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Hygiene

Why do some of y'all not clean yourselves before hooking up with someone like it's literally not that hard clean your 🍑 and take a shower also put on like a body spray this applies to both tops and bottoms also clean your bed and house before you let someone come over

by Anonymousreply 26July 20, 2025 4:11 PM

This is an issue with some people of all genders and sexual orientations. I've hooked up with some hoes who were rather musty. And we met on Tinder. They had a chance to make sure their ass was clean.

I'm like a cat, very focused on being clean. I'd never show up with stank dick or something.

by Anonymousreply 1July 20, 2025 1:04 AM

Y’all???

by Anonymousreply 2July 20, 2025 1:04 AM

Clean the ENTIRE house? Windows? Fridge?

by Anonymousreply 3July 20, 2025 1:05 AM

The wasted cry of a dirty-butt queen in denial.

by Anonymousreply 4July 20, 2025 1:10 AM

little pills of toilet tissue trapped in anal fur...

by Anonymousreply 5July 20, 2025 1:24 AM

No body spray or deodorant. I don’t want to lick that shit when I’m getting to know you. Have a shower before I get there and my tongue gets busy.

by Anonymousreply 6July 20, 2025 1:36 AM

Girl when you have a sodomy date you know that he is likely only will see three rooms maximum your living room, bathroom and bedroom. It's not that hard keep those areas uncluttered and have the ability to spend maybe 15 and 20 minutes tidying up prior to his arrival. Quick wipe down of the bathroom basin toilet and shower with some disinfecting wipes. Unclutter your your bathroom vanity. Make sure you shower thoroughly using a deodorant / antibacterial soap so so your come out as clean as a whistle.

One thing I do is if my bed linens have been in place for four or five days ( I usually wash bed linens once a week ) he has to give the entire bed a quick spray of disinfectant including the pillows , top sheet and comforter. Make sure that my bedside table is uncluttered and that lube, poppers and any toys are within reach and clean. I locked my Siamese up in the spare bedroom because she likes to sit on the dresser and watch and be judgmental.

by Anonymousreply 7July 20, 2025 1:38 AM

Clean that swamp ass too!

by Anonymousreply 8July 20, 2025 1:38 AM

What r6 said. Hate the taste of Mennen speed stick. Fresh sweat, or even any sweat I generated, is just fine

by Anonymousreply 9July 20, 2025 1:42 AM

[quote] I locked my Siamese up in the spare bedroom because she likes to sit on the dresser and watch and be judgmental.

This made me laugh. So true.

by Anonymousreply 10July 20, 2025 1:45 AM

R10 i had a trick leave right in the middle of things cuz my cat was staring. i found it amusing.

by Anonymousreply 11July 20, 2025 1:52 AM

[quote] Girl when you have a sodomy date you know that he is likely only will see three rooms maximum your living room, bathroom and bedroom. It's not that hard keep those areas uncluttered and have the ability to spend maybe 15 and 20 minutes tidying up prior to his arrival. Quick wipe down of the bathroom basin toilet and shower with some disinfecting wipes. Unclutter your your bathroom vanity.

I once had a hookup use my bathroom after sex, and he actually came back to me afterwards and said, "Your bathroom is ON POINT." He had a big smile on his face.

Lol.

I was quite proud of that.

And yes, I always make sure that those three areas (whoever wrote that is absolutely correct ) - living room, bathroom and bedroom - are nice and tidy before a hook up comes over.

The weird thing is that because of my OCD nature, having to not only tidy up, but also make sure that I am hygienically presentable, I've had people cancel on me!

They told me that I was "taking too long," which is so weird to me.

Some guys on Grindr have insisted that we have to meet RIGHT NOW. Do they not realize that at the very least, I have to shower first??

Which makes me question their own hygiene.

by Anonymousreply 12July 20, 2025 1:58 AM

R11 we have a dog and two cats. They are all banished from the bedroom at certain times. The male dog thinks we are playing, which we are but.., and tries to join in, followed by his best bud the male cat, who then sees the cuddling, and the female cat watches from a distance with a "mother superior" scowl.

By now they are used to being led out

by Anonymousreply 13July 20, 2025 1:59 AM

AMBER SPOOGE DRIPPINGS IS NOT LUBE!!!

by Anonymousreply 14July 20, 2025 2:13 AM

[quote]One thing I do is if my bed linens have been in place for four or five days ( I usually wash bed linens once a week ) he has to give the entire bed a quick spray of disinfectant including the pillows , top sheet and comforter.

R7 Lysol kills cats.

by Anonymousreply 15July 20, 2025 2:18 AM

OP, lack of proper hygiene is concurrent with lack of punctuation.

by Anonymousreply 16July 20, 2025 3:26 AM

If I was very attracted to a guy I would use some brand of cleansing wipes on his butt area as foreplay. But not the pits because I like the natural smell of pits. Hopefully he brushed his teeth.

by Anonymousreply 17July 20, 2025 4:22 AM

Just quickly jump in the shower together before it gets to anal play/fucking and wash from the waist down. Make it hot (pun intended).

I've done this a few times and it always end up that he lets me start ass-fucking him there in the shower while we're wet and soapy.

It's lovely.

by Anonymousreply 18July 20, 2025 4:33 AM
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by Anonymousreply 19July 20, 2025 4:39 AM

kittenfeces, love it

by Anonymousreply 20July 20, 2025 12:19 PM

I went through a phase early in my sexual development when my libido was so rampant that I would do it with plenty of guys I probably would have passed over later in life. But one thing they had to have was at least the appearance of being somewhat clean. I certainly never was so horny I would do it with a hobo or some homeless guy who clearly hadn't had a bath in a long time.

But one thing I developed was a great appreciation of the smell of a man and my preferred smell was that of a fresh bath. I love cologne, but for a sexual tryst the hottest smell to me has long been a man who smells of soap.

by Anonymousreply 21July 20, 2025 12:33 PM

QAH is the worst

by Anonymousreply 22July 20, 2025 1:04 PM

As a 90% top back in my Boston slut days, I used to try to clarify this up front. Much rather fuck a guy who’s only OK looking but is freshly showered and smells and tastes good, than a “hot” guy with hygiene issues especially an inadequately cleaned out butthole.

by Anonymousreply 23July 20, 2025 1:18 PM

A period, or even a comma, would have been nice, OP. Plus, they're free!

by Anonymousreply 24July 20, 2025 1:37 PM

This sounds like something tea cake would say. Instead of just asking the question, accuse everyone of being grimy and ask why.

by Anonymousreply 25July 20, 2025 3:51 PM

R25 yep clearly he’s dabbling in the meth stash right now. As if anyone is hooking up with him.

by Anonymousreply 26July 20, 2025 4:11 PM
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