I’m fat, but not generally attracted to other fat guys

Good luck with that one.

.... is the sky blue? Don't be a fat fattist.

run to a chubby chaser website immediately

Yup.

Yes, OP you are being unreasonable. You will have to join the 50% of our population who lead chaste lives.

Enjoy being single, asshole.

"Beggars can't be choosers."

Words for you to live by.

The lard wants what the lard wants.

Are you bear-y fat or Homer Simpson fat? Big difference. x

You are typical. Fat men always want fit men and accuse us of being shallow when we do not embrace the obese hog men who have no self control

[quote] Fat men always want fit men

The bear community would beg to differ. They are usually attracted to other fatties.

Fatness is a major indicator of poor health and fat people are objectively unattractive. It's nature's way of warning potential mates against wasting their time: Fat women look pregnant already, and fat men look like ugly, pregnant women.

No amount of Body Acceptance propoganda will change what humans inherently find unattractive.

The number one thing modern humans can do to increase their level of attractiveness, is get down to the lowest healthy weight possible.

I don’t think I would feel this way if I hadn’t been able to pull the occasional hard-bodied twink. Not that those are my type, I’m just saying...it has happened, and fairly recently.

I think I’m somewhere in between beary fat and Homer Simpson fat. I do find many bears attractive, and I wouldn’t say that I never find fat men attractive. Nor do I think fat men are “objectively unattractive.”

I also wouldn’t feel this way if I hadn’t seen numerous couples where one is gorgeous (IMO) and one is a fat schlub who is far less attractive than I am.

I wasn’t always heavy and was fairly cute in my younger and thinner days. I still look at myself sometimes and think that I would probably fuck me.

I don't think not being attracted to fat people is unreasonable--I have blue eyes but don't find blue eyes attractive at all (rare exceptions, of course). I understand finding fat people unattractive--it can be indicative of sloth or lack of self-regard, which are unattractive traits. I had a lot of weight gain during a prolonged illness and it was a pain in the ass to lose it, and feeling unattractive was really depressing.

I have to take issue with R11's statement about fat being "objectively unattractive." That is an oxymoron: there is no standard of beauty. What one person finds attractive may be hideous to another; thus, subjective.

Not unreasonable... unless you're also not attracted to ugly men.

Dear R13 I think R11 is talking anthropologically when he talks about fat being "objectively unattractive."

Humans choose partners because they're healthy as much as beautiful. It's a biological and hormonal need.

Woman are excited by healthy, beautiful men with which to procreate.

It is unreasonable (and I am fat, too), but who ever said attraction was rational? That said, I have been in love with the same man for almost 25 years (married for four) and he is neither skinny nor fair of face (neither am I). his mind, personality, kindness, sense of humor, loyalty, and general aura are what keeps me connected to him--love is something more than, not necessarily disconnected from physical attraction per se. Hard to put into words--after a quarter of a century, there is something more than the chemicals of body hormones. His is the body I want to wake to for as many mornings as we have given to us.

R15 even anthropologically R11 would be wrong as there has been various times and places in history in which being fat was considered attractive AND healthy, so it isn't "objectively unattractive." Cultural norms change.

Like most effy gays here who are only into masculine straight guys. Your preference, but shouldn't you talk to your psychiatrist about it instead of us, dear?

R17 Fat may have been considered attractive to impoverished, starving Chinese who worshipped a fat Buddha.

But I don't believe ANYONE has considered unhealthiness as attractive unless they're Post-Modern Millennials like Nick Tortorella or freaks like this‚—

I find a lot of super skinny guys are into fatties you don’t usually see two of them together.

R15, women usually choose the wealthiest men available.

I love fat men!

I'm bald and not really into bald guys. I actually kind of fetishize a great head of hair, with attraction, awe, and envy. Taste doesn't have to make sense.

R17 is sort of right. Greater weight is seen as a sign of nourishment and health. But the modern fat is more grotesque than rubenesque. Few things make me roll my eyes harder than a guy who says at 300 lbs and 5'8", he has "a few extra."

R19 Educate yourself. I personally don't think obesity is attractive, but I know that is my subjective view.

Fattism is worse than racism. Self-hating fat fattists are worse than Nazis.

Fattism is a SIN!

You have a bit of a double standard, don't you, OP?

How could anyone find him unattractive?

Self-loathing deathfat runs amok as OP.

Not so much unreasonable as extremely limiting - as R1 says.... it will not be easy

Unreasonable? No. Ridiculous? ABSOLUTELY.

I've been fat and ugly my entire life and in 47 years only one person was interested in me--back in high school a girl was crazy for me but I rebuffered her because I knew I was a homo.

I can't imagine chasing after guys better looking than myself. It seems emotionally futile.

I'm a top with tiny meat.