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Jeffery Self book "Self Sabotage"

Just read it this weekend - very enjoyable for the most part. Plenty of drama, humor, and stories about him being a sex worker while he was appearing on 30 Rock and other shows plus his struggles with mental illness. I like him. Anyone else read it yet? Any personal stories of meeting him?

by Anonymousreply 41April 27, 2025 1:50 AM

Gosh, he’s a writer, producer, actor, and director and yet he’s not Cole Escola.

Does Jeffery have a hit play touring the country with a bosomed understudy?

I will say, his IMDB page is more honest than Cole’s. Pictures of Jeffery make him appear as if he survived a Lutheran fentanyl rehab. Cole, on the other hand, looks like the boy next door. I’ve seen a lot of graffiti on that kid’s head.

by Anonymousreply 1March 17, 2025 4:57 PM

Sex worker? Try hooker.

by Anonymousreply 2March 17, 2025 4:57 PM

Perhaps he has raisin titties and he cried, R2.

by Anonymousreply 3March 17, 2025 5:00 PM

George Bernard Shaw remarked on the chummy relationship between the stage and the brothel.

The excerpt here sounds like he's leaning way too hard into the "It's just like hooking up only for money!" narrative.

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by Anonymousreply 4March 17, 2025 5:10 PM

He's tiresome.

by Anonymousreply 5March 17, 2025 5:12 PM

I don't think prostitution is an interesting subject unless it involves famous people. I'm not going to buy this guy's book to read about him fucking a gross nobody for money when we've all done that for free.

by Anonymousreply 6March 17, 2025 10:46 PM

What exactly is he known for?

by Anonymousreply 7March 18, 2025 12:35 AM

He’s a lousy writer.

by Anonymousreply 8March 18, 2025 5:30 AM

He was the catalyst for Andy Cohen's "vile pit of trollery" comment about DL.

by Anonymousreply 9March 18, 2025 12:16 PM

He’s ok. Kind of up his ass and always “on “ in mixed company. Theres a certain kind of Hollywood gay in that whole writer/actor scene that has polished their personality to the point where they can not longer be internal. Like they’ve taken the lessons of improv study and applied it to life to the point where the ping pong game must never stop. As an introvert I find it exhausting.

by Anonymousreply 10March 18, 2025 12:24 PM

OP, we must always include reference links in posts such as this. You know better. You want your potential reader to engage immediately, not leave your post to go search for the topic at hand. Let's work on this going forward.

by Anonymousreply 11March 18, 2025 12:32 PM

I loathe him and have for many years.

by Anonymousreply 12March 18, 2025 1:14 PM

He gives a shout out to Datalounge… stating that reading about himself here is worse on the self-loathing list than even Reddit.

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by Anonymousreply 13April 23, 2025 12:32 PM

He's 38 years old and he already wrote a memoir ?

No thanks.

by Anonymousreply 14April 23, 2025 12:46 PM

Who?

by Anonymousreply 15April 23, 2025 12:59 PM

Not a memoir, a collection of essays, R14.

by Anonymousreply 16April 23, 2025 1:39 PM

I’ve met him several times and he’s very nice. He’s exactly the sort of person DL loves to hate. The new book has very clever writing, and most of you would enjoy it.

And save your “hi Jeffery!”’s. I’m not him.

by Anonymousreply 17April 23, 2025 1:58 PM

R16 I think you mean ASSAYS.

by Anonymousreply 18April 23, 2025 2:01 PM

[quote] I’ve met him several times and he’s very nice.

If you think he’s nice, then you must be a bad person too.

by Anonymousreply 19April 23, 2025 2:19 PM

[quote] He gives a shout out to Datalounge

What was the shoutout?

by Anonymousreply 20April 23, 2025 2:28 PM

Hey, you guys!

by Anonymousreply 21April 23, 2025 2:37 PM

R20, he writes about how he (in all ways self-loathing) Googles himself. He then states (paraphrasing) that Reddit is worse but worst of all is reading about himself on Datalounge.

by Anonymousreply 22April 23, 2025 3:03 PM

Props for the gratuitous bitchery, r17.

by Anonymousreply 23April 23, 2025 3:27 PM

[quote] The new book has very clever writing

[quote] “As this gay Gordon Gekko and I traded our assets of bodily fluids, I glanced over at the polished mid-century modern mahogany desk piled with important-looking documents and spotted a copy of that week’s TimeOut New York, opened to the LGBT section. There, smack-dab in the middle of the page amid listings of drag shows and circuit parties, was a large picture of me and my best friend advertising the show we would be performing at Joe’s Pub that night. The john, who really did look like a poor man’s Michael Douglas in his Wall Street era, noticed me staring at it... but neither of us acknowledged it. Besides the embarrassment for us both, we were busy: the stock market was open, and he was IP-ing my O.”

Wow. It’s like if Mark Twain got his hole pounded for cash.

🙄

by Anonymousreply 24April 23, 2025 3:40 PM

He has a pretty big role in the movie Drop, which is currently in theaters.

by Anonymousreply 25April 23, 2025 3:49 PM

[quote]However, as I walked back home past Lincoln Center, my dried cum gluing my American Apparel V-neck T-shirt to my stomach

He has definitely written a few Nifty stories

by Anonymousreply 26April 23, 2025 4:04 PM

I had no idea who he was so I looked him up.

I still have no idea who he is.

by Anonymousreply 27April 23, 2025 5:13 PM

Whom did he play on "30 Rock"? I don't remember him at all.

by Anonymousreply 28April 23, 2025 5:51 PM

Sounds like he’s confused himself with someone interesting.

by Anonymousreply 29April 23, 2025 5:56 PM

r28 Liz's out-of-town cousin. It's the episode with James Franco

by Anonymousreply 30April 23, 2025 6:00 PM

[quote] He then states (paraphrasing) that Reddit is worse but worst of all is reading about himself on Datalounge.

I hope what he read included the negative comments I made about him years ago. That would make me feel good.

by Anonymousreply 31April 23, 2025 6:14 PM

[quote] It's the episode with James Franco

Wow. Weird gay sex whores and James Franco just happens to be around.

What a surprise. 🙂‍↔️

by Anonymousreply 32April 23, 2025 6:45 PM

The weird thing about memoirs of whoring are only interesting if:

a) the writer is genuinely famous in some other way (like Rupert Everett's Hello, Darling Are You Working?)

b) they fucked famous people and are willing to name names (like in You'll Never Make Love in This Town Again)

Otherwise they're just not very interesting. Several gay porn stars have written memoirs, and not a single one of them is really worth reading.

This guy is not famous enough to warrant people reading this memoir. His biggest career achievement is a single episode of "30 Rock."

by Anonymousreply 33April 23, 2025 6:56 PM

R33, his collection of essays include a lot more than whoring, did you read it in its entirety?

by Anonymousreply 34April 23, 2025 8:00 PM

The labored sex metaphor in the gay Gordon Gekko anecdote is very Carrie Bradshaw. I definitely don't want to read his book if he tries that hard to be cute and clever.

by Anonymousreply 35April 23, 2025 8:25 PM

[quote]I’ve met him several times and he’s very nice.

How much did he charge you?

by Anonymousreply 36April 23, 2025 8:32 PM

Who?

by Anonymousreply 37April 23, 2025 8:38 PM

Celia Rubenstein was a friend to all mankind….

WHO???!!!

by Anonymousreply 38April 23, 2025 8:48 PM

His name says it all.

by Anonymousreply 39April 23, 2025 9:10 PM

He write that he and his husband are in an open relationship - so, if he has a big part in Drop he may have gotten that from fucking around with director Chris Landon. Anyhow, that's what I'm fantasizing.

by Anonymousreply 40April 27, 2025 1:45 AM

No clue who he is but yes I hate him

by Anonymousreply 41April 27, 2025 1:50 AM
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