Giving a gift to an estranged sibling

Why? Don't bother

Gift cards are very simple.

But a book is more personalized if you spend some time finding a book the person would like.

Huh? Unless it’s meant as an olive branch why would you give a gift if you are estranged?

Only if it’s a passive aggressive book that you’re giving. Maybe something about improving their personality; or if they’re fat, a book on dieting.

I’m thinking about buying all the Trumpers in my family bitcoin. That way, if it fails I can laugh and if it’s a success they will be grateful to me.

Give the sibling Moby Dick. The endless chapters on pictures of whales, whale anatomy, whaling techniques and blubber thickness will have you in each others arms before you know it.

I've literally never exchanged gifts with my siblings, and we get along fine.

Give them Faulkner’s The Sound and the Fury—about one of the most fucked-u families in literature. Plus there’s that Caddie-Quentin unconsummated incest thing to creep out your sibling.

Send her a small saucer with a note: "I thought you'd appreciate something shallow."

Fascinating thoughts, OP.

“Cooking for a friend from school I don’t really talk to anymore.

A meal seems more fitting than none. I was thinking scrambled eggs.”

A book works for me! And the idea of it for you! Where are you from? Probably there is a town historical society or elsewhere selling titles on your home town. No matter your present estrangement, a book on where you grew up would be anice.

That's not a gift, that's a reminder of the estrangement by way of the passive-aggressive sibling as the "gift" giver.

The gift I would give to my now dead sibling is a box of dog shit. I am sorry I never gave her this gift while she was abusing me my entire chlldhood.

I donated to the care and upkeep of a goat for a year in my mom’s name. I don’t recall her thanking me for it.

^^Thanks for the penetrating analysis, Captain Obvious.

E7 Literally ? Are you positive it is literally ?

Self-help book suggestion: "I Thought We'd Never Speak Again," by Laura Davis.

I'd send a used copy, if that.

Give a weekend-getaway for two (you and sibling) where you can patch up your estrangement. Promise not to leave until everything has been aired out and you two are 'friends' again.

R4, that was my thought. I was thinking “brothers karamazov”

R8, i do like that