She Moved to Italy for a Dream 3-Month Au Pair Job. 5 Days Later, She Was Fleeing Her Host Family

[quote] “She raised her voice at me,” Reeson recounts. “I’m not good with confrontation, so I just apologized and moved on.”

And yet she thought Italy would be a good fit for her?

I don't understand why the host family needed a young girl from another country to come and take their kid to school and pick him up at the end of the day. There aren't any Italian nonnas who could be hired to do that? No Italian teenagers or Italian college students they could hire to go on vacation with them and push the kid in a stroller? Added bonus: Italian nonnas and Italian students speak ITALIAN!!

R2 learning english is SO important in countries like Italy, that I am sure that was part of her job description - to speak in English with the kid. You can’t advance to hire paying jobs or careers in Italy without knowing English. It really is a marker of an educated person.

^higher paying,,,

Oh dear, clearly not Italian American. Never learned manipulation or how to argue.

She knows how to post on TikTok but doesn’t have the sense to use Google Translate when needed?

It’s probably for the best. With her level of life skills, she probably would have ended up killing the kid.

She was absolutely at a loss of how to cope with Italians in Italy, but so so ready to TikTok the whole thing. Got it.

Another Gen Z entitled and spoiled baby who is completely inept at keeping a job, tolerating confrontations and criticism, etc. She even expected her employers to help her with the baby she was hired to take care of! Unbelievable. And the world is going to be in the hands of these creatures.

Most of those responses to the People article were by readers who don’t know the difference between a nanny and an au pair. Girl was overly dramatic but the mother complaining that she was doing things wrong and then sending her to the non-English-speaking father for an explanation seems short-sighted.

A large % of the blame falls on the au pair agency. The agency’s entire purpose is to make good au pair / family matches. They should have been skilled enough at interviewing and screening, to catch this as a potentially bad match.

What a drama queen. Why didn't she just quit? There's zero reason for her to sneak out at the crack of dawn. Jesus christ.

Maybe she was caught sniffing the husband underwear, like Susan Sarandon's daughter

This is fucking ridiculous.

With her "sneaking out at 530am," I really thought I was going to read about untoward sexual advances or potential violence. Instead, she just couldn't 1) adapt, 2) try to resolve problems and 3) be assed to spend more than 5 puny days before she acted like an immature child and ran away without telling them she was leaving. She was in no imminent danger, and her handling of the whole situation was extremely juvenile and downright stupid.

I'm not saying there were not issues with the way the father/mother of the child were acting/handling it, but she didn't even ONCE try to resolve problems/lack of communication on her own. She took the easy way out and just ran away. Those people should be happy that she didn't remain...she surely couldn't have been relied upon if she was faced with a situation involving safety and judgment calls on behalf of the child.

Fucking idiot.

(I'd also lay odds that anyone on this thread who tries to excuse her for her childish behavior or doesn't have anything to say about the way she handled this is under the age of 35)

Good grief. Culture shock and home sickness does not call for a People article and this level of drama.

If you agree to become someone’s servant, you have to expect being treated the way she was. I would never be a servant. I don’t do anything for anyone. If you ask me to get you something, I will tell you, “Get it your damn self!”

Why did she take this job in the first place, if she did not speak Italian?

Okay, so the mother should not have yelled at her, but the most hilarious complaint was that no one cared what a toll it was on her pushing a stroller. She sounds like Meghan Markle ("No one asked me how I was doing.")

Entitled, little moron!

[quote]“I’ve babysat since I was 12 or 13, and I love children,” she explains exclusively to PEOPLE.

"Exclusively to PEOPLE" because no other publication would even consider publishing the mundane details of her generic adolescence.

[quote]Reeson describes feeling ignored as she pushed the stroller while the family walked ahead without acknowledging her efforts

Was she actually expecting them to tell her what a good job she was doing as pushing a stroller?

[quote]Later that evening, she was berated for falling asleep during the ride home after an exhausting day

You're meant to be taking care of the kid, of course they won't be happy if you fall asleep and they have to deal with it.

Accounting for bias, given we only heard one side of the story, it doesn't really sound like the family did anything wrong.

[quote] “I’ve babysat since I was 12 or 13, and I love children,” she explains exclusively to PEOPLE.

Are we sure that she babysat actual CHILDREN and not DOLLS or PETS?

“probably needed a hug. snuck out of my host families house to get one…”

The misery, the exquisite tragedy. The Susan Hayward of it all.

Her self proclaimed not liking confrontation is not anyone's problem but her own. it's extremely passive aggressive way of making everyone else the bad guy in situations that frankly, don't seem to be any kind of issue at all.

“In the clip, Reeson, visibly shaken, narrates her early-morning departure: ‘I’m sneaking out of my host family’s house. It’s 5:43 a.m. I’m literally shaking. That was literally the scariest thing ever.’”

Omg you guys and she was also LITERALLY TIKTOKing her ordeal.

[quote]Her self proclaimed not liking confrontation is not anyone's problem but her own.

And a natural result of having grown up with "safe spaces" everywhere. Everyday communication with other people sometimes entails confrontation, it's just unavoidable.

r9 I often wonder what the Alphas will be like, because I don't think it can get any worse. Surely there will be a natural correction or a rebalancing somewhere down the line?

She posted on TikTok that she is going to Orlando at the end of the month with her father.

She bought herself a 3-day Disney World pass as she plans to go solo to the theme park.

This too shall end in tears.

Are we going to get another TikTok about how "literally exhausted" she is by having to stand in "literal lines" and how massively expensive an iced latte is or how she's so shaken by the sheer amounts of people there are in the park?

The TikTokification of everyone's most inane "problems" is as bad as all that shitty A.I. circling around.

Gods, take me back to the '90s, please!

Her Instagram is unintentionally amusing :"love like Him" as her tag line and all those "look at me" pics.

She looks a bit like Amanda Bynes, pre-breakdown/weird eyebrows and heart tattoo.

She also has a VERY slappable face.

And these people will wipe out butts when we're in the nursing home? Lord help us!

I just *love* the idea of these American Gen Z TikTok girlies strolling over to Italy of all places! Yes, the same ones nitpicking their huge issues with "male toxicity" and unwanted flirting.

If they have a problem with this in America, [bold]oh boy[/bold] are they in for a surprise with Italian men. 🤣 I am not sure that they are ready for that!

Where is Amanda Knox when you really need her?!

r32 I also love the idea of her thinking the mom raised her voice at her when that's just how Italian women talk regularly, lol.

Yet she had the presence of mind and time to take endless selfies in her five days in Italy, or at least on the day they were. in Portofino.

Was it her day off somewhere during her five days? Sounds tough. And she looks like a 12 year old. Probably acting that age as well.

But the Italian selfies! I think there's more to this story.

The "more to this story" is she had to do actual work and didn't realize that it was going to be quite like she had her entire day free to snap picks of herself and try pasta in Italy for the first time, etc. etc.

It was NOT the free ride she thought it was going to be. She's nothing better than entitled, spoiled child. Prove me wrong...show me something she's done that's admirable, that she did on her own of her own volition with her own hard work. Should be pretty easy, given she has CONSTANT TikToks about her life, etc.

I'll wait to hear the evidence that this brain trust is working at ANYTHING beyond self-gratification, doing anything that's NOT self-serving.

Very immature girl. As far as yelling, was it actually yelling g or Italians being Italian?

Being ignored while they walk ahead? You were hired to do that, not to be another kid.

Oh brother, what a wusss. This dummy and her non story gets an "EXCLUSIVE" with a magazine?

They should fucking publish my escape adventure then, let me tell you! I was the Director of a large bilingual school in China. Like Moron in Italy above I took the job on a whim, looking for adventure, born to be wild. After I get there I find out the two owners are sons of a Taiwanese arms dealer and couldn't care less about schools, kids, employees, or morality. They viewed everyone as a spy, for whom or for what I could never figure out. When I told a few disgruntled parents I was giving my notice a French dad said "don't do that! They could flag your passport. To get this school established you have to be in with the CCP. They don't like people complaining about corruption." So he and his wife helped me exchange my RMB for USD on the black market and I LITERALLY fled the country in the middle of the night. I often think of that awesome French family. Unfortunately they moved to Kiev shortly before the Maidan Uprising.

R32 I think that was part of it. Nobody was trying to fuck her . Looking at her pics I see why .

Judging by that photo, I don't think she was in much danger of being harassed by Italian men.

Now, maybe some Italian LESBIANS...

Or, if she was located near a School for the Blind.

R40, I don't want her either. She thinks I am yelling at her!

[quote] Or, if she was located near a School for the Blind.

But she probably stinks.

Couldn't even last one week 😂!! Gentlemen and ladies, this is currently happening in workplaces all across America. And Europe, too, apparently!

Stupido stronzo.

In Agatha Christie books, there was always a comical servant who called the Au Pair, the "Opera Girl".

And, the poor Opera Girl pretty much always got killed.

"The Susan Hayward of it all."

Beautiful! I'm stealing it.

We are only hearing one side of the story, her side.

Wait till it comes out that she made it all up for SM clout…

She did it for the lolz!

R46 if you do, just be aware you’re stealing it from Rupert Everett in “My Best Friend’s Wedding.” I agree, it IS a great line!

Scream and cry

In the late 80s my cousin went to be an au pair in France. She left early because the husband was handsy.

[quote] the husband was handsy.

Does that mean he had more than two?

She is extremely plain, boring looking and unsexy. Not even a little fuckable. No lips, bad skin, shapeless body.

Are there female incels? No wonder she makes up ridiculous tales on social media. And her personality is obviously shit. She’s not only easy to ignore, she’s essential to ignore.

It's actually better for all of the parties involved that she left early because an Italian lady kept 'yelling' at her.

If she thought this situation was so scary and "toxic," who knows how badly things would've spiraled in a few short weeks.

And on top of everything else foreskin made her quesy.

Ugh that voice.

I hate social media people. oMg *Kardashian wannabe vocal fry* let me film some interesting content in the midst of some manufactured drama!* Let me sip a latte and eat* omg! *

Nauseating

Why is she posing and talking like an influencer? In some of these shots she gives Alice from the Brady Bunch

She's like a real life, even more annoying and entitled Portia from White Lotus.

They didn't compliment her on the awesome job she did pushing a stroller? I'm literally shaking.

R60, she expected to be pushed in the stroller after her 1 hour of work was done.

Parents who hire au pairs are nightmares, uniformly.

There's a reason they want young, inexperienced and poorly-paid girls

"And carrying all these bags". Oh my sides.

That's what the Mafia wife hired you to do, white-woman!

Trying to work out why she had gone on the day trip with them in the first place. Au pairs are there to talk English, do a couple of hours of work in exchange for room and board and perhaps a very small payment. Sounds like the host family wanted a full on nanny at little cost and the girl was too pathetic to discuss the situation and make sure terms were established.

[quote] A large % of the blame falls on the au pair agency. The agency’s entire purpose is to make good au pair / family matches. They should have been skilled enough at interviewing and screening, to catch this as a potentially bad match.

I don’t think Au Pair World is a full service agency. She was only supposed to be there for 3 months and booked her own flight. Probably didn’t have the required visa or work permits.

This is what I think happened - The mom “unloaded her negativity” on the young idiot to let her know that the reason she was there was because mom’s job was very demanding and the family needed more help. And that she was supposed to deal with the dad. Then the au pair kept bugging the mom.

One very good price of advice I was given - “Treat the au pair as if she was your college roommate’s daughter.” She is there to do a job, but she is young and inexperienced and her needs matter, too. That’s why she’s so cheap but that’s also why she’s (hopefully) someone you don’t mind sharing your home and some meals with.

Au pairs are for parents who want to feel ritzy enough to have help, but are too poor to pay for a real nanny

[quote]I’m literally shaking.

This generation is always "literally shaking."

[quote]home sickness does not call for a People article

Well, if it doesn't I just don't know what does!

[quote]That’s why she’s so cheap but that’s also why she’s (hopefully) someone you don’t mind sharing your home and some meals with.

Can you imagine her arriving and now you have to look at it eating at your table? Interact with it? Now wonder they made her walk behind.

Ah you’re right R65. It seems AuPairWorld is merely a personal-ads-type interface, and not so much an agency that would interview and screen. (I’m the prior poster who blamed “the agency”)

Speshul shouldn't go au pair. Even I know that.

I was expecting to read an article about a family that was physically abusive, denied her food and water, and locked her up in her bedroom after hours, which necessitated her harrowing late night escape from her captors.

Instead, I got the story of a young girl with zero coping skills who couldn't understand why she didn't get her head patted for pushing a stroller and who didn't have enough sense or maturity to simply sit down with her host family and say, "I'm sorry, but this situation isn't working out and I'm going to resign."

What an entitled idiot.

"This was literally a terrible experience! I literally thought I was going to literally get to have fun in Italy and literally take selfies and literally post on social media and literally just put clothes on a kid for literally a few minutes each day. I literally had to work an entire day and was literally exhausted and one even literally appreciated me! It was literally such a bad experience I literally had to escape in the middle of the night and literally take an Uber to the airport. It was literally the scariest thing ever."

She's a complete idiot if she thought being an au pair was a "dream job."

She looks like Bitsy from Working Girl.

She was so traumatized by the experience, she barely had the emotional willpower to post videos of everything she ate and drank at the airport in Italy.

How did this stupid story a dumbshit girl with the emotional maturity of the child she was hired to take care of end up as a feature in People?

Do her parents know someone who works there?

This doesn’t even warrant an entire article.

The dramatic escape as she walks out the door!

Thirstier than the Sahara, supersonic level of delusion. I hope she is actually traumatized and remains so.

I'm sure she's reached the conclusion this type always reaches: I was perfect. Everyone else was terrible. And anybody that doesn't totally see me as a victim and agree with me is just a hater.

Her parents must know people who work for the magazine.

Her escape was so dramatic!! Everything but the dogs nipping at her heels.

I'm willing to believe the parents are cunts but that's it. She should have told them off and then left like a normal person.

The timeline is a little unclear but if I understand correctly, within days of arriving in Italy she tippy-toed out of the host family's house at 5.30 in the morning and took an Uber to her flight at the airport? All spur of the moment because it had all turned too weird for for? (And that horrifying day in Portofino where the parents didn't sufficiently include her in their Italian conversation that they wouldn't understand?

How clever of her to have an open-ended ticket at the ready.

I like too the detail about how the experience didn't match her images from TikTok of la dolce vita in Italy.

Entitled GenZ idiot. Can these children do NOTHING?

This is the most harrowing escape story since Sally Fields in “Not Without My Daughter”!!

[quote]Reeson describes feeling ignored as she pushed the stroller while the family walked ahead without acknowledging her efforts.

That's because you're the help, dear. Did you think they'd adopted you?

Newsflash: Another Gen Z dramatic sparkle pony pulls another dreary "silent quitting" over inexistent trauma and abuse.

[quote] What a drama queen. Why didn't she just quit? There's zero reason for her to sneak out at the crack of dawn. Jesus christ.

She wanted to go viral in Tiktok. And she did - racking up millions of views. She even it made in People.

[quote]She even it made in People.

A sign of success!

Ive taught college for over 2 decades. Her face reads trouble. I wouldn't have let her in my home let alone near my kids.

Oh, my God. This bitch. She had to get up at 8:00 in the morning! She had to prepare milk without any instructions on how to heat it up or how much to pour! She had to get in a car and ride with the kid to school!

She's still in shock from the inhumanity of it all!

I tortured myself by watching a couple of TikToks where she explains her horrendous five days in Italy.

She bitches that she wasn't familiar with public transportation in Milan and that made it stressful when she was taking the kid to school. Hey, bitch, here's a thought. Maybe you should've arrived a few days before your job was set to start so you could familiarize yourself with public transportation. Maybe instead of taking selfies, you could've been studying a bus and/or subway map. Maybe instead of taking a nap you could've been figuring out how to get from Point A to Point B and back.

This useless piece of garbage using up oxygen will cease to function in the real world, regardless of where she ends up. Her best hope is to find some poor sap who will support her financially so she can spend her life taking videos of what she eats all day.

Yeah I mean she did this on purpose, either result (great time or nightmare) would have yielded Tik Tok traffic. The worst scenario would have been mediocre in which case she would have had to select which narrative she wanted to promote.

She turned off all the comments on her posts.

The bitch must have been getting bombarded with hate posts.

LOL!

[quote] She bitches that she wasn't familiar with public transportation in Milan and that made it stressful when she was taking the kid to school. Hey, bitch, here's a thought. Maybe you should've arrived a few days before your job was set to start so you could familiarize yourself with public transportation. Maybe instead of taking selfies, you could've been studying a bus and/or subway map. Maybe instead of taking a nap you could've been figuring out how to get from Point A to Point B and back.

I laughed at that part. It reminded me of stories an ex-girlfriend told me about her days when she was an ESL teacher in Paris. My girlfriend said that ESL teachers from other European countries were already used to taking public transportation and could figure out the systems pretty quickly.

But, some of the American ESL teachers were dumb as rocks when it came to public transportation. My ex grew up in Philadelphia and used SEPTA since she was kid to get around with her older siblings. When she got to Paris, she studied the maps and routes and picked up quickly. Some of the American ESL teachers would tell her "I never rode any public transportation in my life and it's hard to deal with".

The daughter of a wealthy (surgeon) friend of mine graduated from Boston College a year ago and decided to take a job at a vintage clothing store but quit after only a few weeks because they were “mean” to her one day. Do these kids think the workplace is all fun and games, and can’t take the slightest bit of criticism?

Digital natives. I get the ones connected enough to real life to make it a good state university. However, many are unable to handle that I read their papers, and listen to their oral tests, and make comments and give constructive feedback. The buildup to evaluations is a slog. When you have to intercede and correct on a dozen little tasks that make college level work legit. Which precovid, it seemed many had learned in their gymnases or technical programs. No more. Now a proportion have feral, non-academic, scattered minds. Some cannot make the leap to handle feedback and instruction constructively.

It's not all bad. Because when they are plugged into the Net they can do things very effectively and quickly. This bitch got herself millions of views. Her content is highly questionable, but on her terms, this is success!

If she can find an employer who could use the attention grabbing skills she does have, she may do alright.

[quote] She bitches that she wasn't familiar with public transportation in Milan and that made it stressful when she was taking the kid to school. Hey, bitch, here's a thought. Maybe you should've arrived a few days before your job was set to start so you could familiarize yourself with public transportation. Maybe instead of taking selfies, you could've been studying a bus and/or subway map. Maybe instead of taking a nap you could've been figuring out how to get from Point A to Point B and back.

It’s not on the au pair getting paid next to nothing to arrive early and pay for lodging to learn the local transport systems. Yes, she should have been studying websites for travel info, but the parents should have also provided instructions and done a trial run to the school with her.

But I’m guessing they did. Does she explicitly say they didn’t provide instructions or ride with her once? The normal thing to do is take a day off work and go thru the routine with the au pair - go to school, make sure the school staff know WTF she is, intro her to any neighbors the family interacts with regularly (the people you would go to if the door shuts behind you and you realize you’ve locked yourself out w/o your phone), show her where the market is, etc.

There are tons of apps for navigating public transportation--she should have been able to figure this out herself.

It would have been nice to walk her through a normal day, but she should be able to "learn how to learn".

This girl is an idiot. Life is going to be one bad decision after another for this dizzy nitwit.

She's not 10 years old and presumably can navigate the internet. She could have figured this shit out with her phone, but - as I stated very early in this thread - zero attempt at problem-solving and A+++ at giving up, running away and TikToking about what a massive dolt she is while drinking her stupid Starbucks drinks.

Let's face it, she was probably SO missing her huge, overly-sugared Starbucks drinks that it was at least HALF the reason why she decided to sneak out and go home, back to the status quo. I wonder what her parents think of her?

[quote]She bitches that she wasn't familiar with public transportation in Milan and that made it stressful when she was taking the kid to school.

The Milan metro system is so easy to navigate and everything is clearly marked with maps and signage. And in English too.

It's also clean and safe.

R104 Her parents knew she couldn't cut it and would be running home to them. They were grateful for the few days of peace they got. She's likely been one disappointment after another to them.

My mom and dad Love me!

Just pay the gypsy ladies to buy your subway tickets. It will cost 15 euro and they may sell the kid into white slavery, but they'll eventually get you where you need to go.

R108, lol. I like your style.

R101 Who said the au pair had to pay for her to come out early and learn things?

If she was serious about the job, it would have been in her best interest to do so on her dime. I'm sure mums and daddums would have paid for a couple of days in a hotel for their precious daughter.

What would motivate her to talk to People? Why didn't Mom and Dad tell to shut up? She looks like an ass having done this.

The girl is a twit but the Italians also sound like they wanted a full time nanny which is not what an au pair is supposed to be.

R112. There's nobody to root for in this story.

Sounds like they all deserved each other.

It's better that she left before she did an updated TikTok video of this article.

Can you imagine the tears and trauma?

Italian men can be dawgs, R115.

So fugly. Mismatched personality for that face.

[quote]My impression of the Italian man is negative from my experience here. They tend to stare and look at you up and down as you walk past and mumble something in Italian that I’m sure is not appropriate.

In Southern Europe, France, and some other countries it's entirely common for people on the street to stare at people whose paths cross. None of that bright and chipper "Good morning! How are you this five day?" shit from the US, they go straight in for a full looking over. It unsettles some Americans, but the smart ones see that it happens to everyone, and means nothing beyond a different sort of street level curiosity that shouldn't be taken as discourteous. Women and older people do it as much as men and it's not lasciviousness, just a different sense of public space.

That’s 8th grade level writing at R115. Imagine you have a kid and pay for her to go to college, including a semester abroad, and that’s what you get. What a scam. I’d be pissed.

R119 I disagree, and I'm a college prof and teach writing. The writer is a provincial person and mediocre mind at best. The text is a standard, well-executed review. It is clearly constructed with a proper introduction and conclusion and there is cohesion. The task is complete, mentioning positives and a negative. It was written in 2019 before AI and it succeeds at communicating a sense of the writer and her appreciation of her time in Rome. Just 6 years later, we have "digital natives" on campus and there is a sizeable minority who cannot write short texts in standard genres, without apps and templates and copying. And now AI. Whe we teachers remove the Internet connection, and ask them to write on paper, some cannot write at all, unless FORCED to do so for an exam, and then the writing is scattered. For a practice in class, some can write a sentence or two before they lose interest and give up.

Trust BonniePrinceCharlie to drag Meghan Markle into this.

[quote] I disagree, and I'm a college prof and teach writing. The writer is a provincial person and mediocre mind at best. The text is a standard, well-executed review. It is clearly constructed with a proper introduction and conclusion and there is cohesion. The task is complete, mentioning positives and a negative.

I can see this when you point it out, R120, and maybe it’s above the 8th grade level but would you pay $300k post high school to educate her to the level she is at? I defer to your expertise regarding the norm for college students, I just think that if she’s above the current standard then it’s pretty fucking bad.

Your post was great, though. Appreciate the insight.

R120 She mixes her tenses, her punctuation is atrocious, and her descriptions are mediocre at best. "The food tastes fresh." That took a lot of thought.

If this is the best our colleges and universities are churning out these days, it's no wonder we have a knuckle-dragging mouth breather in our nation's highest political office.

Many American college educations cost less than 300K. Also, many countries but especially the US latched onto the dream that all aspirational young people should "go to college", or "must go to college" to be viable workers. Those are different cans of worms. I agree that expensive educations producing high debts to result in students such as the writer of that basic review of study abroad, is money poorly spent. However, if her parents saw 300-400K as a pittance, then who cares. Some of the most expensive and elite colleges are not producing debt because they have need blind admit and generous tuition scholarships, not loans.

I just want to say on my "average state school" campus now we still have some brilliant and capable young people who can function in the old university cultures and expectations, as well as the new ways. We now have a growing number of scatter brains who cannot communicate clearly unless they are plugged into the internet on their gadgets. Then, some of them can do things much faster and more efficiently but in an entirely new conception of critical thinking and intellectual integrity. Most schools haven't figured out how to deal with AI completely, because all the academic integrity rules are fresh and being trialed. I think I'm going to have 5 fails in a class of 20 this semester because these ones cannot function and communicate clearly on academic tasks if they are not connected, but their program still insists on old culture exams.

The woman profiled in the OP is the type I said has "trouble written all over her". You can see it and she proved it. It seems like a histrionic personality disorder, and clearly an immaturity and inability to adapt and find solutions, which we would normally expect from a young college graduate. Or any bright young person. In the old days. However I noted that she did succeed when she brought the internet into her situation. She got enormous attention. Why she didn't use her gadgets to make a go of her situation is the crux of why she will fail in many jobs going forward. She could have been translating the father's instructions and figuring out transport and even discussing how to do her job with others doing the same job. She bailed quickly. This is similar to the students who bail on tasks in my classrooms. Ive actually never seen it before in 25 years of teaching.

R124 You're a teacher?

Oh, dear.

R120 "I went to Italy. The food was good. The guys were kind of icky. I liked Italy, though."

That's what that stupid girl wrote, with a just a few more words.

It was not an academic task and I said she is at best a mediocre intellect and she obviously is not a keen or sophisticated observer. She was probably not in an academic track at her probably mediocre school. It's fun and on point for DL to be snarkily dismissive of her mind and writing, but you'd never make it as a teacher today doing so, and it would be considered unprofessional. Those days of persnickety teachers holding to the finer distinctions are long gone. Her "review" is

acceptably organized (clear beginning, middle, end)

mostly cohesive (each paragraph develops a consistent idea)

casual but functional syntax (some minor tense shifts and comma issues, but no meaning loss). the tense shifts in restaurant/food descriptions may have been a clumsy and failed but observant attempt to use the historical present to make the experience "immediate" to the reader. She has noticed this in the world of texts, but has not mastered it.

lexically simple but accurate (no mistakes that make her sound uneducated — just unsophisticated vocabulary).

This is a typical, real, honest college student text for a personal reflection assignment, written before AI over-polishing was everywhere. She is not sophisticated, nor is the text. But the text is solidly human, clear, competent, and on-genre.

R123 - this is NOT "the best our universities can turn out". It's the baseline. It's the product of the automated "churn". So we jaded old sophisticates can hiss about it, but that's where we are. And yes, I can bet 33% of US Representatives could not write such a well structured text. It's worrying.

R127 This is one of the saddest essays supporting mediocrity I've ever read, and it comes from a college writing teacher.

*sigh*

And now back to the fleeing au pair.

She's a dumb cunt.

This girl with zero basic life coping skills reminds me of so many young people I work with. I retired from corporate America a few years ago, and I now have a part time "fun" job at a sports arena, where a large majority of the employees are younger people fresh out of school.

Just last week, I was working at one of the arena's private clubs, where the new manager of the space is a 23-year-old woman who's a recent college graduate. I was observing her speaking with a guest at the club at length, and when the conversation was over, she walked up to me with tears welling up in her eyes. She said, "I need a minute. I'll be back," then she took off down the hall and disappeared.

I thought the man had said something terrible to her, had harassed her, swore at her - the worst thoughts were running through my mind. When she finally came back, being concerned for her, I asked her what happened to make her so upset. "He was asking so many questions that I didn't know the answers to, and I just felt really pressured and it really triggered my anxiety." I was dumbfounded, but I probed a little more. "What was he asking you?" She said, "Things like how much of a deal he could get if he purchased a corporate membership and a personal membership for his family at the same time. I don't know!"

Really? That was it? THAT'S what triggered her? I said, "Well, did you tell him you could consult with the membership services group or have someone contact him directly to get more details?" She looked at me like it was a concept completely foreign to her.

Young people are completely unprepared for even the smallest of speed bumps in life.

“the photo i took of my brother so he knew what i wanted and I didn’t have to yell at him”

So, she is allowed to yell?

I was working at a restaurant last year, and a customer collapsed on the floor. The young server just stood there looking at him. I said, "Call 911!" She looked at me and said, "What's the number?"

I kid you not.

R130, was she acting as though it was a horrible experience and she had been through some trauma, or was she just feeling insecure that she didn’t have the knowledge to do her job properly? Because some people just cry easily. Would you have felt differently if she had phrased it differently and didn’t mention “trigger” and “anxiety”? Maybe, “I just feel like I’m not up to speed and people think I’m an idiot when I don’t have all the answers, it’s so embarrassing”

R133 She was full on behaving like something traumatic had happened to her. That's why I thought the man had said something really awful to her. Even if she hadn't said the interaction triggered her anxiety, I would have thought she was utterly unprepared to cope in life. I'm amazed she was hired as the space's manager. Did no one lob any "what if X, Y, or Z" happened while on duty? What decisions would you make" questions at her during the interview process?

Got it, thanks R134. I asked because I think sometimes it’s a language issue. Different ways of expressing things.

R135 I get that. But yes, the behavior was akin to someone who had just been told they were going to get their face shot off, not someone asking how much a membership would cost.

Reminds me of that episode of "Family Ties" where Mallory marches into the living room and says, "The light bulb in my bedroom just burned out. Now what do I do?"

She turned off comments on her TikTok account…hmmm

Au pair jobs are very much in the 'real world' if you realize you are to be a servant, not be a friend, do what you are old.

R139 Except they're not. It's my understanding that au pairs are more like a "mother's helper" that also has the benefit of exposing your child regularly to a foreign language you hope for them to learn.

R140, I know women with au pairs, and they are treated like PA’s. They grocery shop, run personal errands, take the kids to sports practices, birthday parties, help them do homework, etc. It is by no means a “mother’s helper” gig. And these au pairs are from overseas, teaching the kids a new language to boot. Americans are just fat assholes, don’t you know this yet? Americans treat workers like fucking shit and try to get away with as much as they can — it’s called Capitalism.

What does PA possess?

What R141 describes is what I have seen of (mostly unseen) au pairs and the women who employ them in the US. It seems normal for the American employer to bad mouth her au pairs all the whole missing no opportunity to explain that she employs one. The au pair is usually given a tiny and very spartan room and her employer seems always to hate her for not helping to keep the house clean or power wash the facade or cook an impeccably classic French dinner. I've seen few instances where the mother is happy with the arrangement; in the majority she has an arms' length list of grudges about the million ways the young woman in her house doesn't make herself more useful.

I don’t get what r127 is saying. Are we ok or should we be terrified?

My husband is actually a teacher at the American University of Rome. He says sometimes the Italian or foreign students, for whom English is their second language, are better writers than the American students. It’s weird. Some semesters the kids are brilliant. Other semesters it feels like humanity is doomed.

Get me a birra!

R121, ROTFLMAO!!

You could say the recollections of the host family may vary!

I'm sure that quite a shock for the family to wake up and find her gone.

Imagine if they left thinking she would watch the baby? They might have been emotionally distraught knowing they left their baby in the care of someone who would abandon their bambino.

They probably wondered if she stole anything! Left the door unlocked for a thief to break in!

In all honesty, it is hard to become a domestic servant for people you've never met before in a foreign country. But you can be direct, have ovaries, take your stuff to the sidewalk with your Uber waiting and say "I'm sorry, this isn't working. I'm leaving." Unless she thought they were going to attack her when hearing this it's a bit childish.

A "bit" childish? This is 100% a completely immature move. These people weren't a threat to her, she should have AT LEAST had the decency to say "this isn't working out for me" to their face.

You just know this is the way she's going to handle every scenario in her life that doesn't meet with her satisfaction. We have a "runaway bride" in the making here.

Agree so much r148. And it sounds like she talked to her parents in advance, which I'm thinking just because apparently they told her where to leave the car keys.

And they really should've told her exactly what you said, once they determined she wasn't in any physical danger and the "abuse" was really pretty much just "felt bad that everyone wasn't praising her sorry ass." It's a cliche, but this is a learning experience, and they could've said, here's an adult, non-stupid way to handle this situation. You tell them they seem unhappy with her, say it doesn't seem to be working, and say they should look for a different au pair and you'll stay until they find one (in a reasonable amount of time).

R147, it's very 'on brand' for youngsters her age to go the ghosting, silent quitting route. They only talk a big game online. Offline, they're quite timid.

“My emotions! My emotions! Must film EMOTIONS!”

She probably grew up in a household where her parents praised for every little thing that she did.

R152, that's most people her age.

It's almost like they've never, ever been told the word [bold]NO[/bold] before.

Today she posted two videos related to getting her nails done, again. She’s either in her car, on her walk, or getting coffee and bagels in the majority of her posts.

Poor child should have toughed it out in Italy.

R154, I want Teresa Giudice to beat her ass!!!!!

Why is trying to pretend she doesn't look like Ree Drummond?

R154 I'm hating this little bitch more and more each day.

She seems so immature in that TikTok--like a 12 year old girl.

She doesn't even have the emotional maturity of a 12-year-old girl.

More like six.

Future fat whore

R160 How nice that she can spend her day making TikToks as she lives rent free in mumsy and daddum's house.

Bitch needs to grow an au pair of balls and step into the real world.

Also, you can bet your bottom dollar that this bitch will end up hiring an au pair for her future children, and be completely dissatisfied when the au pair is professional, organised, courteous and responsible.

R163 This bitch will be lucky to land a husband who's an overnight security guard at an office building.

R160 I'm relieved to see that the trauma of having to work for five whole days hasn't permanently damaged her emotional well-being.

In Orlando with her dad.

Fresh off the plane and already complaining about the heat.

She has the face of a foot. I learned in high school that bitches who look like her need to be avoided at all costs. They think they’re princesses but don’t look like or have the talents of princess.

Dad is the problem. Told her the would the world shines out of her ass @R166

R167 yes she is TROUBLE. Also deeply self involved, veritable black hole energy suck, and exceedingly dull and insipid.

r166 stay tuned for her complaining about how expensive her stupid iced lattes are in Disney and other various complaints, as predicted at r27.

I feel sorry for her poor Italian employers.

R166 I'm not a violent person, but I have this overwhelming urge to punch her in privileged little priss face, then punch her father in his enabling face for having contributed to her reproduction.

An unaware basic bitch who doesn't know she's homely. Cool. Moving on

r172 I echoed that sentiment at r30, where I also deemed her face "very slappable."

R172 tbf it already looks like someone has

R175 "Slappable" just isn't satisfying enough for me. A curled up fist right between the eyes is what's needed.

Agreed, r176. I was trying to be somewhat diplomatic, but when I wrote my comment, the first thing I thought was "punchable" as well.

R177 This is DL. Let it all out.

She deserves a kick in the cuntbone, too.

R166 I wish I had a pair of bolt cutters so I could snap her fucking selfie stick in two.

R166 Such a beautiful view of the parking lot from her hotel room. Her dad's company really went all out to accommodate them.

R166 "It's literally so hot in Florida. I may have to sneak out of my dad's hotel room in the middle of the night."

“Do you really wanna know where I was April 29th?”

Actually, no.

She looks exactly like Saorise Ronan

R20 Pets are the not the same as dolls.

R183 Oh, please. You're giving her way too much credit. She looks exactly like Bitsy in Working Girl.

I had something similar happen to me.

I was offered a job working for a Hollywood producer, which included helping out with the kids whenever necessary.

The kids were great. I asked to shadow said producer for a day, before committing to it.

The one day revealed many red flags that I know would have been big issues for me. I was absolutely capable of doing the job, & surely would have enjoyed the perks, but there was tons of entitlement coming from the producer, & while I genuinely felt the producer was a decent person, & would have befriended them in real life, outside of a work environment, this wasn’t a person I could successfully work for, & let them know the following morning that it wasn’t a match for me.

While social media wasn’t totally prevalent when this occurred, had it been, I wouldn’t have put this person on blast on a social media platform, had I been able to.

Seems to me the girl tried, & realized it wasn’t for her. NBD, & no need to tell the planet all about it, either.

R186 Yeah, well, I bet you didn't have to try and figure out how to heat up milk or push a stroller and get NO RECOGNITION FOR IT!

You literally don't understand the horror I went through.

Not to mention that I was saddled with a three-year-old who didn’t speak English and who was in school from 8:30am to 6:00pm!

I don't undestand how/why "dream" and "au pair job" appear in the same sentence in the thread topic.

R189 People syntax and lexis. Growing up, did you never read an issue of People?