Being Ugly: My Experience

he lost me when he said he is drunk.

In addition to your suggestions, he could also get his underbite and his eyes fixed. Also extreme coolsculpting all over the face to bring the cheeks out.

I feel bad for him. Yes, he's always going to be plain. He doesn't do anything to improve his attractiveness a bit.

You have to play the hand you are dealt with. He needs to buck up and find other ways he can be confident in society.

I see ugly guys with girlfriends and wives, all the time.

He's an incel.

He should not be allowed to be around firearms or purchase firearms. Although I feel sorry for this individual, it's apparent to me he is an incel. The risk to others is high.

Yes - a haircut and different glasses would help a lot, but most of all: confidence - even fake, unearned confidence (fake it ‘til you make it), which is fucked, because so many of us are introverts who lack confidence, but if we’re not able to muster up the strenth to fake it and see it through, the consequences can be dire.

Introversion is normal (≈30% of people?), but being introverted in a society that values only extraversion is awful, as I know from experience, having to mentally exhaust myself every dealing with people every day just to keep my head above water and pretending I’m so much more confident than I am. I’m not alone in this.

^I’m not a weirdo incel; I have a job working with the public, but I’m severely intoverted and it’s fucking exhausting!

I’m past the age of being visible now, but I used to be considered attractive and even then… ugh.

I feel bad for this kid.

Ugly people have to learn to become interesting.

His parents should have got him braces! WTF was wrong with them?! This poor kid!!

Also, re the loose skin? Not to be all Lens Dunham or anything, but I have Ehlers Danlos for real. If this kid has loose skin like that and is hypermobile, he has a world of pain awaiting him as he ages. He needs to get it together now and get as much fucking in as he can while he’s able, because if he really does have ED, his days will soon be occupied by surgeries and pain - just sayin’ (I’m 54 and have had neck surgery and a spinal cord injury… and now await hip surgery and more spinal sugery. Being hypermobiile and able to cross one’s legs behind one’s head during sex hardly seems worth it now…OR DOES IT??)

Self obsessed moron.

He looks like a typical small country European to me.

Poor guy. Straight dudes have the worst taste in eyeglasses.

He ended up married to a fairly attractive girl.

Straight men who claim to be ugly and stay single forever have a personality problem, not an “I’m ugly” problem.

I've seen plenty of ugly men with attractive female partners.

Yep, R13. As have I.

Billy Joel + Christie Brinkley

Weinstein + Georgina

And many, many others.

I understand some of these men have loads of money, but beautiful women can date hot men with money, too.

Ugly needs to learn to spell. Functional illiteracy isn't attractive.

He is ugly and even suggestions made here aren't going to help him. But he is lucky that he is straight. If he got himself together and got a good well paying job he'll find some girl, he'll find someone he finds attractive enough who wants to nest as he gets older. If he were gay he has enough reason to commit suicide. Guys as ugly as he is won't want to fuck him. But then if he were gay he could find an obsession like finding Jesus or Maria Callas or fixing portable home fans(I'm not kidding this is a real thing) or joining a scrabble club at a gay and lesbian center.

He’s an incel but is he in Europe? They are a lot less violent there. He seems depressed. Young people have been brainwashed by social media to be pretty people. What the dude didn’t realize is that if he develops a skill that in itself is interesting, not that he hasn’t done that. He thinks he’s ugly because he’s used to looking at himself. He’s not ugly, he seems alright and he can hopefully gain that understanding

R10 How do small country Europeans look different than big country Europeans?

R2 Those things you are suggesting aren't cheap

The guy married a VERY cute girl 5 years after making his video of woe.

He’s fine. He’s probably having kids who have a 50% chance of looking like him or the cute wife.

What makes him “ugly” as pointed out are not really his looks.

Jesus or Maria Callas....🤣

Oh honey, your plain looks are the least of your problems.

Maybe he could date Gypsy Rose Blanchard?

Gypchee Rose.

The black hair dye is horrendous.

Every incel I have known was not only unattractive but extremely shallow and wouldn’t accept anything less than a gorgeous girl 18-25 years old. But there are plenty of ugly guys getting beautiful women.

I think this guy ended up finding a girlfriend around his level of looks and he seemed to be pretty happy?

Zero sympathy for ugly straight men.

Try being an ugly straight woman or gay man and you’ll be pitiable.

Making oneself ugly and then whining about it is something other than naive.

R29- There's some truth to that. I was watching an episode of My 600lbs Life last night and the guy is 600 pounds and the wife says when she met him she did not care what he looked like. Can you imagine a gay guy that was average looking saying that about another guy who weighed 600 pounds and the average looking guy was not a chubby chaser.

The problem can be that if a person believes that they’re not getting any play or cannot form a romantic partnership, due to being ugly, then that person just takes it at face value, and becomes as shallow as the people he/she believes are perceiving them as unattractive, and rejecting them as well.

This mindset easily allows the person to stay stuck.

They don’t go in deep, and question whether or not there are other attributes prohibiting them from doing better, socially with the opposite or same sex.

Being a perpetual victim is a HUGE turn off, even when justified. Eventually, one is expected to get down to the root of the matter, and fix whatever it is that is preventing one from handling life on life’s terms, and fixing it.

If one believes they cannot lead a fulfilling life because they’re ugly, or too short, or disabled or whatever, then one might overlook what’s happening on the inside, which can also prevent one from living a fulfilling life.

No one is guaranteed a partner, a relationship, or much of anything. This goes for good looking people, as well.

Speaking from experience? When i choose to not date or befriend someone, it has nothing to do with the way they look, and everything to do with the way they behave and present themselves.

The makeover begins inside. Always has, always will.

Perhaps he has size meat?

R32 oh fuck off. If you’re a gay man or straight woman who is objectively ugly then no amount of introspection or personality will bring you to the minimum standard of attractiveness. The rules are different for straight men.

Plastic surgery is the fix and then if needed, any character flaws can be addressed.

Nothing more infuriating than people who are in the average range of attractiveness smugly lecturing ugly looking people on how to live a happy life when they have never experienced the harassment and exclusion ugly people do.

R18 The same way rednecks look different from city people.

He looks like he’s from a small European country with a tight gene pool.

R34 sadly made my point.

I was at work and a not great looking guy walked up to my coworker and asked “How can I find someone as beautiful as you to date me?” Her answer was “just be yourself, that’s what really matters!” It was the biggest load of shit and I wanted to pull the guy aside and tell him. The truth was that she had been in a ten year relationship with a guy who was drop dead gorgeous but a complete asshole who cheated on her and treated her like crap. She stayed because of his looks.

This young man overcame some of his obstacles.

The proof begins at the 4:14 mark.

R36 your point, such as it was, was utter privileged pop psychology nonsense. Privileged people think their “good vibes” got them success in life because the status quo suits them and they don’t want to admit it’s luck.

R37 I think a better answer to his question is, “what makes you think you deserve a beautiful woman?”

Aaaaaaaaand the big win for the guy was that he “got” a “good-looking woman.” All that talk about how much character matters sure flew out the window fast when it came time to evaluate her!

He is ugly indeed, but I have seen uglier men who thought that they were God's gift to humanity and nobody deserved them. Most of them were gym bunnies, though - he should go to the gym and he'll be amazed how muscles can rapidly beautify someone. I have also met several women who were hideously ugly both inside and out, and they had gorgeous boyfriends / husbands because they were evil cunts and quite a few men love harpies.

It's true that confidence and attitude do have an impact on how others perceive you, as do the way in which you present yourself. He ought to have a fashionable haircut, better glasses or contact lenses, dress well and correct his body posture; that would improve his chances. Also, money tends to make physically unappealing people very attractive. It's sad, but true.

And I agree with R41. Many ugly people do complain about how superficial everybody else is regarding looks, but they refuse to acknowledge the fact that they are just as superficial themselves and won't settle for someone within their league. I know it's difficult to accept reality, but maybe they should accept the fact that with their aspirations, the only solution is to bring themselves as close as possible to the beauty ideal that they wish to attain. Whether they do it with plastic surgery or working on their bodies is irrelevant - sadly, most of us are not born spectacularly beautiful and have to work on improving our appearance to a greater or lesser extent.

What ugly people, besides straight men, complain about how superficial people are regarding looks?

I really only see that hypocrisy in young straight men, who are ironically the most superficial group of all.

Well it looks like he's married now so either he's hung like a wildebeest or has a tongue like a Kitchen Aid stand mixer, bless his heart.

I was reading through the comment section of his videos, and it looks like she came to Sweden (his country) and he racked up thousands in medical debt for her treatment, and then she left back to Argentina… so not sure if she genuinely loved him or what. They may still be together.

R35 So you are saying that people from big EU countries like Great Britain and Germany, look better than the ones from smaller ones, like Sweden?

Hair cut. Glasses. Gym.

Many fugly guys have smoking hot bodies and do just fine dating.

He sounds icelandic

R47 he was pretty before with those lips, that hair and skin.