Dating a ripped guy with muscles is a terrible idea

of all the things that never happened this never happened the most

Sounds like you knew he was a narcissist a few months in but stayed out of your own insecurity and your attraction to him.

Your fault for staying so long - it really is.

R2 I didn’t say it wasn’t my fault. Consider it my PSA.

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Been there, done that, OP. You're right.

I like muscles tho. I wouldn't date a fatty

I had a fling with a gym addicted bodybuilder once. Never again. OCD dietary habits. Life revolves around his workouts. And all those pulchritudinal images of big thick manly muscle do not convey the farting, the farting, the FARTING.

Your fault, OP, you stayed.

Children. Big babies

Seven years of dating?

R7 I’m the OP. My ex was unemployed for a period of one year when I was with him, during which time he played video games all day and went to the gym TWICE a day instead of once. Also during this one year period not once did he vacuum or do laundry. I would work all day and then come home and do laundry.

I wish to god I had better self esteem back then but I didn’t.

You could always become a ripped guy, too, and the two of you could take a lot of pictures of yourselves with your shirts off and become influencers and bathe in the tears of the unobsessed.

You know what? Dating a fatty with body odor was a terrible idea.

Datalounge gym bro checking in here. For most of this year I’m working on cutting bodyfat percentage to as low as I can reasonably maintain, prior to resuming a small daily calorie surplus to add some additional muscle.

One of many positives is how this type of day-in-day-out living forces me to cook and prepare far more of my food here at home, and it forces me to learn how to be far more useful in the kitchen. I’m enjoying dabbling with Mediterranean/Spanish/Italian inspired foods as well as Mexican-inspired concoctions.

There can be a lot of personal benefits and positive things going through all of this. It keeps me from drinking too much - that’s for sure. I just avoid alcohol entirely for months on end while doing an extended gym and home cooking bender.

To each their own. I only live with dogs so I have no choice but to take care of things like laundry. The dogs aren’t going to do it - trust me I’ve suggested to them as much.

Can you share us some progress pics, r14? :)

R15 haha, down the road I should have some but I haven’t taken any progress pics thus far, this time around. I would like to set up a spare camera/tripod out of the way to snap daily pics which I could then make a timelapse of perhaps four months (eventually) compressed into a minute or so. Been pondering trying that.

Been making really good progress this year but I’d still prefer to be leaner so I’m going to keep on it - and a timelapse progress clip would be perfect. There was a period of about a year or more (a bit before Covid) when I could wear compression shirts and pull off that look. I’d like to be capable of doing that again.

At the end of the day, I think the desire for a gym bod comes from insecurity. Look, I’m glad that there are hot guys like that, god knows the world needs eye candy and porn stars, but in all honesty all the guys I’ve ever met like that have been arrogant and insufferable if you get to know them well enough. These are not the kind of guys you can have an intelligent conversation with about politics or world history. Furthermore with these guys the gym takes priority over everything. For long term relationships it’s better to have a guy who takes care of himself but is not obsessed with the gym. My ex was a gym rat but was also a smoker and ate junk food incessantly. The constant working out definitely wasn’t about health.

Please keep us up to date with every detail, r16. Nothing is more fascinating than hearing in detail about the work-out progress of strangers.

R18 oh fuck off you bitchy cunt. I knew one of you would show up.

Wait….could you be…ops narcissistic, gym obsessed ex he was humble-complaining about?!

r14 just farted

It's like everyone wanting to lick Marky Mark's pecs and suck his cock, even though he's a worthless phobic racist thug of a human being.

What R7 said. Muscle guys… well, they smell.

[Quote] I wouldn't date a fatty

But would you date a watty?

The farting is usually from the protein shakes (usually too much whey protein). They don't need ALL of that protein - but they still do it.

The trick is to use Bean-O and put it in the shake. Back when I used to lift a lot and got into whey protein shakes, the gas was out of control. I felt like I couldn't leave the house - and just the worst rotten egg farts. Used bean-o and cleared it all up.

I haven't done that in over 15 years - but just wanted to throw in the whys of the farting.

R25 yeah definitely the whey protein and i think another part of it is the shakes as nutritional mode of transport. Our guts are just not able to assimilate a whopping 2,000 calories immediately without major turbulence. Not meant to take our meals as 2 minutes of intense Gulp Gulp Gulp Gulp Belch from a thick dense protein shake that fills the whole damn blender.

The smell was so putrid it permanently put me off bodybuilders! Probably all for the best.

I shudder at my acquaintances in their 40s and older still regularly posting shirtless photos of themselves on social media. A number of them are in relationships, but being QUEER it is completely normal and expected that one projects a wholly sexualized exterior at all times!

It's embarrassing how basic being gay is now.

“The farting, all that farting” 🤣🤣🤣

R14 must fart, a lot.

R28- Gentlemen say PASSING WIND not farting.

R27 we are fully assimilated now! Just like Italian-Americans!

I worked with a young guy who was a fitness freak. He looked really good, with the classic V-shaped torso, broad-shouldered, muscular back, arms and pecs.

He was constantly flirting with some girls on my team, and I was genuinely surprised that they were all repulsed by him. Apparently, the level of muscularity (and perceived vanity) was off-putting, but I learned the main issue they held against him was that his office stank of protein farts.

You were always on the girls’ team, even in grade school I bet.

[quote] Gentlemen say PASSING WIND not farting.

We had a nellie little prisspot here recently who referred to "the act of moving one's bowels."

R34- I refer to IT as DEFECATING.

[quote] OCD dietary habits

This reminds me that the only people more irritating than vegans are keto zealots. Seriously. I know a few vegans and although they are self-righteous, I've never had them point at my food and yell out "MEAT!" or "DAIRY!". But I have absolutely had keto people point out carbs on my plate constantly, telling me that carbs will cause me to gain weight. Why the fuck do you care?

But does he have a nice ass? And what does it look like now?

R32, men--straight and gay--like muscles way more than hetero women do. This is why men are always the ones to compliment other guys when they see they've bulked up (it's rarely women who do that).

[quote] I refer to IT as DEFECATING.

I still remember the coworkers who would say he was "going to drop the Cosby kids off at the pool."

R37 smelly and slightly dirty. Not like a clean -as-a-whistle Italian ass.

Little Lord Fartleroy you mean

R26 - you're not exaggerating - it really is just nauseating. And some of them are really proud of that - and fart all over the gym. I know from my own experience, take your worst fart, then multiply by 3x and then do it 10-20 times a day.

I don't understand the ones that don't do an anti-gas supplement - it really is revolting.

I’ve dated two ripped guys, each for a short time. Yes, everything revolved around their gym and strange eating schedules. They both shrieked if there was a carb within a few feet away.

One was a total sweetheart; the other has a somewhat a pain in the ass—but both were pretty boring in bed

What does that say about you?!

The solution is to get yourself a guy with a decent average body and who is reasonably average to good looking but not with movie star looks. That way they won’t be full of themselves. They will treat you well and be much better in bed.

Im in good shape( a guy congratulated me in a club last week; but i dont do any gym and just have always tried to eat right. But my point is, im mistaken as a gym gay and gays are shocked that im a friendly, nice guy. The fit gays can be nasty fuckers. And most of them had to get a gym body cos they werent handsome. It must be insecurity. At the club i was in there was about 6 guys, shirts off just all swapping kissing partners. While i was envious, they held about as must interest in my join8ng a group of str8 lads. Theres no fun or bit of camp.

R46 - I always found groups of 8-10 gay men with their shirts off - all making out or hanging on to each other - just weird and performative. Are they all fucking each other? I don't think so but I could be wrong.

It seems so high school and immature. I don't make out with my gay friends - I don't know anyone who does except these types of guys. They stand around shirtless with their water bottles, with their arms around each other's waists or similar in closeness.

Literally nobody else does this - not straight guys, straight women or lesbians or even 95% of gay men. Just these guys.

R47

[quote]It seems so high school and immature.

Meet the gay community.

[quote]They stand around shirtless with their water bottles

And don’t for get the shirts in the back pocket.

[quote]And most of them had to get a gym body cos they werent handsome. It must be insecurity.

My ex had a gym bod but the face of a gorilla.

These guys flash the bods obsessively because they have nothing else to offer. NOTHING!

“a guy congratulated me in a club last week”

—tha man in the mirror

R48 - but it's not the entire gay community - just a small subsection. You see it at every gay event though. I've never understood it.

Yes everyone wants to look good - and not all good looking guys do this - just these types.

I briefly dated a body builder who was beautiful in person. He had a roid-ish neck and square jaw but he was pretty divine looking. Blonde, tan, with aqua blue eyes. Beautiful until,l it came time to get down and there was hardly any "there," there. Maybe 3" at mast. He was a jackrabbit guy and terrible in bed. He smelled weird and then tried to blame me for not liking it. There was nothing there to like, thanks for the 3 forgettable minutes. Goodbye.

R51 that reminds me of a beautiful Polish bodybuilder I met in Toronto. He was stunning - beautiful face, beautiful torso, enormous chest and biceps. He flirted with me all night, made out with me, and then asked me back to his place. He claimed to be vers and I told him I was a bottom. Several times, in fact.

We get to his place and....of course he says "I'm in the mood to get fucked tonight" and gets on all fours, his jockstrap still on, to hide his tiny dick. His back looks like a bas relief map of acne. He had a musty smell....no, not musky, not a hot manly smell, but MUSTY, like a damp basement, like mothballs. It made me want to retch.

I said my apologies and left. (Thank goodness I was able to hail a cab someone had just gotten out of in front of his building.)

For seven years, the OP had Diana Ross' "Muscles" playing on his iPod on an endless loop, trying to convince himself he was in love.

OP we're sorry you don't have the discipline to have a great body.

[quote]Dating a ripped guy with muscles is a terrible idea

Thank you for pointing out the absolute universality of your sad seven-year experience, OP.

Bad muscles! Bad!

R6- I would not date a fat either, but would you date a good looking guy who was not muscular but just slim?

Send them my way, please.

[quote]would you date a good looking guy who was not muscular but just slim?

My favorite type.