Dear Prudence: My Twin and I are GAY! How Do We Tell Our Family?

Having brothers who are also gay is not out of the ordinary. I have several brothers. My oldest brother and I (the third brother) are gay. He came out to the family before I did.

Dear Prudence, My fraternal twin and I (both men) are in our late 30s. We were always extremely close and shared a bedroom growing up. When we were 12 we gradually started experimenting sexually with each other.

After a couple of years, we realized we had fallen in love. Of course we felt guilty and ashamed, and we didn’t dare tell anyone what we were doing. We hoped it was “just a phase” that we’d grow out of, but we wound up sleeping together until we left for college. We knew this could ruin our lives, so we made a pact to end it. We attended schools far apart and limited our contact to family holidays. But we never fell out of love with each other, so after graduation we moved in together and have been living very discreetly as a monogamous couple ever since.

I’m not writing to you to pass moral judgment on our relationship—we’re at peace and very happy. Our dilemma is how to deal with our increasingly nosy family and friends. They know we’re gay, and we live in a state where same-sex marriage is legal, so we’re getting pressure to settle down.

I feel we should continue being discreet for the rest of our lives and blow off their questions. It’s nobody’s business, and I fear they would find our relationship shocking and disgusting. My brother, though, is exhausted with this charade. He thinks that if we get the family together with a therapist to talk through the issues, they’ll eventually accept it. I think he’s out of his mind, but I also want to make him happy.

Is this one of those times when honesty is not the best policy? If so, how do we get everyone to stop worrying we will die alone? I’m also concerned about the legal implications of this—would the therapist be required to report us to the authorities? Could we go to prison?

—Tired of This Greek Tragicomedy

Dear Greek, I admit this is my first letter about homosexual, incestuous twins, but I’m going to take you at your word that you two are happy and that I should suppress the images that came to mind of two sets of brothers who lived together and came to unseemly ends: the pack-rat Collyer brothers and the twin gynecologist Marcus brothers.

Let’s deal with your legal questions first. I spoke to Dan Markel, a professor at Florida State University College of Law. He said that while incest is generally illegal in most jurisdictions, the laws tend to be enforced in a way that would protect minors, prevent sexual abuse, and address imbalances of power. Those aren’t at issue in your consensual adult relationship, but Markel suggests you have a consultation with a criminal defense attorney (don’t worry, the discussion would be confidential) to find out if your relationship would come under the state incest statutes.

Either way, it’s better to know, and if it is illegal, as long as you remain discreet the likelihood of prosecution is remote.

Next, I suggest that you and your brother split the difference in your approach to family and friends. Blowing people off for the next couple of decades is only going to fan the flames of curiosity. But I also agree with you that having a family gathering in which you announce you two have found life partners—each other—will give everyone the vapors.

Ultimately your choice is your business, but a limited version of the truth should back everyone off. When people ask when you’re each going to go out there and find a nice young man, tell them that while it may seem unorthodox, you both have realized that living together is what works for you. Say no brothers could be more devoted or compatible, and neither of you can imagine wanting to change what you have.

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Why the FUCK did you title your own thread so misleadingly, jackass OP?

The problem isn't that the twins are gay (they are both "out" and accepted by their family), it's that they've been fucking since they were teens, and are currently in an incestuous relationship with each other.

Oh, and this never happened.

I can picture gay twin brothers sexually experimenting with one another during puberty, but not falling in love and becoming a committed couple.

The line "It’s nobody’s business, and I fear they would find our relationship shocking and disgusting" practically gives it away as MAGA fiction.

Check for the New Haven postmark, toots.

Did you even look at the year of that article? 2012!!!

"A boy's best friend is his brother"

Incest is best

[quote]r7 The line "It’s nobody’s business, and I fear they would find our relationship shocking and disgusting" practically gives it away as MAGA fiction.

I like the lofty, “I’m not writing to you to pass moral judgment on our relationship— “

This does make me remember a pair of IDENTICAL preppy twins I used to wait on in NYC. They were about 30 and dressed in the same style with the same haircuts, always ordering the same things. I would scamper about my station in enchantment when they came in, and I’d openly stare and question them as if they were a sideshow attraction.

Once I was rattling off a list of available desserts and their eyes lit up at exactly the same time when I got to Apple Pie.

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R7 Don't be pissy with me, just because no one here believes the stories you write to Prudence, Savage Love, and Penthouse Forum.

This type of letter about gay identical twins dating each other has been going around for decades. I remember reading about one in the 80s and in the 90s.

Never heard of an actual case like this being true in the gay community.

It always had a 'gays are narcissists and immoral' feel to it.

Sounds hot tbh.

[italic]My little NY twins were not living in sin together!