My gay dad

Laura, we need to talk.....

How YOU doin’?

That was beautiful. Thanks, OP.

[quote] He selected my siblings’ and my clothes. He cut and styled our hair, one time giving me what he called a “Mia Farrow.” I didn’t even know who Mia was and I did not appreciate the fact that he had lopped off my ponytail. He did a better job styling my mother’s hair.

So he was basically Corky St. Clair. She probably also thought Liberace was straight.

[quote]He selected my siblings’ and my clothes. He cut and styled our hair, one time giving me what he called a “Mia Farrow.” I didn’t even know who Mia was and I did not appreciate the fact that he had lopped off my ponytail. He did a better job styling my mother’s hair.

Very "Fun Home." "He wants the Hepplewhite suite chairs back in the parlor/Move the G.I. Joe, it can’t be on the floor/He wants the Dresden figurines back in the breakfront/ A slinky messes up the period decor/"

my dad was bi. he told me he was in love with a fellow service man. after the serviceman was killed in WWII, he married my mom. they were devoted to each other, clearly enjoyed sex with each other as they had many kids.

sexuality is not necessarily fixed.

A bi-sexual man is a man who is supposedly sexually attracted to males and females. A gay man who marries a female just to pass as straight does not a bi-sexual make.

Life is complicated and life 100 years ago even more so.

One of my late parent's best friends was a gay man married to his wife for 60+years. They had several children as well. My parents had no idea he was gay and I never told them. I knew because I saw him at a notorious gay "trysting" spot one evening in the 80s.

I can't imagine having to live a lie like that for a lifetime. I'd lose my mind.

My Dad was a thoroughly straight man, who loved my Mom and Yvonne DeCarlo. But he had a straight best friend when he was in the Army, and confided that they would have set up house together if they hadn't met such fine wives. He died of Alzheimer's disease, and, towards the end, he told me he was going to ask 'that girl' (my Mom) to marry him.

Already a big thread on this.

[quote] My Dad Was Gay — But Married To My Mom For 64 Years. As She Died, I Overheard Something I Can't Forget.

"The obsession with Ethel Merman should have been a dead giveaway..." she murmured weakly.

And then she died.