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Does the number of straight married men curious about gay sex surprise anyone?

On Reddit, there's a sub called r/ straightturnedgay that is all about straight men expressing their desire to suck dick and experiment with another man. It has about 200,000 members. A frightening number have wives and girlfriends.

Are straight men more open about their curiosity or has this always been the case?

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by Anonymousreply 69October 9, 2025 12:59 AM

NO and NO.

by Anonymousreply 1October 7, 2025 7:20 PM

Str8 men love to get their nut off, some do not care if they use a Gay Man!

They still claim to be str8 but love to get off.

by Anonymousreply 2October 7, 2025 7:23 PM

Always been the case. Straight men still want to experiment, as long as no one else finds out about it. As the Marines have been known to say, “A hard cock has no conscience.”

What they seem to love most is to be sucked off, since the women they’re with often refuse. But straight men are frequently amenable to experiment with anal, something they usually know nothing about. It’s enlightening to see their delight when they have their prostates massaged, or holes licked.

by Anonymousreply 3October 7, 2025 7:25 PM

Not me. If I had a nickle for every "straight" guy I had sex with Id buy an island. One thing no one ever talks about is how many boys hit puberty and mess around with other boys because its who they are around most. When you are a dorky teen with no appeal to a girl that blowjob from a friend is mighty enticing. Id vewnture to say most straight boys experiment but would die before admitting it. So later in life when they are horny and no pussy is available they think about that blowjob or that ass they got and its not such a big step to accept it again. Of course never speaking of it . Ive told the story many times on here of how in my lower working class neighborhood I went through those boys like a hot knife through butter. For just that reason.

by Anonymousreply 4October 7, 2025 7:26 PM

Gay porn is much more easily accessible today than it was before, so I wouldn't be surprised if there's been an uptick in men being intrigued by the homo-sex.

by Anonymousreply 5October 7, 2025 7:28 PM

ALL men love penis. Mainly their own

by Anonymousreply 6October 7, 2025 7:30 PM

That fucking scene on the couch was fucking HAWTTTTTT

by Anonymousreply 7October 7, 2025 7:32 PM

This is a typical post from that sub:

35 years old and married to a wonderful woman. But since I was about 20 years old, I’ve had curiosities I didn’t tell anyone about. And now it’s my truth. I’m a married man who is “straight.” I don’t have a romantic interest or attraction to men, but damn do I have a submissive thing for older cocks.

I finally gave in about a year and a half or two years ago, don’t remember the first day. And I’ve sucked a few since then. What I’ve learned, I’m ashamed to say; is that I can’t get a good BJ from my wife, but it’s not her fault.

She does a great job and I love her a lot. But when I’m laying back and receiving, two thoughts enter my mind that I can’t shake. 1) how if I were sucking, I’d do things differently and better. And 2) how much better men suck cock.

And then I think… how did I get here???

by Anonymousreply 8October 7, 2025 7:32 PM

I'd love to see his reaction to her going to other men to get her clit licked.

by Anonymousreply 9October 7, 2025 7:35 PM

Are you new here, OP?

If you'd spent any amount of time here, you'd have known by now: straight guys really dig the homosex.

According to DL lore, there's no such thing as a straight man. They're all into the "where the man goes up into the man."

by Anonymousreply 10October 7, 2025 7:37 PM

OP, Reddit is next to nothing in terms of straight men in the real world. Go touch grass.

by Anonymousreply 11October 7, 2025 7:38 PM

Not everyone is who they say they are on the internet.

by Anonymousreply 12October 7, 2025 7:40 PM

R12: This thread is enlightening. It's guys explaining how they developed a curiosity for cock.

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by Anonymousreply 13October 7, 2025 7:43 PM

Most of these guys are submissive bottoms with a dick fetish. Check out r/bisexualmen for more of that.

by Anonymousreply 14October 7, 2025 7:45 PM

I am not that way. But I do want to make black guys very happy.

by Anonymousreply 15October 7, 2025 7:49 PM

I am not selfish. When men tell me they want to get between my ladybugs, I obliged.

by Anonymousreply 16October 7, 2025 7:53 PM

Men may be more open to experimenting.

by Anonymousreply 17October 7, 2025 8:20 PM

I think that most " straight men" fall into some homosexual experience of some sort. I say homosexual because " gay " is a lifestyle- a form of expression that connects to homosexual feelings or desires. Thus one of the reason straight men never touch upon upon gay. They aren't gay. They don't live like gay men- Thank God- and they don't act with the same general stereotypes of gay men. But if you and Jake have been drinking and smoking all night, there was no pussy at the redneck bar worth having, but you are jacked up- the cold , dark cab of a pickup truck, and another hand or mouth giving you pleasure from someone who won't tell can be more enjoyable than " fucking some piece of ass".

by Anonymousreply 18October 7, 2025 8:28 PM

50% of those guys on Reddit just have not come out yet. Not straight at all. I have several friends who were married and even had kids before they came out years later. And not as Bi curious, but full on gay.

by Anonymousreply 19October 7, 2025 9:01 PM

Sexuality is on a spectrum. Even so-called exclusive heterosexuals aren't necessarily 0 out of 6 on the Kinsey scale. Many are 1-3, either had some thoughts are attraction to the same sex, or even acted on it on some level. Some men have even sucked dick or have gotten fucked at some point in their lives, and still consider themselves strictly straight.

by Anonymousreply 20October 7, 2025 10:34 PM

I know one later in life bisexual guy who claimed that being with another man was the most true and masculine realization of himself ??

by Anonymousreply 21October 7, 2025 10:37 PM

It’s the reason Grindr has exploded into Trans-ylvania. So many “straight” men want shemales.

by Anonymousreply 22October 7, 2025 10:42 PM

That reddit sub is filled with fiction. Gay reddit is obsessed with straight men.

by Anonymousreply 23October 7, 2025 10:42 PM

Straight men are gay men's kryptonite.

by Anonymousreply 24October 7, 2025 10:49 PM

My suspicion is, even if some of these are legit, they’re guys who were so heavily conditioned to be heteronormative they never considered sex with other men, although gay.

But I think most of it is sex fic written by gay guys fantasizing about hetero guys wanting gay sex, or even women who get off on gay male sex. There’s a surprising number of girls, especially Asian girls, who fetishize it.

by Anonymousreply 25October 7, 2025 10:49 PM

[quote]That fucking scene on the couch was fucking HAWTTTTTT

Cool your jets, JD / R7. We're talking about men fucking men ON couches.

by Anonymousreply 26October 7, 2025 10:49 PM

This is so not what I meant by Live Love Laugh!!

by Anonymousreply 27October 7, 2025 11:08 PM

Sometimes a guy just needs to suck some dick on the side.

by Anonymousreply 28October 8, 2025 12:09 AM

[quote]Sexuality is on a spectrum.

When I came out after college, I still had a lot of straight friends from the before times.

A surprising number of them started acting different around me even though I hadn’t changed.

Some of it was harmless, like asking what I thought of their outfits or telling me about their relationships. Some started opening up about their sex lives and asking about mine, sometimes with way too much detail. A few sent photos asking what I thought of them, photos clearly meant for women. Others would randomly take their shirts off or hang out naked or nearly naked while talking to me like it was nothing. (Which never happened with any of those guys before.)

One who swore he was straight kept trying to get me high so we could make out.

Most of them are married now. Some are divorced. I think a few were somewhere on the bi spectrum, or at least curious. Maybe some just felt safe being open with me since they knew I wasn’t going to call them names or make them feel weird for it.

Either way, it was strange. I didn’t want any of them. By that point I had known them too long. It mostly just showed me how blurry people’s lines can get when they finally feel like they can be honest about what they want.

by Anonymousreply 29October 8, 2025 12:29 AM

Considering what shrill harpies modern women are like, I'm not surprised sexually fluid men are weighing their options.

by Anonymousreply 30October 8, 2025 12:38 AM

Queers are just [italic] BETTER[/italic].

by Anonymousreply 31October 8, 2025 12:41 AM

I have horrible gaydar, but I see so many guys I want to open that conversation. Never have though...

by Anonymousreply 32October 8, 2025 1:17 AM

if there was no animus for being homosexual, gay men would be 25% of the country.

by Anonymousreply 33October 8, 2025 1:33 AM

Same-sex play is, to “straight” men, simply an athletic act that gets them off physically—like a fucking great gym workout.

by Anonymousreply 34October 8, 2025 2:06 AM

R29, when you came out to them, you became a new way to for them to confirm their attractiveness.

by Anonymousreply 35October 8, 2025 2:41 AM

R/BiMarriedMen also has tons of members.

by Anonymousreply 36October 8, 2025 3:19 AM

Op, they're called closet cases.

by Anonymousreply 37October 8, 2025 3:29 AM

I have been with more "straight" guys who later married women than I have actual men who identified as gay. The first one was my high school boyfriend (we weren't out but I'm sure most assumed). He and I were together for three years and everything was great especially the sex but we later lost touch and he married and had a daughter and is living the typical suburban family lifestyle in another state. The rest of the guys I was with ended up marrying as well. Maybe I turned them straight?

by Anonymousreply 38October 8, 2025 3:35 AM

I think there are simply a lot of men out there who are truly bisexual but want the domestic family experience that comes with having a wife and kids, which a gay relationship won't typically bring them. They have to make a choice, and I think 99% opt for the wife and children over their enjoyment of fucking dudes. Most of them tend to sexually dabble with men in their twenties and "get it out of their system" so to speak before settling down with a woman. These types are the real, true heartbreakers for many us of gay men.

by Anonymousreply 39October 8, 2025 3:40 AM

Does this mean if the women are choosing the bear, the men are choosing the cock?

by Anonymousreply 40October 8, 2025 4:45 AM

I'm sure that was true roughly 30 years ago, r39. Everyone knows that two men can raise a family and live a boring domestic life if that's what they both want. The institutional barriers to gay people having that lifestyle are gone, for now.

I think many bi guys end up with women because that side of the dating pool is so much larger no matter where they live. If they go to a party where there are five attractive gay men and thirty attractive straight women, the bi guy is probably going home with a woman.

There are bi men who are in serious relationships with men but they get ignored because they don't fit into the "bi men prefer women" narrative.

by Anonymousreply 41October 8, 2025 8:00 AM

First of all, those are NOT straight men. They're gay men who've been forcing themselves to live a heterosexual life for whatever reason(s), usually family related. True straight men don't suddenly decide they're interested in engaging in gay sex.

by Anonymousreply 42October 8, 2025 11:46 AM

Is this the dumbest post in DL history? I think it might be.

by Anonymousreply 43October 8, 2025 11:51 AM

"Guys, did you hear? There's this thing they call 'the closet?' It's when a straight person, like, a straight [italic]guy[/italic] with a wife and kids and all, is secretly into sex with other men. Can you believe it? I'm not sure if I buy it. Do you think it's real? There's a reddit and everything. I just don't know. What do you think?

by Anonymousreply 44October 8, 2025 12:50 PM

[quote]When I came out after college, I still had a lot of straight friends from the before times.

The what?

by Anonymousreply 45October 8, 2025 1:25 PM

r42

[quote] True straight men don't suddenly decide they're interested in engaging in gay sex.

Ah, the "No True Scotsman" fallacy! Charming.

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by Anonymousreply 46October 8, 2025 1:51 PM

It's always just seemed like common sense to me that at least some straight men, and really probably many, would be bi-curious. I don't know why the very idea is such a trauma to some gay men. That the slightest thought of another guy's cock makes them gay, gay, gay, 100% gay, repressed, admit your true nature, leave your wife and head to the nearest gay bar. Sometimes I'm sure it's just sex and curiosity. Not sure why that is even surprising to anyone.

by Anonymousreply 47October 8, 2025 2:23 PM

Straight men are known to fuck produce and farm animals. Straight men have been known to fuck men if the conditions are right. See "prison" or "british boarding school." This is known. It's long past debatable. Some straight men just see a hole as a hole. Straight men are fucking pigs. No, literally, they'll fuck a pig if it comes to it.

But straight men don't join a reddit full of extreme closeups of male-on-male anal penetration to post breathlessly and repeatedly about their unrelenting desire to suck other men's cocks. That's a closet case.

by Anonymousreply 48October 8, 2025 2:27 PM

If you're a man & you have sex with other men, you are gay or bisexual, you are NOT straight.

How many times do we have to go over this?

by Anonymousreply 49October 8, 2025 2:34 PM

Fine, they are miscategorized r49. They are at least slightly bisexual, like most men probably are. But most think of themselves as basically straight. So what? What should they do now that the vital truth of their bisexuality has been revealed to them? Join a club? Get a badge? March in the Bi-Curious parade? Or get on with their largely straight lives with occasional man-man sex on the side, as has happened for millennia.

by Anonymousreply 50October 8, 2025 2:40 PM

If a gay man fucked the girl he called his "girlfriend"in high school but was really just a beard he used to avoid being outed, is he not gay? Is he bi?

by Anonymousreply 51October 8, 2025 2:41 PM

There's another sub called /r/straightspouses that is sort of the response to this one. It's mostly women finding gay porn and Grindr on their boyfriend's phone. It's pretty sad.

by Anonymousreply 52October 8, 2025 2:45 PM

r30, gay men are the new tradwives.

by Anonymousreply 53October 8, 2025 3:00 PM

R49 is an example of someone not using any critical thinking and completely unable to see any kind of nuance. People are much, much more complex than your binary description.

by Anonymousreply 54October 8, 2025 3:02 PM

Most people are at least a little bisexual.

That includes most gay men.

by Anonymousreply 55October 8, 2025 3:10 PM

r49 See r46 . You don't get to define something according to your own fancies and then expect the rest of the world to align itself with whatever self-serving thing you've cooked up.

by Anonymousreply 56October 8, 2025 3:12 PM

If this is the new trend, how does one go about becoming a friendly ambassador?

by Anonymousreply 57October 8, 2025 3:18 PM

Create a grindr profile, R57.

by Anonymousreply 58October 8, 2025 3:19 PM

R57, join Sniffies.

by Anonymousreply 59October 8, 2025 3:22 PM

Reddit is basically Penthouse Forum.

by Anonymousreply 60October 8, 2025 3:24 PM

R51, in college I fucked anything that would have me. I had multiple girlfriends and ate a mean pussy but there was no emotional connection to women.

Because of my history, I believe I am a Kinsey 5.

by Anonymousreply 61October 8, 2025 3:25 PM

You all have always had these great stories but in my 45 years on earth, straight guys LOVE pussy and gay guys have been really gay...

I would love to meet these men of whom you speak!

by Anonymousreply 62October 8, 2025 3:25 PM

"People are much, much more complex than your binary description."

People are capable of making complex rationalizations for their most ridiculous behaviors and actions.

Yours is a prime example of this. Muddying the waters to make something quite simple seem very complex and complicated. Kind of self-serving, no?

by Anonymousreply 63October 8, 2025 3:28 PM

I like deep-throating cock and licking man ass.. NO HOMO

by Anonymousreply 64October 8, 2025 4:52 PM

Some of the fraus from that straightspouse sub are Helen Keller blind. Like this one:

"I think my bf is gay

He never wants to kiss and when we do kiss itd normally just a peck no intimacy. He has to be drunk and in the mood to have sex which is rare. He constantly talks about women but it seems more like overcompensating. He hardly ever (maybe once a year) goes down on me. He wants head more than sex and acts like sex is more of a favor to me than something he wants. Everything has to be planned beforehand. He will reject me if I am wearing lingerie even named he's rejected me for sex. Even when we plan on having sex a lot of times he'll tell me to wait so he can smoke more or say he isn't in the mood."

by Anonymousreply 65October 8, 2025 7:12 PM

Search "Red Dragon Cheddar", r43.

by Anonymousreply 66October 8, 2025 8:06 PM

R9 = frau

by Anonymousreply 67October 8, 2025 8:55 PM

When will everyone realize that sexuality is more flexible than we've been led to believe? It is only religious, cultural and social taboos that have tamped down, psychologically and behaviorally, very effectively, these natural desires. The more I read I become more convinced that this is the case.

What about all of those men whose dominantly homosexual orientation still allowed them to marry and father children?

by Anonymousreply 68October 8, 2025 10:52 PM

It's interesting that many of those guys claim to only be attracted to cock. Hmmmmm.

by Anonymousreply 69October 9, 2025 12:59 AM
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