Can a Blue Collar - White Collar relationship between two gay guys ever work?

If it’s Top Blue - Bottom White most definitely.

The office bottom white collar bitch would spend his days bitching on Zoom.

nope

The white collar guy would write an entire essay about his experience and his feels!

If they love each other enough and communicate well, why wouldn't it?

The white collar guy is far more annoying I bet

If the blue collar guy is a hung top, count your blessings and shut up.

The blue-collar dude has no time for white-collar dude's melodramatic bullshit.

Agree with others.

If the blue collar is the top? No issue whatsoever.

If he's the bottom? Wouldn't last a week

If he's verse? Might last a month.

Hm, not sure that relationships in which the woman is socially superior last. Thdy might be exciting, but for shorter period.

Absolutely! This is the relationship I am in now for the last 12 years, and its by far the best I have ever had. (I'm the blue collar one)

[quote]If they love each other enough and communicate well, why wouldn't it?

R5 is correct, and that's true for any relationship - love and communication will overcome most hurdles, small ones like this, and big ones as well. There are a few it wont, one being where one partner is an active addict and the other isnt

[quote] The culture is so different.

Okay, Barbara Thorndyke.

R11 Fairy, what do you do? I never thought of you as blue collar worker

Of course it can work. A friend is a white healthcare executive, with a Latino car mechanic boyfriend who loves to get fucked. Plenty of white collar couples I know are either constantly fighting and cheating or they are competing. No one truly knows what makes relationships work, especially conjecturers on Datalounge.

It can, but there needs to be at least two levels of attractiveness between them, in favour of the white collar. So, if the white is a 7, the blue has to be at least a 9. The white collar is usually concerned with hoarding money and pooling even more of it by bagging an even more loaded white collar. But that disparity in attractiveness can offset that impulse. It also offsets the embarrassment the white collar might feel when he shows off his blue to his white collar peers.

I've often pondered the idea that gays need way more in common to work, thatn a straight couple. She likes shoe shopping, he wants to be in a sports bar. She wants to see a broadway show, he wants to be in a sports bar...Ok, I'm kidding there, but I've never seen a gay couple where one wants to watch football and the other wants to watch Julie Andrews. So I reckon straights need about 45% compatibility to work, while gays need about 80%.

White collar workers are so fucking annoying with their stupid office politics.

R17 cubicle bottoms

Only in pron

Not sure why blue collar has to be a top

I agree, R10. According to studies, most women never date down. They'll fuck down on occasion, but definitely not date or consider anything long-term with men who are financially, professionally or socially lower than them.

I think Blue Collar/White Collar will work if, as been mentioned before, the BC is a hung top. It can also work if the WC comes from a BC background and is not ashamed of it or feels more at home in a BC milieu.

How classist

[quote]Not sure why blue collar has to be a top

So he doesn’t fuck all the other guys on the construction site (all tops) ?

R16, I think straight couples know that there are going to be differences in interests, outlooks, in many things. Society has built in ways for dealing with and supporting these differences, like comedy. Also, for most straight couples the goal is to spawn, which creates a whole shared reality.

In some ways I really envy straights, once they spawn, they have a whole network of support, friends and acquaintances (school, church, other families on the street) that the gays just don't and never will.

What's the income coming in from each? Also, do they share similar values and beliefs?

[quote]In some ways I really envy straights, once they spawn, they have a whole network of support, friends and acquaintances (school, church, other families on the street) that the gays just don't and never will.

That may have been true 50 years ago.

Do you bitches know how much electricians and plumbers make?

It makes for a great long term relationship. You aren’t expected to fully understand the other person’s work, challenges, or friendships so you’re more likely to respect them and avoid avoid avoid.

No on DL, with its social class obsessions.

*not

R27, what do you consider a good salary? In major US city, that trope doesn’t really work.

R25, perhaps, but it's a lot if work and very expensive for gays to get kids. Besides, most gays don't even want kids.

Why are we bringing up kids?

More important is level of self-raising each has attained. Love someone to death, but if he is a baby accustomed to staff, he had better be rich enough to keep his own place.

R11 you're the top aren't you?

R20 because the Blue Collar Top is the assumed alpha and the fact he's socially lower class won't matter to the White Collar Bottom. What does matter is that the Blue Collar Top is the "protector" in the relationship.

It's what many bottoms want in their partners. (Verse and tops don't necessarily want that as much or at all.)

So it's being blue collar can be very much a plus in that specific dynamic

Of course, the two have to get along, have similar values, etc., as well.

Are hair dressers blue collar? If so, I know white collar banker type tops with hair stylist partners.

[quote]Are hair dressers blue collar?

NO.

If you want someone, they want you, and you’re both willing to make the sacrifices it takes to make it work, it can be a piece of cake. Who’s doing the fucking is totally irrelevant.

White collar top who’s a 6 with really good lighting, married to a blue collar bottom 9 who protects and supports me daily. I count my lucky stars I met and made my life with an honest, loyal, hard-working, horse-hung and very sexy guy. He knows he’s good looking but doesn’t give a shit. He cruised me and I was looking left and right to see who was next to me that he was smiling at. When we met I had a degree and a house and my job leased a Continental for me. (We made out in it before he took me home.) He was in the military then and so skint he was lucky to have a subway token. He grew up poor, too. Now he owns investment properties and does the landscaping himself because he enjoys it.

We’re going on another cruise next month. If past is prologue, he’ll get hit on by men in the gym every day and women in the bars every night. When he does, he’ll politely change the subject and excuse himself if they’re persistent or handsy. And why are we going on a cruise? Because it’s our 44th anniversary.

The blue collar guy could definitely be the bottom, especially if he's a plumber. Look for porn where the plumber is working under the sink with his ass up in the air. The white collar customer comes in and eyes sees something he likes. Not an uncommon story. Also, the suited guys at Men At Play are often coming across some blue collar worker type they end up fucking.

You can’t be friends and can’t be lovers

I've lived in cities and now live in a small town. I've noticed that, in small towns, there's more mixing of the professions while socializing.

As stated, blue collar guys can make decent livings, financially, maybe better than a lot of white collar guys and women who wear suits.

If Bridget can love Bernie, anything is possible.

I want to be offline friends with r39 and his husband. Their relationship is the same age as me. ♡

Yes, this can work. Put simply, they move to exurbs on a gigantic plot of land with an old home they renovate. The white collar one can work remotely anywhere. The blue collar one insists on being out of the city. Their home will take 2-3 years to complete the renovations but it will be gorgeous with nice finishes and tasteful decore. The blue collar boyfriend will be making six figures on top of the the white collar partner's hefty salary. A baby will be on the way soon via surrogacy. The home will be paid off early in 20 years. They snagged that fixed interest rate of 2.5%.

They will be rich, happy, content, boring, but together forever.

Yeah, married with kids and a house always works with straight people.

Just like the Laura Branigan video for The Lucky One.

She works at a gas station in the middle for nowhere and has big dreams with a cute guy

He has it all… Except a girlfriend. Then he meets Laura Branigan!

[QUOTE] Yes, this can work. Put simply, they move to exurbs on a gigantic plot of land with an old home they renovate. The white collar one can work remotely anywhere. The blue collar one insists on being out of the city. Their home will take 2-3 years to complete the renovations but it will be gorgeous with nice finishes and tasteful decore. The blue collar boyfriend will be making six figures on top of the the white collar partner's hefty salary. A baby will be on the way soon via surrogacy. The home will be paid off early in 20 years. They snagged that fixed interest rate of 2.5%. They will be rich, happy, content, boring, but together forever.

You’ve certainly spent a deal of time fantasizing about that one, haven’t you, R45?

The blue collar guy, who can always find work, will end up supporting the white collar guy when the latter gets laid off in the next workforce realignment by the new management team who doesn't like him.

Blue collar people lose their jobs or go long stretches without finding work all the time, R49.

[quote] No on DL, with its social class obsessions.

This is one topic where I think the consensus on DL reflects reality. Blue Collar/White Collar gay relationships are rare and often do not last long.

[quote][R11] Fairy, what do you do? I never thought of you as blue collar worker

R13 I'm a network engineer, my partner is a chief financial officer, he makes about 3 times what I do. My job is less "blue collar" than t used to be, but I come from a blue collar background and have blue collar interests still

[quote][R11] you're the top aren't you?

R35 well I AM a top, partner is vers, but we're both sides by inclination, and we have an open relationship

But R25 has nailed the most important factor - we share similar values and beliefs. That s what makes it work. Thats what makes ANY relationship work

No white collar pencil pusher for me, no office bottom work from home bitch either, I need a man who sweats for a living, those are the real men, those other men aren't really men, just poseurs.

[quote] No white collar pencil pusher for me, no office bottom work from home bitch either, I need a man who sweats for a living, those are the real men, those other men aren't really men, just poseurs.

MARY?!!!

They'd more than likely stay together for the kids' sake.

A French Bulldog, Cavoodle, and/or a rescue dog or two will keep them together.