

R131 ok you went to far. I love the glory hole

Any music thread on DL. Gays have the worst music taste. Although I was pleasantly surprised some knew about Mazzy Star. Good 90s chill. But yeah 90% of “Muzak threads”. Also love the Sade thread. I’m a music snob who listens to metal to electro and still cringe at gay music tastes. Probably the worst.

Metal is for white trash dirtbags.

Well, liking Sade is pretty gay.

Getting fucked in the ass

R137 insufferable

R137 thinks knowing who Mazzy Star and Sade are is advanced knowledge

Claiming how masculine you are while posting on a gay bitching forum about other gays.

Gays who say “muscle Marys”

Gays who are more than 80 years old

The Venn diagram between the two would be a perfect circle

I agree with drag queens lip syncing. Do any of you remember OW bar on the Upper East Side? Right across the street from the Townhouse. It's gone now. Maybe a decade and a half ago?

Anyway, their was a drag queen who performed there who would actually sing and I loved that act. She loved Janis Joplin. That was a fun drag act.

Heterosexuals are known for their trailblazing and elevated taste in music.

"Kathy Griffin, nothing but a washed up, wrinkled and withered, past their prime, bitchy cunt. Ain’t she ain’t even that funny either. And that hair, that hair. Don’t even get me started on that god awful orange mop top. Please just go away silently."

Looks like Andy Cohen chimed in tonight...

Queens who say anyone who isn’t a screechingly effeminate cliche is self hating. Talk about projection.

R135, getting my dick sucked is the only way I CAN cum. (Or jacking myself off, which is no fun.)

R149 that sucks. so many filthy mouths.

What’s with all the gays here not liking anal sex? How can you not like penetration?

How can you say you like sex without enjoying fucking?

That’s like beating around the bush... almost like kissing without tongue.

Anal sex is a big deal. It's a very big deal for the bottom. Not everyone wants to go through that, or if they do, perhaps it's a special occasion thing.

How much preparation does it take to wipe your ass?

Anal sex is an ordeal to be borne and not enjoyed.

I was told I have "gay face", I still don't know what that means, but is that a stereotype ? As far as other stuff goes, I roll my eyes at the absolutely not gay people and their bloody flags....omg I am queer because one day I kissed a woman type shit.

R151 I'm amazed so many gay men will allow a complete stranger penetrate their rectum, as if it's a benign, fun thing to do. It's painful, uncomfortable, wrecks your colon lining, exposes you to STDs, warts, HIV. It's like getting a colonoscopy without the day off work.

Anal sex only became big among the "musical" in the 70s on.

R156 loon

R151 your asshole must be wider than the Lincoln Tunnel

The 1870s.

R158 whore

R156 well I guess you also dont need to find a car park at the clinic either, so there's that.

Totally agree with you though

R156 I was talking about the experience of the penetrator, the "top".

R159, see r163.

R147 AC I’m coming for you. You in danger gurl.

R159 yes, it’s now officially a four lane wide super highway

R166 speak for yourself.

Sex and the City. Materialistic rubbish and I have no idea why people like it so much.

We have had 50 years of the masc thing (according to whenever clones started). You'd think the pendulum could swing back sometime?? And I don't mean drag or anything, I just mean ditching the steroids and anal obsession.

Casting for porn being based on other qualities besides the dick first when it comes to men.

Drag shows. Any of the 'gay' reality shows. Fashion. "Divas".

R169 I'm masc myself but yeah, I'd like that too

Reality TV

Dick size or if it's cut or uncut.

Fems / girly boys / drag / men wearing dresses

Fisting drag queens!

Stupid Real housewives shit. Drag. Lady GaGa

Judy Garland Divas generally Musical theater Oscars - who was deserving, who wasn't, etc. Snarky gay-friendly female comedians

Some stereotypical things I like.

Drag balls (at least back in the day) Fashion - basically discussing red carpet looks. Interior design.real estate - I love looking at houses and house interiors and talking about it. House and dance music Cock! (kidding).

R178, who is this Judy Garland person?

Anal sex

Regarding anal sex, is anal sex the "base" sex for gay men like general society seems to think - the equivalent of vaginal sex for heteros. I think oral is the base level sex for gay men.

Wearing angel wings at parades

All of the above? Ditto on the Madonna and Judy Garland obsession--I don't get it. The "gayest" I go with music is Courtney Love, who is rather masculine in her own right.

Lady Gaga. Judy Garland, RuPaul's drag race which I find really boring now.

Broadway show tunes.

Drag.

S&M/Leather bars

poppers, drag, pride parades, bathroom sex, open relationships, steroids, waxed eyebrows.

I'm another one who pretty much hates drag - the guys who just dress up and lip-synch I have zero interest watching; the one's who do more of a cabaret routine with jokes or anecdotes between the songs are at least trying to be original; but often their humor is just obvious and amateurish. I've seen a few drag performers that are quite witty and put on an entertaining show; but as with any of the performing arts, really outstanding talent is rare.

InstaHoes

Gaga. Madonna. Streisand. Garland. Cher. Mariah.

All absurdly overrated. Nails on a fucking chalkboard.

Cher is many things, R189, but screechy is not one of them.

At least Cher has a sense of humor, unlike the rest of those shrill harpies that r189 listed

Anal sex! Gross.

Darren Criss. He's supposedly a gay ally but he comes across as so fake and annoying.

All the gay shows like RuPaul's Drag Race and Queer Eye for the Straight Guy. These shows reinforce the perception that gay people are flamboyant and superficial instead of multidimensional human beings.

Billy Porter. Dear God please don't have him do the Oscars red carpet again.

Show tunes

I am no fan of Porter either... the gowns on the red carpet are gag-worthy.

Drag

Musicals

Divas

Celebrity worship

Bitchiness

Fashion obsession for clothes and brands and trends and conformity

Obsession with physical appearance (and its frequent companion, inattention to curiosity and intellectual challenge)

Camp

I cannot stand drag. Drag queens, Billy Porter, Ru-Paul's Drag Race or any of that shit.

Bossy bottoms and merciless tops

Prep

Lady Gaga. I know she's already a legend in the culture but I refuse to board the Gaga train.

Swapping spit

The Amalfi Coast. Young male companions. Austrian crystal and Second Empire furniture.

Real housewives of wherever the fuck

I fucking HATE that real housewives shit.

Other gays

Judy Garland and family

Musicals

What R207 said.

Rimming.

Live theatre, musical theatre, anything theatre-related.

Old Hollywood / Current Hollywood.

The Betty Davis, Joan Crawford dead old lady actress / dead old man actor stuff and all of the melodramatic acting in black and white films.

Love old movies, so as long as they aren’t musicals.

I'm another one for Cher. Can't sing. Actually thought she wasn't a bad actress. Probably will do Las Vegas shows till the day she dies. I thought she was cool when I was a little kid. But that was a long time ago. Never got the longing fascination with her.

Drag queens

I like Cher for her music, but not her acting.

R215 Snap out of it!

Anna Wintour’s dusty vag.

Ben Platt

[quote]Pride parades, rainbow anything that's not in the sky, ghetto talk, obsession with sex,

When you say ghetto talk do you mean "who is you gurl?" etc...I love all that. I wish DLers used it more often. They used to.

But I'm not American, so it surprises me.

Broadway. It's a convention of old queens who think going to plays makes the "classy". No thanks.

[quote]I fucking HATE that real housewives shit.

You've missed out. B Hills was THE BEST. I thought the same as you until I witnessed the dinner party from hell episode and I was ON BOARD!

There are a lot of people here who know exactly what I'm talking about.

Dan Savage said that if you-meaning gay men-are not attraced to effeminate gay males you are misogynistic.

He's SNOTTY and JUDGEMENTAL.

Disney! And all the silly queens that go there multiple times per year.

Grow the fuck up Peter Pan.

Bravo shows

Bravo shows

Real Housewives

RuPaul

Drag shows

Bottoming around town

Show tunes. Hate them. The only thing I hate more are the fans of show tunes.

RuPaul's Drag anything.

Let it go, it's so tired and overplayed. Drag Queens ruin everything.

Improve comedy.

Hate, it, never liked it, reminds me of junior high acting class wannabes. Most of it is cringe-worthy and painful to watch. It's like the karaoke of humor.

And for the record, I love stand up. At least they really have worked at putting together a 15 minute routine that is well thought out and funny.

[quote]Regarding anal sex, is anal sex the "base" sex for gay men like general society seems to think - the equivalent of vaginal sex for heteros. I think oral is the base level sex for gay men.

Nope, Oral is foreplay for most gays. Sorry you are missing out Dear.

R221 yes, other over-the-top, mincing queens

Most drag queens are crude, unfunny, disgusting and cheap. Especially that ghastly attention whore that shows up at award ceremonies dressed in women's clothes as though it is making some grand statement about our society.

I don’t love Barbra.

But I DO love LiZa and Judy!

Then you're gay ENOUGH, R233. Well done.

Golden Girls

Following (often mis-following) trends among fashion victims 15, 20, 30 years younger

Another Billy Porter hater here. Sorry, but his voice is nails on a chalkboard to me. Ugh. Make it stop.

Drag queens, camp, Golden Girls, divas, fashion, bitchiness, big dense cities, speedos, briefs, decorating.

Theater, musicals, divas, drag queens

Constant shirtless selfies on Facebook. It's not Grindr, assholes. ALWAYS shirtless, and ALWAYS with a jokey smirk or bewildered "cute wittle me?" expression. Insufferable.

Jonathan Van Mess from Queer Eye. One more overly-pleased-with-himself hair flip and I'm going on a killing spree...

Will and Grace

I don't care about fashion. I am basically jeans and a t-shirt guy which fits in with my tech/creative work environment. Cant tell you how many times other gays have said "turn in your gay card, ha, ha" Like I never heard that before. Honestly when someone says that to me they instantly drop on my list of serious people I want to get to know. It says they value labels more than substance and stereotypes more than the individual.

And yes, I have to money to do so if I wanted, I just think it's a waste in the big picture of life.

I dislike all of it except:

- A handful of musicals and operas

- Design & engineering

- Art

- Literature

- Fine wines and cooking

- Sailing

Those are all pretty gay stereotypes R234. Of someone +80 years .

Datalounge

Drag/Drag queens

Ryan Murphy shows

Andy Cohen/Bravo shows (except for RHOA)

Debra Messing

Bathhouses

BDSM

Twinks

Promiscuity

Hate Drag. Not into woman, or dressing up like woman, or being campy and looking like woman or making fun of woman. As a gold star gay I really don't get the obsession with woman. And for the records, I have real woman as friends. I dont mean faghags, they are just normal woman with boyfriends or husbands or single.

^women^

Being shit on by a relative and having it filmed for OnlyFans.

Pretending to deny that my mother did not turn me gay.

Having my hole eaten out by homeless people so that I can take a selfie for social media and declare that I’m paying it forward through feeding the homeless.

Oh, and I fucking can’t stand PRIDE parades.

Theater, musicals, camp, Bravo, or divas

MADONNA

Although I do like Cher.

MADONNA

Although I do like Cher.

Anal sex is a big one. Hate it.

I don't find drag queens either funny or interesting.

The T's, Q's and all the other tatted-out uglies that are so ubiquitous these days

I don’t get why gay guys like drag queens

Many many many of us really don’t R255 - but it’s the Hate That Dare Not Speak It’s Name.

I like some drag queen. Some. As in, I can count them on one hand. The rest are terrible. Unfunny, mean spirited without being witty. Grotesque make up that is meant to be "glamorous". Tried repetitive tropes, HEY GURL, YAAS QUEEN. No originality. Thinking they are "sexy" to gay men. Weirdly photoshopped posts with no skin texture and floating nostrils, lips and eyeballs that look like rubber sex dolls. Cunty without knowing anything about being an actual woman. Always bitter for not being "famous". Or worse, thinking they ARE famous. Ugh.

[quote]but it’s the Hate That Dare Not Speak It’s Name.

That + 1

I am just not into the cuntyness of Drag Queens, there are enough cunty woman on this planet to begin with, why do we need more?

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What R1 said.

“Fat” being the ultimate insult, rainbow anything, pride parades (never been to Boston’s despite living here for 30 years), big dick worship, influencers and stylists, devotion to female singers who helped you cope being a gay teenager, and of course the inclusion of T in LGB for the sake of brotherhood/sisterhood when, frankly, I think it’s a fad for 90% of them.

R250

[quote] Having my hole eaten out by homeless people so that I can take a selfie for social media and declare that I’m paying it forward through feeding the homeless.

Um, where's that video? Asking for a friend

Penis obsession. I’m not really attracted to men because of phalluses; I’m more into physique, face, masculine persona. Hence, I am attracted to goodlooking female to male trAns dudes.

I feel just like you R264

Yep!

Anal and assholes in general physical and psychological which the gay community sadly seems to have a lot of the latter type.

I don't get the fascination with twinks. Personally, I think adult males or mature men are much more attractive.

The twink thing is creepy

God yes. Can't stand twinks. The only younger looking guys I like are muscular, masculine, and don't have the body of an 8 year old Asian girl.

Cross dressing, drag, camp, Bravo, Real Housewives of any city, Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, RuPaul's Drag Race. You get the picture.

Twinks are only meant to be attractive to secret pedos.

I'm not attracted to anyone who is SCENEY, QUEENY, and BITCHY. that character on GIRLS- Elijah.

LIKE that character on GIRLS

Having SEX with men.

Caftans

Call Me By Your Name. All my friends were raving about it and the only thing I liked were the Italian locations. Timmy C looked like a skinny,10 year old girl. Armie was just blandsome, with not much heat. The two together were...ew. It reeked of pedophilia to me. I know he's well past the legal age, but still, ew. And both characters were manipulative assholes. They deserved to be miserable at the end.

I second Call Me By Your Name. The two leads had no chemistry.

Broadway, musicals, and the Tony Awards.

Just For Fans and OnlyFans

Yeah, Call Me By Your Name was creepy. The characters were supposed to be 24 and 17, which isn't a terribly huge age difference. However, Hammer looked 35 and Chalamet looked 14. It was gross and pervy. If they had cast actors who actually looked 24 and 17 it would've been much better.

Timothee Chalamet

Sucking penis

Rainbows ad nauseam, kennel club dogs... Drag queens, and Ellen, and lesbian hogs. Transgendered whiners, non-binary "thing" Garland and Houston and others who sing.

I can already imagine the hell I'm going to get for this, so I'll stop. Basically, I don't give a shit about anything stereotypically gay.

warm weather beach time

Shawn Mendes

Tom Holland

Helix Studios and Cocky Boys

All things Broadway musicals

All things Timothee Chalamet

Promiscuity and vulgarity

Fashion Drag "Divas" Attention-whoring, aka "Flaming"

If so many gay men say they don’t identify with gay culture or stereotypes, why is this behavior still associated with gay males?

R293 - because many if not most gay guys still like this stuff, but there are also a lot of us who don't.

If only 51% of gay guys still identify with and like the things listed in this thread then the stereotype is still valid overall, it just doesn't apply to many of us.

Flamboyant and stereotypical gays are usually openly gay, whereas as most non stereotypical gays are not. Society associates flamboyant and campy gays with gayness.

R293 and R295 - probably only a minority of gays actually fit the stereotype, but they are the ones that are noticeable. The gay community is a bit like an iceberg, the rest of society only sees the one tenth of it that are visible and above the surface. The other 90% that dont fit the stereotypes are effectively "below the surface" and go unseen and unnoticed

True

Dusty Lachowicz updates

RuPaul's Drag Race. I watched the first season or two. It was kinda interesting. But it wore thin quickly and I realized how little I could identify with any of them. All the faux drama and similar looks/outfits. The same things over and over. I can't tell any of them apart.

Serving in the military.

Getting married.

Adopting children.

"Devoted" couples to totally whore around behind each other's backs. I know many high profile gay couples on Facebook who constantly post how "in love" they are. Lots of cutesy pics and lovey self righteous testimonials. And whenever one partner goes out of town the other is INSTANTLY online or at the bars. It's infuriating and one reason I never want to have a "serious" partner. They'll fuck you over every time.

Infidelity and open relationships

Repulsed by all things queeny!

The ever expanding LGBT-HIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ of every single possible variation of sexuality or identity or WHATEVER, is now lumped in with us. Remember when you could go to a gay bar and there would be gay men there? I can't.

Daiquiris made with honey.

Straight people love the gay stereotype. It makes us less threatening to think of us as weak sissy clowns, here to entertain them.

And I know a lot of gay men that adopt the affections. It's an act for a lot of them. One in particular that I knew was like a normal guy unless he was around other gays or being "the gay" in a group of straights... then his voice went up two octaves, got all lispy and sing-songy (HEEEEY GURRRRRL!) and he flounced all over. It happened every time. At the pride parade and festival, total queen. In the car on the way home, just a guy, normal voice, normal mannerisms.

I'm sure it's "natural" for some people, but I also know it's adopted and affected for a lot of others.

Glee was the most painful show I’ve ever watched. The only good thing that came out of it was the end of Chris Colfer.

Gay Instahoes

Shrieking queens are like gay minstrel acts who feel a pathetic need to turn into grotesque caricatures just to please their straight audiences and acquaintances.

Being locked into "Top" or "Bottom" roles.

How 50s.

Sucking dick

Meth

Steroid-y muscles

Group think

[quote]If so many gay men say they don’t identify with gay culture or stereotypes, why is this behavior still associated with gay males?

Because they haven't looked in the mirror or heard their own voice on video.

Being told something is wrong with you because you don't identify as 50/50 versatile.

Queens in open relationships who snicker at you for being in one that monogamous then a year later they break up anyway.

Being vulgar and irreverent

Lack of traditional religious faith and practice

^ But I traditionally worship dick.

I don't understand how you can be a gay man and hate sucking dick. That doesn't make any sense.

Sucking dick and sucking face with a guy is pretty much the only thing I want to do, and about the only thing I have in common with most other gay men.

i.e., paganism and hedonism

R313 Whiny ass little bitches who misread/misconstrue posts about whiny ass little bitches stuck in tiresome and rigid roles.

If you aren't into dick but claim to be a gay man then you need therapy or something. It's the same as a straight guy who's like : "I think you're beautiful. But please keep your pussy away from me at all times. Cuddling is ok though."

R321, nope. Total tops or exclusive tops are just as gay or bisexual as total bottoms.

Drag, Drag Race, gay rom-coms, "Mussy" (I just hate the word), huge penises, asses, Will & Grace, hags (don't have one, have never had one,d on't want one), fashion, and fashion-savviness, etc.

R321 - I have no desire to put my mouth on a cock - just everything else the cock is attached to. But thanks for playing.

Even TOPS suck dick, jack off dick, kiss, etc.

If they don't... they need to see a shrink, because they're dealing with some really uptight shit in their fucked up brains.

R324, then you're not gay. You're just a freak.

Being a homosexual male, being a gay man, is ALL about sucking dick. There's something wrong with you.

Anal sex

Barbra Streisand

Musicals

The Golden Girls

Drag

Circuit Parties

Brunches with tons of gay friends

Glee

I never heard of self-described gays like r322 and r324 in the '70s (the Cocksucking Seventies). Only two guys I had sex with ever didn't want to suck my cock, and I had lots of sex partners. One was named Billy, and I sent him home. The other was named Andrew, and he was so beautiful, I let him stay 'til morning.

I think it must have happened during the AIDS epidemic, "gay" men saying "I don't want to put my mouth on a dick." Anyway, at least nowadays you can just ignore them online instead of being utterly disappointed when you bring them home.

R325, some tops don’t; hence, the popularity of top tops or total Alphas. They are especially sought after. Total bottoms love them .

R326 is stuck in a 1951 stereotype

"Total Alphas" are total assholes.

R331, a lot people obviously disagree and love them

R326 - Sweet baby jesus you're a judgmental queen with a very binary way of thinking. I said I have no DESIRE to suck cock - I do it to be reciprocal, but I get no real thrill out of it; and the only pleasure I derive is knowing the other guy enjoys it. I have never wanted to go out and find some cock to suck -- I enjoy many other sexual activities with another guy, but sucking cock has never been a motivator. Thanks again for your diagnosis.

No, R330... a "gay" man refusing to suck dick is stuck in a repugnant toxic-male stereotype and really needs to seek therapy.

How does a gay man look at this dick and not have their mouth water...

Judy Garland would probably be relieved that there are swaths of gay men who are not fans

(R51) Asking for a friend! As a masculine gay, what do you do when a woman shows interest or flirts with you? Not everyone has gaydar.

Iv met gay guys that don't like sucking cock, I don't see what the problem is. They liked to fuck and jerk off mostly. Different storks for different folks.

Bathing

Anal bleaching

Paying Taxes

Pornography

Anita Bryant

Cum

Dildos

Eating

Mother Issues

Abortions

Two cups of flour and then a spoonful of raindrops on my head

I couldn't be bothered to go across the street if all that was going to happen was some dick sucking. I like sucking dick or being sucked, but as an end to itself? Very fucking rarely.

r335: that's too big and thick. Sucking a cock like that would be painful for my jaw after a few minutes. Give me an average dick to suck and I'm in hog heaven.

I hate Anderson Cooper and Ellen Degenerate.

R335, you have a tiny, narrow mind. Many gay guys aren’t like you

I think EVERYONE hates Ellen Ungenerous now.

Grammar Queens, Skinny Queens who starve themselves (and especially those who endlessly rail on overweight people), Mean girl Bully Queens.

I think it is more than obvious that NOT being a grammar queen is far more stereotypically gay than being a grammar queen. If that were not the case, we grammar queens would hardly be needed.

R340, if all I had for the rest of my life was making out, masturbation, and occasional dick sucking, I'd be over-the-moon happy with that.

I could care less about anal sex. I could do without it entirely.

Fisting. Butt plugs, slings, and leather.

That’s a distinct Fetish Subculture minority

[quote] [R324], then you're not gay. You're just a freak. Being a homosexual male, being a gay man, is ALL about sucking dick. There's something wrong with you.

My God, that really pushed your buttons, r326. It sounds more like YOU'RE the freak.

R350 is correct

Nah, he's not. A gay man that REFUSES to suck cock is mentally ill and needs therapy, and has absorbed a lot of toxic masculinity bullshit.

It's like being gay and being a homophobe.

It's seriously fucked up.

R349 That may be the case, dependent upon one's POV, however still STEREOTYPICALLY GAY none-the-bloody-less! (Doesn't make them less gay somehow?)

I mean really, how many straight women and men do you know, hear of, or see in the porn genre who enjoy fisting, butt-plugs, or slings? I daresay, they're just about exclusively gay.

R352, you’re a sicko

The guy pointing out other people's serious mental hangups is NOT the one that's a "sicko".

Anything associated with “the gays.” I don’t get the notion of interests and lifestyle based on sexual orientation.

METH

Calling males female names and pronouns

Other gay men in general.

Did r81 mention he's built like a shit brickhouse?

I see horror movies as a gay stereotype, r104.

Every time I go to a horror movie there are couples or little gaggles of gays. Especially if it's a hit or there's an emoting diva in the lead role (Toni Colette).

Shouldn't you be running the country and stopping COVID-19, r134?

r135 never had my blowjob.

wrong, r138. Country is for white trash dirtbags.

r248 not into woman. He like the man go uppeth into the man.

Call Me By Your Name was hot, consenting adults.

Instead of clutching those pearls, try shoving them up your ass, ladies.

Acting like a total cunt to any gay man who is different while shrieking at the top of their lungs about being treated differently for being gay. Never fails to leave me with a feeling of sad disgust, and it's so common.

Call Me By Your Name was sex with a kid with the hot body of an 8 year old Asian girl . Super sexy! Love them shapeless child bodied twinks. So hot, I'm cumming in a rotten peach.

When gay men refer to their group of gay friends as "girls", I immediately want to punch them.

Most American gays surveyed believe in God and consider themselves "Christian," r316.

So they're just as weak-minded and delusional as you.

As for the "traditional practice" bit, it might help if the traditional institutions weren't slandering and persecuting gays for how they're naturally created and harmlessly carrying on.

While their priesthoods are diddling children or taking meth with male hookers.

So sorry we won't let you crucify us anymore!

R370, I guess that makes Most American gays fucking idiots.

How anyone can be gay, see how Christians treat gays, and then be Christian anyway... is a fucking moron.

Christianity is as big a lie in itself as every lie they tell about gays.

R371, Christianity is about Jesus and His Word. Our eternity depends on our faith in Jesus, not opinions About Christians or churches.

When did the Jesus freaks take over DL? Begone!

There have always been a sizable number of Christians here, even threads devoted to Believers discussing their faith.

I don't mind people who are religious so long as they don't fucking try to convert me--I'm looking at you, Born Again Christians--or lecture me about why God and Jesus are so great. Recently, I have been more interested in what you can call "secular" morality. I've been reading some of the works of Aristotle along with Alasdair MacIntyre's After Virtue. Aristotle writes about what it means to lead a virtuous life and be a good person. To some degree, I'm reminded of Buddhism.

These old bats..

R372: Well, then, you go on with your good xtian self.

Gay guys who are best friends to straight females on TV shows(best example annoying Christopher on Dead to Me).

Gay guys who are best friends to straight females on TV shows(best example annoying Christopher on Dead to Me).

Gay guys who are ok with being treated as an accessory to straight women in real life.

Loud obnoxious queens who suddenly queen out whenever they feel the focus is not on them.

Gay men who date their twin. So many gay men date men who look almost exactly like them, it's weird.

Tell Jesus he can take it up with me himself, r372.

You know you're a gullible idiot whose wishful thinking is more important than honesty when you fall for a scam where none of their its promises can be verified until you die.

R372, you actually believe that completely made up and transparently ridiculous nonsense? Seriously?

Do you believe in the tooth-fairy, easter bunny, and santa clause too??

It's Santa Claws, actually, not santa clause.

The worship of nasty mentally unhinged porn performers as gay celebrities.

Hair product, piano bars, Liza albums, Barbra concerts, carb apprehension, inability to catch a ball, and other assorted crap venerated as Gay Golden Rules on Will and Grace.

Lip sync makes sense to me when the drag queen adds some over the top visual performance. Like, say, a Judy Garland recording with the drag queen acting totally drunk and mascara running down her face. The juxtaposition is what makes it entertaining to me.

These threads are most interesting to me, because the posters reveal what they hate so much about themselves. It's well known that the things you hate most are things that you don't like about yourself and project them to outside conditions.

Anything to do with Los Angeles. Shut the fuck up already - nobody gives a shit about your asshole of a city.

People can hate things that are not them. Other hatred is more common than self hatred

r389 yes and the homophobic jock bullies in high school are all secretly gay too!

Clubbing. I don't dance, don't like music that's so loud it distorts my hearing and (no longer applicable, thankfully) reeking of cigarette smoke afterwards. I'll stay home, thanks.

The bars/clubs around here are smoke free now, and have been for years.

Unfortunately (fortunately?) I've recently aged out of the nightclub scene. I'm just too old for that shit anymore.

r392, while that is not true for all of them, a great deal of them are.

R387

[quote]Hair product, piano bars, Liza albums, Barbra concerts, carb apprehension, inability to catch a ball, and other assorted crap venerated as Gay Golden Rules on Will and Grace.

Well I cant catch a ball for shit. Years ago some damn fool at a party tossed a half empty 40 ounce of Jack Daniels my way, course I missed it fortunately a friend snagged it on my behalf, just as well otherwise some good whiskey would have gone to waste. Told the damn fool I couldnt catch nothing worth a damn too

Gay men in high heels. Stop trying to make them happen.

You are not a woman, your muscular legs are beautiful the way they are.

I never understood the hype about threesomes and BDSM.

Gay rights.

I agree with zero interest in Bravo shows. I used to watch some of the Real Housewives shit, but it got so boring so fast. It’s just a bunch of old hags acting like high school girls. It’s pathetic. Nothing sadder than seeing a rich old woman argue with other rich old women over smelly vagina rumors and mean girl nonsense. If I had their money, my ass would be living in an isolated part of Hawaii drinking out of a coconut with my husband in the nude. Life is too short for petty bullshit.

Felching (I think that's what you call it?) When a guy shits out a sperm load and inexplicably thinks you want to see it. I've noticed a big emergence of these vids on my Twitter feed lately and they're always jarring and horrifying because I'm never expecting it.

Using spit as lube

Halloween.

Identity Politics

Monogamish relationships. So basically you want the world to believe you are monogamous but simultaneously have an open relationship. Just admit your fucking whores, that's who your are, no one cares, deal with it. You are not fooling anyone with that terminology except yourself.

Bitchy, sarcastic men who are “on” 24/7 are exhausting.

[quote] I used to watch some of the Real Housewives shit, but it got so boring so fast.

[quote]Nothing sadder than seeing a rich old woman argue with other rich old women over smelly vagina rumors

This really happened? Which show?

R407 here you go.

I love how the stinky vagina lady got a note from her gyno stating that her pussy does NOT in fact stink.

409 in the courtroom I think that is called the smoking gun.

The stinking holster, r410.

Queens who say "I'm NOT like those gays," which is basically this entire thread. They are a gay stereotype now lol.

Also, you do realize this is a website dedicated to cunty, bitchy drama for cunty, bitchy gay men? So the idea that any of you are masculine, non-stereotypical gay men is pure delusion. No masc gay man is hanging around a gay bitchy gossip site.

Not everyone here engages in that type of activity. A lot of people are here for the hot dudes and politics

R264, what does your tranny fetish have to do with gay men? Or even the topic of this thread? "Penis obsession" fuck off tranny fucker.

A lot of old timers complain this site is no longer stacked with bitchy campiness. They are correct. It’s evolved into much more than the old stereotype, to some people’s chagrin.

R414, You can get hot dudes and politics anywhere there are specific sites just for that alone. Why DL if not for the bitchfest?

Actually I find more of the Hottest social media dudes here than anywhere else. Every tenth post is a new TikTok or Instagram hottie I’ve never seen before. Also, this site is great about culling breaking politics news and polling

Shee, I'll finally chime in... drag, hair, and The Golden Girls. I never knew it was a big gay vivre until I started visiting DL.

Vivre?

Lady Gaga the fraud.

I'm also proud to announce Beyonce has not made a single cent off of me.

Nellie prisspots

Whenever someone says that their favorite singers are Beyoncé or Britney Spears, they clearly have no taste in music and are impressed by fame and diva-led songs sung in an autotune, generic style by women dressed like they are actually prostitutes.

R414 you're right. I'm not here for the cunty bitchy drama, although some of it is funny as hell to read

I'm here partly for the nellie prisspots R423 I think they're cute

Ooo the OP is sooo straight!!!

PS, and you’re on DL OP, so you’re a fag :). Too bad.

Anonymous sex.

The obsession with Lady Gaga, her monsters, etc. I like her music, but I am not obsessed. I can like a Diva and not be obsessed with her.

Another one is your sexual role as a personality. People who say..."as a top..." or add their sexual role to their IG, TW, or username. It's just obscene, to me.

Straight guys and married men.