Do I have potential or not?

Go away, cropped picture Troll, we know it's not you

Pic and description are hot. Keep at it. You’ll find someone, if you want.

Are you realistic, and stay within your league, or pursue guys you desire? What you desire, and what you can have, are not necessarily the same thing.

As for going out to a bar seeking a life partner (it sounds like that was your intention) is such folly. Same as going to a bathhouse looking for a boyfriend - although many of my fuck buddies have become decades long friends. If you're rather dull, and lack personality, a bar is not a place for you. Attention whoring extroverts are for them, not a sheltered introvert sitting in a dark corner. The patrons could smell your desperation across the room that night.

If, on the off chance this is real, I like your glasses, OP. So, yes, of course you have potential.

If you were a straight man with an outstanding personality and your shit together, you could get plenty of women.

'What you desire, and what you can have, are not necessarily the same thing' should be posted at every bathhouse. Perhaps with 'don't be a creep' added.

OP, I would love to fuck you, but I would be too embarrassed to admit to anyone that I actually did.

First of all get a better camera angle. You're all nose in this one so it's not an accurate depiction of your facial proportions..

Skin looks good.

Fake or not, with some decent pix, some contact lenses and depending on your personality--- you COULD be adorable.

Adorable!

OP, if you're for real, I was just kidding. I think you're cute.

You are fine. You probably need to work on improving self esteem and being more confident. I f you learn to feel good about yourself and present as confident - well those qualities are attractive.

And learn how to take a picture of yourself at a more flattering angle. You can google for tips on how to look good in selfies.

Unlike R4, I think your glasses are ridiculous. Otherwise, you are perfectly adequate.

Maybe. You’re boring and dorky looking but some people like that look.

[quote] but I’m really loyal and a nice person.I just wanna homebody type guy like myself that wants to snuggle up

This is what I wanted for the longest time. While looks are important if they’re attached to an awful personality they’re rather wasted. You’re a good looking guy, OP. Sure you don’t look like an Instaho, but given your personality it doesn’t seem you’d like the life of one anyway. And as someone wrote above don’t go to gay bars looking for a boyfriend. Go there if you want a drink.

" I’m really loyal and a nice person. However, that counts for nothing in the gay world."

Come on, being nice and loyal doesn't count in any world!

I see that smoldering, come hither stare you're giving us OP.

Never you mind this "oh, will I ever find anyone to love me?" bullshit while you're cruising bars and bathhouses. I know a sex freak when I see it.

4.7/10

You're hot OP. Some here will think that, some not. Same as in the world.

Good luck and send more pics!

OP? We ALL have potential.

[quote] We ALL have potential.

Erna doesn't. Nor does Poo Shoes.

I want you to fuck me with your feet and then your cock.

Woof! Love the scruff, and I'm always weak for a cute guy in glasses.

Shove ur foot up my ass

Step 1: Stop being so desperate and insecure that you solicit compliments online from strangers.

First of all, if you want to find a nice guy you need to stay out of gay bars. Those places are filled with nothing but dopers, mental cases, drunks, and thieves.

[quote] Those places are filled with nothing but dopers, mental cases, drunks, and thieves.

And gypsies and tramps and users and losers.

Gypsies, tramps & thieves

Cute, but a bit too American-looking for my taste.

What is your shoe size?

Really r28? I think he can pass for English.

If that’s your id definitely date you based on your looks, you seem sweet too.

You guys are lying to. Here’s another better angle of me at work. I am not by any means cute or adorable

First stop with the hipster bullshit look. If you're normal then be normal, hon.

Oooh, I see you've parked your ass beyond that sign. What a rebel. Love me.

r32, stop. Anyone who is terrified of downloading Grindr because their messages might be ignored is certainly not going to subject themselves to the slings and arrows of Datalounge.

R34 beat me to it.

OP, you are an anti-Monet.

First you were asian now you are white lol stupid OP

Just stick to masturbation.

Troll OP pretending to be asian lol

I’d choose the Asian in R40 🥢🥡

You’re handsome. Consider a new haircut and growing facial hair. Also, a new pair of glasses would bring out your eyes.

R42 it’s not his photos it’s just some poor random guy OP is a troll

Cute enough,but your cock size would determine just HOW cute. Small cock,your barely adequate looks wise,big cock,your smokin hot!

You're just fine, OP. Have you ever switched up your look? I wonder what you'd look like with contact lenses and a short beard. Go to the library, local university activities, various geek conventions, and church for potential friendships. I'm sure there must be gay guys in the choir. Carry on....

Thanks, R43, for bringing me back to reality.

Trust me, you’re cute.

Sorry but this is going in the direction of Datalounge as hook-up website, and the fact DL is not about that is why I like it.

Brings back memories of that hilarious thread from a few years back "What do you think of my D?"

Personally, and only because I was asked, I think OP would look good with a bit more of a tan. Just to give a healthy glow and make him appear warmer.

But do use SOME sun protestion so it's not a fatal dose of tanning, and you're protecting your skin.

Fix the self-confidence before you put yourself out there again. Otherwise, you're pretty much guaranteeing a continuing downward spiral. Because anyone you meet who starts dating you will see you putting yourself down, refusing to gracefully accept compliments, being overly clingy and needy, second-guessing their every word and action.

That will inevitably destroy the relationship, which will then lead to more damage to your self-esteem. Lather. Rinse. Repeat. I've seen this in a friend, who still struggles with this and still tries to put his self-esteem into someone else's hands, which always ends in disappointment. If you don't fix that, you will not succeed.

Get some therapy to figure out why you cannot believe in yourself and why you are so dependent on the opinion of others. Once you have that under control, you can put yourself out there again. Self-confidence is an amazing power, both internally and externally, and you'll find it much easier to attract the guys you want to attract.

I don't mind the pale skin. It can bring out interesting shadows on a man's face.

OP. If you're legit I have to say one of the MAIN things you have going for you is that you look MASCULINE. Especially in the picture at R32.

Pretty you ain't (thank GOD) which is exactly your appeal. A lot of guys like you never experience self esteem because you have that solid, unassuming look that tends to not get noticed by pop culture and Madison Ave. You have that familiar and relatable look of a man that makes sure the power's on that keeps the whole fucking world moving and not some piece of useless eye candy. A lot of homosexual men actually PREFER your face to a runway model or teen idol type. There was a guy from the 70s who did some nude pictures with the iconic photographer Jim French who represented the same archetype you do. He was FLUMMOXED when he was approached to pose and even more so when he learned he was VERY popular.

R25 typed that from a gay bar bathroom as he serviced a cock and smoked meth at the same time.

R50 - To help with my self esteem issues, I find having a large penis does wonders. I realize my own mediocrity, but my popularity is quite high. Gawd, I sometimes have to pinch myself with some of the guys I hook up with. Fortunately for me, I also realize that I'm not looking for a partner, and prefer to live as a single person. So, there are never unrealistic expectations when meeting someone new. But, I'm never lonely either.

OP is probably a troll, but does anyone remember that middle-aged guy from about five years ago who kept posting his real photos: in one thread he wanted us to guess his age. In the other he wanted us to guess his profession based on his pic (I remember one of the replies said "hand model"). I can't seem to find any of these threads in the archive.

OP with the right lighting and styling I 'm sure I could get some VERY sexy photos of you.

EVERYONE gets their messages ignored on Grindr.

And YES, you're cute. You look very much like my husband who I met at a college alumni event. Gaybars are terrible places to meet people. Go to community events, the theatre, art galleries, anything where you get to be around mixed and diverse people.

OP's giving us "Jack Torrance" realness at R32.

You look cute OP!

Of course you do. No question. What holds you back is confidence. It’s okay, Seriously. Ordinarily, I’m kind of an asshole. - but when it comes to young gays and lesbians, I wouldn’t steer you wrong.

I have a feeling OP, if this is even real, had unrealistic expectations when he tried going to a gay bar. OP you are above average but you are not the model type of good looking, you have the wholesome guy next door look. Wholesome next door type isn't what most guys are looking for in a bar.

First make sure there isn't something wrong in the smell department with you, garlic, badbreath, BO, crappy or too much cologne. No smell is better than the wrong smell.

Don't go on Grindr, try an actual dating site, not a hookup site. Plenty of Fish comes to mind, but stick with dating sites not hookup sites. You are decent looking and sound like a great guy, there is someone who would love to snuggle up with you and play video games, probably a lot of someones, but it only takes one. Good luck.

You smell like a troll, OP, but if you aren't maybe you should also stop assuming gay men are all shallow, cruel and looking only for the next hung 10/10.

Something tells me OP has VERY high standards of attractiveness while at the same time bemoaning that no one can see past his dearth of Instaho looks.

I suspect he wants the DNA coverboy just like a lot of other gay guys.

R54 - Wouldn't that be a harsh reality check for most of Data Lounge - to post your real, current head shot, and ask all the other posters how old they think you are? Oh, the hilarity that would ensue.

Or better yet - post a full nude body shot with head, asking Data Lounge to rate you between 1 and 10. . .

You guys are too kind. He’s not average. That means he’s better looking than 1/2 the population. He is NOT. He’s not hideous and he can certainly find a BF, but he’s not above average by any stretch.

[quote] sun protestion

That’s what happens when the Trump administration tries to deny global warming.

R65 - This place is populated by mostly 1's and 2's. Of course he's gorgeous to them.

No, you do not have potential. Thanks for asking though.

[quote] Look, I know I don’t look like the gays on the magazine or Instagram but I’m really loyal and a nice person.

First rule of thumb: Self proclaimed nice guys are NEVER nice guys. You actually come across as somewhat of an entitled, whiny asshole in your post. People can pick up on that right away and it is a huge turn off. I also assume you are going for guys with looks 8 and above. If you don't want other guys to be shallow, you can't be shallow yourself. Try going for guys you feel are uglier than you. I guarantee you will meet someone.

Cheers.

You look fine but the video games is a HUGE turn off.

Are you a smoker? Men often reject smokers due to the stench.

You'll be swell! You'll be great! Gonna have the whole world on the plate! Starting here, starting now, honey, everything's coming up roses!

Talk about a Millennial Snowflake!

This guy really needs to hear this:

Post more pics, OP, including shirtless.

I have confidence in sunshine.

I have confidence in rain. I have confidence that spring will come again!

Besides what you see I have confidence in meeeeeeee!

OP. You should have known this thread would come this.

I am a homebody, play video games (destiny 2 and overwatch mostly) and like to stay home and snuggle - Got a great job too, work from home and travel a bit for work making 6 figures. I think you are cute in your pic.