[quote] And I have to wonder — are you doing this specifically to be controversial and antagonistic?
Is it so hard to believe those guys might be there for the same reason that you’re there? To be in a sexual environment with other men? Why is that their very presence is about being provocative or to demand acceptance….instead of just wanting to be in an environment where they can be themselves?
Look, I’ve dated trans guys (I’m dating one now, in fact), and I know that makes me some kind of traitor or whatever. And I’m not saying that every cis gay guy has to be attracted to trans guys or they’re transphobic; I don’t think that. But the whole intentional misgendering and “drop the T” nonsense…aside from being bigoted, it’s tiresome. If some straight guy wanted you out of a locker room because he assumes that you’re just there to stare at this dick, you’d be pissed off and rightly so. To me, assuming that trans people want to be in sex-segregated spaces just for the purposes of being provocative is the same thing.
I’m not disputing the rights of the sisterwomen to exclude trans women, as much as I disagree with it. But I’m also kind of struck by the paradox—and frankly the hypocrisy—of what’s supposed to be an open space being so rigidly enforced. And I’m not just talking about WBW policy, I also mean things like the breast casting for womyn of color, or the woman who called the boy inmates at Camp Brother Sun “pre-rapists.” I don’t think I’d want minor children wandering around the Land either, but that level of hatred is pathological.
To me, the end of Michfest is honestly pretty sad. Because what I understand NOW that I’m not sure I understood THEN was that the week in the woods was something that sustained the sisterwomyn for the other 51 weeks of the year. Atlantis is kind of the same for me, so I get it now. But the whole Andrew Dworkin/second-wave/separatist feminism that Michfest was born out of was pretty out of fashion even by the time that the WBW policy stuff really started kicking up in the mid/late 90s. For good or ill, modern women don’t think about things the same way, and there weren’t enough of the crones to keep the thing alive. But it’s clear from the other examples I gave that there’s still a demand for woman-only spaces, they’re just a little flexible with what constitutes a woman. And no, I don’t think that a trans woman who hasn’t had bottom surgery should have open season to walk around flashing her cock for the sake of being a nuisance. But if she just wanted to enjoy the company, the music, the nutloaf, and any kind of (consensual) intimate encounters that she could find, what’s the harm?
Ultimately, I guess I’m hoping that somewhere in Missouri, Denise is still dreaming about the Rainbow Express and that wherever she is, Sarah is twirling in her vagina cape. And may all the Fat womyn everywhere be as useful of garbage detail as they want.