I’m melancholy. Sick of people (yet I have a need to be surrounded by people)

Also worth noting: I’m also depressed about how the world is right now. I’m over it.

Please. let this be fiction.

If you begin your post with how much money you have I'm inclined to nod at the "narcissist" label.

Ruth?! Is that you? Are you sure the $2M is spot on?

You sound like me a few years ago OP. I quit my job and have been traveling around Europe for the past three years. But I wasn't in a relationship. I'm also feeling a bit down with current events. I just saw what R2 wrote. To R2: Yes, I can attest that having "everything" may not be fulfilling to some people.

You don't want to ruin a great life? From what you've written it doesn't sound so great. I suppose from outside appearances it would.

[quote]Sick of people (yet I have a need to be surrounded by people)

Lol...interesting paradox.

Do you meditate? It’s interesting to watch our minds when we still our mental self-talk.

Ugh... you sound exhausting OP

OP = Tedious Narcissist

You're a dime a dozen.

Do you still have the shrinks number?

Honestly, if I had you in front of me right now I'd kick you in the cunt

Nice humblebrag, ya tedious twat

I bet other people are sick of you, too.

Humble Brag Whine

Don't worry OP. Your partner is sicker of you than you are of yourself. He's storing up information, like this DL post, so when you jump (or are pushed) from your penthouse balcony he has cover. Has he recently asked you about your will/estate plan? If so the countdown is on.

God you guys are truly judgmental.

OP here.

I’m a nice guy. Generous. Friendly.

But I’m bored. I am.

And I’m explaining how my mind is vacillating between just being selfish and doing what I want now vs thinking of the consequences of what I *can* do if I want.

So, I was wondering if I’m crazy and super entitled and just stfu and enjoy what I have OR if others feel like me and continue to experience this melancholy and just wanting to quit and de stress somewhere.

Get a fucking hobby.

OP, narcissism in incurable.

OP, your post @15 changes everything. Now, instead of wanting to kink you once, I'd like to kick you twice in the cunt.

OP, I can relate. I have the best job of my life which allows me to travel and work from anywhere, really. Own two homes. Travel multiple times per year for pleasure. But feel a little bit empty.

I'm 51. I think we're just having a midlife thing. "What does it all mean?" and all that rot.

I did it at 48. Never been happier. But cut spending dramatically. Really live like you are not making money anymore. It’s not easy to worry about money again and to pay attention to each dollar. But it was the best decision I made because I realized the capitalist treadmill is not a life. It it depends on person. Never been a materialist and am very happy not doing anything.

I did it at 48. Never been happier. But cut spending dramatically. Really live like you are not making money anymore. It’s not easy to worry about money again and to pay attention to each dollar. But it was the best decision I made because I realized the capitalist treadmill is not a life. It it depends on person. Never been a materialist and am very happy not doing anything.

It’s all called ADHD now (with different subtypes), so you were probably right to get rid of a therapist who used an out-of-date term to describe the condition. If you really do have ADHD, it’s probably a bad decision to give up a routine that is working, at least somewhat, for you. Look for a new job. For now, live as if you’re making nothing — you’ll save more while assessing whether you can really handle a cheaper lifestyle.

Which is more important to you: money or time?

The answer to that question is the answer to your question.

^ no idea how this ended up posting here. Sorry.

You’re a mess, r22 / r24.

Volunteer to foster the Darfur orphan.

Give away all your money and follow Jesus.

But you're having sex with your best friend's husband in a different EST, I mean post, OP.

How's that working out?

R28 for the win.

We always want things that make us sick.

OP, I felt the same way living in the LA rat race- spending a fortune on stuff, parties etc. Yes, I did lots of cool things. But when I had the opportunity to move an hour south to the beach, I jumped at it and never looked back.

R28, for realz??? Is this the same asshole? I’ll check. What a dick.

Great Scot. It is it Scott? It IS the same dude.

So what? I’m going through some things and like anonymous advice?

OP, it's called: Life.

What were you expecting: Two tickets to paradise?

OP, GTFOH. You leave out of this thread that you are ravaged with guilt over your affair with your BFF’s husband and that you’re about to leave your LT marriage and move in with your lover?!?!!!!? Bitch PLEASE. Shall I keep going??? You’re totally busted. You’re an embarrassment to yourself.

I'm cutting down on socialization. Not sure if it's a good idea but I can't stand most people. Chit chatting with people I have little in common with is getting more tiresome every day.

I'm so happy folks come to the DL to expose the sordid details of the collapse of their once happy lives.

OP’s other thread.

If OP Is a narcissist there is no hope.

In general, people are a disappointment, aren't they OP.

OP Yikes, Blimey, Sheesh, and all that... and no, Jeebus Chrysler can't save you either. Get straight back with the shrink, and possibly consider you are on the spectrum, as autistics often suffer ADHD, lack of empathy, narcissism, and unfulfillment. Asperger's???? or Troll?

[quote]I’ve seen a therapist. He just told me I’m a narcissist who has ADD. No longer seeing him

Yes the best thing you should do when a professional you paid to help is ignore their opinion if you don't like it. Money wisely spent I see. Or maybe yo u were looking for a shrink who would only tell you how great you are and the rest of the world sucks.

The Tower card crosses you and your significator is the King of Swords. There is cataclysmic change in your future. Cutting, loss of abilities and prestige. A deep blow to your sense of power and dignity. Great loss of independence. Cancer in the lower abdomen. Painful, incurable. A long and significant fight. You will have support but not from those most close to you now. The final outcome is the World card. Your life has been spent in ego gratification and superficial pleasures. This boredom you feel is a spiritual and seismic message, like a buzzing fly. But now is not the time for flight. You'll need your resources. Your life is almost complete, you have finished the journey you chose. You won't stop yourself from some last acts of selfishness, but you won't escape the pain. Your life will end in 22 months.

OP. 20 years ago I was in the same rut in NYC. I had a great apartment and a sexy British boyfriend. From the outside people thought my life was terrific, but I was miserable with my job (international banking). Not having a plan I self sabotaged and lost the boyfriend and luckily for me the bank I worked for closed its NYC office and I got a nice severance package.

I used it to go to law school and now I do immigration law and live a very simple life. SO much happier...I really am.

Also, having more money than most in law school (Chicago) I was able to travel during every break and enjoy the 3 years off from the "real world" , and actually had a blast.

I do ok now, but not super well off as the banking career would have been for me. Fulfilling work outweighs everything I find.

I wish you well.

Cheers R44

R45 makes a good point, if your work is unfulfilling and boring then your life is unfulfilling and boring. Whatever it is you always wanted to do, start doing that as a hobby and see if you really want to change your life.

Yeah sell the apartment

You have a meaningless "Real Housewives" life. It's pathetic and vulgar. Cash out and retrain to do something useful. Be an EMT or a nurse. Do what r45 did. At least, you feel bad about the fact that your life is a complete, shallow waste so you're not beyond salvation. Good luck finding something meaningful to do with your life. I hope you have the courage.

Try taking an interest in someone other than yourself. Yes, you may be bored, but what you're bored of is yourself. A sense of gratitude can be developed by making a difference in the lives of others, mainly those less fortunate.

Nothing else will work. You'll see.

OP, you sound like an emotional vampire.

There is no joy in nursing, well a brief flicker every now and then. Paperwork and bitter fraus.

My sister is a nurse. She's my hero.