I was invited to a friend's house this weekend and she told me she's making a coconut cake

Can't you just tell her that your throat itches when you eat coconut? How good of a friend is she?

Were you raised by animals? Unless you're allergic, you eat what's offered and you express gratitude.

Would it kill you to eat it OP? It's not like you're being asked to eat Haggis or Head Cheese

I had a similar situation when a friend baked me an apple pie -a dessert I have always loathed (I'm actually allergic to apples, but I didn't know it back then). I asked for a very small piece, but she thought I was being polite and gave me a huge piece! She saw the look on my face as I gamely tried to eat it and said, "Oh my god -You don't like apple pie, do you?" At that point I was semi-honest and said, "It's not my favorite." She wasn't offended at all. But she was a very dear, old friend.

I'd be honest and say you're always up for an adventure, but that you haven't got along with coconut cake in the past.

Failing that, you could arrive with fresh peaches or raspberries or something, and say you read about that cake being served with a fruit sauce. Sautee a sauce (maybe add booze?) and then drench your slice of cake with it. It will hide the taste.

I love coconut, myself. Do you dislike macaroons, too??

Thank her, and accept a very small piece ( since you're dieting, or whatever). You don't need to finish it.

Who knows, maybe her cake will disguise that soapy taste for you.

Small piece and just toy with it; move it around your plate and pretend to take a few bites. Then say it was so good but I’m stuffed!

Ask her nicely if you can have a couple of scoops of ice cream and some hot fudge on top, then ask for seconds.

[quote] Small piece and just toy with it; move it around your plate and pretend to take a few bites. Then say it was so good but I’m stuffed!

It’s such a blatant lie though. She might make it again for you.

And of course you don’t crisply turn her down with a no thanks, I don’t want it.

I would do what r5 suggested. Say you’re not a big coconut person but you’ll have a small slice and try it out with your coffee. Ask about her recipe and how she cooked it to show appreciate for her effort. I think she would prefer that rather than you pretending it eat it and smooshing it into your plate.

Does she have a dog?

You can give it to me. I absolutely love coconut cake.

I absolutely love to have (and make) coconut cake.

A soapy taste can come from the coconut being spoiled, but if it's something you always notice in food containing coconut, then you might just be sensitive to the caprylic acid that is found in coconut. If it makes it bad for you to the point you get sick, then yes, mention it and decline. But if it's just not your thing, then come on, be polite and at least try a small piece.

Coconut is one of those foods people either love/like or loathe. Anchovies are another. Interesting about the soap taste. It's the same description that cilantro haters use. I think I read the soapy cilantro taste is related is linked to a particular gene.

Why on earth would you expect somebody to eat something you made that they don’t like? That’s so weird.

I have friends who don’t like certain foods I like and vice versa. We would never dream of serving them to each other. I certainly would not get any pleasure out of seeing anybody choke down a piece of coconut cake if they hated coconut and if you do enjoy seeing that there’s something wrong with you.

Is her name Tom Cruise?

Although I hate coconut in most of its many forms, the one thing I actually like with coconut in it is coconut cake. 🍰

You’ll eat it and you’ll like it.

I like coconut now but I hated it as a child. My parents never made me eat it, or anything else I hated (and I was a picky child). But then they were sane.

[quote]r14 I certainly would not get any pleasure out of seeing anybody choke down a piece of coconut cake if they hated coconut and if you do enjoy seeing that there’s something wrong with you.

OP’s host is not aware of their dislike for coconut.

She told you in advance she was making the cake. That was your chance to stop her.

Just say you’re allergic. Send the cake the me

When I was 15 I popped a big huge zit into my much older sister's boyfriend's coffee. He drank the whole discharge, thanked me, and winked.

My sister broke up with him a few months later. She was a big fat blonde with a beautiful face and humoungous tits. He was Italian.

His family had mob connections.

Yes, say that you think you have an allergy or reaction to coconut, that you would love to try it but that coconut leaves your stomach unsettled... Make up an abbreviated explanation from a kernel of truth. It's not difficult.

When she's not looking, dump it into your panties.

And don't, FFS, tell her in advance. Just say when she's about to serve it, saying you didn't want to put her to any trouble and that you'll enjoy a coffee (or whatever she's serving) with her as she enjoys the cake.

Has she asked in advance if you like coconut cake, that would have been your chance to change the course of things. She didn't (and why should she have done?), so let her enjoy her anticipated cake.

It's not fucking complicated.

“Oh—that sounds lovely. I wish I could eat coconut. It looks so festive.”

Bring your dog or stay close to hers. You know where this is going.

Eat a bite, feed some to the dog, then clumsily drop the rest on the floor in front of the dog. Then go - oh, that's ok, I shouldn't be eating all of this anyway.

Are you both children?

I mean, you're an adult, and presumably so is she. Tell her you don't much care for coconut but that it sounds like a great summertime cake. The end.

Punch her in the face and delete her number from your phone when she tries to serve it to you.

R28 - where's the angst, drama and turmoil in THAT? It's like you don't even live for drama anymore.

[quote] Were you raised by animals? Unless you're allergic, you eat what's offered and you express gratitude.

Thanks for weighing in, Fifties Mom!

'I'm allergic to coconut." End of problem. You really needed to post a question on this?

I love coconut cake. Op has bad taste

When I was a small child my best friends mother made some blue berry pancakes for breakfast. I loathed blue berries but I gamely ate a stack and raved about how tasty they were . After that she made them every single time I slept over . This went on for the rest of our friendship . Ironically I love blue berries now .

Only if she is making a box coconut cake. If the quality is trash, be honest. She chose to bake low rent, you’d just be matching her energy.

OP, you make it sound like she wants you to eat her gash. That said, just tell her the truth.

OMG, I adore coconut cake!

Force her to watch this DVD.

R38 - LOL - I watched that movie several times as a kid. I recall it being on early HBO in the late 70s.

Is it like Pepperidge Farm coconut cake in the box that my FAT daughter loves?

^^ oh god, I buy those!

“Mom, I like Marie Callender’s!”

Growing up, I had an aunt who on her visits from her home 200 miles away would would always bring a carrot cake she made "just for" me. I hated carrot cake as a young person, & had no idea how she got the notion that I did. As it happens, I did come to like carrot cake as an adult.

Tell her you have explosive diarrhea and can’t come.

[quote] and that you'll enjoy a coffee

It’s coffee, not A coffee.

The diarrhea comes after cake

Tell her you are an unworthy and ungrateful cunt and that coconut cake is a deal breaker.

She will thank you.

Accidentally dump it in the sink and feed it into the garbage disposal.

Did you just fall out of a coconut tree?

I think we're missing the opportunity for drama. Stare in horror as she sets it before you. Get up close and personal, clearly inspecting this very suspicious dessert choice. Gamely take a taste, cause you're a trooper. Take a big bite with a Lucille Ball look of persevering through the obvious pain and reluctance. Try, and fail, to swallow, and not so subtly wipe your mouth with a napkin to hold the offending delicacy.

She'll get the message, at last, and deep down appreciate this lesson in what not to serve you in future.

Cake? What, please. Is cake?

[quote]r50 Gamely take a taste, cause you're a trooper. Take a big bite with a Lucille Ball look of persevering through the obvious pain and reluctance. Try, and fail, to swallow

SURELY there’s room for The Spider expression in there??

Or a Danny Thomas spit-take.

Or I stoic, "I have sufficient."

^^ [bold]A[/bold] stoic

When you are given a slice, ask to be excused. Then quietly slip out the back door and retrieve the brick in the bushes that you put there when you arrived. Very carefully get near the window where you were sitting and hurl the brick through the window. Run back to the door you exited. During the mayhem, take the piece of cake and slip back into the room where her elderly dog will gobble it up, not letting him lick it clean. Return to the table with some remnants of the cake on the plate and tell her it was delicious.

The polite thing to do if you're someone's weekend houseguest would have been to say:

"Instead of making a coconut cake, why don't I bring a cake to thank you for having me."

You solve both the cake problem and the one of your being a boor.

I miss unashamedly picky eaters. Now you have to hear about their allergies, inflammation, migraines, IBS, the planet, blah, blah, blah. Just own those baby tastes, baby.

When you get the slice, close your eyes and pretend it’s dandruff