How do I ask a guy out at my gym

If he’s interested,, let him ask you.

Want to go out for a drink? Coffee, tea, wine, anything?

The worst that can happen is that he will say no. Not a big deal, you move on.

I remember being a 7 or 8 and asking guys who were a 12 on a scale of 1 to 10. I don't think I was ever turned down.

r4 points out a very real dynamic. Many really attractive people get hit on less than lesser attractive people BECAUSE everyone is afraid of rejection.

When I was dating my gorgeous, brilliant, 19-year-old ex (I was 40 -- it lasted a year, and *she* came on to *me*), I once asked her how I ended up in relationships with extremely beautiful women when I was oh-so-average looking.

You know what she told me?

"You act like you deserve them."

Simple as that, OP.

R3 has it right. I mean granted, if he turns OP down, it could be awkward for both going forward — they might start avoiding each other at the gym or, worse, one might feel compelled to change gyms altogether.

But you know what, OP? So fucking what — I say go for it anyway. It’s just an invitation to do something together outside the gym. You don’t even have to frame it as a “date” at first, just two new friends making time to hang out together. If the chemistry is there, the rest will just evolve naturally (and even if it doesn’t, that’s okay, too). The bottom line is, if you don’t ask him, you’ll be mad at yourself for the rest of your life.

“Hey guy, you is cute! Whatcha packing down there? Looks nice can I see?” “Listen bro, I don’t swing that way. Do it again and you’ll be calling the police first.”

Lift up your muu-muu and show him your quite ample gunt.

Suggestion: Don't ask him out on an official date yet. First ask him for coffee after the gym...or to breakfast or lunch (no dinner yet) depending on what time of day you work out.

The following might even be less intimidating than asking him to dinner: If you have tickets to a local play, you may consider asking him to join you. Something like, "I have an extra ticket to this show in town, would you like to join me?" This seems like less of an official date, and more like something you're doing impromptu and that he also might enjoy.