I feel like I’m in crazy town right now. I don’t know how this is an argument we’re having. This will include NSFW language.
So basically: My husband has worked out really hard all year to have a nice body for lake season. We’ve been having fun swimming most weekends at my MIL’s lake house. We live in an extremely conservative, religious, tiny town. My husband has a large penis. He has bought some new swim trunks that look great on him! But they show his entire penis. Like the whole length, the ridges, everything. It bulges out, a lot. It looks like something a gay pornstar would wear.
I am DEEPLY uncomfortable with him wearing these in public. I have re-iterated he looks amazing, very hot. But it is wildly inappropriate, especially to his mom’s house!!! His mom and sister will see and I feel the entire day will be both extremely uncomfortable and consist of them throwing a fit about… an understandable situation.
He says I am slut-shaming him. It’s not his fault his penis is big and if he was a girl in a bikini, no one would say a thing. I don’t think that’s fair because 1) if the bikini was too small, yeah they would and 2) it’s not his fault but like… his penis is basically out in the clothes he chose.
He also says his family isn’t conservative about sex and it’s weird I’m so bothered by it, I’m repressed. Maybe that’s true, maybe they feel too awkward to say otherwise. Maybe they will care and ruin the whole day, not invite us back! But in any case I feel that being personally uncomfortable with my husband’s penis being so visible around his mom and sister is COMPLETELY REASONABLE. I don’t understand the disconnect, like at all.
I get he wants to look hot and has worked really hard for it. But I literally don’t get why this is even a discussion. His penis is extremely visible. It’s his mom’s lake house - even if they supposedly don’t care… I do!!! He said he’ll show them pictures to see if it’s ok and I told him it’s crazy to even show that to other people...
So, am I the asshole? At the end of the day maybe they really wouldn’t care and it’s just part of his body. But I’m really uncomfortable and don’t even get how it’s a discussion considering his entire penis is visible in them.
edit for clarity: we’re both dudes, yes he is gay.
Update: thanks yall, general consensus seems to be various views on seeing shaft but I should be less uptight and let it play out. It’s not like they aren’t used to his antics. And genuinely thanks for helping me realize it’s not that big of a deal, I was freaking out. Gunna say sorry and told ya so later.