Eldergay here. Back in my early 30's, when I was still fuckable, I was approached by a "fitness" photographer at the gym to do a photo spread which would include nude. I consented. It was supposed to be soft-core, and only for his portfolio, but it didn't stay that way, Included were a few shots of me, fully erect, and my face was clearly visible.
What I did NOT agree to, however, was to sign a release form. Before the shoot, I had discussed this with the photographer and my fear the photos would be sold to some publication, without my consent, and would somehow ruin my chances to run for President of the United States or, ya know, there was a time when people actually DIDNT WANT nude photos of themselves out there for all sorts of reasons. (how many porn stars lost career jobs because of it?)
The photographer assured me he would only keep the photos in his portfolio and would notify me if someone wanted to publish and thus, then get my permission. I trusted him.
I also hated how I looked in the photos. My dick looked great in a few, but I didn't care for my facial expressions, I thought I my face to lean. But my torso looked fat, etc. In general, I've always hated the way I look in photos, (probably the real reason I didn't want them published).
I had my own file of them stored in my computer.
Years later, sure enough, an acquaintance informs me he's seen my naked porn pictures and loved them. I had no idea what he was talking about. Either I had forgotten about that photoshoot, or felt safe in my belief those photos would never be released. I figured he had mistaken me for someone else.
He showed me the site. It was me all right! Just one photo, but with a huge erection. My face clearly visible. I was mortified!!!
And felt betrayed by this professional photographer.
I immediately contacted a computer nerd friend of mine. He contacted the site owner for me and was able to have it removed. However, he then did a search of his own on other online computer porn sites and ended up finding quite a few. He was able to get all of them deleted.
But then I realized, some of the photos were taken at different times, years even. Different photo shoots. Fun photos I did with buddies. All privately stored in my computer - so I thought! - so it couldn't be this one photographer.
Also, most internet port sites hadn't even been started when the photos had been taken. so initially, I was only concerned about print magazines.
They had to have come from someone, other than me, who had gained access to my private computer files. Turns out, it was a former roommate of mine I had been in battle with. Revenge porn, long before it had been given that name. I confronted him.... yada, yada, yada....... He claimed to be genuinely sorry, and had hoped I would never find out. Although I believed him, I completely cut him out of my life.
Many years later, because we occasionally traveled the same circles, we came in contact. We were cordial. I had forgiven him, but, ya know......
Cut to even more years later - Ironic ending: he is now one of my closest friends. We have a real friendship, different from the "roommate" friendship that existed many years before. He's been there for me at crucial times, as I have for him.
Sometimes, I will joke about those photos, and even thank him.
Why thank him?
Coming across those photos, many years later, as a now elder gay -
OMG - I was fucking hot! I wish those photos had been sent all over the fucking place!!! I want the whole gay world to see them. I wish I could use them in a Grindr profile.