Can't Stop Thinking About A Bad Day At Work

Get over it, honey. What else do you want us to tell you?

A few suggestions:

jack off

exercise or at least take a long fast paced walk

when you find yourself obsessing, say out loud, 'stop it'. Keep saying it every time your thoughts turn to work

figure out the deeper emotion; fear, anger, etc. and have those feelings

Watch TV or read a book...something else you can contrate on.

Time for a drinky-poo :)

Mary Jane.

Here, make fun of this dumb bitch. If you want to be infuriated. This must be how Brits see Meghan Markle.

I second that r4, *hic*.

Hang in there OP, look on the bright side--there will very likely be FAR shittier work days in your future than this one. If you care to elaborate, that might be helpful. Otherwise, toddle on over to the liquor cabinet like a good lad, and while you're there, fix me another vodka tonic.

Cheers!

get drunk and play your music.....LOUD.

How bad was it? Spit it all out, OP. Get it off your chest and mind.

Think about ways of sabotaging those who gave you a hard time, OP. Vengeance is so healing.

I get a strong feeling I’m being set up to get fired or worse.I was away for awhile mostly to get away from majority of terrible people I work with and for. I came back and they were more terrible ( putting me in hard departments I’m not used to without proper training)than before so I had excused time (and losing a lot of money I needed) I went home. I told two supervisors I didn’t feel well (I didn’t )and said my favorite words ‘ I’m leaving’.

If you ever saw the movie American Factory that reminded me very much of my work place except it didn’t show the disgusting ass kissing my job has.

Take a nice hot shower & relax OP. I thought you got gay bashed in the parking lot.

I can’t mix my meds with booze.

Although buying some weed sounds like a good idea. My border state is legal now. Do the cops watch for people who cross the border to buy it ? If so I’ll be arrested for sure the way my luck is going.

Sleep will help. It always looks more realistic (less emotional) in the morning.

Shower and watch Aaron Hernandez (what the hell is CTE)on Netflix then sleep. Good advice.

Thanks guys.

Lol. Try 2 months of head games, intrigue, deception, jealousy, & attempting to get me to fall for a guy, so that he and his “secret office lover”, who also happens to be my married with kids and a husband at home, supervisor, could get me into bed for a threesome.

When he actually started genuinely falling for me, she flipped THE FUCK OUT, & tried to get me fired! Even worse, I eventually learned that any woman that she saw as a threat to her secret, sexual liaison with this guy, was fired, or life at work was made a living HELL, so the women would quit.

I was approached by someone who had seen the whole thing play out at least 5-7 times, before I came into the picture. The thing that was different in my situation, is that he and she both wanted to wanted to fuck me, however, he started developing feelings for me, & I considered him (exclusively), momentarily, not knowing ANYTHING about what was going on behind the scenes.

She has stalked me for the last two weeks. Literally follows me around the job site, because she’s TERRIFIED that he’ll hit me up. She allegedly doesn’t allow him to fuck other women, yet was willing to make an exception for me, because she was using him as bait, & according to him, he wanted out anyhow, and he was genuinely pursuing me, because he wanted the threesome, and then just me... right.

Anyhow, when she observed that her boy toy was following me around like a lost puppy, she told him that if he didn’t end it, she’d fire me, or him, or both of us. I STILL HAD NO IDEA WTF WAS GOING ON! So of course, I was kinda puzzled as to why he shut it down suddenly. Well, someone else knew what was going on, and she approached me during lunch, and spilled the beans.

I WAS FUCKING FURIOUS. I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH.

But I held it together, went straight to HR, our supervisor, the company CEO, etc., and spilled the beans too. I had to hold back lots of info., and stick to facts. I found three other women whom she either moved out of our department, or ran off the job. All of them went to HR & told their story, too.

It’s even more convoluted than what I wrote here. Yes, there’s more, and the whole thing if FUCKING INSANE!!!

I’m good, though. I got angry for a week, vented by listening to revenge music, and have kept it moving. Stayed sober, because I’m solid AF in my recovery at this time, & it never even crossed my mind.

This bitch is a fucking psycho, & the company knows that I’ve sought legal counsel, which I will trigger, if she’s not fired by the end of next week, once the “investigation” concurs.

Too bad I have to keep it 💯 & on the up and up, now that HR & upper management are involved, because I would have fucked that guy’s brains out, just to fuck with her, and REALLY WELL, too. Somethin’ to write home about, baby.

Fucking cunt! Lol!

Woah R16, do you look like a celebrity or something?

R17, a celebrity? Why would I need to look like a celebrity for something like this?

I get what you mean, lol. I don’t look like any celebrity in particular as far as I believe, but I’m attractive, smart, and get along with pretty much anyone. People like me because I’m genuinely interested in them, and because I’m funny AF. I’m also usually described as a “sweetheart” who’s also “pretty”, etc. so there. That’s all I’ve got.

What really bothered me was the entire “game” that these two pursued in pursuit of me. I was kinda starting to like this guy, yet that died as soon as I learned how profoundly submissive he is to this woman, & it turned me off that he was attempting to “sneak away” to talk to me, in order not to anger her, and all of that. No way would I want a guy who obviously had MASSIVE mommy issues, because those relationships only work when the woman is a total bitch to the guy with the issues. That’s not me. I’m not into that power dynamic shit. I’m into authenticity. Whatcha see is what you get.

After some thoughtful deliberation, I’ve concluded that both of these people come from deep damage, as in: not as damaged as me, at all, whatsoever.

They enjoy the drama. And while I understand the search to relieve one’s ennui, the web these two have weaved had fucked with people’s wallets, and reputation at work. And as I said, there’s so much more than what involved me, but it all centers around this woman, and her various lovers at work. The only reason I even looked twice at this particular guy, is because he happens to be pretty intelligent, and handsome AF. A real RARITY where I’m currently living, trust!

LMAO. She’s on notice. I doubt she will have the opportunity to do this to anyone else, ever again, at this company, at least.

Sadly, the guy is still pining for me, and will probably make his move after she’s terminated. He, too, should be shown the door, but his good looks have apparently saved him for now. Me? I want nothing to do with him. I already have a pussy. And even she’s more independent than this guy.

‘Bout to cuddle with her now. She’s meowing for me to turn off the lights. Lol!

Get a good, soaking bath. Go hiking some place wild around your area, or even a couple hundred miles away. That should take your mind off things.

Happy weekend, OP!

A toxic enviroment is unhealthy for your body and mind. Get your mind off the current, depressing state and be deliberate my making plans to change your current, depressing state. Even browsing through job adverts can give you a sense of relief. Go towards the better feelings and take actions from that place and you will feel even better, maybe exited and hopeful which is better than your current state of depression, fear and maybe even hopelessness. Soon you are able to leave the toxic enviroment behind and look forward to a much brighter future.

God, what a complicated story. Jack off and get some sleep, OP.

Go to the gym and set some kind of personal best.

Jesus. Why are Americans so fucking toxic?

After being in therapy for almost 4 years, it’s unbelievable that we even manage to go to work everyday with some really, really mentally and emotionally unhealthy people.

These stories seem so “out there”, even for me, who is experiencing toxicity as well, though differently than OP is.

It seems unbelievable , and then you look at Washington DC, and the WH. Proof that we are an INSANE nation, and we appear to thrive on devouring others, rather than building something special with each other.

We are such a sick country, truly.

Yeah with what goes on everywhere and even well before Trump I've always wondered how this country works at all with so many dysfunctional people, families and job situations. Wh should be having more infrastructure disasters than we already do.

OP you seems to imply this woman has given herself enough rope to hang herself with. Do you think she will be fired? Or does she know where the bodies are buried? If the later you have got to get out. You seem to have the skills and personality, work ethic and affability to find another job. Why is that not an option? If you're about to be fired you sure want to be somewhere else before that happens.

I hope things seem a bit lighter today OP. If anything, gain your solace in that the universe has spared you crazy straight people problems, and ménage à trois drama such as R16/R18.

Someone should cut r6 s throat for hijacking the thread and making it about MM. it has shit to do with OPs topic.

OP, I hope that the long weekend will help you clear your head. We all know what this is like.

It felt good seeing Nancy Pelosi on Bill Maher tonight. At work more than a few have told me in conversation how they hate her.

set a timer for 10 minutes and then think about how bad it was. When the timer goes off stop thinking about it and reset the timer for another 10 minutes. Think about anything good that may have happened that you missed because you were so focused on the bad. Did you go to a different dept. that you may like. Did you meet people that were nicer. Maybe it is better if they let you go, you can collect unemployment and find a better job. You are on your path, go with it.

There will always be a certain level of toxicity whenever you're part of an organization because that's the established business model: squeeze as much out of employees as possible if they're good capable workers, with as little rewards as possible, and let the incompetent fuckoffs and bullies run wild because it's just easier that way. High staff turnover is seen as a plus. As far as survival in a toxic job, it helps to keep your resume updated and keep an eye out for other opportunities. It's okay to walk out of a job if you have a solid back-up plan to keep yourself clothed, fed and sheltered until you can find another one. With things the way they are, I think it's a pretty common occurrence for perfectly responsible, capable people to do a runner when their safety or sanity's threatened.

OP feel lucky you have HR at all. And that you’re making a living wage, and that you’re staying in employment.

Not to be a Hijak Hank here but for context of that sentiment: my Boss is literally refusing to pay wages she owes me from the whole of last year. 4 piece.

She runs the company with her leech husband and they don’t report to anyone else so I have no one I can call on to get my money. I just talked to an impartial advisory group who told me that I can’t take it to court either because there is no officially recognised paperwork detailing my terms of employment.

The only thing I can possibly do is report my Boss’s whole company to a Governmental health/safety investigation team or to the Department of Employment, because I have been forced o work for less than minimum wage in electrically & structurally unsound conditions (last road I wanted to go down, but they leave me no choice). I can’t even strongarm them with the support of a union or another employee because I’m the only person working for these shit-demons.

I feel so played and used. Been applying for other jobs like a maniac but no one will even give me an interview....

Sorry, that probably isn’t making you feel better (or maybe it, by comparison?). Just know it could be so much worse.

r30 Fuck you for making OP's thread all about you with your tedious "What about ME? You think YOU have it bad, well, I have it FAR worse" tale. Take your one-upmanship impulses and start your own thread, asshole.

OP, Come Sunday, (if you don't have Monday off, or even if you do) come join us at the Sunday night dread thread if you need further venting and support.

Lol. Thank you. I will. I know it’s not over and will be more of the same At I only have a 3 day work week.

I didn’t mind the hilack. Reminded me of a so bad it’s good soap opera writer.

Hijack

Rent Clock Watchers, 9 to 5, or Office Space on Netflix and laugh it off OP, m’kay?

OP, act unfazed at work. That’s the best treatment for the passive aggressive BS. Most toxic people are trying to bait you for a fight. It’s like two cats. If you act cool it disarms them, the fuel source is cut off, they get bored, and move on to someone else who will feed their anger. It’s hard and does take practice. I mean for the usual petty stuff. Never lose your cool. Don’t go home early unless you’re really unnerved. Maybe go for a walk at lunch to unwind.

My power mottos are “Teflon,” “I am rubber, you are glue,” “don’t take the bait,” and “water off a duck’s ass”

“This too shall pass” is another good one.

OP the next time you go into work you need to have the mindset that none of this garbage happened, it's just a clean slate. Slap a smile on your face and fake it, meanwhile keeping up the job hunt.

I love CW with Parker and Toni. Been so long since I’ve seen it maybe I’ll rewatch and it will be Lille watching it for first time. And help me.

So much good advice

I was agonizing over this fat bitch at work (probably a Christian Deplorable). So I spent about 4 hours online researching her (she has a unique name). She rides the bus and bought a house in a low-income part of town a couple years ago she can't afford, so she has roommates that come and go. She has one daughter in her early 20's in a relationship with a black guy and neither of them work; just sit around threatening people on Facebook (one post said: "Ya'll better leave my girl alone. I rock an orange jump suit real good").

Her own boyfriend weighs about 270. She has a couple DUI arrests.

I feel less intimidated by her knowing she's trash.

You should become a contributor to Monday Morning Moos. You’d be thinking of the witty thing you’ll write on Monday, and forget about your job. Maybe.

Grrr.. I can’t find Clockwatchers anywhere. Streaming on renting. Gonna watch Office Space tomorrow...

More bad luck on Monday . Had two long conversations with a friend who feels more like a fremeny sometimes. Then I went to get something to eat only to discover I have a flat tire. Tried one fix a flat (don't know how to fix a flat) I have a temporary spare . I had another fix a flat that got frozen in my car. I'm hoping it will thaw and be able to use. My new bipolar medinicine doesnt seem to be working..

This is pushing me over the edge . I have to go work and my shrink tomorrow. Getting my tire fixed tomorrow will be an ordeal ...

Smoke copious amounts of pot, silly!

Waiting on the tire to get fixed. Taking a long time and that is not good.

Meditate for 30 minutes. Then all the things that seemed so awful just wash away.

OP, there are two ways to deal with this and you should try both.

One, you need to take care of yourself. Don’t dwell too much on the negative history at work when you are not there. Find distractions to fill your mind in your free time. Alcohol is a short term solution that could become a longterm problem, so be wise. Reading, games, TV/movies, exercise, time with other people, volunteer work; all of these are good things to start with.

Second, you need to be proactive and look for another job asap. From what you’ve shared so far, it sounds like you have a tendency to avoid problems and think they’ll go away; taking a long vacation and expecting things to somehow improve in your absence, then leaving work early on your first day back because things did not magically get better; these things point to an internal attitude that you need to counteract.

Your job is not going to just get better on it’s own and you can’t keep running away when it challenges you; find a new job that suit you better ASAP. Whenever your mind drifts to “a bad day at work” or whatever work problems you are feeling at that moment, that’s your cue to redirect your mind to looking for another job. Ruminating over bad times doesn’t fix anything.

I wish I could say something helpful, but other than “you are not alone,” I can’t think of anything. Unfortunately, this kind of crap is unavoidable at work. And I fully relate to the flat tire thing, ugh! I’m so sorry, sweetheart. It’ll be okay in the end, I’m sure. No matter what!

Be the ibex OP

I wish I knew, OP. I struggle with the same shit.

I’m going to work tomorrow and try to have a good attitude. I’m going to talk to a union steward about my problem to see what she says. The last time I had an issue with my supervisor it was like talking to a brick wall.

Also a part of my problem is my new medication for bipolar is not working. My shrink canceled and I can’t see him for another month. I’ll call him tomorrow.

You said a lot of things I needed to hear, r46 but another job would be hard. I’m almost retirement age and with my skills there aren’t too many jobs for me. I have bad periods before at my current job and it passed. I fear this time the fight is more cruel and heartless and they may win...

Thank you for the good advice and support ,guys....