"I Wrote This Book for Attention" -- Lukas Gage Bares More Than His Ass in this Memoir

I’ve yet to read the book that WASN’T written for attention. And money.

Is baring one's ass no longer sufficient?

Gage claims he married celebrity hair stylist and hot daddy Chris Appleton (with Kim Kardashian presiding) two months after meeting at a party because he was on a six month "manic" high. And now Appleton, not to be outdone, is hawking his own memoir in response.

Oh lord does he have a personality disorder?

After filming You, Gage went to stay with an ex at his Malibu beach house where they tried to rekindle their romance. One day, after getting out of the ocean, he noticed his penis was tingling and red. When he showed it to his ex later that night, he asked if it could be a bacterial infection from the water.

In doing his own research, Gage realized that was not likely and confronted his ex about the possibility of giving him an STI — which he denied repeatedly. Instead, the ex insisted it was probably "Malibu bacteria." A doctor confirmed that Gage had not only one, but two STIs: gonorrhea and chlamydia.

Does he have a chapter on getting crabs too?

Good Morning Datalounge!!!

A-Who is Lukas Gage?

B-Aren't the "Kartrashwhorians" were finally fading away!!

C-Lukas has a nice body-ass!!

I’m so appreciative when people who have led long lives of significant accomplishment and contribution let the readers in to see how the sausage is made.

He was on Watch What Happens Live the other night. Andy seemed horny for him until Lukas went on a tangent, insisting that Bravo rehire Jen Shah when she’s done scissoring Elizabeth Holmes in Federal Prison.

Andy didn’t appreciate that, and the look in his wonky eye went from lust to disgust.

I don't know him. I guess I need to spend more time in the computer machine.

If you have been following the career of Lukas Gage, you know he’s great at getting attention with his characters’ OMG! moments. At the risk of being bawdy, he’s famously eaten ass on The White Lotus. As a masseur in Down Low, he nonchalantly provided a happy ending. And if that wasn’t enough, he’s also been doused in a golden shower on You.

With each scene, he brought viral vividness. But his talent extends far beyond bawdiness. His characters shine in each of his performances, particularly as a closeted football quarterback in Overcompensating. It was arguably the most pivotal role in Benito Skinner’s hit series on Amazon Prime.

But behind his memeable moments, comedic turns, and dramatic flashes lies something else entirely, and that is a young man who has spent his life trying to reconcile immense pain, hardship and chaos. It’s what makes the book — and Gage — so special.

In his new memoir, I Wrote This for Attention, Gage surprisingly and with raw honesty exposes a life that has been as bruised as it has been bold. The publisher calls it “a riveting and heartwarming memoir … about a broken family, struggles with addiction, sex, borderline personality disorder, and his commitment to being the center of attention.”

But the book and Gage are far from being melodramatic. Gage comes off in the book just as he is in person, as funny, profoundly self-aware, and devastatingly honest.

The grueling work of promoting a memoir about his life has been disorienting and humbling for Gage. It requires talking about himself nonstop, over and over again. “It’s crazy,” he says. “I've never had this much talking about myself. I'm used to promoting a movie or TV show, and this is just truly talking about my life. So it’s a lot.”

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If you have been following the career of Lukas Gage, you know he’s great at getting attention with his characters’ OMG! moments. At the risk of being bawdy, he’s famously eaten ass on The White Lotus. As a masseur in Down Low, he nonchalantly provided a happy ending. And if that wasn’t enough, he’s also been doused in a golden shower on You.

With each scene, he brought viral vividness. But his talent extends far beyond bawdiness. His characters shine in each of his performances, particularly as a closeted football quarterback in Overcompensating. It was arguably the most pivotal role in Benito Skinner’s hit series on Amazon Prime.

But behind his memeable moments, comedic turns, and dramatic flashes lies something else entirely, and that is a young man who has spent his life trying to reconcile immense pain, hardship and chaos. It’s what makes the book — and Gage — so special.

In his new memoir, I Wrote This for Attention, Gage surprisingly and with raw honesty exposes a life that has been as bruised as it has been bold. The publisher calls it “a riveting and heartwarming memoir … about a broken family, struggles with addiction, sex, borderline personality disorder, and his commitment to being the center of attention.”

But the book and Gage are far from being melodramatic. Gage comes off in the book just as he is in person, as funny, profoundly self-aware, and devastatingly honest.

The grueling work of promoting a memoir about his life has been disorienting and humbling for Gage. It requires talking about himself nonstop, over and over again. “It’s crazy,” he says. “I've never had this much talking about myself. I'm used to promoting a movie or TV show, and this is just truly talking about my life. So it’s a lot.”

For someone who’s built a career on total exposure, physical and emotional, there’s something startlingly odd about that confession. Writing a memoir requires a bit of narcissism, but Gage comes off with a measure of modesty.

Gage began the book thinking it would be lighthearted. “I came up with the title first,” he explains. “I really thought it was going to be a lot more tongue-in-cheek and fun and jokes. And then, I don’t know what happened, something shifted midway through writing it. I just was like, I gotta get more real and unearth this stuff.”

What he unearthed was trauma, the kind that usually lingers in silence. If you’ve been a victim of sexual abuse or confronted mental illness, then you know the pain associated with being quiet.

The memoir delves unflinchingly into his experience of sexual abuse, the fragmentation of his family, and the mental health battles that shaped his sense of self.

“At first it was something I was filled with shame about and didn’t want to talk about,” he admits. “But then I remembered when I read about similar stories in other people’s books, like Matthew McConaughey’s, and it gave me courage. It gave me the ability to not want to hide with it, and to maybe, hopefully, help some other kid out there who went through the same thing.”

That willingness to talk about pain, particularly as a young male actor in Hollywood, has resonated deeply with early readers of the memoir. “Other guys have reached out, telling me they were thankful,” Gage says. “Other male actors talking openly about BPD [Borderline Personality Disorder], saying they didn’t have enough people to look up to who had that, it’s been really affirming and humbling.”

For Gage, mental health isn’t something to be whispered about. It’s easy thing to admit to struggling, but Gage comes forward in a way that resonates. “I think of it like someone breaks their arm and goes to the doctor, and that's not looked down upon,” he reasons. “But if someone is depressed or anxious or has a personality disorder and takes medication, suddenly that’s reframed with shame. And I just didn’t want that. I wanted an open conversation about it.”

He’s also very much aware of the fashioned version of himself that people see online. “People see a young actor who’s maybe having the best time of their life, and I just wanted to show the moments not on Instagram. There’s been lonely moments and sad stuff, even when amazing things are happening,” he points out. “Even when all these amazing things are happening and I’m so grateful and privileged, that doesn’t mean we’re not going through real-life shit.”

It’s that dichotomy between outward success and inner struggles that gives I Wrote This for Attention its emotional contrast. His career may have exploded through popular roles, but the book reads like an antidote to surviving.

Gage writes candidly about his “broken family,” his addiction struggles with sex and love, and his need for validation. “There’s a certain sense of responsibility I feel,” he says. “As a public person, to be honest and forthcoming. I think that’s how we move forward as a culture, not staying quiet about this stuff.”

Still, Gage never loses his trademark humor. “There are a lot of jokes in the book,” he admits. “But I let myself go deep in those moments that I didn’t think I would. I was proud of this stuff."

He also dives into the chaos of love and family. “No relationship is perfect, no family is perfect, no person is perfect,” he says. “Where we’ve failed and fallen short is sometimes more interesting than all the successes.”

Looking back at the early part of his life, Gage was asked if he remembers the first queer person he met, and then he copped to being stymied. “I’m usually good at pulling something out of my ass,” he laughs. “But this is the first time I’ve been at a loss for words, which probably says a lot about where we were as a society when I was a kid.”

What he does remember, however, is idolizing pop icons like Britney Spears and Kelly Clarkson. “They sang about their emotions,” he recalls. “I loved that.”

As for what a future memoir might hold, Gage grows reflective. “I hope I never forget who I am and where I came from,” he says. “No matter where life takes me, I never want to lose that. I don’t think people can really change, but I think we can grow and be the best version of ourselves, but who we are and where we come from, that stays.”

That might be the defining sentiment of I Wrote This for Attention. It’s not about transformation — it’s about validation and self-realization. Instead of reinventing himself, Gage reveals himself. His memoir is an act of unabated self-acceptance.

Gage is an example of someone finally learning that attention doesn’t necessarily equate to happiness. But if you’re brave enough and true to yourself, it can help lead you there.

Don't you need to be actually famous if you want to sell a memoir? This is the same problem Cotton Haynes had: no matter how handsome you are and how dramatic your life has been, if no one's really ever heard of you, who wants to buy your book?

He just said he’s not gay but rather queer with gay leaning but “lady” fun on occasion!

*lady fun"? 🤮

Lucas's most charming moment was his first meme, during covid.

That Shapeero really came off as an insensitive snob. He did at least apologize profusely, though.

Who is it? Who is it? Who is it? Who is it? I think the only person in this place not a celebrity is me!

r18, the Advocate story copied at r11-r13 will explain exactly who he is.

He didn’t eat ass in White Lotus. His ass was eaten.

He played Ralphie in A Christmas Story. It's been downhill for him ever since.

A person fucked him on LPSG and they reported that he was a bottom and stunk. He came in two seconds.

Why would anyone want to read the life story of this nobody?

Let's see the weenie.

I believe that r22. I remember watching the ass eating scene in White Lotus and thinking he wouldn’t have been clean.

“I thought we should normalize rimming,” Gage told Andy Cohen on Watch What Happens Live.

Love him.

I especially liked him in that film "Down Low" which he co-wrote. Quirky and original, and he held his own along with Judith Light and Aidra McDonald.

[quote] let the readers in to see how the sausage is made.

Or how its hidden.

Who is this again? The ho that was the twink in the 1st White Lotus?

He has the facial structure of a Cabbage Patch Doll

He played Dillon, the Hotel Staffer in Season One of White Lotus. Armand, his boss, finds guest Sydney Sweeney's lost drugs and decides to go hog wild with them, dragging Dillon along by plying him with the drugs and offering him better work hours in exchange for Dillon getting naked with him where they are then caught in the act.

Judith Light was hilarious in Down Low!

[quote]He has the facial structure of a Cabbage Patch Doll

It's plastic surgery. He got the shit beat out of him when he tried to stop a fight. I think he said most of his teeth were knocked out.

I first became aware of him when that Zoom audition with Shapeero went viral. He's been quite good in the couple of things I've seen him in (Dead Boy Detectives, Smile 2). But he's always seemed sufficiently messy off camera that the BPD confirmation comes as no surprise.

Is his hunky ex husband BPD as well?

I can smell his nappy pussy.

[quote]Gage claims he married celebrity hair stylist and hot daddy Chris Appleton (with Kim Kardashian presiding) two months after meeting at a party because he was on a six month "manic" high.

....or they were both bottoms.

Real life dad Appleton is hawt and his masculine Brit accent works for him but both he and Gage, like most actors, spend way too much time pretending they're interested in anyone other than themselves and they use words like "agency" a lot. L.A. If you know you know. Gage's book was at least a little interesting but I can't imagine Appleton's being any good. I'll probably read it though.

During the marriage, weren’t he and Appleton featured on the kardashians too? Anyone know what season/eps ? I’ve never watched the show.

Knowing he is a suburban rat from North County San Diego makes perfect sense. He looks like one of the skater punk kids from a cup de sac in Encinitas. Not great looking - just a SoCal actor wanna be.

[quote]He looks like one of the skater punk kids from a cup de sac in Encinitas

He mentioned Encinitas in the book. Said it was nice there.

He reminds me of Lon Cheney or is it Boris Karloff? I get them confused like Dylan McDermott and that other guy.

I’m gay & was a semi regular on Nickelodeon sitcoms in the 90s. Please publish my memoir.

He's got a great body, but his face has passed its expiration date, if that photo at r39 is accurate. Some men look great at most ages, but some men just look really good for a shorter time: after that period, they just don't look anywhere near as hot, even if they stay in shape.

Peter Billingsley played Ralphie Parker on "A Christmas Story." I've never seen White Lotus, so I have no idea who this guy is. Hanging out with a Kardashian or Andy Cohen removes him from my radar almost entirely. If this makes me a bad gay, I'm ok with that.

Bad Gay! No Lube for you!!

I don't recall anyone asking you.

Who is this person? Is it a prostitute?

R46, he’s an actor, so yes.

Is this one of those influencers who reviews iPhones on YouTube?

Lukas must have some heavyweight people behind him (maybe literally) because he's getting the star buildup big time. He's not untalented. Time will tell.