[quote] How many of those who went to prep school work full-time? Do any cook, or do they have servants to handle anything beyond quick preparation? Assume all are always dieting.
They don't have servants, generally. Two of those types I know who do have staff have these weird professional-looking people around... I guess they call them "helpers" or by first name. Like one is a former senator's son, and I think he has this older woman who used to be on the senator's staff as his family's ... concierge or something. Both also have cooks from their parents' homes (older women who are "part of the family). And of course they have people who come in and clean every few days, same as all of the rest who don't have staff.
For food, everyone eats out and orders in (vegan, ethnic, ethnic vegan lol), some do meal delivery because they like to cook. Many have groceries delivered. A few like to walk to Whole Foods and carry their own things home (like normal people). Just those two friends have live-in cooks.
I'd say about half work. Lawyers (a few), physicians (not the main source of income, usually the wife), hedge fund guys, professors (humanities). I don't know tech people. But those from the half who don't work "consult," and once (more like "if" these days) they have children (I'm 35), the women basically stop working. They focus on the children and charities (that's their "work"). And on health.
What else... Oh, how could I forget — cats and dogs. They adopt (vs. buying) them, generally. They also baby them. That's the thing now. Breeders and particular breeds are out — that's another Southern wealth/aspirational thing, having purebred dogs. Everyone has a rescue now. And of course they do charitable work for dogs and cats. North Shore Animal ... rescue or shelter, and wildlife rehab places — I know four women who do that sort of work and they're very wealthy. They're not snobs, though. They actually clean cages and feed the poor animals, in addition to raising money.
None of them are snobs, really, except against wealthy Southerners and aspirational types. That is, they don't "look down" or mock anyone less privileged. Quite the opposite, actually, as they show a lot of concern about society, the environment, and the vulnerable (children, animals). Also, every single one of them I whom I know will do things like go with me to a hole-in-the-wall vegan Thai place, for example, and will (say that they) like what little food they actually eat. They love that stuff — places with bad sidewalks outside of them, run by small immigrant families. It's a whole thing with them. It's all part of the way of life, but I'm actually happy that they're like that and not super snobbish and self-conscious about their status. E.g., it's not "I'm buying a Tesla because it's expensive and a way to show off." It's "I'm buying a Tesla to be environmentally responsible and so that the company has a future."
I'm talking about Acela Corridor people (Boston to Washington) people here. Groton people. Yale people. I don't know about the West Coast.