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I don't believe it. I don't think there is one ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD as long as all the parts work.%0D

by Anonymousreply 22206/08/2015

When I was about 15, a daily masturbator since discovering the thrill 2 years earlier and wracked with Catholic guilt over my undeniably homoerotic masturbation fantasies, I gave up masturbating in an attempt to avoid hell (I was pretty brainwashed at that point). I lasted a week. I figured hell was worth it. (I don't believe that BS anymore of course) I don't buy it either, OP. It's still the easiest (and sometimes the best) way to get off. I can't imagine denying myself that pleasure. Any man who does is an idiot.

by Anonymousreply 1405/02/2011

A friend of mine who went to a seminary said that in one of his classes there was was a very frank discussion about masturbation. I don't remember everything he said, but the jizz of it was that the professor (who was also a priest) said that it was ok and that he did it.%0D %0D Celibacy is abstaining from marriage or fucking only.

by Anonymousreply 1505/02/2011

[quote]the jizz of it Ahahaha!

by Anonymousreply 1605/02/2011

R14, I was raised conservative Catholic as well (even considered the priesthood at one point!). I actually gave up whacking for lent one year! Let me tell you, that last hour before 12:00 a.m. on Eastern morning (for all you heathens, that's when Lent ends and you can go back to enjoying whatever it is you gave up) was insanely tough. Once the clock read 12:00 a.m. on Easter, I spanked 3 times within 40 minutes. I'm not making this shit up.

by Anonymousreply 1705/02/2011

People change r18. If it doesn't bother you or affect your life negatively then there's no problem there.

If it were me (at 47) I'd explode.

by Anonymousreply 1905/02/2011

I had a friend in CA who used to swear up and down he didn't masturbate. I'd grill him about it because I was fascinated and just couldn't fathom he was telling the truth...but at the same time I couldn't understand why he'd be so adamant about lying either. His response was that it's "disgusting."

Also, I've never in my life had a wet dream...I've always wondered why that is. And I've had periods in my life where I've lost my sex drive and haven't jacked off for a month at a time (isn't depression great?) so you'd think during that period I would have had one or two. Nope.

by Anonymousreply 2105/02/2011

I'm 35 and if I go any longer than 24 hours without cumming I feel very anxious and I can't concentrate on anything because all I can think of is cumming. I don't know how any man could abstain for as long as a week! I would be in a straightjacket by then.

by Anonymousreply 2205/02/2011

I have a Human Sexuality textbook from college that claims gay men report masturbating more often than straight men. I can't figure out why the hell that would be...does anyone know? It seems like all men would be equally horny.

by Anonymousreply 2305/02/2011

I'm a woman and I have "wet dreams." I actually wake up having an orgasm. I think it's rare for women. As for masturbating, I do it but not often. Maybe once a month. It's more when I'm having sex regularly. Guess I just think about it more.

I think every man does it. My single since 1975, religious Aunt said that "god takes care of her urges." I doubt she's ever masturbated in her life.

by Anonymousreply 2405/02/2011

For anyone else who wants to contribute and comments on wet dreams, maybe it would be a good idea to specify whether you actually cum as a result of a wet dream or not. As I mentioned, I still get wet dreams every once in a while but I can only remember one time, when I was like 12 or 13, when I actually came as a result.

I've heard some guys say that they've "never" had a wet dream because they did not actually reach climax. But they have sexual dreams all the time.

by Anonymousreply 2505/02/2011

Some women don't masturbate because they can't find the clitoris. It's very possible some men cannot find their penis.

by Anonymousreply 2605/02/2011

I rarely whack off. Usually just save it until I have sex with someone (usually only on the weekend). I do think about it ALL the time, though, and might concentrate better if I did spill a load every morning.

by Anonymousreply 2705/02/2011

I LOVE wet dreams, I usually only have them if I havent masturbated in more than five or six days, which only happens a couple times a year. I feel sooo good after a wet dream, I think the hands free orgasm is really powerful.

During a period of depression I didn't masturbate for about three weeks which is the longest Ive gone in my adult life.

by Anonymousreply 2805/02/2011

[quote]I've heard some guys say that they've "never" had a wet dream because they did not actually reach climax. %0D %0D Isn't that what makes it...wet?

by Anonymousreply 2905/02/2011

[quote]As I mentioned, I still get wet dreams every once in a while but I can only remember one time, when I was like 12 or 13, when I actually came as a result.

Then you've only had ONE wet dream. The rest were just sex dreams. It's called a WET dream for a reason.

by Anonymousreply 3005/02/2011

r30 sounds like he needs a wet dream. A really wet one.

by Anonymousreply 3105/02/2011

"a build-up of horniness"

Would the above be the scientific term for it?

by Anonymousreply 3205/02/2011

[quote]As I mentioned, I still get wet dreams every once in a while but I can only remember one time, when I was like 12 or 13, when I actually came as a result.

Um, what?

Queen, do you even know what a wet dream IS??

HINT: you've only ever had one, when you were "like 12 or 13".

Didn't you ever wonder why they're called "wet"?

by Anonymousreply 3305/02/2011

Here in my fifties I still have occasional wet dreams. Not often. I had an erotic dream last night, but it wasn't a wet one. Long ago I had a housemate who claimed he didn't masturbate. His crusty cum rags in the laundry whispered to me that he lied.

by Anonymousreply 3405/02/2011

Men who don't masturbate obviously aren't on the Internet. I mean, how can you resist?

by Anonymousreply 3605/02/2011

38 and still have the occasional wet one, esp if I haven't jerked for a while. They're usually weird and half unpleasant. Of the hundreds I must have had in my life, probably about 5 were actually hot and enjoyable. The rest were icky and awkward. Two nights ago I dreamed was blowing myself for an audience. Waking up wet is also annoying on cold nights (that jizz doesn't stay warm for long). I've known people whose masturbation frequency died off almost completely on some medications. Me, I'm still once or twice a week.

by Anonymousreply 3705/02/2011

45 yo lesbian - I've had a few orgasmic dreams. It is amazing to wake up while having an orgasm.%0D %0D Two of my female friends say they don't masturbate and never have. One told me she has never had an orgasm in her life - she has two kids and is married.

by Anonymousreply 3805/02/2011

45 and never had a wet dream. Of course I jerk off at least once a day so maybe that is why. Still, I always wondered what the experience would be like. I remember some film in sex ed in 8th grade talking about "nocturnal emissions" and hoping that it would happen to me some night. %0D %0D I actually don't know if my partner masturbates but suspect he does given the rate at which we go through bedside tissues.

by Anonymousreply 3905/02/2011

Has anyone every masturbated while ice skating or ice fishing? Is ice sexy?

by Anonymousreply 4005/02/2011

R39. Well, you pretty much wouldn't have a wet dream after about 17-18 years old, so the fact that you're 45 is somewhat irrelevant. However, you never? Aren't wet dreams--even at least one sometime during adolescence--part of the biological process?

by Anonymousreply 4105/02/2011

Wet dreams--always awkward waking up as a teen then figuring out how to hide your sheets and cum stains from your mother before she does the laundry.

by Anonymousreply 4205/02/2011

"Well, you pretty much wouldn't have a wet dream after about 17-18 years old..." Uh, I've had two wet dreams within the past year, and I'm 28. It's not common after adolescence, but it does very occasionally happen to most male adults, R41.

by Anonymousreply 4305/02/2011

[quote]I have a Human Sexuality textbook from college that claims gay men report masturbating more often than straight men. I can't figure out why the hell that would be...does anyone know? It seems like all men would be equally horny.%0D %0D Studies have shown that gay men are gay because of an excess of testosterone. That would also explain the additional horniness and need to masturbate.

by Anonymousreply 4505/02/2011

Duh, gay men get off on men, and they are one. They like touching cock a hell of a lot more than straight men, AND they get to see more naked men than straight men get to see naked women.%0D

by Anonymousreply 4605/02/2011

R45 Gay men have an excess of testosterone?? You could have fooled me!

by Anonymousreply 4705/02/2011

Men who eat soy are men who don't masturbate because their estrogen levels are too high.

by Anonymousreply 4805/03/2011

"Two of my female friends say they don't masturbate and never have. One told me she has never had an orgasm in her life - she has two kids and is married."%0D %0D %0D %0D A significant number of straight women are "orgasm virgins" - even ones who've had plenty of sex. %0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 4905/03/2011

"Men who eat soy are men who don't masturbate because their estrogen levels are too high"%0D %0D %0D %0D Oh, please, the article was about the dangers of eating TOO MUCH soy, just eating soy in general won't make you stop masturbating. You people are morons. Men in Eastern countries eat soy, and I'm sure they masturbate!

by Anonymousreply 5005/03/2011

Guys who havent unloaded in a while have something special in their cum...

by Anonymousreply 5105/03/2011

"Studies have shown that gay men are gay because of an excess of testosterone"

Who took mine?

by Anonymousreply 5205/03/2011

LAWD have mercy!

by Anonymousreply 5405/03/2011

I haven't masturbated in months, but then again I get laid a LOT.%0D %0D The question is kind of absurd. EVERY man has masturbated at least once...but some men really don't masturbate all that much due to depression, sex addiction, or other illness. Some don't even need to.

by Anonymousreply 5505/03/2011

Now would be the time to post that video of the guy without arms masturbating.

by Anonymousreply 5605/03/2011

Shit, I masturbate because of depression, not in spite of it.%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 5705/03/2011

R55, my understanding is that even men who get laid a lot still masturbate quite a bit.%0D %0D More common to masturbate than not among those getting laid a lot.

by Anonymousreply 5805/03/2011

That's not my understanding R58. I get laid a lot, and don't bother with masturbation.

by Anonymousreply 5905/03/2011

I had a friend (among a large gay circle) who claimed he never masturbated because he "never needed to". He got laid so much. Loudly proclaimed this any time the topic came up even tangentally. ALWAYS had to make the point that he "never needed to". Because he got laid so much.

It took a while but we eventually realized this guy was an enormous liar. Pretty much everything that came out of his mouth was a lie.

I've had some pretty sexually active periods in my past but I still jerked off regularly.

by Anonymousreply 6005/03/2011

I jerk off when I know I'll be having sex, just so I'll last longer.

by Anonymousreply 6105/03/2011

Men who don't masturbate or have some sort of regular ejaculatory release are highly prone to end up with prostate cancer. It's a known medical fact.

by Anonymousreply 6205/03/2011

I did that a few times, R24, but I was in my 20's. I'm now a lot older and it has never happened again.

by Anonymousreply 6405/03/2011

I'm a woman and I have "wet dreams." I actually wake up having an orgasm.

Me, too. It's sooo pleasurable to wake up to/with an orgasm!

by Anonymousreply 6505/03/2011

[quote]Wet dreams--always awkward waking up as a teen then figuring out how to hide your sheets and cum stains from your mother before she does the laundry.

When I was a kid, my older brothers and I [a girl] used to spend half the summer staying with our Granny.

I can still remember one incident where Granny was giving my then-13 year old brother shit for "wetting the bed", while our then-16-y.o. brother just laughed his ass off.

Of course, I didn't get it at the time, but I'm pretty damn sure he wasn't actually peeing the bed.

by Anonymousreply 6605/03/2011

If you don't use it, you lose it.

by Anonymousreply 6705/03/2011

[italic]Studies have shown that gay men are gay because of an excess of testosterone. That would also explain the additional horniness and need to masturbate.[/italic]

Link to bullshit "studies".

by Anonymousreply 6805/03/2011

I get laid a lot and then masturbate thinking about the hot time I just had.

by Anonymousreply 6905/03/2011

Love R66's signature. (Because I'm sure some horny mf-er on here was thinking to ask her)

by Anonymousreply 7105/04/2011

Can we have a thread about Men Who Don't Defecate?

by Anonymousreply 7205/04/2011

A much bigger sin to lie R70.

by Anonymousreply 7305/04/2011

If R70 is telling the truth he's most likely murders children for sexual release.

by Anonymousreply 7405/04/2011

"It is amazing to wake up while having an orgasm."%0D %0D Unless it's your sex partner who's waking you up! ha! That would be insulting to them, I'm sure.%0D %0D I have a married male friend who is about 45. He swore to a group of us recently that he NEVER masturbates. I had no trouble believing it because he is married to a hot wife and they have three kids. We know he's hung and in great shape, so why would he. EXCEPT, I later found out that they haven't had sex regularly for about a year or two and it's down to like once every 3 or 4 months! How could he not jerk off... he was used to getting it regularly (and back in the day, not just from his wife.)%0D %0D I don't know about most guys, but I would think that for many, a guy's penis is his very best friend, always there for a good time whenever he's in the mood. The world's greatest toy, actually! It's there. Play with it!

by Anonymousreply 7505/04/2011

[quote]Unless it's your sex partner who's waking you up! ha! That would be insulting to them, I'm sure%0D %0D Uh, what? So is your partner insulted every time you whack off, R75? What a moronic statement.%0D %0D %0D %0D [quote]I later found out that they haven't had sex regularly for about a year or two and it's down to like once every 3 or 4 months!%0D %0D Creepy gossip. Why are you familiar with the intimate details of a married couple's sex life? Get one of your own.

by Anonymousreply 7605/04/2011

[quote] I had no trouble believing it because he is married to a hot wife and they have three kids. We know he's hung and in great shape, so why would he.

What does being "hung and in great shape" have to do with not masturbating? Or having a "hot wife" or however many kids?

Do people really believe "masturbation = homely, sexually repulsive/defective freak"? Do you honestly assume that a good-looking man with a wife and kids automatically equates to sexuality that is exclusively expressed only with his wife or select female extramarital experiences?

Really? In 2011? On a gay website?

by Anonymousreply 7705/04/2011

And another thing, r75: how do you know he's hung? You said "We know he's hung", who is "we"? And how do you know so much about his sex life?

by Anonymousreply 7805/04/2011

I've heard from some straight males that they keep their masturbation from their wives, and from a few who were discovered, that their wives were resentful and looked upon it as a form of cheating.

by Anonymousreply 7905/04/2011

I think R75 is the same 12 year old that's posting pro Bush babble in the Ground Zero threads.

by Anonymousreply 8005/04/2011

An old friend of mine who is married to a very pretty gal (they have 2 kids) told me once that he and his wife have sex at least 3 times a week and he still masturbates 3-4 times a week. He said "I love it (masturbation), and there are times I can get myself off much better than even my wife can".

by Anonymousreply 8105/04/2011

I think that's what it comes down to--some of us are just way more horny than the average guy and need to do it more frequently. And no, that doesn't mean we're not still getting our fair share of fucking. We just love that feeling of cumming so much!

by Anonymousreply 8305/04/2011

What ticked you off about r75's post r80? I know too much about the sex lives of some of my friends, gay and straight, because they tell me - it isn't creepy or unusual. I don't get the Bush comment either.

by Anonymousreply 8405/04/2011

"I've heard from some straight males that they keep their masturbation from their wives, and from a few who were discovered, that their wives were resentful and looked upon it as a form of cheating."

I recall reading a Dear Abby or Ann Landers column (I know, I know) back in the 90s, I think, where an older widow was going through her husband's things after he died, and discovered condoms, among other things. The old lady wrote something to the effect, "What could that mean? Was he cheating on me? We hadn't had sex in years. We were beyond that at this point in our lives, and after a certain age, I refused to engage int that behavior." She made sex seem like a necessity that they were now over with and could enjoy their golden years.

Well, the response was that he engaged in normal, healthy masturbation. The widow was then chastised for her attitude toward sex and was told that her refusal to have sex likely made her husband's life less fulfilling and their marriage less than complete. Good for you, Dear Abby/Ann Landers!

by Anonymousreply 8605/04/2011

I didn't start masturbating until 19. I tried at 10 but as the foreskin pulled back I thought my dick was being skinned. So yeah it's entirely possible.

by Anonymousreply 8805/04/2011

R75 belatedly returning here. Um, R76, you need to seek therapy for anger management. In the first place, my comment about waking up during an orgasm was a JOKE. In other words, if you're having sex with a partner and fall asleep during it and have to be woken up around climax time, it's an insult to the person you're with. That's all. A joke, even if it was lousy.%0D %0D I think it's funny, too, that anyone would question my remarks about him being hung and in great shape and so why would he feel the need to masturbate. This site (and the world of cyber, etc... and probably the world at large) is rife with people who worship "cut" abs, long, thick penises and otherwise "hot" guys. So they, in turn, often have no trouble finding sex whenever and wherever they want to. They are the ones being chased and if they wish to be caught, then they can be, easily. That's all I meant. If he wanted to add jacking off to it, then that's fine. He told me he just never needed to or wanted to when there was always someone to have actual person-to-person sex with. %0D %0D Hard as it may be to believe, sometimes friends do delve into these personal things with each other. Christ, there are people that do it on (inter)national TV! Why does it bother you that it's been talked about between us? Like I said.... anger management, and a class on acceptance of others wouldn't hurt.%0D %0D R80, I have no comment because I don't even know what you're referring to and it sounds like you are a conspiracy theorist when it comes to DL posters. Switch to decaf.

by Anonymousreply 8905/06/2011

LOL, look at miss thang @ R89 lecturing and handing out assignments in her best teacherly voice.

by Anonymousreply 9005/06/2011

R49 & R63 - my girlfriend has fairly regular wet dreams; more so, of course, if we've been apart. She also has regular erotic dreams. I'm a little jealous, honestly. I'm not sure, but I think I masturbate more than she does.

She was orgasm-less in relationships before we got together. She'd slept with a handful of guys and one other girls, no dice. First time we slept together, boom.

by Anonymousreply 9105/06/2011

'Seinfeld' dealt with this gripping topic. The guys competed to see who could stay 'Master Of My Domain' for the longest. As I recall Kramer burst in after a laughably short time to admit his lack of mastery.

by Anonymousreply 9205/06/2011

[quote]I've heard from some straight males that they keep their masturbation from their wives, and from a few who were discovered, that their wives were resentful and looked upon it as a form of cheating.

This is common among fundie fraus. No porn, no masturbation.

I've known women who claimed not to masturbate. I tend to believe women who claim that over men who do.

by Anonymousreply 9305/06/2011

R90, I wish I'd have had teachers like you to seem to have had; ones who use "Christ" at the beginning of some of their sentences!%0D %0D R93, you are quite right. Also, men sometimes can't help getting hard if something strikes them. You can't tell me that the sensation wouldn't eventually lead to some rubbing out...

by Anonymousreply 9405/09/2011

I don't. My wife and I have sex at least 3 times a week, why would I need to do it? Of course there are men out there who don' who are satisfied with other areas of their sex life.

by Anonymousreply 9505/09/2011

[quote]Also, men sometimes can't help getting hard if something strikes them. %0D %0D Like a beanbag or something?

by Anonymousreply 9605/09/2011

I don't think there is any biological difference between straight men and gay men as far was wankin' it. There are two big differences as far as how we're socialized, though:

1) Many straight guys have a huge issue with maintaining their "macho" image, and--to many of them, I think--masturbation is not just a quick way to get sexual relief. It is like admitting they can't get laid. I don't know many gay men who give a shit. We're guys who like guys, and we all know eachother masturbates.

2) Straight women are mysteries to me sexually, but it seems they're not as horny and sexual as men. They thus have a difficult time with the idea of their boyfriends or husbands needing to whack it. "Why does he need to do that if I am here for him? "Why does he need to look at porn when he has me?" As another poster said, many women see such acts as cheating. Again, gay men don't care.

Just my two cents.

by Anonymousreply 9805/09/2011

Also, to all you calling masturbation "nasty" and a "sin."

I hope to baby Jesus these are ironic troll posts.

I have a theory that most violent behavior, rapists, arson, serial killers, and child molesters can all be linked to this kind of prudery about normal healthy sex and masturbation...

by Anonymousreply 9905/09/2011

98 here again. I meant to say those are the reason way more straight guys LIE about not doing it.

I don't believe for a second that they do it any less than we do. Probably more, considering how much easier it is for us to get laid.

by Anonymousreply 10005/09/2011

I didn't think gay men masturbated.

I thought they palmed it off on some other guy.

by Anonymousreply 10305/09/2011

R101=big liar, about the deed and the faith.%0D

by Anonymousreply 10405/09/2011

R101, no one here believes you.

You whack off and you know it.

Now take your sanctimonious, hypocritical, lying ass to some Repug KKKristian site where you belong.

by Anonymousreply 10505/10/2011

Two of my co-workers say they never masturbate. I don't believe them. Even my boss who is a lot older says he whacks off daily so there's no way these two young healthy guys don't do it. Why do people lie?

Sent from my iPhone

by Anonymousreply 10605/10/2011

R102, that's not true at all and you know it.

by Anonymousreply 10705/10/2011

Do intersexed people fuck themselves? I would. All day, every day.

by Anonymousreply 10805/10/2011

[quote]I am a Christian who takes my faith so seriously I actually don't want to sin. That's is or should be the only choice for any Christian. Why are you on Datalounge? Isn't trolling a porn-filled gay website a sin in your church's eyes? What church do you belong to?

by Anonymousreply 10905/10/2011

For Chrissake, EVERYONE masturbates, men and women alike.%0D Only some women still feel guilty about it and lie.%0D Besides, women can masturbate without touching their genitals, by rocking their body for example, so they don't admit they are masturbating but they damn are!

by Anonymousreply 11005/10/2011

Who talks to their work colleagues about their masturbation techniques? Does no one have boundaries anymore?

by Anonymousreply 11105/10/2011

I haven't masturbated since Saturday nor do I really feel like it.

by Anonymousreply 11208/24/2011

Their is guys that don't masturbate, I know because I'm one of them. Im not going to get into my life story, but everything thats happen to me led me this way. If I die from prostate cancer or anything relating that I don't deprive of these fluids, then so be it, I have my morals! Its not religious morals, nor that I don't do it because I think Im better then everyone else. In simple words, people act like I shouldn't be saved. Also, I get a wet dream at least once every 6 weeks and I'm 24 years old.

by Anonymousreply 11303/08/2012

You should funnel all that energy into furthing your education, Mr. Their is.

by Anonymousreply 11403/08/2012

I don't masturbate more than once a month.

But, I get laid a lot, so I don't need to.

by Anonymousreply 11503/08/2012

Alex Trebek: Men Who Don't Masturbate

Contestant: What are Pathological Liars?

by Anonymousreply 11603/08/2012

People with gender identity disorder often do not masturbate because they do not identify with and therefore hate the genitals they were born with. THREAD CLOSED.

by Anonymousreply 11703/08/2012

Thread OPEN.

by Anonymousreply 11803/08/2012

I'm in a long distance monogamous relationship. I rarely masturbate as I prefer to save up all the sexual energy for when we're together and I enjoy sex even more for doing this. I also find I have more energy most days.

by Anonymousreply 11903/08/2012

"o, I am not kidding. I am a Christian who takes my faith so seriously I actually don't want to sin"

Well, guess what? You're going to hell. Seriously.

by Anonymousreply 12003/08/2012

[quote]I know one man who said he doesn't masturbate because of his religion. Granted, he said this probably a decade ago and he no longer holds the same religious views so I don't know about now. I know another man who says he masturbates but doesn't ejaculate. Again, religious reasons.

OMG, we might know the same two men because I know two men with the EXACT same habits and opinions on masturbation. The first one has changed his religious views and I don't know how he feels about it now. The second one told me that he hadn't had sex in about five years and that he preferred porn and masturbation. Months later (maybe even a year or two) when discussing it he said he doesn't ejaculate, he just plays with it. Weird.

by Anonymousreply 12204/28/2012

For those wondering. Straight men whack off as often as gay men and although they don't go around talking about it in detail, they do refer each other to porn sites or joke about it. It's no secret, every straight man knows every other straight man is doing it. Their wives & girlfriends know too. They don't care unless the boyfriend has his hands down his own pants more often than he has his hands down hers. And the girls do it too. Although they never discuss it. Never.

by Anonymousreply 12404/28/2012

Let's talk about men that we think do not masturbate.

Mayor Cory Booker of Newark Jersey doesn't look like he ever beats off.

by Anonymousreply 12504/28/2012

Sounds like a $25,000 Pyramid clue where the contestant throws out names...

"Rick Santorum...Dead guys...guys who lie...guys without arms...castratos...guys wearing chastity belts...guys in comas...guys without penises"

by Anonymousreply 12604/28/2012

You can't say "guys" (synonym of "men")

"Dead ones, Liars, The armless, Coma sufferers, Chastity Belt Wearers, The Penis-less...

by Anonymousreply 12704/28/2012

It worries me that you actually know the rules to the show vs. the general gist of things.

It worries me a lot.

by Anonymousreply 12804/28/2012

Hint: If you don't use your hand but hump the mattress, that is still masturbation.

by Anonymousreply 12904/28/2012

r128, are you actually sitting there worrying "a lot" over some anonymous lousy post by someone you don't know or care for? Or is that just another erratic expression that we should just "get the general gist of?"

by Anonymousreply 13004/28/2012

R88 is the one who scares me. Margaret White may not be a fictional mother.

by Anonymousreply 13104/28/2012

[quote] EVERY man has masturbated at least once...but some men really don't masturbate all that much due to depression, sex addiction, or other illness.

Or marriage

by Anonymousreply 13204/28/2012

[quote] People with gender identity disorder often do not masturbate because they do not identify with and therefore hate the genitals they were born with

FTM here who says you're full of shit

by Anonymousreply 13304/28/2012

"'Seinfeld' dealt with this gripping topic. The guys competed to see who could stay 'Master Of My Domain' for the longest. As I recall Kramer burst in after a laughably short time to admit his lack of mastery."

In case you just arrived from Mars or grew up in an Amish household...

by Anonymousreply 13404/28/2012

A fairly recent study I read found married men masturbate more than single men.

by Anonymousreply 13504/28/2012

R79, my partner regards my masturbating as cheating, too.

by Anonymousreply 13604/28/2012

Why masturbate when my boyfriend can do it for me?

by Anonymousreply 13704/28/2012

Here in africa people don't masturbate because they think it makes you blind or you catch diseases by doing it..i know it sounds crazy but its very true.its ilke a taboo ..infact they think its safe to just have sex.

I am not making this shit up..I remember asking some folks here if they jerked off and they looked at me with disgust .

by Anonymousreply 13804/28/2012

Is it masturbating when I use my partner's hand?

by Anonymousreply 13904/28/2012

Is it masturbating when I use my partner's mouth?

by Anonymousreply 14004/28/2012

R140, is he a heavy sleeper?

by Anonymousreply 14104/28/2012

In college, one of my best friends told me he never jerked off in high school because he had never heard about it (masturbating). It wasn't until he heard guys in college talking about it that he tried it. I thought he was yanking my chain (no pun intended) but twenty years later he still says this was true.

by Anonymousreply 14204/29/2012

I'm a male who masturbated 2 or 3 times a week from ages 16 to 30. Sometimes I looked at porn, other times I just used my imagination. When I turned 22, I also started going to red light districts whenever I had the money, because girls would not have sex with me for free. Until I was 30, I felt weaker, dumber, and less capable than other guys. They all seemed so strong and fierce and capable.

I was physically small and thin, with bad posture, and had never played sports. If you put me in a random group of 50 guys, I would be the weakest. I was constantly bullied at my job and on the street by strangers. I was yelled at, shoved, laughed at, called names (bitch, retard, weakling), menaced, sexually harassed, etc. I was bullied out of two jobs. It was a living hell.

In my late 20s I had stumbled on a website that advocates complete celibacy for men. When I turned 30 I decided to become celibate; I was so wretched that I was willing to give up sex if I could become strong enough to protect myself. I quit masturbating, looking at porn, and visiting prostitutes. I also quit smoking. Then I started weight training, hardcore. I had lifted on and off before this, but never made any progress beyond beginner gains.

I'm now 37 and have been lifting since that day of resolution. I'm usually one of the strongest guys at the gym. I gained 13kg (muscle and some fat). I never took steroids or even prohormones. I'm in the best shape of my life and I look younger than I did ten years ago, younger but at the same time more manly. When I don't wear my glasses, I get looks from girls in their 20s.

Also, I'm not afraid of conflict anymore. Even if someone is bigger and stronger than I am, I can look them in the eye and stand up to them. Why? Because I have more self control than he does; he probably masturbated or fucked his wife or girlfriend a few days ago. I'd rather be beaten up, shot, stabbed, maimed, or killed than live on my knees as a coward like I did in my youth.

In my 6th year of celibacy I stumbled a bit, and had sex with several girls I met from chat. On the mornings after I had sex, I would feel this awful emptiness in my lower belly, as if my energy had been drained. My mind would feel sluggish and dull, and I'd only be able to lift 70 or 80% of what I'd previously been lifting. It took me about two weeks to recover from each sexual escapade. I only masturbated twice in those six years because some girls from chat asked me to. I never felt the urge to masturbate on my own, in fact, the idea of doing it is contemptible to me. I only had 2 or 3 wet dreams a year.

I've decided to resume my vow of celibacy for the rest of my life. The brutal rejections I underwent in my youth have made me wary of conventional relationships. I believe any improvement in my life has been entirely due to saving my sexual energy and using it for constructive purposes. I will continue my weight training and also take up judo, mma, or brazilian jiujitsu, and hopefully get a black belt in five years. I will also impose additional disciplines and austerities on myself that are just as strict as celibacy. I feel like my life is beginning.

by Anonymousreply 14305/03/2012

R144=crazed fool

by Anonymousreply 14505/07/2012

Why is it the fundie freaks can't express even a simple thought using proper grammar? Did they give up an education in addition to giving up masturbation?

by Anonymousreply 14605/07/2012

Why are so many weird hets here today?

by Anonymousreply 14705/07/2012

So God sends people to hell for masturbating, but is fine with reading and posting on Datalounge? Good to know.

by Anonymousreply 14905/08/2012

Beleive it or not.. I wouldn't post this If I was lying cause I'm researching at the moment why.. But I've never completed a masterbation in my life.. I'm 19 now and I cannot masterbate I will not cum.. Ever. It just won't happen no MATTER how long I go.. It sucks. It makes sex pathetic cause with sex I cum in 5 seconds.

by Anonymousreply 15005/09/2012

I think a lot of women lie about it, the same way they pretend they never fart..

For guys it's not so taboo but more about wanting to appear like Casanovas getting laid all the time.

by Anonymousreply 15105/09/2012

>> ok I get it that younger guys can't really go more than a week with out spanking it but What about women? -Is 19 and hasn't had sex or done self sevice in 3 years-

by Anonymousreply 15205/11/2012

I cant go for more than a week. I masturbate almost every day and I'm only 16... wish I could get another guy to do it for me haha ;P

by Anonymousreply 15305/14/2012

I rarely masterbate because I find when i dont I have a dramatic increase in drive and motivation for life. The longer I go without it the stronger this drive gets, when i jerk it tends to die down for a few days, and comes back again after about day 2-3. I read that its suppose to increase testosterone but for me it seems to do the opposite although I would love to know if this is true or not

by Anonymousreply 15405/17/2012

i don't masturbate anymore because i have a fear that one arm would be bigger than the other if i doit every day lol

by Anonymousreply 15505/22/2012

R143, not very good as a creative writing exercise. Just not believable.

by Anonymousreply 15605/23/2012

R154 it does increase testosterone and it keeps you from getting prostate and other health problems.

It is all in your imagination.

by Anonymousreply 15705/23/2012

I heard that Matthew McConaughey has a hard time masturbating because his arms are too short

by Anonymousreply 15906/14/2012

[quote]Here in africa people don't masturbate because they think it makes you blind or you catch diseases by doing it..i know it sounds crazy but its very true.

No, it doesn't sound crazy, it just sounds like Africa.

by Anonymousreply 16006/14/2012

When I got married my wife asked me to stop masturbating. I stopped and do not miss it at all.

by Anonymousreply 16107/01/2012

Start a thread about Gross flatmates who need to masturbate instead of having sex with different men each day

by Anonymousreply 16207/01/2012


by Anonymousreply 16307/03/2012

I don't have wet dreams but if I hold off on masturbation and let the mind wander when I finally do masturbate I shoot like a rocket. Best masturbation technique I can give let the sexual tension rise then masturbate you will get a better endorphin kick and it will calm you right down.

by Anonymousreply 16407/26/2012

I hate to cum, it leaves me feeling like I've been run over by a truck.

by Anonymousreply 16507/26/2012

R165 see a doctor.

by Anonymousreply 16607/26/2012

I am a 14 year old boy who masturbates every night and I have not had a wet dream in a while, pretty much since I started masturbating... but I really want to have one (you know, I'm a horny teen) so WTF do I do???!!!!!

by Anonymousreply 16708/12/2012

I know of two close friends in the 50's (eldergays?) who do not masturbate at all anymore.

With age comes less desire and urges begin to wane.

I'm also in my 50's and maybe masturbate once a month, but sometimes not for months. All my parts are in working order, but just no desire.

by Anonymousreply 16808/12/2012

Death to all the heterosexuals on this thread. We could care less about your fat wives.

by Anonymousreply 16908/12/2012

I've lost interest and don't masturbate as often. The last time I did it was because I was having trouble sleeping and when I was cumming, instead of squirting, my dick seamed to cough.

by Anonymousreply 17008/12/2012

I had my first wet dream when i was 45 amd had several more after that Waking up just at the point of no return I do knock one out whenever i can and dont think it had been a particularly long time since i had i think it just happens but to start at 45 years old.

by Anonymousreply 17108/27/2012

hi im celebate im 44 am a christmas i follow the ten commandments,i have been with a lot of women in the past but since god came into my life,i havnt slept around .havnt had sex for 3 years my choice and do not want to have a sexual relation until im married .with the right person .i do masterbate a lot if i dont i get frustrated no one has had the answers ive been looking for.was told that if you mastabate with out naughty thoughts thats not a sin .only trouble is thinks its impossible to mastabate with out fantasising otherwise whats the point.just like an answer.

by Anonymousreply 17209/02/2012

[quote]im 44 am a christmas

That's a coincidence! I'm a Halloween!

by Anonymousreply 17309/02/2012

These posts turn me on lol

I might have to go rub myself ;)

by Anonymousreply 17409/29/2012

hi i know a person who is a mentally retarded....

I don think so he knows to masturbate..

So will it affect him ??

by Anonymousreply 17510/21/2012

I'm kind of surprised by the seminarian whose instructor said he masturbated and that it was OK. I thought Onanism was strictly forbidden by the church and is the basis for its birth control prohibitions. Remember spilling and wasting is bad because it won't lead to the miracle of life.

by Anonymousreply 17610/21/2012

Well they say that, and it used to bother me, R176. However, it's not like there is a limited amount of it in the body, or that the body can produce only a limited amount. That makes the idea that spilling or wasting is a sin rather nonsensical.

by Anonymousreply 17710/21/2012

All that stale gunk stored in your prostate will lead to cancer. Empty your prostate at least twice a week.

by Anonymousreply 17810/21/2012

I am a 19 year old male who doesn't Jack off. I try once in a great while just to say iv'e tried. The truth is i don't get no pleasure from it, so no cum shot, no orgasm for me, and i'm a atheist. It took me till i was around 20 to truly figure out i was different. I don't know whats wrong with me, never been to a doctor about it. I also have no sex drive, i'm a hetero romantic asexual.

by Anonymousreply 17910/30/2012

ALL men do it. Even the happily married ones.

by Anonymousreply 18010/30/2012

There are some cultures where the males don't (or at least didn't) do it. Usually in ones that are much more sexually free. As in, they start "testing out" sexual partners as soon as puberty hits, and the parents approve. So they get unlimited access to the real thing from like, age 13.

I read one article where an anthropologist tried to discuss it with the men of a culture, and they laughed and thought it was a joke. When asked to produce sperm samples (forget why they were asked to do this), they were given instructions on how to masturbate. And the majority of the resulting samples came back with vaginal secretions in them, because they still couldn't understand why someone would get themselves off.

by Anonymousreply 18110/30/2012

Research shows that married men masturbate more than single men.

by Anonymousreply 18310/30/2012

I'm 70 and still occasionally "drain the snake" to quote my wife of 43 years. When I want sex with her but she doesn't want to, she suggests that I should "wank off'. When I say " but that would be cheating on you" she replies that it would not be.When she sees me frottaging the mattress she asks me if I'm enjoying it. I sometimes masturbate when I can't get an erection. I pull my testicles up into their pockets and place my limp penis down between legs and squeese thighs together.At the same time I rub the base of the penis and imagine I'm rubbing her clit. I go easy this way. Straight to sleep.What I want to know is " do 85 year old women masturbate?

by Anonymousreply 18411/05/2012

When I was about 18 a friend was saying something about a wet dream. I had never heard of a wet dream and asked what that was. He understood why I didn't know what a wet dream was

by Anonymousreply 18511/05/2012

I found out about jerking off spontaneously when I was about 14 by just playing with my dank and began to do it multiple times a day from that point on. I even jerked off before once when me and my mom went on a holiday together and we slept in the same hotel room (different beds though) LOL. I just did it really quiet but she probably noticed. I think i was like 15. Anyways, I felt like I was jerking off too much. I often got a feeling of guilt after i came, which made me feel ashamed of myself. I dont know why. I think it's because i thought so highly of myself and believed that I should've been fucking the girls I was jerking to, not jerking to them because I'm an attractive guy.

Then I went on a holiday to my homeland of Greece this summer and decided that I wasn't going to jerk it once while I was over there, just as a respect to my homeland. It wasn't hard at all not to. It's been about 3 months since I've gotten back, and I continued my trend of not jerking, nor have I had many temptations to at all. When i first got back I had a girl i was banging every day so i never needed to, but that only lasted about a month and then we stopped hanging out. I havent' fucked since. So no orgasim in like 2 months. I feel better about myself that I dont jerk though. I mostly do it because of respect to my dead ancestors (who are watching me) and because I dont like the bad feeling i get after. I'd rather just have sex.

by Anonymousreply 18611/12/2012

i do mastrubate, sometimes watching porn also. i think i mastrubate 10 times in a month

by Anonymousreply 18711/20/2012

Once, when I had a prostate infection, part of the doctor's instructions was that I needed to "evacuate the prostate on a more regular basis". He wasn't my regular doctor and he was trying to be polite and discreet about his instructions. I knew what he was trying to say but I burst out laughing and embarrassed him. My regular doctor would have been much more direct and would have told me to jerk off more often.

by Anonymousreply 18811/20/2012

I'm a 17 year old guy. I don't masturbate... I quit after I came to Jesus a few years back. it was tough, but i did it.. Im FREE! I don't view girls lustfully either anymore.. they deserve better than to be viewed as a sex toy, and treated accordingly. Plus, on my wedding night, it's going to be that much more awesome!

by Anonymousreply 18911/28/2012

Er... I don't wank and I'm 14. My friends all seem to? I don't really get the point and just see it as sad. Also I know this is an old thread but thought I'd ask

by Anonymousreply 19004/03/2013

My Boyfriend Didn't Masturbate. He Never Even Tried. Until Today. It Was A Mutual Thing. So Not ALL Guys Masturbate. Thats Just Kinda Stereotypical.

by Anonymousreply 19105/24/2013

If I don't masturbate every 15 minutes I get a headache and wet dream, even if I'm awake. You can't imagine how many pair of shorts I go through in a week.

by Anonymousreply 19205/24/2013

**Update** My Boyfriend Didn't Masturbate. He Never Even Tried. We're Both Atheists Of A Short So It's Not Due To Religion Or Culture. We Just Thought Masturbation Was Rather Sad. We Both Never Masturbated Until Today. It Was A Mutual Thing. So Not ALL Guys Masturbate. A Lot Of Them Do, But Not All. It Kinda Bothers Me When People Say ALL Men Masturbate Because There Are The Rare Ones (Like My Boyfriend). Saying ALL Men Masturbate Is Just Kinda Stereotypical.

by Anonymousreply 19305/24/2013

I think your boyfriend lied to you Rosa.

by Anonymousreply 19405/25/2013

I have a weird situation with wet dreams, and would actually appreciate some insightful feedback. I have a wet dream every two months or so, usually when I am very tired. In my waking life, I am 100% gay, but in my wet dreams I am always making love to not just one woman, but always two women. It always starts off with me getting a massage, and ends with one of them either jerking me off, or full sexual activity. A psychologist I saw suggested that perhaps I had suppressed my natural heterosexuality, but I rather doubt it. During my teens I actually did try to become straight. These dreams started before that, so I never thought of myself as gay until I realized that my emotional and physical desires were all about guys. I am now 51 and still have these dreams. I also masturbate about 2-3 times a week, a,ways fantasizing about gay sex.

by Anonymousreply 19505/25/2013

The anthropologist obviously didn't know their language R181.

by Anonymousreply 19605/25/2013

I use a pillow to stimulate actual sex. Does anyone here think that this is weird? I think it feels better and it feels like I am having actual sex.

by Anonymousreply 19706/09/2013

I masturbate about five times a week now, though I can't climax from masturbation. I probably cum once or twice a week from it. Some men have the opposite problem and can only climax during masturbation.

But I can confirm some men just don't jack off. I once went at least four years without masturbating. It is possible to do. Not all men who say they don't masturbate are lying.

by Anonymousreply 19805/13/2014

I remember a Howard Stern interview with Lenny Kravitz. LK claimed that he didn't masturbate because he didn't need to - he always had someone willing to drop what they were doing to come over and have sex with him.

by Anonymousreply 19905/13/2014

This thread is hilarious.

by Anonymousreply 20005/13/2014

R199, Justin Timberlake claimed the same thing in some interview.

The Backstreet Boys, however, admitted to it in Rolling Stone back in 2000:

[quote]And as a team player, far be it from Howie to reveal the name of the groups most frequent masturbator. He'll laugh and giggle about it, but his lips are most definitely sealed.

[quote]"OK, I rub one out every once in a while," Kevin drawls, "but if one of us is a chronic masturbator, it's Nick."

[quote]All the boys are in the hotel, and with Nick Carter thus singled out, all hell breaks loose. When the riot's over, Nick rolls his eyes and says, "Why does it have to be me? You know you all do it just as much as me."

[quote]"Well," says Kevin, "I'll put on the pay-per-view every now and then and check it out."

by Anonymousreply 20105/13/2014

Back in my dorm days, one fantasy I had was the thought that all 510 of us were beating off, likely at east once a day. That is a lot of cum. There was almost zero conversation about it, a little brief joking sometimes. Except for Don. Really hot freshman - he'd simply announce, "Gotta go jizz-off," and go to his room. Once I followed him and, sure enough, he was doing it. He told me he was so hooked that he even did it in the restroom between classes.

He didn't return for a sophomore year.

by Anonymousreply 20205/13/2014

Actually, for a period of a few months, I had completely lost my libido. I did masterbate occasionally, but rarely. During my annual physical with my doctor, I mentioned the fact that I had become uninterested in sex. He said I should have my testosterone tested. The results were astonishing, according to my doc. It was only 47. He said a woman's T-level is usually around 100, a man's level should be at least 300 up to 700. So, I began T-shots and within less than a week, I began to get horny again. This was last October. I've been giving myself a shot every 10 days. Now, I'm so horny, I masturbate twice a day. I'm now 61, so guys if you have a low libido, have your T-level tested. It was absolutely the best thing I've ever done medically. I also have more energy and just feel better overall. Testosterone is a wonderful drug.

by Anonymousreply 20305/13/2014

is it masturbation if you jerk off while getting fucked or taking it out and jerking off to give a facial?

by Anonymousreply 20405/13/2014

A mother walked in on her son while he was masturbating and told him to stop immediately and never do it again or he'd go blind. Her son wanted to know if it was ok to do it just until he needed glasses.

by Anonymousreply 20505/13/2014

Yes R4 I imagine they do. Seeing as asexual is just the new word for socially awkward teen or twenty-something.

by Anonymousreply 20605/13/2014

I have a friend who used to claim he didn't. He is hot and so is his wife, so I thought maybe he didn't "need" to... he recently told me he had just been bullshitting. Last time we talked about it, he said his dick was actually raw from how much he'd been jerking it!

I used to do it at least once a day, but lately I am averaging once a week. I'm really wondering if it's some medication I'm on. I just don't have the desire.

by Anonymousreply 20705/13/2014

Has anyone ever had a wet dream and not remembered it in the morning? That's never happened to me, thank God.

by Anonymousreply 20805/13/2014

I've never had a wet dream. I've never even "creamed my shorts" as they say. Then again, I don't really get precum. What's up with that?

by Anonymousreply 20905/13/2014

R209 They say that vampires never have wet dreams, never "cream" in clothes, and never have precum. You might want to get"it"checked

by Anonymousreply 21005/13/2014

Is it masturbation only if it is solitary? What about group masturbation. Mutual masturbation. Hand jobs.

That it has been condemned as the solitary vice then means the condemnation is that you are not using sex for procreation. Cos masturbation, in all its forms, is sex.

by Anonymousreply 21105/19/2014

I'm a gay male, 33, been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years and I jerk off 2x a day (usually to Gio Benitez and Lance Gross). I feel bad about it but when my bf doest want to give up the ass what choice do I have? Plus I'm a scorpio.

by Anonymousreply 21205/20/2014

Cut guys don't masturbate. That is why circumcision was adopted.

by Anonymousreply 21305/20/2014

When I was younger maybe 13 or 14 I masturbated but as I got older 16 the plumbing wouldn't work any more. Only had wet dreams maybe once or twice. So why bother any more and after spending a few years in Viet Nam the last thing I wanted to do was mess around over there. And I guess with my problem that was a good thing. After the military I did get married and that lasted maybe 2 months and the wife wanted a real man not a dick less wonder. I'm 70 now and in all these years I've had no desire for any woman or sex. I was happy with my life even though it was boring and I had no real friends and still don't.I don't really know how to make friends.

by Anonymousreply 21406/17/2014

Mathematically, it's a given that there are men that don't masturbate. The shear number of men allows for just about any imaginable man doing anything imaginable.

by Anonymousreply 21506/17/2014

I don't. Rarely do I masturbate any more. It's the HIV drugs. They make the dick limp among other toxic effects. I can look at porn, real nasty porn, in fact, and not get a hard-on. It all looks the same to me. Dick gets sucked, then it goes in bung hole and then the face is spermed. Same routine. Don't even feel the need to masturbate anymore. The men on "The Bachelor" give it a twitch, but then the bitch ruins the hitch.

I'd rather watch The Food Network and learn how to make Quiche instead.

by Anonymousreply 21606/17/2014

I didn't masturbate for about 2 months and started to have wet dreams again. One wet dream was so fucking painful, like to the point of cramping my ejaculation muscles, that I had to start masturbating again to avoid a repeat. It's weird to have a repeat of early teen years by waking up and having your undies glued to your body from all the cum.

by Anonymousreply 21801/09/2015

I'm a guy, i'm 16. I have never masturbated before. I have no urge to. It scares me.

by Anonymousreply 21905/17/2015

So nobody here actually has a concrete scientific proof whether masturbation affects growth in puberty?

by Anonymousreply 22006/08/2015

Urologists say you should masturbate at lest once a day. Doctor's orders.

by Anonymousreply 22106/08/2015

I had a friend who was in a seminary for a few years, and he claimed he never masturbated once in his life. I tend to believe him, because one night when we were out, he danced with a hot girl and then abruptly excused himself to her. When I saw that, I asked him what was wrong? Looks like she's into you, and all that. He was embarrassed and said he came in his pants as soon as she touched him. Sounds like he was a repressed horndog to me. And he was sort of cute. Looked a little bit like SF Giants player Buster Posey.

by Anonymousreply 22206/08/2015
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