I think my partner has ADD

Uh, like end the relationship. Because if you don't you will eventually kill him and you don't want that. He will never ever change. Well maybe with years of therapy but do you want to wait for years while he drives you crazy wasting your years? I don't think so.

Thoughts to ponder- Does he give it to you good and hard? Is he pleasing to look at& does he smile when he falls asleep on the deck or sofa? Do animals like him?

OP what is he like otherwise? Does he treat you well? Pay his way? Is he kind to you and others? Is he affectionate, stable, honest, generous? And of course as R2 points out, does he fuck good?

If the answer to all or even most of the above is yes, he's a keeper, I would have given my eye teeth to have a partner that just had ADD when I was with my alcoholic ex. Sometimes the devil you know is WAY better than the devil you dont. Sometimes you gotta stand back and look at what you got and realise you got reasons to be grateful for what you got flaws and all

Yes, he has ADD.

No, don't kill him if he has any of the qualities above. You may have to direct him more clearly and definitively. Set timelines. If it's severe, he could get Ritalin and become Superhuman. Is he Aspy?

Was with someone for 25 years who had ADD or ADHD. But also OCD, so he cleaned compulsively, but with anger. Should have left him sooner for so many other reasons, but he was "the devil I knew".

ADD in a partner when you’re OCD yourself

Op hes the top right? He just knows he has a wife like you to clean up after him.

Well if you are that crazy about him, give up, give in and be his old-fashioned wife 24/7.

[quote]Should I kill him?

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Killing him might be a bit extreme, give him a good spanking, then, post pics of his firetruck red bottom on Datalounge, everybody wins!

[quote]Should I kill him?

Can you make it look like an accident OP? If so, then yes.

Be up front with him about your opinion and ask him to see a doctor. If he agrees and it is determined that he does have ADD you may just have made his life infinitely better. If he refuses, well then you have to make the decision of whether to stick it out or move on from him.

Sounds more like rabies than ADD. Or maybe worms.

Good questions from R2, R3 and good advice from R11. It sounds like ADD — and there could also be just an extremely different level of caring / not caring about the neatness and cleanliness of your home.

Do you both have enough money to spend that you could hire a biweekly housecleaning person? That can be a real help. And you might feel less resentment if he can contribute to paying this person even though he lacks the awareness, much less the motivation, to do any of it himself.

It's not ADD, he's must not one of your fans. He will do what he wants when he wants and you telling him what to do just pisses him off even more. Stop being such a dramatic control freak.