Queer Fragility - What if Queer Liberation doesn't offer freedom?

I am very sorry, but my brain melted while reading thru "Defining Calvinist Lucidity"& then I DIED!!

The older I get, the less patience I have for this type of navel gazing. No one asked for it, no one needs it.

Very simple. Gay men are men who like men. Men who are willing to sleep with FTMs are bisexual.

Word salad.

Real (not Tumblr) sexual orientations are valid identities but they’re also social constructs.

Part of me believes a lot of people had to be doing it for it to become such an issue throughout history.

From the link

[quote]Critics of ftm-inclusive porn highlights the tensions between homosexuals who insist that sexuality is based on biological sex and queerness where sexuality can hinge on subjective gender experience.

And this is why the whole queer thing is anti-gay.

Nothing I like less on OF than seeing a guy playing with a FTM clit. And trying to convince us how hot it is.

Agreed R6. I’m “gay” because I have an attraction to other males that I cannot control. A woman with hacked off tits dressed like a man does not turn me on and never will. God I hate what has happened to our community.

R8 Exactly!

Anyone who has a penis is a man, period.

Thus a woman can never be a man.

r1 r2 r3 r4 r5 r7

I gave up on “The Advocate” when they had the article, “How to Date a Trans Man”.

So that’s how it’s going to be for the magazines that used to have those personals ads.

Yes, of course

someone who feels they have always been gay—more worthy of respect or rights than someone who chooses homosexuality as a mode of living, resisting heterosexual scripts?

“YOU MUST LOVE ME!”

Liberation, period. We can move forward with universal equality based on mutual shared respect now, and THEN maybe some of the lines between blocs will soften so as not to offend people who don't want to be included with others. Be yourself. Make your own choices. Quit seeing the differences when it comes to equality, and sort things out on the individual level.

And for fuck's sake stop demanding that people who aren't into you MUST be into you or that someone else's attraction make one responsible for it.

Move along, toots.

^makes one

Wow, I'm so glad somebody decided to post a new trans-bashing thread. It has been several seconds at least.

In today's edition of "some opinions are better kept private."

Clearly written by some college senior or freshly out of college who thinks he/she has something important to say.

All over a tweet about a gay porn performer filming content with FTM.

Don't waste your time writing BS like this - life is too short and nobody is going to read your 10,000 word essay using big words.

[quote] Why is male bisexuality often treated with contempt by both straight women and gay men?

One of the stupidest questions I’ve ever seen raised with a straight face.

These kinds of ponderous, navel-gazing think pieces about sexuality are the very definition of tedious. Someone should clue in the authors of these meandering tomes of irrelevancy that no one outside of authors’ circlejerk bubble of online “influencers” could remotely give a shit. They never say anything novel, or new, or insightful, or revelatory. They are the written version of screeching fingernails across a chalkboard.

We all have our own kinds of sexualities, and I find it both insufferable and bizarre this concept that we are supposed to lie around all day in a perpetual self-reflection and examination of all of this, as nauseam. As I said, the utter height and dictionary definition pure tedium incarnate.

A lot of this shit isn’t nearly as deep as they desperately want to make it out to be. But then not all of us are complete self-obsessed narcissists either.

I hate the term “Trans” so much. I’m a very visual person for whom that word conjures in me an image of a highway running through a giant hole carved through the bottom of the middle of a big mountain.

Men will fuck any available hole. They've fucked men, women, children, farm animals, corpses, blow-up dolls, pillows, melons...

If you want one, fine. I just don't anymore. You can't turn them into a partner; they're always looking for a new hole.

One of my academic ex-colleagues has written multiple 8000 word plus papers, published in peer reviewed queer/sexuality journals, on the politics of his preferred porn scene, or porn genre, or NSFW subreddits. The ability of a “queer” to waste hours writing on the meaning of a single porn tweet does not surprise me.

[quote] This is not merely an abstract philosophical query

Could have fooled me!

Sexual orientation is in every sense biological. No one is sexually attracted to a subjective sense of identity or a stereotypical expression of one. When naked, nothing BUT biology counts. It is not a choice to be turned on by ideological decree - why do you think LGB people risk imprisonment and death to love another, if they could just choose differently? To suggest otherwise IS profoundly homophobic.

Well said R26, sex is essentially biologically driven

[quote]When naked, nothing BUT biology counts.

This is key, because despite DL incredulity and the persistent idea that one “always knows,” there are transmen who pass well enough and certainly are attractive (before the clothes come off, that is).

Anything with the word “fragility” in the title is going to be self congratulatory mental masturbation.

I grew up in a conservative Christian environment, so I have a lot of questions about sexuality.