What do people do if they show up to an orgy/sex party, and everyone else just ignores them?

I don't know. It's never happened to me.

Steal the silverware.

Preparing for the worst. OP?

Hasn't happened to me but I imagine it would be a pretty brutal wake-up call. I'd probably get a trainer.

Asking for a friend?

I guess after a while the person would leave. Or perhaps they're into the humiliation like methy Glenn Greenwald.

OP - are you Glenn Greenwald?

Go home?

Hi the White Castle drive through and get 40 sliders to eat and wipe your tears away on the way home?

IDK ask this transman!

Two words. Taco Bell.

File your nails and look annoyed, OP.

Do the dishes, restock lube, offer refreshments, make yourself useful.

Nuzzle up, start eating some ass.

The Macarena?

They leave with their “tail” between their “legs.”

Pronto.

It shouldn't ever happen -not if the orgy has a decent host. Years ago I belonged to a group that met for a monthly orgy/sex party. About 20-25 guys, though not everyone made it to every party. Always the same host. The rules were simple:

1. Be on time, as the front door would be locked at the start and no one in or out.

2. Respect everyone's boundaries and "no" means NO.

3. Play safely (this was during the height of the AIDS pandemic).

4. Chip in for the drinks and snacks.

5. Clean up your messes.

The host would make sure the condoms and lube were alway available, along with paper towels, etc. Lights pleasantly dimmed, porn on all the screens. But more to the point, he seldom allowed himself the luxury of playing with the guy(s) of his choice, as he moved among the crowd, making sure everyone was having fun. If someone wanted to sit apart and just watch, that was cool -but no one was left out or pushed away. If someone was being rejected by a guy, the host would step up and do some caressing and mutual jacking so no one had time to get their feelings too hurt. This was seldom necessary, as the vibe in the group was really open and accepting of everyone. There were always a couple of new guys, and people were encouraged to think of the group, rather than pairing off into couples. Some of the guys did meet up for private one-to-one stuff on other occasions, but the whole idea of the group scene was to get involved with lots of guys at once. And that means not really caring who it was behind you rubbing your nipples, or whose hand was playing with your balls while you fucked someone.

If you find yourself alone/ignored at a party make sure you're not putting off a don't-touch-me vibe. Get in there and watch up-close. Jerk off. Use a toy if you like. Don't get all butt-hurt if the hottest guy in the room isn't into you. Make sure you cum before you go, even if you're just masturbating.

An orgy with condoms?

You’re nutz—! Stop with the crazy fanfiction.

Um you walk out and let them enjoy their average meats together.

Listen to Miss Manners over at R16 🥺

R19 When the dicks are down, the pinkies stay up! ☕️

Make sure the air mattresses don’t go flat.

“I inflated the air mattresses!”

Patten Oswalt has an orgy story.

Verificata of Sizemeat could be a good band name.

Verificatia!

It depends on your age. If you're under 25 you jump up and start screaming at the room that their lack of support for you has triggered you. Then you go home and post as many of their names as you can think of on your Insta.

Get on your knees in the middle of the group and present hole. There's no fun in being coy.

How did you stay alive and healthy going to orgies without condoms at the height of the AIDS crisis, R17?

It can be embarrassing. That’s why I always bring my accordion.

R28. How did you get so stupid?

The main reason I've NEVER gone to one. Well, I got to a front door once and then completely chickened out. Wasn't drunk enough.

Make a play for any passable guy with a tiny dick. You're actually lower in the pecking order so be grateful if he condescends to share his micro peen with you.

I appreciate your hosts attentiveness R28 but being “locked in” sounds like a nightmare. Once I cum a second time at an orgy I am ready to go! And there are always some guys who take the whole night or never at all.

Planning out an orgy sounds like a logistical nightmare.

R34 the success rate is sub-optimal, unless you’re a commercial operation. The best group sex “parties” are spontaneous, a la Sniffies or the earlier equivalent.

Bump

Back when I co-hosted a dozen of these things over half as many years, it was always a mix of sex options and hangout/chill spaces, a fire in the fireplace etc. Worked out much better.

I always knew it was a good party when the space intentions got all twisted. Like, it’s 330am and some guests are having deep conversations in the bedroom I set up as a sex space, and others are fucking in the kitchen.

Go home I’d imagine

Just as R37, during a good orgy, people take breaks and socialize. If people are ignoring you maybe converse with them first. The other trick is to sit back and just watch

Fetch the blowtorch from the trunk of your Volvo.

I just blame Patti LuPone, the source of all evil in the world.

This is why God allowed for gay men to hiss.

R16 Having never been to one of these parties, is there an actual chalkboard with a list of the rules, like No piss in carpeted areas, etc? Or is there a commonly held orgy etiquette that everyone adheres to?

No.

Yes.

Next question.

Take a deep puff from the meth pope and not give a fuck.

OP a few questions for you and please don't be offended.

1. Are you more than 10 years older than the average age of the participants?

2. Are you obese?

3. Was this event publicized on Sniffies and is it being held at a Red Roof Inn located in a questionable area close to the airport.

4. Is there a requested donation of $10 to attend?

If any of these are the case I would recommend politely declining the invitation.

I’ve been these things over the years, but I never know the host. Frankly, they seem very sketchy. I stick to three ways.

This is why it pays to be verse because if you find an empty hole to fill, someone will fill your bouncing hole. Bit if you are a bottom looking for a gang bang fantasy, nobody is going to get in line for a bottom that puts out a pissy vibe.

Go out for more ice?

More rice?????!!!!

A sex party never appealed to me - who's going to be there? Are they clean? Am I going to get an STD? What do you do once you're done - chat and leave?

I always thought these parties implied a ton of meth and other drugs I'd rather not be around.

Do you end up having sex with someone 'just because' that's what you're supposed to do?

Feels like the 70s version of a key party - forced intimacy and not knowing who or what you're going to get - it's not for me.

I'm NOT shaming those who do - it just feels awkward and that some people will get their feelings hurt. I'm also a bit picky, a trait that hasn't served me well over the years.

You are supposed to dance like nobody’s watching while soggy turdlettes fall out of your butt.

That must be so embarrassing.

If it's winter - steal the coats and the shoes. Make it a party they'll never forget.

As profesional architect I dooche with Listerine to make poosey minty fresh before pairing with donkey friend. In case some watching man want a lick.

Cry yourself to sleep, OP.

Pull the fire alarm.

ICE

Call 911 - tell them you're being sex-trafficked and expected to service all of these men.

I would cry out in my best Bronx accent:”I just want to be LOVED! Is that so WRONG?”

Engage in voyeurism , I'm sure I can find smthing to get me off

Open the door where the dogs and the cat are being held in.

Go home, cry, masterbate, hang themselves

Change the music to talk radio or a Christian channel.

Flick the lights on and off to make a strobe effect.

Open up that 10lb bag of glitter.

So many options.

Become the mouth on duty.

You channel Mary Chapin Carpenter and sing Passionate Kisses.

R66 - I think Charlene's I've Been to Paradise would be the logical follower.

An off-key "I Wanna Know What Love Is" by Foreigner should drive home the point. "I want you to show me, I want feel what love is, I know you can show MEEEEEE!"

If not, then Celine Dion's All By Myself should do the trick.

[quote] Go home, cry, masterbate, hang themselves.

That seems like an extreme punishment for poor spelling.

Just go to a Horse Market ( Fickstutemarkt). No one says," No."

Horse Market rules

Macrame

R51 good thing you spared us all your Maiden Auntie mentality and never attended an orgy.

Jack off and leave

You just tweet that the host is a goddamned communist!

R72 - I said I wasn't shaming those who do. Sorry my post methed up your fee-fees and your STD crawling activities with multiple strangers.

Give a Julia Sugarbaker inspired speech and then set yourself on fire.

Turn on Devil Wears Prada or Mame and see the orgy come to a screeching halt.

What about the opposite problem. What if you're at a sex party, and somebody you can't stand won't leave you alone? The last orgy I went to, some annoying dude kept interrupting me and whomever I was doing/doing me, by pinching and clawing into me. The host told him to stay away, unsuccessfully. Brushing him away didn't work. Telling him directly didn't work - it seemed to make him more aggressive.

A guy and I went off to a corner of the room, and this guy followed us and kept pinching me. I sat up, trying to decide how to handle this - and noticed I had bruises on my arm and leg from his pinching. When my sexpartner saw the bruises, he got up from the sofa and punched the pincher. And a fight began. Pincher was kicked out - I heard the host tell him all future invitations were rescinded - and everybody else left quickly. I was very apologetic but the host was gracious and he blew me before I left.

The story at R9 is supposed to be sad, I guess. But I kinda laughed.

R78 - I'm just trying to wrap my ahead around the discussion on the phone after he got thrown out.

"You'll never believe this - but they THREW ME OUT of the sex party!" "They WHAT? How RUDE?"

"I was coming on to this guy and I thought he liked me and then he just flipped out." "Well, did you pinch him?

"Of COURSE I pinched him, just like you said." "Well, maybe you didn't pinch him ENOUGH"

What kind of advice was this guy given? Sometimes you hear also sorts of crazy shit when you first come out.

Well this asshole left out one VERY IMPORTANT FACT: it was on MARCH 17, and he didn’t have on any green!!!!!!!!!

R75 See, just one little tap, and your TOTAL TIGHT ASSED MAIDEN AUNTIE nature comes gushing out.

R81 - well done. golf claps all around.

Pulling bedbugs from a stranger; I’m used to being punished for the good deeds I’ve done. Somebody owes me bad disappointing sex.

This is Berwyn, right?

You leave?

R85 - just LEAVE, without making your mark or ruining their good time?

I swear, sometimes it's like I don't even know you. That's not what we do on the Datalounge.

Raid the coat room and get the hell out.

Never has a thread needed the DL phrase "Surprise Anal" than this one.

I've declined invitations in my life to orgies/sex parties. I am always met with startled reactions, but it's just something I've never wanted for myself.

An orgy is just a penis potluck and all the celebrants work in your HR department.

R90 - yeah - that's why it has no appeal for me.

I don't like most of what's brought to a potluck and I don't want to be forced to 'have a little' because you don't want to hurt their feelings.

Nobody even TOUCHED my cock and balls! Harrumph - after all that time I spent preparing my dish - the shaving, the oils, the presentation. Trust ME - it DOES taste good - these plebs have NO taste!!!

Things would soon turn ugly as I’d wrangle with the high notes singing the old Heart song “Alone”.

Some cunty DLer would interrupt the fucking to point out that Ann Wilson hit and sustained that note much better than you at a concert in Phoenix in 1988.

Tell them that if they don’t pay attention to you, you’ll vote Republican.

R94 - we're on to you by now Matt Schlapp - nice try.

R80 I think the guy had some sort of sadistic kink. I didn't leave because the host asked me not to. But everybody else did anyway. Hey, but I still got a blowjob!

Just go home without having sex. No matter that it is an orgy, guys still want to make out with something nice looking. Sounds like you are not orgy material. Get on Grinder, with our correct age and a recent photo. Someone will bite.

R96 - yah, some guys have no clue or just don't care about boundaries.

I have a big barrel chest and prominent visible nipples - the amount of unwanted titty twisters I've received from complete strangers over the years is insane. My nips are VERY sensitive too - so it hurts like hell.

Then there are guys who go further and stick their hands down your pants. One guy had his finger in my asshole before I knew what was even happening. Always wear a belt. My personal surprise anal story, I suppose.