I don''t believe it. I don''t think there is one ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD as long as all the parts work.%0D
Excuse me, but I''ve always wondered about this. As a woman, I have no clue. And as a lesbian, I''m even more clueless about it. So excuse my ignorance. But isn''t there "build up" when a guy doesn''t masturbate for long enough. Isn''t that what wet dreams are; when a guy doesn''t release it just happens involuntarily.
R1, yes, that is true. There is a build-up of horniness, but it varies in frequency and degree. The build-up can be hours, days or weeks, depending on what is going on in one''s life and the person.%0D\
Adults don''t have wet dreams, that I know of. Generally, they happen in the early teen years. Once a kid discovers masturbation (and most figure it out very quickly), they do it very often, sometimes several times a day.%0D\
I never had a wet dream.%0D\
I agree with R1, all men masturbate. How often depends on the person.
[quote]Adults don''t have wet dreams, that I know of.\
I''d have to disagree there.
I feel like there MUST be some guys in the whole wide world who don''t masturbate.\
I wonder, do asexual men jerk off?
Sorry, R2. But that''s not the case.
I''ve always wondered: *what do celibate priests do?*
I''m 38 and still have wet dreams. It doesn''t happen that often anymore and like when I was a teen, I usually wake up just before the money shot. But they definitely still happen!
There''s the old saying: Kinsey determined that 99% of American men are masturbators and the other 1% are liars.
There''s no such animal, R6. %0D\
I''m quite sure the Nazi is beating off furiously in the Vatican. %0D\
Even his predecessor whipped himself to get off.
I know one man who said he doesn''t masturbate because of his religion. Granted, he said this probably a decade ago and he no longer holds the same religious views so I don''t know about now. I know another man who says he masturbates but doesn''t ejaculate. Again, religious reasons.
BTW...I''m also a horny little fellow too. Every time I think all gay men are horny all the time, my friends tell me, not as much as I am. Maybe that''s why I still have wet dreams.\
I''ve heard that priests are told not to masturbate of course and that the occasional "nocturnal emission" is all they are "allowed".
I''m 26 and I still have wet dreams but only if I haven''t cum in a few days.\
Since I''ve discovered the joys of masturbation at 14, the longest I''ve ever gone without cumming is a week. \
There was a point when I thought I was jerking off too much so I decided to refrain for as long as I could stand it. It only took a week for me to have a wet dream.
Okay so I''m a woman but I have an opinion!%0D\
My gf informs that if a man doesn''t jerk off etc., then the sperm his body produces is just absorbed back into his body. This explains why Sir Cliff Richard''s eyes bulge.%0D\
When I was about 15, a daily masturbator since discovering the thrill 2 years earlier and wracked with Catholic guilt over my undeniably homoerotic masturbation fantasies, I gave up masturbating in an attempt to avoid hell (I was pretty brainwashed at that point).\
I lasted a week. I figured hell was worth it. (I don''t believe that BS anymore of course)\
I don''t buy it either, OP. It''s still the easiest (and sometimes the best) way to get off. I can''t imagine denying myself that pleasure. Any man who does is an idiot.
A friend of mine who went to a seminary said that in one of his classes there was was a very frank discussion about masturbation. I don''t remember everything he said, but the jizz of it was that the professor (who was also a priest) said that it was ok and that he did it.%0D\
Celibacy is abstaining from marriage or fucking only.
[quote]the jizz of it\
R14, I was raised conservative Catholic as well (even considered the priesthood at one point!). I actually gave up whacking for lent one year! Let me tell you, that last hour before 12:00 a.m. on Eastern morning (for all you heathens, that''s when Lent ends and you can go back to enjoying whatever it is you gave up) was insanely tough. Once the clock read 12:00 a.m. on Easter, I spanked 3 times within 40 minutes. I''m not making this shit up.
You''d be surprised. I''m alone and just don''t get horny anymore and only masturbate if I''m feeling extraordinarily stressed to help me relax. It''s a very, very rare occurance. And I was hyper-sexual from 12 ''til I guess around my mid thirties. It''s not worth the bother or the mess or the cleanup. I''ve wondered if there''s something "wrong" with me, but I''m not interested in taking any medication since the only person involved is myself.
People change r18. If it doesn''t bother you or affect your life negatively then there''s no problem there.\
If it were me (at 47) I''d explode.
had a friend who was very active sexually... men and women... but would not masturbate himself. sex was okay within his moral code, but self-abuse was not.%0D\
I had a friend in CA who used to swear up and down he didn''t masturbate. I''d grill him about it because I was fascinated and just couldn''t fathom he was telling the truth...but at the same time I couldn''t understand why he''d be so adamant about lying either. His response was that it''s "disgusting." \
Also, I''ve never in my life had a wet dream...I''ve always wondered why that is. And I''ve had periods in my life where I''ve lost my sex drive and haven''t jacked off for a month at a time (isn''t depression great?) so you''d think during that period I would have had one or two. Nope.
I''m 35 and if I go any longer than 24 hours without cumming I feel very anxious and I can''t concentrate on anything because all I can think of is cumming. I don''t know how any man could abstain for as long as a week! I would be in a straightjacket by then.
I have a Human Sexuality textbook from college that claims gay men report masturbating more often than straight men. I can''t figure out why the hell that would be...does anyone know? It seems like all men would be equally horny.
I''m a woman and I have "wet dreams." I actually wake up having an orgasm. I think it''s rare for women. As for masturbating, I do it but not often. Maybe once a month. It''s more when I''m having sex regularly. Guess I just think about it more.\
I think every man does it. My single since 1975, religious Aunt said that "god takes care of her urges." I doubt she''s ever masturbated in her life.
For anyone else who wants to contribute and comments on wet dreams, maybe it would be a good idea to specify whether you actually cum as a result of a wet dream or not. As I mentioned, I still get wet dreams every once in a while but I can only remember one time, when I was like 12 or 13, when I actually came as a result. \
I''ve heard some guys say that they''ve "never" had a wet dream because they did not actually reach climax. But they have sexual dreams all the time.
Some women don''t masturbate because they can''t find the clitoris. It''s very possible some men cannot find their penis.
I rarely whack off. Usually just save it until I have sex with someone (usually only on the weekend). I do think about it ALL the time, though, and might concentrate better if I did spill a load every morning.
I LOVE wet dreams, I usually only have them if I havent masturbated in more than five or six days, which only happens a couple times a year. I feel sooo good after a wet dream, I think the hands free orgasm is really powerful. \
During a period of depression I didn''t masturbate for about three weeks which is the longest Ive gone in my adult life.
[quote]I''ve heard some guys say that they''ve "never" had a wet dream because they did not actually reach climax. %0D\
Isn''t that what makes it...wet?
[quote]As I mentioned, I still get wet dreams every once in a while but I can only remember one time, when I was like 12 or 13, when I actually came as a result. \
Then you''ve only had ONE wet dream. The rest were just sex dreams. It''s called a WET dream for a reason.
r30 sounds like he needs a wet dream. A really wet one.
"a build-up of horniness"\
Would the above be the scientific term for it?
[quote]As I mentioned, I still get wet dreams every once in a while but I can only remember one time, when I was like 12 or 13, when I actually came as a result.\
Queen, do you even know what a wet dream IS??\
HINT: you''ve only ever had one, when you were "like 12 or 13".\
Didn''t you ever wonder why they''re called "wet"?
Here in my fifties I still have occasional wet dreams. Not often. I had an erotic dream last night, but it wasn''t a wet one.\
Long ago I had a housemate who claimed he didn''t masturbate. His crusty cum rags in the laundry whispered to me that he lied.
Straight woman here, and my partner does not. I didn''t believe it possible either, but he just doesn''t. Maybe he did when he couldn''t, or wasn''t getting any... but he won''t admit it if so. I don''t get it.\
Believe me, I wish he would. Our libidos are very mis-matched.
Men who don''t masturbate obviously aren''t on the Internet. I mean, how can you resist?
38 and still have the occasional wet one, esp if I haven''t jerked for a while. They''re usually weird and half unpleasant. Of the hundreds I must have had in my life, probably about 5 were actually hot and enjoyable. The rest were icky and awkward. Two nights ago I dreamed was blowing myself for an audience. Waking up wet is also annoying on cold nights (that jizz doesn''t stay warm for long).\
I''ve known people whose masturbation frequency died off almost completely on some medications. Me, I''m still once or twice a week.
45 yo lesbian - I''ve had a few orgasmic dreams. It is amazing to wake up while having an orgasm.%0D\
Two of my female friends say they don''t masturbate and never have. One told me she has never had an orgasm in her life - she has two kids and is married.
45 and never had a wet dream. Of course I jerk off at least once a day so maybe that is why. Still, I always wondered what the experience would be like. I remember some film in sex ed in 8th grade talking about "nocturnal emissions" and hoping that it would happen to me some night. %0D\
I actually don''t know if my partner masturbates but suspect he does given the rate at which we go through bedside tissues.
Has anyone every masturbated while ice skating or ice fishing? Is ice sexy?
R39. Well, you pretty much wouldn''t have a wet dream after about 17-18 years old, so the fact that you''re 45 is somewhat irrelevant. However, you never? Aren''t wet dreams--even at least one sometime during adolescence--part of the biological process?
Wet dreams--always awkward waking up as a teen then figuring out how to hide your sheets and cum stains from your mother before she does the laundry.
"Well, you pretty much wouldn''t have a wet dream after about 17-18 years old..."\
Uh, I''ve had two wet dreams within the past year, and I''m 28. It''s not common after adolescence, but it does very occasionally happen to most male adults, R41.
I masturbate enough for all those that don''t masturbate enough. Three to five times a day on average.%0D\
[quote]I have a Human Sexuality textbook from college that claims gay men report masturbating more often than straight men. I can''t figure out why the hell that would be...does anyone know? It seems like all men would be equally horny.%0D\
Studies have shown that gay men are gay because of an excess of testosterone. That would also explain the additional horniness and need to masturbate.
Duh, gay men get off on men, and they are one. They like touching cock a hell of a lot more than straight men, AND they get to see more naked men than straight men get to see naked women.%0D
R45 Gay men have an excess of testosterone?? You could have fooled me!
Men who eat soy are men who don''t masturbate because their estrogen levels are too high.
"Two of my female friends say they don''t masturbate and never have. One told me she has never had an orgasm in her life - she has two kids and is married."%0D\
A significant number of straight women are "orgasm virgins" - even ones who''ve had plenty of sex. %0D\
"Men who eat soy are men who don''t masturbate because their estrogen levels are too high"%0D\
Oh, please, the article was about the dangers of eating TOO MUCH soy, just eating soy in general won''t make you stop masturbating. You people are morons. Men in Eastern countries eat soy, and I''m sure they masturbate!
Guys who havent unloaded in a while have something special in their cum...
"Studies have shown that gay men are gay because of an excess of testosterone"\
Who took mine?
Miss Sissy Britches
I went a few weeks to test myself to see how long I could last. Well, after the third week I masturbated. I shot the biggest load of my life. And, it felt SOO good.
LAWD have mercy!
I haven''t masturbated in months, but then again I get laid a LOT.%0D\
The question is kind of absurd. EVERY man has masturbated at least once...but some men really don''t masturbate all that much due to depression, sex addiction, or other illness. Some don''t even need to.
Now would be the time to post that video of the guy without arms masturbating.
Shit, I masturbate because of depression, not in spite of it.%0D\
R55, my understanding is that even men who get laid a lot still masturbate quite a bit.%0D\
More common to masturbate than not among those getting laid a lot.
That''s not my understanding R58. I get laid a lot, and don''t bother with masturbation.
I had a friend (among a large gay circle) who claimed he never masturbated because he "never needed to". He got laid so much. Loudly proclaimed this any time the topic came up even tangentally. ALWAYS had to make the point that he "never needed to". Because he got laid so much.\
It took a while but we eventually realized this guy was an enormous liar. Pretty much everything that came out of his mouth was a lie. \
I''ve had some pretty sexually active periods in my past but I still jerked off regularly.
I jerk off when I know I''ll be having sex, just so I''ll last longer.
Men who don''t masturbate or have some sort of regular ejaculatory release are highly prone to end up with prostate cancer. It''s a known medical fact.
I agree with R49 - my gf had never had an orgasm until me (she was str8 previously and thought she was sexually experienced; her first genuine orgasm was really beautiful to see and she cried).%0D\
I did that a few times, R24, but I was in my 20''s. I''m now a lot older and it has never happened again.
I''m a woman and I have "wet dreams." I actually wake up having an orgasm.\
Me, too. It''s sooo pleasurable to wake up to/with an orgasm!
[quote]Wet dreams--always awkward waking up as a teen then figuring out how to hide your sheets and cum stains from your mother before she does the laundry.\
When I was a kid, my older brothers and I [a girl] used to spend half the summer staying with our Granny.\
I can still remember one incident where Granny was giving my then-13 year old brother shit for "wetting the bed", while our then-16-y.o. brother just laughed his ass off.\
Of course, I didn''t get it at the time, but I''m pretty damn sure he wasn''t actually peeing the bed.
please don''t ask me to describe their cocks, i wouldn''t even if i could!
If you don''t use it, you lose it.
[italic]Studies have shown that gay men are gay because of an excess of testosterone. That would also explain the additional horniness and need to masturbate.[/italic]\
Link to bullshit "studies".
I get laid a lot and then masturbate thinking about the hot time I just had.
I don''t masturbate because it is a sin. I have before, but realized it wrong and have not for over a year now. It''s a sin to lust.
Love R66''s signature. (Because I''m sure some horny mf-er on here was thinking to ask her)
Can we have a thread about Men Who Don''t Defecate?
A much bigger sin to lie R70.
If R70 is telling the truth he''s most likely murders children for sexual release.
"It is amazing to wake up while having an orgasm."%0D\
Unless it''s your sex partner who''s waking you up! ha! That would be insulting to them, I''m sure.%0D\
I have a married male friend who is about 45. He swore to a group of us recently that he NEVER masturbates. I had no trouble believing it because he is married to a hot wife and they have three kids. We know he''s hung and in great shape, so why would he. EXCEPT, I later found out that they haven''t had sex regularly for about a year or two and it''s down to like once every 3 or 4 months! How could he not jerk off... he was used to getting it regularly (and back in the day, not just from his wife.)%0D\
I don''t know about most guys, but I would think that for many, a guy''s penis is his very best friend, always there for a good time whenever he''s in the mood. The world''s greatest toy, actually! It''s there. Play with it!
[quote]Unless it''s your sex partner who''s waking you up! ha! That would be insulting to them, I''m sure%0D\
Uh, what? So is your partner insulted every time you whack off, R75? What a moronic statement.%0D\
[quote]I later found out that they haven''t had sex regularly for about a year or two and it''s down to like once every 3 or 4 months!%0D\
Creepy gossip. Why are you familiar with the intimate details of a married couple''s sex life? Get one of your own.
[quote] I had no trouble believing it because he is married to a hot wife and they have three kids. We know he''s hung and in great shape, so why would he.\
What does being "hung and in great shape" have to do with not masturbating? Or having a "hot wife" or however many kids?\
Do people really believe "masturbation = homely, sexually repulsive/defective freak"? Do you honestly assume that a good-looking man with a wife and kids automatically equates to sexuality that is exclusively expressed only with his wife or select female extramarital experiences?\
Really? In 2011? On a gay website?
And another thing, r75: how do you know he''s hung? You said "We know he''s hung", who is "we"? And how do you know so much about his sex life?
I''ve heard from some straight males that they keep their masturbation from their wives, and from a few who were discovered, that their wives were resentful and looked upon it as a form of cheating.
I think R75 is the same 12 year old that''s posting pro Bush babble in the Ground Zero threads.
An old friend of mine who is married to a very pretty gal (they have 2 kids) told me once that he and his wife have sex at least 3 times a week and he still masturbates 3-4 times a week. He said "I love it (masturbation), and there are times I can get myself off much better than even my wife can".
In India we do not do that nasty thing. We, I repeat, DO NOT do that nasty, nasty thing. Please do not lump us together with the dirty white man.
I think that''s what it comes down to--some of us are just way more horny than the average guy and need to do it more frequently. And no, that doesn''t mean we''re not still getting our fair share of fucking. We just love that feeling of cumming so much!
What ticked you off about r75''s post r80? I know too much about the sex lives of some of my friends, gay and straight, because they tell me - it isn''t creepy or unusual. I don''t get the Bush comment either.
I''m masterbating as I type this...
"I've heard from some straight males that they keep their masturbation from their wives, and from a few who were discovered, that their wives were resentful and looked upon it as a form of cheating."
I recall reading a Dear Abby or Ann Landers column (I know, I know) back in the 90s, I think, where an older widow was going through her husband's things after he died, and discovered condoms, among other things. The old lady wrote something to the effect, "What could that mean? Was he cheating on me? We hadn't had sex in years. We were beyond that at this point in our lives, and after a certain age, I refused to engage int that behavior." She made sex seem like a necessity that they were now over with and could enjoy their golden years.
Well, the response was that he engaged in normal, healthy masturbation. The widow was then chastised for her attitude toward sex and was told that her refusal to have sex likely made her husband's life less fulfilling and their marriage less than complete. Good for you, Dear Abby/Ann Landers!
R49, that''s because intercourse does not stimulate the clitoris! Imagine if men were expected to cum w/o stimulation of the penis.
I didn''t start masturbating until 19. I tried at 10 but as the foreskin pulled back I thought my dick was being skinned. So yeah it''s entirely possible.
R75 belatedly returning here. Um, R76, you need to seek therapy for anger management. In the first place, my comment about waking up during an orgasm was a JOKE. In other words, if you're having sex with a partner and fall asleep during it and have to be woken up around climax time, it's an insult to the person you're with. That's all. A joke, even if it was lousy.%0D
I think it's funny, too, that anyone would question my remarks about him being hung and in great shape and so why would he feel the need to masturbate. This site (and the world of cyber, etc... and probably the world at large) is rife with people who worship "cut" abs, long, thick penises and otherwise "hot" guys. So they, in turn, often have no trouble finding sex whenever and wherever they want to. They are the ones being chased and if they wish to be caught, then they can be, easily. That's all I meant. If he wanted to add jacking off to it, then that's fine. He told me he just never needed to or wanted to when there was always someone to have actual person-to-person sex with. %0D
Hard as it may be to believe, sometimes friends do delve into these personal things with each other. Christ, there are people that do it on (inter)national TV! Why does it bother you that it's been talked about between us? Like I said.... anger management, and a class on acceptance of others wouldn't hurt.%0D
R80, I have no comment because I don't even know what you're referring to and it sounds like you are a conspiracy theorist when it comes to DL posters. Switch to decaf.
LOL, look at miss thang @ R89 lecturing and handing out assignments in her best teacherly voice.
R49 & R63 - my girlfriend has fairly regular wet dreams; more so, of course, if we''ve been apart. She also has regular erotic dreams. I''m a little jealous, honestly. I''m not sure, but I think I masturbate more than she does.\
She was orgasm-less in relationships before we got together. She''d slept with a handful of guys and one other girls, no dice. First time we slept together, boom.
''Seinfeld'' dealt with this gripping topic. The guys competed to see who could stay ''Master Of My Domain'' for the longest. As I recall Kramer burst in after a laughably short time to admit his lack of mastery.
[quote]I''ve heard from some straight males that they keep their masturbation from their wives, and from a few who were discovered, that their wives were resentful and looked upon it as a form of cheating.\
This is common among fundie fraus. No porn, no masturbation.\
I''ve known women who claimed not to masturbate. I tend to believe women who claim that over men who do.
R90, I wish I''d have had teachers like you to seem to have had; ones who use "Christ" at the beginning of some of their sentences!%0D\
R93, you are quite right. Also, men sometimes can''t help getting hard if something strikes them. You can''t tell me that the sensation wouldn''t eventually lead to some rubbing out...
I don''t. My wife and I have sex at least 3 times a week, why would I need to do it? Of course there are men out there who don''t...men who are satisfied with other areas of their sex life.
[quote]Also, men sometimes can''t help getting hard if something strikes them. %0D\
Like a beanbag or something?
I don''t do it because it''s a sin. I have done it before, but try not to because I do not want to do anything that offends God. Christians should refrain from all sin, including sins of the flesh and all manner of lust and unclean behavior. Non-Christians don''t have the same sensitivity and awareness of avoiding sin, so we should not use them as the standard of our behavior.
I don''t think there is any biological difference between straight men and gay men as far was wankin'' it. There are two big differences as far as how we''re socialized, though:\
1) Many straight guys have a huge issue with maintaining their "macho" image, and--to many of them, I think--masturbation is not just a quick way to get sexual relief. It is like admitting they can''t get laid. I don''t know many gay men who give a shit. We''re guys who like guys, and we all know eachother masturbates.\
2) Straight women are mysteries to me sexually, but it seems they''re not as horny and sexual as men. They thus have a difficult time with the idea of their boyfriends or husbands needing to whack it. "Why does he need to do that if I am here for him? "Why does he need to look at porn when he has me?" As another poster said, many women see such acts as cheating. Again, gay men don''t care.\
Just my two cents.
Also, to all you calling masturbation "nasty" and a "sin." \
I hope to baby Jesus these are ironic troll posts.\
I have a theory that most violent behavior, rapists, arson, serial killers, and child molesters can all be linked to this kind of prudery about normal healthy sex and masturbation...
98 here again. I meant to say those are the reason way more straight guys LIE about not doing it.\
I don''t believe for a second that they do it any less than we do. Probably more, considering how much easier it is for us to get laid.
r99, no, I am not kidding. I am a Christian who takes my faith so seriously I actually don''t want to sin. That''s is or should be the only choice for any Christian. For non-Christians, it''s not an issue though.
Not true, r87. Many women come easily from properly performed intercourse. The ones who can''t are either with crappy lays, poorly physically constructed or emotionally damaged.
I didn''t think gay men masturbated. \
I thought they palmed it off on some other guy.
R101=big liar, about the deed and the faith.%0D
R101, no one here believes you.\
You whack off and you know it.\
Now take your sanctimonious, hypocritical, lying ass to some Repug KKKristian site where you belong.
Two of my co-workers say they never masturbate. I don''t believe them. Even my boss who is a lot older says he whacks off daily so there''s no way these two young healthy guys don''t do it. Why do people lie?\
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R102, that''s not true at all and you know it.
Do intersexed people fuck themselves? I would. All day, every day.
[quote]I am a Christian who takes my faith so seriously I actually don''t want to sin. That''s is or should be the only choice for any Christian.\
Why are you on Datalounge? Isn''t trolling a porn-filled gay website a sin in your church''s eyes? What church do you belong to?
For Chrissake, EVERYONE masturbates, men and women alike.%0D\
Only some women still feel guilty about it and lie.%0D\
Besides, women can masturbate without touching their genitals, by rocking their body for example, so they don''t admit they are masturbating but they damn are!
Who talks to their work colleagues about their masturbation techniques? Does no one have boundaries anymore?
I haven''t masturbated since Saturday nor do I really feel like it.
I think something is wrong
Their is guys that don't masturbate, I know because I'm one of them. Im not going to get into my life story, but everything thats happen to me led me this way. If I die from prostate cancer or anything relating that I don't deprive of these fluids, then so be it, I have my morals! Its not religious morals, nor that I don't do it because I think Im better then everyone else. In simple words, people act like I shouldn't be saved. Also, I get a wet dream at least once every 6 weeks and I'm 24 years old.
You should funnel all that energy into furthing your education, Mr. Their is.
I don't masturbate more than once a month.
But, I get laid a lot, so I don't need to.
Alex Trebek: Men Who Don't Masturbate
Contestant: What are Pathological Liars?
People with gender identity disorder often do not masturbate because they do not identify with and therefore hate the genitals they were born with. THREAD CLOSED.
I'm in a long distance monogamous relationship. I rarely masturbate as I prefer to save up all the sexual energy for when we're together and I enjoy sex even more for doing this.
I also find I have more energy most days.
"o, I am not kidding. I am a Christian who takes my faith so seriously I actually don't want to sin"
Well, guess what? You're going to hell. Seriously.
I'm 24 yrs old and I have never masturbated, I don't like any form of self pleasure or anything that has to consist of hand pleasure, I don't finger women nor do I let them give me a hand job...so am I weird?
[quote]I know one man who said he doesn't masturbate because of his religion. Granted, he said this probably a decade ago and he no longer holds the same religious views so I don't know about now. I know another man who says he masturbates but doesn't ejaculate. Again, religious reasons.
OMG, we might know the same two men because I know two men with the EXACT same habits and opinions on masturbation. The first one has changed his religious views and I don't know how he feels about it now. The second one told me that he hadn't had sex in about five years and that he preferred porn and masturbation. Months later (maybe even a year or two) when discussing it he said he doesn't ejaculate, he just plays with it. Weird.
I don't masturbate, but I don't have any objection against it. I would if I had the need.
I'm married to a sex addict and have sex at a much higher rate than my own drive calls for.
For those wondering. Straight men whack off as often as gay men and although they don't go around talking about it in detail, they do refer each other to porn sites or joke about it. It's no secret, every straight man knows every other straight man is doing it. Their wives & girlfriends know too. They don't care unless the boyfriend has his hands down his own pants more often than he has his hands down hers. And the girls do it too. Although they never discuss it. Never.
Let's talk about men that we think do not masturbate.
Mayor Cory Booker of Newark Jersey doesn't look like he ever beats off.
Sounds like a $25,000 Pyramid clue where the contestant throws out names...
"Rick Santorum...Dead guys...guys who lie...guys without arms...castratos...guys wearing chastity belts...guys in comas...guys without penises"
You can't say "guys" (synonym of "men")
"Dead ones, Liars, The armless, Coma sufferers, Chastity Belt Wearers, The Penis-less...
It worries me that you actually know the rules to the show vs. the general gist of things.
It worries me a lot.
Hint: If you don't use your hand but hump the mattress, that is still masturbation.
r128, are you actually sitting there worrying "a lot" over some anonymous lousy post by someone you don't know or care for? Or is that just another erratic expression that we should just "get the general gist of?"
ANONYMOUS, get the gist?
R88 is the one who scares me. Margaret White may not be a fictional mother.
[quote] EVERY man has masturbated at least once...but some men really don't masturbate all that much due to depression, sex addiction, or other illness.
[quote] People with gender identity disorder often do not masturbate because they do not identify with and therefore hate the genitals they were born with
FTM here who says you're full of shit
"'Seinfeld' dealt with this gripping topic. The guys competed to see who could stay 'Master Of My Domain' for the longest. As I recall Kramer burst in after a laughably short time to admit his lack of mastery."
In case you just arrived from Mars or grew up in an Amish household...
A fairly recent study I read found married men masturbate more than single men.
R79, my partner regards my masturbating as cheating, too.
Why masturbate when my boyfriend can do it for me?
Here in africa people don't masturbate because they think it makes you blind or you catch diseases by doing it..i know it sounds crazy but its very true.its ilke a taboo ..infact they think its safe to just have sex.
I am not making this shit up..I remember asking some folks here if they jerked off and they looked at me with disgust .
Is it masturbating when I use my partner's hand?
Is it masturbating when I use my partner's mouth?
R140, is he a heavy sleeper?
In college, one of my best friends told me he never jerked off in high school because he had never heard about it (masturbating). It wasn't until he heard guys in college talking about it that he tried it. I thought he was yanking my chain (no pun intended) but twenty years later he still says this was true.
I'm a male who masturbated 2 or 3 times a week from ages 16 to 30. Sometimes I looked at porn, other times I just used my imagination. When I turned 22, I also started going to red light districts whenever I had the money, because girls would not have sex with me for free. Until I was 30, I felt weaker, dumber, and less capable than other guys. They all seemed so strong and fierce and capable.
I was physically small and thin, with bad posture, and had never played sports. If you put me in a random group of 50 guys, I would be the weakest. I was constantly bullied at my job and on the street by strangers. I was yelled at, shoved, laughed at, called names (bitch, retard, weakling), menaced, sexually harassed, etc. I was bullied out of two jobs. It was a living hell.
In my late 20s I had stumbled on a website that advocates complete celibacy for men. When I turned 30 I decided to become celibate; I was so wretched that I was willing to give up sex if I could become strong enough to protect myself. I quit masturbating, looking at porn, and visiting prostitutes. I also quit smoking. Then I started weight training, hardcore. I had lifted on and off before this, but never made any progress beyond beginner gains.
I'm now 37 and have been lifting since that day of resolution. I'm usually one of the strongest guys at the gym. I gained 13kg (muscle and some fat). I never took steroids or even prohormones. I'm in the best shape of my life and I look younger than I did ten years ago, younger but at the same time more manly. When I don't wear my glasses, I get looks from girls in their 20s.
Also, I'm not afraid of conflict anymore. Even if someone is bigger and stronger than I am, I can look them in the eye and stand up to them. Why? Because I have more self control than he does; he probably masturbated or fucked his wife or girlfriend a few days ago. I'd rather be beaten up, shot, stabbed, maimed, or killed than live on my knees as a coward like I did in my youth.
In my 6th year of celibacy I stumbled a bit, and had sex with several girls I met from chat. On the mornings after I had sex, I would feel this awful emptiness in my lower belly, as if my energy had been drained. My mind would feel sluggish and dull, and I'd only be able to lift 70 or 80% of what I'd previously been lifting. It took me about two weeks to recover from each sexual escapade. I only masturbated twice in those six years because some girls from chat asked me to. I never felt the urge to masturbate on my own, in fact, the idea of doing it is contemptible to me. I only had 2 or 3 wet dreams a year.
I've decided to resume my vow of celibacy for the rest of my life. The brutal rejections I underwent in my youth have made me wary of conventional relationships. I believe any improvement in my life has been entirely due to saving my sexual energy and using it for constructive purposes. I will continue my weight training and also take up judo, mma, or brazilian jiujitsu, and hopefully get a black belt in five years. I will also impose additional disciplines and austerities on myself that are just as strict as celibacy. I feel like my life is beginning.
Dude, good on you mate, However, I think you should get married nothing like a blissful marriage, use sexual energy in a guilt free way.
There was a period where I didn't masturbate for around 3 months straight and those three months were the best months of my life.
I only masturbate around 3-4 times a month and thats only when I cave in to desire. I feel it makes me weak.
My belief in God keeps me going strong, but believe me, you will never feel true bliss when you are in the shackles and grip of your own sexual urges.
Learn to control, read Holy books. They work wonders :D
P.S I believe there are plenty of men out there that don't Masturbate. You need to talk to people from different cultures backgrounds and people with different beliefs from you.
Why is it the fundie freaks can't express even a simple thought using proper grammar? Did they give up an education in addition to giving up masturbation?
Why are so many weird hets here today?
You 'mos may have to do that nasty ass shit, but my man don't have to 'cause my sweet pussy is satisfying
So God sends people to hell for masturbating, but is fine with reading and posting on Datalounge? Good to know.
Beleive it or not.. I wouldn't post this If I was lying cause I'm researching at the moment why.. But I've never completed a masterbation in my life.. I'm 19 now and I cannot masterbate I will not cum.. Ever. It just won't happen no MATTER how long I go.. It sucks. It makes sex pathetic cause with sex I cum in 5 seconds.
I think a lot of women lie about it, the same way they pretend they never fart..
For guys it's not so taboo but more about wanting to appear like Casanovas getting laid all the time.
>> ok I get it that younger guys can't really go more than a week with out spanking it but What about women? -Is 19 and hasn't had sex or done self sevice in 3 years-
I cant go for more than a week. I masturbate almost every day and I'm only 16... wish I could get another guy to do it for me haha ;P
I rarely masterbate because I find when i dont I have a dramatic increase in drive and motivation for life. The longer I go without it the stronger this drive gets, when i jerk it tends to die down for a few days, and comes back again after about day 2-3. I read that its suppose to increase testosterone but for me it seems to do the opposite although I would love to know if this is true or not
i don't masturbate anymore because i have a fear that one arm would be bigger than the other if i doit every day lol
R143, not very good as a creative writing exercise. Just not believable.
R154 it does increase testosterone and it keeps you from getting prostate and other health problems.
It is all in your imagination.
My new boyfriend says he never masturbates because it doesn't "work" by himself:) I'm amazed...and he doesn't think anything is strange about this.
I heard that Matthew McConaughey has a hard time masturbating because his arms are too short
[quote]Here in africa people don't masturbate because they think it makes you blind or you catch diseases by doing it..i know it sounds crazy but its very true.
No, it doesn't sound crazy, it just sounds like Africa.
When I got married my wife asked me to stop masturbating. I stopped and do not miss it at all.
Start a thread about Gross flatmates who need to masturbate instead of having sex with different men each day
I don't have wet dreams but if I hold off on masturbation and let the mind wander when I finally do masturbate I shoot like a rocket. Best masturbation technique I can give let the sexual tension rise then masturbate you will get a better endorphin kick and it will calm you right down.
I hate to cum, it leaves me feeling like I've been run over by a truck.
R165 see a doctor.
I am a 14 year old boy who masturbates every night and I have not had a wet dream in a while, pretty much since I started masturbating... but I really want to have one (you know, I'm a horny teen) so WTF do I do???!!!!!
I know of two close friends in the 50's (eldergays?) who do not masturbate at all anymore.
With age comes less desire and urges begin to wane.
I'm also in my 50's and maybe masturbate once a month, but sometimes not for months. All my parts are in working order, but just no desire.
Death to all the heterosexuals on this thread. We could care less about your fat wives.
I've lost interest and don't masturbate as often. The last time I did it was because I was having trouble sleeping and when I was cumming, instead of squirting, my dick seamed to cough.
I had my first wet dream when i was 45 amd had several more after that
Waking up just at the point of no return
I do knock one out whenever i can and dont think it had been a particularly long time since i had i think it just happens but to start at 45 years old.
hi im celebate im 44 am a christmas i follow the ten commandments,i have been with a lot of women in the past but since god came into my life,i havnt slept around .havnt had sex for 3 years my choice and do not want to have a sexual relation until im married .with the right person .i do masterbate a lot if i dont i get frustrated no one has had the answers ive been looking for.was told that if you mastabate with out naughty thoughts thats not a sin .only trouble is thinks its impossible to mastabate with out fantasising otherwise whats the point.just like an answer.
[quote]im 44 am a christmas
That's a coincidence! I'm a Halloween!
These posts turn me on lol
I might have to go rub myself ;)
hi i know a person who is a mentally retarded....
I don think so he knows to masturbate..
So will it affect him ??
I'm kind of surprised by the seminarian whose instructor said he masturbated and that it was OK. I thought Onanism was strictly forbidden by the church and is the basis for its birth control prohibitions. Remember spilling and wasting is bad because it won't lead to the miracle of life.
Well they say that, and it used to bother me, R176. However, it's not like there is a limited amount of it in the body, or that the body can produce only a limited amount. That makes the idea that spilling or wasting is a sin rather nonsensical.
All that stale gunk stored in your prostate will lead to cancer. Empty your prostate at least twice a week.
I am a 19 year old male who doesn't Jack off. I try once in a great while just to say iv'e tried. The truth is i don't get no pleasure from it, so no cum shot, no orgasm for me, and i'm a atheist. It took me till i was around 20 to truly figure out i was different. I don't know whats wrong with me, never been to a doctor about it. I also have no sex drive, i'm a hetero romantic asexual.
ALL men do it. Even the happily married ones.
There are some cultures where the males don't (or at least didn't) do it. Usually in ones that are much more sexually free. As in, they start "testing out" sexual partners as soon as puberty hits, and the parents approve. So they get unlimited access to the real thing from like, age 13.
I read one article where an anthropologist tried to discuss it with the men of a culture, and they laughed and thought it was a joke. When asked to produce sperm samples (forget why they were asked to do this), they were given instructions on how to masturbate. And the majority of the resulting samples came back with vaginal secretions in them, because they still couldn't understand why someone would get themselves off.
I get it regularly so I don't have to
Research shows that married men masturbate more than single men.
I'm 70 and still occasionally "drain the snake" to quote my wife of 43 years. When I want sex with her but she doesn't want to, she suggests that I should "wank off'. When I say " but that would be cheating on you" she replies that it would not be.When she sees me frottaging the mattress she asks me if I'm enjoying it.
I sometimes masturbate when I can't get an erection. I pull my testicles up into their pockets and place my limp penis down between legs and squeese thighs together.At the same time I rub the base of the penis and imagine I'm rubbing her clit. I go easy this way. Straight to sleep.What I want to know is " do 85 year old women masturbate?
When I was about 18 a friend was saying something about a wet dream. I had never heard of a wet dream and asked what that was. He understood why I didn't know what a wet dream was
I found out about jerking off spontaneously when I was about 14 by just playing with my dank and began to do it multiple times a day from that point on. I even jerked off before once when me and my mom went on a holiday together and we slept in the same hotel room (different beds though) LOL. I just did it really quiet but she probably noticed. I think i was like 15. Anyways, I felt like I was jerking off too much. I often got a feeling of guilt after i came, which made me feel ashamed of myself. I dont know why. I think it's because i thought so highly of myself and believed that I should've been fucking the girls I was jerking to, not jerking to them because I'm an attractive guy.
Then I went on a holiday to my homeland of Greece this summer and decided that I wasn't going to jerk it once while I was over there, just as a respect to my homeland. It wasn't hard at all not to. It's been about 3 months since I've gotten back, and I continued my trend of not jerking, nor have I had many temptations to at all. When i first got back I had a girl i was banging every day so i never needed to, but that only lasted about a month and then we stopped hanging out. I havent' fucked since. So no orgasim in like 2 months. I feel better about myself that I dont jerk though. I mostly do it because of respect to my dead ancestors (who are watching me) and because I dont like the bad feeling i get after. I'd rather just have sex.
i do mastrubate, sometimes watching porn also. i think i mastrubate 10 times in a month
Once, when I had a prostate infection, part of the doctor's instructions was that I needed to "evacuate the prostate on a more regular basis". He wasn't my regular doctor and he was trying to be polite and discreet about his instructions. I knew what he was trying to say but I burst out laughing and embarrassed him. My regular doctor would have been much more direct and would have told me to jerk off more often.
I'm a 17 year old guy. I don't masturbate... I quit after I came to Jesus a few years back. it was tough, but i did it.. Im FREE! I don't view girls lustfully either anymore.. they deserve better than to be viewed as a sex toy, and treated accordingly. Plus, on my wedding night, it's going to be that much more awesome!
Er... I don't wank and I'm 14. My friends all seem to? I don't really get the point and just see it as sad. Also I know this is an old thread but thought I'd ask
My Boyfriend Didn't Masturbate. He Never Even Tried. Until Today. It Was A Mutual Thing. So Not ALL Guys Masturbate. Thats Just Kinda Stereotypical.
If I don't masturbate every 15 minutes I get a headache and wet dream, even if I'm awake. You can't imagine how many pair of shorts I go through in a week.
My Boyfriend Didn't Masturbate. He Never Even Tried. We're Both Atheists Of A Short So It's Not Due To Religion Or Culture. We Just Thought Masturbation Was Rather Sad. We Both Never Masturbated Until Today. It Was A Mutual Thing. So Not ALL Guys Masturbate. A Lot Of Them Do, But Not All. It Kinda Bothers Me When People Say ALL Men Masturbate Because There Are The Rare Ones (Like My Boyfriend). Saying ALL Men Masturbate Is Just Kinda Stereotypical.
I think your boyfriend lied to you Rosa.
I have a weird situation with wet dreams, and would actually appreciate some insightful feedback. I have a wet dream every two months or so, usually when I am very tired. In my waking life, I am 100% gay, but in my wet dreams I am always making love to not just one woman, but always two women. It always starts off with me getting a massage, and ends with one of them either jerking me off, or full sexual activity. A psychologist I saw suggested that perhaps I had suppressed my natural heterosexuality, but I rather doubt it. During my teens I actually did try to become straight. These dreams started before that, so I never thought of myself as gay until I realized that my emotional and physical desires were all about guys. I am now 51 and still have these dreams. I also masturbate about 2-3 times a week, a,ways fantasizing about gay sex.
The anthropologist obviously didn't know their language R181.
I use a pillow to stimulate actual sex. Does anyone here think that this is weird? I think it feels better and it feels like I am having actual sex.
I masturbate about five times a week now, though I can't climax from masturbation. I probably cum once or twice a week from it. Some men have the opposite problem and can only climax during masturbation.
But I can confirm some men just don't jack off. I once went at least four years without masturbating. It is possible to do. Not all men who say they don't masturbate are lying.
I remember a Howard Stern interview with Lenny Kravitz. LK claimed that he didn't masturbate because he didn't need to - he always had someone willing to drop what they were doing to come over and have sex with him.
This thread is hilarious.
R199, Justin Timberlake claimed the same thing in some interview.
The Backstreet Boys, however, admitted to it in Rolling Stone back in 2000:
[quote]And as a team player, far be it from Howie to reveal the name of the groups most frequent masturbator. He'll laugh and giggle about it, but his lips are most definitely sealed.
[quote]"OK, I rub one out every once in a while," Kevin drawls, "but if one of us is a chronic masturbator, it's Nick."
[quote]All the boys are in the hotel, and with Nick Carter thus singled out, all hell breaks loose. When the riot's over, Nick rolls his eyes and says, "Why does it have to be me? You know you all do it just as much as me."
[quote]"Well," says Kevin, "I'll put on the pay-per-view every now and then and check it out."
Back in my dorm days, one fantasy I had was the thought that all 510 of us were beating off, likely at east once a day. That is a lot of cum. There was almost zero conversation about it, a little brief joking sometimes. Except for Don. Really hot freshman - he'd simply announce, "Gotta go jizz-off," and go to his room. Once I followed him and, sure enough, he was doing it. He told me he was so hooked that he even did it in the restroom between classes.
He didn't return for a sophomore year.
Actually, for a period of a few months, I had completely lost my libido. I did masterbate occasionally, but rarely. During my annual physical with my doctor, I mentioned the fact that I had become uninterested in sex. He said I should have my testosterone tested. The results were astonishing, according to my doc. It was only 47. He said a woman's T-level is usually around 100, a man's level should be at least 300 up to 700. So, I began T-shots and within less than a week, I began to get horny again. This was last October. I've been giving myself a shot every 10 days. Now, I'm so horny, I masturbate twice a day. I'm now 61, so guys if you have a low libido, have your T-level tested. It was absolutely the best thing I've ever done medically. I also have more energy and just feel better overall. Testosterone is a wonderful drug.
is it masturbation if you jerk off while getting fucked or taking it out and jerking off to give a facial?
A mother walked in on her son while he was masturbating and told him to stop immediately and never do it again or he'd go blind. Her son wanted to know if it was ok to do it just until he needed glasses.
Yes R4 I imagine they do. Seeing as asexual is just the new word for socially awkward teen or twenty-something.
I have a friend who used to claim he didn't. He is hot and so is his wife, so I thought maybe he didn't "need" to... he recently told me he had just been bullshitting. Last time we talked about it, he said his dick was actually raw from how much he'd been jerking it!
I used to do it at least once a day, but lately I am averaging once a week. I'm really wondering if it's some medication I'm on. I just don't have the desire.
Has anyone ever had a wet dream and not remembered it in the morning? That's never happened to me, thank God.
I've never had a wet dream. I've never even "creamed my shorts" as they say. Then again, I don't really get precum. What's up with that?
R209 They say that vampires never have wet dreams, never "cream" in clothes, and never have precum. You might want to get"it"checked
Is it masturbation only if it is solitary? What about group masturbation. Mutual masturbation. Hand jobs.
That it has been condemned as the solitary vice then means the condemnation is that you are not using sex for procreation. Cos masturbation, in all its forms, is sex.
I'm a gay male, 33, been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years and I jerk off 2x a day (usually to Gio Benitez and Lance Gross). I feel bad about it but when my bf doest want to give up the ass what choice do I have? Plus I'm a scorpio.
Cut guys don't masturbate. That is why circumcision was adopted.
When I was younger maybe 13 or 14 I masturbated but as I got older 16 the plumbing wouldn't work any more. Only had wet dreams maybe once or twice. So why bother any more and after spending a few years in Viet Nam the last thing I wanted to do was mess around over there. And I guess with my problem that was a good thing.
After the military I did get married and that lasted maybe 2 months and the wife wanted a real man not a dick less wonder. I'm 70 now and in all these years I've had no desire for any woman or sex.
I was happy with my life even though it was boring and I had no real friends and still don't.I don't really know how to make friends.
Mathematically, it's a given that there are men that don't masturbate. The shear number of men allows for just about any imaginable man doing anything imaginable.
I don't. Rarely do I masturbate any more. It's the HIV drugs. They make the dick limp among other toxic effects. I can look at porn, real nasty porn, in fact, and not get a hard-on. It all looks the same to me. Dick gets sucked, then it goes in bung hole and then the face is spermed. Same routine. Don't even feel the need to masturbate anymore. The men on "The Bachelor" give it a twitch, but then the bitch ruins the hitch.
I'd rather watch The Food Network and learn how to make Quiche instead.
I have been free from porn and masterbation and porn for the past 80 days.
My hormones are raging, and I notice females noticing me, or maybe it is just the pheromones. I will tell you one thing, porn is an addictive act even if it isn't classifies as an addiction in that physiology book. My mind litterally went from numb to sharp. It's not that it is easy to do. By I plan on not masterbating again, and saving it for my future wife. It is not easy to do what I am doing and takes sheer will power and belief. Some may think it is crazy to not masterbate but that energy can be used for more productive things, channeling the sexual energy instead of selfishly getting an escape of selfish and unrealistic expectations of woman. Just because 90% or so of the world does it, doesn't make it natural or right, but it is normal. A few downsides to point out about masterbation is the connection for mental imagery, if it isn't porn it is usually fantasy of some random female in your minds eye you need to objectify. And even if you know that person do they resipricate the same feelings? Feelings of lust, not love. Until you can learn to let go of the instant gratification of pleasure and selfish needs to objectify woman, can you masterbate without it having a negative effect in your life. It is possible to masterbate without mental imagery, but because we are brainwashed as teenagers by high speed Internet porn, it is unlikely to be able to do that until you stop porn, and masterbation for 90+ days or so. You may not know how freeing it can be to break the vicious cycle. If you have the will to do that, you will have the will and drive to accomplish anything truly meaningful in your life. Especially the drive to find a girlfriend that is right for you, where the relationship isn't based around sex. The only way to test these truths, is to try stopping, one day at a time, one moment at a time. After you reach the 10-20 dy mark you will be extremely irritable, and tempted to relieve yourself, but during this time you will realize the real reasons behind your need to masterbate. Whether it be to make up for lonliness, escape a situation or negative thoughts, make you feel better that you don't have a girlfriend or boyfriend. It will be a gateway to true change. Not a gitty one, it will be painful, but worth it and that pain will pass and help with true inner, and therefore outer change in your life.
Thought I would share, there are many people that don't masturbate. And I am in the process of being one. Whether you guys can accept that or not.
I didn't masturbate for about 2 months and started to have wet dreams again. One wet dream was so fucking painful, like to the point of cramping my ejaculation muscles, that I had to start masturbating again to avoid a repeat. It's weird to have a repeat of early teen years by waking up and having your undies glued to your body from all the cum.
I'm a guy, i'm 16. I have never masturbated before. I have no urge to. It scares me.
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