Ok, i was asked by this up and coming musician if I'd work with him. I have some standing in the business and I try to help if I can. He was very keen; constantly messaging me; i often didnt even reply as hed message so much. Then I set a date to meet up, and up to 2 days beforehand he was really eager. He sent 3 messages that night with stuff like this will be Big. Then, the night b4 we were to meet he asked a bizarre question, one that seemed like he was hesitant for the first time. He asked what exactly wud we be doing? I found this bizarre and so i replied, we'll be doing what we said we'd be doing ... and i reiterated what we had agreed on already; (we'd already spoken about what we wud do). Then he says he just wanted to make sure he didn't waste the 2 hour round trip. Then he mentioned a possible gig he cud do, as he's broke. This sent alarm bells off and it didnt read as the truth. No one lijes to feel theyre being lied to. But I Can jump to conclusions so I said ok, well don't miss out on a gig, im free other than this Friday. He replys " ok man." Then radio silence. A week later I asked him what's up and I got this very formal reply that he's very busy and hopefully we can work together in the future. Am I the only one finding this odd? So I replied, what's going on, are u ok, has something happened....and that was 4 days ago, with no reply; though he's seen the message. Here's the thing, do i let it go or ask him to man up and tell me why the 180 turn? The reason im bothered is I can't help wondering has someone bad mouthed me and if so, thats my professional reputation; is it my duty to get to ask him to be honest .....or should I Let it go? What do you DL people think is up?
Let it go?
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | August 22, 2025 7:41 PM |
What have you heard about this guy? Does he have a rep for being a flake? I would just let it go.
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | August 22, 2025 3:32 PM |
Keep your “cud” to yourself, cow!
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | August 22, 2025 3:37 PM |
Did you text or email him, OP?
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | August 22, 2025 3:38 PM |
[quote]and so I replied
Did you reply to him using the shitty English you've used here?
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | August 22, 2025 4:07 PM |
This isn't Quora, OP.
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | August 22, 2025 4:18 PM |
People are strange.
You offered to help and the guy threw up some yellow flags.
So the ending, while odd, didn’t come totally out of the blue, even if it seems bizarre from someone who was overly excited initially.
I’d let it go. If you do finally hear from the guy and he again sounds eager to proceed with you, that’s when you can ask him to clarify what the heck happened.
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | August 22, 2025 4:23 PM |
If he had said, "I'm really sorry, I got a gig, I have to do it, I'm broke--but I still want to get together with you soon. Sorry if I messed up your plans" If he seemed sorry and continued to be eager about working with you, that would be one thing. But he obviously blew you off, after showing a lot of enthusiasm, originally. And you were all set to give up a chunk of time to work with him.
I don't know, but I'd say maybe it was a warning and you ought to heed it, that this guy is selfish, he doesn't care about your time, he's not respectful. You could ask him why he did it, to satisfy your curiosity, which you may need to do. He may give you more bullshit excuses, and that is what you will need to finally realize he's not worth it, and you can move on, more enlightened.
But anyway, he seems like someone you don't need.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | August 22, 2025 4:37 PM |
He initiated this whole thing. Now he's flaking. Let it go.
Don't waste your time and energy trying to understand what happened. Move on.
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | August 22, 2025 5:24 PM |
All the communication was in the form of messaging? There's only so much intent you can discern from a text message.
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | August 22, 2025 5:28 PM |
You lost me at b4.
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | August 22, 2025 5:32 PM |
I just think things are moving too fast, bro. Do you have any dick pics?
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | August 22, 2025 6:23 PM |
[quote] Then, the night b4 we were to meet he asked a bizarre question, one that seemed like he was hesitant for the first time. He asked what exactly wud we be doing? I found this bizarre and so i replied, we'll be doing what we said we'd be doing ... and i reiterated what we had agreed on already; (we'd already spoken about what we wud do).
Huh?
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | August 22, 2025 6:31 PM |
An amateur or newbie anxious to get ahead in the profession would not be put off by someone bad-mouthing you (because, bad-mouthing or not, it's his only live chance), so I don't think that's it. To me it sounds more like someone who has oversold his abilities to you and now, realizing that, doesn't want to "prove" that he oversold his abilities to you by actually showing up.
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | August 22, 2025 6:32 PM |
He could've invited you to the gig. Or you could invite yourself (or be creepy and just show-up!)
I used to get, "Listen, I need to meet some friends for coffee- but it was nice meeting you". I wish I'd said, "Oh I'd love to join you".
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | August 22, 2025 7:41 PM |