Sometimes, human beings do unforgivable things. Sometimes, horrible things happen to genuinely good & decent people. Sometimes, the bad guys win. Sometimes, we must be held accountable to our actions, without a pat on the back from enablers. Sometimes, people who hide behind a veneer of Godliness or Christianity, are called out for their shitty & destructive behavior, as they should be. And ALWAYS, we all eventually die.
The statements aforementioned may be quite frightening to many who seek comfort in religion, & the deities worshipped within different sects, give them some sort of comfort, especially so with those who do REALLY harmful & shitty things, & refuse to make amends & rectify their wrongdoing.
None of us are perfect, & we have all done minor to major things that ended up hurting others. That’s just human nature. We all make mistakes, however, how we respond to those mistakes & how we behave after acknowledging we have done something to hurt another is what truly makes a difference.
A few years ago, I made amends to someone I had ridiculed, & sincerely apologized to her, & I promised her that I would NEVER do so, again. I’m an atheist who as of today, has kept that promise, & I’m pretty certain that I won’t have to ask her for forgiveness repeatedly, nor will I have to repeatedly ask some deity to forgive me, because I promised her I’d never verbally attack her again, & as of today, I haven’t broken my commitment to my promise to this person.
Sure, I can be a real cunt and go off on this lady, because I don’t believe I’ll end up in hell for treating another person poorly, however, I stick to our pact, because I know I was wrong, & she in no way, deserves my ire.
OP, atheists are usually very moral & ethical people, because atheists don’t have to adhere to religious rules and regulations, yet in all self awareness, choose to do the right thing, because it’s overwhelmingly easier to do the right thing, & we know it, and feel it in our gut.
Highly religious people, in my experience, are constantly at battle with themselves, because their religious values induce shame, every single time they fuck someone else over, instead of just logically accepting they did something wrong, then righting that wrong, & committing to never doing it again.
I lived that way for several years, while adhering to born again Christian culture, & it absolutely destroyed me, because there’s just no way to realistically strive for perfection. I was fortunate to walk my way out of that ‘lifestyle’, & because I did, I understand my weaknesses more than ever before, while also understanding that becoming a better person is ALWAYS up to JUST ME, which makes things a LOT easier, yet sometimes, I fail at approaching it from this specific angle, too, and I am OK with it, because I also understand I’m not inherently evil, & I ALWAYS welcome opportunities to learn from my own mistakes. I accept responsibility for my mistakes. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. That stated, I ALWAYS ask myself what I can do to change for the better, IF I genuinely want to.
Not one of us should have some sort of dogma driven gun held to our heads. All extremism drives us to reactionary positions, & that’s not the best way to approach things, yet here we are, in an age of extremism, as watch, & will continue to watch the pendulum swing from one extreme to another. Religion justifies this, and it’s horrific that we have gone down this far.
Be well, DL. Please forgive yourselves for whatever is ailing you, & just recognize your defects of character, & genuinely seek deep down in yourselves, why these defects bother you.
Also, please remember that if something you do is bothering you? You’re soooo truly fortunate to feel that & grapple with it. Sociopaths know what they do is wrong, yet don’t feel it in their gut, nor do they grapple with their shortcomings.
Everyone can become better, if they genuinely understand that there’s opportunity for them to do so. No religion or deity necessary!