Gay men are feeling exhausted with *Dickdraining" in their relationships

Since the term "mankeeping” was introduced in a 2024 research paper by Stanford University sociologist Angelica Ferrara, it has landed squarely in the 2025 zeitgeist.

But the next memes are likely to identified in the context of gay and lesbian relationships.

Dickdraining referrs to the emotional and physical labor that gay men often do for their male partners. The concept has since polarized gay couples, particularly long-term partners and married gays, and sparked TikTok debates and inspired comment-section screeds. Think: gay men who must drain their partners dicks as frequently as they must fluff pillows, freshen tablescapes, and stock the bar in pool cabana.

After learning about dickdraining from social media or buzzy articles, many gay men have felt seen, vindicated — finally, a word to describe one of the hard-to-quantify exhaustive tasks of being in a homosexual relationship!

And it doesn't stop with dickdraining.

Editors and webmasters in gay media have received an avalanche of meme-ready complaints about the downsides of maintaining a secure and stable gay relationship.

This thread is dedicated to a discussion of all the relationship challenges today's gay couples must bring out of the shadows for a public airing out.