I want to leave the Texas triangle. It's hot, crowded, and I don't care about football.
What's a good state? I dream of Wisconsin, or Vermont, or Maine, Boston, anywhere it's not so hot like CA or FL.
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I want to leave the Texas triangle. It's hot, crowded, and I don't care about football.
What's a good state? I dream of Wisconsin, or Vermont, or Maine, Boston, anywhere it's not so hot like CA or FL.
by Anonymous | reply 61 | May 23, 2025 3:52 PM |
Oregon.
by Anonymous | reply 1 | May 22, 2025 3:39 AM |
Thanks R1, well that settles it.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | May 22, 2025 4:59 AM |
Nirvana
by Anonymous | reply 3 | May 22, 2025 5:02 AM |
What’s the Texas Triangle?
by Anonymous | reply 4 | May 22, 2025 5:18 AM |
Nebraska
by Anonymous | reply 5 | May 22, 2025 5:27 AM |
Southern California is actually pretty mild if you live by the coast. It might get hot for a few weeks in late August, early September. But it's hardly ever humid.
by Anonymous | reply 6 | May 22, 2025 6:22 AM |
I hate to say it, but Indiana looks like a beautiful state.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | May 22, 2025 7:03 AM |
I took this quiz about 20 years ago, and 5 of my Top Spots were in Wisconsin and the Northwest. If I had to choose, I’d pick Colorado, former home of Mrs. Patsy Ramsey.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | May 22, 2025 7:08 AM |
Just took the test and the result showed the city in which I have always lived. Guess I’m in the right place.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | May 22, 2025 9:19 AM |
Rhode Island
by Anonymous | reply 10 | May 22, 2025 9:26 AM |
Told me I should live in San Francisco. I kind of agree, but I left there a few years ago
by Anonymous | reply 11 | May 22, 2025 9:30 AM |
Mine told me Nutbush.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | May 22, 2025 10:09 AM |
Catatonic or vegetative should suit you well, OP.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | May 22, 2025 1:46 PM |
R4, the Texas Triangle is DFW, Austin/San Antonio, and Houston. Most of the population lives within the Triangle.
by Anonymous | reply 14 | May 22, 2025 1:51 PM |
Santa Monica. All my top 10 were California. Bottom 10 were all in Texas except two in Fllorida.
by Anonymous | reply 15 | May 22, 2025 2:07 PM |
According to that quiz my #1 was New York, where I lived after college and plan to return one day. I was surprised to see LA in my top five because I chose walkability or public transit on almost every question where it was listed.
by Anonymous | reply 16 | May 22, 2025 2:08 PM |
My rules: No snow, humidity, or excessive heat. Pretty much limits me to the west coast.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | May 22, 2025 2:25 PM |
I'd pick Rhode Island if I could, it looks so beautiful and peaceful. Almost like Canada. And their accent is just delightful.
by Anonymous | reply 18 | May 22, 2025 2:47 PM |
Naperville IL. I am not even sure I could find IL on the map.
by Anonymous | reply 19 | May 22, 2025 2:47 PM |
Mock if you will, but I’m actually liking New Jersey more than I expected to. It’s not quite as cold as the “real Northeast”, few weather extremes and usually ample rainfall; it’s a great place for gardening and outdoor recreation. People here are a mix of Jersey stereotypes, a ton of ethnic diversity (which begets superb restaurant options) and a large % of us Manhattan/Brooklyn transplants, i.e. professional backgrounds and at least a few brain cells. Tends to be generally friendly and gay-friendly as well compared to other places I’ve been.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | May 22, 2025 2:55 PM |
4 of my top 15 are places I’ve lived. My top two were SF and Oakland, which I left 30 years ago. At least I’m consistent 🤷🏻♂️
by Anonymous | reply 21 | May 22, 2025 2:57 PM |
OP, try Florida.
by Anonymous | reply 22 | May 22, 2025 3:00 PM |
One outside the U.S. states.
by Anonymous | reply 23 | May 22, 2025 6:27 PM |
Yucatán state
by Anonymous | reply 24 | May 22, 2025 6:30 PM |
New Jersey
by Anonymous | reply 25 | May 22, 2025 6:31 PM |
North Rhine-Westphalia
by Anonymous | reply 26 | May 22, 2025 6:36 PM |
My husband’s from Dallas and has loved Boston since he moved here. He says he’d go back to Texas more often but American won’t circle over DFW for an hour or two.
by Anonymous | reply 27 | May 22, 2025 6:37 PM |
If I had unlimited fundage and had to live in the US, it would be California for me for sure. I've ridden there twice (from FL) and flown there two other times (job related) and I have never felt so at home anywhere in my entire life.
Maybe Santa Cruz? Long Beach?
But I'm old and poor -- so whaddya gonna do?
by Anonymous | reply 28 | May 22, 2025 6:39 PM |
California is good but expensive and crowded
by Anonymous | reply 29 | May 22, 2025 6:58 PM |
There’s plenty of room in many counties.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | May 22, 2025 7:02 PM |
Hey senior lesbian at R28 - hi! - and I’m curious, are you still strongly intending to move to Panama? Or is that more an exploration/maybe kind of thing. (You probably shared elsewhere and I missed it)
by Anonymous | reply 31 | May 22, 2025 7:04 PM |
New England might be a nice change of pace if you don't mind snow or a significantly higher cost of living. Beautiful environment, lots of fresh water plus the sea coast.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | May 22, 2025 7:11 PM |
I live in CT. While I wish there was more diversity, and the cost of living is high, it’s a pretty safe place in terms of climate events, which are becoming more severe globally.
We never have to evacuate. We don’t have to worry about the excessive heat that is making certain places intolerable. Wildfire risk is pretty low.
by Anonymous | reply 33 | May 22, 2025 7:19 PM |
And dull as dishwater. No offense
by Anonymous | reply 34 | May 22, 2025 7:20 PM |
Another CT resident here. Actually Northern CT is very affordable compared to the rest of the area, but the souther half or the closer you get to NYC not gets more expensive. It is also kind of dull as mentioned above
by Anonymous | reply 35 | May 22, 2025 7:22 PM |
It depends on your stage of life.
If you’re in your 30s, you are more likely to want to be somewhere more dynamic.
But so much of the CT area is beautiful and peaceful, and that holds a lot of allure for many who are more settled.
by Anonymous | reply 36 | May 22, 2025 7:32 PM |
[bold]TL;DR[/bold]
I am, Torta @ R31. As a matter of fact, I'm leaving this Sunday to pick up my Pensionado Visa (which finally came through last week) in Panama City.
I was going to start a thread about it, but I don't know how well it will be received, because I'm only going to be there for two weeks this time. My plan (which has had to be amended a number of times) is to come back here to FL to get my trailer together just in case I decide to rent it out (it needs a lot of work!), visit family and my bff "up Home," and spend time with my father, who's going to be 89 next month. I have found an old buddy of mine from back home who will take the dog if she holds up until the fall, so waiting to leave until she dies is no longer a consideration. My buddy has three acres outside of Gainesville and Cricket loves going there. So I know Cricket will be well taken care of no matter what.
My new plan is, if I don't feel an urgent Trumpish need to leave earlier (and I may!), to [bold]ride a motorcycle[/bold] to Panama down the east side of TX and cut over onto the Pan American highway to Panama. What a great adventure that will be!! But to do that, I need to wait until the fall when it's cooler -- maybe October? Of course, fall will be here before you know it.
I just bought a smaller and lighter touring bike to ride down there on (see attached), but I'm not sure it's going to work out. I have to make a lot of modifications ($) to make it comfortable enough for me to ride a 400+ mile day and I have to add luggage (just that will cost > 1K). I already put Grip Puppies on the handlebar grips (deadens vibration), but the vibration is still so hard on my wrists I can't ride it > an hour. So we'll see. I may have to sell it and get something else. That kind of riding, which may entail some dirt roads, is hard on your body when you're a vieja!
Thanks for asking, Torta! If you think anyone wants me to start a thread, let me know.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | May 22, 2025 8:14 PM |
MS-13 is kinder to strangers in the fall. And the murder rate goes down in Honduras that time of year.
by Anonymous | reply 38 | May 22, 2025 8:29 PM |
R8's quiz was annoying as fuck - what big cities have conservative politics? None. Same questions over and over just rotating through in different order.
by Anonymous | reply 39 | May 22, 2025 8:39 PM |
Grand Rapids
Huntington Beach
Hempstead
Bakersfield
Ft Worth
Oklahoma City
Mesa
Fresno
Miami
by Anonymous | reply 40 | May 22, 2025 8:44 PM |
New Jersey
by Anonymous | reply 41 | May 22, 2025 9:06 PM |
Great news SL and I’m glad you found an option for your elderly dog.
by Anonymous | reply 42 | May 22, 2025 11:16 PM |
NYC
Great to visit. Found love in Lower Manhattan. One of the great cities of the world.
But I’d never live there.
by Anonymous | reply 43 | May 23, 2025 1:51 AM |
R14
Oh, duh. I don’t know why I didn’t pick up on that.
by Anonymous | reply 44 | May 23, 2025 2:01 AM |
R43
I got NYC, too.
by Anonymous | reply 45 | May 23, 2025 2:05 AM |
Senior lesbian, thanks for the update at R37! Exciting adventure you’re undertaking! When or if you make that long motorcycle trip this Fall, I hope you make a thread before starting out so lots of us can wish you well.
And cool lighter-weight bike! So sleek.
by Anonymous | reply 46 | May 23, 2025 2:57 AM |
I should be in Plymouth MN. I like snow. My choices were all based on not hot and not conservative.
by Anonymous | reply 47 | May 23, 2025 3:30 AM |
Wisconsin. Great university towns, resort areas, farmlands, whatever you want.
by Anonymous | reply 48 | May 23, 2025 5:38 AM |
California is not a hot weather state like Texas, where did you get that idea from? Los Angles daily average temp is around 72f. Norther California above San Francisco is even cooler. The only exception is Death Valley but no one lives there, it's a national park on the boarder of Nevada.
by Anonymous | reply 49 | May 23, 2025 5:46 AM |
Lexington, KY?!
Um, NOPE.
by Anonymous | reply 50 | May 23, 2025 7:02 AM |
R8's quiz is shitty.
Fremont, Calfiornia?
Beaches? You're never going to lure me with beaches. Stop asking.
Snowy winters? No or Neither.
Public transportation? Not much of an issue except occasionally in a huge city. And I don't commute. I prefer to live in the center and walk everywhere.
High-paying jobs? Doesn't affect me too directly as I don't work.
Mediocre restaurants? Conservative politics? No way
Mixed politics? Racial diversity? It depends. Some cities are as genuinely diverse but de facto segregated physically and with a great degree of tension. Other cities accommodate people from very different backgrounds more easily.. I've lived happily among people with different political leanings, usually in neighborhoods not whole cities, and more the old school Republicans who were culturally liberal ()the opposite of what the US has today.)
by Anonymous | reply 51 | May 23, 2025 11:22 AM |
If you’re gay and married or ever want to be don’t move to a red state. Eventually they will ban gay marriage.
If you’re capable of becoming pregnant don’t move to a red state. Much too dangerous.
by Anonymous | reply 52 | May 23, 2025 11:38 AM |
R40, are those all states now?
by Anonymous | reply 53 | May 23, 2025 12:24 PM |
I want two weeks of snow and half a year of sweater weather, the rest cool. If I want hot beach weather I'll travel for it. I don't want to need an AC.
I don't want the the surrounding people to be assholes.
by Anonymous | reply 54 | May 23, 2025 2:39 PM |
Colorado?
by Anonymous | reply 55 | May 23, 2025 2:40 PM |
r53 if you could read, you’d know it was in response to additional thread comments about cities—there was even a quiz posted. Buckle up, or get some new eyeglasses.
by Anonymous | reply 56 | May 23, 2025 2:41 PM |
Northeast Ohio. HreTer Cleveland. Fantastic weather much of the year. Thanks to glibal wRming the einters are relatively mild. GreT theater, arts, culture, dining. Teriffic neighborhoods to explore. Beach, lake erie, swimming paddling himing. Its THE GREATEST LOCATION IN THE NATION!!!!
by Anonymous | reply 57 | May 23, 2025 2:43 PM |
R57 I won't move to a place with Midwest barbarians. Stay in the back alleys of Toledo, that's your place.
by Anonymous | reply 58 | May 23, 2025 2:50 PM |
R57/ Mr. Trump, this is Datalounge, not Truth Social. Thank you for your ATTENTION TO THIS MATTER.
by Anonymous | reply 59 | May 23, 2025 2:52 PM |
I don't know -- when I went to Cleveland for a job interview (yay triple C!), the people in Cleveland were extraordinarily nice to me, and I've never forgotten it.
Nice goes a very long way.
by Anonymous | reply 60 | May 23, 2025 3:13 PM |
OP, Vermont, Maine, Michigan, New York, Massachusetts, New Hampshire all good choices.
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