Throuples

I don't know of any throuples that have satisfied all three people for longer than a couple years max. It's an inherently unstable relationship dynamic.

Without fail every throuple I know (and I know half a dozen) started as two dudes who dated for years and invited a third younger/hotter guy. I always assumed the third showed up when the core two guys lost sexual interest in each other.

how do you know they are clean?

I knew a throuple on FI back in the day. One was young and hawt, the next was maybe 45 but buff, and the oldest looked like Father Time.

We called them 'The Three Ages of Man'.

Do they have to live together to fit the definition?

One my best friends was involved in a threesome, although not quite a throuple. He wound up the odd man out when his partner of 19 years coupled up exclusively with the younger guy. I think this is pretty common.

[quote]I made out with a throuple and their best friends a few weeks back. It was pretty hot. It was very much like a family.

I guess if you’re turned on by families that’s erotic.

Most (sane people) aren’t.

I have a straight female friend who is involved with a threesome. There's a wife for traditional sex and mother of children, my friend is the older experienced broad who's into B&D. She sees other people on the side. They don't live together but she's with them about three times a week, including a bit of gentle lesbian sex with the wife.

There will be tears, Hilarious tears.

Way too complicated TBH. Bad enough being in a couple.

"feels like family" and "hot" don't go together.

Does anybody know of a long term throuple?

r12 define long term?

10y +

r14 Yeah, they don't exist

I've been in one for 13 years.

Do tell, R16.

Is he incredibly angry, r6? I think that would be worse than being dumped for someone else the old fashioned way.

Do Tell R16!

R18 He wound up in a much better relationship. He’s married and very happy. And still somewhat friendly with the former partner.

I know a throuple composed of a M/F married couple and the male best friend of the married guy. They had a threesome and the bisexuality was awakened.

What do you want to know, R17 / R19?

Do you live together, R16? What’s your age and economic distribution? Are you same sex? Do you do everything together? How do you fight and reconcile without one needing to take sides?

Congrats on going strong for 13 years.

My original partner and I are both 60 and have been together for 33 years. Our third partner is 37. We're all male. We share our lives together. It's really no different than the relationship the two of us had for the first 20 years. We just share it with another person. It's not only a sexual relationship like most threesomes, though it certainly began that way. But it quickly evolved into a relationship where each of us truly loves and cares for the other two. We rarely fight, but an advantage of having three people is that rather than taking sides, the one in the middle can usually help mediate our disputes. And it helps to have someone to vent to when you're feeling frustrated with the other one. We made a thoughtful decision in the beginning that if we were going to do this, we had to stay aware of each others' feelings and to never let one of us feel like the one being left out. It helps that we all have very similar personalities and interests.

That/s fascinating and uplifting, R24/R16, thanks for the detailed answer.

I forgot to add that we do live together. We're solidly middle class economically and we own a business and property together. While most people we encounter probably are cluess as to the nature of our relationship, our close friends know and are very supportive of us.

I wish I had an in-house mediator when I fight with my husband. But we do always make up.

R26 - Thank you for that. You are one of the first people I've read about/talked to who make it seem not only feasible long-term, but even emotionally healthy.

I knew a cute throuple but they wouldn’t let me join in

The throuples I've seen are all fat, ugly heteros.