As of this morning I weigh 300 pounds

What's it like to be so skinny?

Age?

47 years old

No cookie for you!

How do you keep yourself fresh down there with so many flesh layers?

Do you know Trumps 400 pound friend who sits on his bed all day. Do the two of you ever talk on the phone any?

Are other family members as large as you?

What is keeping you from losing weight?

I shower daily R5 and fortunately I can still reach all the areas.

R7 my younger sister has gained 100 pounds since having kids but she was thin most of her life. My older sister has always been and remains rail thin. My dad had a beer gut til the day he died. My brother worked at staying thin as a teen but started drinking a lot in his 20s and got fat. My mother was plump all her life. Otherwise I've always been the fattest one in the family.

I don't know R8. I find comfort in food so I think I'm just afraid that if I give up eating too much I won't know what to do with myself. Like telling an addict to give up the drugs or a gambler to leave the table.

I don't know any of Trump's friend R6.

How tall are you?

5 foot 11 inches.

OP, how's your cholesterol? triglycerides? glucose? blood pressure? any joint pain? Some people can be fat and healthy, others not so much.

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My blood pressure is borderline even though I'm on a water pill and a weak blood pressure pill, but I think that's more to do with stress than weight. All my other blood work is usually very good. I do have joint pain and my back flares up more often than it used to. I also have acid reflux for years and take medication for that.

What do you expect in terms of remaining mobile life expectancy?

Do you have to wash yourself with a rag on a stick?

What did you weigh at this time last year? Do you think you will lose weight/stay the same/or gain weight in the next year?

R16 I've been fat all my life and haven't had any mobility issues...yet.

I see a chiropractor and that helps keep me going.

I've actually lived longer than I thought I would. I assume one day I'll get cancer of have a stroke, that's what has killed most of my family members.

I've gained an extra 25 pounds over the last 18 months and I'm not sure why, because my diet hasn't changed. I think I've reached the point where my metabolism can't keep up anymore and a diet change is needed.

No Bart R17, I use soap and a washcloth.

Do you intend to do anything about it?

Chrissy Metz is like three of you.

R18 and R20 I was around 275 last year. I've gained 25 pounds over the last 18 months.

When I was 12 years old my doctor weighed me and I was 215 pounds. I didn't weigh myself again until I was 17, (on a scale at the factory I worked at) and I was 316 pounds.

I've decided to cut back on carbs and eliminate any extra sugar in my diet. I was worried that I was eating too much salt but after looking over my food journal it's actually sugar that I've been eating too much of.

Here's your chance to ask a real, living, breathing fatso anything you've ever wanted to ask.

September 2018: 355 pounds.

September 2019: 235 pounds.

And I'm 67. Don't wait until you're my age to start to get in shape OP. (I still have 70 pounds more to lose.)

Cardiologists are saying that sugar and too many carbs are worse than high fat. Try to stay under 150 or 100 grams of carbs a day. Still stay away from trans fats (in baked goods, fried foods, etc) and limit saturated fat (dairy, some oils). My cholesterol and triglycerides shot up over the past year so most of my carbs come from oatmeal and vegetables. I try to stay under 100 grams each day, and get 40 percent of my calories from carbohydrates, 30 percent from protein and 30 percent from fat.

If you're interested in losing weight, check out @FatGirlFedUp on Instagram. In the same period of time it took you to put on 25 lbs she lost over 300 lbs. Diet and exercise. No special program, just eating less, healthier and exercising 30 minutes a day. Her husband lost 100 lbs.

RE: OP response R22

As someone who struggles against high glucose, I found out that sugar hides in a lot of stuff you wouldn't expect along with the stuff that you do expect, OP. It sucks!

Do you cook for yourself? I know that by doing that as much as possible and thereby limiting processed foods has helped me avoid diabetes (so far). If you don't cook for yourself, please start, if economically feasible. I promise that you will feel better.

Best wishes for better health, OP

[quote]Do you cook for yourself?

Yes I do R26. I don't like fast food and I don't like other people cooking my food. When I feel like a burger I make my own from scratch, same with pizza. Both things I probably should not be eating.

I also don't like frozen or canned foods because of how bland they are. Not to mention all the salt and sugar.

Do you eat regular meals/mealtimes or do you just eat whenever?

Do you ever skip meals? What is the longest you have gone without eating?

R24 I figure I better get a handle on this now before I become like a neighbour who weighs 425 pounds and collects welfare because he can't work.

R25 I hope she's able to keep that weight off. Ten years ago I lost 100 pounds and gained it all back. Losing can be easy, maintaining weight loss is very hard.

R28 I eat pretty much at the same time each day and don't snack. I rarely skip meals and the longest I went without eating was a couple years back when I did a glucose test; I didn't eat for 12 hours.

Do you have to buy two plane seats? How do you feel about that rule? Do people stare at you or look worried when they see you coming down the plane aisle?

R30 I've never been on a plane. I've never traveled at all. If you're so fat that you take up two seats then you should have to buy to seats.

Do you exercise outside?

Do you fear the water?

I don't exercise at all, anywhere R32.

What's your secret?

R33 I haven't been to the beach since I was 10 years old. My family went with another family and some teenagers started making fun of me and my sister and the girl from the other family joined in.

Goals, Chrissy!

When you lost 100 pounds, did you exercise?

You inspire me, OP. #goals

Yes R37. I used Walk Away The Pounds tapes and used dumbbells. I think it was the low carb diet that did most of the weight loss.

Even gym rats will tell you that losing weight is like 80% diet. But you are at an advantage because you know how to cook, it seems like you know about nutrition and portion control, you just need to enforce it. If you want to.

What is a typical supper?

[quote] As of this morning I weigh 300 pounds

[quote] As me anything!

Why did you eat the "k" from "Ask (me anything!)"?

Have you ever tried OA? Overeaters Anonymous? It does actually work, but so does using something like my fitness pal for portion control (keeping track of food intake throughout waking hours) and simply walking and some light calisthenics to firm up a bit. I dont blame anyone for being leery of 12-step programs, some people just can't tolerate the God thing etc.

OP, are you just fat, or are you fit-fat?

OP, where do you buy clothes from?

300 lbs at 5'11” isn't TV show worthy or anything. I'm 6'2" and have been around 260 for most of my adult life. I've put on more muscle as the years have passed, so I don't look morbidly obese despite what the scale says. I'm currently trying to get down to 220, and am at 255 right now.

One of the great advantages of height is that dieting isn't that hard. I have a budget of 2100 calories a day to lose 2 lbs a week. Some would kill for that.

OP, did you start this thread?

Could you kindly go away and never bother us again?

How would you characterize your sex life since you turned 18?

OP, how are you doing mentally, emotionally? Are you feeling ok?

OP. I think your R36 is a great indicator in regard to why you are 300 lbs. It is 100 percent mental. Sorry that you are heavy, I hope you decide to take control, before you can't. But, thank you for the post and for answering questions.

R41 for example last night I had an oven chicken thigh and drumstick, a baked potato, salad and glass of milk.

R43 I went to several OA meetings about 12 years ago but it was mostly women. Half blamed their weight on other people and the other half were fat acceptance fanatics.

Just fat R44.

R45 I buy them online.

No R47 and I find guys like that funny. They harass thin guys but won't fuck their own kind.

R49 I've never had sex. Never dated anyone, never kissed or held hands with anyone. I've never had physical contact with another human being in my entire life.

R50 I've had issues with anxiety and depression all my life. If they were the cause of, or because of my weight I don't know. The main thing that bothers me is that I've never had a really good job in my entire life. I'm certain the fat played an part in not getting the jobs I wanted.

R51 it most certainly is mental. I don't blame genetics or others for my weight. But to be honest, it wasn't always my fault. My older sister was my baby sitter and she tired of me being so hyper and started giving me her Valium. I gained a lot for weight until my mother took me to the doctor and my sister admitted she was drugging me. The drugs must have messed me up because I just continued to get fat. Before that I was actually underweight for my age.

Also my father never wanted me to diet and would get angry when our family doctor would tell him I needed to lose weight. To my father fat kids meant he was wealthy and was an outward symbol of his ability to make money.

We didn't have much growing up except food, which is what my mother would give us when we were happy, or sad, or lonely, or angry. Basically all we did was sit at home and eat.

And lastly I knew I was gay and being fat was a great excuse for not having a girlfriend. Unfortunately it also kept guys away.

R52, you have been through so much. Food is a great comfort, but only for a little bit. It is sort of like a devil in disguise. In the end you feel guilt, and a lot of negative feelings. Sounds like you need to start rewarding yourself by taking good care of yourself. Because, I have a feeling you deserve it. I know someone that started with a day or two of fasting, moving like a walk, then run.......after the fast, you will be thankful to eat something like a salad. This sort of thing, if you keep up with it can really help.

OP, thanks for opening yourself up here. Have you ever worked with a therapist? I think it would help work through some issues. Because what someone else pointed out -- 300 lbs and 5'11" on a middle aged guy is not completely enormous. You're a big guy and big guys can get laid, can travel, have careers, etc. It's worth a try!

Thanks R54. Truthfully I'm just not very attractive. Even if I lost weight I'd still be unattractive. I think some people are just meant to be alone forever and I'm one of those people. I take care of my mother and she appreciates me so at least I have a reason not to kill myself.

I did see a couple of shrinks over the years but stopped going because the first guy was one of those, "How does that make you feel?" doctors and the second one was all about the meds and wasn't interested in hearing me talk.

Tell us something amusing, OP.

I've heard of "fit fat," OP.

But are you more "fart fat"?

R56 there's a picture of me when I was four years old. I'm on one end of a teeter-totter which is on the ground. My nine year old sister is on the other end up in the air. I'm crying because my end won't go up.

Is that amusing?

OP, do you expect your song "All I Want For Christmas Is You" to top the charts this holiday season? Were you a virgin until you married Tommy Mottola?

OP, will you be making an account on Biggercity now or later?

[Quote] my end won't go up.

That explains your sex life.

I had to google that R60. I don't think I'll be opening an account with that site, or any.

Hey OP, you sound like a thoughtful and intelligent person. Thanks for this thread.

I think you should give therapy another round. Some therapists just don’t match some individuals.

Do you like dogs? A dog would put you on a regular walking schedule and get you out talking to other people. Plus, most dogs are effusive with affection, and I think you need a hug, even if it’s a canine hug.

Would you consider psychedelics? Perhaps coupled with therapy? People have made huge breakthroughs via psychedelics through microdosing LSD, going to South America for ayahuasca ceremonies, or just tripping on mushrooms in the basement. You’ve had some rough patches that would cause anyone to have to peel back layers to get to.

I wish you the best, OP.

R63, you are awesome.

What brings you pleasure besides food, OP? What brightens your mood? What makes you laugh?

I don't feel much joy or happiness lately R65. I haven't for many years.

I have a good collection of old movies, mostly comedies, and I watch them when I'm feeling down. Thursday I'll be watching The Ghost And Mr. Chicken which always makes me happy.

OP, I think R63 has some pretty sound advice.

OP I think you should accept your status as a chub and not worry so much about it.

Do you have a job OP?

R68 I accepted my weight decades ago. I want to lose weight but I know I'll never be a body beautiful.

R69 I work part time as a driver for a local service.

Op your post about never having been touched broke my heart for you. May I ask if you masturbate ? I have a dear friend who is in your position and he recently told me he hasnt tried to masturbate in years. I was truly surprised.

Have you considered about having sex with someone? I see no problem about paying for sex.

It's weird OP you really don't feel that big do you?

OP, I wish you well.

After reading your post at R52 I think you would benefit from intense work on a few key issues - self esteem, family relationships at the top of the list.

Before you try to make changes physically or in any way, you would really benefit from doing that work.

It will be rough and it's not an instant fix. You have to work at it for months before things start to change, but you'll be thrilled when the changes pick up momentum. It is not a miracle cure, but what it did for me was make me value my own self more, forgive others for things I was disappointed in, and strike a balance - accept some things, but work on changing others.

If you had therapy before and it didn't work, it may have been just a not-great match. One of the things I learned, with therapists as well as doctors, is that we need to be specific about goals, and if you have someone who feels like they are not caring and/or supportive, you should change doctors/therapists and find someone who is. Now, don't mistake "caring" for not challenging you or telling you what you want to hear....

The Psychology Today Find a Therapist site is wonderful - you can select multiple filters and find one in your area that is near you, takes your insurance (or works on a sliding scale if you don't have any), and so on.

When you get on the elevator, does it bounce a little? What about escalators?

Hey Janet!

How tall are you?

He said 5ft 11

Way to go Chrissy!

R71 I masturbate whenever possible.

R72 honestly I dislike my body so much that the idea of getting naked with someone just bothers me. Maybe if I felt better about my body I'd have to confidence to date but I just don't like myself enough to try. And after 47 years I think that boat has sailed.

R73 I carry my weight all over my body rather than just on my guy like a lot of guys. More than once someone has told me I don't look "that big" while others thought I weighed more than I do. I've been fat all my life so it seems normal to me. I can't imagine being thinner just like a thinner person probably can't imagine being fatter.

R74 Thank you for your kind words and advice, they are appreciated. I've been working on "me" for decades and not much has come of it. If I try to wait until I get my brain right I'll never get on with actually losing weight. Sometimes you have to just stop navel gazing and just decide to stop eating so much. Hopefully the brain will heal itself when the weight starts coming off.

R75 when I get on an elevator I better be going down because it ain't going up. And escalators turn into slides when I step on them.

Have you ordered the Calvin Klein loafers online? No shoe strings to worry about.

Get your thyroid checked ASAP!

Have you thought of switching to a vegan diet, more specifically, a whole foods plant-based diet?

get Ozempic. I've been on it since July and I'm down almost 28 pounds. No real appetite and I don't miss food. Nausea and diarrhea, but who wouldn't put up with that for the weight loss?

No food tastes as good as vomiting and diarrhea feel, right R84!

OP, you keep a food journal? Reliably? If you have the discipline to do that, make home cooked meals and eat at regular mealtimes why are you 300 lbs? You’r example of what you had for dinner isn’t an unreasonable meal. I’m guessing you are a slight 5’11” and pretty inactive.

You aren’t monstrously fat, but you’ve gained weight recently and you are at an age where it’s only going to get harder and you run the risk of getting to the point where you have significant mobility issues, can’t sit in a restaurant chair, etc. you seem intelligent and witty and you aren’t old. Don’t give up!

I’m fat too, but I exercise. Fit fat is bullshit. If you are fat, you aren’t fit. I can jog a mile in 11 minutes, but get out of breath picking things up off the floor. I don’t have a huge fit, bit I think it’s fat compressing my lungs. I also have issues with acid reflux and I’ve had stress fractures in my feet twice in four years. That said, exercise makes me feel much better.

Get yourself some Ritalin. I’m on it for legit ADD and I try not to use it as a weight control measure because my eating is erratic and I’d rather be overweight than slim and dependent (I have addiction issues and take a minimal dose). But you seem to have a consistent eating schedule and you at at a more medically dangerous weight.

When do you last see your willy? x

R86 I only kept the journal for about five weeks when I weighed myself and saw that I had gained weight. I wanted to see where my calories were coming from. My main problem was sugar--about 48 teaspoons which is about 1 cup of sugar, per day. I also eat a lot of bread, usually with every meal.

R87 I think when I was a kid. Unless I'm hard then I can see part of it.

You’d lose 1/4 pound a day of you cut out the sugar and kept everything else the same (assuming you aren’t still gaining).

Volunteer work and a more interesting job?

R89 I definitely have to cut the sugar out partly because of the weight gain and I also would like to avoid becoming diabetic.

I feel like you can do it, I don’t why. Anyway, I’m rooting for you. Good luck!!’

R80 I like you, honey.

It's always been carbs for me. I cut that out, my weight drops dramatically.

I'm wearing a girdle as I type.

I suggest you all run.

How do dodge harpoons?

[quote] Thank you for your kind words and advice, they are appreciated. I've been working on "me" for decades and not much has come of it. If I try to wait until I get my brain right I'll never get on with actually losing weight. Sometimes you have to just stop navel gazing and just decide to stop eating so much. Hopefully the brain will heal itself when the weight starts coming off.

I won't push you on this, but the two are really completely wrapped in one another. Taking care of both is important.

As for the weight - I will say nothing leads to failure on that front quicker than the feeling you're being deprived. So just reduce a bit here and there. Spend one week cutting out a bit of one thing. You don't have to never have bread again.

And if you want to do preventative measures for diabetes, I would suggest a multivitamin. There's Alphabetic and one called "You" or something. They use natural supplements to help your body regulate how it processes sugar.

This is a depressing thread.

OP, can I have your stuff?

Are you single?

OA. Google it. You will never be “cured” but you will be under 200 lbs by this time next year ;)

I know everyone here is trying to be helpful with the advice. The DL can be a great support system at times. However I'm sure the OP has heard all of this before. I am the same age as the OP but my life long struggle has been with depression. At some point you just have no motivation to try to do things to improve yourself and stick to them. You quickky become discouraged and overwhelmed when you do try them.. You just don't care anymore and you have no hope. You just accept how things are live with them. You think if I haven't changed my habits and how I lived my life by now it's not going to happen.

Have you considered a plant based diet, OP? It's not for everyone, but it has sure helped me keep the wait off for decades now.

Good luck, OP.

PS - you sound like a good person, OP.

Buy this book. The Prime: Prepare and Repair Your Body for Spontaneous Weight Loss Hardcover by Kulreet Chaudhary

Read it.

Follow the plan.

R100 that was a poignant and frankly spot on comment. I think it was the Simpsons where Homer tells Bart, "You never have to give up if you never try". That's really how my life feels.

R95 to be honest I won't be giving up bread. Glad to see you're not one of those bread Nazis like so many dieticians. I'd rather give up pasta or rice than bread, especially since I'm walking distance from two bakeries. I'm just going to cut back to bread at one meal a day.

R96 I hope you don't really feel that way. I'm sure there are many people who have always wanted to ask a fat guy something and don't. This is all anonymous so I don't mind answering questions.

r100 The problem is that OP can't do it by himself.

OP--I highly, highly recommend returning to OA. Find some other meetings. Do telephone meetings with men. If you can only find local meetings filled with women, go anyway. You should definitely find a therapist and a psychiatrist as well....but OA is a great daily program that provides emotional support and community to replace food with. Motivation really isn't enough. Most people who go to OA have already lost large amounts of weight and eventually, it comes back unless they stick to a daily program. Spend some time reading about it online. It works. It's where people have to go before and after weight loss surgery because without it, they still can't stop eating and often put the weight back on (or die, which some patients do after weight loss surgery because they go home and eat). Compulsive overeating is a deadly disease. I was once around 300 lbs. It wasn't fun. And I'm not sure there's a huge difference between the compulsive behaviors of a person who is 300 lbs, 400 lbs, or 500lbs--at a certain point, you have to give up the idea you've got control over this.

But again, you'll probably drop at least 70 lbs in the first year. And you'll keep it off. Your life will get better.

OP, at your age I weighed 305 lbs with no medical problems. Then, the problems started: diabetic, heart issues plus multiple TIA style strokes.

I finally figured it out and got down to 188 lbs using a food diary and walking 4 miles everyday

At 78 years old, I am still walking/running 4 miles a day and using a food diary. It works.

Do it for me, OP. ...Please!

OP-you mention being addicted to food. Can you switch addiction and become addicted to the gym? I've seen that with a lot of people. They replace an unhealthy addiction for a healthy one, and then transform their lives. Consider it for your own sake.

R105 thanks for your comment. Sadly I'm in a smaller city and we no longer have an OA group around here. There is one in another city but that's 45 minutes away. Dumb excuses I know. It's something I'm still looking into. I know three people who had surgery and all gained the weight back. They never got their emotions and mental health in order so the surgery didn't do anything to help them.

R106 one of the reasons I want to lose weight is because of the future medical issues. Sadly even if I do mange to get down to a healthy weight there's no guarantee that I will stay healthy. I'm sure I've done irreparable damage to my body being fat all my life. All I can hope for is weight loss mitigating some of the difficulties in handling those health issues as I age.

R107 I work with a woman who traded food for exercise and has become insufferable. She only lost 50 pounds but acts like she was one of Dr. Now's patients. She saw me put a teaspoon of sugar in my coffee and screamed, "Do you know how many wasted calories that is?!" What I plan to do is spend more time with my hobby. When I'm working on that I'm not thinking about food.

Sorry, R108. I hate people like that, whether they're ex smokers or former obese people. Chances are she was insufferable before, too. You should have just said, "I'm naturally thin, so I can handle empty calories," smiled pleasantly and walked away. I do know some people who were able to trade addictions, and it worked for them, without their becoming massive cunts.

Ugh, sorry, R108-I didn't read the rest of your post. You should have just said, "I thrive on empty calories, bitch."

OP, chasers - true or myth? If true, how do they make you feel?

I am a little guy (5'6") my peak was 209 lbs and dropped to 142. Took a lot of crap from people who thought I was "sick" in that "special gay way". No matter what we do, we get haters. You seem awesome as f*ck.

Thanks R111, sorry to hear people viewed your choice to become healthy as being sick. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I've never signed up to any dating apps and don't really put myself out there so I don't know much about chasers. Although when I was 16 a guy who lived on a friend's street who was 15 had a very obvious crush on me. Why I have no idea. Maybe he was a future chaser.

R110, I tapped my spoon on the cup--which she hates--and replied, "No, I don't know." Fortunately someone walked in and I was able to extricate myself from the situation.

Good for you, OP-it's bad enough when you already know you need to lose weight. You don't need someone who did so successfully preaching at you. Sugar equals calories? You don't say! Having said that, though, I would encourage you to consider establishing a physical activity schedule. You don't have to join a gym. Start with morning or afternoon walks. Figure out what indulgence foods you can do with out. Think of it not as losing weight but as getting healthier. That should be your goal.

OP, you could add physical activity to the things you do, like running when going to the refrigerator. Maybe you already do that.

No matter what anyone suggests to help OP, he has two reasons why he can't or won't do it.

He is not in any way interested in even the tiniest bit of change.

I dont have anything to say about your situation except its utterly pathetic of you.

Ive had food issues all my life veering from being anorexic off and on to being 40 lbs overweight. I yoyo d my entire life. Its the only unhealthy thing I ever did. No drugs, booze, cigs, stds, etc. I never learned how to cook so for most of my life I ate packaged processed food. Its terrible for you. Its why everybodies arteries get clogged/

Im in my 60 s now. I recently went on a crash......... plant based diet after a period of about a month of feeling queezy and light headed and I passed out twice with tightness in chest. I knew what that meant and knew a drs visit would mean Id be on the operating table in an hr getting a stent or something like that. I got religion and read a book by a cardiologist about eating only plant based. No dairy no meat etc etc etc. I havent put any placque in my body in 3 months. I never cheat. Ive lost 40 lbs. Im going to the gym and Im practicing on the tread mill everyday for at least 20 minutes and Im running on it now as well. Im probably the only potential heart patient in history that is prepping and training for their stress test that their cardiologist no doubt will order. I sincerely hope the findings are that I was able to squeak by without any intervention medically.

So what I am saying to you is someday down the road you will regret abusing your body like that . Being strapped into a guerney and headed thru the swinging doors to surgery because you couldnt control your appetite is pretty pathetic. Good luck to you.

OP are you a church choir director or organist?

R115 You only stated one reason. But thank you for making a character judgment about me without knowing me.

R116 What plants were you eating? Ferns? Hostas? Ivy? Forty pounds? Get back to me when you've lost 100 pounds or 200. You sound exhausting.

[quote]I recently went on a crash......... plant based diet after a period of about a month

r116, OP would be more interested if you mentioned that vegetables can be deep fried and served with Ranch dressing, and can be served as an appetizer before the serious consumption begins.

jesus fucking christ this site is morphing into a forum for obese middle aged women

Do you have an irrational fear of harpoons?

Putting R120 on ignore makes for some very interesting reading.

No R121 but the last time I went to the beach Green peace kept trying to push me into the water.

Well, it's been one week and I've lost 6 pounds.

I'm practically wasting away.

In two or three years I'll be unrecognizable!

"As me anything!"

Is the K broken on your computer?

You said “ask anything” but didn’t answer Rhoda’s question: can you see your dick?

[quote]5 foot 11 inches.

That's my height, OP. I got to 300 lbs. max once. It was a period recovering from multiple injuries suffered in an accident. Immobility, and with a depressive state from the trauma, and poor eating behavior, did it.

In two years, I got down down to 187 lbs., basically in the range I weighed it college decades ago. I've kept if off several years now, and refuse to let myself get above 190 lbs. at any time. I feel better, look much better, and diminished health issues, including getting off insulin completely.

Walk thirty+ minutes every day. (I walked dogs). Cut the carbs, sugar, sodium, and unhealthy snacks. Join an exercise program at the gym or offered by a community organization. See a dietician, and if you can afford it, work with a personal trainer to get started.

OP-Congrats on the 6 lbs.. and I appreciate your candor. Lots of great advice and comments, not nearly as bitchy as I thought it would be. Work with what you have. You're only responsibility is to highlight your strengths. Even a fat, plain guy can get laid with the right attitude. Drive to the closest big city, get your haircut have a facial, buy a new shirt. You're obviously intelligent, mature and kind. Some dudes LOVE big guys. You have no idea because you've never seen it. Even cuddle parties, non sexual.

I was going to come in and trash OP, but he seems so nice for a deathfat. Take care then.

R124 see R42

R125 see R88.

R126 congratulations on your success and recovery. There was a study done years ago that said people who lose weight and maintain it was because they monitor their weight consistently and belong to a group where they have to account for gains. My problem was I hadn't weighed myself in over a year. That makes eating too much easier. When you have no one to answer to, you tend to lose control of your weight.

Thank you R127 I was hoping it would be more bitchy!

Thank you R128. Now eat shit.

[quote]Do you know Trumps 400 pound friend who sits on his bed all day.

Is he related to Trump's bullshit friend Jim?

Trump does not have any friends.

If you don’t address it, one day you will weigh 400+ pounds.

OP what kind of sex do you have with yourself? Do you shove dildos into your fat ass? I've always been skinny. Went from more a top to more a bottom at the wrong age. Oh my god I got so much sex when I was young and handsome and skinny. Now I'm in my 50s and don't get all the sex I'd like, so when its too much effort to find sex, I ram dildos up my ass when I get too antsy. It helps for the rest of the day.

R133 I've never used a dildo. Seems like too much work to be honest.

Please don't make me go through this thread to see if you've told us you're 9' 5" and something of a goddess.

You are a woman, right? Do you have a keyboard with keys the size of pieces of toast because your fingers are so huge? And do you wipe with a rag on a stick, like we all figure you do? Do you take showers at a car wash? What do you eat for Thanksgiving? Or not eat, I should say?

Do you tell people you're a professional Lady Sumo wrestler? Have you ever lost a pet by sitting on it? Is you butt all wrinkly and pocky, or rounded out?

If you're not a lady, how do you know?

Thank you. Much love to you.

You've never had cocks or faux cocks in your butt? Are you aspie?

[quote]What do you eat for Thanksgiving?

Yo mama!

R136 honestly I have enough trouble clipping my toenails, fucking myself with a dildo seemed like a task beyond my reach, so to speak.

Now I weigh 472 pounds. Help!

OP, I love you and I support you!

Would you ever try Weight Watchers? Worked for me. Just 30 pounds but even so.

Thanks R139.

Never tried WW R140. Not sure why, I guess I just don't like the idea of having to answer to a group of people.

R141 You don’t really have to. It’s more about the system of tracking points that they use. It’s very simple and effective. You get a budget, and you can eat anything as long as you stay within it. You can get creative. It helped show me where the guardrails were.

Why haven't you joined Overeaters Anonymous? There are tons of online meetings now.