Musclebound, thuggish looking black guys get me weak in the knees. There, I said it. I just think that these guys are the ultimate in masculinity and hotness. Is my fetishizing racist or does it make me open-minded? I debate this within myself constantly, and I never get a clear answer. What do you think? The guys in the SFW pic are the types I'm talking about.
Does objectifying muscular black men make me a racist or open-minded?
|by Anonymous||reply 157||Last Tuesday at 8:16 AM|
It makes you a fetishist.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||06/03/2010|
More than likely, it means you have a thing for down low black queens.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||06/03/2010|
You are spot on OP, black guys are hotter, i get stared a lot at the gym.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||06/03/2010|
If you wouldn't find the same guy attractive if he was in a suit and tie or a polo shirt and khakis, then yeah, you are a bit racist.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||06/03/2010|
OP, I know EXACTLY whay you are talking about. In the early 1990's I was robbed on a downtown N train; my wallet was stolen at knifepoint by 3 black guys who cornered me.
I swear to God that night after I called the police and credit card companies I masturbated thinking ofthose 3 guys and I exploded.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||06/03/2010|
Beefy and muscular and thugish black guys are hot, but the hottest black guys in my book are the lean muscular black guys, think swimmer's build style. If they were glasses and dress conservatively, but hint at meaty thighs and bubbly butts and narrow waists and broad shoulders underneath their threads... ooh lord, my mussy gets moist just thinking about it.
If any of you saw "Chopped" this week, there was a black cheftestant on the show... he was a perfect example of this look.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||06/03/2010|
There's nothing wrong with how you are feeling. We all have are "things". What makes you racist is that your ancestors created both the "buck" uber-sexual stereotypes and imagery while emasculating Black men so that attempting to portray a twisted super-masculinity was necessary. That's all, sweetie.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||06/03/2010|
42 yr old here. I don't know the answer to your question, can you help me with mine. How do guys keep pants from falling to the ground when they wear them so low.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||06/03/2010|
The stupid caps and low-slung jeans make me want to vomit.
The rest of it is [italic]mighty fine[/italic].
|by Anonymous||reply 13||06/03/2010|
oh I agree r13, they are good looking men.
I just don't understand why you would wear your pants like that or the logistics of keeping them up.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||06/03/2010|
It's just the style. They wear belts sometimes.
OP, would you date any of the black men about whom you fantasize? I think that the response may answer your question regarding whether you may be racist.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||06/04/2010|
R15 is correct. OP, if you wouldn't introduce the object of your desire to your friends or take him home to meet the folks because he's too "ghetto," then yes, you are a racist.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||06/04/2010|
R16 confuses issues of class with issues of race. This is a damaging reductionism here in the United States, as it is crucial to be clear about one's biases. If I bring a coworker who shares my love of art and travel and fine food home to meet my mother, and he happens to be black, that's fine, I suppose. But if I hesitate to take home a nastay ghetto boy who is covered in tats and who undertakes the character of a dangerous hoodlum, I'm a racist? No, dear, I'm not. I'm exercising discretion in the form of a class bias, or vice versa. If you don't get it, fine. I'm not likely to invite you to meet my mother in any event, for other reasons.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||06/04/2010|
I can't believe anyone is still asking about low-riding pants. Did you just wake up from a coma, or what?
|by Anonymous||reply 19||06/04/2010|
A classist is just as odious as a racist, r18.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||06/04/2010|
Though I lust after them, no, a thuggish guy is not someone I would date or bring home to my family. Neither would a white guy from a similar background. If I were a chubby chaser, a fat person wouldn't be someone I'd necessarily show off either. So as another poster noted, it's probably not really about race as it is about socioeconomic and social status.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||06/04/2010|
OP/21 and R18: two elitist and absolutely clueless queens. You two should really hook up. You could make each other blissfully miserable, or even more miserable than you both already are.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||06/04/2010|
So you're a snob, r21, and one who slums at that. Congratulations.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||06/04/2010|
No, it only means you have very good taste.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||06/04/2010|
Most likely, they would have a loveless marriage but they would share lots and lots of tricks, r22.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||06/04/2010|
R16, but is it any different than some hetero guy who wants to fuck a blond bimbo? I'm sure he wouldn't want to bring her home to mom. Why is that not bigoted? If the OP wouldn't want to bring home a well-educated black man, that's a different story.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||06/04/2010|
Today she's a bimbo, tomorrow she's arm candy, r26. Straight guys aren't ashamed at bagging bimbos, dear; they show them off. The exception might be Blue Blood types, but the ailment there is obvious: the same paralyzing snobbery that is on display among some of the posters chiming in on this thread.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||06/04/2010|
I'm black and I wouldn't date a eminem type. Embarrassing!!! Imagine me sitting at the dinner table with family with some white wanna be black thug.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||06/04/2010|
Find sex hot with someone you think is beneath your social status has been around forever.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||06/04/2010|
So have misogyny, exploitation, and abuse, r29. It doesn't make them less lousy.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||06/04/2010|
"If I bring a coworker who shares my love of art and travel and fine food home to meet my mother..." Yes, that walk up the stairs from the basement you mean.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||06/04/2010|
both OP and R17 posted hot pics. mmmmm
|by Anonymous||reply 32||06/05/2010|
OP, its too bad thugs only want other thugs!
|by Anonymous||reply 33||06/05/2010|
You know who is an incredibly fine-looking black guy?
|by Anonymous||reply 34||06/05/2010|
Since you use the word 'objectify', OP, I would say you swing more toward racism than open-mindedness. And quite a bit.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||06/05/2010|
Oh, I dunno, R36. I think that human turd at R18 and OP are in a neck and neck race to the bottom of the barrel.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||06/05/2010|
[quote]If any of you saw "Chopped" this week, there was a black cheftestant on the show... he was a perfect example of this look.
He was quite cute and he won!
|by Anonymous||reply 39||06/05/2010|
I've always been drawn to the black male stereotypes seen in movies from the thirties and forties. My favorite is Snowflake.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||06/05/2010|
[quote]What makes you racist is that your ancestors created both the "buck" uber-sexual stereotypes and imagery while emasculating Black men so that attempting to portray a twisted super-masculinity was necessary. That's all, sweetie.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||06/05/2010|
Just another gratuitous black man photo. Carry on.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||06/05/2010|
There sure are a lot of name-calling posers here who think that anything other than white guilt or pretending class issues don't exist makes a person a racist. And they're hypocrites, because no one believes they don't get off on objectifying black guys into something they themselves wouldn't recognize. Terrible tendencies, and they'll be spending years alone wondering why.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||06/05/2010|
Guess what? Some black guys objectify white guys too. And some Asian guys objectify latinos who objectify native indian who objectify ,,,,,,
When it comes to sex, a little objectification is not necessarily such a bad thing. Go ahead treat me like a sex object. Just don't make me write bad cheques.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||06/05/2010|
OP, I love handsome black men. Not necessarily thugish. For me there is NOTHING hotter than a hot, black man. I don't care what it's called or how it's judged. I LOVE THEM!
|by Anonymous||reply 47||06/05/2010|
I'm hot for 50 Cent
|by Anonymous||reply 48||06/06/2010|
"Though I lust after them, no, a thuggish guy is not someone I would date or bring home to my family. Neither would a white guy from a similar background. If I were a chubby chaser, a fat person wouldn't be someone I'd necessarily show off either." Do the guys you're having sex with care that you're only interested in them to the extent that you find them dangerous/unsuitable/a secret vice? That seems like a more important question than what we think about it.
|by Anonymous||reply 49||06/06/2010|
|by Anonymous||reply 50||06/07/2010|
A hot black guy dropped trou in the locker room just as I was slowly passing by him the other night. He timed it perfectly for me to get a good look. OMG, at least eight inches long, thick, and semi hard. I wonder if he got it half erect because he knew I wanted to see it? Whatever the case, I've been thinking about that perfect dick of his ever since.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||08/22/2010|
Maybe you should just forget about race. I am black and the guys you describe are incredibly hot to me but I just think of them as hot guys and not hot black guys. It's not like you're attracted to every single black guy. Hot is hot, that's all there is to it.
|by Anonymous||reply 52||08/22/2010|
|by Anonymous||reply 53||08/22/2010|
Thanks for that link (r52). There's nothing hotter than the kind of man in that video. Wow!...
|by Anonymous||reply 54||08/22/2010|
correction: thanks for the link (R53)
|by Anonymous||reply 55||08/22/2010|
Why do you need to ask?
|by Anonymous||reply 56||08/22/2010|
Neither. It just means you want to fuck muscular black guys.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||08/22/2010|
r33 he is very hawt!
|by Anonymous||reply 58||08/22/2010|
r43's pic is awesome.
|by Anonymous||reply 59||08/22/2010|
^ I meant, all gay white men.
|by Anonymous||reply 61||08/22/2010|
Why don't you ask him while he is pile driving you on his long, thick-as-a-baby's-arm uncut cock and the large, orange-sized balls slapping your ass?
Between your screams of ecstasy, of course.
|by Anonymous||reply 62||08/22/2010|
No, r60/r61. Plenty of white gay men on here have made it perfectly clear they do not desire black guys.
I think they are narrow minded, personally, but to each his own.
|by Anonymous||reply 63||08/22/2010|
OP, it means you have superior taste, dude.
|by Anonymous||reply 64||06/15/2012|
|by Anonymous||reply 65||07/01/2012|
Last week these two big muscular black guys delivered my new parlor furniture. My hole was twitching the entire time. I wanted them to spit roast me like nobody's business.
|by Anonymous||reply 66||07/01/2012|
R48 = timberlake
|by Anonymous||reply 67||07/01/2012|
What about Eric, the Black Russian OP?
|by Anonymous||reply 68||07/01/2012|
When your pants are so low, like they are in OP's pic, why bother even putting them on?
It's like putting a dress on, over your head, then just stopping when it's wrapped around your neck.
|by Anonymous||reply 69||07/01/2012|
It depends what you mean by "objectifying"? If you are merely saying that you have a strong sexual response to muscular black men, it has nothing to do with objectification, and is merely having a turn on - like a turn on some people have for blonde men in their 20s or silver haired guys in their 40s. Or hairy white guys with beards, or Italian guys, or Asian guys, or guys with bubble butts. It has nothing to do with a feeling of superiority or dehumanization or with being open-minded.
It's just sex.
|by Anonymous||reply 70||07/01/2012|
|by Anonymous||reply 71||07/13/2012|
Fitness guru Shaun T has married a dude!
|by Anonymous||reply 72||10/22/2012|
|by Anonymous||reply 73||11/21/2012|
People need to learn the difference between what is race-related and being a racist. It's a world of difference.
|by Anonymous||reply 74||11/21/2012|
Stay away from the brothas, you piece of white trash. They belong to us.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||11/21/2012|
it makes you horny, OP
|by Anonymous||reply 76||11/21/2012|
It depends OP do you objectify Bieber? If not then yes you are a racist.
|by Anonymous||reply 77||11/21/2012|
|by Anonymous||reply 78||12/08/2012|
more pics please
|by Anonymous||reply 79||12/18/2012|
RACIST. If you base something on race you're a racist.
|by Anonymous||reply 80||12/18/2012|
My desire for them transcends any judgment anyone can make. There is no one in the world hotter than a hot black man.
|by Anonymous||reply 82||12/18/2012|
I don't think people are racist for finding a particular ethnic group or feature attractive. However, such people should be careful how they express their attractions. Using words like "black meat," "black d***," "hot tamale," or "black buck" are widely viewed as offensive and racist. They reflect blatant objectification of a person's race or ethnic background in a most offensive manner.
|by Anonymous||reply 83||12/18/2012|
Most buff muscular dudes who spend lots of time in the gym are exhibitionists who desire some level of objectification.
|by Anonymous||reply 84||12/21/2012|
My friend only dates black guys. I think he prefers the Wall Street type, but he is currently dating a trainer with a body to die for. He says black guys equal less drama.
|by Anonymous||reply 85||12/21/2012|
I think it's only racist if your ONLY interactions with black people (besides dealing with service personell) are through "thug" hookups. If you're uncomfortable around black people and make no attempt to treat them as equals and get to know some of them on a deeper level, then yes, you are fetishizing an entire race, and in the embodiment of one of the worst and most threatening incarnation (a "trashy thug" as opposed to just black guys in general). If you like black men sexually, it stands to reason that you should have respect and affinity for black people in general (manifested in non-sexual situations and relationships). If you don't, and you just like them as sex machines, you're really not treating them any better than a convenient sexual aid.
I think fetishizing a particular race is worse than excluding one from your potential sex partner pool. I'm far more suspicious of a white guy who dates another race exclusively, than one who admits he's not into a particular race. The former seems like more of a deliberate effort with a (possibly convoluted) motivation behind it, while the latter just seems like typical social conditioning to gravitate towards people that you likely share common experiences and associations with.
|by Anonymous||reply 86||12/21/2012|
Only a little.
|by Anonymous||reply 87||12/21/2012|
no such thing as race in humans, what we think of as race is a social and cultural construct.
I think the conundrum OP refers to is, 'if I don't prefer The Other, I'm considered racist, if I DO prefer The Other, I'm fetishistic and also racist.'
I'm 'mixed race' but was raised in rural white america and can't recall any prejudice coming my parents. it was only when I moved away to an urban area that I began to encounter different 'races' and the accompanying prejudice and to this day resist internalizing them.
it's like some giant advertising campaign, so-and-so's eat/drive/are hung like/act like this that is reinforced and echo chambered at us constantly every day
and because of our constant search for validation, whenever we encounter something that fits these programmed biases, it reinforces it.
I harbor more prejudice and stereotypes now than when I left home, and being aware of how that came to be keeps me from turning into a bigot.
|by Anonymous||reply 88||12/21/2012|
What I find funny is when people say only dating white men isn't racist and that it's a preference. Oh please. To discriminate by race is the definition of racism.
|by Anonymous||reply 89||12/21/2012|
It is funny how people who say they are only attracted to one race usually also have views that are racist or bigoted, although usually disguised.
|by Anonymous||reply 90||12/21/2012|
[quote]What I find funny is when people say only dating white men isn't racist and that it's a preference. Oh please. To discriminate by race is the definition of racism.
I've no problem with that as long as you also agree that Asians who date only white men (or women) are also racist as per your definition. I often see only whites get condemned as racist for wanting to date other whites, but not Asians, many of whom will only date white people.
|by Anonymous||reply 91||12/21/2012|
Actually [R92], what you said about black women only dating white men for more reasons doesn't make it any less racist, there's probably some self hate involved. It applies with everyone, if you discriminate against someone SOLEY on their race, that is the definition of racism regardless of if it's friendship or more in my opinion. Mainly because you're basically writing off an entire group of people based on what? Melanin in the skin? It's crazy that people think excluding a race doesn't make them prejudice against one....how does that make sense?
|by Anonymous||reply 93||12/21/2012|
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|by Anonymous||reply 95||05/09/2014|
Day-yum. Thanks for that r94!
|by Anonymous||reply 96||05/09/2014|
I'm still cherry, but I want my first time to be with a big dick black man. He won't be too rough will he?
|by Anonymous||reply 97||05/09/2014|
The first answer was on target -- you're more a fetishist than a racist. Though many will disagree with the definition, "racist" usually means the person is an active participant in the race-based negative discrimination and oppression of a non-dominant race (relative to the culture at large).
Me, I'll confess, I am a white guy with a few "types" of my own and one of them is a handsome, well-put-together man of color with a fit body, tight sense of grooming/style, and a distinctive sense of fashion. The antithesis of thug. Something about the aesthetic of unusual good looks and a face/race/skin that is very different from my own. Fortunately NYC has quite a few hot men who fit this description. Every other day there's someone on the subway like this and I want so badly to come home with him and slide his clothes off... slowly... as we start to make out...
|by Anonymous||reply 98||05/09/2014|
Being attracted to dark skin or African features doesn't make you racist. It doesn't make you special, enlightened or more evolved, either.
Fetishizing black men for being "thuggish" most definitely is racist.
|by Anonymous||reply 99||05/09/2014|
No, Alexander. He'll be perfectly kind and gentle. I know this because I'm psychic. How lucky for you that I was here to answer your question.
|by Anonymous||reply 100||05/09/2014|
R100, Thank you sooooo much, today WAS my lucky day, you are the best!!!!! Are you the resident psychic here at DL.
|by Anonymous||reply 101||05/09/2014|
I wish there were more interracial gay porn. Unfortunately, most gay porn is white-white or black-black.
|by Anonymous||reply 103||05/09/2014|
Go to my gym OP
|by Anonymous||reply 104||05/10/2014|
|by Anonymous||reply 105||07/27/2014|
I wish there were a site devoted exclusively to these types of guys who escort!
|by Anonymous||reply 106||07/27/2014|
OP = Timberlake
|by Anonymous||reply 107||07/28/2014|
They're not my type at all. I like muscular black men, but the thug type is just not for me.
|by Anonymous||reply 108||07/28/2014|
OP, if you like them how can you be racist?
|by Anonymous||reply 109||07/28/2014|
R35 - i hope you are joking on this thread.
|by Anonymous||reply 110||07/28/2014|
I objectify and I like being objectified. I find it's an essential element of sexual attraction. Not the only element, mind you. It's a necessary but not sufficient condition for a relationship IMHO.
|by Anonymous||reply 112||07/28/2014|
Muscles are hot
|by Anonymous||reply 113||07/28/2014|
How about this guy?
|by Anonymous||reply 114||07/28/2014|
ONLY on DataLounge does even NOTICING that someone is NOT WHITE make you a virulent racist! If you then observe behavior different from your own, then you are HITLER.
All caught up?
|by Anonymous||reply 115||07/28/2014|
|by Anonymous||reply 117||07/30/2014|
[quote]But thuggish behavior is a real turn-off
|by Anonymous||reply 118||07/30/2014|
|by Anonymous||reply 119||07/31/2014|
Well i like low pants mens and tattoos see i have one and he do too and yes i would take him home to meet mother stop hateing cause you can't be like thim
|by Anonymous||reply 120||08/09/2014|
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|by Anonymous||reply 122||08/09/2014|
You have great taste, OP
|by Anonymous||reply 123||08/27/2014|
If objectifying them is a crime, then let me do the time!
|by Anonymous||reply 124||08/27/2014|
More pics bruh!
|by Anonymous||reply 125||11/19/2014|
|by Anonymous||reply 126||01/11/2015|
I'm impressed that this thread has survived this long.
|by Anonymous||reply 127||01/11/2015|
It needs pics
|by Anonymous||reply 128||01/14/2015|
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|by Anonymous||reply 131||01/27/2015|
Black dudes are hellahot
|by Anonymous||reply 132||02/14/2015|
It just means you have great taste and know what sex is supposed to be like.
|by Anonymous||reply 133||02/14/2015|
Black dudes are hellahot
|by Anonymous||reply 134||02/14/2015|
OP you can look and admire a black man. Just don't push yourself on them. It's simple to figure out.
|by Anonymous||reply 135||02/14/2015|
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|by Anonymous||reply 139||05/05/2015|
I think the short-lived UK series "Sirens" would be relevant to your interests, OP. Game of Thrones star Richard Madden plays a gay character that shares your fetish. The show did a pretty decent job of showing how problematic race fetishism is.
Anyway, the good bits start after the 1 minute mark.
|by Anonymous||reply 140||05/05/2015|
|by Anonymous||reply 141||05/05/2015|
press play, bruh
|by Anonymous||reply 142||05/05/2015|
|by Anonymous||reply 143||05/15/2015|
The people objectifying Black men are the ones saying it's fetishist to be attracted to them.
No, you like what you like and they're the ones obsessed with boxing people off. It's even hotter that it pisses-off the identity politics, self-obsessed drama queens.
Notice how this ends-up about them, their interpretation of YOUR sexual preferences and they don't even allow you to have a say in your own tastes and opinions?
So sick of these Fascist, attention whores, who pretend bullying people into homogeneous styles and opinions is for the good of everyone.
|by Anonymous||reply 144||05/15/2015|
I kind of want Tyler Perry to take me, dressed as Madea. Is that fetishist?
|by Anonymous||reply 145||05/15/2015|
I objectify all day every day, race irrelevant. All I see are bodies that I want to twist into all sorts of different position and bang repeatedly. I am perfectly normal.
|by Anonymous||reply 146||05/15/2015|
i think it shows a progressive open minded view. good for you op keep up the good work
|by Anonymous||reply 147||05/15/2015|
R146 It's these asexual Social Justice! types. They're obsessed with horny-shaming men.
|by Anonymous||reply 148||05/15/2015|
It makes you a Kardashian.
|by Anonymous||reply 149||05/15/2015|
|by Anonymous||reply 150||05/15/2015|
Oh my goodness! Look at that butt!
|by Anonymous||reply 152||06/25/2015|
hottest men on the planet
|by Anonymous||reply 153||06/25/2015|
It makes you have great taste, dude.
|by Anonymous||reply 154||Last Tuesday at 7:58 AM|
OP, sweetie, its not that complicated. You're a dinge queen.
|by Anonymous||reply 155||Last Tuesday at 8:02 AM|
You're a whore, darlin !
And you want to roughed up, don't you ?
|by Anonymous||reply 156||Last Tuesday at 8:14 AM|
How about a little Hershey Kiss? 💋
|by Anonymous||reply 157||Last Tuesday at 8:16 AM|