Should you reply to a Thank You note?

The second poll option should say “No, the Thank You was the ending.”

You're really working this a little too hard for someone who doesn't want to clog other people's views with crap, Miss Turdellino.

[quite]'Beware of writing to me. I always answer . . . my father spent the last 20 years of his life writing letters. If someone thanked him for a present, he thanked them for thanking him and there was no end to the exchange but death.'

--Evelyn Waugh, letter to Diana Mosley

Of course!

Everybody likes to be thanked for something they've done.

I frequently write letters of recommendation for current and former students.

I never forget those students who thank me with a handwritten card.

Ugh, not sure what happened to the signature line in r6

No, the protocol is that the exchange ends with the thank you note. Otherwise it would never end.

After my father died my uncle called to yell at me for not sending THANK YOU notes to his friends who sent sympathy notes. This was after I was at my father's side during an agonizing five year illness. Never spoke to him after that.

I think if if it's just "thanks for the update" or some quick message, no response is required.

But if someone wrote a sincere thank you (thank you for working through the weekend to help me out/thank you for backing me when the boss jumped down my throat, etc), then a response of some kind seems appropriate ("I was glad to help/I felt like Mr. Asshole needed to hear another voice", etc). You acknowledge what they're (probably heartfelt) thanks and affirm your support.

^*their* not "they're

After the thank you note, the next time you see the person or speak to them on the phone, you can mention that you received it and reiterate that you were happy to do whatever you did to get the thank you note. With sympathy cards, the next time you see or speak to the person, you can thank them for thinking of you in a difficult time. That's more than enough.

I have friends who always send me a thank you note after I have them to dinner. So I reciprocate when they have me to dinner. But otherwise, if it's the sort of thing where there will be the occasional reciprocated lunch or dinner, I think most people these days are happy to get a text, an email, or a phone call thanking them, and reiterating that you're looking forward to hosting them soon.

I've been on the fence with this so many times, especially with emails

You should say thank you!

My dad and I share the same birthday.

Upon reaching adulthood, I would send my dad a card with money in it. He'd do the same for me.

After about 10 years of this nonsense, my father suggested we skip the card and money and just phone each other on our birthday.

r5 Thank you for your post!

This is such an Uncle Bottom question.

[quote]This is such an Uncle Bottom question.

Well, perhaps, but with all the violence, anger & disconnect in the world that seems to get worse almost every day, it has made me think about "being the change you want to see in the world" and that starts with recognizing and thanking other people. Not just in a "thx" email response, but actually telling someone that something they did made a difference to you and it's appreciated.

I was invited to someone’s house for coffee. That was 4 days ago do I say thank you via a text ? I said thank you as I left. Tia!