The handshake

I’ve had guys visibly react negatively to a handshake. It can seem almost cold in gay culture.

[quote] I tend to be a handshaker and do it reflexively (proper upbringing!).

No.

Yes, I'm a handshaker and have never had a negative reaction. I can see, however, how someone of the huggy-kissy crowd might look on it as throwing cold water on things.

Covid means fistpumps

I always break out the hand sanitizer afterwards.

I avoid shaking hands as much as possible. I hate having my hand returned to me reeking of your smelly, slimy hand lotion.

Bring back the handshake. It's superior to the hug in many many situations. Only the insecure dont like it.

I’m not touching your hand. I don’t know where it’s been. Especially gay hands.

You never know where a gay hand has been.

I have big hands and a strong, firm handshake. I’ve had many guys comment on it. Sexual tension is all in where you find it

[quote] I’ve found gays can respond negatively when i shake hands at goodbye. Like it erases the chance of a sexual liaison. Do you take it that way?

Kind of. Depends on the person and setting. It might be a little formal for saying goodbye. It would make sense after a formal introduction potentially? Are we concluding a meeting?

Set the scene...have we been drinking? Say you're just met a guy in a friendly way in a bar. If you want to throw in a little interest I've encountered a hug that's a second too long or a hand on the arm or shoulder. After a drink, some of these guys do this to anyone as part of being social and flirty and available! At least that's what used to happen. I hear rumor of gen Z not speaking to people outside their friend groups when in public.

OP is a Zoomer who’s afraid to make eye contact or leave the house. Too triggering.

[quote]I’ve found gays can respond negatively when i shake hands at goodbye. Like it erases the chance of a sexual liaison. Do you take it that way?

You want to fuck every gay you meet? TF is wrong with you?

I’ve noticed this is a thing with older gay men. The guys my age tend to hug.

r13 nothing at all is wrong with me and yes I want to fuck every hot dad I meet.

I won’t though. Happily monogamous.

If I don't know you - a handshake when you meet is fine among gays. But after spending several hours together - usually a quick hug is more appropriate in gay culture when you're leaving.

A handshake departure feels like a business meeting.

It really shouldn't be called a hug - because it's just getting closer with your body and putting your arm around them for a second.

It's a half hug. There should be a different word for it - because hug conjurs up intimacy and other things. And those are much different.

How about no touching. I don’t want to hug you goodbye. Just say goodbye or wave!

Three possibilities:

Dos besos

Hug

Handshake

For family, close friends, some business situations, gay friends it's the double kiss: right cheek to right cheek, left to left. (Or maybe an on the lips kiss for your closest gay friends.)

The embrace is the usual for straight male friends

The handshake is for many business introductions, for initial meetings of someone's straight friend/s for instance.

It requires a certain agility to switch from starting to use one greeting and shifting to another according to shared cues or context. Likewise if it's mixed nationalities or regions the custom of kissing and number of kisses may change. Graciousness is the way out of having done the "wrong" greeting.

It's not something I expect or want, so I'm always sort of taken aback when a paw is offered. Or when it's not offered, which I guess some people expect you to read as a diss.

Whatever, bitch. It was probably in a vadge an hour ago anyway.

A lot of people today have weak handshakes. It’s clearly not being taught the way it once was.

Yes, R20, the limp fish method.

Better for all involved to just announce, "No, don't touch me, I'm weird,"

When I'm introduced to someone very formally, I extend my hand to shake that person's hand. I'm somewhat of a hugger. If I meet a gay guy in a group of gay men, and we get along, I'll sometimes give him a half hug when we part. I have learned that some people who don't want to shake hands ever, have that excessive perspiration situation going on in their hands. I try hard not to recoil when I shake a gross wet sweaty hand and wish those people could wear a t-shirt or something so that we would recognize it and offer a wave instead. They'd probably appreciate it too. I have a firm handshake, and my hands are always cool. I hardly sweat anywhere at any time, and never in my hands.

Handshake only when meeting first time. Embraces afterward.

R23 that’s how I do it, too

My drag name is...

I prefer a nice parting blowjob.

Lesson learned.

Upon first meeting, yes.

After that it leaves one cold. We are men who love men. We can give a warm embrace or manly shoulder grab.

I really dislike touching people I don't know well, in general. I'm good with the head nod.

I find an Eskimo kiss to be sufficient.

Perhaps you could wear a sign, R28, or do you just do dagger eyes and a slight head shake in the negative?

Lift up both sides of your petticoats and do a low curtsy.

It makes the gentleman callers feel appreciated and it shows your knee strength and dexterity for going down.

Pro tip: dab some tea rose perfume on your wrists and inside the petticoats - it drives them mad!

Zach says he has a lover (Zae) waiting for him at home now.

Ok r29 is proof that some old guy's mother is posting here.