I Went To A Gay Bar Alone

Good looking? To his mom?

Is looking like Terence Stamp as Zod in Superman a thing?

He is neurodivergent. It’s quite obvious. I picked it up in about three seconds and was certain about it by half a minute.

He is unable to look directly into the camera while talking because he is thinking about something personal (ASD have deficiencies in episodic memory retrieval.) He does not look at anything in particular, his eyes lose complete focus, like he is looking inward. He sporadically makes eye contact but it’s like a swimmer coming up from air.

His eyes are exceptionally clear, the irises are vivid, he occasionally looks startled.

He starts talking about being in a social situation and being annoyed with people. He turns into Woody Allen.

He says he expects when people start talking to him, to follow a set of rituals and manners. He finds someone coming up to him, invading his personal space and not following these rituals extremely uncomfortable. This is how Aspies think. I only made it to about four minutes, but I’m assuming the rest of the video just consists of a Larry David-style rant complaining about other people with very minute observations of everything they did wrong and how it relates to completely tangential concepts (semantic memory retrieval, aspies have a surplus of this, and think by association).

Bald with hair dye.

Ha!

Vivid irises are not a sign of neurodivergence.

They are a sign of a garden in spring.

The poor dear! I hope he's getting therapy to manage the PTSD.

R1 and R2- I approve of your comments.

He needs to be taken down a notch or two.

His Instagram shows he primarily posts pictures of inanimate objects or buildings but not people, except himself.

He has adopted a cartoonish persona (pronounces his name keh-VENN instead on KEHV-inn.)

I’m assuming Ashkenazi Jewish who have higher rates of asd.

R8- The photo of him in the white shirt he looks like a young Mario Cantone. I do like his hairy chest.

I don't think anything he said was in any way insightful. I didn't like how he treated the guy who asked if he's lonely - ok, maybe not the best interaction, but somebody was trying to speak with him. I don't think they were making a statement about how he's a lonely loser.

The old Spanish guy talking to him in Spanish - girl, you are in Miami and you LOOK like you could be Cuban or SOME part Latino. It's not like he's Asian or light blond. But I do agree with him that people default to Spanish in Miami as it really is annoying.

As far as the bar being the same, it's trying to create an upbeat and party atmosphere - particularly in Miami where many of them are probably tourists. The job of a DJ is to keep the crowd upbeat - if they react to Dance with Somebody - so be it. Weddings are the same thing.

As far as people being drunk before midnight - puhlease! He lives in a party town and people are on vacation or they pre-partied specifically because the drinks are $10 for a Corona.

He's overthinking this too much and gives off a killjoy vibe. Being rather quiet while observing and judging everyone like an unwanted psychologist or anthropologist.

Please don't go to any more gay bars if you're gonna be a sourpuss.

He was already taken down. According to his tik tok he was fired recently so now he's all exploring his gay life. Miami Beach was an error for someone of his age.

I wonder why he was fired.

Why is Miami Beach an error for him?

The thumbnails for his YouTube videos largely consist of him, unsmiling, looking in the exact same direction, with his head oriented on the same side of the picture.

He radiates 'tude

[quote]He's overthinking this too much and gives off a killjoy vibe. Being rather quiet while observing and judging everyone like an unwanted psychologist or anthropologist.

The landmark book by Oliver Sacks used Temple Grandin’s phrase “An Anthropologist on Mars” to describe this facet of autism.

Such a boring video. Says nothing of interest for minutes. That said, Miami is probably a good place for him.

See everything r10 says is inherently rational. But it does not occur to him. That’s what high functioning ASD is.

Watch the movie Annie Hall. It explains everything about the syndrome. The original title was Anhedonia.

Something about the vibe is “off”.

Personally I'm sick of all of this online diagnoses of people's personalities using some BS about spectrum, divergence, etc. EVERYONE seems to be have some disorder of some kind. NOBODY is tagged as being normal or well adjusted.

Bull fucking shit.

R19 this was transparent “let’s anthropologize this guy” thread. You knew what you were getting into when you clicked on it.

This is another interesting one. Note the reliance on cliché imagery (bubble bath, wine glass) to tell a “salacious story.” He talks for fifteen minutes and almost nothing he says is interesting or salacious. But he does not realize it. This is “performative humanism.” It seems off because it is off. May not have even happened.

god, these young millennials are so tiresome "I went to bar by MY SELF" " I wiped my OWN ASS"

geez, get a fucking life

And his name is spelled Keven. No YOU"RE wrong - it's NOT K-E-V-I-N. And his profile says it's pronounced que-venn. Kayven?

Creepy looking.

Eldergays, imagine back in our time at the bars. If we had to write essays and diary entries and discuss at length with our friends (as there was no social media) every time we went to a gay bar alone.

I went to a gay bar invisible.

I started numerous backroom orgies at the adult theater, but whenever they got going I was shunted aside by more aggressive guys with bigger dicks!

R24. That’s what diaries were for and why no young person has one.

R19. I agree. Everyone is diagnosed at a distance as either neurodivergent or narcissistic. Forty years ago was codependent.

It was not his first rodeo!

This qween is well aware of his attractiveness ( although I'm not attracted to him myself).

R27- I've been keeping a journal/diary since 1993 related to my gay life which included going to a gay bar alone which was 99.9% of the time from 1993 to 2011 when I stopped going to them.

There are bar people and non-bar people. Unfortunately for LGBTQ, there aren't any alternatives. And even bars are few and far between now. Whereas breeders have sporting events, church, work, fests, marathons, clubs...

Yeah, receding hairlines are so hot.

R32 where do you live, Tehran? A place that doesn't have gays at "sporting events, church, work, fests, marathons, clubs..."?

He gets fired from his job and this first thing Miss Thing does is go on an expensive vacation to the Dominican Republic.

I stopped reading after OP stated, “ I'll admit this queen is good looking….”

R36- Post a photo of someone you find good looking.

Another WANNABE posting his own crap on DL?.

In this video he comes across as

SO full of himself

R39 He ain't getting any younger and that hairline ain't getting any thicker. Another social media attention whore? No thank you. A dime a dozen

It seems like he's highlighting his receding hairline, which is quite a choice.

I’m guessing he went to Twist. With a shit attitude. He ain’t making any friends in Miami if he can’t deal with Spanish first. No one wants to fuck a miserable overthinking cunt, even at one of the easiest bars to get fucked in the country. And stop name dropping “I lived in New York” like it, and you, are somehow superior; there’s no difference between Twist or Industry or Ritz except you can smoke and drink outside and the gogo dancers are fun.

R42- He's not living in New York City now because he can no longer afford to. I bet you mommy and daddy are subsidizing him almost completely since being fired from his job in spite of his telling us in one of his videos he has a very good sideline business in day trading which is just another form of gambling.

You know, I get it. I understand the whole 'wow, I'm old, I'm 30+. These places/bars are filled with people who are 23 and I'm not 23! It's is a different age group'

What I don't get is he's annoyed about being addressed in Spanish. 70% of Miami speaks Spanish. I personally wouldn't be bothered by that At All. I wish I was fluent..it'd be handy.

He's kind of smart but he's not as smart as he thinks he is. Weird snobbishness to him..

He’d be too insufferable for me to interact with for any appreciable length of time. I would not call him charming or particularly congenial.

R46- He definitely presents himself as some kind of a catch. He's a bit too fem to be that desirable.

His name is "Keven". ugh. Annoying as fuck. At least Ethan and his twinkish naïveté shtick is charming. And he has a job!!

R48- and he's likeable unlike

KEVEN

R34. He probably lives in America or another western country where being gay is largely accepted but where the number of gay people in any particular gathering is quite small and where mistaking a gay person for straight is highly acceptable but mistaking a straight person for gay is not. But I think you were just being obtuse anyway.

I guess it's an immaturity thing. Or a spectrum thing. He thinks he's the only one who can see the bullshit and the fakes yet his observations are not very insightful or novel. This kid has put up nearly 600 YouTube videos. I guess that's a way to be these days but still.

R51- Oh no 😮

I've watched several of his videos and he doesn't say anything in them.

He does this to generate income - that's certainly a part of the reason but he only has 1,600 subscribers- there's no money in that.

If he had a million subscribers then he might see an income of $50,000 a year maximum.

R4- He's only 33 years old. You thing he's dyeing his hair already?

He needs to shave his head. He looks better that way.