Let’s be a gay hookup site / app

I’m the ghosting.

I'm a vers top and the reason I'm curious about the other guy's dick is that I love sucking. I want that thing in my mouth even if I'm topping. OP really went after vers tops.

Coild somebody explain the ghosting thing? Guys that will spend hours talking, setting up a meeting, you ask for address and they disappear? Is this like a psychological thing? Is there a sexual charge in doing that sort of thing that they get ? It’s really common and sometimes seems like they make up at least half the guys online. It’s really bizarre

I think it's a just a fantasy and they don't have the balls to meet with anyone, r3. They're too nervous, ugly, in a relationship etc.

I am the Eastern European con artist with the stolen pictures of some twunk, who wants to start this beautiful friendship off this app, since I am rarely online. Do you have Telegram or What’s App, or perhaps you could share your phone number.

I’m the guy seeking a monogamous relationship who greets you with an nude pic.

i'm the bot chat

I'm the same tired, weary old faces populating your grid.

I’m Fazza from Dubai.

I'm the Asian bots. "Hey sexy, what are you looking for on here?". I get about 5 a day. Hong Shu, Ham Li, Kam, etc. All of them 2 miles away. I didn't know Asia was that close to NYC.

NSFW pics - Never. Then wtf are you doing on here?

95% of men on hookup apps are bottoms (many closeted married) looking to have their mussies ravaged by a masculine daddy. That's it; don't let them fool you into any other persona. They topped once forty years ago at Band Camp.

Many have never been with a man before. Someone upthread was right: it's probably just going to stay a fantasy for them. The posting and conversation is all they need to get off.

I'm the 60 year old obese bear who lacks any crumb of self awareness. I demand you be a total top, you need to be able to fuck for at least two hours, non smoker and "fit". Sorry, no fats or fems and only guys under 40. No exceptions!

I request you unlock pics. You better have a full body show. What's your weight? I also need pics of you from behind. NO, I never share face pics online! But you better have a face pic!

I'm the guy who contacts you with no photos or stats in my profile even though your profile states you'll only reply to profiles with photos and stats. I message you weekly on average and always request that you unlock your photos. I never get the hint and you finally end up blocking me.

3 months later I create a new profile and the dance begins anew...

I'm 4,368 miles away. Unlock?

I’m the adult diaper person who pretends to be normal at first, then drops the bomb.

I'm the 20 profiles of Olivia HugeC with the same picture and profile ranging from one to ten miles away all online at the same time.

Or I'm the 23 year old "Dom Daddy" who wants to film with you but only if you subscribe to his Only Fans.

Or I'm the "I don't check here much, contact me on my socials." I usually have [firstname] XXL as my name.

Or I'm the "Make sure you are okay with what I do before you contact me. Fine me on justhole.com."

Lastly, I'm the "Failed to Refresh" that plagues my grid.

There's a difference between the way these apps used to work and how they work now.

There's far more "chatters" now. This includes hot guys with verifiable good pics and instagram, not just the uglies. If they end the night jacking off to some other guy's pics or vids, that's often good enough for them.

We've reached the point where hooking up is seen as a hassle to many.

I'm the rejection from the guy who clearly think he's hotter than you when he's not.

I'm also the rejection said guy gets when he goes for guys who deem themselves hotter than him.

And so it continues.

I am the picture from 2010 that looks nothing like me in person.

R21 Heh. Just to drop out of the theme for a second, I agree. I fire up the dating apps every once in a while and there are at least two guys who must always be on there because I instantly recognise their photos and they've never changed said photos in at least 10 years.

I'm the 40 pounds you can't see from the head shot.

I'm a lazy whore.

Gen?

Yes, I obviously have a working smart phone with a camera. No, I don't have any more pics to share.

I'm the set of pictures. The first primary pic is the best this queen will ever look and may be from the Obama era. The pics get progressively worse until the last one in which the resemblance to Baby Jane is noticable.

[quote] Coild somebody explain the ghosting thing?

I think most guys engage in conversation when they're really horny. When the horniness subsides they're like, what was I thinking. Now they're not interested anymore and they ignore you. That's my version and I'll stick to it.

"The ghosting thing" could mean anything. It could mean someone messaged you repeatedly, indicating potential interest, then blocked you. Or it could mean an annoying troll bombarding someone uninterested with multiple messages and then flouncing off over being "ghosted." The first example is true ghosting and psychotic behavior, the second example is obviously not, but many interpret it that way to make themselves feel better over what was actually a pretty clear rejection.

It could also mean someone you engaged with once or twice for a simple back and forth, like an exchange about sexual preferences or maybe to share photos, who then decided, for their own entirely valid personal reasons, that they didn't need to continue the conversation. Since this is a hookup app and not a debutante ball, most adults can take a hint and most actually prefer a non-response to a direct rejection. YMMV, but this is not ghosting. It's the equivalent of signaling disinterest in person, like avoiding someone's gaze at bar or moving to a different seat if they approach.

Every rejection doesn't require an explicit, verbal appeal. Just because you find someone attractive doesn't make you entitled to their time and attention. People can just make their disinterest clear by not engaging and moving on. No response is a response.

R27 also occurs when you expected an A cup and see double Ds

Unlocked photos reveal an unmentioned cross dressing fetish.

R17 Ive actually used that to shoo guys away who wont take no for an answer.

R31 I just tell them I’m straight.

I am the constant badgering for more pics despite you having 10 pics up on your profile. Can I see your asshole> How about a dick pick of you holding a remote next to it? Do a close up of your face. Is that a scar or a sore?

That's such a turn off, r33. I'd rather get rejected than go through someone's weird audition process. It's always the average-looking people with two or three photos who do this.

Why did you block me?

I'm the guy with a very explicit profile on a sex - not dating - website, who gets HIGHLY offended if you send an unsolicited dick pic in the midst of a flirty conversation.

How dare you. I did not consent to that.

I’m sniffies. You can brag about your dick size here.

I'm the day before my 50th birthday. The last day I visited an app. My dance card was filled with long running fuck buddies. Those dwindle through my 50s, as the hotter ones don't want to fuck a 50 something year old. I'm down to three old reliables when Covid strikes.

I hope Heidi gets her way and throws all 3 off the show. They can bring back another contestant from the old years who was good.

I'm 42 online but clearly north of 60 when I open my door. All of my photos are from 2002.

I’m the guy you’re chatting with at 1030am on a Sunday morning. You’re maybe hoping for a nice Sunday sex romp in lieu of brunch, but it becomes less cute as you realize I’m high as fuck, and I’ve been up all night and tweaking since 4am.

I'm the guy 5000 miles away who worships you like a god. I'm also the guy up the block who totally ignores you.

I'm the cute guy who seems normal and you're about to message him, then as you're flicking through his pics he's in a negligee, garter belt and panties.

PASS

I am the profile that lists I am open to all types but reject anyone who does not look like Jeremy Allen White in his Calvin.

I am the person you politely rejected who seems fine with it but constantly messages you hoping to wear you down.

I am all the black dudes who categorize themselves as "mixed"

I'm all the black dudes who have to put mixed because of racism.

R47

I'm all the Asian / Black / whatever guys who don't fill in the ethnicity section and have all their photos in black and white.

I'm the totally free to download app that is next to useless unless you pay some outrageous fee.

I'm the guy who wants to be shrunk and hidden inside your sock.

I'm the trans with several "cute" "girlie" outfits messaging people who say they're looking for jocks / masc guys.

I'm sure sure you'll change your mind when you see little old me!

I'm the top who can host no problem.

I don't exist.

I'm the cum a guy just shot while chatting and looking at your pics.

Excuse me while I'm cleaned up with his sock just before he blocks you.

I'm the "virgin" who wants you to fuck him for the very first time.

I'm been on here since 2015.

OMG the trans looking for a hot masculine jock. Might as well wish for a unicorn.

Actually scrub that

I'm the "straight" "virgin" who has never been with a guy before and would like you to be the one to take his gay virginity.

I've been on this app since 2005.

R3 Ghosting = once they have the fantasy of you and your dick in their minds, it's enough to make them cum, then they're done.

Same with CL, or phone sex in the 80s/90s. The majority of guys just want to shoot their loads without further time, effort or fuss.....without actually meeting.

I'm the white racist policing how non-whites describe their race.

I see a ton of masculine jocks on the reddit hookup subs who are looking for trans, r55. The sub covering my local military base is especially horny for mtfs, CDs and fem boys.

Not everyone in the world is a transphobic senior citizen.

[quote]The sub covering my local military base is especially horny for mtfs, CDs and fem boys.

None of those are trans, babe.

R59, curious what kind of trans are most of them looking for… “chicks with dicks” or “otters/cubs with pussies”?

Mtfs are trans, r60. I included to the other two because they're trans-adjacent and also desired by very masculine men.

There seems to be a strong preference for mtfs or "chicks with dicks" as you put it, r61. I think they want to bang someone who looks traditionally fem.