I Think My Son Is Gay. Should I Talk to Him About Coming Out? Mom writes the NYTimes!

There's this concept in writing - no great secret - that says good writing shows, not so good writing tells. Seems to be this lady should be doing everything she can to make sure her kid can and wants to talk to her about anything, not setting his timeline.

[quote]I believe I am the only person in the family to have noticed his interest in rainbow flags or his outrage at injustices to the L.G.B.T.Q.+ community, among other, subtler, indications.

Sounds like the Bluths are back.

It sounds like she's a nice, well-intentioned mom who doesn't know the rules and has bothered to ask. She should probably get in touch with the mom whose son is having friends in his room with the door shut from a couple of weeks ago, for when hers graduates.

If he gets outraged at injustices to the community, surely all she has to do is share the outrage whenever he mentions it and say positive things about gay people in rebuttal, for him to identify her as an ally?

The interest in rainbow flags sounds like one for the Autism Troll, though. I mean, there's a difference between good and interesting. Now, if he shows an interest in the Rainbow Tour, that's a whole other matter.

I’m quite convinced that all the “letters” to The Ethicist are fake these days. The column has quite collapsed since the days of Chuck Klosterman. “Kwame” whatever his name is needs to be punched in the face.

Dear Abby.....

She should just tell it to Ella!

Well I sure wish my mother had had that chat with me. Giving permission, as it were.

I had to come out by myself, against her wishes. It took her 20 years or so to come around, but finally she did. She once admitted to me that she 'wished she had been better about it' when I came out. I appreciated that; it was an admission of error.

R5 How the h e double hockey sticks did you find this!!!!? Were you the 10 year old writer?

My mother decided to do the "Are you gay?, It's ok if you are" conversation when I was 13 years old, in the parking lot of Casey's right before school. I was more concerned with getting my sausage, egg, and cheese biscuit. I said, "Me gay? Heavens NO!...but you know who I think is?...." She bought it and never asked again. I wish she had, or at least waited till I got my breakfast sandwich.

My uncle tried that. Awkward. Don't do it.

E9 WHO? WHO WHO? Who did you think was gay?

DEAR GOD MOM! This is what the girls seem to want in the shitty New York suburban schools we go to. A purple haired boy who will be "queer" and have a stiff dick.

vérificatia of closeted gay teen sizemeat?

This is good news. She should make him the male version of her younger self.

^achy breaky puss^

It could backfire on her. What if her son isn't gay. He now knows his mother thinks he is. He may question who else in his world thinks he is gay. His self esteem could go downward, not upward.

I waited until I was comfortable telling my parents. I did it after I attained my college degree. They weren't surprised; I think they were waiting for me to tell them. It was on my own terms.

They were very supportive. They even quit the church they attended when the new minister began preaching about how evil gay people are.

R11, A former classmate, just a fun guy who would sometimes dress up as Miss Piggy, shows you how bad my gaydar is.

The helicoptering parent multiplied by treacly and unctuous performative wokeness. For the love of god, you nasty snatch, butt out of your son's sexuality.

She's a helicopter mom.

Mommy Pussy need control Son Cocklet.

I predict a great future for them both.

Give him a dildo for his birthday and see how reacts.